LIOs, AIs and Ayn Rand
Posted at May 8, 2007
I’m getting world class at LIOs (Low Investment Openers).
A Wing and I pulled a 2set of 21 year old hotties last sat. night. My Opener? “This song was real popular when I was in High School.” Then, I plowed for 2 minutes. Until said Wing came in and occupied obstacle.
We ended up pulling the 2set to the Pirate Pad. I got mine totally naked (awesome fit 21year old perfect body — Day2 is tonight) but I got LMR and ended up fingering her instead. She tried to give me a handjob but it’s near impossible for me to get off that way.
Here’s one from last night which also went well: “Red shoes. Interesting.”
I’m also getting world class at getting girls to open me off of their AI. I wrote a post about it “Why Old Ladies Love CJ” or something a week or so ago.
And, I’m pleased with the overall increase in Youth and Quality of my last month or so of Gaming. Some time ago, not sure exactly when, I made a decision to upgrade the quality. I recommend quantity for beginners, even intermediates with huge Outer Game SPs, but it’s time for me to focus on hotter specimens.
Finally, here’s an excerpt which I included and discussed in the “How to Get More Newsletter…”
“How do you propose to force your ideas on them?”
“I don’t propose to force or be forced. Those who want me will come to me.”
Then the Dean understood what had puzzled him in Roark’s manner.
“You know,” he said, “you would sound much more convincing if you spoke as if you cared whether I agreed with you or not.”
“That’s true,” said Roark. “I don’t care whether you agree with me or not.” He said it so simply that it did not sound offensive, it sounded like the statement of a fact which he noticed, puzzled, for the first time.
“You don’t care what others think – which might be understandable. But you don’t care even to make them think as you do?”
“No.”
“But that’s…that’s monstrous.”
“Is it? Probably. I couldn’t say.”
(Excerpted from “The Fountainhead” by Ayn Rand, p.26)
~ Captain Jack ~
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Saturday, January 15, 2011
Old ladies love Captain Jack
8 Why Old Ladies Love CJ – Mystery Solved
Posted at April 24, 2007Old ladies love Captain Jack. (And, by old I mean from 35+ year old MILFs to 75 year old shrivel-ovaried grandmas.)
It always bothered me WHY? WHY? Why me? I can be rolling out with a thousand puas and the old ladies open ME…
Is it because I look helpless? Or, easy? Or, nice and harmless?
This has bothered me for a year or more now.
I’m sure I know why now and the answer came from a seemingly unrelated source.
On the flip side of this I wondered, “Why can’t I get hot girls to open me (without absurd/extreme Peacocking)?”
I thought about it for a bit and put it in my mind to become aware of the solution (see: Reticular Activating System).
One night Sinn, Fidelio and I were out and SURE enough a hot girl opened me. Sinn saw it and told me he saw the whole thing.
Apparently she had given an AI to one of us a couple times. When I noticed the AI I acknowledged it, SHE then gave another acknowledgment and we started walking towards each other, then she started talking to me.
That sounded right so I tried it again the next night and got opened by two different sets, one hot and one not.
* Get an AI.
* Acknowledge it (eye contact, a slight smile and a slight turning of the body towards them.)
* When she acknowledges back smile and start walking towards her.
Sounds simple enough right?
I avoided AI’s early in my PU efforts because I’ve seen guys depend on them. Then, when they don’t get them they have trouble approaching or think there is something wrong with their appearance etc and it fucks up their night.
Then, when I was working so hard on Cold Approach I wanted it to be FREEZING cold, meaning no AI’s, no peacocking, no pawns, just me vs. everybody.
So, Saturday night I am chatting with some people and I notice a girl looking at me from a table across the room. I acknowledge, she acknowledges back and as I take the first half step she waves me over (format holds true with positive consequences in 3 out of 3 instances…)
But, she intros me to her friend. She AI’ed me over for her friend. Interesting.
Her friend (HBBlondeTattoo) is hotter, too so this is great!
I ended up pulling her, her friend and another guy back to the Pirate Pad for an After Party.
I got LMR from HBBlondeTattoo so no Lay (yet) but she is a cute little blonde with 3 awesome tattoos.
I’m using Sinn and Future’s
Breakthrough Comfort
with her now to get more practice.
Now, here’s where the Old Ladies come back in. I realized that I had been DIS-Acknowledging (or outright ignoring) AI’s from the hotties and being friendly and acknowledging old ladies AI’s.
So, last night I purposefully disacknowledged two old ladies’ AI’s.
Problem solved AND I’ve got a better grasp on skillfully taking advantage of AI’s from hotties.
~ Captain Jack ~
Posted at April 24, 2007Old ladies love Captain Jack. (And, by old I mean from 35+ year old MILFs to 75 year old shrivel-ovaried grandmas.)
It always bothered me WHY? WHY? Why me? I can be rolling out with a thousand puas and the old ladies open ME…
Is it because I look helpless? Or, easy? Or, nice and harmless?
This has bothered me for a year or more now.
I’m sure I know why now and the answer came from a seemingly unrelated source.
On the flip side of this I wondered, “Why can’t I get hot girls to open me (without absurd/extreme Peacocking)?”
I thought about it for a bit and put it in my mind to become aware of the solution (see: Reticular Activating System).
One night Sinn, Fidelio and I were out and SURE enough a hot girl opened me. Sinn saw it and told me he saw the whole thing.
Apparently she had given an AI to one of us a couple times. When I noticed the AI I acknowledged it, SHE then gave another acknowledgment and we started walking towards each other, then she started talking to me.
That sounded right so I tried it again the next night and got opened by two different sets, one hot and one not.
* Get an AI.
* Acknowledge it (eye contact, a slight smile and a slight turning of the body towards them.)
* When she acknowledges back smile and start walking towards her.
Sounds simple enough right?
I avoided AI’s early in my PU efforts because I’ve seen guys depend on them. Then, when they don’t get them they have trouble approaching or think there is something wrong with their appearance etc and it fucks up their night.
Then, when I was working so hard on Cold Approach I wanted it to be FREEZING cold, meaning no AI’s, no peacocking, no pawns, just me vs. everybody.
So, Saturday night I am chatting with some people and I notice a girl looking at me from a table across the room. I acknowledge, she acknowledges back and as I take the first half step she waves me over (format holds true with positive consequences in 3 out of 3 instances…)
But, she intros me to her friend. She AI’ed me over for her friend. Interesting.
Her friend (HBBlondeTattoo) is hotter, too so this is great!
I ended up pulling her, her friend and another guy back to the Pirate Pad for an After Party.
I got LMR from HBBlondeTattoo so no Lay (yet) but she is a cute little blonde with 3 awesome tattoos.
I’m using Sinn and Future’s
Breakthrough Comfort
with her now to get more practice.
Now, here’s where the Old Ladies come back in. I realized that I had been DIS-Acknowledging (or outright ignoring) AI’s from the hotties and being friendly and acknowledging old ladies AI’s.
So, last night I purposefully disacknowledged two old ladies’ AI’s.
Problem solved AND I’ve got a better grasp on skillfully taking advantage of AI’s from hotties.
~ Captain Jack ~
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Licking lips is non verbal sexual cue , I accidentally used it, but what does it say?
I did it on a woman who was staring at me and was holding eye contact as she was driving by turning, I smiled a bit and holding my eye contact as I was talking on the phone and she was holding it and as she turned I licked my lips...
I did it without knowing but it worked...made her stop her car halfway after such a long stare of eye contact...
ofcourse if you dont hold it you look weak, its a physically shit test* (credit* Saffron)
So she drove steps further and put her hazard lights , that was opening for an Approach invitation.
FRANCO explains its the easiest Pickup
Get Plenty Of Women By Opening A Conversation On Approach Invitation
by Franco on January 8, 2011
This is probably the easiest way of doing pickup.
Opening a conversation with a woman on her approach invitation.
An approach invitation (AI) is something spontaneous and very often unconscious women do.
It implies the message: ”Please notice me, please talk to me.”
It is easy because all what you need to do is to slow down your pace, observe the environment and then open the conversation.
Approach invitations are:
- She looks at you and turns her head in the other direction rapidly.
- She smiles lightly to you, makes eye contact with you and then rapidly turns her head in the other direction.
- She walks close to you and if you change your place she is ”as for a case” again close to you.
- Playing nervously with her hand bag or other stuff she has in her hands
- Searching the content of her hand bag while close to you.
- Dropping stuff on the floor, while close to you.
- While walking she looks at you rapidly and then looks back.
- You walk by and she laughs louder while chatting with her girlfriends.
- She looks at her nails or checks the make up in her small mirror while you get close to her.
- Playing with her mobile when close to you, clearly without any intention of calling anyone.
What is crucial when you open in this way is the time between her approach invitation and the moment you open the conversation.
You have only a few seconds to open. If you wait too long you lost your chance.
Women are chased all the time by guys.
Realize that by doing this she is already making a big exception to what would be her average behavior in everyday life.
After a few seconds she will get rapidly into her ”I-am-not-a-slut” mode and you will lose your chance.
If you lose your chance because you are too slow to respond remember that it is always easier to open another woman who gives you an AI than persisting with the former.
Why women have their Ais last such a short time?
There are a few reasons:
- Other women can read their Ais much better than the average guy without experience with females. They would label her as a slut and ostracize her if she would do that ”too much.”
- Giving too overt Ais on the streets and other public venues would put women into danger: there are aggressive, dangerous men out there!
So she gives you her AI for a few seconds and then withdraws it.
That is your window of opportunity: it is a very fast, short message that she likes you and wants you to talk to her.
That is all what the average woman can do to break the social code.
Then it’s up to you.
Beware: some women nowadays began to approach men overtly in a very direct way. Those women are not the women of the best quality: they are the masculine dominant women who have learned to "match" male behavior.
In my book Getting the good girls it is described how to detect them fast and avoid them even faster.
You better approach the women who give you AIs. They are usually the best and most feminine ones! Better quality women.
When you see an AI quickly respond on it.
When she gives very subtle AIs better to approach her with some indirect opener.
Asking innocently a favor is something which works very well for me: it ”saves her face” after she gave the AI and makes her feel more comfortable.
For example:
Her: (looking at you and rapidly turning her head)
You: (slowing down and going to her side) ”Hey, I just came to town and looking for this restaurant, any idea where it could be?”
In the case her AI is more open, more direct you can get straight to the point:
Her: (smiling at you or laughing louder when you pass by)
You: Nice smile. You look just like my little sister. I bet you won the lottery today.
And then it is the time to engage her into a conversation.
One important thing: to notice Ais you need to slow down your pace. So walk slowly and be aware of the surroundings.
If you walk too fast you will not notice the Ais.
Awareness and speed are the crucial skills you need to start conversations
Another important thing is to be able to recognize the ”soft signs” of her horniness which I shared with you in the Manual of Seduction.
Franco
GOOD RESOURCE http://www.aquiziam.com/female_body_language2.html
Body Language Decoder - When You're Dating-Licks
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/body-language/
LipsDecipher every move your man makes.
A man in lust will literally look like he's hungry, because on a carnal level, that's exactly what he is, explains Wood. "His facial expression reflects that craving, whether it be for a juicy piece of fruit or for sex." So if you catch him nibbling or licking his lips while he's looking at you, chances are good that you've whet his erotic appetite.
He licks his lips.
A man in lust will literally look like he's hungry, because on a carnal level, that's exactly what he is. So if you catch him doing these lip moves while he's looking at you, chances are good that you've wet his erotic appetite
Why is a girl licking her lips sexy?
I'm not stupid, i know it's sexy, but i'm not sure exactly why. Is it just because it is, does it resemble something...?
Best Answer -
It makes a guy think about what that girl can do to him with those lips. It takes the thought way beyond the guy's imagination.
Why do men lick there lips?
In: Men's Health
To feel sexy
Read more: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Why_do_men_lick_there_lips#ixzz1Aywc0tcz
BODY LANGUAGE CHEMISTRY – SHOWING INTEREST IN A DATE
http://devilliers.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/body-language-chemistry-showing-interest-in-a-date/
Usually the first way two people connect is through looking into each other’s eyes. Before either of you speaks a single word, the eyes have already telegraphed messages. Messages can range from frank curiosity to cool assessment to shy interest. When you look deeply into a guy’s eyes, you’re telling him you think he’s the most fascinating person in the room. In fact, if you keep your eyes locked on his, what you’re saying is that as far as you’re concerned, he’s the only person in the room!
Full frontal eye contact can be risky, however. It can seem too bold and brazen to those men who are put off by such direct behaviour by women. But if you’re not the bashful maiden type, frankly gaze. In a way, it’s a form of natural selection. A guy who is freaked out by your open gaze is probably not a guy for you.
Arm Crossing
When a woman crosses her arms over her chest, it can be interpreted in a number of ways by a guy. It can telegraph the message that she’s a vulnerable female creature, an innocent little lamb who feels the need to protect herself from the Big Bad Wolf!
But arm crossing is also a way of telling a guy that you don’t like him at all and that your fondest wish at the moment is that he’ll go away.
Crossing your arms over your chest is also a sneaky way of drawing attention to your breasts. It’s a primitive gesture of sexual anticipation laced with sexual anxiety, which a man might correctly read as the woman’s acknowledgment of the basic Me Tarzan, You Jane chemistry happening between them.
Leaning Toward Him
The most common form of this is leaning forward when you’re sitting across from him. This gesture shows interest and acceptance. In short, it means you just think he’s the funniest, cutest, most fascinating creature put on the face of this earth.
But keep your poker face, player-girl! If you go overboard with the lean, you’re giving away your whole hand. You want to keep him guessing at least a little bit, right?
If you catch yourself practically falling into his lap, take a deep breath, sit back in your seat and rest your hands in your lap for a few minutes ‑– at least until you cool off.
If you find yourself leaning away from him, you’re either telling him you hate his guts or you’re working overtime to not let him know you’re all hot and bothered for him.
Leg Crossing
Leg crossing can be interpreted as a nervous or provocative gesture. Lots of people unconsciously cross and uncross their legs when they’re anxious. If you’re doing this, the man will correctly intuit that he’s somehow “getting” to you. In other words, it’s a dead giveaway to the guy that he’s unsettled you and his energy has thrown off your equilibrium. On the other hand, if you’re deliberately crossing your legs to show off your sexy gams, or deliberately pointing your top leg in his direction, it means you like him a lot. If you can’t stop crossing your legs and you’re virtually twitching in your seat, again this is an unconscious gesture that clearly tells a man that he’s really getting to you. You probably don’t want to give him that much power. If he knows you’re burning hot for him, he has the upper hand ‑– and you don’t want that. If something about him has really got you squirming, get up, take a walk or go home and take a cold shower.
Hair Twirling
Toying with your hair is a sure sign of nervousness. If you find yourself doing this, take a moment to ask yourself why this guy is making you nervous. Is it because he’s too handsome? Too incredibly clever? Is it because you can’t get your mind out of the gutter imagining what he would be like in bed? Save your agitation for later ‑– like when you finally fall asleep and have a red-hot dream about him!
Hair twirling can also be a playful gesture. Women with long hair tend to play with their hair. Hair is sexy and twirling and tossing it draws a man’s eye to it. But beware: Many guys say it really bugs them when women keep playing with their hair. Talk about sending the wrong message! What some women think is sexy is a major turnoff to some guys.
Lip Licking
This is purely physiological. Forget what they say about “drooling” over a hot guy. When we’re aroused and excited, our mouths get dry. If you find yourself licking your lips a lot in the company of a new man, it means that something about him is really getting to you. Watch out!
Lip licking clearly conveys the message that you’re interested in a man. It is a very sexy, and overt, type of body language ‑– that is, if it is done correctly. What we are talking about here is a slow, sultry swipe along your lips with the tip of your tongue. Just remember to use this one with caution. Your Flirt Object will probably think you are telling him you want to take him to bed. And maybe you do! If that’s the case and you’re both equally interested, by all means, lick your lips. It’s another way of saying, “Let’s go back to your place right now.” In other words, it’s an action getter.
Flared Nostrils
OH MY god, this is the mother of all body language signals! Flared nostrils are an irrefutable sign of sexual arousal. If you’re talking to a man and his nostrils are flaring, you can bet your booty he’s aching’ for you. And, um, it works vice versa. If your nostrils are flaring, your nipples are probably hard, too. If you’re flirting with a guy and you’ve both got the nostril thing going, look out. You might have to rent a hotel room
6 Body Language Clues That Say You're Interested.
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Your body speaks a language all its own. Without realizing it, how you sit, what you do with your hands, your legs, even your basic posture reveals volumes about you, namely what you're feeling, what you might be thinking and, most importantly, if that guy sitting across from you is getting to you.
The thing about body language is you want to be completely in control of it. You want to be aware of what messages you're sending and avoid telegraphing certain information you're not ready to give away. Dumb as they may seem sometimes, men are not exactly knuckleheads when it comes to interpreting a woman's body language. Any reasonably perceptive and intuitive guy you're flirting with is reading many things about you simply by studying your movements.
You can utilize your body language to your own advantage by transmitting only the messages you want him to receive, which gives you the upper hand. Body language has a lot in common with cell phone text messaging. It's shorthand information, meaning it's quick, direct and gets to the point.
Body Language Basics
Without even thinking about it, women almost always give physical tips that convey their level of interest in a man. The most common body language gestures that reveal at least minimal interest are hair twirling, hair tossing and leg crossing. When a woman tosses her hair, it comes across as a nervous gesture. What it tells the man is, he's making her a bit nervous. And to his mind, if she's nervous, she must be interested!
On the other hand, hair tossing, like leg crossing, is also a preening gesture. It's a way of calling attention or showing off a gorgeous, glossy mane (very sexy) or a terrific pair of gams (ditto, also very sexy!). But there are many other elemental gestures and basic postures that send a strong message to another person, all of which can be used to good effect.
Let's get started describing and interpreting them!
Eye Contact
Usually the first way two people connect is through looking into each other's eyes. Before either of you speaks a single word, the eyes have already telegraphed messages. Messages can range from frank curiosity to cool assessment to shy interest. When you look deeply into a guy's eyes, you're telling him you think he's the most fascinating person in the room. In fact, if you keep your eyes locked on his, what you're saying is that as far as you're concerned, he's the only person in the room!
Full frontal eye contact can be risky, however. It can seem too bold and brazen to those men who are put off by such direct behavior by women. But if you're not the bashful maiden type, frankly gaze. In a way, it's a form of natural selection. A guy who is freaked out by your open gaze is probably not a guy for you.
Arm Crossing
When a woman crosses her arms over her chest, it can be interpreted in a number of ways by a guy. It can telegraph the message that she's a vulnerable female creature, an innocent little lamb who feels the need to protect herself from the Big Bad Wolf!
But arm crossing is also a way of telling a guy that you don't like him at all and that your fondest wish at the moment is that he'll go away.
Crossing your arms over your chest is also a sneaky way of drawing attention to your breasts. It's a primitive gesture of sexual anticipation laced with sexual anxiety, which a man might correctly read as the woman's acknowledgment of the basic Me Tarzan, You Jane chemistry happening between them.
Leaning Toward Him
The most common form of this is leaning forward when you're sitting across from him. This gesture shows interest and acceptance. In short, it means you just think he's the funniest, cutest, most fascinating creature put on the face of this earth.
But keep your poker face, player-girl! If you go overboard with the lean, you're giving away your whole hand. You want to keep him guessing at least a little bit, right?
If you catch yourself practically falling into his lap, take a deep breath, sit back in your seat and rest your hands in your lap for a few minutes ‑- at least until you cool off.
If you find yourself leaning away from him, you're either telling him you hate his guts or you're working overtime to not let him know you're all hot and bothered for him.
Crossing
Leg crossing can be interpreted as a nervous or provocative gesture. Lots of people unconsciously cross and uncross their legs when they're anxious. If you're doing this, the man will correctly intuit that he's somehow "getting" to you. In other words, it's a dead giveaway to the guy that he's unsettled you and his energy has thrown off your equilibrium. On the other hand, if you're deliberately crossing your legs to show off your sexy gams, or deliberately pointing your top leg in his direction, it means you like him a lot. If you can't stop crossing your legs and you're virtually twitching in your seat, again this is an unconscious gesture that clearly tells a man that he's really getting to you. You probably don't want to give him that much power. If he knows you're burning hot for him, he has the upper hand ‑- and you don't want that. If something about him has really got you squirming, get up, take a walk or go home and take a cold shower.
Hair Twirling
Toying with your hair is a sure sign of nervousness. If you find yourself doing this, take a moment to ask yourself why this guy is making you nervous. Is it because he's too handsome? Too incredibly clever? Is it because you can't get your mind out of the gutter imagining what he would be like in bed? Save your agitation for later ‑- like when you finally fall asleep and have a red-hot dream about him!
Hair twirling can also be a playful gesture. Women with long hair tend to play with their hair. Hair is sexy and twirling and tossing it draws a man's eye to it. But beware: Many guys say it really bugs them when women keep playing with their hair. Talk about sending the wrong message! What some women think is sexy is a major turnoff to some guys.
Lip Licking
This is purely physiological. Forget what they say about "drooling" over a hot guy. When we're aroused and excited, our mouths get dry. If you find yourself licking your lips a lot in the company of a new man, it means that something about him is really getting to you. Watch out!
Lip licking clearly conveys the message that you're interested in a man. It is a very sexy, and overt, type of body language ‑- that is, if it is done correctly. What we are talking about here is a slow, sultry swipe along your lips with the tip of your tongue. Just remember to use this one with caution. Your Flirt Object will probably think you are telling him you want to take him to bed. And maybe you do! If that's the case and you're both equally interested, by all means, lick your lips. It's another way of saying, "Let's go back to your place right now." In other words, it's an action-getter.
Flared Nostrils
Omigod, this is the mother of all body language signals! Flared nostrils are an irrefutable sign of sexual arousal. If you're talking to a man and his nostrils are flaring, you can bet your booty he's achin' for you. And, um, it works vice versa. If your nostrils are flaring, your nipples are probably hard, too. If you're flirting with a guy and you've both got the nostril thing going, look out. You might have to rent a hotel room!
I did it without knowing but it worked...made her stop her car halfway after such a long stare of eye contact...
ofcourse if you dont hold it you look weak, its a physically shit test* (credit* Saffron)
So she drove steps further and put her hazard lights , that was opening for an Approach invitation.
FRANCO explains its the easiest Pickup
Get Plenty Of Women By Opening A Conversation On Approach Invitation
by Franco on January 8, 2011
This is probably the easiest way of doing pickup.
Opening a conversation with a woman on her approach invitation.
An approach invitation (AI) is something spontaneous and very often unconscious women do.
It implies the message: ”Please notice me, please talk to me.”
It is easy because all what you need to do is to slow down your pace, observe the environment and then open the conversation.
Approach invitations are:
- She looks at you and turns her head in the other direction rapidly.
- She smiles lightly to you, makes eye contact with you and then rapidly turns her head in the other direction.
- She walks close to you and if you change your place she is ”as for a case” again close to you.
- Playing nervously with her hand bag or other stuff she has in her hands
- Searching the content of her hand bag while close to you.
- Dropping stuff on the floor, while close to you.
- While walking she looks at you rapidly and then looks back.
- You walk by and she laughs louder while chatting with her girlfriends.
- She looks at her nails or checks the make up in her small mirror while you get close to her.
- Playing with her mobile when close to you, clearly without any intention of calling anyone.
What is crucial when you open in this way is the time between her approach invitation and the moment you open the conversation.
You have only a few seconds to open. If you wait too long you lost your chance.
Women are chased all the time by guys.
Realize that by doing this she is already making a big exception to what would be her average behavior in everyday life.
After a few seconds she will get rapidly into her ”I-am-not-a-slut” mode and you will lose your chance.
If you lose your chance because you are too slow to respond remember that it is always easier to open another woman who gives you an AI than persisting with the former.
Why women have their Ais last such a short time?
There are a few reasons:
- Other women can read their Ais much better than the average guy without experience with females. They would label her as a slut and ostracize her if she would do that ”too much.”
- Giving too overt Ais on the streets and other public venues would put women into danger: there are aggressive, dangerous men out there!
So she gives you her AI for a few seconds and then withdraws it.
That is your window of opportunity: it is a very fast, short message that she likes you and wants you to talk to her.
That is all what the average woman can do to break the social code.
Then it’s up to you.
Beware: some women nowadays began to approach men overtly in a very direct way. Those women are not the women of the best quality: they are the masculine dominant women who have learned to "match" male behavior.
In my book Getting the good girls it is described how to detect them fast and avoid them even faster.
You better approach the women who give you AIs. They are usually the best and most feminine ones! Better quality women.
When you see an AI quickly respond on it.
When she gives very subtle AIs better to approach her with some indirect opener.
Asking innocently a favor is something which works very well for me: it ”saves her face” after she gave the AI and makes her feel more comfortable.
For example:
Her: (looking at you and rapidly turning her head)
You: (slowing down and going to her side) ”Hey, I just came to town and looking for this restaurant, any idea where it could be?”
In the case her AI is more open, more direct you can get straight to the point:
Her: (smiling at you or laughing louder when you pass by)
You: Nice smile. You look just like my little sister. I bet you won the lottery today.
And then it is the time to engage her into a conversation.
One important thing: to notice Ais you need to slow down your pace. So walk slowly and be aware of the surroundings.
If you walk too fast you will not notice the Ais.
Awareness and speed are the crucial skills you need to start conversations
Another important thing is to be able to recognize the ”soft signs” of her horniness which I shared with you in the Manual of Seduction.
Franco
GOOD RESOURCE http://www.aquiziam.com/female_body_language2.html
Body Language Decoder - When You're Dating-Licks
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/body-language/
LipsDecipher every move your man makes.
A man in lust will literally look like he's hungry, because on a carnal level, that's exactly what he is, explains Wood. "His facial expression reflects that craving, whether it be for a juicy piece of fruit or for sex." So if you catch him nibbling or licking his lips while he's looking at you, chances are good that you've whet his erotic appetite.
He licks his lips.
A man in lust will literally look like he's hungry, because on a carnal level, that's exactly what he is. So if you catch him doing these lip moves while he's looking at you, chances are good that you've wet his erotic appetite
Why is a girl licking her lips sexy?
I'm not stupid, i know it's sexy, but i'm not sure exactly why. Is it just because it is, does it resemble something...?
Best Answer -
It makes a guy think about what that girl can do to him with those lips. It takes the thought way beyond the guy's imagination.
Why do men lick there lips?
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To feel sexy
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BODY LANGUAGE CHEMISTRY – SHOWING INTEREST IN A DATE
http://devilliers.wordpress.com/2008/05/16/body-language-chemistry-showing-interest-in-a-date/
Usually the first way two people connect is through looking into each other’s eyes. Before either of you speaks a single word, the eyes have already telegraphed messages. Messages can range from frank curiosity to cool assessment to shy interest. When you look deeply into a guy’s eyes, you’re telling him you think he’s the most fascinating person in the room. In fact, if you keep your eyes locked on his, what you’re saying is that as far as you’re concerned, he’s the only person in the room!
Full frontal eye contact can be risky, however. It can seem too bold and brazen to those men who are put off by such direct behaviour by women. But if you’re not the bashful maiden type, frankly gaze. In a way, it’s a form of natural selection. A guy who is freaked out by your open gaze is probably not a guy for you.
Arm Crossing
When a woman crosses her arms over her chest, it can be interpreted in a number of ways by a guy. It can telegraph the message that she’s a vulnerable female creature, an innocent little lamb who feels the need to protect herself from the Big Bad Wolf!
But arm crossing is also a way of telling a guy that you don’t like him at all and that your fondest wish at the moment is that he’ll go away.
Crossing your arms over your chest is also a sneaky way of drawing attention to your breasts. It’s a primitive gesture of sexual anticipation laced with sexual anxiety, which a man might correctly read as the woman’s acknowledgment of the basic Me Tarzan, You Jane chemistry happening between them.
Leaning Toward Him
The most common form of this is leaning forward when you’re sitting across from him. This gesture shows interest and acceptance. In short, it means you just think he’s the funniest, cutest, most fascinating creature put on the face of this earth.
But keep your poker face, player-girl! If you go overboard with the lean, you’re giving away your whole hand. You want to keep him guessing at least a little bit, right?
If you catch yourself practically falling into his lap, take a deep breath, sit back in your seat and rest your hands in your lap for a few minutes ‑– at least until you cool off.
If you find yourself leaning away from him, you’re either telling him you hate his guts or you’re working overtime to not let him know you’re all hot and bothered for him.
Leg Crossing
Leg crossing can be interpreted as a nervous or provocative gesture. Lots of people unconsciously cross and uncross their legs when they’re anxious. If you’re doing this, the man will correctly intuit that he’s somehow “getting” to you. In other words, it’s a dead giveaway to the guy that he’s unsettled you and his energy has thrown off your equilibrium. On the other hand, if you’re deliberately crossing your legs to show off your sexy gams, or deliberately pointing your top leg in his direction, it means you like him a lot. If you can’t stop crossing your legs and you’re virtually twitching in your seat, again this is an unconscious gesture that clearly tells a man that he’s really getting to you. You probably don’t want to give him that much power. If he knows you’re burning hot for him, he has the upper hand ‑– and you don’t want that. If something about him has really got you squirming, get up, take a walk or go home and take a cold shower.
Hair Twirling
Toying with your hair is a sure sign of nervousness. If you find yourself doing this, take a moment to ask yourself why this guy is making you nervous. Is it because he’s too handsome? Too incredibly clever? Is it because you can’t get your mind out of the gutter imagining what he would be like in bed? Save your agitation for later ‑– like when you finally fall asleep and have a red-hot dream about him!
Hair twirling can also be a playful gesture. Women with long hair tend to play with their hair. Hair is sexy and twirling and tossing it draws a man’s eye to it. But beware: Many guys say it really bugs them when women keep playing with their hair. Talk about sending the wrong message! What some women think is sexy is a major turnoff to some guys.
Lip Licking
This is purely physiological. Forget what they say about “drooling” over a hot guy. When we’re aroused and excited, our mouths get dry. If you find yourself licking your lips a lot in the company of a new man, it means that something about him is really getting to you. Watch out!
Lip licking clearly conveys the message that you’re interested in a man. It is a very sexy, and overt, type of body language ‑– that is, if it is done correctly. What we are talking about here is a slow, sultry swipe along your lips with the tip of your tongue. Just remember to use this one with caution. Your Flirt Object will probably think you are telling him you want to take him to bed. And maybe you do! If that’s the case and you’re both equally interested, by all means, lick your lips. It’s another way of saying, “Let’s go back to your place right now.” In other words, it’s an action getter.
Flared Nostrils
OH MY god, this is the mother of all body language signals! Flared nostrils are an irrefutable sign of sexual arousal. If you’re talking to a man and his nostrils are flaring, you can bet your booty he’s aching’ for you. And, um, it works vice versa. If your nostrils are flaring, your nipples are probably hard, too. If you’re flirting with a guy and you’ve both got the nostril thing going, look out. You might have to rent a hotel room
6 Body Language Clues That Say You're Interested.
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Your body speaks a language all its own. Without realizing it, how you sit, what you do with your hands, your legs, even your basic posture reveals volumes about you, namely what you're feeling, what you might be thinking and, most importantly, if that guy sitting across from you is getting to you.
The thing about body language is you want to be completely in control of it. You want to be aware of what messages you're sending and avoid telegraphing certain information you're not ready to give away. Dumb as they may seem sometimes, men are not exactly knuckleheads when it comes to interpreting a woman's body language. Any reasonably perceptive and intuitive guy you're flirting with is reading many things about you simply by studying your movements.
You can utilize your body language to your own advantage by transmitting only the messages you want him to receive, which gives you the upper hand. Body language has a lot in common with cell phone text messaging. It's shorthand information, meaning it's quick, direct and gets to the point.
Body Language Basics
Without even thinking about it, women almost always give physical tips that convey their level of interest in a man. The most common body language gestures that reveal at least minimal interest are hair twirling, hair tossing and leg crossing. When a woman tosses her hair, it comes across as a nervous gesture. What it tells the man is, he's making her a bit nervous. And to his mind, if she's nervous, she must be interested!
On the other hand, hair tossing, like leg crossing, is also a preening gesture. It's a way of calling attention or showing off a gorgeous, glossy mane (very sexy) or a terrific pair of gams (ditto, also very sexy!). But there are many other elemental gestures and basic postures that send a strong message to another person, all of which can be used to good effect.
Let's get started describing and interpreting them!
Eye Contact
Usually the first way two people connect is through looking into each other's eyes. Before either of you speaks a single word, the eyes have already telegraphed messages. Messages can range from frank curiosity to cool assessment to shy interest. When you look deeply into a guy's eyes, you're telling him you think he's the most fascinating person in the room. In fact, if you keep your eyes locked on his, what you're saying is that as far as you're concerned, he's the only person in the room!
Full frontal eye contact can be risky, however. It can seem too bold and brazen to those men who are put off by such direct behavior by women. But if you're not the bashful maiden type, frankly gaze. In a way, it's a form of natural selection. A guy who is freaked out by your open gaze is probably not a guy for you.
Arm Crossing
When a woman crosses her arms over her chest, it can be interpreted in a number of ways by a guy. It can telegraph the message that she's a vulnerable female creature, an innocent little lamb who feels the need to protect herself from the Big Bad Wolf!
But arm crossing is also a way of telling a guy that you don't like him at all and that your fondest wish at the moment is that he'll go away.
Crossing your arms over your chest is also a sneaky way of drawing attention to your breasts. It's a primitive gesture of sexual anticipation laced with sexual anxiety, which a man might correctly read as the woman's acknowledgment of the basic Me Tarzan, You Jane chemistry happening between them.
Leaning Toward Him
The most common form of this is leaning forward when you're sitting across from him. This gesture shows interest and acceptance. In short, it means you just think he's the funniest, cutest, most fascinating creature put on the face of this earth.
But keep your poker face, player-girl! If you go overboard with the lean, you're giving away your whole hand. You want to keep him guessing at least a little bit, right?
If you catch yourself practically falling into his lap, take a deep breath, sit back in your seat and rest your hands in your lap for a few minutes ‑- at least until you cool off.
If you find yourself leaning away from him, you're either telling him you hate his guts or you're working overtime to not let him know you're all hot and bothered for him.
Crossing
Leg crossing can be interpreted as a nervous or provocative gesture. Lots of people unconsciously cross and uncross their legs when they're anxious. If you're doing this, the man will correctly intuit that he's somehow "getting" to you. In other words, it's a dead giveaway to the guy that he's unsettled you and his energy has thrown off your equilibrium. On the other hand, if you're deliberately crossing your legs to show off your sexy gams, or deliberately pointing your top leg in his direction, it means you like him a lot. If you can't stop crossing your legs and you're virtually twitching in your seat, again this is an unconscious gesture that clearly tells a man that he's really getting to you. You probably don't want to give him that much power. If he knows you're burning hot for him, he has the upper hand ‑- and you don't want that. If something about him has really got you squirming, get up, take a walk or go home and take a cold shower.
Hair Twirling
Toying with your hair is a sure sign of nervousness. If you find yourself doing this, take a moment to ask yourself why this guy is making you nervous. Is it because he's too handsome? Too incredibly clever? Is it because you can't get your mind out of the gutter imagining what he would be like in bed? Save your agitation for later ‑- like when you finally fall asleep and have a red-hot dream about him!
Hair twirling can also be a playful gesture. Women with long hair tend to play with their hair. Hair is sexy and twirling and tossing it draws a man's eye to it. But beware: Many guys say it really bugs them when women keep playing with their hair. Talk about sending the wrong message! What some women think is sexy is a major turnoff to some guys.
Lip Licking
This is purely physiological. Forget what they say about "drooling" over a hot guy. When we're aroused and excited, our mouths get dry. If you find yourself licking your lips a lot in the company of a new man, it means that something about him is really getting to you. Watch out!
Lip licking clearly conveys the message that you're interested in a man. It is a very sexy, and overt, type of body language ‑- that is, if it is done correctly. What we are talking about here is a slow, sultry swipe along your lips with the tip of your tongue. Just remember to use this one with caution. Your Flirt Object will probably think you are telling him you want to take him to bed. And maybe you do! If that's the case and you're both equally interested, by all means, lick your lips. It's another way of saying, "Let's go back to your place right now." In other words, it's an action-getter.
Flared Nostrils
Omigod, this is the mother of all body language signals! Flared nostrils are an irrefutable sign of sexual arousal. If you're talking to a man and his nostrils are flaring, you can bet your booty he's achin' for you. And, um, it works vice versa. If your nostrils are flaring, your nipples are probably hard, too. If you're flirting with a guy and you've both got the nostril thing going, look out. You might have to rent a hotel room!
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Franco's POST on Warm Approach and Eye Contact
This is probably the easiest way of doing pickup.
Opening a conversation with a woman on her approach invitation.
An approach invitation (AI) is something spontaneous and very often unconscious women do.
It implies the message: ”Please notice me, please talk to me.”
It is easy because all what you need to do is to slow down your pace, observe the environment and then open the conversation.
Approach invitations are:
- She looks at you and turns her head in the other direction rapidly.
- She smiles lightly to you, makes eye contact with you and then rapidly turns her head in the other direction.
- She walks close to you and if you change your place she is ”as for a case” again close to you.
- Playing nervously with her hand bag or other stuff she has in her hands
- Searching the content of her hand bag while close to you.
- Dropping stuff on the floor, while close to you.
- While walking she looks at you rapidly and then looks back.
- You walk by and she laughs louder while chatting with her girlfriends.
- She looks at her nails or checks the make up in her small mirror while you get close to her.
- Playing with her mobile when close to you, clearly without any intention of calling anyone.
What is crucial when you open in this way is the time between her approach invitation and the moment you open the conversation.
You have only a few seconds to open. If you wait too long you lost your chance.
Women are chased all the time by guys.
Realize that by doing this she is already making a big exception to what would be her average behavior in everyday life.
After a few seconds she will get rapidly into her ”I-am-not-a-slut” mode and you will lose your chance.
If you lose your chance because you are too slow to respond remember that it is always easier to open another woman who gives you an AI than persisting with the former.
Why women have their Ais last such a short time?
There are a few reasons:
- Other women can read their Ais much better than the average guy without experience with females. They would label her as a slut and ostracize her if she would do that ”too much.”
- Giving too overt Ais on the streets and other public venues would put women into danger: there are aggressive, dangerous men out there!
So she gives you her AI for a few seconds and then withdraws it.
That is your window of opportunity: it is a very fast, short message that she likes you and wants you to talk to her.
That is all what the average woman can do to break the social code.
Then it’s up to you.
Beware: some women nowadays began to approach men overtly in a very direct way. Those women are not the women of the best quality: they are the masculine dominant women who have learned to “match” male behavior.
In my book Getting the good girls it is described how to detect them fast and avoid them even faster.
You better approach the women who give you AIs. They are usually the best and most feminine ones! Better quality women.
When you see an AI quickly respond on it.
When she gives very subtle AIs better to approach her with some indirect opener.
Asking innocently a favor is something which works very well for me: it ”saves her face” after she gave the AI and makes her feel more comfortable.
For example:
Her: (looking at you and rapidly turning her head)
You: (slowing down and going to her side) ”Hey, I just came to town and looking for this restaurant, any idea where it could be?”
In the case her AI is more open, more direct you can get straight to the point:
Her: (smiling at you or laughing louder when you pass by)
You: Nice smile. You look just like my little sister. I bet you won the lottery today.
And then it is the time to engage her into a conversation.
One important thing: to notice Ais you need to slow down your pace. So walk slowly and be aware of the surroundings.
If you walk too fast you will not notice the Ais.
Awareness and speed are the crucial skills you need to start conversations
Another important thing is to be able to recognize the ”soft signs” of her horniness which I shared with you in the Manual of Seduction. soft signs is IOIs btw
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PROLONGED EYE CONTACT
Learn how to use eye contact
In the case you are new to the world of seducing women something you can try which is not that difficult is prolonged eye contact with a female.
Just sit down at the edge of a crowded street and observe males walking when they are just about to have a woman coming from the other direction.
Almost all of them will avoid prolonged eye contact with a female.
Why so?
Well there are many reasons.
One of them is that those males get horny when they are seeing a hot woman and feel ashamed of it.
Women know this and when they see a male who avoids prolonged eye contact with a female they already screen him out as a potential mate.
He is feeling ashamed of his sexuality so he is not an alpha male.
Alpha males do not make mystery out of wanting a woman.
So when you are at the first step of learning the art of seducing women when you are on the streets practice the art of prolonged eye contact with a female.
In a totally calm and non aggressive way when she is closer to you and coming from the other direction lock her straight into the eye. Lock on of her eyes and don´t look down.
Some of them will look away.
This is an automatic reaction in primates. By keeping your prolonged eye contact with a female you are showing dominance.
Don´t bother about the ones who are looking away.
When you see that she is looking at you back at that point smile widely and say “Hello.”
This is the simplest way of doing it.
Other ways of doing this is to smile and say something totally random, some short expression like:
“Nice day isn´t it?” > and smile.
“Oh.. life is so though sometimes!” > and smile.
“Wonderful!” > and smile.
If she smiles back and comments what you said you stop and begin to chat with her.
By doing this you already put yourself far above all the other men who are scared of prolonged eye contact with a female. She knows now that you are the deal.
At this point she will begin testing you which is what you want because..
When a woman is testing you she is actually saying that she begins to like you.
Opening a conversation with a woman on her approach invitation.
An approach invitation (AI) is something spontaneous and very often unconscious women do.
It implies the message: ”Please notice me, please talk to me.”
It is easy because all what you need to do is to slow down your pace, observe the environment and then open the conversation.
Approach invitations are:
- She looks at you and turns her head in the other direction rapidly.
- She smiles lightly to you, makes eye contact with you and then rapidly turns her head in the other direction.
- She walks close to you and if you change your place she is ”as for a case” again close to you.
- Playing nervously with her hand bag or other stuff she has in her hands
- Searching the content of her hand bag while close to you.
- Dropping stuff on the floor, while close to you.
- While walking she looks at you rapidly and then looks back.
- You walk by and she laughs louder while chatting with her girlfriends.
- She looks at her nails or checks the make up in her small mirror while you get close to her.
- Playing with her mobile when close to you, clearly without any intention of calling anyone.
What is crucial when you open in this way is the time between her approach invitation and the moment you open the conversation.
You have only a few seconds to open. If you wait too long you lost your chance.
Women are chased all the time by guys.
Realize that by doing this she is already making a big exception to what would be her average behavior in everyday life.
After a few seconds she will get rapidly into her ”I-am-not-a-slut” mode and you will lose your chance.
If you lose your chance because you are too slow to respond remember that it is always easier to open another woman who gives you an AI than persisting with the former.
Why women have their Ais last such a short time?
There are a few reasons:
- Other women can read their Ais much better than the average guy without experience with females. They would label her as a slut and ostracize her if she would do that ”too much.”
- Giving too overt Ais on the streets and other public venues would put women into danger: there are aggressive, dangerous men out there!
So she gives you her AI for a few seconds and then withdraws it.
That is your window of opportunity: it is a very fast, short message that she likes you and wants you to talk to her.
That is all what the average woman can do to break the social code.
Then it’s up to you.
Beware: some women nowadays began to approach men overtly in a very direct way. Those women are not the women of the best quality: they are the masculine dominant women who have learned to “match” male behavior.
In my book Getting the good girls it is described how to detect them fast and avoid them even faster.
You better approach the women who give you AIs. They are usually the best and most feminine ones! Better quality women.
When you see an AI quickly respond on it.
When she gives very subtle AIs better to approach her with some indirect opener.
Asking innocently a favor is something which works very well for me: it ”saves her face” after she gave the AI and makes her feel more comfortable.
For example:
Her: (looking at you and rapidly turning her head)
You: (slowing down and going to her side) ”Hey, I just came to town and looking for this restaurant, any idea where it could be?”
In the case her AI is more open, more direct you can get straight to the point:
Her: (smiling at you or laughing louder when you pass by)
You: Nice smile. You look just like my little sister. I bet you won the lottery today.
And then it is the time to engage her into a conversation.
One important thing: to notice Ais you need to slow down your pace. So walk slowly and be aware of the surroundings.
If you walk too fast you will not notice the Ais.
Awareness and speed are the crucial skills you need to start conversations
Another important thing is to be able to recognize the ”soft signs” of her horniness which I shared with you in the Manual of Seduction. soft signs is IOIs btw
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
PROLONGED EYE CONTACT
Learn how to use eye contact
In the case you are new to the world of seducing women something you can try which is not that difficult is prolonged eye contact with a female.
Just sit down at the edge of a crowded street and observe males walking when they are just about to have a woman coming from the other direction.
Almost all of them will avoid prolonged eye contact with a female.
Why so?
Well there are many reasons.
One of them is that those males get horny when they are seeing a hot woman and feel ashamed of it.
Women know this and when they see a male who avoids prolonged eye contact with a female they already screen him out as a potential mate.
He is feeling ashamed of his sexuality so he is not an alpha male.
Alpha males do not make mystery out of wanting a woman.
So when you are at the first step of learning the art of seducing women when you are on the streets practice the art of prolonged eye contact with a female.
In a totally calm and non aggressive way when she is closer to you and coming from the other direction lock her straight into the eye. Lock on of her eyes and don´t look down.
Some of them will look away.
This is an automatic reaction in primates. By keeping your prolonged eye contact with a female you are showing dominance.
Don´t bother about the ones who are looking away.
When you see that she is looking at you back at that point smile widely and say “Hello.”
This is the simplest way of doing it.
Other ways of doing this is to smile and say something totally random, some short expression like:
“Nice day isn´t it?” > and smile.
“Oh.. life is so though sometimes!” > and smile.
“Wonderful!” > and smile.
If she smiles back and comments what you said you stop and begin to chat with her.
By doing this you already put yourself far above all the other men who are scared of prolonged eye contact with a female. She knows now that you are the deal.
At this point she will begin testing you which is what you want because..
When a woman is testing you she is actually saying that she begins to like you.
Friday, November 26, 2010
Get plenty of women by opening a conversation on approach invitation by Franco
This is probably the easiest way of doing pickup.
Opening a conversation with a woman on her approach invitation.
An approach invitation (AI) is something spontaneous and very often unconscious women do.
It implies the message: ”Please notice me, please talk to me.”
It is easy because all what you need to do is to slow down your pace, observe the environment and then open the conversation.
Approach invitations are:
- She looks at you and turns her head in the other direction rapidly.
- She smiles lightly to you, makes eye contact with you and then rapidly turns her head in the other direction.
- She walks close to you and if you change your place she is ”as for a case” again close to you.
- Playing nervously with her hand bag or other stuff she has in her hands
- Searching the content of her hand bag while close to you.
- Dropping stuff on the floor, while close to you.
- While walking she looks at you rapidly and then looks back.
- You walk by and she laughs louder while chatting with her girlfriends.
- She looks at her nails or checks the make up in her small mirror while you get close to her.
- Playing with her mobile when close to you, clearly without any intention of calling anyone.
What is crucial when you open in this way is the time between her approach invitation and the moment you open the conversation.
You have only a few seconds to open. If you wait too long you lost your chance.
Women are chased all the time by guys.
Realize that by doing this she is already making a big exception to what would be her average behavior in everyday life.
After a few seconds she will get rapidly into her ”I-am-not-a-slut” mode and you will lose your chance.
If you lose your chance because you are too slow to respond remember that it is always easier to open another woman who gives you an AI than persisting with the former.
Why women have their Ais last such a short time?
There are a few reasons:
- Other women can read their Ais much better than the average guy without experience with females. They would label her as a slut and ostracize her if she would do that ”too much.”
- Giving too overt Ais on the streets and other public venues would put women into danger: there are aggressive, dangerous men out there!
So she gives you her AI for a few seconds and then withdraws it.
That is your window of opportunity: it is a very fast, short message that she likes you and wants you to talk to her.
That is all what the average woman can do to break the social code.
Then it’s up to you.
Beware: some women nowadays began to approach men overtly in a very direct way. Those women are not the women of the best quality: they are the masculine dominant women who have learned to “match” male behavior.
In my book Getting the good girls it is described how to detect them fast and avoid them even faster.
You better approach the women who give you AIs. They are usually the best and most feminine ones! Better quality women.
When you see an AI quickly respond on it.
When she gives very subtle AIs better to approach her with some indirect opener.
Asking innocently a favor is something which works very well for me: it ”saves her face” after she gave the AI and makes her feel more comfortable.
For example:
Her: (looking at you and rapidly turning her head)
You: (slowing down and going to her side) ”Hey, I just came to town and looking for this restaurant, any idea where it could be?”
In the case her AI is more open, more direct you can get straight to the point:
Her: (smiling at you or laughing louder when you pass by)
You: Nice smile. You look just like my little sister. I bet you won the lottery today.
And then it is the time to engage her into a conversation.
One important thing: to notice Ais you need to slow down your pace. So walk slowly and be aware of the surroundings.
If you walk too fast you will not notice the Ais.
Awareness and speed are the crucial skills you need to start conversations
Another important thing is to be able to recognize the ”soft signs” of her horniness which I shared with you in the Manual of Seduction.
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Opening a conversation with a woman on her approach invitation.
An approach invitation (AI) is something spontaneous and very often unconscious women do.
It implies the message: ”Please notice me, please talk to me.”
It is easy because all what you need to do is to slow down your pace, observe the environment and then open the conversation.
Approach invitations are:
- She looks at you and turns her head in the other direction rapidly.
- She smiles lightly to you, makes eye contact with you and then rapidly turns her head in the other direction.
- She walks close to you and if you change your place she is ”as for a case” again close to you.
- Playing nervously with her hand bag or other stuff she has in her hands
- Searching the content of her hand bag while close to you.
- Dropping stuff on the floor, while close to you.
- While walking she looks at you rapidly and then looks back.
- You walk by and she laughs louder while chatting with her girlfriends.
- She looks at her nails or checks the make up in her small mirror while you get close to her.
- Playing with her mobile when close to you, clearly without any intention of calling anyone.
What is crucial when you open in this way is the time between her approach invitation and the moment you open the conversation.
You have only a few seconds to open. If you wait too long you lost your chance.
Women are chased all the time by guys.
Realize that by doing this she is already making a big exception to what would be her average behavior in everyday life.
After a few seconds she will get rapidly into her ”I-am-not-a-slut” mode and you will lose your chance.
If you lose your chance because you are too slow to respond remember that it is always easier to open another woman who gives you an AI than persisting with the former.
Why women have their Ais last such a short time?
There are a few reasons:
- Other women can read their Ais much better than the average guy without experience with females. They would label her as a slut and ostracize her if she would do that ”too much.”
- Giving too overt Ais on the streets and other public venues would put women into danger: there are aggressive, dangerous men out there!
So she gives you her AI for a few seconds and then withdraws it.
That is your window of opportunity: it is a very fast, short message that she likes you and wants you to talk to her.
That is all what the average woman can do to break the social code.
Then it’s up to you.
Beware: some women nowadays began to approach men overtly in a very direct way. Those women are not the women of the best quality: they are the masculine dominant women who have learned to “match” male behavior.
In my book Getting the good girls it is described how to detect them fast and avoid them even faster.
You better approach the women who give you AIs. They are usually the best and most feminine ones! Better quality women.
When you see an AI quickly respond on it.
When she gives very subtle AIs better to approach her with some indirect opener.
Asking innocently a favor is something which works very well for me: it ”saves her face” after she gave the AI and makes her feel more comfortable.
For example:
Her: (looking at you and rapidly turning her head)
You: (slowing down and going to her side) ”Hey, I just came to town and looking for this restaurant, any idea where it could be?”
In the case her AI is more open, more direct you can get straight to the point:
Her: (smiling at you or laughing louder when you pass by)
You: Nice smile. You look just like my little sister. I bet you won the lottery today.
And then it is the time to engage her into a conversation.
One important thing: to notice Ais you need to slow down your pace. So walk slowly and be aware of the surroundings.
If you walk too fast you will not notice the Ais.
Awareness and speed are the crucial skills you need to start conversations
Another important thing is to be able to recognize the ”soft signs” of her horniness which I shared with you in the Manual of Seduction.
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