Friday, September 30, 2011

Kim HB Minnesota Stripper feedback 9/29/11

Laura J: There is a Space there,not close.I kindah like her and her engagement she went away from this meeting with a good feeling.Manuver to try to see her,not a phony and Laura J:"I like her"

Vision 8- she is playing games

Lorrie C -She is intersted in you,serious. Im not seeing her playing games.

Gina Marie- she is not that into you, she has a man in her life.Let it go.if she wants to contact you fine m if she is intersted she will contqact you but she wont.

Indigo- she might not gotten the message, a kid or someone deleted it.
"oh you received a message but it got deleted sorry" if she gave you her number she is interested.
*****Marcelo:find an alternative route.he cant help you, go on your own.

Kibi-she is busy and is aggravated,and doesnt respond phone calls when she is in bad mood.your connection was true was real.
getting things going, she is times in her life she is moody and she doesnt return phone calls.*she is interested, not the right timing but interst is real.*

Marcelo:insist and he might help.

Saturday, September 24, 2011

storytelling - 3 steps excersize YES I FOUND OUT !!!!!

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Storytelling
The mark of an expert conversationalist is to be able to become an effective storyteller.

Human beings, by default, are enrapt by stories, or more specifically, a story-arc. Politicians use them to campaign, teachers use them to explain important concepts, comedians use them to make us laugh, and we use them constantly in our day-to-day interactions.

But what you probably didn’t notice is that the best communicators you know are fantastic story-tellers.

The Story Arc

Have you ever had a friend who would start telling you about something and it just seemed to go no where? Like, they’d start telling you about their trip to Chicago and after describing the hotel and maybe mentioning the concierge, the story just went no where?

Or have you ever known someone who consistently makes jokes that don’t completely make sense, or most people don’t ever seem to “get it?”

Or maybe you’re one of these people… Do people ever stop paying attention to you mid-story? Or do you have trouble making others laugh (intentionally, that is)?

Chances are, these people (or you), aren’t following a strong story arc. For whatever reason, humans have evolved to be absolutely fascinated when information is communicated in a certain pattern. This is true of just about any culture and background.

There are three main points of a story arc:

Set Up: The set up is exactly what it says, you’re setting the scene or the context for what you’re about to say. It’s the foundation of what’s about to be told, and if you don’t set up properly, then your stories, jokes and ideas will always seem to be random. People will consistently comment that you’re really random, weird or “off the wall.”

Content/Conflict: After setting up what you’re going to talk about, you get into the actual content. This can also be the “conflict” in your story. Whatever it is, it’s something that causes tension and expectancy. The content of your story needs to be intriguing and hook people into wanting to know what will happen next. If you don’t build much tension with the content of your stories, you will find people losing interest or get the feeling like you ramble on a lot.

Resolution: The resolution releases the tension from the conflict or content. Resolutions can come in forms of punchlines (for jokes), conclusions (for ideas), or just closure for a generic story. People who don’t resolve their stories and ideas well will often get blank stares when they’re finished speaking, or people asking them, “Yeah, and…?” not realizing that the story is finished.
When I was in college, my first roommate had a funny habit whenever he got drunk. He’d basically turn into a narcoleptic — he’d spontaneously fall asleep in strange places and at random moments. (Set up)

Well, literally the first night I knew this guy, he and I go out to some orientation party. We meet a couple girls and go back to their dorm with them. He and I are totally drunk and I notice he’s kind of stopped talking to his girl and is dozing off in the corner. Kind of weird, but it was like 3AM, so whatever. Suddenly, he says he’s going to go and gets up and leaves. I think nothing of it until I go home, wake up the next morning and he’s still not back. Hours pass and I start getting worried. (Content/Conflict)


It turns out that the guy went out into the hallway lobby, laid down on the floor and slept there the whole night. But not only that, he left his jacket in the girl’s room. So at like 9 in the morning he had to sneak back in, wake her up and take his jacket back. It was pretty hilarious at the time. But yeah, that was my college roommate. (Resolution)

Often adding a line like, “Yeah, that was my college roommate,” is good because it indicates that the story is finished and that you’re finished speaking.


I knew I wasn’t meant for the 9 to 5 world almost immediately. Out of college, I took a nice job at a prestigious bank in downtown Boston. (Setup)

I hated it from day one. In fact, I remember thinking about three hours into the first day, “I wonder how long I have to work here before I can leave?” (Conflict/Content)

My next thought was, “This is probably a bad sign.” (Resolution)

Notice that I allude to the conclusion in the beginning of my story. This is called “foreshadowing” and often helps people follow along. Also notice that it really doesn’t matter how long or short each component of the story is as long as you convey the correct information.

When most people talk about a crazy city, I don’t think they’ve ever been to South America. I lived down there for a few months last Spring and you see things every week that are just beyond our reality here. (Setup)

Like one night, we hopped in a cab to go to another night club. It was a Tuesday at about 4am. The taxi driver promptly turns around and asks us if we’d like to try some of his cocaine. We politely refuse. So the cabbie says in Spanish, “Fine, more for me.” He then proceeds to do lines of coke while driving 50mph with his knees. (Content/Conflict)


We all thought we were going to die that night. (Resolution)

All true stories by the way… At the end of this step, I will provide a lot of similar exercises to this for you to practice your storytelling. When I meet guys with poor conversational abilities, storytelling is almost always a glaring reason why.

Integrating Stories into Conversation

In the last section, we talked about “jump off points” in conversation and how that’s how we learn to relate to one another in conversation. The examples showed jump off points in individual sentences.

Well, in real life, people speak in more than sentences, they speak to each other in stories. So you’ll want to develop the ability to formulate entire STORIES around jump off points, as well as notice jump off points within entire stories.

This is actually much easier than it sounds, and you probably do it naturally with your friends and family in a lot of situations. The idea is to just do it consistently and naturally and with ANYBODY, including attractive women.

We’ve put together some in-depth exercises to complete Step 5 for you to practice just that.

What I’ve also noticed working with guys over the years, is that for those with trouble with conversation skills and storytelling, it takes quite a bit of practice for them. So if this is your particular problem area, you may want to continue to do the exercises while moving on through the program.


3 Responses to “Storytelling”
Tac Kit Diep says:
December 13, 2010 at 1:16 pm
structuring your life stories in that manner takes some time, again, bad habits are not easily removed out of your brain.

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Kevin says:
March 17, 2011 at 7:50 pm
I’ve heard people say to get good at storytelling, but this is the best breakdown of i’ve personally seen of it

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Hudson says:
July 9, 2011 at 1:45 pm
Wow, that’s really well explained. Thank you Mark.

Set up
Conflict/Content
Resolution
Then add: ‘ Yeah, that was my … ‘

question vs statements entropy post

Questions vs Statements
Generating Conversation

You can create good conversation out of thin air. It’s a skill, but it can be done. You don’t have to memorize anything or pretend you’re somebody else. You just have to master a few key concepts.

Creating threads of conversation through statement is far more powerful than questions. This is because it assumes rapport. Friends speak to each other in statements, not questions. Questions are a polite way of requesting information of someone. They create the frame that you desire something from her and she is obligated to fulfill your request. But statements make so that you’re constantly giving away information and value to the other person.

Statements give you a wider array of topics to choose from. Only broad questions feel socially acceptable. Specific and eccentric questioning comes off as odd and unattractive.

For instance, if you’ve been talking to a woman at a bar for a few minutes, saying, “I love olives in my drink. When I was a kid I used to eat them straight out of the jar,” is far more interesting than, “Do you like olives in your drink?” and waiting for her response. In fact, that question is just plain weird. But that statement is interesting, and what many women would consider “cute.”

Questioning should be limited to a minimum. Often, asking her a question is unavoidable to get the conversation rolling. But once it’s rolling, you should make them few and far in between. Many guys talking to a girl in the “interview” style of conversation, which puts the girl on the spot, creates no rapport, and will drive her away.

Instead of incessant questioning, you want to develop a skill called cold-reading. Cold-reading is a skill where you’re able to intuitively “know” something about someone else without actually knowing it.

It’s like being a psychic without the cheesiness.

For our purposes, cold-reading is just a way of creating interesting statements rather than asking questions for information. You don’t ask the question you want to know, but instead you make a mild prediction.

Instead of asking her a question about herself, you guess the answer to your question and then state it. Here are some examples:

“Where are you from?” translates to: “You look like a California girl.”
“What do you do for work?” translates to: “You seem to be a creative person. I bet your job is interesting.”
“How do you guys know each other?” translates to: “You guys look like you’ve been friends for a long time.”

In each situation, the statement makes an educated guess and engages the woman far more than any question will. Instead of asking her about herself, you’re TELLING her about herself. The only thing people love more than talking about themselves is hearing about themselves. But what if you’re wrong?

That’s the best part! A lot of guys worry about cold-reading because they’re afraid to state something incorrect. This is where human nature works in our favor.

There’s no failing with cold-reading. With every cold-read, one of three things will happen:

1.You’ll be wrong, and she’ll correct you.
2.You’ll be wrong, and she’ll ask you what made you think that.
3.You’ll be right, and she’ll freak out at how perceptive you are.
In the first result, she’ll basically just answer the question you based your cold- read on and forget that you were wrong.

In the second result, you’ll be wrong, but she’ll be so intrigued by your guess, that she’ll create a deeper conversation thread about what you observed about her. Later in the chapter, we’ll talk about the importance of creating the deepest threads possible.

In the third result, the few times you get the cold-read correct, she will most likely be surprised at how perceptive you are about her. This will generate a tidal wave of rapport immediately and impress her at the same time.

Here are examples of a cold-read situation with all three different responses:
Me: “You look a bit bookish. You must be a student around here.”
Her: “No, I’m not. But I do love to read, though.”

Me: “You look a bit bookish. You must be a student around here.”
Her: “No. What made you think that? Is it my glasses? I just got them.”

Me: “You look a bit bookish. You must be a student around here.”
Her: “Yeah, I am! Wow, is it that obvious?”

You should cold-read as much as possible. Any time you’re asking a question that requires a factual answer; take a stab at the answer instead of asking.

One night, I met a girl from Chicago. I took a blind guess at which University she went to and was right. She couldn’t get over “how perceptive” I was for a good five minutes. She asked me how I knew and I told her I could tell she was on the intellectual side although I figured she probably moved because the school was located in a bad part of the city. Everything was dead-on despite being educated guesses. From that point on, she engaged me completely in conversation and was more than excited to hang out with me again.

Besides that, creating conversations out of statements protects you from “blanking.” You know when you are talking to a woman and all the sudden the conversation dies and you have no idea what to say? You’re sitting there awkwardly and the more uncomfortable you feel, the harder it is to come up with something. Eventually, you blurt out something boring like, “So… where do you live?”

Using statements can prevent this a great deal. Instead of fishing for a new conversation based on a generic question, you can simply comment about something or observe something. Never underestimate the power of non sequiturs.

“I’m thinking about quitting drinking.” “A car almost hit me on the way here tonight.” “My roommate eats peanut butter and mayonnaise sandwiches. It’s disgusting.” “I’ve always wanted to visit Africa.”

These will sometimes come across as random. But that’s because they are – they’re whatever thoughts are popping into your head at the moment. It’s better to be random and interesting than predictable and boring. Don’t be afraid to just blurt something out.

This works because unlike questions, statements require no investment from the other person. You can say whatever you want and there’s no implicit expectation for her to generate conversation as well.

Speaking in statements in this fashion – to generate spontaneous conversation – is important in that it forces you to share yourself with her. When you simply ask a girl questions, you aren’t giving any information about yourself, so it’s harder for her to trust you or build rapport. But if you simply state a fact about yourself and then talk about it, you are now sharing yourself AND giving her a chance to chime in with her input as well.
The amazing thing about speaking in statements is if you do it correctly, she will start asking YOU questions. This may not seem like a big deal, but it actually reorients the entire interaction. As I mentioned earlier, whoever is asking the questions is sub- communicating a desire to learn more about the other, i.e., interest, i.e., they’re attracted to them. If she is constantly seeking information from you, you now have the power to control the interaction – you control the information and the conversation.

To close out this section, I will provide two examples of conversation, from opener to creating threads through statements. Each example will start with a version showing the conversation with questions, and then I will go back through showing the conversation with statements. Pay attention to how much more alive and engaging the statements make the conversation.

Example 1: Questions
Me: “Hi, I’m Mark. How are you tonight?”
Her: “Good, and you?”
Me: “I’m great. I wanted to come over and meet you. Where are you from?”
Her: “I’m from Denmark.”
Me: “Really? That’s amazing. What brings you to the United States?”
Her: “I am studying at a university here.”
Me: “That’s great. Which university?”
Her: “University of Michigan.”
Me: “Cool. What are you studying?”
Her: “Anthropology. I’m working on my thesis right now. I go back to Denmark in a couple months.”

Example 1: Statements
Me: “Hi, I’m Mark. How are you tonight?”
Her: “Good, and you?”
Me: “I’m great. I wanted to come over and meet you. You have an accent. You’re not American.”
Her: “No, I’m not. I’m actually Danish.”
Me: “Cool. I like Danish – I eat them all the time.”
Her: *laughs*
Me: “You laugh at my stupid jokes too! That’s perfect. I don’t think I’ve ever met a Danish person. I’ve been to Holland and Germany, but never Denmark.”
Her: “Oh, it’s great. You need to go. When did you go to Europe?”
Me: “My brother and I went after I graduated high school. I desperately want to go back. I love traveling.”
Her: “Me too.”
Me: “If you could go anywhere in the world, for just one day, where would it be?”

Example 2: Questions
Me: “Hey. I’d appreciate it if you don’t stare at me, women intimidate me.” *smile*
Her: *laughs* “I’m sure.” *rolls eyes* Me: “What’s your name?”
Her: “Jane Doe, and you?”
Me: “Mark. What do you do Jane?”
Her: “I’m a tax attorney.”
Me: “Oh, how’s that?”
Her: “Not too glamorous, obviously. What about you?”
Me: “I just graduated. I’m looking for a job.”
Her: “Ah. Good luck.”
Me: “Where are you from?”
Her: “New York. And you?”
Me: “Texas.”
Her: “Really? You don’t sound like it.”

Example 2: Statements
Me: “Hey. I’d appreciate it if you didn’t stare at me, women intimidate me.” *smile*
Her: *laughs* “I’m sure.” *rolls eyes*
Me: “You just look like such a party girl, I don’t know if I could handle you.” *sarcastic smile*
Her: “Yeah. I’m as wild and crazy as they come.” *laughs*
Me: “I can see it. You’re probably holed up in some boring office job all week, and then come out and prey on young unsuspecting men.”
Her: *laughs; to her friends* “He’s so right! Oh my God, you can read me like a book.”
Me: “You’re probably like an accountant or something.”
Her: “I’m a tax attorney. Good guess. And you look too young to have a real job.”
Me: “Damn right! I just graduated… in body but not in mind.”
Her: “Good for you. Enjoy it while you can.”
Me: “You don’t look like a Boston girl.”
Her: “Well, I AM a Boston girl.”
Me: “Really? You don’t have that vibe at all. You seem much warmer.”
Her: “Nope. Born and raised here. Where are you from?”
Me: “Texas.” Her: “No way. You don’t have an accent at all.”
Me: “It’s because I’m civilized.”
Her: *laughs* “You’re too much.” *playfully touches my chest*
Me: “Whoa, what is this, a meat market? Get your hands off me!” *smiles*
Her: *laughs* “I love it!”


5 Responses to “Questions vs Statements”
Tac Kit Diep says:
December 13, 2010 at 1:13 pm
I do think, a good cold read can really help out in the pick-up process. Not that it always works but trying is recommendable.

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Madamada says:
December 16, 2010 at 9:11 pm
I’ve also found out a way to run out of conversation. It applies to the statement concept VS questions.

When you run out of “ideas” to talk, it’s often because it’s try hard, time consuming (you have to think), and also a bit hard to calibrate between modesty / need to impress.

Just translate the emotions and apply other ways to get off the pressure and generate new topic for conversations.

That’s how I view this statement concept instead of asking questions (which will require investment in the girl you’re talking too).

eg : you’re talking about work. (Yes, the most interesting subject in the world in 99 % case when the conversation runs dry)

Work = your clean crystal desk = taste of your arabic coffee = some funny delightful stories and social proofing = nice place to get holidays with white sand and excursions

I guess it’s a nice way to quickly bounce without thinking too much. Just visualize in terms of taste, colour, image (much more significative for me personally) as a shortcut.

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Kevin says:
March 17, 2011 at 7:47 pm
It seems I get better reactions when I tell girls my perception of them rather than me asking them, good stuff.

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Robinson S says:
June 20, 2011 at 3:44 pm
This is very simple but a subtle way to change the tone of the conversation. I’d heard it before but never seen it illustrated this well. Cold reading is fun. Even when you are way, way off.

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Hudson says:
July 3, 2011 at 12:35 pm
I learned the most from the following sentences:

It’s better to be random and interesting than predictable and boring.
There’s no failing with cold-reading.
Never underestimate the power of non sequiturs. “I’ve always wanted to see Africa.” Just blurt something out!

This is brilliant. I love it.

What I’m gonna blurt out to the girl(s) is the following as this is what I’m thinking all the time:
“I will kiss you in a few minutes.” I bet this will create some emotions in her and some reactions on her side even though it’s just a statement (of intent).

“I want you to come with me.” That’s what I’m gonna blurt out randomly after 15-20 minutes in set.

Hudson

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Monday, September 19, 2011

FR:blonde hottie exchange eye contact and then ignores me RIP, rejection.

Hey Sandy,

Stuff like that happens to everybody, myself included. You just have to let it go. Sometimes girls are more interested in other guys.

Although losing the weight will help a lot. Definitely recommend doing that.

Don't let chicks ignoring you get to you. It's one of those "it's only as big of a problem as you let it be" types of things.

But yes, definitely start working out. It makes a big difference.

Mark

So last night I was depressed over her rejection adn her checkingout some chode.this is what trip said:Typical: he ignored her, she wanted him.
As I said, if you stare at a girl when she is not looking at you, she knows this and that's not attractive. I said, I don't know if you do that or not.
Notice, those two things I just stated above are the opposite of each other.
When you stare at a girl, you've already got her on a pedestal and that's needy behavior. When you get upset because another guy gets her, that's needy behavior.

Yes, that's one of the basics. Girls want and need a challenge. That's why we tease. That's why we have them qualify themselves to us. That's why we present ourselves as high value.


Abercrombie, floppy hair, sandals, dude, don't you know that's the style?


Eye contact is one of the most powerful things . . . WHEN she's giving you eye contact back. When you're giving her eye contact and she's not even looking at you, that's not eye contact. That's staring. That's creepy. That's needy. That's desperate.


You become spectator and bodyguard? Where does the "bodyguard" aspect come from? If you're spectating, that's bad to begin with. Bodyguard doesn't even come into play unless the girl LIKES you.


Yes, forced celibacy sucks. The only way to change that is either hire a prostitute or straighten your head up.


Glad the book is helping, and is clear for you. That was the intention.
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Abercrombie, floppy hair, sandals, dude, don't you know that's the style?
LOL.NAh man I dont see it working for me.too gay


Eye contact is one of the most powerful things . . . WHEN she's giving you eye contact back. When you're giving her eye contact and she's not even looking at you, that's not eye contact. That's staring. That's creepy. That's needy. That's desperate.

I like eye contact game and appraoch invitation style of game.Its just I cant make it go anywhere its like her interst wanders off quickly.



Yes, forced celibacy sucks. The only way to change that is either hire a prostitute or straighten your head up.

Hmm..straight my head up. and it isnt easy but Im working on it.

Glad the book is helping, and is clear for you. That was the intention.

yeah Im kindah hooked



Ok, I'm not saying YOU need to adopt that style. I'm saying you need to ACCEPT that it's a popular style. You're competing against that style. That style is attractive to women.


"Eye Contact Game" And "AI Game" are just basic skills, man. EC should be used with all game. AI is something that can be brought about sometimes, but you won't always get an AI either. You should be able to game with out without AI. Her attention wanders off because her initial hope was not met. She hoped you would blow her mind, sweep her off her feet, and be different than every other AFC. She wandered because you didn't.


Straightening your head up. Your thoughts are your choice. You have complete control over them.


Keep going with the book

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

new rules of phone game and text game 2011

If I'm iffy on the girl I'd stop trying right after she didn't reply back.

If I really liked her I'd try again once and then fuck off if its not good.

If it's on and off and I know the girl a bit but she's flakey, I'd throw out random texts and just amuse myself.

If I offer to do something and she declines without a counter offer, I fuck off until they contact me again.

Sunday, September 4, 2011

watched up in the air and staying alive..dionnne warwicks song deja vu

I love it. I feel chill after having sex on friday wth belkis...she told me she was falling in love they way I made sex to her....
next time I will try to fuck with her emotions being romantic GF type sex.

stranamore and some russian siberian chick my comments

esta mas on menos....pero es blanca...dont like her profile and chin...like she's prognathic.

She seems easy than a better looking woman with more demanding of materialistic requierements for her type of dating.
she definately has to be qualfied...

"Hey do you cook? cause I like to be treated well...theres nothing more sexy than a woman that knows how to take care of her man"
then let her talk...
then before you kiss her you tell her
"you are sexy " then depends her response if she tries to be standoffish you then follow up with this
" but thats not the only thing I look for, I mean honestly
what makes you different than any other pretty face her in LA ?"

her response whatever the fuck it is...

you smile and tell her yeah you are definately sexy..but wait are you saying this cause thats really who you are like being yourself or cause you are trying to get me to like you ?"

her response is Im being myself balh blah..

you say "I like your honesty...I value that alot...you know i people in realtionship were more honest with each other it would avoid alot of pain and heartbreak...its about enjoying each other....."

you look at her forcing her to talk... her repsonse "yeah yeah I agree" or her looking at you like a soulmate..then you kiss her.

this is breakthrough comfort qualification stuff mixed with cold read and forced qualification and sexual framing.