Written by Johnny Wolf
Topics: Best of the blog - Must Reads
So me and Sonic arrive in Vegas one night before the bootcamp to check in the hotel and relax. But of course, we decide to go out and hook up. Funny thing is, I was a dating a girl a few weeks ago that I would have happily gave it all up for, but her loss I guess. The greatest thing about being a pick up artist is picking ourselves up back on our feet stronger than we were before.
I told Sonic that we can’t go out clubbing, we’ll be doing it for the next three nights and need to save our energy. So instead, we go to O’Sheas, an Irish pub casino. I start talking to some girls that were watching guys play beer pong, then I meet this gorgeous tall, hot red head, that I then went direct on. I just smiled, said hello with a strong sexually confident vibe and told her that I loved her tattos. We flirted for a bit, and I kissed her clover tattoo on her arm. She mentions she has another tattoo on her ankle, and I tell her that I’ll kiss it later tonight when they’re ontop of my shoulders. She loved it and told me to call her in an hour after she took care of her drunk friends. So up to Margrattaville we went. I see a really pretty girl with her entire extended family. I’m talking grandparents, aunts, uncles, you name it. But I thought to myself, she’s the type of girl I’d wanna date long term. So I approached, first the grandparents, then to her dad, to her mom, and eventually it was just me and her. I suggested that she comes to hang out with me and my friends since we’re all young and fun, and she gives me her number.
The next set of people was something that sonic was shocked to see me open up. It was two huge harley davidson riding white guys, and two hot white girls sitting at a dinner table. The pictures don’t even do them justice, standing up one was 6′3 and the other 6′6. But I thought the blonde was hot, so I had to approach. I befriend the table, and sit down next to the blonde. Turns out, the guys were really cool and they wern’t with the girls, they had just met. But most guys, actually all guys, would assume they were together, and that the guys would smash in our heads for pulling something like that. But nope, some of the best sets are the ones that other people think are impossible. Plus it shows a lot of balls and confidence going into a hard situation like that.
As I was sitting with the group, I get a phone call from a friend…which reminded me to call the red head back. She answers right away and tells me that she’s bringing her drunk girlfriend home. We flirt for a bit and I tell her she should come hang out with me here. She says she has work in the morning, but that I could go to her place and have a quick drink. For the guys that don’t know this, that means sex. =)
So I take a cab to the suburbs of Vegas, and we hook up. The sex was great, but the sleep was horrible. I’ve never had such bad sleep in my life. Her bed was way too soft and uncomfortable, she had this weird thing about needing to sleep with her TV on. I finally get to sleep somehow, and I get woken up at 6:30am by her saying, I need to get to work! So out the door I go….here’s the rest of it on vide
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
LR: Mother, Daughter Pull and Full Close by johnny wolf
Written by Johnny Wolf
Topics: Best of the blog - Must Reads
“You’re such a little slut…getting fingered while your mom is right next to us on the couch….but you’re my little slut and you fucking love it, don’t you?”
I went direct on a hot white girl in a red dress…telling her that she was ravenous, and then going straight into comfort and getting to know her. I tried moving her downstairs to sit down, but she said she had to tell her mother that she was coming with me…
*mental thought to self: umm…what the fuck?…*
But I said fuck it and invited her mom downstairs with us. Luckily she was with some random latino guy who was keeping her company. He was my new best friend and instant wing. I start kino escalation, holding hands and kissing her behind her mom’s back…but I knew that I would eventually need to get her mom to be okay with me fucking her daughter. The daughter was of legal age by the way. =)
So I get the mom to be okay with me kissing her daughter in front of her, and I build enough comfort and connection to get them to bounce with me. I figured out that there was no possible way to pull the girl without her mom, so I befriended the other guy and planned out an extraction plan.
First I went for the straight pull…”oh the condo we’re renting is right near you, let’s share a cab.” She was down with it…but said “well, if we do, it’ll just be that…and nothing else” I ignored it and moved from extraction back to comfort, then direct interest, and back to extraction again…
We got them out of the club to go to another bar…and after walking three blocks, I say:
“I’m tired of walking, lets just drink at my place.” I grab a cab, we all get in, and 20 minutes later we’re on my couch….mother and daughter next to me, and with a blanket over our laps, I start fingering her, and whispering in her ear, “how bad it is that we’re doing this with your mom next to us.” With a lot of dirty talk I sexually escalate with her quickly, and she’s loving it. Then to really make her a dirty little slut, I start fingering her pussy and her asshole at the same time.
As soon as her mom goes out to smoke with the random Latino guy, I push the daughter on the couch and start fucking her brains out….I knew I only had a few minutes, but we were both really fucking turned on by then, so it was all we needed. I wonder if the mother ever knew.
Topics: Best of the blog - Must Reads
“You’re such a little slut…getting fingered while your mom is right next to us on the couch….but you’re my little slut and you fucking love it, don’t you?”
I went direct on a hot white girl in a red dress…telling her that she was ravenous, and then going straight into comfort and getting to know her. I tried moving her downstairs to sit down, but she said she had to tell her mother that she was coming with me…
*mental thought to self: umm…what the fuck?…*
But I said fuck it and invited her mom downstairs with us. Luckily she was with some random latino guy who was keeping her company. He was my new best friend and instant wing. I start kino escalation, holding hands and kissing her behind her mom’s back…but I knew that I would eventually need to get her mom to be okay with me fucking her daughter. The daughter was of legal age by the way. =)
So I get the mom to be okay with me kissing her daughter in front of her, and I build enough comfort and connection to get them to bounce with me. I figured out that there was no possible way to pull the girl without her mom, so I befriended the other guy and planned out an extraction plan.
First I went for the straight pull…”oh the condo we’re renting is right near you, let’s share a cab.” She was down with it…but said “well, if we do, it’ll just be that…and nothing else” I ignored it and moved from extraction back to comfort, then direct interest, and back to extraction again…
We got them out of the club to go to another bar…and after walking three blocks, I say:
“I’m tired of walking, lets just drink at my place.” I grab a cab, we all get in, and 20 minutes later we’re on my couch….mother and daughter next to me, and with a blanket over our laps, I start fingering her, and whispering in her ear, “how bad it is that we’re doing this with your mom next to us.” With a lot of dirty talk I sexually escalate with her quickly, and she’s loving it. Then to really make her a dirty little slut, I start fingering her pussy and her asshole at the same time.
As soon as her mom goes out to smoke with the random Latino guy, I push the daughter on the couch and start fucking her brains out….I knew I only had a few minutes, but we were both really fucking turned on by then, so it was all we needed. I wonder if the mother ever knew.
Johnny Wolf’s Infamous Double Cold Approach Threesome Pull
Written by Johnny Wolf
Topics: Best of the blog - Must Reads
Hey guys, some of you were asking for this lay report, but I think I had to take this off my blog sometime back because of some chick I was dating or some crazy shit. But here it is again.
By the way, a couple guys in the community including Johnny Soporno say that the double cold approach threesome and Mystery’s 5 for 5 pull challenge are the two things PUAs should be aim for at the master level. I say, fuck it, just have fun.
—-
This is my first…and possible a community first, double cold approach threesome.
It all started early in the day with State building inner game
As I was driving in the car I thought to myself…this really sucks. Ever since I started professionally coaching pick up, my own personal relationship life has gone to shit. I’m traveling almost every weekend, I host seminars and lair events during the week, and when I’m out at night, it’s because I’m trying to get one of my students laid and not myself.
Then I told myself….fuck it. It doesn’t matter. I’ll make time. I’ll find a girl that has the same fucked up schedule as me, one that will be okay with me teaching pick up, and someone I can be honest with. I deserve it, I’m a good person, I’m honest, genuine, caring, and I would protect whoever I’m with. I deserve the perfect girl and I am going to find her.
At the bar: Textbook Game Structure, with Brutal Honesty
It’s a random Tuesday night, I’m at a dive bar in Los Angeles…and I go out to the smoking area. I see a cute blonde that I had met at another bar once before, and she helps me social proof myself by giving me a hug and saying hi. I turn and see a really cute white girl…whom we’ll call Peaches, and I immediately open her naturally saying “Hi, what’s up?” She introduces herself, and for some reason…I decide to introduce myself as “Johnny Wolf.” She asks if that’s some type of porn star name…and I tell her that I have a random profession…before telling her, I ask if she would ever not date a guy simply because of what he does for a living. And she responds with a story about an NFL Football player she used to date, and why they broke up. I then be completely honest and tell her straight out that I teach men how to pick up women.
Then this really hot Brazilian girl walks by us…and Peaches lights up and tells me she’s hot. I ask Peaches if she would like to kiss her, and she shyly giggles yes. I immediately AMOG the two guys that the Brazilian girl is with. (we’ll call her Nina) And I bring her into the conversation and introduce her to Peaches. I tell them both that they are fucking sexy, and that they should kiss. They both…still looking at me, giggled yes, but they wouldn’t look at each other. I felt that they were shy and didn’t want to make the move…so I bait it again by saying how hot it would be if they did…then I gently guide their faces into each other to kiss. I then BLP myself into the corner to lock myself in, and so the two AMOGs or other random guys can’t come into the set.
I whisper in Peaches ear, “you’re welcome” and kiss her for the first time…we make out for a little while, then the three of us goes inside to sit down. I knew it was on, I just had to figure out the logistics. I drove, so did Peaches, and Nina came with 4 friends. I keep referring to everything as “we” and they catch on…”we should go sing karaoke back at my house after this.” I do this to plant the seed of a possible threesome in their minds. Then I almost get thrown off track when Nina decides to ask “I heard Japanese guys have small dicks” (by the way, I’m Taiwanese, but she meant Oriental in general) Luckily, I keep my frame, by telling her that if she’s a good girl, she’ll get to find out herself tonight.
Since the four friends at the table with us, I figure that I’ll have to befriend them and make them okay with me taking Nina home. I do this by asking if they are judgmental, or if they let their friends have fun and do what they want to do. I then ask, if the friends would be okay if Nina and Peaches kissed. They makeout for a while…then I joined in by making out with Peaches, and not Nina yet. I start introducing the topic of sex, and a threesome verbally, keeping it light hearted but not laughing or breaking frame during and they are both receptive. I decide that 1:03am would be a good time to pull, since waiting till closing adds other obstacle. I lead it by “asking” if they are both ready to leave…and I work out the logistics. Nina goes in Peaches car, they both have my cell number and address. I walk them to their car, and have them follow me home.
Once we get to the house, I make them take off their shoes, turn on some music and pour some drinks. (they both only had 1 sip each, and I made mine virgin) We play with my cat for a while…and then while Peaches is in the bathroom, Nina and I start making out…and her top comes off. Peaches joins in, and clothes start coming off everywhere. Which is when I move it into the bathroom.
The Sex:
My goals were to make sure both girls came first, before I even started fucking them. Which was pretty easy when there are two girls eating each other out and fingering each other. The mini bullet vibrator helped too. I keep my cool…and my pants on for the first 30 minutes. Where I would periodically touch them or come in for a kiss. I switch in and lick both of their clits, and finger them. And I randomly decide that this is too hot to not have on camera. So I pick up my camera…take a few photos, without asking, and neither of them say anything, so I put it in video mode and start recording. The light was horrible…so I decide to risk killing the state for good lighting, and turn on the room lights.
They were both so into it by then they didn’t stop…but Nina said that she’s taking the memory card afterwards, and Peaches said she’ll sue me if I ever upload it online. I plow through sexually turning them on more doing some hot game…then I tell them it’s time for some dick. I think my exact words were:
“As sexy as the two of you are…I think it’s time for some dick”
That’s when they both start taking my pants off…and rubbing my cock…Peaches is the first to start giving me a blowjob, then Nina switches off…for a while I have both of them down on me at once. Peaches is giving me some amazing head, while Nina is behind me rubbing my back…licking and biting me. I lay Peaches down on the bed and start fucking her missionary, while Nina sits on her face having Peaches eat her out. We switch off having me fuck Nina doggy style while she eats out Peaches…then I finish off inside of Peaches doggy style.
The best thing is…I have the entire thing on video! I would never post it online anywhere, but I’ll bring my laptop with me to the London bootcamp, and show you guys in person. The video came out great, especially the clip where it starts with the two girls laying on my bed naked, touching each other, and me walking up saying “I think it’s time for some dick”
What I learned from tonight was the following:
Inner game is vital. You have to believe that you deserve women, and YOU are a good catch.
Lifestyle is important. Looking at the video, I realized how fat I am. And when I say fat, i’m really over weight, 225lbs currently which is 16 stone. I would absolutely rather be too skinny than fat…as far as ease of pick up is concerned. Luckily I’ve recently dedicated myself to a new gym, and have been eating well and exercising 4 times a week. Even though I’m not there yet, the fact that i’m on my way to being in shape allows me to feel good about myself.
You can be as honest as you want. I never thought that I could openly tell a girl right when I first meet her that i’m a professional pick up instructor. But being absoutely honest made it happen…and if anything, she was impressed that I was able to pull the other girl for her…us.
You can be natural and not use a single routine. However, you need to follow a structure if you want to get laid. Never for a moment, did I forget my ABCs of Attraction while in that set. Also, the AMOG tatics helped me greatly, as well as the frame control and logistic management.
Threesomes are fun and easy:
Well, not easy to pull off. But once you’re fucking…it’s easy to please both girls if they are both into each other. And it was definitely one of the best nights of my life.
By the way, my house mate Asian Playboy and I had this stupid bet…where we bought one of those WWE Wrestling Championsip Belts who was to be awarded to whoever got the first cold approach threesome. He technically had the first threesome since we moved into the house nicknamed Project: Forbidden City, but it was with his LTR, and a girl that I had introduced him to….so warm approach/social circle, and LTR. Still mad props to him, but I won the belt! Woohoo.
It’s good to set goals
Topics: Best of the blog - Must Reads
Hey guys, some of you were asking for this lay report, but I think I had to take this off my blog sometime back because of some chick I was dating or some crazy shit. But here it is again.
By the way, a couple guys in the community including Johnny Soporno say that the double cold approach threesome and Mystery’s 5 for 5 pull challenge are the two things PUAs should be aim for at the master level. I say, fuck it, just have fun.
—-
This is my first…and possible a community first, double cold approach threesome.
It all started early in the day with State building inner game
As I was driving in the car I thought to myself…this really sucks. Ever since I started professionally coaching pick up, my own personal relationship life has gone to shit. I’m traveling almost every weekend, I host seminars and lair events during the week, and when I’m out at night, it’s because I’m trying to get one of my students laid and not myself.
Then I told myself….fuck it. It doesn’t matter. I’ll make time. I’ll find a girl that has the same fucked up schedule as me, one that will be okay with me teaching pick up, and someone I can be honest with. I deserve it, I’m a good person, I’m honest, genuine, caring, and I would protect whoever I’m with. I deserve the perfect girl and I am going to find her.
At the bar: Textbook Game Structure, with Brutal Honesty
It’s a random Tuesday night, I’m at a dive bar in Los Angeles…and I go out to the smoking area. I see a cute blonde that I had met at another bar once before, and she helps me social proof myself by giving me a hug and saying hi. I turn and see a really cute white girl…whom we’ll call Peaches, and I immediately open her naturally saying “Hi, what’s up?” She introduces herself, and for some reason…I decide to introduce myself as “Johnny Wolf.” She asks if that’s some type of porn star name…and I tell her that I have a random profession…before telling her, I ask if she would ever not date a guy simply because of what he does for a living. And she responds with a story about an NFL Football player she used to date, and why they broke up. I then be completely honest and tell her straight out that I teach men how to pick up women.
Then this really hot Brazilian girl walks by us…and Peaches lights up and tells me she’s hot. I ask Peaches if she would like to kiss her, and she shyly giggles yes. I immediately AMOG the two guys that the Brazilian girl is with. (we’ll call her Nina) And I bring her into the conversation and introduce her to Peaches. I tell them both that they are fucking sexy, and that they should kiss. They both…still looking at me, giggled yes, but they wouldn’t look at each other. I felt that they were shy and didn’t want to make the move…so I bait it again by saying how hot it would be if they did…then I gently guide their faces into each other to kiss. I then BLP myself into the corner to lock myself in, and so the two AMOGs or other random guys can’t come into the set.
I whisper in Peaches ear, “you’re welcome” and kiss her for the first time…we make out for a little while, then the three of us goes inside to sit down. I knew it was on, I just had to figure out the logistics. I drove, so did Peaches, and Nina came with 4 friends. I keep referring to everything as “we” and they catch on…”we should go sing karaoke back at my house after this.” I do this to plant the seed of a possible threesome in their minds. Then I almost get thrown off track when Nina decides to ask “I heard Japanese guys have small dicks” (by the way, I’m Taiwanese, but she meant Oriental in general) Luckily, I keep my frame, by telling her that if she’s a good girl, she’ll get to find out herself tonight.
Since the four friends at the table with us, I figure that I’ll have to befriend them and make them okay with me taking Nina home. I do this by asking if they are judgmental, or if they let their friends have fun and do what they want to do. I then ask, if the friends would be okay if Nina and Peaches kissed. They makeout for a while…then I joined in by making out with Peaches, and not Nina yet. I start introducing the topic of sex, and a threesome verbally, keeping it light hearted but not laughing or breaking frame during and they are both receptive. I decide that 1:03am would be a good time to pull, since waiting till closing adds other obstacle. I lead it by “asking” if they are both ready to leave…and I work out the logistics. Nina goes in Peaches car, they both have my cell number and address. I walk them to their car, and have them follow me home.
Once we get to the house, I make them take off their shoes, turn on some music and pour some drinks. (they both only had 1 sip each, and I made mine virgin) We play with my cat for a while…and then while Peaches is in the bathroom, Nina and I start making out…and her top comes off. Peaches joins in, and clothes start coming off everywhere. Which is when I move it into the bathroom.
The Sex:
My goals were to make sure both girls came first, before I even started fucking them. Which was pretty easy when there are two girls eating each other out and fingering each other. The mini bullet vibrator helped too. I keep my cool…and my pants on for the first 30 minutes. Where I would periodically touch them or come in for a kiss. I switch in and lick both of their clits, and finger them. And I randomly decide that this is too hot to not have on camera. So I pick up my camera…take a few photos, without asking, and neither of them say anything, so I put it in video mode and start recording. The light was horrible…so I decide to risk killing the state for good lighting, and turn on the room lights.
They were both so into it by then they didn’t stop…but Nina said that she’s taking the memory card afterwards, and Peaches said she’ll sue me if I ever upload it online. I plow through sexually turning them on more doing some hot game…then I tell them it’s time for some dick. I think my exact words were:
“As sexy as the two of you are…I think it’s time for some dick”
That’s when they both start taking my pants off…and rubbing my cock…Peaches is the first to start giving me a blowjob, then Nina switches off…for a while I have both of them down on me at once. Peaches is giving me some amazing head, while Nina is behind me rubbing my back…licking and biting me. I lay Peaches down on the bed and start fucking her missionary, while Nina sits on her face having Peaches eat her out. We switch off having me fuck Nina doggy style while she eats out Peaches…then I finish off inside of Peaches doggy style.
The best thing is…I have the entire thing on video! I would never post it online anywhere, but I’ll bring my laptop with me to the London bootcamp, and show you guys in person. The video came out great, especially the clip where it starts with the two girls laying on my bed naked, touching each other, and me walking up saying “I think it’s time for some dick”
What I learned from tonight was the following:
Inner game is vital. You have to believe that you deserve women, and YOU are a good catch.
Lifestyle is important. Looking at the video, I realized how fat I am. And when I say fat, i’m really over weight, 225lbs currently which is 16 stone. I would absolutely rather be too skinny than fat…as far as ease of pick up is concerned. Luckily I’ve recently dedicated myself to a new gym, and have been eating well and exercising 4 times a week. Even though I’m not there yet, the fact that i’m on my way to being in shape allows me to feel good about myself.
You can be as honest as you want. I never thought that I could openly tell a girl right when I first meet her that i’m a professional pick up instructor. But being absoutely honest made it happen…and if anything, she was impressed that I was able to pull the other girl for her…us.
You can be natural and not use a single routine. However, you need to follow a structure if you want to get laid. Never for a moment, did I forget my ABCs of Attraction while in that set. Also, the AMOG tatics helped me greatly, as well as the frame control and logistic management.
Threesomes are fun and easy:
Well, not easy to pull off. But once you’re fucking…it’s easy to please both girls if they are both into each other. And it was definitely one of the best nights of my life.
By the way, my house mate Asian Playboy and I had this stupid bet…where we bought one of those WWE Wrestling Championsip Belts who was to be awarded to whoever got the first cold approach threesome. He technically had the first threesome since we moved into the house nicknamed Project: Forbidden City, but it was with his LTR, and a girl that I had introduced him to….so warm approach/social circle, and LTR. Still mad props to him, but I won the belt! Woohoo.
It’s good to set goals
Saturday, September 25, 2010
Why Women Fantasize About "Bad Boys" And 8 Things You Can Do To Increase Your “Bad Boy" Sex Appeal
Why Women Fantasize About "Bad Boys" And 8 Things You Can Do To Increase Your “Bad Boy" Sex Appeal
Dating,Relationships,Sexuality
I must say upfront, I am as "guilty" as the millions of other woman who have a thing for the 'bad boy". I have never been attracted to hardcore thugs, so-called alpha males, arrogant macho-men or selfish jerks who abuse, degenerate or hate woman. Nope. My kind of "bad boy" is the “bad boy” with an untamed wilderness of soul pounding in his veins. He is not necessarily big in stature and he does not flaunt his “masculinity” but something about him says he can hold his own and take charge of any situation.
So why do so many strong, take-no-nonsense, independent and self-actualized women fantasize about “bad boys’? The answer is simple. Nature designed it that way!
Men biologically and psychosexually are designed to express a natural abundance of masculine energy. They have an insatiable longing to explore, challenge, take risks and to live a life of adventure. Simply look at the dreams and desires written in the hearts of every young boy: To be a hero, to be a warrior, to be a knight, to be Superman or Spiderman etc. Sadly, most men suppress, ignore and run away from their innate wildness of soul and develop a pseudo or dreamy sort of masculinity. It is no wonder that many men are angry, mopey, timid, needy, nervous, abusive, passive, depressed and bored to death. They feel lost, or afraid, or too paralyzed to know what to do next.
It is pseudo masculinity that drives a man to seek ways to manipulate instead of explore, dominate instead of challenge, control instead of take risks. It is dreamy masculinity that makes a man settle for a neat and orderly life in Polly Ann's parlor where she tells him when, how and where to eat, sleep and even speak. Even the mundane attempts at success, money and influence don’t make up for the deeper feelings brought about by loss of that innate wildness of soul. And as if that’s not enough, women leave you for a “bad boy.”
What millions of women are attracted to is NOT the “bad” in the “bad boy” but the abundance of masculine energy that the “bad boy” oozes. So instead of complaining and insulting women for doing what is “natural” rave up your own masculine energy, it is possible to have the best of both worlds!!
1. Develop self-assured confidence where you feel secure enough to just be yourself. Bad boys have that deep-seated confidence that comes from “I know who I am, and I like who I am”. And many woman find a man who knows what he wants and isn't afraid to express it very attractive.
2. Have a backbone – Bad boys are not easily manipulated. This may surprise many men, but women actually find a man who can say “no”, “that’s enough”, “later”, “stop it” or “I want you now” really attractive. It’s not just the fact that he can say these things that makes him attractive it’s how he says them – with sensitivity, affection and with a backbone!
3. Get into the emotions – A bad boy can cry and not feel bad about it. After all he is already “bad” (translated: society doesn’t tell him how to be a man). Most men are afraid to show emotions because emotions are a whole other different world for them. If you do not have a deeper understanding of emotions, you’ll find yourself confusing logic with emotions. For example when she says "I FEEL you are being unfair, you’ll hear “I THINK you are being unfair" because you are so accustomed to "thinking" than feeling. The result is total confusion. Emotions are real. They happen. You’ll’ never get far with women if you do not know how to touch their primal emotions – never!
4. Offer something that's different – There you have it, bad boys give women that extra something that most men can’t. if you want to keep her hooked, then give her something different - in the way you treat her, the way you look at her, the way you talk to her, the way you touch her, the way you smell, the you kiss, they way you make love, the way you do everything. That’s so sexy!
5. Be unpredictably engaging – Predictable and structured is a cardinal sin when it comes to attracting the opposite gender. Women want someone who injects passion, excitement, pleasure and meaning into their otherwise structured lifestyles.
6. Cultivate some degree of mystery – I’ve said it a zillion times before, mystery is an aphrodisiac. The only people who do not enjoy a certain degree of mystery are people who wake up in the morning, call up the psychic network, and call it a day. The very nature of the universe is that of mystery! And bad boys bring it with attitude!
7. Allow some level of vulnerability – This is where most bad boys beat other men, hands down. Rejection is part of their daily lives and they take it in stride. When they see a woman they are attracted to, they just go for it – and this can be a real turn on for a woman. So don’t be too afraid to approach women because you’ll be rejected or too afraid to love because you’ll be hurt. If she’s worthy it, she is worthy to be pursued!
8. Pursue your own personal growth - There was a time when women thought they’d find any man and change him but many of them are realizing that just doesn’t happen. So now they want a man who has done his own emotional work and self-growth. Be ahead of the game by doing your inner work rather than her telling you "you need to see a professional about that ..."
Now you know. She doesn’t want another abundance of feminine energy and all the little “sensitive’ things you do that you think if she was smart she should want – she is already "innately smart" that’s why she’s not attracted to your “too much” feminine energy. And she doesn’t want the embrace of another “woman” (no offense to the “other” sisters, I am just driving a point home). What she wants is to be stirred by your untamed wildness when you come home and to be free to express her own unfettered wildness and abundance of feminine energy without you feeling intimidated, confused or lost.
About the Author: Christine Akiteng, Internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of ebook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™ helps men and women cultivate that NATURAL EASE that draws the opposite sex in - without the mental stress and emotional frustration of today's dating dynamics.
Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com
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Dating,Relationships,Sexuality
I must say upfront, I am as "guilty" as the millions of other woman who have a thing for the 'bad boy". I have never been attracted to hardcore thugs, so-called alpha males, arrogant macho-men or selfish jerks who abuse, degenerate or hate woman. Nope. My kind of "bad boy" is the “bad boy” with an untamed wilderness of soul pounding in his veins. He is not necessarily big in stature and he does not flaunt his “masculinity” but something about him says he can hold his own and take charge of any situation.
So why do so many strong, take-no-nonsense, independent and self-actualized women fantasize about “bad boys’? The answer is simple. Nature designed it that way!
Men biologically and psychosexually are designed to express a natural abundance of masculine energy. They have an insatiable longing to explore, challenge, take risks and to live a life of adventure. Simply look at the dreams and desires written in the hearts of every young boy: To be a hero, to be a warrior, to be a knight, to be Superman or Spiderman etc. Sadly, most men suppress, ignore and run away from their innate wildness of soul and develop a pseudo or dreamy sort of masculinity. It is no wonder that many men are angry, mopey, timid, needy, nervous, abusive, passive, depressed and bored to death. They feel lost, or afraid, or too paralyzed to know what to do next.
It is pseudo masculinity that drives a man to seek ways to manipulate instead of explore, dominate instead of challenge, control instead of take risks. It is dreamy masculinity that makes a man settle for a neat and orderly life in Polly Ann's parlor where she tells him when, how and where to eat, sleep and even speak. Even the mundane attempts at success, money and influence don’t make up for the deeper feelings brought about by loss of that innate wildness of soul. And as if that’s not enough, women leave you for a “bad boy.”
What millions of women are attracted to is NOT the “bad” in the “bad boy” but the abundance of masculine energy that the “bad boy” oozes. So instead of complaining and insulting women for doing what is “natural” rave up your own masculine energy, it is possible to have the best of both worlds!!
1. Develop self-assured confidence where you feel secure enough to just be yourself. Bad boys have that deep-seated confidence that comes from “I know who I am, and I like who I am”. And many woman find a man who knows what he wants and isn't afraid to express it very attractive.
2. Have a backbone – Bad boys are not easily manipulated. This may surprise many men, but women actually find a man who can say “no”, “that’s enough”, “later”, “stop it” or “I want you now” really attractive. It’s not just the fact that he can say these things that makes him attractive it’s how he says them – with sensitivity, affection and with a backbone!
3. Get into the emotions – A bad boy can cry and not feel bad about it. After all he is already “bad” (translated: society doesn’t tell him how to be a man). Most men are afraid to show emotions because emotions are a whole other different world for them. If you do not have a deeper understanding of emotions, you’ll find yourself confusing logic with emotions. For example when she says "I FEEL you are being unfair, you’ll hear “I THINK you are being unfair" because you are so accustomed to "thinking" than feeling. The result is total confusion. Emotions are real. They happen. You’ll’ never get far with women if you do not know how to touch their primal emotions – never!
4. Offer something that's different – There you have it, bad boys give women that extra something that most men can’t. if you want to keep her hooked, then give her something different - in the way you treat her, the way you look at her, the way you talk to her, the way you touch her, the way you smell, the you kiss, they way you make love, the way you do everything. That’s so sexy!
5. Be unpredictably engaging – Predictable and structured is a cardinal sin when it comes to attracting the opposite gender. Women want someone who injects passion, excitement, pleasure and meaning into their otherwise structured lifestyles.
6. Cultivate some degree of mystery – I’ve said it a zillion times before, mystery is an aphrodisiac. The only people who do not enjoy a certain degree of mystery are people who wake up in the morning, call up the psychic network, and call it a day. The very nature of the universe is that of mystery! And bad boys bring it with attitude!
7. Allow some level of vulnerability – This is where most bad boys beat other men, hands down. Rejection is part of their daily lives and they take it in stride. When they see a woman they are attracted to, they just go for it – and this can be a real turn on for a woman. So don’t be too afraid to approach women because you’ll be rejected or too afraid to love because you’ll be hurt. If she’s worthy it, she is worthy to be pursued!
8. Pursue your own personal growth - There was a time when women thought they’d find any man and change him but many of them are realizing that just doesn’t happen. So now they want a man who has done his own emotional work and self-growth. Be ahead of the game by doing your inner work rather than her telling you "you need to see a professional about that ..."
Now you know. She doesn’t want another abundance of feminine energy and all the little “sensitive’ things you do that you think if she was smart she should want – she is already "innately smart" that’s why she’s not attracted to your “too much” feminine energy. And she doesn’t want the embrace of another “woman” (no offense to the “other” sisters, I am just driving a point home). What she wants is to be stirred by your untamed wildness when you come home and to be free to express her own unfettered wildness and abundance of feminine energy without you feeling intimidated, confused or lost.
About the Author: Christine Akiteng, Internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of ebook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™ helps men and women cultivate that NATURAL EASE that draws the opposite sex in - without the mental stress and emotional frustration of today's dating dynamics.
Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com
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Friday, September 24, 2010
"Hey I know you"- new opener by Sinn
Hey Boss,
Thank God it's Friday!!!!
I have been on 4 dates this week and am EXHAUSTED!
I'm sincerely looking forward to a Friday night,
spent in bed alone.
And that's the first time I've ever said that.
Since I will be passing out tonight, it's on
you to go out and meet as many women as you can
tonight.
And to help you do that, I want to introduce a
fun way to start a conversation.
It's called the " Hey I know YOU!" opener.
The concept behind a " Hey I know YOU!"
opener is relatively simple. You are going
to start talking to a girl by pretending to
recognize her.
Here's a few examples:
" Hey I know you! You used to do temp work at ABC
last year and you always brought homemade sushi! I
always wondered how you kept it fresh on the way in.
I always promised myself if I saw you again I'd ask
why you always made your own sushi."
"Hey I know you! You're Lauren Gerstale, I had
the biggest crush on you in high school, but I was
a little more popular than you, so I NEVER asked you
out. I hope you're more popular now, cause I really
regretted that."
Or you can make up your own, by starting with
the line " Hey I know you! and following up
with any quirky story about a girl you used to
know.
Ideally you want these stories to be about
how you were cooler than the girl in question.
Test these out this weekend and let me know
how they work for you!
Best,
JS- The King of Content
Thank God it's Friday!!!!
I have been on 4 dates this week and am EXHAUSTED!
I'm sincerely looking forward to a Friday night,
spent in bed alone.
And that's the first time I've ever said that.
Since I will be passing out tonight, it's on
you to go out and meet as many women as you can
tonight.
And to help you do that, I want to introduce a
fun way to start a conversation.
It's called the " Hey I know YOU!" opener.
The concept behind a " Hey I know YOU!"
opener is relatively simple. You are going
to start talking to a girl by pretending to
recognize her.
Here's a few examples:
" Hey I know you! You used to do temp work at ABC
last year and you always brought homemade sushi! I
always wondered how you kept it fresh on the way in.
I always promised myself if I saw you again I'd ask
why you always made your own sushi."
"Hey I know you! You're Lauren Gerstale, I had
the biggest crush on you in high school, but I was
a little more popular than you, so I NEVER asked you
out. I hope you're more popular now, cause I really
regretted that."
Or you can make up your own, by starting with
the line " Hey I know you! and following up
with any quirky story about a girl you used to
know.
Ideally you want these stories to be about
how you were cooler than the girl in question.
Test these out this weekend and let me know
how they work for you!
Best,
JS- The King of Content
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Gun to the Head: Charred Remains Checklist-SNL CJ's LIST
Posted at April 24, 2009
After charring your doubters with the flamethrower you’ll probably want to get some fresh air and reflect.
What if you are not as good as Sinn or El Topo (yet!) and you DID NOT get a Same Night Lay?
Well, now it’s time for some Brutal Honesty. Use this checklist to hold your ass to the fire. This is the time to be honest and real about your effort level and whether or not you have your shit together.
“When performance is measured, performance improves. When performance
is measured and reported back, the rate of improvement accelerates.” – Thomas Monson
Use a checklist to help you measure your work rate.
1. How many sets did I open? (If it’s less than 3 per hour then you MUST increase your work rate)
2. Of those sets, how many did I open with the INTENTION of taking it as far as I could?
3. When something didn’t go as I planned, did I take it the wrong way?
4. Did I latch on to conversational threads that didn’t serve me?
5. Did I leave before attempting a TimeBridge?
6. Of the TimeBridge’s I attempted, how many times did I meekly put it out there instead of really making an effort to pull her out of the current time/place and into the future with me?
7. Did I make it clear to her friends who I was gaming?
8. Did I tell them I liked her and thought she was cool?
9. Did I ever get out of my head and attempt a REAL connection with the woman in front of me?
10. Did I set sexual frames and show that I valued her sexuality as well as my own?
11. Did I show her I was interested in making something happen very soon?
12. Did I tell her I liked her (lips/hair/certain mannerism/smell)? Did I tell her I thought she was sexy?
13. How many times did I attempt the Bounce?
14. Did I attempt a kiss close?
15. Did she give me any openings (conversationally) that I missed? Like a compliment? Or, a hint that she was open for something happening?
16. Did I miss her qualifying herself before I even tried to qualify her?
17. Did I “drunk-n-lonely” text about 10 minutes after close?
What is measured improves.
Captain Jack
After charring your doubters with the flamethrower you’ll probably want to get some fresh air and reflect.
What if you are not as good as Sinn or El Topo (yet!) and you DID NOT get a Same Night Lay?
Well, now it’s time for some Brutal Honesty. Use this checklist to hold your ass to the fire. This is the time to be honest and real about your effort level and whether or not you have your shit together.
“When performance is measured, performance improves. When performance
is measured and reported back, the rate of improvement accelerates.” – Thomas Monson
Use a checklist to help you measure your work rate.
1. How many sets did I open? (If it’s less than 3 per hour then you MUST increase your work rate)
2. Of those sets, how many did I open with the INTENTION of taking it as far as I could?
3. When something didn’t go as I planned, did I take it the wrong way?
4. Did I latch on to conversational threads that didn’t serve me?
5. Did I leave before attempting a TimeBridge?
6. Of the TimeBridge’s I attempted, how many times did I meekly put it out there instead of really making an effort to pull her out of the current time/place and into the future with me?
7. Did I make it clear to her friends who I was gaming?
8. Did I tell them I liked her and thought she was cool?
9. Did I ever get out of my head and attempt a REAL connection with the woman in front of me?
10. Did I set sexual frames and show that I valued her sexuality as well as my own?
11. Did I show her I was interested in making something happen very soon?
12. Did I tell her I liked her (lips/hair/certain mannerism/smell)? Did I tell her I thought she was sexy?
13. How many times did I attempt the Bounce?
14. Did I attempt a kiss close?
15. Did she give me any openings (conversationally) that I missed? Like a compliment? Or, a hint that she was open for something happening?
16. Did I miss her qualifying herself before I even tried to qualify her?
17. Did I “drunk-n-lonely” text about 10 minutes after close?
What is measured improves.
Captain Jack
Attract Women: Gun to the Head Gaming by CJ
Posted at April 22, 2009 Hola Numbnuts…
Imagine this: You are sitting on your couch eating Bon-Bons with your eyes laser locked on Oprah when you hear a crack, the door flies open and 3 goons rush towards you.
You hurl your bon-bons at the goons but it doesn’t even faze them.
Next thing you know there is a gun pointed at your temple and one of them says, “Is this the guy?” The other looks at a photograph and says, “He’s not wearing the feather boa, jade necklace and high heels like in his MySpace profile but yeah, I’d say it is him.”
One of them says, “Look, Mr. Pua guy, you go out tonight and have sex with a girl or we’re going to shoot you in the face.”
Gun to the head. Shot in the face.
Do you go out and do the same thing you always do?
Do you do a few laps around the bar, have a few drinks, hover a few times, look for the perfect opening?
Not unless you enjoy face shootings.
What WOULD you do differently?
Here’s what I’d do…
1. Dress like almost everyone else but a tad better.
2. Get to the bar early. I want to get there about 10-15 minutes before the crowd does. I want to chat with the bartender a minute, chat with a waitress or two for a minute before they get ridiculously busy. Get the ol’ mouth movin’ a bit.
3. Approach as soon as possible. Even if it is “How’s it going?”
4. Watch the girls who have wandering eyes. They are looking for something.
5. Approach the girls who make eye contact.
6. Never leave a set until a few minutes after I’ve TimeBridged.
7. Set the sexual frames early.
8. Ask her “What’s on the agenda for later?”
This one needs some explaining. A lot of PUAs think this is about Logistics. It isn’t. In fact, Logistics aren’t nearly as important as everyone believes. Shocking? Not really.
Imagine this… you have plans to go bowling tonight. It’s Tuesday, you almost always go bowling on Tuesdays. One of your buddies calls you up and says,
Buddy: “What’s going on man?”
You: “Not much, just going to go bowling later, have a few beers, see if I can top my Galaga score.”
Buddy: “Sounds cool. Well, would you like to get together and sew a little bit… maybe share our feelings and shit?”
You: “Umm… Well… I always bowl on Tuesdays… kinda my normal thing and uh…”
But, what if Buddy called you up and said, “Dude… These concert tickets just fell into my lap and blah, blah, blah…”
Do you think that’d change things a bit?
Logistics matter LESS and LESS the more interested and turned on she is… I used to let logistics derail me. Now, I hardly even pay attention.
Can they fuck you up? Sure. They used to fuck me up all the time. Then, I discovered “Drunk-n-Lonely Texting.”
Focus on getting her to really, really see you as a liberator of her sexual frustrations and SHE will handle the logistics for you.
The purpose of the question is to establish in her mind that you have probably sexual intent AND you are seeking a way to create an opportunity.
9. After you have 3 or 4 TimeBridge’s set up, focus on the one who seems like your best shot. This is always a little bit of a crap shoot BUT your Intuition will grow with time.
10. Tell her she is sexy and that her mannerisms are driving you crazy. Use a Bounce statement about 30 minute prior to close.
11. If she doesn’t take the Bounce invitation, walk her to the car. Get in and say you are going to talk to her a bit. Make out with her.
12. Tell her you are not sure you can drive home and ask her if she would mind, “It’s just right down the street.” (I’ve used this a billion times for venues that are 30-45 minutes away! Haa!)
12b. As she is driving mass text the other girls and say, “Hey sexy” – just in case this one does leave you after dropping you off. This will increase the possibility of another honey coming over thus DECREASING the chance of you getting shot in the face.
13. As she’s driving begin using one or two word commands interspersed with normal conversation. “Turn here.” “Go left.” when you get to your place say, “Park here.” I like to use stop signs and stop lights as a chance to make out.
14. “Come in and get some water before you head back.”
15. Get her some water, tell her where the bathroom is… while she’s in the bathroom put on a DVD. I like “Wedding Crashers” or, “South Park: The Return of the Fellowship of the King to the Two Towers” because it is sexual in nature and hilariously funny.
16. Have her sit down on your coach. Make small talk 3-5 minutes. Kiss her again.
17. Begin escalating heavy.
18. Push her away and tell her she is naughty for doing this to you.
19. Escalate more. Spank her. Tell her she is bad. Ask her what she is doing to you.
20. Make sweet love.
Send her on her way, “And… try not to think about me constantly” as you pull her hair and kiss her deeply again.
Go into your closet and get your Flame Thrower. Wait for the knock on the door. When the Goons rush in, fling your used condom at them and then use the Flame Thrower to set them all on fire. This should make your point in a fairly dramatic way.
Captain Jack
Imagine this: You are sitting on your couch eating Bon-Bons with your eyes laser locked on Oprah when you hear a crack, the door flies open and 3 goons rush towards you.
You hurl your bon-bons at the goons but it doesn’t even faze them.
Next thing you know there is a gun pointed at your temple and one of them says, “Is this the guy?” The other looks at a photograph and says, “He’s not wearing the feather boa, jade necklace and high heels like in his MySpace profile but yeah, I’d say it is him.”
One of them says, “Look, Mr. Pua guy, you go out tonight and have sex with a girl or we’re going to shoot you in the face.”
Gun to the head. Shot in the face.
Do you go out and do the same thing you always do?
Do you do a few laps around the bar, have a few drinks, hover a few times, look for the perfect opening?
Not unless you enjoy face shootings.
What WOULD you do differently?
Here’s what I’d do…
1. Dress like almost everyone else but a tad better.
2. Get to the bar early. I want to get there about 10-15 minutes before the crowd does. I want to chat with the bartender a minute, chat with a waitress or two for a minute before they get ridiculously busy. Get the ol’ mouth movin’ a bit.
3. Approach as soon as possible. Even if it is “How’s it going?”
4. Watch the girls who have wandering eyes. They are looking for something.
5. Approach the girls who make eye contact.
6. Never leave a set until a few minutes after I’ve TimeBridged.
7. Set the sexual frames early.
8. Ask her “What’s on the agenda for later?”
This one needs some explaining. A lot of PUAs think this is about Logistics. It isn’t. In fact, Logistics aren’t nearly as important as everyone believes. Shocking? Not really.
Imagine this… you have plans to go bowling tonight. It’s Tuesday, you almost always go bowling on Tuesdays. One of your buddies calls you up and says,
Buddy: “What’s going on man?”
You: “Not much, just going to go bowling later, have a few beers, see if I can top my Galaga score.”
Buddy: “Sounds cool. Well, would you like to get together and sew a little bit… maybe share our feelings and shit?”
You: “Umm… Well… I always bowl on Tuesdays… kinda my normal thing and uh…”
But, what if Buddy called you up and said, “Dude… These concert tickets just fell into my lap and blah, blah, blah…”
Do you think that’d change things a bit?
Logistics matter LESS and LESS the more interested and turned on she is… I used to let logistics derail me. Now, I hardly even pay attention.
Can they fuck you up? Sure. They used to fuck me up all the time. Then, I discovered “Drunk-n-Lonely Texting.”
Focus on getting her to really, really see you as a liberator of her sexual frustrations and SHE will handle the logistics for you.
The purpose of the question is to establish in her mind that you have probably sexual intent AND you are seeking a way to create an opportunity.
9. After you have 3 or 4 TimeBridge’s set up, focus on the one who seems like your best shot. This is always a little bit of a crap shoot BUT your Intuition will grow with time.
10. Tell her she is sexy and that her mannerisms are driving you crazy. Use a Bounce statement about 30 minute prior to close.
11. If she doesn’t take the Bounce invitation, walk her to the car. Get in and say you are going to talk to her a bit. Make out with her.
12. Tell her you are not sure you can drive home and ask her if she would mind, “It’s just right down the street.” (I’ve used this a billion times for venues that are 30-45 minutes away! Haa!)
12b. As she is driving mass text the other girls and say, “Hey sexy” – just in case this one does leave you after dropping you off. This will increase the possibility of another honey coming over thus DECREASING the chance of you getting shot in the face.
13. As she’s driving begin using one or two word commands interspersed with normal conversation. “Turn here.” “Go left.” when you get to your place say, “Park here.” I like to use stop signs and stop lights as a chance to make out.
14. “Come in and get some water before you head back.”
15. Get her some water, tell her where the bathroom is… while she’s in the bathroom put on a DVD. I like “Wedding Crashers” or, “South Park: The Return of the Fellowship of the King to the Two Towers” because it is sexual in nature and hilariously funny.
16. Have her sit down on your coach. Make small talk 3-5 minutes. Kiss her again.
17. Begin escalating heavy.
18. Push her away and tell her she is naughty for doing this to you.
19. Escalate more. Spank her. Tell her she is bad. Ask her what she is doing to you.
20. Make sweet love.
Send her on her way, “And… try not to think about me constantly” as you pull her hair and kiss her deeply again.
Go into your closet and get your Flame Thrower. Wait for the knock on the door. When the Goons rush in, fling your used condom at them and then use the Flame Thrower to set them all on fire. This should make your point in a fairly dramatic way.
Captain Jack
15 Things I’ve Learned in Five Years by Entropy
We’re about a month shy of my five-year anniversary with this PUA stuff. But I’m posting this anyway (reason will be clear soon). Here are 15 things that I’ve learned in that time. These are purposely left a little open-ended, so feel free to discuss.
1. Men find and join the PUA community to get validation from women. They stay in it to get validation from other men.
2. Guys who are trying to bang 100 girls usually need to get a girlfriend. Guys who are trying to get a girlfriend usually need to bang 100 girls.
3. The single biggest factor stopping you (and me) from improving is an inability to overcome our fears and anxieties. Whether it be the fear of rejection, fear of success, fear of change, fear of failure, fear of intimacy, fear of sexuality — if you removed all fear, all of our sticking points would either vanish, or work themselves out almost immediately.
4. The only rule is calibration, the rest is a recommendation.
5. An attractive and abundant lifestyle will trump the best game in the world, ten times out of ten. It’s also a far more enjoyable way of meeting women and making friends than cold approach.
6. Always assume she’s feeling the same way as you. If you feel awkward and annoyed, then she probably does too. If you’re falling head over heels for her, she probably is too.
7. You’re never as bad with women as you think you are. You’re also never as good with women as you think you are. In fact, you have far less control in the matter than you think. Get over yourself.
8. Sex gets 90% of our attention, but 90% of game comes down to handling emotions — the sex is a side-effect.
9. Most dating advice will tell you that getting good with women is easy but a complicated process to learn. The opposite is true. Improving with women is actually very easy to learn, but hard to actually go out and do.
10. Having a healthy and happy long-term relationship will teach you as much about women as 5,000 cold approaches and 100 lays.
11. When in doubt, always err on the side of being more aggressive.
12. Two qualities show me how good a guy is with women: how much he thinks he controls the seduction process and how well he handles rejection. The more a guy recognizes how much he doesn’t control, the better he is. The more a guy embraces getting rejected, the better he is. It’s the guys who claim to know everything and who claim to never get rejected that are clueless. Beware of them.
13. Things that are vastly overrated, if not completely useless: preventing flakes, openers, AMOG’ing and Boyfriend destroyers, state control, social proof, value.
14. Things that are vastly underrated if not completely ignored: non-verbal communication, listening well, empathizing and relating, being passionate about something, emotional connections, social circles, movement.
15. Looking back, here are the only major things the community taught me that I think my own experience didn’t or couldn’t have: the importance of dominance and expressing my sexuality (thanks David Deida, Robert Glover and Hypnotica), that it’s OK to hit on girls and want to fuck them (thanks Mystery and Style), and that our logical mind will usually rationalize whatever our emotions already feel (thanks David D). The rest of community material, by and large, I’ve found to either be a corollary to one of the above, or completely trivial or useless.
The vast majority of what I learned, I learned through my own experiences (mostly my failures), discussions with wings/friends, and by simply being aware and observing other people and naturals. And of course, my real teachers were the thousands of women I’ve interacted with over the last five years. From the ones who loved me to the ones who blew me out, thank you.
Edit: I forgot to mention, using humor to make fun of girls rather than myself or other things was probably the single biggest turning point for me as a newbie. Credit DavidD for that one as well. It’s been so long, I can hardly remember what was a big deal to me back then.
1. Men find and join the PUA community to get validation from women. They stay in it to get validation from other men.
2. Guys who are trying to bang 100 girls usually need to get a girlfriend. Guys who are trying to get a girlfriend usually need to bang 100 girls.
3. The single biggest factor stopping you (and me) from improving is an inability to overcome our fears and anxieties. Whether it be the fear of rejection, fear of success, fear of change, fear of failure, fear of intimacy, fear of sexuality — if you removed all fear, all of our sticking points would either vanish, or work themselves out almost immediately.
4. The only rule is calibration, the rest is a recommendation.
5. An attractive and abundant lifestyle will trump the best game in the world, ten times out of ten. It’s also a far more enjoyable way of meeting women and making friends than cold approach.
6. Always assume she’s feeling the same way as you. If you feel awkward and annoyed, then she probably does too. If you’re falling head over heels for her, she probably is too.
7. You’re never as bad with women as you think you are. You’re also never as good with women as you think you are. In fact, you have far less control in the matter than you think. Get over yourself.
8. Sex gets 90% of our attention, but 90% of game comes down to handling emotions — the sex is a side-effect.
9. Most dating advice will tell you that getting good with women is easy but a complicated process to learn. The opposite is true. Improving with women is actually very easy to learn, but hard to actually go out and do.
10. Having a healthy and happy long-term relationship will teach you as much about women as 5,000 cold approaches and 100 lays.
11. When in doubt, always err on the side of being more aggressive.
12. Two qualities show me how good a guy is with women: how much he thinks he controls the seduction process and how well he handles rejection. The more a guy recognizes how much he doesn’t control, the better he is. The more a guy embraces getting rejected, the better he is. It’s the guys who claim to know everything and who claim to never get rejected that are clueless. Beware of them.
13. Things that are vastly overrated, if not completely useless: preventing flakes, openers, AMOG’ing and Boyfriend destroyers, state control, social proof, value.
14. Things that are vastly underrated if not completely ignored: non-verbal communication, listening well, empathizing and relating, being passionate about something, emotional connections, social circles, movement.
15. Looking back, here are the only major things the community taught me that I think my own experience didn’t or couldn’t have: the importance of dominance and expressing my sexuality (thanks David Deida, Robert Glover and Hypnotica), that it’s OK to hit on girls and want to fuck them (thanks Mystery and Style), and that our logical mind will usually rationalize whatever our emotions already feel (thanks David D). The rest of community material, by and large, I’ve found to either be a corollary to one of the above, or completely trivial or useless.
The vast majority of what I learned, I learned through my own experiences (mostly my failures), discussions with wings/friends, and by simply being aware and observing other people and naturals. And of course, my real teachers were the thousands of women I’ve interacted with over the last five years. From the ones who loved me to the ones who blew me out, thank you.
Edit: I forgot to mention, using humor to make fun of girls rather than myself or other things was probably the single biggest turning point for me as a newbie. Credit DavidD for that one as well. It’s been so long, I can hardly remember what was a big deal to me back then.
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Opening in New York daytime conversations
Opening Conversations with Women in New York City During the Day-daygame calibration cheat sheet
I want to acknowledge John “Awaken”Keegan for being my mentor in approaching and meeting women in the daytime. Also importantly Paul Janka for his undivided support and sharing his experiences with me in person. “Doc Holliday” who I respect greatly for helping me along the way with daytime expertise and showing me what I truly want for myself ,is the most important thing.
I really don’t follow or judge by what popularity says but by results and experience to grasp the knowledge of meeting women and changing your life, Thank You.
That being said,I am your friend Sandros, just left new york city.
Some people will say this is the easiest place to get laid and some people would say that the bitchiest women live here.
I began to notice on this trip how different from many places in the US. I live now in Miami and opening conversations can be easy or can be challenging, I think everyone can relate to that.
New York, wherever you are people are all over the place ,all types people from everywhere in the world with different cultures..etc
If you lived here in New York we see that each person is a world of itself, they are to themselves even when you enter a subway , you see that everybody is into themselves and nobody looks at anyone or has random conversations with a stranger .It is mostly considered rude and abruptive behavior if you attempt to do the opposite.From a New Yorker point of view , this is what is socially acceptable in that scenario according to the mindset of everyday people dealing with stress and emotions of living in the city.
So you see, when you open a girl in New York, if she's a local,student, a model or someone who lives there. They are programmed to act this way. If she’s from out of town spending a weekend , anything goes and this theory does not apply to them.E ven though Paul Janka recommends not going after out of towners in the day*. It can be done but the phone number exchange or the instant date then becomes a problem of complexity in logistics. At night it is very different.
New York girls unless they are in a certain store or environment could be receptive to a normal conversation (with an indirect opener as known in community stereotype), but it when it comes to street game where everywhere and anywhere counts, you should bear in mind what I say.
It isn't a shit test but it is a reaction of safety.
Sometimes direct can be too much for the inexperienced ,wrongly doing so with too much intent can creep her off and she may feel cornered. Avoid that.
You basically have to make yourself open to be social and accepting to transition into a normal conversation to make her feel safe also known as mirroring rapport. Of course there are exceptions to approach invitation. I hope this can help you if you decide to stop by New York.
-Sandros
I want to acknowledge John “Awaken”Keegan for being my mentor in approaching and meeting women in the daytime. Also importantly Paul Janka for his undivided support and sharing his experiences with me in person. “Doc Holliday” who I respect greatly for helping me along the way with daytime expertise and showing me what I truly want for myself ,is the most important thing.
I really don’t follow or judge by what popularity says but by results and experience to grasp the knowledge of meeting women and changing your life, Thank You.
That being said,I am your friend Sandros, just left new york city.
Some people will say this is the easiest place to get laid and some people would say that the bitchiest women live here.
I began to notice on this trip how different from many places in the US. I live now in Miami and opening conversations can be easy or can be challenging, I think everyone can relate to that.
New York, wherever you are people are all over the place ,all types people from everywhere in the world with different cultures..etc
If you lived here in New York we see that each person is a world of itself, they are to themselves even when you enter a subway , you see that everybody is into themselves and nobody looks at anyone or has random conversations with a stranger .It is mostly considered rude and abruptive behavior if you attempt to do the opposite.From a New Yorker point of view , this is what is socially acceptable in that scenario according to the mindset of everyday people dealing with stress and emotions of living in the city.
So you see, when you open a girl in New York, if she's a local,student, a model or someone who lives there. They are programmed to act this way. If she’s from out of town spending a weekend , anything goes and this theory does not apply to them.E ven though Paul Janka recommends not going after out of towners in the day*. It can be done but the phone number exchange or the instant date then becomes a problem of complexity in logistics. At night it is very different.
New York girls unless they are in a certain store or environment could be receptive to a normal conversation (with an indirect opener as known in community stereotype), but it when it comes to street game where everywhere and anywhere counts, you should bear in mind what I say.
It isn't a shit test but it is a reaction of safety.
Sometimes direct can be too much for the inexperienced ,wrongly doing so with too much intent can creep her off and she may feel cornered. Avoid that.
You basically have to make yourself open to be social and accepting to transition into a normal conversation to make her feel safe also known as mirroring rapport. Of course there are exceptions to approach invitation. I hope this can help you if you decide to stop by New York.
-Sandros
Shit test Vs Bad behavior: Can you recognize?
Shit test Vs Bad behavior: Can you recognize?
Hey guys I am in New York City I'm ready to return to Miami. But first I want to talk about something very interesting that I began to notice. It is what a lot of guys against the and get very confused when there is mid-level to advanced in terms of dealing with managing relationships and sexual escalation with women.
PUA ‘s have termed the word Shit test by Mystery or congruence testing by TD , they tried to look for a comeback line rather than the concept of being attractive to prize the woman as described by Swinggcatt.
There's a lot of psychology involved in this but a lot of guys do not recognize what is going on or start to frame in a negative light.
Over the past couple of months, I tried to put myself in balance with my life career and goals for long-term. I think this brings congruence into a more stronger and masculine person. This is only shown by the body language and intuition of a woman which automatically makes her panties wet without you opening single word.
But still PUAs want the technique and want the line. Sometimes the line doesn't work. It actually makes it worse. And when you don't respond he looked like a passive guy who lets people push him around.
This is one of the trickiest part of getting good without you being aware so pay attention.
Always FRAME stronger than she does. Remember shit test usually happen in the beginning of getting to know a person superficially. Sometimes there is a girl who is a very rude and sometimes aggressive which depending on what type of relationships you are looking for is determined whether or not to proceed in the seduction.
Usually when a woman goes to such extreme behavior is that she is looking for you to act aggressive to dominate her and show dominance to a point of being an asshole to her which to her interpretation is masculine but in the long run its not good relationship material as a girl friend due to the fights you will have for her to feel dominated constantly she will provoke fights etc….
I started to notice that here in NYC and in my relationships here.
Experience will teach you how to recognize as in PUA Terms Shit test VS IOD.
Just remember is she is behaving bad and rude it isn’t a shit test and if you reward her with attention you are giving her permission to treat you badm this my friend isn’t a good thing to start off a relationship at all, she will lose respect and automatically lose attraction.
At the same time don’t react to her whims or shit test for her to get your attention, remember sometimes girls just want to be lead. It has to take a smart good girl with healthy self esteem to consider working as a couple and her and you appreciate each other genuinely than you following a woman and she lose attraction cause you put yourself in a beta position.
To wrap this up, shit test , congruence tests, IODs,bad and rude behavior are not the same and therefore should not be categorized as a one-size-fits-all a response, it should be YOU as a MAN who will know what to expect from her when she is around you at the same time have fun and never take things too seriously over a woman.
Cheers and Good luck,
Sandros
Hey guys I am in New York City I'm ready to return to Miami. But first I want to talk about something very interesting that I began to notice. It is what a lot of guys against the and get very confused when there is mid-level to advanced in terms of dealing with managing relationships and sexual escalation with women.
PUA ‘s have termed the word Shit test by Mystery or congruence testing by TD , they tried to look for a comeback line rather than the concept of being attractive to prize the woman as described by Swinggcatt.
There's a lot of psychology involved in this but a lot of guys do not recognize what is going on or start to frame in a negative light.
Over the past couple of months, I tried to put myself in balance with my life career and goals for long-term. I think this brings congruence into a more stronger and masculine person. This is only shown by the body language and intuition of a woman which automatically makes her panties wet without you opening single word.
But still PUAs want the technique and want the line. Sometimes the line doesn't work. It actually makes it worse. And when you don't respond he looked like a passive guy who lets people push him around.
This is one of the trickiest part of getting good without you being aware so pay attention.
Always FRAME stronger than she does. Remember shit test usually happen in the beginning of getting to know a person superficially. Sometimes there is a girl who is a very rude and sometimes aggressive which depending on what type of relationships you are looking for is determined whether or not to proceed in the seduction.
Usually when a woman goes to such extreme behavior is that she is looking for you to act aggressive to dominate her and show dominance to a point of being an asshole to her which to her interpretation is masculine but in the long run its not good relationship material as a girl friend due to the fights you will have for her to feel dominated constantly she will provoke fights etc….
I started to notice that here in NYC and in my relationships here.
Experience will teach you how to recognize as in PUA Terms Shit test VS IOD.
Just remember is she is behaving bad and rude it isn’t a shit test and if you reward her with attention you are giving her permission to treat you badm this my friend isn’t a good thing to start off a relationship at all, she will lose respect and automatically lose attraction.
At the same time don’t react to her whims or shit test for her to get your attention, remember sometimes girls just want to be lead. It has to take a smart good girl with healthy self esteem to consider working as a couple and her and you appreciate each other genuinely than you following a woman and she lose attraction cause you put yourself in a beta position.
To wrap this up, shit test , congruence tests, IODs,bad and rude behavior are not the same and therefore should not be categorized as a one-size-fits-all a response, it should be YOU as a MAN who will know what to expect from her when she is around you at the same time have fun and never take things too seriously over a woman.
Cheers and Good luck,
Sandros
Thursday, September 2, 2010
fear and society programing by sandros
Within the past few days ,I made great steps into a very controvesial issue.
You hear people say "high risk , high reward". And as Mr.R.Greene mentions in his book :
"Take the risk at thte right moment when you have 60-80% in your favor to succeed the reward"
So taking risks to overcome fears or confront problems and women you might add.
Approach anxiety is overrated in seduction. We have fear and we start to stutter and get nervous ..even get in your head about getting rejected.etc etc.
seriously,its a problem that people talk about superficially.
I wont go into simplicity , to compare our programming to a laptop we buy at store and make it a bandler -grindler theory.
fear of the dark and loud noises are things we as kids , are born with fear.
with this article I dont advocate to be anti social and go on a rampage either.
FEAR comes from our programming as growing up...
you say OK sandros you are fkin einstein.lol
the question is
how this have to do with women and sex....worse courtship?
worse is that we are programed by society.
I wont discuss into Bible or religion but it comes from there mostly.
Laws originate from there and wecen our constitution.
Did you know that premarital sex is considered adultery? did you know having lust for a woman is also a sin?
doesnt this inspire fear ..when years ago,people who didnt follow these rules would get killed?
except kings and (alpha males)
who wrote the laws? who made the rules?
why didnt they follow the rules and why did they create such?
to control people and their ambitions.
the bible was written by a group of people.
the interpretation of it is questionable to this day.
I respect people and respect myself , I do no harm to anyone.
but when I feel I have to do something for my own well being , I force myself out of society programing to do it.
practice doing this this week.
some people use this in a small part as to overcome "social anxiety" etc..that just part of it.
I grew up in a religious family and many people have no matter what race you are...
Can you imagine if you followed literally word for word what bible says?
that means we cannot admire a woman...we cant go talk to her to sleep with her.we would be left with castrated men physically and mentally.
Be calibrated what is good and bad. dont go to extremes,find a balance and live happy.
Sandros
You hear people say "high risk , high reward". And as Mr.R.Greene mentions in his book :
"Take the risk at thte right moment when you have 60-80% in your favor to succeed the reward"
So taking risks to overcome fears or confront problems and women you might add.
Approach anxiety is overrated in seduction. We have fear and we start to stutter and get nervous ..even get in your head about getting rejected.etc etc.
seriously,its a problem that people talk about superficially.
I wont go into simplicity , to compare our programming to a laptop we buy at store and make it a bandler -grindler theory.
fear of the dark and loud noises are things we as kids , are born with fear.
with this article I dont advocate to be anti social and go on a rampage either.
FEAR comes from our programming as growing up...
you say OK sandros you are fkin einstein.lol
the question is
how this have to do with women and sex....worse courtship?
worse is that we are programed by society.
I wont discuss into Bible or religion but it comes from there mostly.
Laws originate from there and wecen our constitution.
Did you know that premarital sex is considered adultery? did you know having lust for a woman is also a sin?
doesnt this inspire fear ..when years ago,people who didnt follow these rules would get killed?
except kings and (alpha males)
who wrote the laws? who made the rules?
why didnt they follow the rules and why did they create such?
to control people and their ambitions.
the bible was written by a group of people.
the interpretation of it is questionable to this day.
I respect people and respect myself , I do no harm to anyone.
but when I feel I have to do something for my own well being , I force myself out of society programing to do it.
practice doing this this week.
some people use this in a small part as to overcome "social anxiety" etc..that just part of it.
I grew up in a religious family and many people have no matter what race you are...
Can you imagine if you followed literally word for word what bible says?
that means we cannot admire a woman...we cant go talk to her to sleep with her.we would be left with castrated men physically and mentally.
Be calibrated what is good and bad. dont go to extremes,find a balance and live happy.
Sandros
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
FR thrid date didnt close, diagnosis is LSE LD woman
Hey Tripp, I can't believe I'm writing this to you. lol . Anyways, last night I went on my third date with low self esteem church girl. Now, I'm not being judgmental but I guess it's kind of good to know what type of girl I am dealing with. So let's recap, on the first date I took it to a park and and had wine we made out and when we got outside her apartment building she didn't want to touch, a weird LMR , resisting to anymore physical escalation. A month passed by, we went on our second date which was this past Friday. I had other things to do but I have always closed on first and rarely second date. I know, I know, this was in New York and with the last girl here in Florida(I have to see other women, seriously dude ).
You should be seeing others anyway. You're not exclusive with anyone.
On the second date, we spoke some, had dinner and after that we went for a walk on Coconut Grove and after that I got her to buy me ice cream I usually have her buy ice cream as a form of investment and go to her place or where I am and I escalate to share the ice cream.
Good that you get her to invest. Need more EMOTIONAL investment though.
At the end of the date after I noticed that it was and it happen, I did make out with her some more and try to get inside her place by plausible deniability of being thirsty you're getting a drink of water and she brought me a bottle of water and told me her place was a mess. Weirdly, for me it's affecting a bit by messing with my head,
Honestly, there is no reason this should be messing with your head. Why is it? She's not ready for sex. That's it. Either she'll give it to you later or you'll get it elsewhere. Why let this mess with your head?
but I'm glad we spoke a couple of days ago. So yesterday, she called me and she wanted to go hang out, actually she wanted to go do something. Mini golf is in Fort Lauderdale an hour drive so that wasn't happening, I tried testing the waters with where this is going. Honestly, I've never gone out on so many dates without having sex. Anyways, this is how the date started:
FR: My first date #3 ,freaks out at hotel drive in gets LMR.lol
I picked her up at her place and right off the bat, to test the waters I told her that I had a long drive wanted to use her restroom and needed to Pee really bad.lol. So when I asked her I got an absurd response :
” My apartment is a mess and my toilet is clogged, I have to get it fixed and I haven't had time”
So she's letting you know clearly that she ain't ready to have you in her home. Fine, move on from that.
I would've honestly done a take away and left her high and dry, but I decided to try the truck maneuver. Once again, we got a quick bite to eat and we went to the beach at 8:30 PM.lol. I escalated very extreme but she would always put an excuse that she would be surrounded by people and would withdraw a bit.
And that's to be expected, honestly. It's a normal excuse to having sex in "public". I've had that excuse as well, just went through it, lol.
So, I decided take that and escalate to take her to a motel.
Good, you followed my suggestion.
On the way we were just talking randomly I did not mention where we were going and I just took the lead. I like using frames, so I started talking about how we feel so comfortable with each other and when I got there in my truck, she totally freaked out.
This is a BIG sign. She's just not ready for sex, either with you, or with anyone. Either way, it ain't happening.
I tried to calm her down, telling her that we were just going to cuddle and spend time somewhere privately. I promised her that there was no sex involved and that this is genuine what we feel for each other.
She KNEW this wasn't true. So she knew you were lying.
She started logically battling with verbal LMR by not getting off the truck saying that it takes her awhile to get intimate and build trust with time . I had previously used incredible connection pattern and had gotten her to describe how she feels and got her to tell me how much she really likes me. She started telling me that it was getting too late and that she is a downer, that she's been going through a rough time right now finding a job , her dad is sick in another state with her step mom that she doesn't like and that she isn't focusing on having a boyfriend or any type of relationship.
This translates to ANY AND EVERY EXCUSE is something to grasp onto, and ANY excuse will keep her from opening her legs for you at this time.
I acted like it's no big deal and told her that I just wanted to cuddle and that I don't know where the whole “we are not having sex her I'm not ready to be intimate” came from in a weird way. I didn't want to logically keep talking about what she just said, I figured it was her LMR. But I don't know man, after I dropped her off she told me that we might end up going to her place for a movie and cuddling at some other date.
Because she KNOWS how bad you want to fuck her and she's coming to the point of thinking if she doesn't give you SOMETHING to hang onto or hope for that you won't be around much longer. It's hard to say how much she really likes you at this point, but she DEFINITELY feels pressured by you, which is NOT good.
So I dropped her off acted like it's no big deal and did a couple of mini nonverbal takeaways to get her to invest. We made out and grab her ass again, and told me I will talk to you soon. I smiled and just left.
Now, I've never been dragged out for such a long time and feel that this is going nowhere. I used the nonjudgmental frame, I respect and understand women what they go through frame, and other stuff that subcommunicates high-value.
I honestly want to tell you that I never been string along by anyone. I noticed that I was investing more than she was. She is terribly shy, very insecure, and I think she has issues with sex and other stuff you might tell about her. So I did get a text around noon saying:
Has she told you anything about having issues with sex? Has she been molested or raped or anything like that? This would lead to insecurity for sure.
thanks I had a great time last night.
This is actually good on her part, but what she's doing is showing you she's interested in more than sex and wants to see if YOU are as well. So, if you ONLY want her for her pussy, you're wasting your time AND hers.
Now I did not respond, I really don't know if this is worth it anymore. I know it's not me because I really did my best and okay maybe if I did have my place it would have been different but I wanted to hear from you.
Your place wouldn't make much of a difference since she turned down the truck and the motel.
Many of my friends would think drop this chick and that it's not on. Other friends would think, that she is still giving indicators of interests. But what I can tell is might be doing unconsciously or whatever emotional 101s. So I guess similar to push pull. In false hope and her basically leading when sex will happen which to me is manipulative. Cause in my world, I enjoy having sex. I don't know man. I know it's not a big deal but sometimes it's good to hear words from a good friend.
And a LOT of times the girl literally does NOT enjoy sex because every experience she HAS had with sex has NOT been good. This will definitely lead to a LOT of hesitation about sex. However, as I said, if ALL you're wanting from her is her pussy, yes it's time to move on. She's looking for more than that. What I would personally do at this point is to either cut her off completely so she doesn't get hurt anymore or solidly put her in the friends zone and see if she has any cute friends to meet. Although at this point she may even tell the friends how hard you will try to escalate and if they have any similar issues you'd be spinning your wheels there as well. It boils down to what I keep saying . . . do you JUST want her pussy? Or are you interested in an actual relationship with her?
You should be seeing others anyway. You're not exclusive with anyone.
On the second date, we spoke some, had dinner and after that we went for a walk on Coconut Grove and after that I got her to buy me ice cream I usually have her buy ice cream as a form of investment and go to her place or where I am and I escalate to share the ice cream.
Good that you get her to invest. Need more EMOTIONAL investment though.
At the end of the date after I noticed that it was and it happen, I did make out with her some more and try to get inside her place by plausible deniability of being thirsty you're getting a drink of water and she brought me a bottle of water and told me her place was a mess. Weirdly, for me it's affecting a bit by messing with my head,
Honestly, there is no reason this should be messing with your head. Why is it? She's not ready for sex. That's it. Either she'll give it to you later or you'll get it elsewhere. Why let this mess with your head?
but I'm glad we spoke a couple of days ago. So yesterday, she called me and she wanted to go hang out, actually she wanted to go do something. Mini golf is in Fort Lauderdale an hour drive so that wasn't happening, I tried testing the waters with where this is going. Honestly, I've never gone out on so many dates without having sex. Anyways, this is how the date started:
FR: My first date #3 ,freaks out at hotel drive in gets LMR.lol
I picked her up at her place and right off the bat, to test the waters I told her that I had a long drive wanted to use her restroom and needed to Pee really bad.lol. So when I asked her I got an absurd response :
” My apartment is a mess and my toilet is clogged, I have to get it fixed and I haven't had time”
So she's letting you know clearly that she ain't ready to have you in her home. Fine, move on from that.
I would've honestly done a take away and left her high and dry, but I decided to try the truck maneuver. Once again, we got a quick bite to eat and we went to the beach at 8:30 PM.lol. I escalated very extreme but she would always put an excuse that she would be surrounded by people and would withdraw a bit.
And that's to be expected, honestly. It's a normal excuse to having sex in "public". I've had that excuse as well, just went through it, lol.
So, I decided take that and escalate to take her to a motel.
Good, you followed my suggestion.
On the way we were just talking randomly I did not mention where we were going and I just took the lead. I like using frames, so I started talking about how we feel so comfortable with each other and when I got there in my truck, she totally freaked out.
This is a BIG sign. She's just not ready for sex, either with you, or with anyone. Either way, it ain't happening.
I tried to calm her down, telling her that we were just going to cuddle and spend time somewhere privately. I promised her that there was no sex involved and that this is genuine what we feel for each other.
She KNEW this wasn't true. So she knew you were lying.
She started logically battling with verbal LMR by not getting off the truck saying that it takes her awhile to get intimate and build trust with time . I had previously used incredible connection pattern and had gotten her to describe how she feels and got her to tell me how much she really likes me. She started telling me that it was getting too late and that she is a downer, that she's been going through a rough time right now finding a job , her dad is sick in another state with her step mom that she doesn't like and that she isn't focusing on having a boyfriend or any type of relationship.
This translates to ANY AND EVERY EXCUSE is something to grasp onto, and ANY excuse will keep her from opening her legs for you at this time.
I acted like it's no big deal and told her that I just wanted to cuddle and that I don't know where the whole “we are not having sex her I'm not ready to be intimate” came from in a weird way. I didn't want to logically keep talking about what she just said, I figured it was her LMR. But I don't know man, after I dropped her off she told me that we might end up going to her place for a movie and cuddling at some other date.
Because she KNOWS how bad you want to fuck her and she's coming to the point of thinking if she doesn't give you SOMETHING to hang onto or hope for that you won't be around much longer. It's hard to say how much she really likes you at this point, but she DEFINITELY feels pressured by you, which is NOT good.
So I dropped her off acted like it's no big deal and did a couple of mini nonverbal takeaways to get her to invest. We made out and grab her ass again, and told me I will talk to you soon. I smiled and just left.
Now, I've never been dragged out for such a long time and feel that this is going nowhere. I used the nonjudgmental frame, I respect and understand women what they go through frame, and other stuff that subcommunicates high-value.
I honestly want to tell you that I never been string along by anyone. I noticed that I was investing more than she was. She is terribly shy, very insecure, and I think she has issues with sex and other stuff you might tell about her. So I did get a text around noon saying:
Has she told you anything about having issues with sex? Has she been molested or raped or anything like that? This would lead to insecurity for sure.
thanks I had a great time last night.
This is actually good on her part, but what she's doing is showing you she's interested in more than sex and wants to see if YOU are as well. So, if you ONLY want her for her pussy, you're wasting your time AND hers.
Now I did not respond, I really don't know if this is worth it anymore. I know it's not me because I really did my best and okay maybe if I did have my place it would have been different but I wanted to hear from you.
Your place wouldn't make much of a difference since she turned down the truck and the motel.
Many of my friends would think drop this chick and that it's not on. Other friends would think, that she is still giving indicators of interests. But what I can tell is might be doing unconsciously or whatever emotional 101s. So I guess similar to push pull. In false hope and her basically leading when sex will happen which to me is manipulative. Cause in my world, I enjoy having sex. I don't know man. I know it's not a big deal but sometimes it's good to hear words from a good friend.
And a LOT of times the girl literally does NOT enjoy sex because every experience she HAS had with sex has NOT been good. This will definitely lead to a LOT of hesitation about sex. However, as I said, if ALL you're wanting from her is her pussy, yes it's time to move on. She's looking for more than that. What I would personally do at this point is to either cut her off completely so she doesn't get hurt anymore or solidly put her in the friends zone and see if she has any cute friends to meet. Although at this point she may even tell the friends how hard you will try to escalate and if they have any similar issues you'd be spinning your wheels there as well. It boils down to what I keep saying . . . do you JUST want her pussy? Or are you interested in an actual relationship with her?
FR: Missed chance ONS at CVS @ midnight
It was saturday August 7th, around midnight I was coming from a party and went to local CVS/Walgreens to buy a marker.
I went in and was for a few minutes as I turn at the end of the aisle a girl with her PJ on makes sexual eye contact and I smile and she smiles back.
she was entering the aisle as I was turning so distance between each other was less than 3 feet away from personal space.She hold eye contact as I hold it as well and I smiled back. I at first didnt realize it until seconds later that I should have apparoched.
then as Im fighting with myself to talk with her and what to say or go direct or whatever stupidity that was keeping me.
I went towards the cashier to pay and she is with her cart at the aisle and she is looking at me from a far playing wiht her hair or IOIing.
it was 12:15 am.
I wait abit as Im looking for change or whatever and pay.
I go out and think what to do ,I text you man.
I felt I was now being creepy if I approached and Im outside the store, but it was clear at that moment that that type of IOI and sexual energy from her and me towards her at this time of night is looking for company aka sex.
I see her leave in her car and as I at the light she gets next to my car in her car,we get to the light and next to each other in our cars and its obvious that I should do something. I get a text from you and wa trying to text you to explain but
I didnt, I hesitated and didnt know if I was creepying her out.
I know masculinity was what was going to take to make this work and waht she was waiting for.
next she turns and say fuck it,
Then she reepears next to me in her car, I didnt find courage to turn my head or what to do again we are at stop light already blocks away from the store.
then we drive near the motels section of miami and she gets in front of me and turns to right. then as I drive I she she turned and was waiting or had been waiting half a block.
Anywyas I was confused whether she thought I was following her or theres somehting wrong with my inner game or way of thinking when some girl opens that window to have sex or IOI's without my doing anything.
What would you have done step by step and logistics wise and how intrepret that type of scenario where its a given or plausible deniability to bounce or waitied by her car or waited outside etc.
I went in and was for a few minutes as I turn at the end of the aisle a girl with her PJ on makes sexual eye contact and I smile and she smiles back.
she was entering the aisle as I was turning so distance between each other was less than 3 feet away from personal space.She hold eye contact as I hold it as well and I smiled back. I at first didnt realize it until seconds later that I should have apparoched.
then as Im fighting with myself to talk with her and what to say or go direct or whatever stupidity that was keeping me.
I went towards the cashier to pay and she is with her cart at the aisle and she is looking at me from a far playing wiht her hair or IOIing.
it was 12:15 am.
I wait abit as Im looking for change or whatever and pay.
I go out and think what to do ,I text you man.
I felt I was now being creepy if I approached and Im outside the store, but it was clear at that moment that that type of IOI and sexual energy from her and me towards her at this time of night is looking for company aka sex.
I see her leave in her car and as I at the light she gets next to my car in her car,we get to the light and next to each other in our cars and its obvious that I should do something. I get a text from you and wa trying to text you to explain but
I didnt, I hesitated and didnt know if I was creepying her out.
I know masculinity was what was going to take to make this work and waht she was waiting for.
next she turns and say fuck it,
Then she reepears next to me in her car, I didnt find courage to turn my head or what to do again we are at stop light already blocks away from the store.
then we drive near the motels section of miami and she gets in front of me and turns to right. then as I drive I she she turned and was waiting or had been waiting half a block.
Anywyas I was confused whether she thought I was following her or theres somehting wrong with my inner game or way of thinking when some girl opens that window to have sex or IOI's without my doing anything.
What would you have done step by step and logistics wise and how intrepret that type of scenario where its a given or plausible deniability to bounce or waitied by her car or waited outside etc.
how to calibrate sexual escalation on the girl
I think the tittle is abit misleading but in reality it has to do with your style of game.
I have friends and Ive started with learning and we still have different game,shows you that you have to be yourself to make game work. i know it sounds like shit but lets get back to topic.
I have closed different types of girls and until you have a setback or achallenge you wont realize how valuable it is to know how to go sexual.
there are great posts and books to show you this...
Id say you have to figure it out based on yours style of game, your plan to have her with her if its a date and what type fo girl she is, how her state is at that moment.
All what I just mentioned equal to success my friends.
to calibrate it is to know when an how to do it.
here is what tripp says:
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-Well, logistics aren't key, but sexual tension is. Logistics play a bigger role the lower her BT is.
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Im having this issue.
When its time to close and have sex when I am about to enter the motel, she freaks out and gets major LMR.
I cant take her to my place cause Im temporaily sharing it with someone while school starts again for me to move the fuck out on my own.
Also I tried in the car but it isnt comfortable at all.
in the past I never got LMR like this but its predictable a girl would get freaked out when she enters a motel and starts feeling like a slut.
last girls didnt care about motel they were really horny and I just took them.
but Im now finding that a problem when I have made out and touched her sexually and she is turned on and then we driving somewhere and I drive in to motel.
Its kindah funny but fucking frustrating......
I'd like to ask any experienced guys out there who have had to deal with such problem.
once I move the fuck out , and get girls to my place would be smoother pickup.
any insight would help thanks.-
PS:
I'm probably not keeping her sexually aroused on the drive to the motel.
L.A. Tripp
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Subject: Re: CLOSING outside of your place, I have a problem Mon Aug 30, 2010 12:15 pm
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-Is it just this one girl that has given you this problem, or is it multiple girls?
You say last girls didn't care and you just took them.
Also, is it uncomfortable for YOU to take them in your truck? Or for them?
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AFC: "Would you mind coming here please, if it's not too much trouble?"
You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.
Don't back down from the girl. CHALLENGE her!
sandros
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Subject: Re: CLOSING outside of your place, I have a problem Tue Aug 31, 2010 1:38 am
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L.A. Tripp wrote:
Is it just this one girl that has given you this problem, or is it multiple girls?
Only her . I think its ASD, I have some fault caus eI might have not calibrated the escalation by arousing her enough and after the long date I took her to motel and she was hesitant and talking nonsense how she takes a while to trust somoene to get intimate and seriosuly taking all into logic.
i think that when it came time for me to get off the car and get the room , gave her a chance for her ASD to hit turbo.- I have to see if the car pull could work with someother women. in the past it was easy to use plausible deniability to pull a girl to yourplace and in 20 minutes she was naked having sex. Now its like Logistics plus Momentum of sexual tension are KEY in any Pull.
You say last girls didn't care and you just took them.
before Game I do recall picking up a girl walking in a bad neighbourhood and getting her to my car and after 10 minutes or so of talking casually , no deep comfort just superficial stuff, no bt spiking either.. i suggest to go somewhere private and we went to a motel and she was horny about it....dropped her off and we never talked again...when I stopped by weeks later I saw her with a man and she saw my car and she smiled at me infront of him but nothing happened, I left it at that.
Also, is it uncomfortable for YOU to take them in your truck? Or for them?
well its kindah for me... I think i could get a BJ...I mean it could work, never tried it...it could escalate into then transitioning to motel after car.
sexual technique of whatever isnt really car possible, I think its because I was in dominican republic once and the girl I was with had her pants down and sucking my dick in a dark alley and the cops showed up.....anywyas I had to pay the cops money..only in a 3rd world country and the girl was pissed at me, I dont know dude. It be fucked up if that happend to me here in the US.
L.A. Tripp
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Subject: Re: CLOSING outside of your place, I have a problem Tue Aug 31, 2010 5:58 am
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-Well, logistics aren't key, but sexual tension is. Logistics play a bigger role the lower her BT is.
Since it's just this one girl, don't sweat it. Just friend zone her, hang out with her, see who she knows, etc.
The whole cop thing, lol, damn. Well, I've had a security guard catch me, but that's because he was seriously watching me, TRYING to catch me. But again, that's in your head and you're ALLOWING IT to fuck with your mind. So, once again, YOU have to exert control over that and stop letting it mess with you.
_________________
http://tripp-author.weebly.com for my new book!
http://latripp.blogspot.com/
www.latripp.weebly.com
Alpha: "Come here, now."
AFC: "Would you mind coming here please, if it's not too much trouble?"
You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.
Don't back down from the girl. CHALLENGE her!
I have friends and Ive started with learning and we still have different game,shows you that you have to be yourself to make game work. i know it sounds like shit but lets get back to topic.
I have closed different types of girls and until you have a setback or achallenge you wont realize how valuable it is to know how to go sexual.
there are great posts and books to show you this...
Id say you have to figure it out based on yours style of game, your plan to have her with her if its a date and what type fo girl she is, how her state is at that moment.
All what I just mentioned equal to success my friends.
to calibrate it is to know when an how to do it.
here is what tripp says:
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----
-Well, logistics aren't key, but sexual tension is. Logistics play a bigger role the lower her BT is.
--------------------------------------------------------------------
Im having this issue.
When its time to close and have sex when I am about to enter the motel, she freaks out and gets major LMR.
I cant take her to my place cause Im temporaily sharing it with someone while school starts again for me to move the fuck out on my own.
Also I tried in the car but it isnt comfortable at all.
in the past I never got LMR like this but its predictable a girl would get freaked out when she enters a motel and starts feeling like a slut.
last girls didnt care about motel they were really horny and I just took them.
but Im now finding that a problem when I have made out and touched her sexually and she is turned on and then we driving somewhere and I drive in to motel.
Its kindah funny but fucking frustrating......
I'd like to ask any experienced guys out there who have had to deal with such problem.
once I move the fuck out , and get girls to my place would be smoother pickup.
any insight would help thanks.-
PS:
I'm probably not keeping her sexually aroused on the drive to the motel.
L.A. Tripp
Admin
Number of posts: 4531
Age: 37
Location: Evansville, IN
Points: 1442
Reputation: 12
Registration date: 2008-03-14
Subject: Re: CLOSING outside of your place, I have a problem Mon Aug 30, 2010 12:15 pm
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-Is it just this one girl that has given you this problem, or is it multiple girls?
You say last girls didn't care and you just took them.
Also, is it uncomfortable for YOU to take them in your truck? Or for them?
_________________
http://tripp-author.weebly.com for my new book!
http://latripp.blogspot.com/
www.latripp.weebly.com
Alpha: "Come here, now."
AFC: "Would you mind coming here please, if it's not too much trouble?"
You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.
Don't back down from the girl. CHALLENGE her!
sandros
AFC
Number of posts: 26
Age: 32
Location: miami
Points: 36
Reputation: 0
Registration date: 2009-11-23
Subject: Re: CLOSING outside of your place, I have a problem Tue Aug 31, 2010 1:38 am
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L.A. Tripp wrote:
Is it just this one girl that has given you this problem, or is it multiple girls?
Only her . I think its ASD, I have some fault caus eI might have not calibrated the escalation by arousing her enough and after the long date I took her to motel and she was hesitant and talking nonsense how she takes a while to trust somoene to get intimate and seriosuly taking all into logic.
i think that when it came time for me to get off the car and get the room , gave her a chance for her ASD to hit turbo.- I have to see if the car pull could work with someother women. in the past it was easy to use plausible deniability to pull a girl to yourplace and in 20 minutes she was naked having sex. Now its like Logistics plus Momentum of sexual tension are KEY in any Pull.
You say last girls didn't care and you just took them.
before Game I do recall picking up a girl walking in a bad neighbourhood and getting her to my car and after 10 minutes or so of talking casually , no deep comfort just superficial stuff, no bt spiking either.. i suggest to go somewhere private and we went to a motel and she was horny about it....dropped her off and we never talked again...when I stopped by weeks later I saw her with a man and she saw my car and she smiled at me infront of him but nothing happened, I left it at that.
Also, is it uncomfortable for YOU to take them in your truck? Or for them?
well its kindah for me... I think i could get a BJ...I mean it could work, never tried it...it could escalate into then transitioning to motel after car.
sexual technique of whatever isnt really car possible, I think its because I was in dominican republic once and the girl I was with had her pants down and sucking my dick in a dark alley and the cops showed up.....anywyas I had to pay the cops money..only in a 3rd world country and the girl was pissed at me, I dont know dude. It be fucked up if that happend to me here in the US.
L.A. Tripp
Admin
Number of posts: 4531
Age: 37
Location: Evansville, IN
Points: 1442
Reputation: 12
Registration date: 2008-03-14
Subject: Re: CLOSING outside of your place, I have a problem Tue Aug 31, 2010 5:58 am
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-Well, logistics aren't key, but sexual tension is. Logistics play a bigger role the lower her BT is.
Since it's just this one girl, don't sweat it. Just friend zone her, hang out with her, see who she knows, etc.
The whole cop thing, lol, damn. Well, I've had a security guard catch me, but that's because he was seriously watching me, TRYING to catch me. But again, that's in your head and you're ALLOWING IT to fuck with your mind. So, once again, YOU have to exert control over that and stop letting it mess with you.
_________________
http://tripp-author.weebly.com for my new book!
http://latripp.blogspot.com/
www.latripp.weebly.com
Alpha: "Come here, now."
AFC: "Would you mind coming here please, if it's not too much trouble?"
You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.
Don't back down from the girl. CHALLENGE her!
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