--------------------- words of a legendary pimp-------------------------------
" What I was saying was that the pimp overtly and almost with inhibition, denigrates and despoils the sexual object. His mauling of the sexual object is perhaps a more severe version of what happens in conventional relationships. For instance, in so-called "square" sexual bouts, the woman winds up, of course, flat on her back in a submissive position.
If a man is aware of what sexual button to push to enhance a woman's gratification, he will bite her with the proper degree of ferocity. If he inflicted that kind of punishment on her when she was not in a state of rapture, she would resent it... The kiss-kick ritual is at the very root of the pimp's sexuality.
My theory is that some quantum of pimp in every man would perhaps enhance his approach to women, because I think it's a truism that women gravitate to a man who can at least flash transient evidence of heelism. I think that the angelic. completely pure paragon, is not too interesting.
Women are prone to masochism , anyway. I think if you are able to manufacture a bit of "heelism" in your nature and give them a sense of insecurity as to whether some voluptuous rival might come along and steal you, then you are a treasured jewel."
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these are the words of iceberg slim, in an interview.
what does he mean by "heelism"
also what is the kiss kick ritual? anybody can expand on that?
what are some of the pimp books you recommand, that would give you knowledge about the pimp mindset, and inner game? i have already finish Pimp by slim and mickey royale's book of pimp instructional book.
i like mickey royale's book, but one little detail has let me to doubt his credential a bit, and that is in the book, he said that he keeps 50 % of the money from the hoes. if you have watched american pimp, you would know that the good pimps, all the pimps in it let the hoe keep none, what is the deal with him?
heel
–noun
a contemptibly dishonorable or irresponsible person: We all feel like heels for ducking out on you like this.
-dictionary.com
Basically, a "heel" is the bad guy. If you ever watched pro-wrestling, the characters are either "heels" or "faces", which derives from "babyface." In other words, bad guys and good guys. Same concept here. He's saying that a woman doesn't want a totally pristine nice guy. She wants to know that there is a darker, more unpredictable side to you.
Kiss-kick... I'm pretty sure he means "push-pull"... generating some negative or insecure emotions while also giving her positive emotions. It's more dynamic and exciting than just experiencing ONE shade of emotion. Can't have good without evil, right? If evil didn't exist in the world, we'd take the good for granted and maybe even grow bored of it. But because there is evil, we treasure the good.
That's really simplified.
As far letting them keep half the money, maybe he is a nice pimp and feels justifiably shytty taking all their money? I'd tune out that stuff though, just take what sounds correct and try it out. Discard the rest. Pimps are known for getting insecure, beatdown women. So take what they say with a grain of salt.
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Miami FRs stir crazy and playhouse tuesday
I think franctionation fucks me up and makes pickup harder on myself in the middle of comfort qualification.
cause I have to re engage her.they come back more aggressive stripper wanting a dance, fiending for money.
here in miami girls dance and then make rounds ask everybody in the club for tips if you dont tip they scream at you and give you an attitude to stay home.
My response was "I didnt see you dance" or "you arent my type" or
Im unreactive as she is screaming at me she tells me to be cheap to stay home.(latina and black women do this)
set jordanian from chicago
she is 33 yrs old recently moved from chicago ex bf cheated on her and she moved here months ago.
I ran cosmo routine and all and she seemed PRO, I find out she did this since 19 and traveled,
she at end tried to make me a customer to get a dance.
She talked about random shit and I made her talk about herself. it was a battle of topics. she didnt want to talk about herself.
I was talking abot what she likes in a man and shed talk but change topics
She complained about money I send her off she d come back she come as a different person
as if she forgotten all about our conversation
, at the end I told her to meet up outside and she was NO.
I said Laters. she want complying with sexy whisper in my ear cali pimp style.
I think franctionation fucks me up and makes pickup harder on myself cause I have to re engage her.they come back more stripper wanting a dance.I dont know what to say whne they complain about money.
philly noise ring girl
was super cool at start was receptive to Emotions and touching and all
and we were talking about eating afterwards.She agreed , she was feeling attraction and was chillin.
then she told me that she is visitng and that first night stripping in miami and that she travels drives from philly and she is going back tomorrow and she needs to amke money and place is DEAD.
I sent her to make money (fractionate ) there are like 3 chumps
she came back waaay later after her chillin at the bar with her friend (girl from phillly she drove with )
and going to the dressing room an
and she told me that she needed money.and when she came back she said I need you to help me , Im leaving soon
if you can get a dance with me ,
I said I told you im not a customer but lets go get a bite to eat like we planned. you know I dont want nothing from you just you seem cool girl and this conversation we have meeting you is rare thing you know , Cmon lets go eat my treat. :).
she said NO. Im just asking for a last dance cause Im leaving.
help me make money I need, tonoght was a shitty night.
I said nah Im not down with that dance thing Im not typical customer guy who comes in to watch chicks I came here to kill time remember.
No dance then fine,I'm leaving bye.
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I think fractionation in the middle of comfort is fucking me up.
another thing is that I have to get there late as fuck or shift change
its like the game goes smooth they get into it m then when they talk about money issues
I send them off to talk to other guys, they come back a different person.
then its an uphill battle.
they become pushy for a dance and they lie saying that they are being themselves and all
but they get super logical afterwards about money and financial situation sucks.
its like they are desperate for money eventhough its an off night they push hard.
not sure if I should start screening girls from pros and non pros
but this is what happened.
ny suggestions help
Miami is 7-8 times harder than Georgia.
cause I have to re engage her.they come back more aggressive stripper wanting a dance, fiending for money.
here in miami girls dance and then make rounds ask everybody in the club for tips if you dont tip they scream at you and give you an attitude to stay home.
My response was "I didnt see you dance" or "you arent my type" or
Im unreactive as she is screaming at me she tells me to be cheap to stay home.(latina and black women do this)
set jordanian from chicago
she is 33 yrs old recently moved from chicago ex bf cheated on her and she moved here months ago.
I ran cosmo routine and all and she seemed PRO, I find out she did this since 19 and traveled,
she at end tried to make me a customer to get a dance.
She talked about random shit and I made her talk about herself. it was a battle of topics. she didnt want to talk about herself.
I was talking abot what she likes in a man and shed talk but change topics
She complained about money I send her off she d come back she come as a different person
as if she forgotten all about our conversation
, at the end I told her to meet up outside and she was NO.
I said Laters. she want complying with sexy whisper in my ear cali pimp style.
I think franctionation fucks me up and makes pickup harder on myself cause I have to re engage her.they come back more stripper wanting a dance.I dont know what to say whne they complain about money.
philly noise ring girl
was super cool at start was receptive to Emotions and touching and all
and we were talking about eating afterwards.She agreed , she was feeling attraction and was chillin.
then she told me that she is visitng and that first night stripping in miami and that she travels drives from philly and she is going back tomorrow and she needs to amke money and place is DEAD.
I sent her to make money (fractionate ) there are like 3 chumps
she came back waaay later after her chillin at the bar with her friend (girl from phillly she drove with )
and going to the dressing room an
and she told me that she needed money.and when she came back she said I need you to help me , Im leaving soon
if you can get a dance with me ,
I said I told you im not a customer but lets go get a bite to eat like we planned. you know I dont want nothing from you just you seem cool girl and this conversation we have meeting you is rare thing you know , Cmon lets go eat my treat. :).
she said NO. Im just asking for a last dance cause Im leaving.
help me make money I need, tonoght was a shitty night.
I said nah Im not down with that dance thing Im not typical customer guy who comes in to watch chicks I came here to kill time remember.
No dance then fine,I'm leaving bye.
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I think fractionation in the middle of comfort is fucking me up.
another thing is that I have to get there late as fuck or shift change
its like the game goes smooth they get into it m then when they talk about money issues
I send them off to talk to other guys, they come back a different person.
then its an uphill battle.
they become pushy for a dance and they lie saying that they are being themselves and all
but they get super logical afterwards about money and financial situation sucks.
its like they are desperate for money eventhough its an off night they push hard.
not sure if I should start screening girls from pros and non pros
but this is what happened.
ny suggestions help
Miami is 7-8 times harder than Georgia.
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
cheery TV is the SHIT!!!! 69and women masturbating helps your inner game
http://www.cherrytv.com/
Jesse, 06/04/09
Hello 69!
Sure, it may be the most popular number in Junior High bathroom stalls… But, for many, ‘69′ is a timeless favorite between the sheets. Named after the way in which the numbers 6 and 9 fit perfectly together, this position has many variations, which allow for partners to both give and receive oral sex simultaneously. There’s partner (a) on top, partner (b) on top, side-to-side/head-to-toe, standing, and so on and so forth. Many appreciate ‘69′ for the [literal] in-your-face intimacy it requires. Yet, for others, that vulnerability is precisely what makes it an unappealing position. If you’re keen on the idea (but are still feeling a little uneasy), here’s a few tips for mathematical bliss.
Tips for the ‘69′ Position:
(1) Shower first. In ‘69,’ you might as well forget the concept of personal space. Your genitals will, in fact, be up close and personal. If you don’t feel clean, this position can be extremely unnerving. So, do whatever preparations are necessary for you to personally feel attractive in the ‘69′ position. [On a similar note, you'll likely want your partner to do the same. If you find it awkward to bring up, suggest showering together beforehand. Not only can it make '69' more pleasurable, but it can also act as foreplay.]
(2) Experiment with weight/pressure. Depending on the variation of ‘69,’ you might be dealing with the body weight of your partner on top of you (or vice-versa). To some (including Alex on this episode), this is a very positive experience. Others find it uncomfortable or distracting. Experiment with different variations in order to find an arrangement that’s comfortable for both you and your partner.
(3) Use delayed starts. In most relationships, both partners do not tend to orgasm at exactly the same moment. Therefore, it might be useful for one person to start performing oral sex before the other begins. (Be forewarned that the visual aspect of ‘69′ has been known to send many off the Buy Generic pharmacy deep end much more quickly than in other positions. Timing will be something to work on.)
(4) Give your partner a hand. As a person approaches orgasm in ‘69,’ it’s often difficult to continue focusing on the giving aspect of oral sex. At this point, it may be useful to incorporate the hands instead. (And for those who clench their jaws together during orgasm, please take this as a friendly yet firm suggestion from me to you!)
Certainly, this position can prove to be a challenge. Yet, for many, ‘69′ is no longer an odd number. Tips on oral sex may also help to improve your experience…
For some general tips on oral sex, check out these past postings on our blog: Oral Sex Topics
Also, find out more tips on our episode Oral Sex Tricks
Related posts:
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2.Intercourse and the ‘O’ We’ve all seen them in TV shows and movies… the...
3.Pride in Performing Oral Sex There are times when the mood strikes to give...
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Jesse, 06/04/09
Hello 69!
Sure, it may be the most popular number in Junior High bathroom stalls… But, for many, ‘69′ is a timeless favorite between the sheets. Named after the way in which the numbers 6 and 9 fit perfectly together, this position has many variations, which allow for partners to both give and receive oral sex simultaneously. There’s partner (a) on top, partner (b) on top, side-to-side/head-to-toe, standing, and so on and so forth. Many appreciate ‘69′ for the [literal] in-your-face intimacy it requires. Yet, for others, that vulnerability is precisely what makes it an unappealing position. If you’re keen on the idea (but are still feeling a little uneasy), here’s a few tips for mathematical bliss.
Tips for the ‘69′ Position:
(1) Shower first. In ‘69,’ you might as well forget the concept of personal space. Your genitals will, in fact, be up close and personal. If you don’t feel clean, this position can be extremely unnerving. So, do whatever preparations are necessary for you to personally feel attractive in the ‘69′ position. [On a similar note, you'll likely want your partner to do the same. If you find it awkward to bring up, suggest showering together beforehand. Not only can it make '69' more pleasurable, but it can also act as foreplay.]
(2) Experiment with weight/pressure. Depending on the variation of ‘69,’ you might be dealing with the body weight of your partner on top of you (or vice-versa). To some (including Alex on this episode), this is a very positive experience. Others find it uncomfortable or distracting. Experiment with different variations in order to find an arrangement that’s comfortable for both you and your partner.
(3) Use delayed starts. In most relationships, both partners do not tend to orgasm at exactly the same moment. Therefore, it might be useful for one person to start performing oral sex before the other begins. (Be forewarned that the visual aspect of ‘69′ has been known to send many off the Buy Generic pharmacy deep end much more quickly than in other positions. Timing will be something to work on.)
(4) Give your partner a hand. As a person approaches orgasm in ‘69,’ it’s often difficult to continue focusing on the giving aspect of oral sex. At this point, it may be useful to incorporate the hands instead. (And for those who clench their jaws together during orgasm, please take this as a friendly yet firm suggestion from me to you!)
Certainly, this position can prove to be a challenge. Yet, for many, ‘69′ is no longer an odd number. Tips on oral sex may also help to improve your experience…
For some general tips on oral sex, check out these past postings on our blog: Oral Sex Topics
Also, find out more tips on our episode Oral Sex Tricks
Related posts:
1.A+ in Oral Research shows that most women cannot reach orgasm through intercourse...
2.Intercourse and the ‘O’ We’ve all seen them in TV shows and movies… the...
3.Pride in Performing Oral Sex There are times when the mood strikes to give...
4.Sex On Top Many men seem to think that when a woman is...
5.Blow Job Hand Use Some men like it hot…but all like it wet. The...
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Monday, March 28, 2011
Inner game of a PIMP - by player supreme a review of Mickey Royal's book Pimp GAME
Inner Game
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“When you stand alone before a mirror, all whom you do not see are beneath you”
What do these words from Mickey Royals book called “THE PIMP GAME, AN INSTRUCTIONAL MANUEL” mean?
A pimp, mack, player uses the tool of words to entice women into their worlds. Words are forms of communications. So it can be said that pimps are masters of communication. Why? Because pimps do know how to get into the head of their targets, using words.
But what about our own self talk that goes on within our own heads? How are you communicating with you? The level of success your having at any given venue is in direct relation to how well you communicate with your own mind.
In the player world this is called your inner game. But the key to successful inner game falls on how well you communicate to your own subconscious mind. Are you putting in good thoughts and self evaluations or are you putting in garbage?
Way back in time when I took computer programming classes in the dawn of the computer ages, there was a saying (GIGO), which stood for garbage in garbage out.
If your putting in bad thoughts into your own head, words such as; I’m ugly, no women will like me, I am a bad communicator…ect ect… then this is what your going to create in your life. If half the people on these dating forums would just change the way they talk to themselves their outer world will change accordingly.
So in borrowing a lesson from the pimp game. You need to believe in yourself. Your ego must be at a level way above anybody around you. Especially above any women that you are trying to mack on. A women whom I kick it with has an ex-husband.
This guy is a true Mack. He is driving 2 cars. A lexus, and a Misibishi Sports car. Both of which were bought and paid for by various women. He was gotten $50,000.00 from one woman who also had him fawk her daughter. Don’t ask! And various other items. A professional Mack.
She told me that how he does it even though this guy is very ugly ( and he is), he gets the women to believe that HE is actually above them. And that they should be gratefull for him even spending his time with them.
I think those internet operators who are getting their ideas from the pimp game are calling this make yourself the prize.
Remember Morris from the group the Time. Think back to the Prince movie Purple Rain. That is the kind of ego and self love that I’m talking about. Maybe not at that narccisstic extreme, but close to it.
All whom you do not see when you stand alone in front of a mirror are beneath you.
Adapt this as your daily mantra. Live it and believe it. Never put ho’s up on pedestals. They will only shyt on you from above. When you can get them to believe that your something special and they should be glad to even be near you, then you have reached the proper level of self confidence and self communication.
Keep telling yourself that every day until it is firmly gripped into your reality.
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“When you stand alone before a mirror, all whom you do not see are beneath you”
What do these words from Mickey Royals book called “THE PIMP GAME, AN INSTRUCTIONAL MANUEL” mean?
A pimp, mack, player uses the tool of words to entice women into their worlds. Words are forms of communications. So it can be said that pimps are masters of communication. Why? Because pimps do know how to get into the head of their targets, using words.
But what about our own self talk that goes on within our own heads? How are you communicating with you? The level of success your having at any given venue is in direct relation to how well you communicate with your own mind.
In the player world this is called your inner game. But the key to successful inner game falls on how well you communicate to your own subconscious mind. Are you putting in good thoughts and self evaluations or are you putting in garbage?
Way back in time when I took computer programming classes in the dawn of the computer ages, there was a saying (GIGO), which stood for garbage in garbage out.
If your putting in bad thoughts into your own head, words such as; I’m ugly, no women will like me, I am a bad communicator…ect ect… then this is what your going to create in your life. If half the people on these dating forums would just change the way they talk to themselves their outer world will change accordingly.
So in borrowing a lesson from the pimp game. You need to believe in yourself. Your ego must be at a level way above anybody around you. Especially above any women that you are trying to mack on. A women whom I kick it with has an ex-husband.
This guy is a true Mack. He is driving 2 cars. A lexus, and a Misibishi Sports car. Both of which were bought and paid for by various women. He was gotten $50,000.00 from one woman who also had him fawk her daughter. Don’t ask! And various other items. A professional Mack.
She told me that how he does it even though this guy is very ugly ( and he is), he gets the women to believe that HE is actually above them. And that they should be gratefull for him even spending his time with them.
I think those internet operators who are getting their ideas from the pimp game are calling this make yourself the prize.
Remember Morris from the group the Time. Think back to the Prince movie Purple Rain. That is the kind of ego and self love that I’m talking about. Maybe not at that narccisstic extreme, but close to it.
All whom you do not see when you stand alone in front of a mirror are beneath you.
Adapt this as your daily mantra. Live it and believe it. Never put ho’s up on pedestals. They will only shyt on you from above. When you can get them to believe that your something special and they should be glad to even be near you, then you have reached the proper level of self confidence and self communication.
Keep telling yourself that every day until it is firmly gripped into your reality.
Sunday, March 27, 2011
FRs: 2 Georgia Strippers
FRs: 2 Georgia Strippers
March 26,2011
INTRO
So lately my state was down days ago cause in Miami I didn’t get approached by any girl except a black girl who asked me for tip,I had my back to the stage sitting infront of the bar. Then the last time before that one I was FR: chubby Cuban chick non pro set counting her money.
Anyways I was in ATL to do personal school stuff was busy most of the time.Im into red hair girls blondes and Southern accents.It was a good break from Latinas in Miami who give me headaches and drama.So before I left Georgia last night. I went to strip club and had 2 great sets.
1 is REDHAIR NON PRO and other
2 NYC Army chick
I messed up and couldnt close logistically the bounce.
PART 1 is REDHAIR NON PRO Stripper
So I arrived at the place and I sat down perfect location and made it look like I was the shit, I was super confident had a smile made eye contact with almost every girl and was dressed well in comparison to dive bar lounge type of strip club, this strip club wasn’t high class but the girls were TOP and HOT.
So I sit down and laid back I have a waitress get me red bull, and REDHAIR comes sits next to me, she says something and I use my ear signaling to talk louder to get closer.she does and she sits down next to me,
I cut her off and tell her “that accent” (push pull)
she says insecure “are you making fun of my accent”,
“you are from boston””that accent”
Her:I was born in Ohio but grew up here in Georgia. “are you making fun of my accent”,
Nah I like that accent ;) she laughs.
I tell her what color is your hair, she says auburn, I tell her what the color of my eyes, she says hazel and looks at me smilling, why are you looking at me that way please slow down woman! J
Anyways you seem chill and friendly tell me about yourself abit.she tells me about the dances and services and I tell her I stoped by until stops raining and I have to hit the road to Miami.
I cut her off again and told her to stand up “how tall are you?” got her to turn around a couple of times and bend over “ Pimp” style. She told me that she simple girl don’t go out much and all.Laid back.how she grew up all her life in Georgia and never left Georgia.she started saying that she was doing it for the money and that really is the worst stripper there cause the boss tells her she isn’t aggressive enough. And that she is laid back and stoped giving a shit about people said or thought about her.I qualified her about what you got going more than your looks, I say cool and go into a child story on how I had a crush on a red head girl in 5th grade and one day she left the school, everybody teased her but I thought she was cute and had a crush on her but never saw her again. She laughs and I qualify her again if she is being herself or trying to get me to like her and that Im not that easy is she being herself, she says she is and qualify her “where did personality come from” she didn’t want to tell me if she had sisters and brothers and she was reserved about her name.so I went into Cosmo pattern. (Captain Jack’s routine)
she said butterflies and we began eye contact each other and she told me I get stage fright when I look into someones eye,Im honestly insecure and I don’t usually talk like this to people I don’t talk much,I throw in a cold read on laid back and chill yet likes to enjoy being with her man. She says Ive been hurt and I dated a Mexican guy once but I got hurt and I don’t want to let anyone inside my heart anymore.
I asked her If she has ever tried a latin lover Brazilian guy before? She laughs
I went into incredible connection pattern with check in’s.
Puts her head against my chest. She Lets me caress her face and ask her do you feel comfortable with me,she said YES.
she was staring at me like about to make out but we were surround by music and people and chicks dancing naked in front of us,I offered her a drink and she said no thanks.I cant drink because I will be running to bathroom every minute.I laugh and tell her to stop being cool and funny I m starting to like her.
How about a drink outside since they don’t serve alcohol here.
She said “I get off by 1 am.” It was 10:30pm. What can you do to get off early I got to leave hit the road. She said I cant leave my shift I have to make money also . I sent her off to make money and come back . she does and says “ok I will go make rounds.”
Some chubby blonde waitress comes in aggressively start trying to touch my cock and starts flirting with me while REDHAIR is smoking and watching from afar,I get a water and I tip waitress on the table instead of her panties. Tried to get her off me ,cause she is being really aggressive and I didn’t want to make REDHAIR. jealous since I ran deep comfort.I haven’t given her a single dime .
RED HAIR watches from afar and Im alone like a dork. Im getting uneasy waiting for the bitch to come back and its been 15 minutes. Then REDHEAD comes in sits next to me and says she is dancing on the stage next, I tell her to talk to my ear cant hear her she whispers in my ear and I tell her to pretend she is a naughty girl and if she can say
“ I’m a naughty Georgia girl” I bite my lip and hairpull her she looks at me and suddenly they call her and goes on stage.
I look at her eye and not her body as she is dancing, she SUCKS at stage but shows her nice body. No guys tip her and I put some 3 dollars on the table near her. She finishes the dance and goes to thank all the guys who tipped her, she takes another 10 minutes I was like WTF. She comes back and she tells me that she sucks and that she isn’t into dancing on the pole. We then make fun of another chick dancing on the pole and has Peach or apricot on her chest, she laughs and then I qualify her being cool and being herself and she say “Im easy girl, you can take me anywhere and I would be fine” I reward her.
Then I get abit clueless where to go from there and ask her to ask for the time, she goes and its 11 something. I try to get her to bounce and says” I haven’t made enough money tonight I suck.”Amangement wont let me leave. Then I transition to tell me more about what attracts you to a guy you started to notice about him you become really attracted.She gets upset and uneasy and says
” I told you! I don’t know I just know , OK, I have to go do something “
She leaves pissed off and talks to guys at the door and goes to bathroom. I don’t see her anymore.
I don’t know what to do , I though it was going well and I thought to go bring her back to the table or tell her “please Im asking a question Im curious about you etc…” or “whats wrong babe come back”
But I instead let it go, I actually when we were before her dance we were deep comfort and thought it was on. Now she walks off pissed. I over did the elicitation of what feeling she feels and got uneasy and left. I thought she was super cool and we are both pisces and a week away from our birthdays. Our personality and clicked and I was attracted to her dude to her being herself and being feminine .FUCK!
I go to bathroom later and I see her with some Filipino guy who looks like Mr.M .lol in skater clothing playing pool , I look at him and he looks at me, she bends over for him to shoot the pool ball.
I walk by her but she doesn’t look at me and I decide not to talk to her. FUCK. I was feeling abit jealous cause I was building deep rapport with her. I felt One-it is feeling and I told myself go have fun.
Part 2 NYC Army Stripper
So I call waitress and go to bathroom. I make eye contact with some girls,So far Im most confident guy with a suave strut walk and smirk on my face. I go sit down and ask waitress to go bring REDHEAD to me, then a hot brunnete with lip piercing 6’11 thin swagger girl sits down and puts her hand on my leg and escalates,I say “HEY, SLOW DOWN”.
She then starts asking me my name I say “bamboo, I didn’t bring in my pull out pants tonight I’m on downlow” she laughs and
I say “yeah I am kindah of a BIG DEAL”
she says “Ohh you are funny and cocky”
I say : “Im glad you like it”and smile.
WAITRESS COMES IN AND TELLS ME TO BUY HER A DRINK
I say “I don’t know her she just sat down, we haven’t even talked yet ”
The WAITRESS TRIES TO BE RUDE and the chick says “its fine ” and humbly ARMY CHICK pays for it herself.
Theres a moment of silence and she looks down on the floor and look
She asks “do you have kids?”
ME: “well we could work on that, but I think its kindah early in the relationship to talk about it”
She flips out laughing and hits me on my chest.
She asks where Im from and she tells me she is from nyc originally and she has 2 kids (this hot chick is smoking hot and in shape tanned and all and she is like 21)
She starts opening up she is in the ARMY in Georgia and she dances for fun and make money. She seems super cool and wild party chick, I run COSMO pattern and she isn’t into it, I try again and she says “compatibility” I go “so what feeling is it when you know you are compatible with guy you know you are attracted to and knew its was on …in a very special way?”
she says “I just know”. She looks up and I touch her arm,and I say “ so it’s a gut feeling “
“yes “ I go for incredible connection pattern and she says I really don’t attach myself to guys I go out with guys and 3 weeks later I dump them, I like to do my own thing no control. We fluff talk and I make her laugh and tell her to stop turning me on,and I pull her hair BDSM style.I start using basic SNL frames with Fluff non judgemental no consequences,sex isn’t a big thing ,some guys are needy after sex.
and qualify her what makes her different from the other girls here. “that I can be myself ”.
She asked me that why am I dressed up well, I tell her I usually dress like this. She says “I usually don’t see a guy like you coming here” I say that’s sweet thanks. And smirk back. I make her whisper shit in my ear in a sexy way.
She then goes up for a dance. She opens her pussy on stage and does the pole shit, I was looking at her eyes and she would look down.I tip on the table 3 bucks and other girsl are just looking at me and smiling. She came back and told me she would go thank the guys for tips and someone tipped her 20 bucks or something. I felt she was on some drug, not drunk but on a downer. She seemed too ADD to build strong comfort used snl frames instead. And I only tried to arouse her with hairpull and touch and trying her to get her to tell me “Im a naughty ARMY girl”. I felt stuck with her cause I wouldn’t figure out how to sexual arouse her or what to do next.
When she comes back to sit down next to me I tell her to wait for me here as Im going to restroom real quick. As I come back she leaves her panties on my table and I see her afar
I see she is w some dude standing next to her and puts her arm round him like about to make out or sexually teasing him.
I felt myself abit Jealous and I drank my water and walked out.
March 26,2011
INTRO
So lately my state was down days ago cause in Miami I didn’t get approached by any girl except a black girl who asked me for tip,I had my back to the stage sitting infront of the bar. Then the last time before that one I was FR: chubby Cuban chick non pro set counting her money.
Anyways I was in ATL to do personal school stuff was busy most of the time.Im into red hair girls blondes and Southern accents.It was a good break from Latinas in Miami who give me headaches and drama.So before I left Georgia last night. I went to strip club and had 2 great sets.
1 is REDHAIR NON PRO and other
2 NYC Army chick
I messed up and couldnt close logistically the bounce.
PART 1 is REDHAIR NON PRO Stripper
So I arrived at the place and I sat down perfect location and made it look like I was the shit, I was super confident had a smile made eye contact with almost every girl and was dressed well in comparison to dive bar lounge type of strip club, this strip club wasn’t high class but the girls were TOP and HOT.
So I sit down and laid back I have a waitress get me red bull, and REDHAIR comes sits next to me, she says something and I use my ear signaling to talk louder to get closer.she does and she sits down next to me,
I cut her off and tell her “that accent” (push pull)
she says insecure “are you making fun of my accent”,
“you are from boston””that accent”
Her:I was born in Ohio but grew up here in Georgia. “are you making fun of my accent”,
Nah I like that accent ;) she laughs.
I tell her what color is your hair, she says auburn, I tell her what the color of my eyes, she says hazel and looks at me smilling, why are you looking at me that way please slow down woman! J
Anyways you seem chill and friendly tell me about yourself abit.she tells me about the dances and services and I tell her I stoped by until stops raining and I have to hit the road to Miami.
I cut her off again and told her to stand up “how tall are you?” got her to turn around a couple of times and bend over “ Pimp” style. She told me that she simple girl don’t go out much and all.Laid back.how she grew up all her life in Georgia and never left Georgia.she started saying that she was doing it for the money and that really is the worst stripper there cause the boss tells her she isn’t aggressive enough. And that she is laid back and stoped giving a shit about people said or thought about her.I qualified her about what you got going more than your looks, I say cool and go into a child story on how I had a crush on a red head girl in 5th grade and one day she left the school, everybody teased her but I thought she was cute and had a crush on her but never saw her again. She laughs and I qualify her again if she is being herself or trying to get me to like her and that Im not that easy is she being herself, she says she is and qualify her “where did personality come from” she didn’t want to tell me if she had sisters and brothers and she was reserved about her name.so I went into Cosmo pattern. (Captain Jack’s routine)
she said butterflies and we began eye contact each other and she told me I get stage fright when I look into someones eye,Im honestly insecure and I don’t usually talk like this to people I don’t talk much,I throw in a cold read on laid back and chill yet likes to enjoy being with her man. She says Ive been hurt and I dated a Mexican guy once but I got hurt and I don’t want to let anyone inside my heart anymore.
I asked her If she has ever tried a latin lover Brazilian guy before? She laughs
I went into incredible connection pattern with check in’s.
Puts her head against my chest. She Lets me caress her face and ask her do you feel comfortable with me,she said YES.
she was staring at me like about to make out but we were surround by music and people and chicks dancing naked in front of us,I offered her a drink and she said no thanks.I cant drink because I will be running to bathroom every minute.I laugh and tell her to stop being cool and funny I m starting to like her.
How about a drink outside since they don’t serve alcohol here.
She said “I get off by 1 am.” It was 10:30pm. What can you do to get off early I got to leave hit the road. She said I cant leave my shift I have to make money also . I sent her off to make money and come back . she does and says “ok I will go make rounds.”
Some chubby blonde waitress comes in aggressively start trying to touch my cock and starts flirting with me while REDHAIR is smoking and watching from afar,I get a water and I tip waitress on the table instead of her panties. Tried to get her off me ,cause she is being really aggressive and I didn’t want to make REDHAIR. jealous since I ran deep comfort.I haven’t given her a single dime .
RED HAIR watches from afar and Im alone like a dork. Im getting uneasy waiting for the bitch to come back and its been 15 minutes. Then REDHEAD comes in sits next to me and says she is dancing on the stage next, I tell her to talk to my ear cant hear her she whispers in my ear and I tell her to pretend she is a naughty girl and if she can say
“ I’m a naughty Georgia girl” I bite my lip and hairpull her she looks at me and suddenly they call her and goes on stage.
I look at her eye and not her body as she is dancing, she SUCKS at stage but shows her nice body. No guys tip her and I put some 3 dollars on the table near her. She finishes the dance and goes to thank all the guys who tipped her, she takes another 10 minutes I was like WTF. She comes back and she tells me that she sucks and that she isn’t into dancing on the pole. We then make fun of another chick dancing on the pole and has Peach or apricot on her chest, she laughs and then I qualify her being cool and being herself and she say “Im easy girl, you can take me anywhere and I would be fine” I reward her.
Then I get abit clueless where to go from there and ask her to ask for the time, she goes and its 11 something. I try to get her to bounce and says” I haven’t made enough money tonight I suck.”Amangement wont let me leave. Then I transition to tell me more about what attracts you to a guy you started to notice about him you become really attracted.She gets upset and uneasy and says
” I told you! I don’t know I just know , OK, I have to go do something “
She leaves pissed off and talks to guys at the door and goes to bathroom. I don’t see her anymore.
I don’t know what to do , I though it was going well and I thought to go bring her back to the table or tell her “please Im asking a question Im curious about you etc…” or “whats wrong babe come back”
But I instead let it go, I actually when we were before her dance we were deep comfort and thought it was on. Now she walks off pissed. I over did the elicitation of what feeling she feels and got uneasy and left. I thought she was super cool and we are both pisces and a week away from our birthdays. Our personality and clicked and I was attracted to her dude to her being herself and being feminine .FUCK!
I go to bathroom later and I see her with some Filipino guy who looks like Mr.M .lol in skater clothing playing pool , I look at him and he looks at me, she bends over for him to shoot the pool ball.
I walk by her but she doesn’t look at me and I decide not to talk to her. FUCK. I was feeling abit jealous cause I was building deep rapport with her. I felt One-it is feeling and I told myself go have fun.
Part 2 NYC Army Stripper
So I call waitress and go to bathroom. I make eye contact with some girls,So far Im most confident guy with a suave strut walk and smirk on my face. I go sit down and ask waitress to go bring REDHEAD to me, then a hot brunnete with lip piercing 6’11 thin swagger girl sits down and puts her hand on my leg and escalates,I say “HEY, SLOW DOWN”.
She then starts asking me my name I say “bamboo, I didn’t bring in my pull out pants tonight I’m on downlow” she laughs and
I say “yeah I am kindah of a BIG DEAL”
she says “Ohh you are funny and cocky”
I say : “Im glad you like it”and smile.
WAITRESS COMES IN AND TELLS ME TO BUY HER A DRINK
I say “I don’t know her she just sat down, we haven’t even talked yet ”
The WAITRESS TRIES TO BE RUDE and the chick says “its fine ” and humbly ARMY CHICK pays for it herself.
Theres a moment of silence and she looks down on the floor and look
She asks “do you have kids?”
ME: “well we could work on that, but I think its kindah early in the relationship to talk about it”
She flips out laughing and hits me on my chest.
She asks where Im from and she tells me she is from nyc originally and she has 2 kids (this hot chick is smoking hot and in shape tanned and all and she is like 21)
She starts opening up she is in the ARMY in Georgia and she dances for fun and make money. She seems super cool and wild party chick, I run COSMO pattern and she isn’t into it, I try again and she says “compatibility” I go “so what feeling is it when you know you are compatible with guy you know you are attracted to and knew its was on …in a very special way?”
she says “I just know”. She looks up and I touch her arm,and I say “ so it’s a gut feeling “
“yes “ I go for incredible connection pattern and she says I really don’t attach myself to guys I go out with guys and 3 weeks later I dump them, I like to do my own thing no control. We fluff talk and I make her laugh and tell her to stop turning me on,and I pull her hair BDSM style.I start using basic SNL frames with Fluff non judgemental no consequences,sex isn’t a big thing ,some guys are needy after sex.
and qualify her what makes her different from the other girls here. “that I can be myself ”.
She asked me that why am I dressed up well, I tell her I usually dress like this. She says “I usually don’t see a guy like you coming here” I say that’s sweet thanks. And smirk back. I make her whisper shit in my ear in a sexy way.
She then goes up for a dance. She opens her pussy on stage and does the pole shit, I was looking at her eyes and she would look down.I tip on the table 3 bucks and other girsl are just looking at me and smiling. She came back and told me she would go thank the guys for tips and someone tipped her 20 bucks or something. I felt she was on some drug, not drunk but on a downer. She seemed too ADD to build strong comfort used snl frames instead. And I only tried to arouse her with hairpull and touch and trying her to get her to tell me “Im a naughty ARMY girl”. I felt stuck with her cause I wouldn’t figure out how to sexual arouse her or what to do next.
When she comes back to sit down next to me I tell her to wait for me here as Im going to restroom real quick. As I come back she leaves her panties on my table and I see her afar
I see she is w some dude standing next to her and puts her arm round him like about to make out or sexually teasing him.
I felt myself abit Jealous and I drank my water and walked out.
Thursday, March 24, 2011
sara NLP pattern incredible connection email used Topos text and it worked.
Hey Sarah,
I had to ask you …Have you ever felt when… you instantly met someone …
you felt attracted to when you first met ? ..
And You knew that you were going to like and trust this person for a long time?
Eventhough you knew each other for a short while …but it seemed like you known this person your.. whole life…
Like you felt a special connection with that person you just met.
When we first met ... I felt a chemistry between us.
I wouldnt be contacting you if this wasnt true for me .
So ofcourse I want to see you again , eventhough you are such a BAD girl ; )
... but even if we don't , you're awesome and I want us to be friends.
------------------------------------------------------------------------
when was last time you were fascinated someone? you know that feeling.
you that feeling that you liked him, you know that feeling that feeling that ITS ON..?
you know that feeling? what that what it was like?
REALLY cause intereting my friend was saying
mind needs a way telling which feelings what you really want and.think about what you may or may not do
,if you could put youreself back there whats that FIRST feeling on the inside that let you knew
MMMmmmm (craving juicy horny lick your lips,)
you wanted to create an openning for this guy
you could feel your opening .............on a very speacial way
that you felt this excitement and maybe even put your finger on the source of this excitement
you knew you wanted to , what was that feeling?
touch her face.
you seem like a fun girl right you like to enjoy opening yourself. right
do you model or into acting? wow cause i totally see you doing something now , you know how guys are right' ;)
how about you say something fun like . like
"hi guys Im ___, hope you like me, have a good day"
nice...you sound sexy now say it like you mean it you can be a wild fun girl for abit right/
"hey guys Im __ , Im BAD naughty georgia girl"
Its like there different part you want to reach out and touch tonight.
openings and nude errections.
I CONTROL MY ENERGY GOES!!!!
-------------------------------------------------------------------------
Even though you may or may not anticipate meeting that special someone
someday, it's certainly not necessary for you to feel incredible
attracted to someone you just met. You really shouldn't do that,
powerfully. But imagine what it would be like if you were to feel an
overwhelming and growing attraction to someone you thought you hardly
knew(point) but then you suddenly realize for whatever mysterious
reason, that this person seems like someone you have always known to the
point where you feel deep inside that this person is just right for you
and you get that warm comfortable feeling right in there such that as
you begin to feel so turned on you are feeling it in that . . oooooo
special way where you start to imagine yourself with him, really
enjoying each other in a way two people who feel really connected and
sharing together in that special way can really want to enjoy the other.
Me, I find that is something you just don't feel it right away but if
you could imagine what it would be like, you might understand how
someone you care about could go have that experience. Without any pause,
you can go wild with it and your mine.
------------------------------------------------------------------------
Did you ever instantly now you were going to like and trust someone for
a long, long time? Maybe you only knew them for a short while but it
seemed that you had known them your whole life, as if there was a
timeless connection between you and them? I'm wondering as you are
listen so carefully, if you can remember the feeling of that, and just
how wonderful it was because sometimes life has a way of making us
remember those things, right prior to discovering that we can experience
those feelings again with someone. Me well, I don't think that kind of
thing can be forced. No essay or words or can allow that to happen
_____ but as you begin to recognize now how much you want to be with
someone who is so good for you
----------------------------------------------------------------------
Did you ever . . instantly know you were going to like and trust someone
for a long, long time? (pt). Like maybe even though you only knew them
for a short while . . it seemed like you had known them your whole
life, as if there were this timeless connection between you and them
(her to you). I mean, you know that feeling of incredible bonding,
when all barriers just drop away and melt and you just feel totally
comfortable and at ease with them (pt). And its like maybe you were
even able to
----------------------------------------------------------
I have an intuition about you (I know something about you). When you
really FEEL THAT CONNECTION WITH SOMEONE. You know that mysterious,
timeless link that just makes you feel like you've known someone forever
... like you were meant to know them ... and it's almost like YOU'RE
LOOKING RIGHT AT YOUR FUTURE .. like YOUR FUTURE IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF
YOU ... when you FEEL THAT .. it all starts out as an actually physical
click ... a tug that takes place right THERE (Slowly bring your hand
down and touch her in the solar plexus). Can you FEEL THAT (squeeze her
hand with your free hand) is maybe how that can happen.. NOW ... WITH
ME .. I just find that's such a great feeling. What I find really
interesting is .. what can happen is when you FEEL THAT CONNECTION, that
warm, safe and comfortable feeling right there,
-------------------------------------------------------------------
Hey, did you ever meet someone and just instantly know that you had to
get to know this person better? (point) Maybe as you went inside and
really got all excited about how much fun it'd be to get to know them
and how curious and intrigued you were feeling ... AS YOU REMEMBER THOSE
FEELINGS AS WE'RE TALKING, I'm just curious, do you first imagine how
much fun they'd be to hang out with, and then get intrigue, or do you
get intrigued first and then imagine how much fun this person would be
-------------------------------------------------------
what happens is you spend some time with this person and then you
go home and you then you picture this person and your mine, in that
special place and you mine, where you keep people you care deeply for.
And then what you do is you start to imagine being with this person in
different situations and in all sorts of different ways like maybe
introducing him to your friends or having all sorts of fun and
interesting adventures together.
----------------------------------------------------------------------
SOULMATE
You know, how you can have thoughts that you cause you to feel
fascination ______. Like, I was thinking about how, for many people
falling in love can sometimes take months. But have you ever thought
about what it would be like for you to fall in love instantaneously
where you feel like you were talking to your soulmate(point). I mean,
Imagine there being someone who was selected for you, picked out long
before you were born. I mean if you were to feel that way, now.. I
think you may be surprised to find yourself beginning to almost feel
magically enchanted; and you might find yourself wanting to be with this
person in a very special way _____. Because, when a person feels they
have met there soulmate like when you imagine this person being your
dream lover(pt), I think you would feel a mysterious yet powerful
loving connection taking place
-----------------------------------------------------------------------
Have you ever been attracted to someone who wasn't even your type
physically. Like I have this friend Nancy.
----------------------------------------------------------------------------------
I had to ask you …Have you ever felt when… you instantly met someone …
you felt attracted to when you first met ? ..
And You knew that you were going to like and trust this person for a long time?
Eventhough you knew each other for a short while …but it seemed like you known this person your.. whole life…
Like you felt a special connection with that person you just met.
When we first met ... I felt a chemistry between us.
I wouldnt be contacting you if this wasnt true for me .
So ofcourse I want to see you again , eventhough you are such a BAD girl ; )
... but even if we don't , you're awesome and I want us to be friends.
------------------------------------------------------------------------
when was last time you were fascinated someone? you know that feeling.
you that feeling that you liked him, you know that feeling that feeling that ITS ON..?
you know that feeling? what that what it was like?
REALLY cause intereting my friend was saying
mind needs a way telling which feelings what you really want and.think about what you may or may not do
,if you could put youreself back there whats that FIRST feeling on the inside that let you knew
MMMmmmm (craving juicy horny lick your lips,)
you wanted to create an openning for this guy
you could feel your opening .............on a very speacial way
that you felt this excitement and maybe even put your finger on the source of this excitement
you knew you wanted to , what was that feeling?
touch her face.
you seem like a fun girl right you like to enjoy opening yourself. right
do you model or into acting? wow cause i totally see you doing something now , you know how guys are right' ;)
how about you say something fun like . like
"hi guys Im ___, hope you like me, have a good day"
nice...you sound sexy now say it like you mean it you can be a wild fun girl for abit right/
"hey guys Im __ , Im BAD naughty georgia girl"
Its like there different part you want to reach out and touch tonight.
openings and nude errections.
I CONTROL MY ENERGY GOES!!!!
-------------------------------------------------------------------------
Even though you may or may not anticipate meeting that special someone
someday, it's certainly not necessary for you to feel incredible
attracted to someone you just met. You really shouldn't do that,
powerfully. But imagine what it would be like if you were to feel an
overwhelming and growing attraction to someone you thought you hardly
knew(point) but then you suddenly realize for whatever mysterious
reason, that this person seems like someone you have always known to the
point where you feel deep inside that this person is just right for you
and you get that warm comfortable feeling right in there such that as
you begin to feel so turned on you are feeling it in that . . oooooo
special way where you start to imagine yourself with him, really
enjoying each other in a way two people who feel really connected and
sharing together in that special way can really want to enjoy the other.
Me, I find that is something you just don't feel it right away but if
you could imagine what it would be like, you might understand how
someone you care about could go have that experience. Without any pause,
you can go wild with it and your mine.
------------------------------------------------------------------------
Did you ever instantly now you were going to like and trust someone for
a long, long time? Maybe you only knew them for a short while but it
seemed that you had known them your whole life, as if there was a
timeless connection between you and them? I'm wondering as you are
listen so carefully, if you can remember the feeling of that, and just
how wonderful it was because sometimes life has a way of making us
remember those things, right prior to discovering that we can experience
those feelings again with someone. Me well, I don't think that kind of
thing can be forced. No essay or words or can allow that to happen
_____ but as you begin to recognize now how much you want to be with
someone who is so good for you
----------------------------------------------------------------------
Did you ever . . instantly know you were going to like and trust someone
for a long, long time? (pt). Like maybe even though you only knew them
for a short while . . it seemed like you had known them your whole
life, as if there were this timeless connection between you and them
(her to you). I mean, you know that feeling of incredible bonding,
when all barriers just drop away and melt and you just feel totally
comfortable and at ease with them (pt). And its like maybe you were
even able to
----------------------------------------------------------
I have an intuition about you (I know something about you). When you
really FEEL THAT CONNECTION WITH SOMEONE. You know that mysterious,
timeless link that just makes you feel like you've known someone forever
... like you were meant to know them ... and it's almost like YOU'RE
LOOKING RIGHT AT YOUR FUTURE .. like YOUR FUTURE IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF
YOU ... when you FEEL THAT .. it all starts out as an actually physical
click ... a tug that takes place right THERE (Slowly bring your hand
down and touch her in the solar plexus). Can you FEEL THAT (squeeze her
hand with your free hand) is maybe how that can happen.. NOW ... WITH
ME .. I just find that's such a great feeling. What I find really
interesting is .. what can happen is when you FEEL THAT CONNECTION, that
warm, safe and comfortable feeling right there,
-------------------------------------------------------------------
Hey, did you ever meet someone and just instantly know that you had to
get to know this person better? (point) Maybe as you went inside and
really got all excited about how much fun it'd be to get to know them
and how curious and intrigued you were feeling ... AS YOU REMEMBER THOSE
FEELINGS AS WE'RE TALKING, I'm just curious, do you first imagine how
much fun they'd be to hang out with, and then get intrigue, or do you
get intrigued first and then imagine how much fun this person would be
-------------------------------------------------------
what happens is you spend some time with this person and then you
go home and you then you picture this person and your mine, in that
special place and you mine, where you keep people you care deeply for.
And then what you do is you start to imagine being with this person in
different situations and in all sorts of different ways like maybe
introducing him to your friends or having all sorts of fun and
interesting adventures together.
----------------------------------------------------------------------
SOULMATE
You know, how you can have thoughts that you cause you to feel
fascination ______. Like, I was thinking about how, for many people
falling in love can sometimes take months. But have you ever thought
about what it would be like for you to fall in love instantaneously
where you feel like you were talking to your soulmate(point). I mean,
Imagine there being someone who was selected for you, picked out long
before you were born. I mean if you were to feel that way, now.. I
think you may be surprised to find yourself beginning to almost feel
magically enchanted; and you might find yourself wanting to be with this
person in a very special way _____. Because, when a person feels they
have met there soulmate like when you imagine this person being your
dream lover(pt), I think you would feel a mysterious yet powerful
loving connection taking place
-----------------------------------------------------------------------
Have you ever been attracted to someone who wasn't even your type
physically. Like I have this friend Nancy.
----------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
QUOTE OF THE DAY
"Lose the need to feel understood."
--Dr. Wayne Dyer. Do that and you won't be qualifying yourself to everybody or be seeking validation.
--Dr. Wayne Dyer. Do that and you won't be qualifying yourself to everybody or be seeking validation.
FR strip club at BTs CoralGables on monday
I went out last night and I didnt get opened by the girls at all. for a Monday it was kindah packed. Girls were hot but when I came in I sat as in the attached diagram but I was turned sideways like not a customer and not a perv either.
I did get open by an unattractive black woman for a tip and told her
"Im just getting warmed up, Im actually here to kill time waiting for a friend to get out of his work to meet up here, but come back later"
as I was getting a sprite. and she responded "I'm also getting my night started" she walked away, whatever.
Then two hot blondes pale white kindah skanky abit or grungy with some tats they sat on near to me lighting up a cigarette in the bar but I was watching either my phone or TV (as a non customer) and they didnt open me its like they were on break before they went on stage. They neither appraoched me some dudes appraoched them , one was buying drinks of the bat and loudly talking being funny. the other guy was good looking and was talking to the chick and they were talking.
I then see the waitresses across from me and they look at me and they both laughed or chuckled, I was now in my head. I look at the time and I was in now for 30 minutes now in internal damage control of indesciveness of should i do something or should I go sit somewhere else. I admit had my back turned to stage watching TV or talking to bar man. I want to be proactive but get clueless.
I did get open by an unattractive black woman for a tip and told her
"Im just getting warmed up, Im actually here to kill time waiting for a friend to get out of his work to meet up here, but come back later"
as I was getting a sprite. and she responded "I'm also getting my night started" she walked away, whatever.
Then two hot blondes pale white kindah skanky abit or grungy with some tats they sat on near to me lighting up a cigarette in the bar but I was watching either my phone or TV (as a non customer) and they didnt open me its like they were on break before they went on stage. They neither appraoched me some dudes appraoched them , one was buying drinks of the bat and loudly talking being funny. the other guy was good looking and was talking to the chick and they were talking.
I then see the waitresses across from me and they look at me and they both laughed or chuckled, I was now in my head. I look at the time and I was in now for 30 minutes now in internal damage control of indesciveness of should i do something or should I go sit somewhere else. I admit had my back turned to stage watching TV or talking to bar man. I want to be proactive but get clueless.
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
MIND CONTROL CULTS applied to HAREM MANAGEMENT
There is nothing "free" about it. Outside the fact they try to swindle you into buying their DVD.. The whole "free" seminar is just a "lead" generation machine for them.
It will be filled with subliminal up sells and possibly even blatant ones. The whole purpose of it is to make you into a paying a customer. Companies don't just give shit away for free unless they can expect some sort of return.
It will be filled with subliminal up sells and possibly even blatant ones. The whole purpose of it is to make you into a paying a customer. Companies don't just give shit away for free unless they can expect some sort of return.
tactic @ 1:53. "Give them something free so they are obliged to give you something in return".
Monday, March 14, 2011
quote of the DAY
But I always said that. A lot of guys (who think they need PUA help) are clueless because they over think. Stop over thinking. It fucks you up. Do not hesitate. He who hesitates, masturbates.
California Pimps on Rejection
I love California Pimp alot due to him being cool guy, he isnt try hard.
he is sweet with girls and isnt too upfront is very legit.
the guy has awesome vibe and doesnt hide anything.
I had to listen over and over the rejection part where he explains how he deals with rejection.
Im seeing how he has influenced El Topo, on many levels.
El Topo doesnt teach as good as his game.
I heard of Hammer explaining how El Topo has orgries etc etc I see its him orcheastraiating as California Pimp style.
Get them arroused and hands them to other guys.
cali Pimp is the shit. he even has his members participate and has them do their own thing.
Im starting over in my life and my game.
guy is my hero him and Keni Styles.
he is sweet with girls and isnt too upfront is very legit.
the guy has awesome vibe and doesnt hide anything.
I had to listen over and over the rejection part where he explains how he deals with rejection.
Im seeing how he has influenced El Topo, on many levels.
El Topo doesnt teach as good as his game.
I heard of Hammer explaining how El Topo has orgries etc etc I see its him orcheastraiating as California Pimp style.
Get them arroused and hands them to other guys.
cali Pimp is the shit. he even has his members participate and has them do their own thing.
Im starting over in my life and my game.
guy is my hero him and Keni Styles.
Low Self Esteem and approval seeking in your behaviours in LIFE and w women.
I had a heavy week I found out that I didnt get accepted to a program here,I waited 6 months and the director didnt bother to send me a letter to tell me.
I felt disappointed with myself.
I think I should have looked into other programs and not waited for one.
I missed opportunites for other programs. anywyas I was too sad to think about anything.
So Im trying to see what to do next, monday I will make calls on other program which I found out just began last week that I could have gotten accepted.
I had my FB in NY text me alot of times and wanted to buy me a plane ticket for me to go, and I said no cause I have to take care of personal stuff first.She got into a fit and told me Im fucking hopeless. she kept texting me insulting me and I texted her back with "you said enough" and she didnt bother me afterwards.
Zeynaida, hasnt been responsive to my texts and calls. So I waitied a day in between to recontact her.
I texted he with a NEG of oh I thought 13yr olds were only ones to play hard to get.lol.
She responded with "Im going thru personal problems with an EX and Im picking up the broken pieces from that,It wouldnt be fair to get you involved you are young and should be having fun instead of thinking about some old ladys personal problems"
I responded with a reframe"Im glad we can be honest with each other, I sense this is part of our deep connection we feel "
she responded: "you are a great guy!"
and I think that Its worthless to pursue. a waste of time.
I noticed that Im not being proactive overall in my life or with pickup.
I havent closed this month for shit.and I havent been focued on other responsibilites like my career.
I found this video it was similar to what you told me about low self esteem.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TaJB5eHGG1I&feature=channel_video_title
I saw beginning of this video also and this guy described me as a dreamer or "spacey" or "unrealistic" ....of not being proactive.Im losing conciousness thinking the girl will come to me or that the school will call me to accept me in etc etc.
starting with 2:30
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=08uLnlvbR5I
TRIPP RESPONDS
Hey man, one main comment . . . careers/jobs and women work the same way . . . you can't cling to one at first. Not until you have a quality one.
Learn that lesson now, before you go any further. Apply to several colleges, several jobs, have several females going. This way you're not depending on one in any of those areas.
Move on from Zey. In fact, move on from all of the women you've hung onto right now. Start fresh. When you start fresh, keep in mind your own personal value as you even start talking to new women. Carry the confidence of who you really are with you, as you meet new women.
Nothing will fall into your lap. I haven't had a chance to watch these vids, but that I know. Nothing will fall into your lap. Others will think things fall into your lap after YOU put in the work required to make things actually happen. Over night successes are really not over night successes. They built over time.
I felt disappointed with myself.
I think I should have looked into other programs and not waited for one.
I missed opportunites for other programs. anywyas I was too sad to think about anything.
So Im trying to see what to do next, monday I will make calls on other program which I found out just began last week that I could have gotten accepted.
I had my FB in NY text me alot of times and wanted to buy me a plane ticket for me to go, and I said no cause I have to take care of personal stuff first.She got into a fit and told me Im fucking hopeless. she kept texting me insulting me and I texted her back with "you said enough" and she didnt bother me afterwards.
Zeynaida, hasnt been responsive to my texts and calls. So I waitied a day in between to recontact her.
I texted he with a NEG of oh I thought 13yr olds were only ones to play hard to get.lol.
She responded with "Im going thru personal problems with an EX and Im picking up the broken pieces from that,It wouldnt be fair to get you involved you are young and should be having fun instead of thinking about some old ladys personal problems"
I responded with a reframe"Im glad we can be honest with each other, I sense this is part of our deep connection we feel "
she responded: "you are a great guy!"
and I think that Its worthless to pursue. a waste of time.
I noticed that Im not being proactive overall in my life or with pickup.
I havent closed this month for shit.and I havent been focued on other responsibilites like my career.
I found this video it was similar to what you told me about low self esteem.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TaJB5eHGG1I&feature=channel_video_title
I saw beginning of this video also and this guy described me as a dreamer or "spacey" or "unrealistic" ....of not being proactive.Im losing conciousness thinking the girl will come to me or that the school will call me to accept me in etc etc.
starting with 2:30
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=08uLnlvbR5I
TRIPP RESPONDS
Hey man, one main comment . . . careers/jobs and women work the same way . . . you can't cling to one at first. Not until you have a quality one.
Learn that lesson now, before you go any further. Apply to several colleges, several jobs, have several females going. This way you're not depending on one in any of those areas.
Move on from Zey. In fact, move on from all of the women you've hung onto right now. Start fresh. When you start fresh, keep in mind your own personal value as you even start talking to new women. Carry the confidence of who you really are with you, as you meet new women.
Nothing will fall into your lap. I haven't had a chance to watch these vids, but that I know. Nothing will fall into your lap. Others will think things fall into your lap after YOU put in the work required to make things actually happen. Over night successes are really not over night successes. They built over time.
Saturday, March 12, 2011
Being PROACTIVE ! be logical, dont be a dreamer or spacey unrealistic
I know some guys are missing character traits.
Example:
Being Proactive:
They are waiting for response or external factors.I know guys can go out number of times a day and appraoch and get rejection and can get numbers, then he stays stuck there waiting for the girl to call them or girl to come up asking them out, or guys give up after the first phone call or first text attempt and they give up.
They end up stagnant.
I personally had this problem for a long time.
as a note, Also it reflects how you handle your life.
Example:
like waiting for a specific person to call you to offer you a job .when you can apply to many and not wait for a negative answer and waste your time waiting when you can have a job now.
Or
Person being a dreamer or "spacey" or unrealistic.
This person can think they want to make alot of money or have high expectations but are not realistic they are waiting for it to come rather than take action and go out there.
Its a non stop thing.Im guilty of this BTW.
So everything to them comes in hope that one day it will happen, or trying to be positive or overly thinking positive but not working specifically how or what to do to get it, just thinking of fooling yourself without actually being proactive or taking action.
so theres something of a mindset or set of action to push yourself or begin a new habit into your lifestyle by being proactive, not waiting but making opportunities for yourself.
I think this can manifest by a guy who lives certain way can change and then applying your program can get results.
That being said a topic that is kindah deep, but this character of being proactive to change your reality.
I think this is the missing link for many guys out there who want to get results.
anything you recommend would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.
Example:
Being Proactive:
They are waiting for response or external factors.I know guys can go out number of times a day and appraoch and get rejection and can get numbers, then he stays stuck there waiting for the girl to call them or girl to come up asking them out, or guys give up after the first phone call or first text attempt and they give up.
They end up stagnant.
I personally had this problem for a long time.
as a note, Also it reflects how you handle your life.
Example:
like waiting for a specific person to call you to offer you a job .when you can apply to many and not wait for a negative answer and waste your time waiting when you can have a job now.
Or
Person being a dreamer or "spacey" or unrealistic.
This person can think they want to make alot of money or have high expectations but are not realistic they are waiting for it to come rather than take action and go out there.
Its a non stop thing.Im guilty of this BTW.
So everything to them comes in hope that one day it will happen, or trying to be positive or overly thinking positive but not working specifically how or what to do to get it, just thinking of fooling yourself without actually being proactive or taking action.
so theres something of a mindset or set of action to push yourself or begin a new habit into your lifestyle by being proactive, not waiting but making opportunities for yourself.
I think this can manifest by a guy who lives certain way can change and then applying your program can get results.
That being said a topic that is kindah deep, but this character of being proactive to change your reality.
I think this is the missing link for many guys out there who want to get results.
anything you recommend would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.
Monday, March 7, 2011
Karea responds about California Pimp GAME
Yes, I'm the guy who wrote the post "California Pimp - Reverse Engineered". Not sure if you've seen it, that post became infamous on a bunch of private forums. Some punks put it on some public forums without my permission... so you can see it here:
-------------------
Cali Pimp Reverse Engineered"
After we finished teaching our bootcamp and seminar last week in Tokyo, Kid44, Levo and myself stayed up all night watching Cali Pimp videos with Silk and GrizzlyHavoc, two of our best students. We're trying to break down what this Jedi is doing, here's some of what we found so far.
Anybody who has studied him too, let's put our heads together!
His state
Cali pimp puts himself in a massive sexual state before he even opens the door. He has that anchored to stomping his feet and then he opens the door with a bang. A big part of his method is obviously a black moebius, transferring his state onto her. The text he recommends about this is an essay on personal magnetism, written by a guy called Theron Q. Dumont who lived about a century ago (public domain now). According to him, this is the corner stone of what he does.
His tonality
He leads the girls through a series of emotional states, using his voice tone. He always starts out with warm, friendly and charismatic (not disinterested and sedated like we used to do with MM, not even when he picks them up at a night- or daygame venue.) He also uses long vowels and raises and lowers his voice tone as he does it.
So far we discovered 5 more ways in which he uses his tonality:
- reassuring (to handle her nervousness, "not a problem", "everything's cool", etc.)
- confusion (to handle her objections)
- enthusiasm (e.g. his IOIs)
- dismissive (for takeaways)
- laughter (to break tension and fractionate before building more tension)
- sexual (as he escalates), with sexual breathing
- horny (straining at the leash), this also shows his emotional wiring is okay. A woman's fantasy is to be so desirable to a man that he can barely control himself around her, and he's not afraid to show this.
Testing
He does a snake movement with the camera. When he comes closer, she either:
- flinches -> he backs off and goes into reassurance
- doesn't flinch -> he escalates
Compliance ladder
It seems the goal of his compliance ladder is the face touch. Once she agrees to that, he can get them into a sexual state much faster with kino.
- stand at the wall
- put your feet together (that also makes them feel less balanced)
- smile
- bend over
- say this line
Commitment and Consistency
He gets the girls to say that they are "naughty", "wild", a "wild girl". The first time it's usually tentative, so he tells them to say it like they mean it.
He gets her to verbalize anything that he sees in her which will help to move things forward. "Why are your nipples hard". "What are you looking down there for" when she looks at his crotch (after he grabs it).
Dealing with Resistance
- When a girl objects, he makes her repeat the objection, which will make it weaker. "What's that?" or "Why is that?" in a confused tone of voice. Then he stacks forward or pulls her hair.
- When a girl asks a question, he simply says "I'll tell you all about it." And immediately stacks forward.
- If he gets LMR, he has the girl turn herself on until she's too horny for LMR
Force Framing
His force framing is very simply. He just says things like
"you're feeling comfortable with me, right? "
"you're okay following directions"
"you can feel comfortable saying / doing whatever"
"why are you so naughty / you're naughty"
any gestures that can be misinterpreted as sexual, he says: "why did you do that", or "what were you thinking"
he touches his cock, then says "what are you looking down there for"
"what do you think of me?" then he interprets her answer as her seducing him
If a girl objects "I'm not okay with this", he says "What do you mean you're okay with this".
"what do you want to do with me? just go with it"
"how do you want to be remembered, sexy"
"what kind of girl are you, sexy"
"if you could be a little bit naughty, what would you be doing?"
Vocabulary
He frames her as "sexy", "wild", and "naughty", never as "dirty", "bitch" or "slut". Notice how the first three are seen as positive in our society. I think it's also very important that he uses the word "pretend" a lot, by telling girls to "pretend" to be a bad girl, he makes it OK.
Kino
Screw VinDiCarlo' model... here's CaliPimp's kino:
- touch face (w/ back of hand)
- pull hair
- slap her face (finger in her mouth), push it to the side
- slap ass
- grab boobs
- slap her hand (on his knee)
- thumb rubbing her chicks
- slap chicks
Takeaways
His freezouts are a lot stronger than what Mystery does. He tells her "It's not gonna work out" or "this is not working" and believably conveys that he's about to end everything, to get her to comply.
Misc realisations
- blame frame game aka S'n'A: "look what you're doing to me" (voice tone: turned on), "you are making me a little nervous", "I can't handle this, go easy with me". This takes away from her nervousness and builds comfort. It also force frames her as seductress.
- he critizises her to make her feel insecure, which will get her to overcompensate. He rewards her for that and holds out a bigger hoop
- resistance is part of the game for him, even if she's massively resisting, he just goes with it and has her sucking his cock within 15 minutes.
- His A2 game seems to be largely body language, dominance and sexuality. His A3 is based entirely on her looks and her compliance. His C game is based entirely on his voice tone and reassuring comments. His S game is dominant kino and dirty talk.
- 101: Neo-Rio is credited with the 101, instead of push-pull you do pull-push-pull. CaliPimp often gives her the option to object or leave, but sandwiched between two commands to move things forward.
Things you can't get out of his videos:
- his body language
- his phone game (he says somewhere he talks to them for 20 minutes before the first meet)
-Karea.
-------------------
Cali Pimp Reverse Engineered"
After we finished teaching our bootcamp and seminar last week in Tokyo, Kid44, Levo and myself stayed up all night watching Cali Pimp videos with Silk and GrizzlyHavoc, two of our best students. We're trying to break down what this Jedi is doing, here's some of what we found so far.
Anybody who has studied him too, let's put our heads together!
His state
Cali pimp puts himself in a massive sexual state before he even opens the door. He has that anchored to stomping his feet and then he opens the door with a bang. A big part of his method is obviously a black moebius, transferring his state onto her. The text he recommends about this is an essay on personal magnetism, written by a guy called Theron Q. Dumont who lived about a century ago (public domain now). According to him, this is the corner stone of what he does.
His tonality
He leads the girls through a series of emotional states, using his voice tone. He always starts out with warm, friendly and charismatic (not disinterested and sedated like we used to do with MM, not even when he picks them up at a night- or daygame venue.) He also uses long vowels and raises and lowers his voice tone as he does it.
So far we discovered 5 more ways in which he uses his tonality:
- reassuring (to handle her nervousness, "not a problem", "everything's cool", etc.)
- confusion (to handle her objections)
- enthusiasm (e.g. his IOIs)
- dismissive (for takeaways)
- laughter (to break tension and fractionate before building more tension)
- sexual (as he escalates), with sexual breathing
- horny (straining at the leash), this also shows his emotional wiring is okay. A woman's fantasy is to be so desirable to a man that he can barely control himself around her, and he's not afraid to show this.
Testing
He does a snake movement with the camera. When he comes closer, she either:
- flinches -> he backs off and goes into reassurance
- doesn't flinch -> he escalates
Compliance ladder
It seems the goal of his compliance ladder is the face touch. Once she agrees to that, he can get them into a sexual state much faster with kino.
- stand at the wall
- put your feet together (that also makes them feel less balanced)
- smile
- bend over
- say this line
Commitment and Consistency
He gets the girls to say that they are "naughty", "wild", a "wild girl". The first time it's usually tentative, so he tells them to say it like they mean it.
He gets her to verbalize anything that he sees in her which will help to move things forward. "Why are your nipples hard". "What are you looking down there for" when she looks at his crotch (after he grabs it).
Dealing with Resistance
- When a girl objects, he makes her repeat the objection, which will make it weaker. "What's that?" or "Why is that?" in a confused tone of voice. Then he stacks forward or pulls her hair.
- When a girl asks a question, he simply says "I'll tell you all about it." And immediately stacks forward.
- If he gets LMR, he has the girl turn herself on until she's too horny for LMR
Force Framing
His force framing is very simply. He just says things like
"you're feeling comfortable with me, right? "
"you're okay following directions"
"you can feel comfortable saying / doing whatever"
"why are you so naughty / you're naughty"
any gestures that can be misinterpreted as sexual, he says: "why did you do that", or "what were you thinking"
he touches his cock, then says "what are you looking down there for"
"what do you think of me?" then he interprets her answer as her seducing him
If a girl objects "I'm not okay with this", he says "What do you mean you're okay with this".
"what do you want to do with me? just go with it"
"how do you want to be remembered, sexy"
"what kind of girl are you, sexy"
"if you could be a little bit naughty, what would you be doing?"
Vocabulary
He frames her as "sexy", "wild", and "naughty", never as "dirty", "bitch" or "slut". Notice how the first three are seen as positive in our society. I think it's also very important that he uses the word "pretend" a lot, by telling girls to "pretend" to be a bad girl, he makes it OK.
Kino
Screw VinDiCarlo' model... here's CaliPimp's kino:
- touch face (w/ back of hand)
- pull hair
- slap her face (finger in her mouth), push it to the side
- slap ass
- grab boobs
- slap her hand (on his knee)
- thumb rubbing her chicks
- slap chicks
Takeaways
His freezouts are a lot stronger than what Mystery does. He tells her "It's not gonna work out" or "this is not working" and believably conveys that he's about to end everything, to get her to comply.
Misc realisations
- blame frame game aka S'n'A: "look what you're doing to me" (voice tone: turned on), "you are making me a little nervous", "I can't handle this, go easy with me". This takes away from her nervousness and builds comfort. It also force frames her as seductress.
- he critizises her to make her feel insecure, which will get her to overcompensate. He rewards her for that and holds out a bigger hoop
- resistance is part of the game for him, even if she's massively resisting, he just goes with it and has her sucking his cock within 15 minutes.
- His A2 game seems to be largely body language, dominance and sexuality. His A3 is based entirely on her looks and her compliance. His C game is based entirely on his voice tone and reassuring comments. His S game is dominant kino and dirty talk.
- 101: Neo-Rio is credited with the 101, instead of push-pull you do pull-push-pull. CaliPimp often gives her the option to object or leave, but sandwiched between two commands to move things forward.
Things you can't get out of his videos:
- his body language
- his phone game (he says somewhere he talks to them for 20 minutes before the first meet)
-Karea.
Thursday, March 3, 2011
FR cuban stripper
FR HBcuban non pro stripper:
I went tonight cause I had an arguement and wanted to watch the a basketball game,ok so I wanted to game strippers as a self challenge.so I went cause I know a manager, he wasnt there and shift had just changed ,Its been awhile I havent set foot in a strip club.
there was a cuban voluptous 20 yr old really hot . we will call her HB Cuban Strip and I opened saying that
she has sexy way to her body its too bad she isnt a blonde. her body is soo my type but the hair color is off
(false disqualifier push -pull) she laughed and asked me where Im from ?
I said you are surely a Miami girl right?
she said : I'm cuban in spanish.
I said in english "Oh I'm from NY." she kept smiled at the mixed compliment in her head.
I told her hey lets talk to go make money and come back.
She then came back and sat next to me then I said cool you took me by surprise back so fast ? are the guys being cheap tonight?(me being an insider)she saw what I was drinking and she said OMG thats my favorite drink then she asked me in alow voice tone if I could invite her a drink (I saw this as too soon and a shit test for me to invest like every chump) I cut her off by saying "I see you have good taste , thats a good start." "what else are you good at?"
she then starts pulling out her bills and start counting her one dollar bills infront of me, it was like the size of my fist.
I then went pause and clueless what discussion topic or how to trabsition as she was coming back to sit next to me .
So she was like (OK why isnt he talking?) so I started watching the game again, so then I reintiated conversation by random thing that wasnt going anywhere and she looked at me like WTF? then I transition with I mean you are kindah cute "I think you would do fine here and in vegas too" (I was trying out a stupid routine but it didnt stick )
"you need to work on somethings here and there" (me being an insider, a critique from a manager to elicit qualification keep her on her toes) , abit insecure she said "oh why vegas,why not here?"
then she thought I was an asshole cause she didnt know vegas is capital of the world in strip clubs,
it was obvious she was a non pro at that point.
I had just screened out a proffesional materialista from a normal chick that just got into this recently.
I failed to try to explain or calibrate was in damage control it but it was too late,she got confused and she said "enjoy your night" she got up and walked to the table infront of me.
a group of older men.she them started to flirt with them and she got them to get her a drink.
she was having conversation with one specific guy there and I acted like I didnt give a shit.
HB Cuban Strip bodylanguage was towards me and she kept looking at me to see of I noticed her or getting me to react jealous, but I started flirting hardcore to other girls that would come,
I started to BT spike the other dancers and frame their touching me as "Ooh theres something about that touch, its like when my last freaky GF would want sex"
"you must be really sweet girl but a naughty girl behind closed doors"
and it seem to work to grab attention get them to kino me infront of HB Cuban Strip.
Some other girl came back just to kiss my neck, but some man with money took her away.
She d look at me and she play with her hair over and over everytime she would look at ,e with ocrner of her eyes Id have a smile on my face or not giving a shit being in my own space being cool in my own skin.Enjoying my time.
HB Cuban Strip was definately a non pro.a pro doesnt sit with a guy for a long time she loses money.
the problem now was I kept getting interupted by girls wanting tips as I tried to watch the game.
anyways HB Cuban Strip was in typical vibbing mode with thw older men group and the manager pulled her away to put her on the stage, i went to bathroom.
when she came around my way she was plain rude and asked me "my tip please" with a disgusted face.
(I remember that she is a latina, aside from the typical stripper persona )
I didnt want to seem reactive or jealous and yet no be a passive bottom who tolerates bad behaviour so I told her
"hey whatsup" to get her to stay to talk and she said "my tip for my dance"
I said "a dance now? Im getting warmed up now lets talk for a bit" she said "its only one dollar okay!" I said
"yeah so it shouldnt be a big deal right? come back after you make some more money so we can talk "
she walked away pissed and then she sat infront with the older guys again and she still look towards me and play with her hair.Still corner of her eye.
Weird , I blew the set and I tried gaming the other chicks there but they seem more pros than her. directly asking for the money and no talk.
anyways I walked out cause I kept getting half of my drink taken away as if I had finished and was kindah pissed off about that.
I asked when the manager of the shift came and they told me he had left.so I bailed out.
but I was smelling like women or like If I had just fucked a chick. weird night messed up a bit but Im looking at some stuff I got to work on.
Some points i learned here:
*If you want to take her home same night avoid weekend busy nights.
*Dont get drunk or drink more than one drink of alcohol.Cause your perceptions of diferentiating IOIs from Fake IOIs become more difficult.So you can easily fall for a trap.
*Dont over NEG.some girls are Pros and some are local 7s that are kindah new.the latter are too insecure so any NEG or mixed signal that she doesnt understand what you are talking about seems like you are a JERK.Best thing is to break her state right before asking you for a tip or a dance, beat her to it and lead the convo you do a takeaway of telling her to do her job and to comeback you want to tell her something.
*As you talk with her figure out get her to talk more than you, its hard at first but its good for practice and compliment her by you throwing in some releases or softners like
"you are just saying that to make me like you"
"stop being a copy cat,I cant talk to you anymore"
"I bet you are a really sweet outside of this world"
"are you being real with me here"
*Make her prove herself, example:ask about that tatoo she has and what does it mean, usually its her middle name and call her by that name her real name. (you start talking to the real person not stripper) act like you are with her yet its cool she is there to make money, send her off to chumps .(this is a compliance ladder like pimp game)
*Dont DROOL over how HOT she is.Be chill and yet be proactive and get her to talk more about herself. Show dominance.Then you tell her that you find her somewhat cool but you are guessing she is being real with you, (this is to get her to prove herself by being real if she leaves the club with you or how she is outside the enviroment)This is tricky cause most are LSE girls so its bordeline comfort of being too interested with show of dominance, you judge her actions her identity.once you convince her of knowing her by her talking about herself and you throw cold reads, she is convinced you know her then you LEAD by dominance get her to get dressed and go out of the club or meet up after the shift etc.
( showing you are a leader higher value in her world,pimp game?)*prerequiste she has to think you know her well by her qualifying herself and opening more about herself (MIrror rapport with slight disinterest, LSE)
* be somewhat challenging to please not like the eager guys to give out money to any girl just because she asks him ,he isn't obligated to do so.
she will respect you inside but outside it will piss her off a bit yet be cooler than her and non reactive.
*You dont have to dhv that you dated a stripper before, it makes you seem like a loser or a try hard liar.Make her assume by your behaviour that you are preselected.It doesnt work telling her in the venue.
*As a requirement before you go to these places Get yourself in state that you are awesome and you love yourself.Reaffirm your frame control as here you can get easily sucked into her frame and end up overspending in exchange for nothing.Remember that strippers or dancers have massive frame control with her pussy power.She acts out of social norms to make a living.Calibrate how you would treat any girl you just met,dont be eager to buy her dances or drinks to keep her attention cause she will intrepret you as any typical guy who goes there for fun and wont take you seriously to get you laid for free.
*Push yourself to experiment within your conversation with these women,even if you mess up you will have fun and learn something out of it.Conversation skills here are crucial any flinch while you have starting to build attraction to you ,the hesitation or self doubt will kill it within a quarter of a second and you are done gaming her.
*Reframe any behaviour as her being insecure and her being another pretty face.Remeber that they are master of social pressure mirror them and reframe any sort of shit test .papa sandros
I went tonight cause I had an arguement and wanted to watch the a basketball game,ok so I wanted to game strippers as a self challenge.so I went cause I know a manager, he wasnt there and shift had just changed ,Its been awhile I havent set foot in a strip club.
there was a cuban voluptous 20 yr old really hot . we will call her HB Cuban Strip and I opened saying that
she has sexy way to her body its too bad she isnt a blonde. her body is soo my type but the hair color is off
(false disqualifier push -pull) she laughed and asked me where Im from ?
I said you are surely a Miami girl right?
she said : I'm cuban in spanish.
I said in english "Oh I'm from NY." she kept smiled at the mixed compliment in her head.
I told her hey lets talk to go make money and come back.
She then came back and sat next to me then I said cool you took me by surprise back so fast ? are the guys being cheap tonight?(me being an insider)she saw what I was drinking and she said OMG thats my favorite drink then she asked me in alow voice tone if I could invite her a drink (I saw this as too soon and a shit test for me to invest like every chump) I cut her off by saying "I see you have good taste , thats a good start." "what else are you good at?"
she then starts pulling out her bills and start counting her one dollar bills infront of me, it was like the size of my fist.
I then went pause and clueless what discussion topic or how to trabsition as she was coming back to sit next to me .
So she was like (OK why isnt he talking?) so I started watching the game again, so then I reintiated conversation by random thing that wasnt going anywhere and she looked at me like WTF? then I transition with I mean you are kindah cute "I think you would do fine here and in vegas too" (I was trying out a stupid routine but it didnt stick )
"you need to work on somethings here and there" (me being an insider, a critique from a manager to elicit qualification keep her on her toes) , abit insecure she said "oh why vegas,why not here?"
then she thought I was an asshole cause she didnt know vegas is capital of the world in strip clubs,
it was obvious she was a non pro at that point.
I had just screened out a proffesional materialista from a normal chick that just got into this recently.
I failed to try to explain or calibrate was in damage control it but it was too late,she got confused and she said "enjoy your night" she got up and walked to the table infront of me.
a group of older men.she them started to flirt with them and she got them to get her a drink.
she was having conversation with one specific guy there and I acted like I didnt give a shit.
HB Cuban Strip bodylanguage was towards me and she kept looking at me to see of I noticed her or getting me to react jealous, but I started flirting hardcore to other girls that would come,
I started to BT spike the other dancers and frame their touching me as "Ooh theres something about that touch, its like when my last freaky GF would want sex"
"you must be really sweet girl but a naughty girl behind closed doors"
and it seem to work to grab attention get them to kino me infront of HB Cuban Strip.
Some other girl came back just to kiss my neck, but some man with money took her away.
She d look at me and she play with her hair over and over everytime she would look at ,e with ocrner of her eyes Id have a smile on my face or not giving a shit being in my own space being cool in my own skin.Enjoying my time.
HB Cuban Strip was definately a non pro.a pro doesnt sit with a guy for a long time she loses money.
the problem now was I kept getting interupted by girls wanting tips as I tried to watch the game.
anyways HB Cuban Strip was in typical vibbing mode with thw older men group and the manager pulled her away to put her on the stage, i went to bathroom.
when she came around my way she was plain rude and asked me "my tip please" with a disgusted face.
(I remember that she is a latina, aside from the typical stripper persona )
I didnt want to seem reactive or jealous and yet no be a passive bottom who tolerates bad behaviour so I told her
"hey whatsup" to get her to stay to talk and she said "my tip for my dance"
I said "a dance now? Im getting warmed up now lets talk for a bit" she said "its only one dollar okay!" I said
"yeah so it shouldnt be a big deal right? come back after you make some more money so we can talk "
she walked away pissed and then she sat infront with the older guys again and she still look towards me and play with her hair.Still corner of her eye.
Weird , I blew the set and I tried gaming the other chicks there but they seem more pros than her. directly asking for the money and no talk.
anyways I walked out cause I kept getting half of my drink taken away as if I had finished and was kindah pissed off about that.
I asked when the manager of the shift came and they told me he had left.so I bailed out.
but I was smelling like women or like If I had just fucked a chick. weird night messed up a bit but Im looking at some stuff I got to work on.
Some points i learned here:
*If you want to take her home same night avoid weekend busy nights.
*Dont get drunk or drink more than one drink of alcohol.Cause your perceptions of diferentiating IOIs from Fake IOIs become more difficult.So you can easily fall for a trap.
*Dont over NEG.some girls are Pros and some are local 7s that are kindah new.the latter are too insecure so any NEG or mixed signal that she doesnt understand what you are talking about seems like you are a JERK.Best thing is to break her state right before asking you for a tip or a dance, beat her to it and lead the convo you do a takeaway of telling her to do her job and to comeback you want to tell her something.
*As you talk with her figure out get her to talk more than you, its hard at first but its good for practice and compliment her by you throwing in some releases or softners like
"you are just saying that to make me like you"
"stop being a copy cat,I cant talk to you anymore"
"I bet you are a really sweet outside of this world"
"are you being real with me here"
*Make her prove herself, example:ask about that tatoo she has and what does it mean, usually its her middle name and call her by that name her real name. (you start talking to the real person not stripper) act like you are with her yet its cool she is there to make money, send her off to chumps .(this is a compliance ladder like pimp game)
*Dont DROOL over how HOT she is.Be chill and yet be proactive and get her to talk more about herself. Show dominance.Then you tell her that you find her somewhat cool but you are guessing she is being real with you, (this is to get her to prove herself by being real if she leaves the club with you or how she is outside the enviroment)This is tricky cause most are LSE girls so its bordeline comfort of being too interested with show of dominance, you judge her actions her identity.once you convince her of knowing her by her talking about herself and you throw cold reads, she is convinced you know her then you LEAD by dominance get her to get dressed and go out of the club or meet up after the shift etc.
( showing you are a leader higher value in her world,pimp game?)*prerequiste she has to think you know her well by her qualifying herself and opening more about herself (MIrror rapport with slight disinterest, LSE)
* be somewhat challenging to please not like the eager guys to give out money to any girl just because she asks him ,he isn't obligated to do so.
she will respect you inside but outside it will piss her off a bit yet be cooler than her and non reactive.
*You dont have to dhv that you dated a stripper before, it makes you seem like a loser or a try hard liar.Make her assume by your behaviour that you are preselected.It doesnt work telling her in the venue.
*As a requirement before you go to these places Get yourself in state that you are awesome and you love yourself.Reaffirm your frame control as here you can get easily sucked into her frame and end up overspending in exchange for nothing.Remember that strippers or dancers have massive frame control with her pussy power.She acts out of social norms to make a living.Calibrate how you would treat any girl you just met,dont be eager to buy her dances or drinks to keep her attention cause she will intrepret you as any typical guy who goes there for fun and wont take you seriously to get you laid for free.
*Push yourself to experiment within your conversation with these women,even if you mess up you will have fun and learn something out of it.Conversation skills here are crucial any flinch while you have starting to build attraction to you ,the hesitation or self doubt will kill it within a quarter of a second and you are done gaming her.
*Reframe any behaviour as her being insecure and her being another pretty face.Remeber that they are master of social pressure mirror them and reframe any sort of shit test .papa sandros
FR: oscars date with latina and I get massive LMR wants to go home
FR: oscars date with latina and I get massive LMR wants to go home
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so I was out of town and a girl Ive been on and off talking on the phone and text, she is 37 yrs old but looks decently good for her age.
(I had opened direct on her previously and we ve been flirting and Ive been more masculine dominant wo being too pushy)
I told her I was out of town and she text me she wanted to fly out to see me since she wanted to watch the oscars.I thought she was kidding and said she was serious and then we were talking about cuddling and she said "I want to see you."
we made arrangements for the next day to spend time together and have our own oscars party.
I got in town and and picked her up in my car
she was excited and yet felt LMR when we I surprised her and took her to south beach hotel then we were in a room together but i roleplayed future projection pretend we are out of town and "we are bfgf".
She look at tv and I'd escalate to arouse her w touching caressing and kissing. At comercial breaks we'd make out and cuddled but she pulled back quickly and would stand up from the bed when shed get horny.
Then she said were not having sex and I lol'd.
She saw I was chilling and offered her a drink and she said oh no im not getting drunk I will drink water And used disqualifiers like
"im too old for you" "I have to get up early tomorrow".etc.
We'd get on the bed and I'd escalate and push back.
Id use NLP routines to get her aroused more and shed want to change subject.
at times when I pulled back She'd want me too push more then I was kissing her neck as I did a slight hairpull as I licked her neck
then she got up went to bathroom (prob soaking WET)
and then she came out and said
"I have to go".
I said "why soo soon."
(an hour and half battle w LMR).
I then make out again heaviliy and she was like
"I cant.im older than you and this might get farther than i expected so i have to go." she then she asked me if i was mad i said no.I acted like it wasnt a big deal and we left the room.
As I dropped her off during the drive we were building comfort .
She said that I'm smart ,creative and intellectual and rare guy
that alot of girls probably throw themselves at me.
As I got to her car and we kissed again and we went on our own separate ways.
Now, I dont hear from her.
Im confused.
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Jesse Charger says:
My overall experience with South Florida Latina chicks is that they're more difficult than Caucasian women. More LMR, more stupid games, more sexual inhibitions, more trying to hard ignore you on the approach, and the list goes on. And that's IF they like you
Then again, a lot of them DO have big azzes So kudos to you for trying to crack them.
I don't see anything you did that stood out as being "incorrect". It sounded pretty solid.
I think she wants to test you to see if you're marriage material, so she's resisting the sex and seeing how far you'll go to chase her down. A lot of Latin women are looking for husbands, not boyfriends. Also, she's an older single woman AND Latina, so she'll be especially sensitive to looking for a potential husband.
I say:
I have to review Arousal sections on SNLs.Microloop theory.Sinn's product on Logistics, turne her on Oct 2010 Inner Circle CD.
Sexual tension by vin di carlo.Non Verbal sexual communication.
physical push -pull builds sexual tension
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so I was out of town and a girl Ive been on and off talking on the phone and text, she is 37 yrs old but looks decently good for her age.
(I had opened direct on her previously and we ve been flirting and Ive been more masculine dominant wo being too pushy)
I told her I was out of town and she text me she wanted to fly out to see me since she wanted to watch the oscars.I thought she was kidding and said she was serious and then we were talking about cuddling and she said "I want to see you."
we made arrangements for the next day to spend time together and have our own oscars party.
I got in town and and picked her up in my car
she was excited and yet felt LMR when we I surprised her and took her to south beach hotel then we were in a room together but i roleplayed future projection pretend we are out of town and "we are bfgf".
She look at tv and I'd escalate to arouse her w touching caressing and kissing. At comercial breaks we'd make out and cuddled but she pulled back quickly and would stand up from the bed when shed get horny.
Then she said were not having sex and I lol'd.
She saw I was chilling and offered her a drink and she said oh no im not getting drunk I will drink water And used disqualifiers like
"im too old for you" "I have to get up early tomorrow".etc.
We'd get on the bed and I'd escalate and push back.
Id use NLP routines to get her aroused more and shed want to change subject.
at times when I pulled back She'd want me too push more then I was kissing her neck as I did a slight hairpull as I licked her neck
then she got up went to bathroom (prob soaking WET)
and then she came out and said
"I have to go".
I said "why soo soon."
(an hour and half battle w LMR).
I then make out again heaviliy and she was like
"I cant.im older than you and this might get farther than i expected so i have to go." she then she asked me if i was mad i said no.I acted like it wasnt a big deal and we left the room.
As I dropped her off during the drive we were building comfort .
She said that I'm smart ,creative and intellectual and rare guy
that alot of girls probably throw themselves at me.
As I got to her car and we kissed again and we went on our own separate ways.
Now, I dont hear from her.
Im confused.
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Jesse Charger says:
My overall experience with South Florida Latina chicks is that they're more difficult than Caucasian women. More LMR, more stupid games, more sexual inhibitions, more trying to hard ignore you on the approach, and the list goes on. And that's IF they like you
Then again, a lot of them DO have big azzes So kudos to you for trying to crack them.
I don't see anything you did that stood out as being "incorrect". It sounded pretty solid.
I think she wants to test you to see if you're marriage material, so she's resisting the sex and seeing how far you'll go to chase her down. A lot of Latin women are looking for husbands, not boyfriends. Also, she's an older single woman AND Latina, so she'll be especially sensitive to looking for a potential husband.
I say:
I have to review Arousal sections on SNLs.Microloop theory.Sinn's product on Logistics, turne her on Oct 2010 Inner Circle CD.
Sexual tension by vin di carlo.Non Verbal sexual communication.
physical push -pull builds sexual tension
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Frame control from IODs :correct way to react to her bad behaviour is to look at her like she said something retarded
Putting a Price on Yourself"
i go out to clubs and see guys with no game and it's seriously pathetic.
let me explain why i say that. what seperates the guys with game from the guys that don't is that the guys that don't are way too fucking immediate with all the chicks they are talking to. she does something like backturns and he kino's her from behind. horrible.
then you see some chill black dude talking to some girl. she says something he doesn't like and he gives her this disapproving glare and pulls back a little.
you could call this a technique, but really it is one person having standards and the other person being desperate.
work out all of your desperation kinks. stop nonverbally rewarding bad behavior
i go out to clubs and see guys with no game and it's seriously pathetic.
let me explain why i say that. what seperates the guys with game from the guys that don't is that the guys that don't are way too fucking immediate with all the chicks they are talking to. she does something like backturns and he kino's her from behind. horrible.
then you see some chill black dude talking to some girl. she says something he doesn't like and he gives her this disapproving glare and pulls back a little.
you could call this a technique, but really it is one person having standards and the other person being desperate.
work out all of your desperation kinks. stop nonverbally rewarding bad behavior
Modify Behavior: How Intention Maps Work by Sebastian Drake
Modify Behavior: How Intention Maps Work
by Sebastian Drake of theApproach
October 2nd, 2006
How come some men never stay single for more than three weeks? How come some men can't get anything more than a one night stand to save their life? And how come some men, who really aren't all that great looking, get multiple girlfriends in open relationships. Girls are beautiful, intelligent, ambitious, with high self-esteem, accepting an arrangement that most people would think impossible.
Is it luck? Is it fate?
I present to you one word: Intention.
Everyone behaves differently around different people. You will be a different person around your grandmother than you are around your boss than you are around your accountant than you are around your father.
You'll act differently. Your grandmother, most likely, thinks you don't use vulgarities ever. Your best friend might have a little different perception of you.
People are maleable - women especially. We behave differently in different situations. Now, to answer the question of why some men get exactly what they want, and why others get the same exact thing that they absolutely don't want, I present to you the Intention Map:
An Intention Map is a tool to modify behavior. The short version is, you will get the other person feeling and acting around you the way you want them to. There are three primary phases of an Intention Map:
1. Screening
2. Qualifying
3. Sex»/Afterglow
But we are getting ahead of ourselves. Let us start at the beginning.
THE INTENTION:
To get what you want, you must have a clear, defined idea of what you want. The first thing to do, before you begin intention mapping, is to make a list of traits you want in all women. Traits might include ambitious, creative, hard-working, caring, affectionate.
Next, figure out what specific roles you want in your life. Do you want an open relationship? A really casual "friends with benefits" situation? Exclusivity? Whatever you want, that is good - just know what you want.
Then make a list of traits that you'd want for that specific relationship. Some traits I find are good in certain relationships:
EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS:
Loyal
Feminine
Traditional
Conservative
OPEN RELATIONSHIPS:
Independant
Understanding
Open-minded
Non-jealous
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS:
Spontaneous
Exciting
Independant
Experimental
Note that this isn't your list necessarily. What you want from an exclusive relationship may vary. Many men don't want a highly independant woman in an exclusive relationship - if you're going to only be with one person, you want them available on your schedule. Some men might like an exclusive relationship with an independant woman though, so you fill in your own list.
Now, the behavior modification.
Take the list of qualities that you want in all women:
Ambitious
Creative
Hard-working
Caring
Affectionate
Add in the list of qualities that you want in the specific relationship you want:
Independant
Understanding
Open-minded
Non-jealous
Now, it's time to get to the three phases of an intention map.
What you are going to do is you are going to get the girl saying she is this quality, you are going to reinforce to her that you like because she is this quality, and you are going to reinforce it again during and immediately after sex».
PHASE ONE: SCREENING
Screening is a technique that increases compliance, and shows that you have standards. Examples of screening questions include:
"I like ambitious people. Do you consider yourself to be ambitious?"
"All my friends are really into a lot of creative things. What creative things do you do?"
"Do you work hard for things you believe in?"
"You strike me as a really caring person. Am I right?"
"I can tell you're very loyal, but are you also affectionate?"
"Ugh, you see all these girls around who can't get anything done without a man helping them.""Tell me, are you independant?"
"A lot of my friends don't have traditional values. Do you consider yourself to be an understanding person?"
"Are you open-minded to seeing and trying new things?"
"You don't get jealous easily, do you?"
Those questions are all weighted towards getting what you want. A select few women will be unable to meet your criteria. For instance, not all women are creative. It's up to you what you're willing to compromise on in your list - I'm absolutely unwilling to compromise on a woman having high self-esteem, so I'll dismiss girls who have low self-esteem. I also like girls who love art, music, and theatre - but I'm willing to compromise on that if she has other interests I enjoy, like nature or sports.
It's up to you what you're willing to compromise on. The fact is, if she likes you, she'll try to give you the right answers to your screening questions. Most people consider themsleves to be ambitious, caring, open-minded, etc. She's going to say she is either way - the key is, by saying it, she'll precedence herself to it, and want to act that way around you especially. So though she might not be a very open-minded person around her friends from church, she will be around you ;)
PHASE TWO: QUALIFICATION
Now, you will simply tell her that she meets your standards, and that she has the specific type of trait you're looking for. This needs to be Situationally Relevant as we say - so do it after she does something to display that trait, or immediately after a screening question saying she is.
"You're so ambitious. I like that."
"I like that you're so creative."
"Thank you for being so caring. It makes me feel really good."
"Mmmm, you're so affectionate."
"I like that you're so independant."
"Wow, you're so understanding of things outside of what you were raised with. That's amazing."
"It's really cool to hang out with such an open-minded girl."
"It's nice to spend time with you - you're so secure in yourself and never get jealous. I love it."
Ever hear the expression, "Treat a man as you would have him become." There was a typo in it. it should have read, "Treat a woman as you would have her become." Tell her she's exactly what you want - and she'll want to live up to that. True story:
I was driving with my girlfriend at the time to spend the Fourth of July at a beachhouse. Even after a year and a half together, just coincidentally, I'd never driven a car with her in the passenger seat. We'd been in other cars together, and lots of taxis, but living near each other in a city with good public transportation, I'd never driven her.
Well, I just coincidentally happened to be going the speed limit. Really, a coincidence to the extreme. And yet she said to me, "Sebastian... you can tell so much about a person by the way they drive. My sister's boyfriend swerves all over the road, honks, gets angry, cuts people off. Goes too fast, too slow - and you can tell he doesn't have his life together. You're going just the speed limit, nothing's bothering you... it says a lot about who you are."
Here's the thing - I *knew* what she was doing, and I *still* drove perfectly for the rest of the weekend. People don't want to go against praise that they get. So tell people that they are exactly what you want them to be.
(note: this also works great when you're getting service from a company. Whenever something's going wrong at an airport, I always say, "Thank you so much. Your airline is always really, really good to me, so I feel so comfortable when I'm flying with you folks." It results in a higher quality of service as they try to live up to that)
PHASE THREE: SEX»/AFTERGLOW
During sex» is a special time. We get into a state of raw emotion, and let loose our logical constraints. During sex», qualification goes into the subconscious to the extreme. So you can say things like:
"I love making love to such an ambitious girl baby."
"Mmmm, baby, how creative you are turns me on so much."
"Oh yeah, I love being with you here - you're so caring, take care of me, make me feel so good."
"You're so affectionate."
There is also the afterglow, immediately after sex».
"Wow, it's great being with such an independant girl."
"It feels good lying next to a girl so open-minded."
"Damn baby, you're so open-minded. It shows when we're in bed too."
"I love that you're so secure in yourself. We're here together and you're not worrying, you're calm and in the moment."
The other thing you do during the Afterglow stage is you set up the TIMEFRAME of the relationship. You do this after you've been having sex» for a little while, perhaps three weeks. So, for an open-relationship where you're seeing each other once a week or so, you'll say.
"You're so great, baby. We spend amazing time together, and then you're independant and have a really great life besides just me. The time we spend together is amazing, and yet you understand that I've got a really busy life. It feels great to be with you."
With this system, you can develop your intention throughout the interaction: Before you ever have sex», she'll be saying she's what you want, and you'll be telling her she's what you want and that's why you like that. During sex», you say that you feel good making love to her because she's want you want, and after sex» you'll say it feels good lying next to her because she's what you want.
Enforced and reinforced so many times, this shapes and modifies her behavior. She might still be close-minded around her friends, but she'll be open-minded around you and yours - and that's what counts.
Figure out what you want, and go get it playboy! God bless,
Sebby
by Sebastian Drake of theApproach
October 2nd, 2006
How come some men never stay single for more than three weeks? How come some men can't get anything more than a one night stand to save their life? And how come some men, who really aren't all that great looking, get multiple girlfriends in open relationships. Girls are beautiful, intelligent, ambitious, with high self-esteem, accepting an arrangement that most people would think impossible.
Is it luck? Is it fate?
I present to you one word: Intention.
Everyone behaves differently around different people. You will be a different person around your grandmother than you are around your boss than you are around your accountant than you are around your father.
You'll act differently. Your grandmother, most likely, thinks you don't use vulgarities ever. Your best friend might have a little different perception of you.
People are maleable - women especially. We behave differently in different situations. Now, to answer the question of why some men get exactly what they want, and why others get the same exact thing that they absolutely don't want, I present to you the Intention Map:
An Intention Map is a tool to modify behavior. The short version is, you will get the other person feeling and acting around you the way you want them to. There are three primary phases of an Intention Map:
1. Screening
2. Qualifying
3. Sex»/Afterglow
But we are getting ahead of ourselves. Let us start at the beginning.
THE INTENTION:
To get what you want, you must have a clear, defined idea of what you want. The first thing to do, before you begin intention mapping, is to make a list of traits you want in all women. Traits might include ambitious, creative, hard-working, caring, affectionate.
Next, figure out what specific roles you want in your life. Do you want an open relationship? A really casual "friends with benefits" situation? Exclusivity? Whatever you want, that is good - just know what you want.
Then make a list of traits that you'd want for that specific relationship. Some traits I find are good in certain relationships:
EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS:
Loyal
Feminine
Traditional
Conservative
OPEN RELATIONSHIPS:
Independant
Understanding
Open-minded
Non-jealous
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS:
Spontaneous
Exciting
Independant
Experimental
Note that this isn't your list necessarily. What you want from an exclusive relationship may vary. Many men don't want a highly independant woman in an exclusive relationship - if you're going to only be with one person, you want them available on your schedule. Some men might like an exclusive relationship with an independant woman though, so you fill in your own list.
Now, the behavior modification.
Take the list of qualities that you want in all women:
Ambitious
Creative
Hard-working
Caring
Affectionate
Add in the list of qualities that you want in the specific relationship you want:
Independant
Understanding
Open-minded
Non-jealous
Now, it's time to get to the three phases of an intention map.
What you are going to do is you are going to get the girl saying she is this quality, you are going to reinforce to her that you like because she is this quality, and you are going to reinforce it again during and immediately after sex».
PHASE ONE: SCREENING
Screening is a technique that increases compliance, and shows that you have standards. Examples of screening questions include:
"I like ambitious people. Do you consider yourself to be ambitious?"
"All my friends are really into a lot of creative things. What creative things do you do?"
"Do you work hard for things you believe in?"
"You strike me as a really caring person. Am I right?"
"I can tell you're very loyal, but are you also affectionate?"
"Ugh, you see all these girls around who can't get anything done without a man helping them.""Tell me, are you independant?"
"A lot of my friends don't have traditional values. Do you consider yourself to be an understanding person?"
"Are you open-minded to seeing and trying new things?"
"You don't get jealous easily, do you?"
Those questions are all weighted towards getting what you want. A select few women will be unable to meet your criteria. For instance, not all women are creative. It's up to you what you're willing to compromise on in your list - I'm absolutely unwilling to compromise on a woman having high self-esteem, so I'll dismiss girls who have low self-esteem. I also like girls who love art, music, and theatre - but I'm willing to compromise on that if she has other interests I enjoy, like nature or sports.
It's up to you what you're willing to compromise on. The fact is, if she likes you, she'll try to give you the right answers to your screening questions. Most people consider themsleves to be ambitious, caring, open-minded, etc. She's going to say she is either way - the key is, by saying it, she'll precedence herself to it, and want to act that way around you especially. So though she might not be a very open-minded person around her friends from church, she will be around you ;)
PHASE TWO: QUALIFICATION
Now, you will simply tell her that she meets your standards, and that she has the specific type of trait you're looking for. This needs to be Situationally Relevant as we say - so do it after she does something to display that trait, or immediately after a screening question saying she is.
"You're so ambitious. I like that."
"I like that you're so creative."
"Thank you for being so caring. It makes me feel really good."
"Mmmm, you're so affectionate."
"I like that you're so independant."
"Wow, you're so understanding of things outside of what you were raised with. That's amazing."
"It's really cool to hang out with such an open-minded girl."
"It's nice to spend time with you - you're so secure in yourself and never get jealous. I love it."
Ever hear the expression, "Treat a man as you would have him become." There was a typo in it. it should have read, "Treat a woman as you would have her become." Tell her she's exactly what you want - and she'll want to live up to that. True story:
I was driving with my girlfriend at the time to spend the Fourth of July at a beachhouse. Even after a year and a half together, just coincidentally, I'd never driven a car with her in the passenger seat. We'd been in other cars together, and lots of taxis, but living near each other in a city with good public transportation, I'd never driven her.
Well, I just coincidentally happened to be going the speed limit. Really, a coincidence to the extreme. And yet she said to me, "Sebastian... you can tell so much about a person by the way they drive. My sister's boyfriend swerves all over the road, honks, gets angry, cuts people off. Goes too fast, too slow - and you can tell he doesn't have his life together. You're going just the speed limit, nothing's bothering you... it says a lot about who you are."
Here's the thing - I *knew* what she was doing, and I *still* drove perfectly for the rest of the weekend. People don't want to go against praise that they get. So tell people that they are exactly what you want them to be.
(note: this also works great when you're getting service from a company. Whenever something's going wrong at an airport, I always say, "Thank you so much. Your airline is always really, really good to me, so I feel so comfortable when I'm flying with you folks." It results in a higher quality of service as they try to live up to that)
PHASE THREE: SEX»/AFTERGLOW
During sex» is a special time. We get into a state of raw emotion, and let loose our logical constraints. During sex», qualification goes into the subconscious to the extreme. So you can say things like:
"I love making love to such an ambitious girl baby."
"Mmmm, baby, how creative you are turns me on so much."
"Oh yeah, I love being with you here - you're so caring, take care of me, make me feel so good."
"You're so affectionate."
There is also the afterglow, immediately after sex».
"Wow, it's great being with such an independant girl."
"It feels good lying next to a girl so open-minded."
"Damn baby, you're so open-minded. It shows when we're in bed too."
"I love that you're so secure in yourself. We're here together and you're not worrying, you're calm and in the moment."
The other thing you do during the Afterglow stage is you set up the TIMEFRAME of the relationship. You do this after you've been having sex» for a little while, perhaps three weeks. So, for an open-relationship where you're seeing each other once a week or so, you'll say.
"You're so great, baby. We spend amazing time together, and then you're independant and have a really great life besides just me. The time we spend together is amazing, and yet you understand that I've got a really busy life. It feels great to be with you."
With this system, you can develop your intention throughout the interaction: Before you ever have sex», she'll be saying she's what you want, and you'll be telling her she's what you want and that's why you like that. During sex», you say that you feel good making love to her because she's want you want, and after sex» you'll say it feels good lying next to her because she's what you want.
Enforced and reinforced so many times, this shapes and modifies her behavior. She might still be close-minded around her friends, but she'll be open-minded around you and yours - and that's what counts.
Figure out what you want, and go get it playboy! God bless,
Sebby
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Screening by Franco Seduction
Screen Women Everywhere
by Franco on January 8, 2011
Screen women while you meet them
Well let´s assume that you are at the stage of being able to approach women everywhere and are enjoying the wonderful feeling of abundance which comes with good skills in meeting women.
Already at this stage it is very important for you to learn the art of screening women.
Why is that?
Because now that you are operating from a frame of abundance you will not have the time for every girl.
Another good reason is that when you screen women that has you come out automatically as the prize in the relationship with them and it increases your appeal a lot when women "sense" – and believe me they will ! – that you do not have time for everyone.Another good reason is that when you screen women that has you come out automatically as the prize in the relationship with them and it increases your appeal a lot when women "sense" – and believe me they will ! – that you do not have time for everyone.
Another important reason for screening women is: you do not get into trouble as you will learn to look more and more for better women not only basing your screening on nice rears and tits but especially on their personality features and especially on how they treat you.
So here are a few tips about something you can do from the beginning in order to improve your screening skills.
Your worst enemy in matters of screening women is: your own testosterone.
Your tremendous masculine sexual desire also impairs your judgment in matters of screening women and for that reason it is important to learn to control it while meeting women.
Of course the best way of controlling your masculine sexual desire is to be all the time sexually satisfied and that is why being an expert in seduction gives you so many advantages in matters of female relationships.
Male testosterone gives to a man an extreme urge to discharge sexually with a good looking woman.
This happens very often at the expenses of screening the woman. This is because male sexuality is visual: the vision of a beautiful rear or nice tits, beautiful mouth, teeth can trigger such a sexual drive in you that you forget other important issues.
In a word male evolutionary screening is not made to screen for the quality of her personality.
It is made to screen for physical qualities related with the skill of bear children. A man is in fact potentially in the condition of fathering many, many children with different women.
This is something you need to remember before you approach women.
There are some microseconds before the approach starts you can use for this.
Guys who still have problem approaching definitely cannot do this.
When you have reached the stage when approaching a woman will feel about the same like eating an ice cream before you approach her give yourself a short break, user your peripheral vision if needed and observe her with attention.
There are more and more studies about the role of intuition in the brain. They all say that if your intuition tells you something in most of the cases it is right.
Anyway to give you a guideline I list here a few things you need to observe.
Male pre-approach pre-screening = PP is something you do both with your intelligence and your guts just before you approach her. It will spare you lots of problems and have you invest your energy into the right women (right for you).
This list is subjective and reflects by own screening criteria. I am using it as an example.
If you like women who smoke 30 cigarettes in a day, spit on the ground and are so drunk that can barely walk just go for it. The idea is that you can screen a woman rapidly to decide will you approach her or the next woman depending on your gut feelings and a quick observation of her.
Remember: your gut feelings cannot fool you.
This list of course is based on my preferences but you can do your own list.
So some guidelines are:
- Does she dress well: this can be many things for example does her way of dressing express niceness, femininity or on the contrary a masculine attitude, does her way of dressing express a poor care of herself or does her way of dressing express conservativeness or a fight against the authority, is she dressed to express her political opinions and if so which are they and so on.
- The expression of her face is extremely important: is the expression of her face serious, meditative or does express anger, depression? If there is depression on her face avoid her like the plague, it means trouble! Does she smile and laugh a lot, is she relaxed and so on. For example I never approach women with a depressed facial expression, I just go for the next smiling girl!
- How she carries herself: position of her body, body movements: women are very expressive and they give messages about themselves by the way they carry themselves. For example a stiff and tough way of walking or sitting may express either a masculine attitude or depression or stress.
- Shoes: they tell a lot of a woman. If she chooses feminine shoes she may be of the passive, receptive, feminine type, if she has commando boots maybe she is aggressive, masculine. Some women choose shoes to express having an intellectual nature, some other choose them to express their free minded attitude, others choose them to express conservativeness, others do not choose them at all thus expressing their chaotic nature or at worst total naiveness and low level attitude.
- Signs of self-destructiveness on her body: like for example cutting herself, cigarette burns and any other symbol like this – is a sure indicator of a woman with a personality disorder. If you like tigers and a life without sleep just go for it. Experience in the field has taught me that signs of self-destructiveness in her outlook indicate a self-destructive personality in 95% of the cases.
When you walk on the streets and you are meeting women let your subconscious guide you.
For example "depressed face" hmm.. next girll! "happy smile" hmm.. approach! "happy smile + cuts on her wrist" next girl!
This is a kind of semiconscious fast pre-screening you can apply to your pick-ups as a tool to improve the quality of the women you have around.
Franco
by Franco on January 8, 2011
Screen women while you meet them
Well let´s assume that you are at the stage of being able to approach women everywhere and are enjoying the wonderful feeling of abundance which comes with good skills in meeting women.
Already at this stage it is very important for you to learn the art of screening women.
Why is that?
Because now that you are operating from a frame of abundance you will not have the time for every girl.
Another good reason is that when you screen women that has you come out automatically as the prize in the relationship with them and it increases your appeal a lot when women "sense" – and believe me they will ! – that you do not have time for everyone.Another good reason is that when you screen women that has you come out automatically as the prize in the relationship with them and it increases your appeal a lot when women "sense" – and believe me they will ! – that you do not have time for everyone.
Another important reason for screening women is: you do not get into trouble as you will learn to look more and more for better women not only basing your screening on nice rears and tits but especially on their personality features and especially on how they treat you.
So here are a few tips about something you can do from the beginning in order to improve your screening skills.
Your worst enemy in matters of screening women is: your own testosterone.
Your tremendous masculine sexual desire also impairs your judgment in matters of screening women and for that reason it is important to learn to control it while meeting women.
Of course the best way of controlling your masculine sexual desire is to be all the time sexually satisfied and that is why being an expert in seduction gives you so many advantages in matters of female relationships.
Male testosterone gives to a man an extreme urge to discharge sexually with a good looking woman.
This happens very often at the expenses of screening the woman. This is because male sexuality is visual: the vision of a beautiful rear or nice tits, beautiful mouth, teeth can trigger such a sexual drive in you that you forget other important issues.
In a word male evolutionary screening is not made to screen for the quality of her personality.
It is made to screen for physical qualities related with the skill of bear children. A man is in fact potentially in the condition of fathering many, many children with different women.
This is something you need to remember before you approach women.
There are some microseconds before the approach starts you can use for this.
Guys who still have problem approaching definitely cannot do this.
When you have reached the stage when approaching a woman will feel about the same like eating an ice cream before you approach her give yourself a short break, user your peripheral vision if needed and observe her with attention.
There are more and more studies about the role of intuition in the brain. They all say that if your intuition tells you something in most of the cases it is right.
Anyway to give you a guideline I list here a few things you need to observe.
Male pre-approach pre-screening = PP is something you do both with your intelligence and your guts just before you approach her. It will spare you lots of problems and have you invest your energy into the right women (right for you).
This list is subjective and reflects by own screening criteria. I am using it as an example.
If you like women who smoke 30 cigarettes in a day, spit on the ground and are so drunk that can barely walk just go for it. The idea is that you can screen a woman rapidly to decide will you approach her or the next woman depending on your gut feelings and a quick observation of her.
Remember: your gut feelings cannot fool you.
This list of course is based on my preferences but you can do your own list.
So some guidelines are:
- Does she dress well: this can be many things for example does her way of dressing express niceness, femininity or on the contrary a masculine attitude, does her way of dressing express a poor care of herself or does her way of dressing express conservativeness or a fight against the authority, is she dressed to express her political opinions and if so which are they and so on.
- The expression of her face is extremely important: is the expression of her face serious, meditative or does express anger, depression? If there is depression on her face avoid her like the plague, it means trouble! Does she smile and laugh a lot, is she relaxed and so on. For example I never approach women with a depressed facial expression, I just go for the next smiling girl!
- How she carries herself: position of her body, body movements: women are very expressive and they give messages about themselves by the way they carry themselves. For example a stiff and tough way of walking or sitting may express either a masculine attitude or depression or stress.
- Shoes: they tell a lot of a woman. If she chooses feminine shoes she may be of the passive, receptive, feminine type, if she has commando boots maybe she is aggressive, masculine. Some women choose shoes to express having an intellectual nature, some other choose them to express their free minded attitude, others choose them to express conservativeness, others do not choose them at all thus expressing their chaotic nature or at worst total naiveness and low level attitude.
- Signs of self-destructiveness on her body: like for example cutting herself, cigarette burns and any other symbol like this – is a sure indicator of a woman with a personality disorder. If you like tigers and a life without sleep just go for it. Experience in the field has taught me that signs of self-destructiveness in her outlook indicate a self-destructive personality in 95% of the cases.
When you walk on the streets and you are meeting women let your subconscious guide you.
For example "depressed face" hmm.. next girll! "happy smile" hmm.. approach! "happy smile + cuts on her wrist" next girl!
This is a kind of semiconscious fast pre-screening you can apply to your pick-ups as a tool to improve the quality of the women you have around.
Franco
Paul Janka gets called out as great person to learn from by jdog
The PDF on closing is legit. Janka is really thorough in explaining exactly what he does. I've never read anything else like it from a pickup guru. Pretty much all the other gurus look like total n00b virgins when you look at them in comparison to Janka.
Seriously, you wanna get good at game:
- Get in shape
- Get your fashion and grooming straight
- Get your inner game straight (Don't use pickup gurus as a source for this)
- Study Janka and 60 YoC*
- Approach
That's all you need to get good. Really. It's not a popular message because it involves effort instead of a magic bullet, but, that's how you get good.
(*If you're a total noob, also read the David D ebooks Double Your Dating and Attractin is Not a Choice. Still very good for basic mindset shifts. Also study David Shade for mindest/sexuality, and Hypnotica is good as well. Everyone else is garbage,.)
Quote:
Everyone else is garbage
..yea that's a horrible overstatement, lol
60 and Janka are dope and in my top 5, but Rob Judge, Chase Amante, Mark Manson, and Assanova are surely not garbage
I'd stay away from David Deangelo and Hypnotica...
and scrap the david shade and go with Sex God Method
Yes that was absolutely an overstatement but it was one with purpose.
The point is what I highlighted is all you need to get started. People get bogged down by reading too many authors and that ends up preventing them from taking action.
"The truth is simple. If it were complicated, everone would understand it.
- Hale Dwoskin
(Who said that at the beginning of a 20 CD set It's a true statement though.)
Pickup is really pretty simple.
Yes others have some good/insightful things to say. But, keeping it simple.... until you've gotten consistent results..... is the best way to go instead of studying more and more and more.
I had one question for the book though.
What happens if you live with mom?
Like for us age 18 - 24 (I'm 21 btw.)
EDIT: This is an awesome book. COMBINE THIS WITH THE CBT/ THE WORK/SEDONA = Win
Seriously, you wanna get good at game:
- Get in shape
- Get your fashion and grooming straight
- Get your inner game straight (Don't use pickup gurus as a source for this)
- Study Janka and 60 YoC*
- Approach
That's all you need to get good. Really. It's not a popular message because it involves effort instead of a magic bullet, but, that's how you get good.
(*If you're a total noob, also read the David D ebooks Double Your Dating and Attractin is Not a Choice. Still very good for basic mindset shifts. Also study David Shade for mindest/sexuality, and Hypnotica is good as well. Everyone else is garbage,.)
Quote:
Everyone else is garbage
..yea that's a horrible overstatement, lol
60 and Janka are dope and in my top 5, but Rob Judge, Chase Amante, Mark Manson, and Assanova are surely not garbage
I'd stay away from David Deangelo and Hypnotica...
and scrap the david shade and go with Sex God Method
Yes that was absolutely an overstatement but it was one with purpose.
The point is what I highlighted is all you need to get started. People get bogged down by reading too many authors and that ends up preventing them from taking action.
"The truth is simple. If it were complicated, everone would understand it.
- Hale Dwoskin
(Who said that at the beginning of a 20 CD set It's a true statement though.)
Pickup is really pretty simple.
Yes others have some good/insightful things to say. But, keeping it simple.... until you've gotten consistent results..... is the best way to go instead of studying more and more and more.
I had one question for the book though.
What happens if you live with mom?
Like for us age 18 - 24 (I'm 21 btw.)
EDIT: This is an awesome book. COMBINE THIS WITH THE CBT/ THE WORK/SEDONA = Win
are you TMI? Calibrating your game with SOI and IOIs make her chase you. emotional 101s
HEy just wanted to start up with something I found alot of guys do and I myself have done this.
Its giving TMI : Too Much Information.
Like:
-Talking too much
-Talking too much about yourself
-Giving Too much interest when she hasnt earned it.
-Giving Too much without pushing forward
-Giving her too much validation,pedestal effect
-Being Too Nice Too soon
-Being Too explicit on your intentions
-Being Too overly desperate for sex
-Giving yourself too cheap by not value yourself
-Being too reactive to her in everything she says or does
-Too much information on how you suck at life (being negative)
All of this Too much information will bite you back and make you work harder to get a girl into you. then you will try to compensate than coming from a position of strength.All women want a guy who has somesort of power in him,not just "confidence" but a strength of confidence coming from him.Its a vibe she feels about you.
Either way type of woman she is you have to show that you aren't that easy, that you are unique compared to regular guys.All of this shouldnt be explicated verbally cause its bragging and is a turn off, it should be demonstrated by your actions and behaviours. Eye contact ,posture, manerisms, how you lead her to the seduction etc..
So when you are having a convo with a girl if you want to know where you are at or see yourself making a stupid mistake of overinvesting in her too soon... just remember this post and tell yourself as you hear my voice saying:
"Dont TMI" "Dont TMI" "hold back a little and just dont TMI"
Thanks and Enjoy!
*Exception is if she already likes you ,then just dont fuck it up.
*if she has a sexual vibe to her already, then proceed to not overthink about the next step and just move forward with your seduction,cause she has already made the descion to be with you.just dont be too forceful or needy.DONT VERBALIZE THE SITUATION plausible deniability REMEBER THAT NOT ALL GIRLS ARE SECRET SOCIETY.
Its giving TMI : Too Much Information.
Like:
-Talking too much
-Talking too much about yourself
-Giving Too much interest when she hasnt earned it.
-Giving Too much without pushing forward
-Giving her too much validation,pedestal effect
-Being Too Nice Too soon
-Being Too explicit on your intentions
-Being Too overly desperate for sex
-Giving yourself too cheap by not value yourself
-Being too reactive to her in everything she says or does
-Too much information on how you suck at life (being negative)
All of this Too much information will bite you back and make you work harder to get a girl into you. then you will try to compensate than coming from a position of strength.All women want a guy who has somesort of power in him,not just "confidence" but a strength of confidence coming from him.Its a vibe she feels about you.
Either way type of woman she is you have to show that you aren't that easy, that you are unique compared to regular guys.All of this shouldnt be explicated verbally cause its bragging and is a turn off, it should be demonstrated by your actions and behaviours. Eye contact ,posture, manerisms, how you lead her to the seduction etc..
So when you are having a convo with a girl if you want to know where you are at or see yourself making a stupid mistake of overinvesting in her too soon... just remember this post and tell yourself as you hear my voice saying:
"Dont TMI" "Dont TMI" "hold back a little and just dont TMI"
Thanks and Enjoy!
*Exception is if she already likes you ,then just dont fuck it up.
*if she has a sexual vibe to her already, then proceed to not overthink about the next step and just move forward with your seduction,cause she has already made the descion to be with you.just dont be too forceful or needy.DONT VERBALIZE THE SITUATION plausible deniability REMEBER THAT NOT ALL GIRLS ARE SECRET SOCIETY.
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