Sunday, August 30, 2009

Franco answers my post...WoW powerful stuff

Hello Sandros its FRANCO




See in this woman who is helping you there is not only a LSE problem.

She has another trait I think it would be good to recognize in women: she is a masculine dominant LSE woman.

Soon I tell you why it is so important to learn to detect fast when a woman is masculine dominant

What you need is a good girl, not a LSE masculine dominant woman

A good girl who is willing to help you.


In my last book Getting the good girls I share with guys a pickup method which helps them to screen for better girls.

If you are interested more on the book here:

http://francoseduction.pp.fi/ggg/getting-the-good-girls.html

See a masculine dominant LSE woman has difficulties in accepting receptive femininity in herself and guess who is going to pay for it..

Some comments:

I met slept same night like most recent 4 girls i went out , attorney woman was verbal aggressive ,very low sexual esteem since she is overweight and low self esteem.comes from divorced parents ,she was divorced 9 yrs ago, has gambling issues and uses persuasion tactics ,I recognize and ....
long story short after 2 or 3rd time i had sex with her she wanted to be my GF, I never had a GF my past wife was family setup and nor I knew how to have a GF ..all GF ended up treating me bad and cheating and she wanted very badly and was needy cooked for me gave me dinners massage bought me gifts..... so I agree.

*** See she was establishing the frame of the relationship from the beginning. You should make sure you are the one to establish the frame of a relationship with a girl from the beginning, not her.

I then say to her my problems of my school,and I need legal advice .... she offered to help me with that as ADVISOR for no money ..just as BF/GF.
I noticed after that I became dependent on her cause my problem and we go out then she changed and became angry and aggressive towards me negative being bossy and pushy..I didnt know how to react...

*** Yes she is masculine dominant and this is a reflex of how she treats herself in regard to stuff like neediness, receptivity, femininity and so on. She becomes aggressive and brings out her Yang part in a way you might not like. In Getting the good girls I share methods which can help you to detect this kind of woman (and many others) already from the beginning and choose wisely.

she said I didnt make her priroty and she isnsulted me and make me feel bad..

*** She really is being a tough guy here..

I didnt leave only unitl weeks later she again did same over a can of soda in her fridge and she scream at me for drinking the soda and I left ..as a I left she then scream to come back and I ignore and left she then follow me in her car and like in cops tv shows get in front of my car and screams Im a low life asshole never talk to her again its over! I was sad causeI felt she had control

*** You gave her control... when you let her hold the frame at the beginning.

cause she help in my problem and became dependent and worse had paperwork...3 days past and we exchanged SMS texts to meet up to talk..my purpose was to meet and be friendly make up and get my papers...and emotionally I still felt for her cause I felt she atleast gave me advice on my case since my family wasnt giving me moral support nor any support, they said Im loser.

*** I understand your situation. There are plenty of feminine good girls who would help you without all that shouting and bossying you around. Between them also lawyers for sure.

she was wanting to go back verbally and I apologized for walking out, but noticed she was emotionally detached and distant and noticed things out of my intuition of other guys things in her apt and her acting weird , then followed even worse treatment...
I got her to go over my case last time with me and I record her without her knowing and I left.
she said she wanted us to be together again but give each other space. i didnt understand that.

*** That translated from womanese means: I like having sex with you but I have trouble in accepting a man close to me for a too long time.

she wasnt the same, no texts ,no nothing only like last moment... hey I was waiting for you to comeover....then I go over and I became neeedy saying cause I felt I was losing her and tell her I want her. she want to go to dinner I took her and paid for it ...to show her Im different and not asshole.

*** You are qualifying yourself to her..

she was still weird and not lovey dovey , I was in denial that it was over and wanted to win her back how she was in beginning. Then some guy came to apt and flirted with her I got upset cause she said I cant Im with my BF...her thinking I wasnt listening or paying attention. and she wanted to hang with him she told me is a friend she sees once a month,I got upset she said "if I wanmted to be with him and fuck him I can" I got upset and said to her its not toolate for you to hook up with him , Im out of here. I left.
she text me later she like how we hanged out at park.
since she knew about my casein fear of her reacting negative or vengative. I talk to her to say things didnt work out but lets just be friends, she said OK. then send me texts that she wanted to keep close connection of friendship

*** Again from womanese: you are good in bed and I want keep up the sexual relationship with you.

and I text OK
and then she send "whatever"..
I noticed she use push pull and mixing friednship to keep in touch ..

*** Yes she uses masculine ways of dealing with men: push pull is a very masculine seduction mean. She is a masculine dominant LSE girl. See the reason for that is: fear of men or problems being with men and unleashing her femininity.

I then withdraw contact from her since she is destructive yet its my fault made some bad desciscions.

*** Yes they are usually very destructive

In the beginning she was needy and wainting me and was challenge then she complain wanting more time and be BF /GF I gave in told her my problems and after treat me bad and try to get me to do her chores and help her with things aorund the house,

*** Tell her to hire a cleaner. She is a lawyer and can afford it.

as I was thinking this make her happy and she help me in my case.. I never lead and didnt know how to lead..especially this type of logicall woman who is angry and psycho when I didnt comply she scream andI gave in....then I noticed she cheat..

*** She is a player, masculine dominant, LSE. She likes you physically and also likes to discharge her maternal instinct by helping you and in the wrong way. Yes masculine dominant LSE women do have maternal instinct and they usually like to be in relationship with men who need them somehow.

I was with her for 5 weeks.
I also noticed a pattern of past GF or relationships that the cheat and be angry at me ..and after weeks they want to come back....

*** You are for sure good in bed and at the same time fail in taking leadership over women. You should work on taking leadership and that would bring you more feminine and receptive women because the masculine dominant LSE woman cannot be the time of a day with a man who leads her and she is then automatically out.
I try to ask my father since Im difficult sitaution but to my disapointment said Im loser and I gave me no advice....

*** Terrible... I feel for you.


I would like to go over whatI need to understand in terms of relationship management cause Im making miatkes and getting same results at the end of relationship...
and also if Franco was in my situation what he would do?

*** Tell me did you have a dominant or aggressive mother. I get the feeling that you choose for some reason aggressive women. See women who are not able to deal with their femininity have usually very bad baggage you need to learn to screen them fast out of your life.

that way I have better of where your mentality of thought ios coming from...and that is what its missing ..as a man.
*** In the case you are interested in consultations more info here:

http://francoseduction.com/coaching/

I see that you have a need for learning how to screen out aggressive masculine dominant LSE women and learn to screen in feminine receptive good girls.

You cannot unleash your masculinity with an aggressive dominant LSE woman. It only brings to trouble.


Cheers, Franco

Ex GF psycho keeps contacting me.. I ignored

From 48 Laws of Power...

LAW #36
Disdain Things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best Revenge

By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.




After getting an ALL STAR advice from BEST guys and guys that care about me , I took the first step of NO CONTACT NEXTing

I didnt see it as a choice, its a powermove....

So,


she called me 3 times and textd me last night :

"I see you dont want to keep contact. I dont know you anymore"


I didnt respond..........


this morning she textd:
"I need to talk to you, when you wanted to talk, I listened"


I didnt respond

she is using her lawyer tactics since she knows Im a nice guy and Im passive...

Im going to keep ignoring her.



This is the advice I got from doing the IGNORING and the NEXTing :

natural friend told me : she what she wants dude...
I responded to him: I think she is just wondering what Im up to

BETTER ADVICE CAME WHEN

DAVE says :

You know... now that you have your papers back from her, and she's got nothing to damage you with... and... you're actually able to ignore her... you are now the man with the gun. Let's see if you can ignore her now that you know this.

and as always my man DBOY! :

She's fucking dumb, plus is using various manipulative tactics on you to make you crack. Keep her NEXT'd.

D-Boy


MT59 said :

I lol'ed at "she is using her lawyer tactics".

Go to the gym and become a beefcake, that way any time a woman makes you feel insecure you just realise you could break her in half like a breadstick.

Seriously though, it's good that you're learning not to be a wuss. Ignore her forever now. Chick doesn't even exist. If you feel like going back to her, that's normal, just ignore it and remember it's a withdrawal symptom of the wuss attitude your brain had become accustomed to.

Friday, August 28, 2009

my breakthrough game song...keep it pimpin'

today was just chillin, asked forgiveness and was at attraction forums, went over how my game progressed so far...

and damn! I did a number close on a best buy hottie 8 from fiu her name is steph from new yahck...number close and was suave yet dominant...

texts and all good stuff today....lost my neediness reading over my own stuff and found best moethod on getting over breakups...pua's vs afc's

3 days to a week...PUA

6 months - Afc


I think it meant inner game wise you have to recover and think positive
anyways felt like listening to this song...

I read franoc's and re wrote my version of what happened and found how she tryd to get me to fly out before I had rotation...

and i had put her in her place and her attraction grew...

I also read swinggcatt's how to keep gf interesteed which is review beliefs and frames from CD course and balloon prizing.


I also saw myself how i grew ..damn i felt proud in my core....

like natural tim..my game is a 10 !


my new theme song...


Why You Wanna lyrics - T. I.

[Intro]
Hey T.I.P pimping
Hey shorty why you gotta act like that, I'm saying
I'm just trying to be nice to you

[Chorus]
Go and tell a nigga no, wit a ass so fat
Hey why you wanna go and do that love, huh
Hey-Hey why you wanna go and do that, do that
Hey-Hey why you wanna go and do that-that-that
In a relationship been faithful to a nigga so whack
Hey why you wanna go and do that love, huh
Hey-Hey why you wanna go and do that, do that
Hey-Hey why you wanna go and do that-that-that..aye-aye

[T.I.]
Can't help but notice how you glowing, I can see in yo face
Now I just wonder if he know he close to being replaced
Swear I treat you like a queen you put me in his place
So you can give back his ring and the key to his place
Tell the nigga one thing that you need yo space
Selling niggaz is one thing you don't need to chase
I wanna kiss you everywhere between yo knees and waist
Hear the sounds that you making, get yo knees to shake
Holla at me in the A, you feel you need to escape
I gotta mansion and a gate, you wit me you safe
A Benz, a Phantom and a truck wit 23's the case
600 Gz in the safe, how much cheese it take?
This a chance you need to take, ain't no need to wait
Say the word we can leave today, this song's special
And it feel like faith, make a mistake
How the same thing making you sad I'm making you stay

[Chorus]

[T.I.]
Can he touch you like that, and make you make you feel like this?
How I left and came back and it's still like this
Do he hit it from the back and make you feel it yo chest
Take advantage of what your concealing in yo dress
What, he think he too fresh to show that you the best
Compliment you on your intellect and treat you wit respect
Give you sex till you sweat, tongue kissing on yo neck
It's been awhile since she got it like this I bet
I can tell you ain't just another bitch I met
Ain't nobody got me open like this, not yet
You confused ain't decided which way you should go yet
So how you keep saying no with yo panties so wet

[Chorus]

[T.I.]
This nigga playing mind games man
I think the time came, that you mind changed you understand
Life is like a chess move, you need to make yo next move
Yo best move, keep it pimpin' you understand...hey
I mean you know what I'm saying I don showed you how I feel
You know what I'm saying, I put myself all the way out there you know
The ball in yo court man, but I just got a question for you...
Is you happy??

[Chorus]

Better things will come....quick review and findings of Franco

i appreciate the support of the guys...

Northen nights, doc strangelove too

I m fascinated and obsessed over FRANCO's PUA stuff.

Im maturing in terms of masculinity and facing problems with confidence.


Dboy told me alot of things :

Quote:
We were BF GF and she would want to see me...

Why BF/GF?

Quote:
I then after we had sex 2nd time , I asked her to help me on a problem I had , and she offered to help me on my case just to make sure my own attorney was doing a good job and help me....

Never have sex with a woman when you give her all the ammunition she needs to fuck you in the ass.


Quote:
we were together for a month, she began to be pushy and there was some struggle but I would make her feel good...

Elaborate.



Quote:
then all of the sudden I was thirsty and I always drank soda from her fridge and I took one and she saw me drink it she made a big deal about it and made me put it down and give it to her...I felt like that wasnt cool and like I was a dog.

I'd give it to her and leave her house... then she is NEXT'd.

This girl also sounds low self esteem.


Quote:
anyways then she kept being grouchy and annoying about live far etc....

I felt I had to leave cause she was being a biach...

For these reasons I don't want to be in a monogamous relationship until I have fucked at least 100 women.

The way I operate with women:

as soon as I feel uncomfortable, or the relationship is compromised --> NEXT'd.

I don't have time to "make things work" or stick around in optimism, or let her continue her whatever BS she is doing... I get nothing out of it.


Quote:
I felt I had to leave cause she was being a biach...

Just do it.

Quote:
I tell her Im leaving since she has work and I snore ( she complained about that) so that she can wake up and get sleep I told her I was leaving and she said BYE.

As soon as she gave you shit for drinking the soda, that's when you say you gotta get going and leave.

You kinda shoot yourself in the foot when a woman gives you shit like that and do not act decisively in the moment...


Quote:
I walk out and go down elevator.. and she starts screaming my name I said Im got to go sweety... I was so annoyed.

I strongly recommend you do some searches in Franco's archive on SCREENING.


Quote:
NExt thing you know Im in my car on the light and she is behind me in her car....
she follows me a few blocks and like in the cop shows she gets in front of me and gets off and screams " You are such a low life asshole, dont you ever contact me again! that was very dissrespectful !"

She sounds very low self esteem and would like for you to become aggressive in response to her and ABUSE her.




Quote:
I do kind of miss her but

Dude, how the fuck can you miss a FREAK like this girl?


Quote:
I was in the middle of solving a problem which she was helkping me with since she is an attorney...I didnt hire her but just to advise me what to do next cause according to her my attorney SUCKS!

Right... she'll help you and put a price on it by giving you this shit since you two are in a relationship together.

Live and learn, but you should have done things differently from the getgo (i.e.: have sex with her, but do not make her your legal adviser, or just have her as your legal adviser and THAT'S IT).

The problem with the whole thing is you didn't screen her and you lead the relationship in a very shitty way - not knowing what YOU want out of the deal.

Quote:
I did intentionally hook up with her cause I liked her and cause I thought she could help me

WTF man, keep that shit SEPARATE.



Quote:
I texted her : Hey I want to talk to you

You have a tendency in all of your posts to keep contacting girls when it just poorly shows your own self esteem and lack of self respect.
A girl (or bitch) like this one does not deserve you talking to her.

Grow a pair of balls and treat bitches like this accordingly!


Quote:
Hmmm... I got that problem and she is holding thouse papers, and Im scared of asking her cause she can harm me with domestic violence or something like that which Im scared eventhough Im not the physical type nor I want problems...

Don't even talk to her.

Forget about what happened and move on. The fuel to the fire will be added if you keep contacting her. I am fucking serious about this.

Quote:
and I think cause she paid for dinners and everything...like she was the man in the relationship....

You enabled it, though.


Quote:
what I can do or what you would do ?

What you can do with this girl is STOP contacting her.

In the future, I strongly recommend you:

-screen
-do not fuck girls you have any ties to (i.e.: your accountant, your boss, etc)
-know how to LEAD relationships properly

D-Boy

I re read this over and over....
looked into Franco ...just awesome and alpha and descissive....


also looked into http://www.soyouvebeendumped.com/theas10tips.html
great stuff better than community trash....

also http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Over-a-Break-Up


thouse plus the first readings of FRANCO's stuff just blew my reality....

i started watching DDangelo's inner game which also in beginning was soo true in terms of desciosion making cause Im very sensitve and emotional....and not being a leader!

Im motivated to look into that material..

I also hugged my dad cause I had a rough argument with him 2 days ago when I asked him for advice on women he went off and called me a loser we ended in argument....and he just wished me well...


I feel personal growth from this...

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

WOO- HOO! R-O-T-A-T-I-O-N

I spoke to the natural and He is a master! the rotation expert just gets me hyped... I feel a good thing coming and I spoke to K doggy dog...

Im planning to talk to ENtropy soon...but I feel like Cool vibe kindah like Natural Tim....boy I feeel great!

Focus on studying,the gym,kickboxing,and really stepping up and be more mature and responsible with myself...

another thing is to never educate to a woman dont explain that you are doing to beeter yourself or etc..its try hard and unattractive.. like hypnotica said once : YOU ARE ATTRACTIVE... YOU ARE SEXUAL you dont go sexual, you just fkin are!

future is kindah so -s o


but also noticed that the less you incvest, the more attractive you are..be cool and give value but dont be easy or too available...you dont have to respond and make her miss you....therefore she works for you...
use mixed signals, verbally cool and action dismissive or just busy.

NOTE: I said I was moving out.

next thing would be leaving for a couple of weeks.

ALSO STOP GIVNG EXCUSES OR EXPLANATIONS she doesnt explain herself therefore you dont qualify yourself or come off needy or desperate or rapport seeking its SOCIAL AWKWARDNESS! YUCK..remmber that.....

I was very undessicive ...should have lead more

insight..maintaining your position as an attractive man and not the provider

I read RJ's stuff once in a while and I noticed that you have to be the jerk that gives her space for her to come to you....

its simple yet to project it without verbalizing it ,can be calibrated..subcommunications of your actions of why you say them...


In a relationship , we tend to be there for her be nice and she complaints and give her more and more and more ..til basically you end up carry all the work in the relationship...yes you do have to lead but she has to work as well...you ahve to elicit for her to invest in it...how? same with pick up .

you bait and use assertiveness and your sub com has to be ( n and this from rJ)

Do a little Frame Control on yourself before you try it on her. Repeat this to yourself till it's clear:

"I am not attached, but nor am I disinterested."
And then orient yourself to your end goal by asking:
"Do I want a poke in the eye, or do I want to poke her?"


Its what calibration is about, or you can call it a mild push pull mixed with qualification on waiting for her to react....


Also to avoid confrontation issues I found best is not to give her a reason to respond, cause she will have a tendency to respond negative cause she isnt getting her way...

SO YOU LEAD...

ADAM said: "Be freindly ..yet keep distance"


I say DOnt be her therapist, be busy.

my friend Kawg says : dont go into too much detail or educate her on how things are going to be ....just be simple light to cut off contact with her.


I lost my neediness last night with the support of doc strangelove , entropy and a rock and the guys that have emailed me.....

Im not going to talk about what happend and Im just going to focus on my work and situation.

the more I talk the more obsess I become and reactive in which unhealthy.

Im aware that I can attract a woman whenever I feel like it , I just dont depend on her for my happyness or rely on her for my own personal issues...
that I made a mistake of and in general its a DLV if it comes from that frame cause polarity is reversed therefore her actions will depend on her state or emotions.

as my friedn natural told me just ignore her for now. Dont give her a reason to respond.

this is a thin line and a bomb to explode in which I have to carefully withdraw myself from it.

its frame control on how you will lead to what you want and avoid going to a territory of problems and drama.

AVOID repetittious conversation or talk about relationship status...
dont add negative fluff or personal issues or whats called as "noise"
to distract her..but yet be chill and congruent.

as matt said : be happy positive and cheerful, it will keep you from seeming insecure or needy.

appear that you have moved on and you no longer need your GF


most ex GF keep their ex boyfriends as "friends" to help themselves heal who is there to heal the boyfreind?



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here's the RJ newsletter :

"I'm Tired Of Being Her 'Therapist' While She's Banging Those Jerks"
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
You're a smart guy who's "got it goin' on" who knows how to overcome your fear, walk right over to the hottie you see at the next table, and Sarge on her 'till next thing you know, she's screaming your name while you take her places she's never been before.
But there's one problem. The other guys she's been with have treated her like garbage. You refuse to resort to bullying, begging, buying, bs or booze...but she's so used to guys who DO, that you end up being the "therapist" she cries to about those other jerks.
You know, the jerks who are f@@king her silly while you fantasize about her during your date with Rosey and her five sisters. Here's a note I got from a student who's in that boat:
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I have the hots for this chick who has ONLY ever been attracted to guys who treated her like crap. Occasionally she'll call me or I her and we'll hang a bit or talk on the phone. Each time, I extend her comfort zone just a bit more and her affirm, ratify and REACH for more good feelings.
It's been my experience, if you treat women nice they tend to run away because it is all new to them. And I'm left standing there, knowing I had good intentions. But good intentions ain't getting my Willy wet.
Can you expand the process here of how you had to be "hard" on her at first (which is what she expects from men) and slowly change her comfort zone to reach for good feelings - that will open up her heart and blow her mind.
Can this be done without me becoming her therapist and "friend" instead of her lover?
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This is territory fraught with pitfalls. First, foremost, UPPERMOST, MOST importantly:
DETACH YOURSELF from the outcome. You might like this woman, but you have to detach; turn down your desire to bang her, make a difference, change her worldview, etc.
Do a little Frame Control on yourself before you try it on her. Repeat this to yourself till it's clear:
"I am not attached, but nor am I disinterested."
And then orient yourself to your end goal by asking:
"Do I want a poke in the eye, or do I want to poke her?"
(I think you KNOW what *I* prefer!)
Instead of being the "friend" whose shoulder she cries on about how those jerks treat her wrong, you'll be the guy who gets her soaking wet with desire...the "best she's ever had." They'll wish they were YOU.
Peace and piece,

RJ

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

reverse frame to get her to help me

Listen, I know I wasnt there for you as a BF in the relationship cause I never had time for it but
cause this was an important legal matter.

I wanted to ask you if you are going to separte helping me legally with your advice and guidance as an attorney in my situation
versus of being bitter towards me ,as far as the relationship is concerned...

I understand that you needed to take a break and you need space to work on your own obligations.

But because this is my entire future and livelyhood ...and we may not have been eye to eye in the relationship,and its my future,
I was counting on you for your advice and guidance.

Ethically, if you can think you can separate the 2 and whatever leftover emotional feelings
you have towards me ...and help me with it.

If not ...I understand , but I need to know now cause my entire career rests on this and I dont want emotions to get
in the way with that.

All I ask is to be truthful to me,
Its not fair and not right to keep me guessing, you have to be truthful to me.
If I was a doctor and I wanted to get the BEST medical care for you,
I couldnt allow my emotions to get in the way of getting you the BEST medical treatment available that you needed.

...If you can let your personal feelings aside and our relationship didnt work for a reason that we didnt see ,then thats ok and we can move past that

I'd love for you to help me.


Thank you for everything,

feedback of the situation

the natural friend said:

YOU DID THE RIGHT THING, AND ENDED IT AMICABLY , NO HARD FEELINGS,BOTH OF YOU KNOW WHERE YOU STAND.....DONT REGRET IT, YOU ENJOYD IT AND LEFT IT AT PERFECT TIME.IT WAS HER WHO ENDED IT,IN WHICH YOU HAVE TO BE THANKFUL THAT SHE DID.ITS AN EXPERIENCE...

IF SHE CONTACTS YOU JUST IGNORE AND DONT GIVE HER A REASON TO RESPOND.

the natural ALSO said : dude, talk to her if you need her for your papers and tell her to be friends and then just ignore her.


kdoggydawg: she is a dangerous woman, keep away from her...she is destructive.
dont get involved with her anymore.

DONT TALK TO WOMEN AND EDUCATE THEM THAT YOU ARE WORKING ON YOURSELF AAND OR HINT THEM HOW REALTIONSHIPP AS FRIENDS WORK< THEY DONT WANT TO BE TAUGHT!!!! ITS SILLY AND DISRESPECTFUL.
dont describe it or say what you are going to do, JUST DO IT!!!!


My moms said : it was something quick of 6 weeks fling, you had your times with her you was in the momment,we all talk and promise each other but in reality when you break it you break it and dont look back....its an experience you learned and enjoy
it.
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING, AND ENDED IT AMICABLY , NO HARD FEELINGS,BOTH OF YOU KNOW WHERE YOU STAND.....DONT REGRET IT, YOU ENJOYD IT AND LEFT IT AT PERFECT TIME.IT WAS HER WHO ENDED IT,IN WHICH YOU HAVE TO BE THANKFUL THAT SHE DID.ITS AN EXPERIENCE...

IF SHE CONTACTS YOU JUST IGNORE AND DONT GIVE HER A REASON TO RESPOND.


AFC ADAM says :

honestly...


it's hard to say. if she has things you need and she isn't giving them then it's best to be friendly, but try to keep distance. Though ask her for the things back you need.
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Scot mckay

Sandros:

1) This CAN'T be true: "I realize that its true relationships are run by women but guys need to lead…" Think about it.

2) As soon as you realize a woman you are with is psycho and stay with her anyway (for whatever reason) you are disrespecting yourself. That leadership will be followed by the woman. Period. If ANY man would have to lack self-respect to be with her, perpetuating her vicious cycle of failure, that's HER problem not yours. At least it should be.

3) If you put yourself in a subservient position to a strong-willed woman (e.g. depending on her for necessary legal advice) it's never going to end well for you. Whether she's psycho or not in that particular frame is irrelevant.

4) Drop EVERYTHING and get The Leading Man: http://www.the-leading-man.com/subscribers. Seriously. Without the knowledge that program will impart to you history will repeat itself.

Cheers,

Scot McKay
X & Y Communications
www.deservewhatyouwant.com

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ENTROPY


Hey man,

Just read through your comment. Yeah this woman sounds a bit nuts. I'd keep away from her and get your personal life in order as much as possible. As for what you did wrong, it sounds like you leaped into things way too quickly and let her set the expectations (which were just ruled by her emotions and whims at the time). But we can talk about that on the phone.

Let me know when you get everything straightened out.

Best of luck buddy,
ENTROPY

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Northern nights said


Dude you were just needy for the sex and for her help with your legal stuff.
Thus she lost attraction for you.

Get your own life together. Anyone will want you more if you can walk away
easily and find another woman.

Don't put up with any disrespectful behavior at all.

The power structure was out of balance in the relationship.

Talk to Entropy about all this, and let me know what he says.

NN.

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Dantalion Jones

I've read your email and I have compassion for your situation.

Honesty is the best policy here. I am not the best person to work with you on this.
Perhaps I could help, but I have to be wise with my time and energy and this is not a direction I can go.

I don think you would do well to talk with someone, perhaps Tom Vizzini is better or Houston Vetter could assist.. but not me.

I'm sorry.

Here is the best and briefest advice I can give you.

1) Know what you want in any relationship. Know it to the letter and update it when needed.

2) Know your boundries, i.e. exactly how much crap you will take from any woman. When you reach your
limit walk away. You'll feel better about yourself when you do. There is no amount of sex that is worth a life time of crap. Repeat that last sentence to yourself.

3) Date a LOT of women. You'll find plenty of crazy ones to walk away from. Know your boundries and when one of them oversteps your bourdries be calm and to the point: do it again and you will leave. Stick to that... no matter what and date someone else.

Sorry I can't do more.

Best of luck,

Dantalion
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Monday, August 24, 2009

Neediness management by francopua

I started resding his stuff here it is !


neediness management is essential to be a successful PUA ( Pick-up artist ) and even more essential to have good relationships with women.

The distinction between biological and psychological, body and mind does not exist in reality. All of these happen together, as a whole.

This is true for neediness, too.

If you try to understand neediness by considering it only a “psychological” issue you will never understand it fully and you will never be able to manage it.

Neediness is first of all a biological, physical phenomenon and not only an abstract ¨psychological problem.

The Brain has a biological ¨rewarding/punishing” system, which - by the means of hormones and neurotransmitters like endorphins, dopamine, serotonin - rewards us by giving us pleasure any time we do something which is essential for the survival of the individual and the species.

Such things are for example moving, running ( hunting, fighting, escaping ), having sex (children ), eating sugar ( essential for the brain )The same system punish us with pain if we do something which is potentially not useful for the individual and the species.

Neediness exists for a positive evolutionary purpose and the brain maintains it. Without neediness no children would be born, we would be merciless and rational 100% Alpha creatures and we would end up killing each other until the survival of only one.

Empathy is one of the feature of neediness = “I know how you feel” versus “I get what I want”. The human child is needy as definition and remains such for long years after the birth.

Managing neediness is smart. Denying neediness and fighting against it is fool. You cannot “fight” a biological feature of the brain. You have to manage it.

Neediness management is the group of skills a PUA uses to be non needy and manage his neediness so that it serves what he wants instead of neediness controlling the PUA himself.

It is the difference between properly riding a horse and a wild horse out of the control of his rider.

So if you get into the negative mindset of ¨I must get rid of this neediness ¨ you will hit the head in the wall of your bachelor pad, do stupid things like take drugs, alcohol, gamble, over eat and get attached to the tits of some long-term relationships of yours and at the end of the day you will get betaised.

You cannot fight against your own brain but the good news is that you can successfully manage your brain.

Neediness management means awareness of your needs so that you can manage them in the direction you want. The successful strategy is the same like in judo: winning the enemy by softly using it’s strength.

And now some practical advice.

I will give here extensive advice on neediness management so that you will be able to never be betalsed, Keep your health and happiness good and get always what you want.

Socializing.

The human brain is wired to socialize with the purpose of increasing the chances of survival. We are clearly social, group animals.

Fighting against this instinct results in increased neediness because being social is biologically wired in our brain. Some group psychoanalysts go so far to believe that “there is no mind without the group”.

There are studies made on prisoners of war which seem to confirm what these psychoanalysts believe.

It was asked from them for research purposes which is the worst kind of torture. All of them seemed to agree that the worst one is totally isolating the prisoner. One of them survived isolation by drawing on the wall of his prison an animal, giving the animal a name and by talking to it.

Betaised males coming out of divorces may be at worst in a very bad state of social isolation with extremely increased degree of neediness. One of the core features of the process of betaising and one-itis is when the female of our species uses the usually bad awareness most of the males of our species have of their emotional needs - paradoxically often the strongest ones ! - to make their need for socializing completely satisfied by her, the children and a social network of her own.

This usually starts with ¨Why don’t you open up to me?’ or ¨I want you to be sweet to me¨ and ¨My girlfriend Mary noticed I was so sad because we did not buy that car¨. This usually brings to him having a social network totally controlled by her.

To avoid an increase in neediness keep on constantly several social circles of yours so that your brain inducted need for socializing is never invested in one person only and one social circle only.

If you have ONSs ( one night stands ), FBs, ( fuck buddies ) MLTRs, ( multiple long-term relationships ) LTRs ( exclusive long-term relationships ) or are Married never make of these the only source of satisfaction of your brain’s need for socializing.

Manage your needs and spread your investments!

MENTAL STATE SHIFTS

In the case you ended up into social isolation you may enter a state of anxiety, feelings of being worthless, guilt, depression. Before you raise your hand to take the first beer, call your one itis, ask your LTR why she is late or sniff your cocaine realize that your Brain is signaling - by lowering your endorphin levels and other hormonal changes -the fact that by being alone you are in danger.

What you need here is not to call your one itis or get drunk. You need to give to your Brain something telegraphing to it that you are again on the right track in matters of survival and the Brain will raise the endorphins promptly again.

As a rule Socializing = High Endorphins = Good State

and

Isolation = Low Endorphins = Bad State.

Anyway there is an important side note: the Nature and Quality of the Social Interactions you have are very important.

As a rule:

Isolation = Low endorphins = Bad State.

Bad Social Interaction = Bad State = Even worse than isolation ( Guys in relationships remember this !)

Good Social Interaction = Good State ! Better than Isolation !

To achieve good mental state shift you need to slowly condition your brain and give it evidence that you are in social interaction. This is similar to what happens when you do Yoga breathing exercises and you calm down. You are starting from the body to influence your brain.

To achieve the mental state shift you need to acknowledge that in Isolation your mental state changes compared to what it is to when you are Socializing. Actually what happens in your body is so subtle and unconscious that I would say simply assume that your mental state is different when you are in Isolation compared to what it is when you are Socializing.

So to effect your mental state positively get the fuck out of the house!

Smile and say “Hi” to the people around you, talk in an non weird way to the people about whatever comes to your mind. What you say is not important as long as it is positively framed, friendly and non threatening, While you talk to people you will slowly notice a sense of well being coming.

This is due to a positive shift in Endorphins levels ( other neurotransmitters for sure involved are Dopamine and Serotonin ) and slowly brings your Brain into the wanted State. This can require - depending on what person you are and how long you have been Isolated or worse Isolated in a bad relationship - from a few minutes to some day.

So persist, don’t give up!

How this effects positively neediness?

When you learn to:

- Use Socializing as a way to influence your own state.
- Quickly detect and next bad interaction with negative people.

You will be managing the need your brain biologically has of relating to the individuals of the same species but in a way controlled by you. Without the management your need will increase, your mind will slowly go into a state of “contact starvation” and that will make of you an easy target for the Betaising in relationships and for any kind of manipulative woman you meet on the Road of your love relationships.

Uptime & Downtime.

Your Brain can shift between two states: Uptime is when you are all the time in touch by using your senses with the outer world. Downtime is when you think, when you withdraw into your inner world. For example while I am writing this I go into Downtime.

While having for sure the important meaning of having you to focus on creativeness, scientific and philosophical thinking, task solving and so on staying too much in downtime is bad and it increases your neediness.

The reason is that the more you stay in Downtime the more you tend to withdraw from social contacts. Withdrawing from social contacts slowly increases the Brain’s need to have rapport, contact with other people and makes you needy.

So to manage neediness you gotta give the Brain it’s dose of good social contact in a managed way.

Women do this instinctively all the time. Go out to the town and look around. You will see women sitting in sets of two taking care that their Brain gets the proper dose of social contact. Usually they keep a pretty superficial relationship with the girlfriends and they take care that the “therapy session” with the girlfriends - while sometimes touching deep issues - never gets really serious. They also make sure to spread their emotional investments as widely as possible into different persons.

That “seems” to be needy from them but actually it is the opposite: an extremely smart strategy to manage their own neediness so that they do not really “need” anyone emotionally.

THE NATURE AND QUALITY OF THE SOCIAL CONTACTS.

Is extremely important.

If you are in downtime and socially isolated you become needy and get into a downward spiral. If you try to get out of the social isolation but do not choose your social contacts wisely that will increase your neediness even more.

At worse you may end up in a situation where you feel anxious and needy when you are alone and anxious and needy when you are socializing due to the bad quality of the contacts you have.

Energy Vampires are a reality! They do exist out there and are ready to suck your psychic blood.

Energy Vampires are often masochists who enjoy suffering and negative frames.

You can detect the Energy Vampire by measuring the number of negative frames and frames with a masochistic content in their talks.

Examples of the sickness and the medicine for it.

HB:(hot babe) “I have such a fat ass. I will never get a boyfriend”
PUA:”Sorry.. suddenly I got a terrible headache. I think I need to go. Let’s get back to this another time. You are cute” = polite next !

Male “friend”:”You know. I am so envious of you. I see how you can seduce women all the time. I would like to be so good as you are..”
PUA:”Well you know. There are guys who have a lot of knowledge about seducing women, meet some of them, if you get there and work hard you will be slowly able to do the same..”
Male “friend”:”Seducing women? You gotta be kidding! Those guys are totally immoral! Manipulating women in such a way!”
PUA:”Man, suddenly I feel a strange headache. I think I need some rest. Let’s get back to it another time, ok?” polite next !

It is not that the PUA would like to be bad and asocial. He is aware of how negative frames effect the mind by increasing neediness and spoiling the state.

It is about survival.

Words effect the brain !

In situations like the above the healthier choice is simply to bring our own ass to a different venue!

So as a rule next Energy Vampires and fill your Social Network with interesting people, spread your emotional investments and that will help you into good neediness management.

SKIN CONTACT

Skin contact, kino ( not necessarily sexual! ) with other member of the species is good! Why? Skin contact, kino has a profound positive effect on your endorphins level and makes you feel good.

There are many animal species that are constantly close to each other when they move in groups and even at closer contact when sleeping. This is a biological mechanism ruled by nature. There are studies where small doses of morphine ( it acts on endorphins ) reduce the separation anxiety in animals. So the opiate system of the Brain is largely used by Nature as a reward system to have us do things which help survival.

I have been long in the past a consultant psychiatrist in psycho geriatrics departments ( medicine of the elderly). One of the most frequent reasons I was called was: “The old man/old lady does not want to eat anymore and the clinical examination is normal”. Well guys you should have seen how the food went down by simply taking their hand and chatting them, getting rapport with them.

Nature wants Skin Contact and Socializing for survival purposes. It has biological basis. Have you ever been touched by other guys so much like when you were in the Army? There is a reason for it.

Go to watch the movie “Save Private Ryan” by Steven Spielberg. At the end of the movie Private Ryan just go to know that his brother died in action. A comrade is keeping him on his chest like he would be his mother.

So here there is ground for neediness management: you are all born by human mother and you cannot deny the need for physical contact. Through physical contact you were fed when you were newborn.

The married man who has no social network and lives with a wife who denies sex and affection from him and has betaised him is at risk for great neediness! Slowly he gives up all the physical contact (also non sexual!) in the fear of being rejected sexually and his neediness ( due to low endorphin levels!) grows up to the stars and he can be manipulated even more while this brings to a downward spiral.

How to manage your need for contact.

When picking up girls touch them early on and touch them a lot. Make sure they touch you a lot. In you are not in an exclusive relationships keep MLTRs ( Multiple Long-Term Relationships ) with sweet girls who touch you a lot. Get a lot of physical contact! Never do the AFC ( Average Frustrated Chump ) thing of staying in a LTR ( Exclusive Long-Term Relationship) with a woman who is not able to take your humanity and link physical contact with sex. Never spend your time with women who are emotionally cold and distant.

A QUALITY OF THE MIND

The need for something or someone recognizing the existence of the Mind itself is a feature of the mind. What good service a dog coming to the door does to you in the periods of life you live alone? It tells to you:” I recognize that you exist!”. The mind cannot work well without reflection. It gets into a spiral of unbearable tension. That’s what women do when they sit in sets of 2 or 3 at the town. They discharge the emotional tension.

There is a need of the mind for Reflection.

I make a large use of animals and fetishes to manage my own neediness. I have had in the last years two Dobermans: Terminator and Conan. They are both gone, sadly. At the moment I have a couple of cats: Casanova and Safire. Casanova comes to the door to acknowledge me when I get in.

I also have fetishes: a dog made of wool I have, I call him Transit. It comes playfully from psychoanalysis “Transitional object” is an object a 3-4 years old child keeps as a substitute of the mother. Well guys you will be surprised but when Franco was not married yet and was traveling around the world on his long hunting expeditions the first thing he saw in the morning on his bed was Transit.

I am now on travel, going home. When I will walk through the door there will be on my bed Transit, staring at me. The need of the mind to be recognized will be satisfied.

This is Neediness Management. By becoming good in it you can practically manage 100% your neediness in all your relationships with women so that it can be zero level towards any woman, no matter how hot.

FALLING IN LOVE

Is a fucking organic ( biological ) Psychosis the purpose of which is to keep two individuals long enough together to guarantee pregnancy to happen and the care of the child long enough for the child to survive. I wish I would have known this when I was 17 years old!

Falling in love may make you badly needy. And this is Bad, Bad, Bad !

Anyway falling in love is a very pleasant experience but I would say you will need all your PUA skills to go through it without getting betaised. The most beautiful Metaphor about Falling in Love and being Betaised comes from Homer’s wonderful poem The Odyssey in the part of Odysseus and the Siren.

Odysseus orders his sailors to tie him to the ship so he can hear the singing of the Sirens and see them. His men have their eyes covered and their ears filled with cotton. The price for not resisting the sing of the Sirens is the irresistible wish to jump into the sea to be with them and be eaten by these seductive creatures half women and half fishes.

Falling in love resembles for the High Status Alpha Male and PUA the same thing like in the Odyssey. AFCs of every kind sit at home in the armchairs. High Status Males need hunting and war expeditions.

Falling in love is for them a danger.

To be able to be a PUA one has to be able to enjoy the pleasures of falling in love but at the same time be tied so firmly to the ship of his own skills and well being so that he has to be able to ride the neediness connected with it.

It is a wonderful experience. I have been there several times.

If I would say I was never hurt I would be a lier. But I came out of it and I won.

Let’s say that being good in neediness management and having good PUA skills is the ship which saves you from being betaised by the falling in love while enjoying it’s fruits fully.

ANGER.

Anger makes you needy when:

- You are not able to be in touch with it in yourself. In a word: you still are a nice guy.

- When you feel it but do not express it fully. In a word “half anger” makes you needy. Full blown anger frees you from neediness.

And with this I do not mean you bad guys should smash everything around and break people and objects!

To avoid neediness you must:

- Either avoid conflict situations as much as you can or
- If you have to get pissed off then be a man, make a decision, get the fucking pissed off and let people feel that under their skin !

A chronic and continuous situation of “half anger” makes you needy like hell and damages your health.

ENJOY FULLY YOUR ANGER IF YOU HAVE TO!

One of the most betaising things women do is to push the buttons of a guy’s anger while having him into a situation where he cannot fully express it.

For example on the work place:

HB:”I really like your eyes” ( showing naked legs)
Guy: (touches her)
HB: “We are on the work place. I will report this!”

Now to avoid neediness you gotta have the skills and decide either to not touch her and if she touches you tell her “Hands off the merchandise!” or if you touch her then tell her that “Please report me. You can blow job me in a court of law later on” and touches her ass and don’t give a shit about the consequences.

Being a man frees you from neediness. No matter which are the consequences!

Avoid “half anger” It makes you needy. Get pissed of and face the consequences or learn to control yourself and manager you anger internally!

SEX

Get always a lot of sex. Being without sex makes you needy! Don’t ask for sex. Just take it! Sex stimulates your endorphin system positively and raises your testosterone. Your Brain is built so to punish you by lowering endorphins if you do not get sex enough and reward you if you get lot of sex. You want to know how big is your sex drive?

Take your actual sex drive and multiply it x 5 and you will get a figure closer to reality.

PICKING WOMEN UP AND SEDUCING THEM

Even if you are in an exclusive LTR never quit pick-up. Pick-up is a social interaction and gives you a good state of mind and frees you from neediness. Pickup is the art of bringing the woman from the pickup venue to the isolated venue ( in our culture in most of the cases this is = having sex with the woman).

If you are in an exclusive relationship and want to be faithful that is perfectly ok and you can practice the art of bringing women “close” to wanting to jump into the bed with you without having sex with them. You are having lot of sex with your woman after all in that situation. Women with all their make-up, short skirts and seductive body language keep their own seductive skills on all the time. So why wouldn’t you do the same? There are many women being seductive all the time and still faithful to their husbands/boyfriends.

Seduction is the art of having the female agree to sex in an isolated venue ( well not in all the cases.. LOL ). Pickup is a hunting skill and to keep it up you need constant practice.

If you are in an exclusive relationship simply pick-up women and bring them to “the edge” and then introduce them to your wingmen for the final sexual act.

It is important to keep up your hunting skills. That frees you from neediness in regard to any single female.

By being totally non needy and internally managing your own neediness you attract women everywhere, make your woman in the main relationship happy and stay Alpha!

Sunday, August 23, 2009

autopsy of relationship.....lesson learned the end of attorney gal

original deal was:

I recently went from 5 girl rotation in nyc to meeting a new girl in FL and her wanting it to be BF/GF...
at first she was more invested until her attitude became unpleasant cause she bacame bossy wanting me to be there for her , then one night she was very disrespectful and I walked out on her, we broke up...days later we talked and I decided to make things work, started to prioritze our time to meet up and doing what she said I was not doing, buying her flowers,etc ....her interest decreased and I noticed she was changing and wanted me to invest more than her...she change plans saying she had pms and when we met up she was cold and noticed she flirted with guy in her building that was calling her to hang out and she whispered to him "Im with my BF" I got upset and didnt know how to handle it..He isisted her to hang with him at the pool, I told her lets go to apt. I remained unaffected and when we were alone told she insisted to hang out by the pool I said No. She said he is a friend she hangs out once a month and they dont have anything and that if she wanted to she could "hook up"
I then told her that wasnt unacceptable for her to have that type of "frenidship" thats over my boundaries.

she kissed me and cuddled until time for her to leave...






I realized that things were not the same....

came up needy and insecure which was triggered by her on purpose.
After the breakup and going back she changed the polarity of relationship.

I lost my prizing and I couldnt help myself from being the AFC insecure guy.
she was staring to see other guys and I noticed her change in behaviour and loss of interest. She is a low self esteem manipulator and I put an end to it by steping away...I became too available at the wrong moment and tried hard to make it work...
read entropys post on how women should put effort in relationships and frankly she is just isnt into it.....its not the same and Im afraid she is using to get back at me by cheating and make me feel bad.

If it wasnt for game , I would be depressed and have oneitis..yes we spent great moments together but she had me cause she knew my vunerability.

Im not going to contact her to move on and be congruent to what I told her....

more important my self respect.....

I wasnt looking at the big picture but after all this.. I now understand
Arock helped me and I hope to have him as my friend for a long time and cherish that freindship...

AS for attorney woman.. I felt like my marriage trying to recovery out of desperation replaying all over again..just to lose attraction and show how unworthy I am to her..

Im listening matt huston , to not to be around her forcing her to heal on her own. Im not going to be around forcing her to feel lonely.


I cut her off cutting off on time before she leached as an emotional vampire,
to no easy out of a relationship.

she is monley bar type and she told me how she was seeing someone before I went to FL.

I saw the signs but didnt play it well enough, but learned alot out of what to do and what not to do in a realtionship.

savoy's DVD do give general idea of relationships but doesnt talk what to do in infedelity and shittests within relationship...Its advanced stuff but I thought its was important to deal with. his AMOG tactics is good and used it.

I read the train your girlfriend ebook, an actual skim of it...but I highly recomend it.

Im just glad to move forward to what I have to do.

always have a backup plan.

and never mix your personal issues with love and relationships.

BE SELFISH


-Sandros

Friday, August 21, 2009

lattest raves and rants....relationship stuff

WEll I noticed badboy pua ,ELTopo REDMOLE , Hoobie and even CJ are getting into an "advanced" method....

ever since I left new york its was a crash and burn to learn pickup and relationship beginning in that last month.

I have to thank guys like A-rock from miami and the Natural I was roomates with.

Spending time and confronting obstacles and putting action makes a huge difference

and the BEST game is learned out there and with added creativity you get good.

I got back with the girl that Im seeing and we went through a stage of making up and me taking the lead.


I ended up reviewing : Hoobie's PDF
Matt Huston's audio (its ok)
Savoy's female psycology lair talk (passive programing)
Savoy's DVD on relationship's In which I havent finished
(passive programing)


I learned how to project more the qualities and diverse more and giving positive emotions flowing.

Id say NATURAL TIM is best example.

Its the guys that have to put the work to make things happen, spike emotions and dominate her.

I texted a few days ago on a female dog I got that bit my shirt and the friend that gave her to my family told me "get a male dog to dominate her, put her in her place"


I also breiefly heard BRadp mention something on relationships....

like the don was quoted once "guys good at this spend more time in relationship management than cold approach"

SO TRUE

Friday, August 14, 2009

Break up...how to recover after...compilation and self experience

Well Im going to appraoch it as Entropys interprets things...
I went through psycho drama last night...I felt like I was doing it for my own and I think Im confusing myself with my mind and my heart....
Im going to write up a FR type but autopsy style report wher i learned and made mistakes....

Atleast I have game to go out and get another girl or go out with her friend and hurt her emotionally but I really have to get myself together.
Luckily for me...I got email from swingcat :

There's a secret to getting your girlfriend back
that most guys will go to their grave never knowing.

As an added bonus, learning this secret will improve
your skills with da ladies tenfold.


Is It Possible To Get An Ex Girlfriend Back?

Question from a reader

Is it possible to get an ex girlfriend back? I’ve been with my ex-girlfriend for almost eight years. During that time, I know she was sick of me and I could see it in her eyes. The entire time I was with her I would do whatever she asked me to.

Put it this way, I was like a dog that chased after a ball every time she said fetch. I don't want that to happen all my life. I want her to chase after the ball too. But she never listens to me and it's all about her every time.

We’ve been broken up for about four months or so. At first, she wanted to be friends with benefits. I kinda like friends with benefits because benefits means sex. But I want to fix our breakup to makeup. Now there's no friends with benefit anymore. Because she found someone to talk to and I'm very lonely. She is seeing this guy and I believe dating as well, but not in a relationship.

So I think I still have a chance. I don't know what I'm going to do now. But what is more messed up is she is living in my second house that she is renting and she is on my T-Mobile plan too. I have to go to her house once a month to pick up the rent.

I don't know what I'm going to do when I see her. She told me before when we broke up that she’d feel no jealousy if she saw me with another woman. Another words, she’s the man in the relationship and I'm the girl. How messed up is that... very messed up huh!!!

I've been thinking a lot about a plan to win her over me. I would start off buying your program and read inch by inch and page after page. Once that's done, I will start fixing up myself and go to Clubs to test out your course. If that works then the next time I go to my ex-girlfriend’s house I'll bring a beautiful girl to pick up the rent for me. Then I will use your skills and techniques to make her want me more and more... so that she will keep thinking about me over and over and over again.

Is your method powerful enough to win my ex-girlfriend over, so that she will chase after me for now on?

What worries me is how my ex-girlfriend is doing right now and if I still have a chance getting her back. Please help me Swinggcat, I need your help and your advice.

I know you have changed peoples lives. I hope your will change mine.

Once again, Thank You!!!

Your Friend,

Mark S. - From North Hollywood, California

Mark, buddy, I’m gonna bust your chops because I’ve sat in the same miserable prison cell you’re sitting in right now. Even though it is damn painful to lose the love of your life, you need a good kick in the ass – trust me.

Getting dumped sucks. A gut level response is to scheme up a master plan that makes her fall in love with you all over again. Like a baby aspirin, it prevents your jealous heart from exploding. Been there, done that.

I could give you word-for-word lines that would pump her groin full of lust. But I’m not, buddy.

Because here’s what would happen…

She’d throw you a bone, a minute of her oh-so-valuable time, and you’d pounce forward like the little trained golden retriever you are. Any attraction the techniques triggered inside her would wither to a suicidal gloom.

Without a key ingredient, you’re rigged to lose, my man.

In a minute, you’ll know what this ingredient is and how to get your hands on it.

But first… I wanna feed your noggin some food for thought…

What’s the difference between putting $5000.00 in front of a degenerate gambler in debt and a guy who’s got his shit together.

For the man in debt, his desire for the money comes from a place of necessity. If he doesn’t pay the debt, a bookie may crack his kneecaps. In plain English, he needs that moolah – badly.

But for Mr. Moneybags, it’s a completely different story. Getting his paws on 5,000 big ones isn’t a necessity. His life will be just fine without it. Instead, his desire for the money stems from a place of possibility. There’s a whole slew of possible things he could do with five G's: take a trip to Hawaii, purchase a new stereo system, buy a kick-ass wardrobe, or invest in a new computer.

One more time: the degenerate’s desire comes from a place of need and necessity… the rich guy’s desire comes from a place of possibility.

Hmm…. You get where I’m going with this?

Similar to the degenerate gambler who’s one poker hand away from losing his kneecaps, you’re coming from a place of necessity with this girl.

I want you to do a simple exercise…

Take a moment to imagine your attention, affection, and love being a necessity in this girl’s life. If you don’t give her your attention and show her that you’re attracted to her 24-7, her universe crumbles.

Visualize her arm clinging to yours at every moment. Her wanting to spend every waking second with you – even when you’re taking a dump.

Picture a furrow cutting between her eyebrows anytime a woman looks in your direction.

Draw a portrait in your mind of your girlfriend’s eyes seething with jealousy anytime a female’s shoulder grazes against yours in a crowded elevator.

This may be flattering – and a little comforting – at first. But after a while, it will reduce any attraction you feel for her to a crippling zero.

I’ve got some homework for you…

Go rent the movie Swingers. If you’ve already seen it, watch it again. It will be a great refresher course.

The movie is about a guy named Mike whose girlfriend leaves him for another man. The first half of the movie is about him moping around and fretting over how life is miserable without his girlfriend. His desire for his ex comes from a place of necessity.

Although a tough slog, he muscles himself out of the house and into the single scene trenches.

By the end of the movie, he meets a great girl. You can probably guess what happens. His desire for his ex girlfriend ceases to come from a place of necessity. As soon as this shift occurs, his ex calls him, wanting to get back together.

It’s weird… but more often than not, ex girlfriends psychically know when your desire for them switches from necessity to possibility.

That’s the turning point when they’ll usually want you back. Ironically, your desire for having them back in your life will no longer come from a place of necessity. You may not even want them at all.

Perhaps you’re wondering, “How in the world do I switch from necessity to possibility?”

By expanding your possibilities with other great women. If a handful of great women feel a yen to be with you, you’ll come from a place of power and choice. Instead of needing your ex, she’ll be just one of several possible girls you have the power to choose from.

Of course, if you don’t sport the tools to quickly spark attraction, succeeding with other women is a mountain of difficulty.

I should know… I can remember years ago being dumped and feeling powerless to get back in the game because I didn’t have a clue how to attract women.

That’s why I’ve spent the last decade creating a simple method for triggering deep level attraction in women without having to rely on looks, money… or any of the other nonsense most men think you need to succeed with women.

Whether your single or in a committed relationship, armed with this attraction method your desire for a woman will always come from a place of possibility, power, and choice.

If you'd like a PHD education on this attraction method, I highly recommend you check out my brand-spanking-new Sexual Connections course.
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I also remembered helping awaken when he broke up with his cougar wealthy woman...
he changed alot..I just couldnt understand how he got so emotional and I do miss her and Im worried about my situation.

Im going to watch swingers tonight and I remember reading and listening to matt huston get your eXback...."he who cares the least , controls the relationship "

Im going to post up more on whats going on and my mission on pimping it...miami style....better yet CJ's style ; )

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

doc holliday classic post

I like Doc Holliday cause Ive worked with him...guy is genuine and real PUA.
I took 2 bc with them and worked with him....real eye opener.
So in honor to him and his help Im posting this.....

I also like Saffron and Entropy

Entropy seems to be top active PUAs out there, If you get a chance to work with him ...Do it.

I got success working with them...

drumroll please:


5 Questions With Pickup Artist Doc Holliday


Doc Holliday is the cofounder and executive coach of Practical Pickup. He is best known for his innovations on day game, first dates, and comfort game. He teaches personalized pickup coaching throughout North America. His thoughts can be found at www.dochollidaypua.com

What was the break through moment for you in regards to achieving massive success as a PUA?

DOC HOLLIDAY: I can think of two big ones, or really the catalyst and the following reaction. The catalyst was losing my virginity. I came into the community a suicidal virgin. Because of that I had some really weird and unhealthy views about sex. The biggest of which was that I honestly believed that pussy would solve all my problems… I quickly realized this wasn’t the case. Iosing my V card really brought about a change of focus for me. I started to develop my life in other ways and work through the issues that had led to my depression and attempted suicide. It showed me that pussy wasn’t the magic pill I had hoped it was. That realization forced me to accept the fact that I had to fix myself before I could ever hope to be happy with my life or be truly successful with women. Women will always be able to enhance your life but they can never define it.

What do you think the secret is for same night lays?

DOC HOLLIDAY: Logistics and comfort. If you’re going out and specifically trying to work on same night lays then you need to screen for logistics within the first ten minutes of conversation. Questions like “How did you get here?” “What’s on the agenda for tonight?” “Doing anything fun tomorrow?” etc. If a girl is the designated driver for her friends I don’t care how good your game is you’re not gonna pull her out of there.

Almost everyone in the community doesn’t focus on comfort enough. Most of the guys I meet think that sharing themselves is the equivalent to handing a woman their resume’, I went to school here, I grew up there, I like snowboarding, I go twice a month, etc. All they’re doing is telling the woman the “what” about their lives. What they should be focusing on is the “why.” For example a guy saying he likes snowboarding is the “what” but if elaborates and explains the “why” he’s going to build a much stronger connection with the woman. The why could be “You know, my favorite thing to do in the world is to go snowboarding. There’s just something about it, the feeling I get in my stomach as I go up the ski lift, that moment right before I’m about to go down, just looking down over the ledge where the adrenaline is just waiting to be released, and finally when I’m going down it’s just me and the board, my mind is completely blank except for what I’m going to do next. Even as a kid, I always loved the winter because I knew my older brother would take me to a mountain on our winter break.” I’ve never actually been snowboarding before.

Once you start to open up like this to women they’re going to open up back to you. You actually get to see her real personality and who she is as a person. A lot of guy are going to think this sounds like some AFC LJBF bullshit but when a woman says to you that you understand her better than her ex boyfriend of three years and you met her 3 hours ago you’re getting laid. No LMR, no friends dragging her away, just great sex.

Who are you mentors and why?

DOC HOLLIDAY: Within the community my greatest mentor is Sinn. I lost my virginity the same night I heard him present at a seminar. In my opinion he’s the best coach in the community, he’s worked with more students that anyone else, and he’s personally dealt with almost all the issues students go through. Personally experiencing and dealing with an issue gives you much better insight into the issue. He’s also always been brutally honest with me about what I needed to do to fix my game. It’s hard to find someone like that.

Outside of the community I’ve got to say my mother. She always has been and always will be the most important person in my life. I don’t have much family other than her so she has to fill a lot of the roles that other family remembers would normally cover, she did a good job.

Any tips for guys looking to improve their inner game?

DOC HOLLIDAY:Â Inner game is a different journey for everyone and I can only speak for myself. Personally reading literature has helped me understand and reflect on myself better than anything else I’ve found so far. To be specific John Steinbeck’s East of Eden changed my life more than any other book I’ve ever read. Guys need to realize that inner game is a process that affects every part of your life. It’s a personal journey that you’re never done with, all you can do is to try and enjoy the ride.

What is your favorite outfit to hit a bar or club in?

DOC HOLLIDAY:Â I’m easy, usually I got out in a pair of Diesel Jeans, a Johnny Cupcakes tee shirt, and cowboy boots. I have a lot of tattoos and body piercings but other than that I don’t peacock. Dressing crazy and peacocking is great when you’re just starting out because of the attention it gives you and because of the random girls that decide they like sleeping with guys who wear eye shadow and New Rocks. But you get a decent level of success I think it’s better to find a style that’s congruent and unique to you… then you can meet the girls who like to sleep with guys who wear tee shirts with cupcakes on them

future on comfort game

Future - Ruminations On Comfort

I’ve figured out the real meaning of comfort.

Mystery mistakenly called this babysitting; this is an error. It’s also not completely far-fetched for him. Mystery’s personality is a shell, so it stands to reason that he wouldn’t be capable of actually generating legitimate emotional intimacy with a woman on the road to sex.

It’s not a gross miscalculation for certain types of girls, either. Leading is the most important aspect of the game, leading conversations, leading interactions, leading her physically. If you push that point enough and give little enough room to speak, yes, comfort building can fold over and become babysitting. Typically, this is accomplished by treating the goal of comfort as the the minimization of discomfort. My experiences have seen a handful of far superior permutations.

First, there’s sexual comfort. It bears first mention since it seems to be the most immediately useful sort of comfort. Push for more, initiate a girl’s ardor, give her The Look– and other sexual IOIs– and if your presentation is congruent and your sexual front unflinching, it gives substantially more leeway in all other departments since sexual compliance suborns nearly every other sort of comfort.

Next is true rapport. When all the IOIs and DHVs disappear. If enough commonalities are exchanged and your life story has provided enough compulsion that your very words and the very act of communication is a DHV and IOI in and of itself, that’s real comfort. That’s the apex for all human relations, I think: mutual respect, I think it’s called. It’s a deeply challenging state for male-female or male-male or female-female relationships because most of the time we are all seeking to understand or improve the rate of exchange on our personal power levels. Nevertheless, consistently, the real state of comfort comes when you can just open your mouth and be confident that you won’t repel the other person, simply because you are, yourself, a DHV.