This is probably the easiest way of doing pickup.
Opening a conversation with a woman on her approach invitation.
An approach invitation (AI) is something spontaneous and very often unconscious women do.
It implies the message: ”Please notice me, please talk to me.”
It is easy because all what you need to do is to slow down your pace, observe the environment and then open the conversation.
Approach invitations are:
- She looks at you and turns her head in the other direction rapidly.
- She smiles lightly to you, makes eye contact with you and then rapidly turns her head in the other direction.
- She walks close to you and if you change your place she is ”as for a case” again close to you.
- Playing nervously with her hand bag or other stuff she has in her hands
- Searching the content of her hand bag while close to you.
- Dropping stuff on the floor, while close to you.
- While walking she looks at you rapidly and then looks back.
- You walk by and she laughs louder while chatting with her girlfriends.
- She looks at her nails or checks the make up in her small mirror while you get close to her.
- Playing with her mobile when close to you, clearly without any intention of calling anyone.
What is crucial when you open in this way is the time between her approach invitation and the moment you open the conversation.
You have only a few seconds to open. If you wait too long you lost your chance.
Women are chased all the time by guys.
Realize that by doing this she is already making a big exception to what would be her average behavior in everyday life.
After a few seconds she will get rapidly into her ”I-am-not-a-slut” mode and you will lose your chance.
If you lose your chance because you are too slow to respond remember that it is always easier to open another woman who gives you an AI than persisting with the former.
Why women have their Ais last such a short time?
There are a few reasons:
- Other women can read their Ais much better than the average guy without experience with females. They would label her as a slut and ostracize her if she would do that ”too much.”
- Giving too overt Ais on the streets and other public venues would put women into danger: there are aggressive, dangerous men out there!
So she gives you her AI for a few seconds and then withdraws it.
That is your window of opportunity: it is a very fast, short message that she likes you and wants you to talk to her.
That is all what the average woman can do to break the social code.
Then it’s up to you.
Beware: some women nowadays began to approach men overtly in a very direct way. Those women are not the women of the best quality: they are the masculine dominant women who have learned to “match” male behavior.
In my book Getting the good girls it is described how to detect them fast and avoid them even faster.
You better approach the women who give you AIs. They are usually the best and most feminine ones! Better quality women.
When you see an AI quickly respond on it.
When she gives very subtle AIs better to approach her with some indirect opener.
Asking innocently a favor is something which works very well for me: it ”saves her face” after she gave the AI and makes her feel more comfortable.
For example:
Her: (looking at you and rapidly turning her head)
You: (slowing down and going to her side) ”Hey, I just came to town and looking for this restaurant, any idea where it could be?”
In the case her AI is more open, more direct you can get straight to the point:
Her: (smiling at you or laughing louder when you pass by)
You: Nice smile. You look just like my little sister. I bet you won the lottery today.
And then it is the time to engage her into a conversation.
One important thing: to notice Ais you need to slow down your pace. So walk slowly and be aware of the surroundings.
If you walk too fast you will not notice the Ais.
Awareness and speed are the crucial skills you need to start conversations
Another important thing is to be able to recognize the ”soft signs” of her horniness which I shared with you in the Manual of Seduction. soft signs is IOIs btw
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PROLONGED EYE CONTACT
Learn how to use eye contact
In the case you are new to the world of seducing women something you can try which is not that difficult is prolonged eye contact with a female.
Just sit down at the edge of a crowded street and observe males walking when they are just about to have a woman coming from the other direction.
Almost all of them will avoid prolonged eye contact with a female.
Why so?
Well there are many reasons.
One of them is that those males get horny when they are seeing a hot woman and feel ashamed of it.
Women know this and when they see a male who avoids prolonged eye contact with a female they already screen him out as a potential mate.
He is feeling ashamed of his sexuality so he is not an alpha male.
Alpha males do not make mystery out of wanting a woman.
So when you are at the first step of learning the art of seducing women when you are on the streets practice the art of prolonged eye contact with a female.
In a totally calm and non aggressive way when she is closer to you and coming from the other direction lock her straight into the eye. Lock on of her eyes and don´t look down.
Some of them will look away.
This is an automatic reaction in primates. By keeping your prolonged eye contact with a female you are showing dominance.
Don´t bother about the ones who are looking away.
When you see that she is looking at you back at that point smile widely and say “Hello.”
This is the simplest way of doing it.
Other ways of doing this is to smile and say something totally random, some short expression like:
“Nice day isn´t it?” > and smile.
“Oh.. life is so though sometimes!” > and smile.
“Wonderful!” > and smile.
If she smiles back and comments what you said you stop and begin to chat with her.
By doing this you already put yourself far above all the other men who are scared of prolonged eye contact with a female. She knows now that you are the deal.
At this point she will begin testing you which is what you want because..
When a woman is testing you she is actually saying that she begins to like you.
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