Im becoming aware and core skill set of problem solving and anger

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today im in the midst of making important legal phone calls and meeting up w my attorney.

Im undecided in specific representation of location NY or FL, anyways...

I had a flahback thought again when she this woman "psycho masculine dominant LSE" said to me once:

"you are too passive" and "never take no for an answer"

I realized now after reading wayne dyer's book on pulling your own strings.
He talks about how you stop being a victim and not letting anyone victimize you.i realize this is an alpha trait.

I always had girls dump me, when they misbehaved Id try harder to get then to like me by being gentlemenlike...when I should have called her on it laughed at it and had balls to back it up.

I also read a comment of some chick said

"women desperately want men to be men"


I'm becoming aware that my low self esteem behaviour and lack of self respect got me into alot of problems: legal issue at school , women dumping me and not taking responsibility for myself in what I want in my life.

Either way ,I started acting more masculine to the women I communicate and stoped the "nice guy" or "sweet" which is a turn off.

I read that being nice doesnt build sexual tension, instead of being reactive and "passive" to a woman, I'll bust her on it and create sexual tension.

shit tests after comfort phase or after sex phase is played differently.its like a challenge to see if you are in charge or if you are alpha.I usually ignore or act distracted or even misinterepret shit tests as IOI in attraction phase , but in relationships and comfort its different.

every situation is an experience to learn from and from being in this one I learning this.

Yes, the frustration was partly because I felt like I was NEVER
getting anywhere and my goal of attracting beautiful women and
getting a quality girlfriend was like a carrot dangled just out of
my grasp.

But there was something else.

I noticed that it seemed like every time a woman did flake on me,
or didn't call, or wanted to just be friends ...

...well, it was weird, but I felt the reason always had something
to do with ME.

Even if I didn't understand what was going on, and it didn't make
any logical sense, it was actually kind of consistent. Like *I* was
doing something in there that made them react this way.

I started to see that it wasn't as important what she was thinking
inside, or that I unlock that code, but that if I did CERTAIN
THINGS, I'd get similar results.

If I called her too much, I noticed that she would stop calling me.

Huh.

If I tried really hard to impress her, she would pull away and not
seem as interested.

Huh.

If I wasn't that interested in her, and I didn't come on very
interested, she seemed to have more interest in me.

Huh.

If I was occasionally outrageous in my behavior (bratty, loud,
cocky), she would be more interested.

Hmmmm.

So I suddenly realized that there were things that I could do to
get her to behave in certain ways. She was reacting to how *I* was
acting.

But here's the BIG realization: If I did these things without
really believing in them, they didn't work.

I once called this one girl up that I thought was losing interest
in me, and told her that I wasn't as into her anymore, and that I
wasn't sure if I should see her anymore, just to manipulate her
into feeling more attraction for me.

After that, she told me that it would be a good idea not to talk
for a week. And I called her back again that night. (I just
couldn't stop myself - I felt like I was losing her.)

And she dumped me by the end of the week.

Now, you probably recognize this as a common strategy for guys to
play "hard to get." But what I was missing was that I didn't have
the self-confidence behind those words. When I told her I didn't
think we she should see each other, I REALLY thought inside that I
was going to be heartbroken if she left me.

I didn't believe in what I was saying, and she could see it a mile
away.

What I ended up doing after I went through all that misery was
finding a bunch of books and tapes on self-improvement. I piled
this stuff up and listened to it every day. I read the books every
day.

I did the affirmations.

I planned out my goals.

I made all the mistakes.

I started to wonder if I was just not that good looking. Or I
didn't have enough money to attract a quality woman.

But I knew deep inside that was a cop-out. I had a bunch of friends
that got girls all the time, and these dudes were pretty ... uh...
"below-average," let's just say.

And I finally figured out what was missing in my "game" with women.

It was ME.

Not my looks or my clothes, or any external stuff.

I just wasn't prepared to present myself to a woman with
self-confidence, because I had never really taken the time to
figure it out for myself.

Every time I learned a new "trick" to attract a woman, I was really
just loading a gun I didn't know how to aim or hold correctly. So
the women would see through it and I'd fail.

I got mad at all these "gurus" who were telling me to just do this
and do that and women will just line up at my door, begging for me.

Instead, I found that I couldn't get that many phone numbers.

And then I couldn't get many of those numbers to turn into dates.

And almost all of those dates ended with an avoided kiss (if I felt
confident enough to go for it), or there would be a message on my
machine the next day, saying, "I had a great time, but I just don't
think there's chemistry between us. I'd really like to stay
friends, though! Bye!"

Yeah. Friends. Right.

And I got more and more frustrated and desperate with every failure.

I was pissed at those dating advisers. They didn't give me the
whole picture.

They didn't tell me how important it was to have the inner game
under control.

I found that when I was truly happy being alone (meaning that I
stopped really NEEDING women in my life to complete me and my image
of me), the ladies started getting interested in me.

It was weird.

It was as if someone had just tapped me on the shoulder with a
magic wand and changed my view on the whole man-woman thing.

I decided that I wanted to help other guys avoid what I went
through.

It took me YEARS to get my inner game fixed. From my downfall to my
recovery, there was a LOT of pain, my brothers.

I would spare you that.

If you've read my e-books, you know how much I emphasize that there
are things that you can do and say (tools, strategies), and there
are also INTERNAL ATTITUDES that must be under your control to be
successful with women.

For the longest time, I didn't know how to explain how to improve
that INNER GAME.

I couldn't find the way to explain how to improve your
SELF-CONFIDENCE.

Then it hit me like a thunderbolt....

Wham!

I could just outline all the RIGHT things I did to fix my inner
game. Just the stuff that WORKED. None of the crap that didn't,
like going to a therapist to talk about my inner child, or how I
have unresolved abandonment issues.

I could just outline a roadmap of what I did to get success, and
make it as versatile as possible, so that ANY guy could use it and
succeed.

And the one thing I could do differently is to include information
on the one self-confidence builder that every other author leaves
out.

How to be successful with women AT THE SAME TIME.

I mean, let's be real here. The ONE big thing that improves a man's
self-confidence the most is to do well with women.

And since this skill also requires that a man get that
self-confidence, you can't separate them. They're all part of the
same DYNAMIC!

This was really eye-opening to me, and I hope you see what I'm
getting at - my BIG realization.

You can't get better with women without improving your inner game
(your self-confidence.) And you can't improve your inner game
without improving your skill with women.

the KEY to game is the middle ground "sweet spot"

I ve been analyzing things in success and character, the attitude in dealing towards your goal.

Mastery is doing things to perfect them , failing over and over and learning from the experience.

YOU HAVE TO WANT IT, take yourself to new heights..being true to yourself

So as per creating attraction and what afc Adam says breaking rapport is the middle ground of insult and compliment is the "sweet spot" in his formula.

or the term "polarity" which is to be in extremes.


In terms of being Alpha is the in between middle ground of being nice and being a jerk or asshole.

in deep comfort you show emotional connection by being geniune and your "rake" attitude.

Push-pull works that way in the middle to keep things stir

hot/cold in the middle is the honey.

supply and demand in the middle is cause of addiction

its a cycle.right now I cant read nor concentrate,kind of over loaded with information.

but wanted to release my thoughts "Dig"

Deep inner game with Dr. Paul really helped me to control and observe my emotions.

Im competing against myself to gett to mastery.

creating your relationship using framing

I based my comfort game based on vin di carlo's female psycology
there was a clue at the end where the girl had a BF in which she was cheating on and explained the type of guy she wouldnt cheat on him.

You have to set the stage FIRST

Intention maping being consitent the way you describe the woman.

EXCERSIZE
1.you write and describe the type of woman (blonde, red hair )

2.what emotional charasteristics (caring,etc)

depends what you want her for that determines the charateristic of a girl
( type of relationship )

most women are a blank slate , you decide how they should respond to you.

IMPRINTING PERIODS

you set the frame for future interactions

when you are in qualification stage or talk in relationships or set in precedence

(if you want a LTR) Intelligent,Independent non clingy, supportive.

you pick 3 themes that are important to you and relationship !

IMPRINTING

you repeat 3 periods:


1- 1st date talk about acceptable and non acceptable behaviour in past relationships
(you screening)


2- Qualifiyiing her -its cool you have serious conversation
"Hey I just noticed you are caring person and supportive, do you consider person?"

then you say I noticed or "I can tell you are supportive person"


3- After sex! (theres work to be done, other guys go to sleep)
You say after sex cuddling

"Its really cool you turn out to be so supportive i can tell from our energy "

Shows congruence and shows her role to make you happy.

I will read more into frames and will look into this more...

being true to myself i gave BEST advice.

this applies to me too

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after a breakup or girl rejects you for gf or relationship, why she keep contacting me? and what should i do ?


She is using you for validation, You are in ORBITER mode.The set is BLOWN.

It could have been worse...Can you imagine knowing what type of girl she is , LSE self destructive,etc
Your attempt to try to turn her into your GF cause you have feelings for her?
HOW do you think your LIFE is going to be?


Be honest with yourself bro.


Yes,you have oneitis but best way is to realize is to be logical and not emotional about situation.

right now the emotions you are experiencing is basic "you want what you cannot have"...even if you can..

LAW #36 of 48 laws of power: Disdain Things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best Revenge


What would you expect from a relationship with her, knowing she is promiscious?
OK, Maybe get your dick wet when she is drunk off her ass and then what?
Your feelings will turn into major neediness after sex.


Why did you tell her about your feelings? You think she really cares?

That really comes off weak when the girl isnt attracted to you,When she is attracted it can come off genuine..but it has to be rare like a v-day!


She may have feelings maybe as an aquaintace but not as a lover.
Actually by NEXTing HER, she will try to seek rapport with you.


Get your shit together, change your mindset where you are coming from let it go for 30 days,
work on your ideal self, set goals , gym, watch fav movies, hang out with the boys.Fuck more chicks ; )
what cool guys you know ,have hobbies you like or think its cool?


Do it.

She is doing you a favor by pushing you away and giving you time to improve for yourself.
After 30 days you then decide what you want her part of your life again.
change for BETTER.

like AFC adam teaches use social proof to get her back.

Watch movie Swingers with vince vaughn and the movie cashback.
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why are girls better in moving on from a breakup?


I think they are cause they know the "monkey bar" sytem waay better...
the manage their neediness LOT better than men do.

They handle emotions better and have support(emotional withdrawl) and have things like Cosmo.lol

They will stay with you ,test you, if you fail they will start making it worse for you and make things difficult within the relationship,2 captains in same ship without control... until someone better or first guy to show interest,she either games him hook ups with him fast..you got competition, she starts noticing little things about you she doesnt like, act emotionally distant and cold. She then starts to subtle put less effort in investing in relationship and NOW she feels that she has power.
YOU then try to work hard to recover and to build attraction since you are losing her and fighting and uphill battle and she can tell you are trying hard.Her attraction dies and she sees you as a beta guy , not alpha, not standing up to her.

Then acts bitchy and disrespectful. An excuse to end it so she doesnt feel guilty.

(this is based on my experience,I havent read on it)


I personally sense learning from my last post,

Its better to drop a girl without notice and not say what happened or express your feelings.

ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.

If you start expressing your feelings and arguing, I sense you are giving her more to think and prove you arent what she is looking for,educating her on how your thought process is
(this is pathetic when you are now in a win lose situation)
The Alpha Guy only deals when its on a win /win and on his terms.He doesnt explain himself.
In this case you end up Losing getting in an argument and you are rewarding emotionally by reacting to her bad behaviour.


I think the secret to knowing when to NEXT is when they are losing attraction for you and they are acting up to an extent, DROP HER.

You have to trust yourself and your gut instinct and masculinity.

Its better to have the upper hand in situations like this and cut it if its not working for you than to try to get over her and go through pain.

advantage is that you grow and learn from it..but you pay a price for it.ouch!

For a guy who gets dumped and cheated on ,its painful...
I try not to look back, If I do its just as to what I did wrong and move on, thats IT.

Its about where you stand and the frame of mind you are coming from...being away from her after the breakup with NO CONTACT gives you time to be cooler than you were before,this is favorable for your growth.

Girls that end up cheating on me or dump me I dont make them my female "friends" . I was asked to be FB's or be their emotional tampon when things arent going well for her and I have walked away from it cause it would help her emptionally recover fast than it would have helped me.


Emotions are one thing and obligations as a BF or your LIFE is one.

Just because you like her doesnt mean you drop what you are doing and focus on her...

thats where alot of guys lose control on themselves and their emotions.

like the sedona method you accept you feel that way and you either logical tell yourself that you control those emotions and ask yourself if you can let them go (emotions).

Dont act based on your emotions , but act on controlling your emotions.


Reference : Pulling your own strings by wayne dyer ; deep inner game david deangelo

Forbidden patterns , NLP in game

I had the privilege of talking with JK Ellis

The guy is true yet so full of knowledge..he wrote book on seduction persuasion and influence.

I used some of his material, it works after alot of practice.
just be aware you are saying to someone and put emotion into the words.

anyways

I know alot of people discuss comfort game

and even NLP.


Im not an expert but I have run game with NLP tools and that makes it much effective when you are running into a fall back of any sort, you understand the mechanism of you leading the conversation.

Mehow discusses in his ebook that NLP and other material inot comfort should be considered once you have 6 lays with SOLID GAME.

this is true cause you turst on your own solid game.

Its like putting gas in the car, and you need high octane additive its like a STP bottle costs like 4 bucks and you add it to the fuel.

FUEL =SOLID GAME

High octane additive = NLP or other tactics.

YOU cant run game with just high octane you need to have the fuel to back it up ;)

Im planning to review certain techniques eventhough, Im working on my inner game and my talents to multiply.

what you do in life you can apply to seduction.

JK Ellis just sent me an email of the updated forbidden patterns book

http://forbiddenpatterns.com/upgrade.html

I might get it. i also saw a video on oct man sequence by a hypnotist:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sc8PmxoUW0s

I also made contact with PUA coaches here in miami I might wing with, eventhough I like CJ's style of running solo.

Im working on:

1-getting my own place
2-job in health related
3- get in shape

GAME for me is a part of me, its going to take me 3 weeks as per entropy to get back where I was, until that time I wont be able to, dealing with BS that will give me more trouble than what I need.

Im not becoming a Keyboard jockey , nor I overanalyze things.

But I get this down the results will sky rocket!

My goal is obviously go to boston or northeastern part of US and finish a program.

until then Im focused on just moving forward.

Im not going to coach until I get better and run a harem.lol

PEACE OUT

Carlos xuma and 48 laws of power

Wow I started having alot of respect for Carlos after his Secrets of the ALpha man helped me last year to get over a break up and my situation with my divorced EX wife. i found this article and his advice FREAKIN AWESOME and VERY POWERFUL.

I find the more you develop yourself you improve...You become selfdependent on problem solving skills, either with women or situations in LIFE.

It isnt all about getting women, Its about being BETTER than when you started and learning to evolve to SOMEONE YOu always looked up to. AND TRUST IN YOURSELF.

Im looking to learn legal stuff,further my education for my work and understand situations better. BE 3 dimentional and not over tinking or over analyzer but be 3D in terms of where you want to go and have control over it.

I hope you find this helpful.

Tuesday, November 22, 2005


VINDICTIVE WIFE QUESTION:



I think this is somewhat of an unusual question but here goes. I am now divorced and my ex-wife had many affairs on me. It literally killed me. I have rebuilt myself through your programs to become an even more Alpha Man.

My ex-wife was living a few hours away from me with the guy she left me for. That all came to shambles and she called me a few weeks ago, wanting me to "guess who it was". I guessed the wrong name trying to make her think I have moved on. She got pissed and hung up.

Well she officially lives back in the area. I am talking a VERY small town, so I can see her quite often. Last night I was in Walmart shopping and she aproached me catching me off guard completly. Carlos, I felt my eyes light up and heat rushing from my face. Here is the conversation.:


HER> Hi

ME> Hi (with a monotone voice and my back towards her)

HER> How are you doing?

ME> I don't want to talk to you, just like I told you on the phone. I want to be dead in your eyes.

HER> Can't we just be civil?

ME> Yeah we can be civil when you walk that way (pointing towards the direction she was going)

She ended up staying near me all through wallmark till I left. It is even to the point when I see her in a bar she will make sure she grinds and kisses guys right in front of me. Of course I give no reaction because I don't care, She can't hurt me anymore. I have bigger fish to eat :)

To make this short I DO NOT wish to even speak to this woman again. I haven't forgotten the pain she put me through. Carlos my dislike for her doesn't override my my objective in creating my life and meeting women. I know and believe she is trying to make contact me with for 2 reasons:

1. She wants to get her foot back into the door slowly.

2. She actually feels guilty for everything she had done to our marriage and wants to ease her consicience by making emense with me.


Either way, it's selfishly drivien. Unfortunately, I know I am the standard for any guy she ever gets with. She will always compare guys to me to determine if she likes them for the long hall. I've heard all the stories on how she regrets her mistakes and no one will ever love her like I did etc.....

But questions is I HATE HER. I want her to leave alone, she doesn't diserve my attention or voice. How can I handle this. My other question is I am certain that if I am out with another women she will try to cause problems.

How can I take care of this?
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CARLOS:

Interesting situation. I’d say the best thing to do is to avoid her, but with this kind of exposure, you’re being forced into a different situation.

You need to get very Machiavellian. Do you have the book “The 48 Laws of Power”?

GET IT.

Read it all. You’ll understand that you need one result: Keep your life the way YOU want it. Which means that you may have to tell her a few untruths. You may even need to ACT like you changed your mind and think she’s okay.

You can be seething and hateful under the surface, but that won’t help you at all. You’ll just be poisoning your mind and spirit. You have to find a way to forgive her and move on.

It DOESN’T mean you have to like her at all. Just use her the way she used you. Not to do evil, but to keep your life good.

There’s a big difference here. Hopefully you understand what I’m saying.

One way or another, she will try to manipulate you through your hatred and anger until you let it go and become the one pulling the strings.

Don’t be pulled down into the black hole of negativity and bitterness.

Make things work on YOUR terms.

There are many ways to make a situation work, and some of them require growth and development on your part.

Don't try to make her "think" you moved on.


MOVE ON!


That's the real problem here. You're still harboring strong feelings for her, which only serves to keep you involved with her. Hatred is just across the state line from Love, my friend, and you're just converting energies.

It's time to find a way to let go of this anger and pain. Seek professional assistance if it will help you get past this barrier.

Trust me, this kind of internal pain actually causes cancer in people if it isn't released.

I recommend you look to some spiritual counseling as well. Believe it or not, I attribute most of my development in this area from my spiritual and philosophical beliefs.

Defuse the situation by being the one to take control of it. Right now you're under the influence of emotional narcotics known as "hate" and "fear." Get through this and you'll be able to see other solutions.

Screening her in or out for LTRs

Early frame. Screening her in or out for LTRs

by
francopua

RULE: watch carefully at the frame she comes from on the first interaction with
you.

RULEeople usually repeat their behavioral patterns and if learn something
they do it slowly and they need a motivation for it.

RULE:She is a woman and with her first frame she is going to tell you what shit
she WILL put on you regardless of how you will feel about it.

So be a wise man and don't waste your quality time!

HB:"bla,bla,bla" > talks only about herself and her needs. Not a word about you
and your needs. On EV comes out she put all the people of her past to do things
for her and never showed any empathy and thankfulness for it, only contempt.

Diagnosis: very narcissistic chick.

Treatment: No LTR. If good sex and good looking but selfish behavior on
repeated interaction only FB. Maybe MLTR as Secondary if she is able to fulfill
some needs of yours other than sex with training.

HB:"My former boyfriend broke my arm. The boyfriend before sent me to the
Hospital with my teeth broken"

Diagnosis: she will try everything she can to have you do the same. She does
not get horny if a guy does not beat or mistreat her. She is frigid if you are
nice to her.

Treatment: prompt NEXT before or after sex. If you want LTR with her you are
either a sadist or a suicidal AFC. She is not even good as FB. Maybe Pivot if
someone else beats her other than one of your friends?

HB: (calls you and interacts with you very often when drunk or under the effect
of drugs)

Diagnosis: she is an addict and a borderline. Be a man: don't deny the TRUTH.
(I read here how many guys fail to detect this!)

Treatment: fuck her with the whole body condom if you like her once or twice
and then NEXT HER. A HB is not worth losing your regular night sleep.

HB: (on first meeting) "Hmm.. I am sure you have a big cock.. please let me
suck it.."

Diagnosis: she is either a hard core freak or a cock teaser. You can do a
differential diagnosis like this:

Franco:"Really?" (open his trousers wherever he is) "Caress it now.." (grabs
her hand and puts it on his dick no matter is the waiter close to the table.)

If she gets horny and wants to isolation fuck her. She is a freak. Never an
exclusive LTR with this chick! She would repeat herself with all the guys of
the neighborhood. Good only as FB if she is a pain in the ass. Must qualify for
Secondary and qualify a lot for Primary.

Diagnosis II: If she reacts with a disgusted non verbal when you put her hand
on your dick NEXT HER. She is a cock teaser, maybe a man's hater. Not even good
as FB.

HB: "I feel that a man and a woman should be able to relate to each other on
the intellectual level, be able to share ideas about art, literature, music "
(depressed non verbal, something "bad" like being dumped by guys all the time,
or losing her job all the time and/or being a successful career woman with a
lot of responsibility comes out when you EV). She does not react with clear
signs of raising of BT to your good attraction game in spite of giving you
IOIs.

Diagnosis: she is a LD chick of the depressed type, maybe LSE.

Treatment: NEXT HER. What she will do next is to keep you speeches to explain
why she does not enjoy sex and why you are a pig and sex addict. Not even good
as pivot. She would make all the chicks you PU to get depression even before
you open your mouth.

HB:"I like you, I feel we are special.. BUT for me freedom and independence
are very important. " with OR without signs of raising of the BT. Do not even
think of a LTR with her! This is the kind of chick who has sex with you with
the purpose of getting you involved into the teenage game:"Why do you want
always me to pee in restaurant's bathrooms? Don't YOU respect my freedom? Bla,
bla,bla.." If she is very HD and is able of following your rules maybe she is
good as Secondary in MLTRs, otherwise only as FB. If she is LD train her to
become more HD on sunday evenings after you have fucked 2-3 chicks and been out
sarging.. just to relax.

HB:"Why your friend/you looks/look at me like that? Am I dressed well?.. " (or
whatever LSE shit like this).

Diagnosis: test her back by telling her like an AFC "No Darling.. I feel you
look great!". If her reaction is paranoid and dramatic "No, I don't believe
you.. You KNOW I look like shit tonight!" and she seems to be for real about
this then you have a LSE case in your hands.

Treatment: do not EVEN THINK of a LTR with her. This chick would make of your
life a hell. She be even good as Primary if she is not depressed and very HD
and you really are a sadist and like to walk all the time with a whip in your
hands but remember that this chick will try to put a knife in your back sooner
and/or later on have you to abuse her.. so maybe better as Secondary or even
better as FB after all.

HB:"I like men who know what they want and make me feel myself a woman"

Diagnosis: she is a very dominant chick. A feminine, submissive chick would
never verbalize this. Very important to quickly detect is she HSE or LSE and/or
HD/LD.

Treatment: if you enjoy like me submitting dominant women with the side rule
that she has to be very HSE/HD and totally loyal to me then go for it, even
marry her
( my wife is like this.) but if you are a lazy guy and you don't like the
thrill of a very active sexual and adventurous life and want to really relax in
a LTR next her. She would be trouble for you if you want a really relaxed
lifestyle from a LTR.

If she is LD she is probably after your money or some other kind of gain,
probably next will try to manipulate you on something. Watch your back!
Especially watch for possible Ho behavior. If you like a risky life marry
her.. Some LD guys like Ho wives who are LD and love to make children with
them. These kind of chicks anyway can easily cheat on you.

If she is LSE treatment like above. Do not even THINK of a LTR with her!

HB:"I cut myself sometimes.." and/or: "Life is meaningless" and/or "I was dying
once for overdose.. you know.. I wanted to know how it feels.."

Diagnosis: borderline chick psycho.

Treatment: ultrafast NEXT. Don't look back.

HB:"All the men are X" there, where X = negative frame. ( you sense there is no
humor in her non verbal when she says that )

Diagnosis: man's hater. Maybe traumatic situations in her past with men
(honestly, who cares?)

Treatment: if HD and you like her maybe good as FB (with great reserve!). No
LTR, no MLTR. No Pivot.

HB:"I have had two long-term relationships/two marriages. I am very busy with
work. I was not sure about us.. maybe we did not have enough time for our
relationship.." with a story of continuous, endless "dating"..

Diagnosis: she is an "Eternally Single Lady" with some kind of more or less
serious psychopathology.

Treatment: NO LTR, even if they threaten you with a M16. She is unable to
commit to anything. Examine her: if she is not giving you the shit:"We cannot
have/Why we have sex if there are no REAL feelings involved" she may be good
FB/MLTR.

If she gives you THAT schizophrenic shit about being and NOT being in a
relationship AT THE SAME TIME while being LD and using the sex as a
manipulation mean or withdrawing it NEXT HER!

No one can take THAT if not drunk.. LOL.

HB:"So tell me.. is it the Company where you work big? .. " or "I like good
restaurants, clothes, houses".. or "Which kind of car you have?" or "HOW do you
live?" (waiting for you to tell the square meters of your house and your
income ) or "I have the problem X, I need your help" sub-communicating you will
get her pussy as reward for helping her.

Diagnosis: she is a Ho.

Treatment: pimp her. Put her to do things for you. She will love you for it!
You can have a real LTR with a woman like this only if she has "some principle"
and is able to be "exclusive and loyal", you have the balls like steel, you
like the thrill of a constant challenge and your are not afraid to get old and
die - with this kind of woman "exclusive" and "loyal" means in in fact in
womanese "I am your woman, my Godfather for AS LONG as you are THE BOSS and
make me those little presents and fuck me like the little bitch I am all the
time giving me wonderful, huge orgasms! ".

I like women like these! It is so arousing to have great sex with them and
train them to become devoted Geishas!

If you are the kind of guy who trembles at the idea that one day she could earn
more than you well.. then don't even think of a LTR with her. She would have on
you the same effect of a Cobra..

She HAS to be HD for you to consider giving her your time.

If she is a Ho and is LD next her or make of her your FB/MLTR. As LTR/Wife that
would be like to sleep with a snake. Truly AVOID Hoes who are also LD!

About Ho's self-esteem: I cannot be objective about their self-esteem. I like
these women too much. They are FUN for guys who know how to deal with them.

I have know also Hoes with a great self-esteem.

If she does not agree to be in the submissive role with you and you sure that
your balls are like steel then NEXT her. There are also feminist Hoes or Hoes
who hate men and they are DANGEROUS to your health.

HB:"So How was your last weekend? I Hope you found those shoes you were looking
for. Are your relatives well?" ( you sense she REALLY cares for how YOU feel!)

Diagnosis: after screening out the LSE chicks of the depressed/martyr-type -
they are VERY DANGEROUS to your HEALTH and can be mistaken for Good Girls! -
you can be sure that she is a Good Girl if she goes on really caring for you
and your needs, supporting you, being loyal to you and giving you good sex and
taking it from you.

Yes guys, Good Girls do exist! You want to be the father of her children and
her husband!

Treatment: if you use her only for sex you REALLY are an hell of a Bad
Guy...and I, Franco will tell you the day of the Final Judgement how you will
pay for it!

In the meantime: have fun! - Until you can..because if you have no respect for
this kind of girl then you really are an asshole. If you want to have fun do it
with freaks but do not harm a Good Girl!

But are you able to recognize her when you meet this rare girl? I hope so.

If you want a LTR/Marriage go for it! She is GOLD.

Keep her out of Secret Society! And yourself.. Good Girls are the most
exquisite pray for heartless Players.. Including myself..

I could have made this post much longer.. There are so many interesting cases.
So guys, tell me more feminine "early frames" coming to your mind.

Guys, watch carefully her EARLY FRAME! You save money, time and health!

Screening with kino by JWS

I love this post , its so fucking money!

Screening with Kino

I believe in relationships ... I believe that if a woman is worth fucking once she is usually worth fucking on a reoccurring basis. And in this context women can be pretty cool friends too, IME.

Once you get past the AFC frame of scarcity you realize that there are loads and loads of horny women out there. So if you're like me, the key is to get involved with women that are right for you . You have a lot of women to choose from and therefore you want to pick the best.

An AFC needs to be careful with this information because we all know how guys will make goddamn excuses for not approaching women or not escalating. An internal belief of "she would never go for a guy like me" is not "being selective.

In Franco's Neediness Management post he wrote about how being around women who love to touch will reduce your neediness. We have a biological need for physical affection, and if you get lots of it from beautiful women then you are good to go.

The way to avoid getting into relationships with women who are frigid, or who think it's cool to use sex as a bargaining chip, or have a terminal case of the MPS, is to kino right from the start.

By properly calibrated kino, early on in the interaction, you are doing one of two key things:

1. Making her horny and comfortable with you being physical with her, demonstrating self-confidence and all that good stuff

or

2. Screening her out of your life.


Now, if you are rAFC, you need to be honest with yourself and calibrate this. You might be awkward with your kino. You might be doing it inappropriately or at the wrong time. So pay attention to the feedback you get.

But once you have the confidence that you know exactly how to use kino and you are totally comfortable in your own skin, then the only women who will object to kino are the ones you don't want to start a relationship with anyway.

Not getting enough kino from your GFs can be a direct cause of your acting needy, which in turn will cause them to want to touch you even less, which will totally fuck up your mojo if left to fester. So save yourself the hassle and only get into relationships with women who love kino and know how to give and receive it.

Having the act of kino as one of your relationship screening tools is something that you can look forward to, if you start today by practicing the art of Kino early on in your interactions with women.

JWS

Relationship Knowledge is kicking in'

Ive been sticking myself in relationships issues...

Sinn mentioned the problem when guys are working in innergame they leave out outer game and that sucks they end up frustrated and all over...its working both.


I watched Savoy's DVD but it seems for the guy that kindah get is in relationship so its more of a map, not an actual guide of how to deal with issues and It made me a more passive guy which is NOT GOOD AT ALL.

I wouldnt recommend it.sorry.

Inner Game from David deangelo is gold and gives hint on relationships.


I read Zanthura posts and leaves me breathless how examples and his LIFE experience with him being a psyconalyst...

how this works...

seriosuly the guy goes beyond any PUA out there, maybe the age and experience compared to others.

this I found intersresting:

Remember that woman's job in a relationship is to fight for control and man’s job is
never to allow her to take it.
Watch out, she will not stop so easily, she will try again many times and she will
stop only when she notices that you are inflexible.
And the important thing is: show her that trying to manipulate you doesn’t work.
With sarcasm or humor you refuse to do as she wants.



A smaller group of women is equipped with such strong and primitive instincts that
they need to “feel” how the man overcomes their resistance before they can become
interested in him.
The only logical and possible reaction from your side in the case of a lack of respect
is to react promptly, calling her on her lack of respect.
There are no other ways if you don't want to be changed into a beta.
I have noticed that many modern men, unfortunately, have become so insecure and
passive that they are not even able to recognize a lack of respect on the part of a woman.
The tragic truth hidden in this passive behavior is that these men have completely
lost contact with their value.
You have to practice recognizing the lack of respect and reacting to it properly
because, if you don’t, your relationship with that woman will sooner or later go into a
bad state of crisis



Many women test in that manner your capacity of being a real man fighting for
your own interests. If you give her the possibility of not respecting you, your relationship
with her is already ruined from the beginning. You will never be able to seduce her.
Or if you are in a relationship with her, her sexual interest for you will suffer a
decline and then it will disappear completely.
You must practice challenging her systematically.


Vin di carlo has great stuff in his dating diablo and in his attraction code book on shaping...FREAKIN AWESOME!

BRAD P- IS the MOST practical and sytematic of it in his cd and workbook at the end in lifestyle section.

Paul Janka does a good job for a player with his rotation management.

adam has his guide.

read entropys posts

Im going to look into david shade stuff since he has more experience as well.

carlos xuma in his dating black book gives good advice at the end , not solid but really good stuff.


Entropy asked me what I wanted and right now I think I want a GF but I dont have experience with alot of women plus my personal life finacially isnt stable so, rotation. which is a good thing.lol

and have a good time....

its a definite that you have to have inner game to manage a relationship and lead

Entropy told me and

mr.m said something of it in 9 and 10 game audio.

there was a review of their inner game seminar but It wasnt clear....


Im also going try to start reading Stephen Covey's book on 7 habits.

and might look into NLP practical book and rework my persuasion skills.

I know Im everywhere. I find this information fascinating...

Working that InneR GamE

Whats up fellas,

Been in miami chillin'

got this week to get the room im staying at trying to pimp it..

got number closes by day game feel super confident with my game.

I wass lucky to talk to Entropy before he left to Europe.

Guy is AWESOME at what he does.

Im going to work on inner game and read this book he recommends in his site:


No more MR nice guy by robert glover

He says my outer game is tight and maybe rusty but after a couople of weeks
be back PimPIN"

working out at gym downtown luxury to the max

and Im setting p the seed of my pull eventhough Im at the cribo...which puts a cramp in my game BIGTIME.

Cant wait to get the fuck out and do something of myself.

Im thankful of the peopl Im surrounded that bring positivty in my life.

Im looking into saving money to take inner game seminar with mr.m and braddock.

just a review on inner game:

David deangelo's Deep Inner Game w dr. paul is AWESOME

PAul janka's MOJO section in ebook is great

swinggcat's beliefs and frames are a given

carlos xuma has great stuff in his innergame relationship stuff within his program

the fader interview was good stuff

Natural Tim in transformations is fun and positive and going for your passions and having girls chase after your attention

"it being happy with yourself before you can be with others"

Franco's neediness managment also brushed on it.

gunwitch had an audio on some of it...


I will review Robert glover's material and masculinity.

I didnt understand sinns inner game post, it was good but he focus on fear and AA too much.