Im back in the U.S. , Im working things towards a realistic goal to survive.
Im going to read david deida's book on way of the superior man
Unfortunately I had to remove myself from my family after hours of analyzing.
I put myself away from negativity cause it was damaging me overall.
I value the price of freedom and self respect.I was at a point of losing it but I backed out...I dont have any regrets about doing it.
Im ready to build a new life surrounded by people who love and support me.
Being independent is truly fulfilling, its not owe anybody for your efforts therefore cant takeaway yourself worth.
Its difficult to say right now but I feel I made the right choice leaving my family behind to pursue higher goals...for them in their world its different, something unrealistic to todays world which they have been accustomed to be victimize to scams from other people other than themselves or God.
they always feel sorry for themselves rather than taking action and encouraging to move forward.
From even serial killers to wealthy people, parents always stood up for their son...In my case being raised in a low self esteem family with social awkward behaviour , its been a struggle against something I couldnt deal with anymore,their beliefs and deserveness issues affecting me and my state of mind,everyday threats and fights just unecessary.Not even their support was something genuine.
the best thing for me was to value walking away from it, I feel healed after the experience of value what I have and take care of myself which is a true blessing.
Im aware it will take me months , even years but Im determined to work on my path , to journey into the unknown.
Isnt this something a man suppoed to do sooner or later in Life?
Yes, Its the turning point that I made a firm desicion to start my journey...
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Monday, October 19, 2009
When things don't go your way
I started to value freedom and hapiness recently.
these past months reading bible getting close to God enlighten me.
the parable of talents the lesson on loving yourself and others, being a man and having a woman, and health etc...
most importantly being true to yourself and to God. He leads the way, yes he gives us free will ,its a gift we have a choice for us to be and do the right thing.
I find myself in south america came here to make extra cash and fell into a trap made by my parents. I recent my parents for the type of upbringing they gave me...being LSE and insecure.Which lead to being bullied and pushed around by people.
Whcih later on in life affected my descion making and view of reality...that was until last month in nyc and during my relationship with attorney woman in which I learned not to be pushed around.
Im in a difficult situation where Im in between my family and my goal in life to be happy...in between is my ex wife, the person who divorced me in 2007 which lead me into game. It was the way that it had to happen and I dont regret nor Im upset, Im glad she left..at that time.
Now she is working with my family and my family adore her treat her better than their own. She is a snake who is interested in money and status in the office. On eof the mistakes my parents will take to the grave is teaching her all they know..he taught her all he knows..therefore they are dependent on her.She made them dependent on her.He expresses financial interest in her than my self worth.
Plus he wants me to have a kid with her and this is the feedback from som eof my closest friends:
Quote: "I feel like i should walk away from this situation and move on.....but I feel that I would be guilty of being a coward letting her manipulate and get away with getting me to leave."
I've had a confusing time linking together your storyline, but I can say this: You should indeed walk away. I agree 1000% that your parent's advice to you would be disastrous to follow. At best, if she's given permission to walk all over you even further, then you can plan on a life of sustained, continuous disrespect.
Make no mistake, NEITHER of you would be happy under such circumstances.. It really does appear that your parents are financially motivated here, if my understanding of the situation is accurate. That's a true shame. And it would be an even BIGGER shame if a child were born who has to cope with this stuff forever also.
Cheers,
Scot McKay
Hey dude,
What I can suggest is living a life where you are happy with what you are doing. You'll naturally drift to positive things and ignore the negative because it doesn't even phase you.
D-Boy
2x4 says:
she says she wants your baby?
thats cue for run the fuck away.
and if that isnt enough, she already fucked up your parents relationship enough, it'll just get worse.
Fighting it isnt worth it.
have fun wasting your years of your life trying to recover something rather than moving on.
doc stragelove:The only advice I have about your situation is to eject. Being on your own and broke is better than your present situation.
wellington:
you're still a pussy. You need to forget all these people who don't give a shit about you, make something of yourself (or don't) and either wait til they come to admire what you've done for yourself or wait til they come to your funeral or sentencing date.
central scrutinizer: WALK AWAY.
Sure, money's a problem, but imaging how awesome it would feel to solve the problem your self and be dependent on nobody but yourself?
Go forge out your own existence!
There are several ways to make money, even in a bad economy. You just need to be creative thats all, . Im no expert, but as the saying goes "NEXT".
harimau:
Something is wrong with your family
smerdaykov:
Any shitface who would leave his ex-wife in charge of his family's business deserves to get a bullet in the head.
these past months reading bible getting close to God enlighten me.
the parable of talents the lesson on loving yourself and others, being a man and having a woman, and health etc...
most importantly being true to yourself and to God. He leads the way, yes he gives us free will ,its a gift we have a choice for us to be and do the right thing.
I find myself in south america came here to make extra cash and fell into a trap made by my parents. I recent my parents for the type of upbringing they gave me...being LSE and insecure.Which lead to being bullied and pushed around by people.
Whcih later on in life affected my descion making and view of reality...that was until last month in nyc and during my relationship with attorney woman in which I learned not to be pushed around.
Im in a difficult situation where Im in between my family and my goal in life to be happy...in between is my ex wife, the person who divorced me in 2007 which lead me into game. It was the way that it had to happen and I dont regret nor Im upset, Im glad she left..at that time.
Now she is working with my family and my family adore her treat her better than their own. She is a snake who is interested in money and status in the office. On eof the mistakes my parents will take to the grave is teaching her all they know..he taught her all he knows..therefore they are dependent on her.She made them dependent on her.He expresses financial interest in her than my self worth.
Plus he wants me to have a kid with her and this is the feedback from som eof my closest friends:
Quote: "I feel like i should walk away from this situation and move on.....but I feel that I would be guilty of being a coward letting her manipulate and get away with getting me to leave."
I've had a confusing time linking together your storyline, but I can say this: You should indeed walk away. I agree 1000% that your parent's advice to you would be disastrous to follow. At best, if she's given permission to walk all over you even further, then you can plan on a life of sustained, continuous disrespect.
Make no mistake, NEITHER of you would be happy under such circumstances.. It really does appear that your parents are financially motivated here, if my understanding of the situation is accurate. That's a true shame. And it would be an even BIGGER shame if a child were born who has to cope with this stuff forever also.
Cheers,
Scot McKay
Hey dude,
What I can suggest is living a life where you are happy with what you are doing. You'll naturally drift to positive things and ignore the negative because it doesn't even phase you.
D-Boy
2x4 says:
she says she wants your baby?
thats cue for run the fuck away.
and if that isnt enough, she already fucked up your parents relationship enough, it'll just get worse.
Fighting it isnt worth it.
have fun wasting your years of your life trying to recover something rather than moving on.
doc stragelove:The only advice I have about your situation is to eject. Being on your own and broke is better than your present situation.
wellington:
you're still a pussy. You need to forget all these people who don't give a shit about you, make something of yourself (or don't) and either wait til they come to admire what you've done for yourself or wait til they come to your funeral or sentencing date.
central scrutinizer: WALK AWAY.
Sure, money's a problem, but imaging how awesome it would feel to solve the problem your self and be dependent on nobody but yourself?
Go forge out your own existence!
There are several ways to make money, even in a bad economy. You just need to be creative thats all, . Im no expert, but as the saying goes "NEXT".
harimau:
Something is wrong with your family
smerdaykov:
Any shitface who would leave his ex-wife in charge of his family's business deserves to get a bullet in the head.
Sunday, October 18, 2009
balloon prizing beliefs and frames swingcat
I have a situation where my gf, who has been in love with me over the past several months has now become a little colder. She is going to her home country during college break. I obviously can't argue or prevent her from going though I have a feeling that she might be reenacting something with her ex who lives there.
Is there any way you'd advise me to behave to assure that my PRIZABILITY stays on top when she returns?
Swinggcat's Comments:
For those new to my letters, Prizability is having enough value in a woman's eyes that if you walked away, jetted out her life, or didn't validate her worth, she'd take it as a loss. If she feels her life is more interesting, fun, and exciting with you in it, you've got Prizability.
I think just about all men on some level know this. That's why most guys strive with the imperative of a salmon swimming up river to catapult their Prizability through bragging to women about the size of their bank accounts, and wooing them with fancy jewelry and expensive dinners.
Paradoxically, doing these things usually plummets a man's worth in the eyes of the woman he's trying to win over. It's the fast track to Prizability suicide.
A few astute guys I know decided to boost their Prizability with women in other ways, such as, telling entertaining stories, developing their sense of humor, and becoming exceptional lovers.
Though more effective and a heck of a lot cheaper than buying women fancy gifts, their Prizability was barely buoying above survival.
Similar to the guys spending gobs of hard earned greenbacks on women, they were coming from the mindset of needing to win a woman over.
But here's the problem… women perceive men thinking they need to win them over as having the worth of a door mat. Or a spineless yes man they can bitch around. Or a human ashtray for extinguishing their cancer sticks.
When you possess the belief, mindset, and assumption that you're a Prize women are emotionally driven to do whatever it takes to get their little and horny paws all over, your Prizability mushrooms in their eyes.
When you couple the mindset that you're the Prize with possessing a great sense of humor, having interesting things to talk about, and being a great lover, women flock to you like bees to honey.
How can you attempt to gain more Prizability with a woman without negating the belief that she sees you as a Prize? If you believed she saw you as a Prize you wouldn't be toiling away to increase your Prizability in her eyes, right?
Good questions. Here's an easy way to handle that problem…
Always assume you're ballooning with Prizability in a woman's eyes… but make it a goal to see if you can boost that Prizability to an even higher level.
That way, as you're doing things to increase your Prizability you'll be unconsciously communicating to her that you're the Prize she's gotta earn, baby.
So here's my advice to you…
Don't focus on tactics for preserving and gaining Prizability with your girlfriend.
My guess is…
Almost any tactic you use will lower your Prizability because…
You're coming from the place of thinking you need to get back the Prizability you've lost. You're worried that her ex boyfriend will woe her back, dooming your Prizability to its demise.
If I were you I'd work on the internal side to attracting women. Spend your time developing the beliefs and frames that you're a Prize she wants to win over.
If you don't have my audio course you need to get yourself a copy right now. Listen to the sections on beliefs and frames at least four times and do the exercises in those sections religiously. This will make a world of difference.
I've been where you are and it sucks man. I feel for you bro.
Is there any way you'd advise me to behave to assure that my PRIZABILITY stays on top when she returns?
Swinggcat's Comments:
For those new to my letters, Prizability is having enough value in a woman's eyes that if you walked away, jetted out her life, or didn't validate her worth, she'd take it as a loss. If she feels her life is more interesting, fun, and exciting with you in it, you've got Prizability.
I think just about all men on some level know this. That's why most guys strive with the imperative of a salmon swimming up river to catapult their Prizability through bragging to women about the size of their bank accounts, and wooing them with fancy jewelry and expensive dinners.
Paradoxically, doing these things usually plummets a man's worth in the eyes of the woman he's trying to win over. It's the fast track to Prizability suicide.
A few astute guys I know decided to boost their Prizability with women in other ways, such as, telling entertaining stories, developing their sense of humor, and becoming exceptional lovers.
Though more effective and a heck of a lot cheaper than buying women fancy gifts, their Prizability was barely buoying above survival.
Similar to the guys spending gobs of hard earned greenbacks on women, they were coming from the mindset of needing to win a woman over.
But here's the problem… women perceive men thinking they need to win them over as having the worth of a door mat. Or a spineless yes man they can bitch around. Or a human ashtray for extinguishing their cancer sticks.
When you possess the belief, mindset, and assumption that you're a Prize women are emotionally driven to do whatever it takes to get their little and horny paws all over, your Prizability mushrooms in their eyes.
When you couple the mindset that you're the Prize with possessing a great sense of humor, having interesting things to talk about, and being a great lover, women flock to you like bees to honey.
How can you attempt to gain more Prizability with a woman without negating the belief that she sees you as a Prize? If you believed she saw you as a Prize you wouldn't be toiling away to increase your Prizability in her eyes, right?
Good questions. Here's an easy way to handle that problem…
Always assume you're ballooning with Prizability in a woman's eyes… but make it a goal to see if you can boost that Prizability to an even higher level.
That way, as you're doing things to increase your Prizability you'll be unconsciously communicating to her that you're the Prize she's gotta earn, baby.
So here's my advice to you…
Don't focus on tactics for preserving and gaining Prizability with your girlfriend.
My guess is…
Almost any tactic you use will lower your Prizability because…
You're coming from the place of thinking you need to get back the Prizability you've lost. You're worried that her ex boyfriend will woe her back, dooming your Prizability to its demise.
If I were you I'd work on the internal side to attracting women. Spend your time developing the beliefs and frames that you're a Prize she wants to win over.
If you don't have my audio course you need to get yourself a copy right now. Listen to the sections on beliefs and frames at least four times and do the exercises in those sections religiously. This will make a world of difference.
I've been where you are and it sucks man. I feel for you bro.
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