I had a talk w eltopo yesterday, guy knows his stuff and is very especific with his appraoch and dominance.vids he has are superb.I appreciate him sharing with me.
I started having thoughts and as I was doing the kelly rippa frame , something came over me...a rundown of feelings like a tornado.
I never had an ego for being Good, that isnt helpful for growing. But for my self esteem and in reality, My game thanks to the natural putting the finishing touches on the obvious aloofness and blindspots I had...made it real and exciting for me. thats where I spent one week wathcing him him doing my phone game and text game and seeing how he elicits their responses blew me away....its a sixth sense of awareness how he was predicting watch how this girls is going to talk abut sex with me within the first moments of conversation.
he said and it went like he'd say....done.
the week after he was in hawaii fucking' lol some girl he met online and within minutes he got there she met him in his room and she was nervous but he took over and didnt react to her, he acted cool and assume positive not negative her ASD was kicking in...minutes after he was recodring her having sex...
AMAZING.
that week I put everything into practice, i had already started getting good with comfort ala entropy...Franco calls it "female talk" I added mirroring, and other hypnotic basic stuff that derren brown does and leading since I was good at improv and my conversational skills by talking with women improved.
thats were sinn and entropy came in to really take me to another level, the level of success.
its doing and when you fail to reach your goal , you ask for help to get there, that lil extra push.
If you want to train with micheal jordan or tiger woods you have to atleast be active practicing and be out there playing hard....
other than that you are wasting money and time....and filling yourself with unnecessary information , which will affect you negatively and cause you to stagnate in theory rather than DOING IT and failing over.
CJ calls it sticking point analysis, where you become your own guru and start improving and fixing yourself based on what you are already doing good at...
This as in brain tracy says about naploean hill or someother finance guru said , after each weekend he review what he did and all stuff he messed up on he tried to find a solution.
entropy talks about it at that moment infield you reframe it and keep going, next day after hours of what happended you can then be analytical about it.
only be aware when you are analytical about it to not take it emotionally affect you or your state or your self esteem, best example is JEFFY's mood swings where he does awesome stuff and then says I SUCK!
wrong, Tim says it how it is...but to improve you always look to improve without being personal about it or affecting who you are "inner game " or self esteem validate you from an outcome of an interaction with a woman..
THATS THE KEY TO STICKING POINT.
I also reviewed my comfort game , frames,dhvs, phone game alal natural, reverse engineering the naturals game, etc..... recorded it to a full 40 minutes of GOLD.
This will serve me as a guide when I will be weak in my game I can look back on.
things on there migght not make it here, EVER. unless I shut the blog down and turn it private on my own.
which guys have done so.
I will secure this with my life might even email it to myself who knows just to keep a dupl of it of never losing it.....its my mojo in a liquid fliud digital form.
one listen is like a programing of a player.
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Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Sunday, February 14, 2010
Perfect Sexual Framing by BB
Perfect Sexual Framing...
by
Big business LS instructor
On our last bootcamp together Future and I talked a bit about some of the drawbacks of learning game, and one of them is that you can never really turn it off, especially while you are watching a movie or TV show. Every character gets critiqued and every interaction gets corrected. Romance gets thrown through the game lens and rarely passes the BS test. It becomes clear to you in every romantic comedy or teen drama how fictional each interaction really is, and how popular media has helped to skew our perception of what it is that attracts the opposite sex.
Bottom line: most dating/pick up/seduction/attraction material that you find in movies or television is complete bullshit. With a few notable exceptions, they are all simply wish fulfillment on the part of the writers.
Now, I just saw the movie "Youth in Revolt" starring Michael Cera and liked it a lot. I had a few problems with it (I'm a huge film snob) but overall I give it a hearty thumbs up. There was one scene, though, that was notable and made me laugh out loud NOT because it was particularly funny or ridiculous, but because it was so spot on.
I'll spare you the details of the scene, and hit you with a few sample pieces of dialog... (I'm paraphrasing, so forgive me)
Quote:
Why don't you pull down the covers and show me what you've got going on down there?
Quote:
I want to put my head between your legs and wear you like a crown.
and my personal favorite...
Quote:
I want to take off your clothes and tickle your bellybutton...from the inside.
These lines are gangster. They are the final stage of sexual framing: talking about what want to do and are planning to do to someone. They are visual. They are evocative. They are dominant.
They are sexy.
(To be clear, I am NOT recommending that you use these lines at the beginning of your interactions with women. As I mentioned...these are the FINAL stage of sexual framing, not to mention that this movie has been seen by millions, so the exact lines' effectiveness is surely going to be soured.)
Let's take a look at some of the things our hero is accomplishing above.
Quote:
Why don't you pull down the covers and show me what you've got going on down there?
Here we start leading the sexual vibe. He lets her know his intentions as well as his position in this interaction: the leader. He issues the commands, all while adopting a playful vibe (one of the tools I strongly encourage is using humor when starting your sexual framing. It softens your initial sexual advances, bookends the ideas in positive emotions, and a host of other awesome sub communications. It is the reason why I credit humor with all of my early same night lays).
Quote:
I want to put my head between your legs and wear you like a crown.
If a woman said something like this to you what would go through your mind? You'd imagine her down there doing wonderful things to your privates. Well, women do the same thing, gentlemen. By using visual imagery like this you are letting their imaginations do some of the foreplay for you, and in their mind you know exactly where and how to touch them.
I read an awesome article in the NY Times a year ago which made some incredibly astute observations about women's sexuality, and one of them that stuck with me was that a good portion of women's sexuality is about BEING desired; knowing that they are INSPIRING an uncontrollable desire in men. To that end, when your statements are about what women MAKE you WANT to do to them (as above) it can be incredibly effective.
And lastly...my favorite...
Quote:
I want to take off your clothes and tickle your bellybutton...from the inside.
Here we have one statement that accomplishes everything already mentioned and more. Dominant, visual, and it is a "want" statement (as above). It is doing one other awesome thing, though; something I talk at length on in my humor seminar...
It sets up an expectation then subverts it. When you hear "tickle your bellybutton" what do you think of? Something cute and innocent, no doubt. When he adds the button of "from the inside" at the end it changes the entire tone of the sentence. It suddenly becomes dirty, funny, spontaneous, and last but certainly not least it becomes unique. It takes the listener of an emotional ride from fuzzy bunnies to x rated.
My hat is off to you, writers of this scene. Finally, someone got it right.
Who wants to change their abilities with women and dating FOREVER?
"His game is built on comedy...and let me tell you- the dude is funny. Funny and QUICK man...Great insight on improvising routines and very clever SUPER EASY to implement techniques for deflecting shit tests and ensuring you never run out of things to say in set. At this point I'd gotten my moneys worth."
by
Big business LS instructor
On our last bootcamp together Future and I talked a bit about some of the drawbacks of learning game, and one of them is that you can never really turn it off, especially while you are watching a movie or TV show. Every character gets critiqued and every interaction gets corrected. Romance gets thrown through the game lens and rarely passes the BS test. It becomes clear to you in every romantic comedy or teen drama how fictional each interaction really is, and how popular media has helped to skew our perception of what it is that attracts the opposite sex.
Bottom line: most dating/pick up/seduction/attraction material that you find in movies or television is complete bullshit. With a few notable exceptions, they are all simply wish fulfillment on the part of the writers.
Now, I just saw the movie "Youth in Revolt" starring Michael Cera and liked it a lot. I had a few problems with it (I'm a huge film snob) but overall I give it a hearty thumbs up. There was one scene, though, that was notable and made me laugh out loud NOT because it was particularly funny or ridiculous, but because it was so spot on.
I'll spare you the details of the scene, and hit you with a few sample pieces of dialog... (I'm paraphrasing, so forgive me)
Quote:
Why don't you pull down the covers and show me what you've got going on down there?
Quote:
I want to put my head between your legs and wear you like a crown.
and my personal favorite...
Quote:
I want to take off your clothes and tickle your bellybutton...from the inside.
These lines are gangster. They are the final stage of sexual framing: talking about what want to do and are planning to do to someone. They are visual. They are evocative. They are dominant.
They are sexy.
(To be clear, I am NOT recommending that you use these lines at the beginning of your interactions with women. As I mentioned...these are the FINAL stage of sexual framing, not to mention that this movie has been seen by millions, so the exact lines' effectiveness is surely going to be soured.)
Let's take a look at some of the things our hero is accomplishing above.
Quote:
Why don't you pull down the covers and show me what you've got going on down there?
Here we start leading the sexual vibe. He lets her know his intentions as well as his position in this interaction: the leader. He issues the commands, all while adopting a playful vibe (one of the tools I strongly encourage is using humor when starting your sexual framing. It softens your initial sexual advances, bookends the ideas in positive emotions, and a host of other awesome sub communications. It is the reason why I credit humor with all of my early same night lays).
Quote:
I want to put my head between your legs and wear you like a crown.
If a woman said something like this to you what would go through your mind? You'd imagine her down there doing wonderful things to your privates. Well, women do the same thing, gentlemen. By using visual imagery like this you are letting their imaginations do some of the foreplay for you, and in their mind you know exactly where and how to touch them.
I read an awesome article in the NY Times a year ago which made some incredibly astute observations about women's sexuality, and one of them that stuck with me was that a good portion of women's sexuality is about BEING desired; knowing that they are INSPIRING an uncontrollable desire in men. To that end, when your statements are about what women MAKE you WANT to do to them (as above) it can be incredibly effective.
And lastly...my favorite...
Quote:
I want to take off your clothes and tickle your bellybutton...from the inside.
Here we have one statement that accomplishes everything already mentioned and more. Dominant, visual, and it is a "want" statement (as above). It is doing one other awesome thing, though; something I talk at length on in my humor seminar...
It sets up an expectation then subverts it. When you hear "tickle your bellybutton" what do you think of? Something cute and innocent, no doubt. When he adds the button of "from the inside" at the end it changes the entire tone of the sentence. It suddenly becomes dirty, funny, spontaneous, and last but certainly not least it becomes unique. It takes the listener of an emotional ride from fuzzy bunnies to x rated.
My hat is off to you, writers of this scene. Finally, someone got it right.
Who wants to change their abilities with women and dating FOREVER?
"His game is built on comedy...and let me tell you- the dude is funny. Funny and QUICK man...Great insight on improvising routines and very clever SUPER EASY to implement techniques for deflecting shit tests and ensuring you never run out of things to say in set. At this point I'd gotten my moneys worth."
Friday, November 27, 2009
Cherishing by TiM
this is a reason why running deep comfort or too much comfort can get in the way of getting laid in a one night stand, or when you are leaving a city...
Its a post that has helpoed me understand why i didnt get laid with last 3 girls when I left NYC...easy lays..lost POOF!
this is for strangelove PUA
CHERISHING in the night
by TiM from RSD
Hello there, how are you today? I am fine.
I have my boy Ryan here staying with me in LA for a week of scalliwagging.
Its great to be back here in Los Angeles hitting it up… we were talking about our travels and happenings from the field
which I wanted to share. Also throwing in some random shots of the travels.
Ryan and I ran our first bootcamp together in Vancouver, Canada which is a really cool city. It was my birthday that night and they had
a freak snowstorm.
We are doing our thing with our glorious clients and I see some stuff that is FULLY interesting: CHERISHING IN THE NIGHT
BACKGROUND: We have a new name for girlfriends now, they are called “Cherishes“. I have a cherish in Australia, Tyler has his cherish and so does Jeffy.
Now cherishing is all well and good. I enjoy it a lot. But cherishing AS SOON AS YOU MEET THE GIRL IS BAD NEWS.
RULE: Do not think/talk/ponder/worry or do anything regarding a girl unless you have first established the masculine role.
In pretty much all cases this means before you can cherish or go into a cherish frame you must have had sex first.
Have you ever picked up a girl, got her number or whatever and then thought about her constantly? or not even constantly.
Maybe you played movies in your mind of you two in different situations, going on dates, her meeting your mother, etc.
Then when you go to call her up its all WEIRD. You fumble around the phone, stutter when you talk - HORRIBLE.
Your mind places the girl in a girlfriend frame
And so this is what I call ‘CHERISHING IN THE NIGHT’.
Now I cover this fully in the ‘Flawless Natural Superconference’ however I wanted to illustrate with this recent example:
So back to Ryan and I out on bootcamp…
Im right up in a girls face kissing her while winging a client when out of the corner of my eye I notice Ryan walking around with another
cute girl hand in hand. I remember thinking to myself “awww that looks cute”.
Anyway the night progresses and again I see Ryan and this girl - they look cuter than ever. In fact they kinda look ‘in love’.
They are making out and gazing into each others eyes and all that.
Uh oh. CHERISHING.
She looks fully melting in his arms and so happy - like they have been together forever. Awwwwwww.
SO anyway im doing my thing demolishing this place… im walking up to random girls with my new opener “Im sad I need a kiss” and making out with them
then going to the next girls and doing the same.
(PS this new opener is killer: “Im sad. I need a kiss” then you get them to kiss each cheek. Then lips. They will fight the lips and you simply say
“But im sad!” and boom go right in for it. Your clearly not sad and just being a crazy guy. Beautiful.)
So at some point Ryan intros me to the girl and she stands beside me, he goes off to help out a client and she is left there with me.
Im talking for a bit then notice another cutey walking past… BOOOOOOOM I grab her, sad need a kiss, makeout then throw her back into the crowd all happy.
RIGHT AFTER THIS Ryans girl grabs my arm and looks me right in the eye and says “Whoa, you’re agressive, I like agressive”. Oh shit now she is all over my arm.
POOOOOOF I eject on her and go back to clients waiting till the end of the night to tell Ryan what happened.
Turns out that later she gives Ryan the excuse of “But you are leaving tomorrow, I cant go home with you, we will never work out!”.
AAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH there it is…. the CHERISHING IN THE NIGHT has killed him.
Because he put her into a cherish (girlfriend) frame she is fully playing that frame and so cannot sleep with him. Now if I had a shot, who knows?
Different frame = Different Results.
See with me im just coming across as a fun, dominant man who is following his core sexual intent. I have no outcome with the girl other than fun THAT night.
They feel that way and act accordingly.
I remember how this used to destroy me back in the early days when I would tell the girl “wow I really like you a lot” within 5 minutes of meeting her.
This meant she had expectations to live up to and so it would rarely work.
No expectations on the girl = full trust from the girl.
Since then there has been no Cherishing in the Night from mr. Ryan deluxe and there should be none for you too.
The LORD of the club does not cherish. No no no.
As a general rule its not until after the first sex can you start to go the cherish route.
Why though? the girl needs to know you are truley a champ and can get girls - not some chode trying to find his cherish lover in the nightclub.
So ultimately its up to you guys on how you want to be percieved but here are some simple guidelines:
DO’s and DO NOT’s
DO kiss her for fun in the club
DO NOT make out tenderly for four hours
DO show her that you are fully interested in her NOW
DO NOT start talking about future plans and dates and how much of a match you are
DO lead her around dominant style
DO NOT prance around the club like you have finally found that special girl…
You get the drift…
What are your guys thoughts and experiences with this ?
nT
Its a post that has helpoed me understand why i didnt get laid with last 3 girls when I left NYC...easy lays..lost POOF!
this is for strangelove PUA
CHERISHING in the night
by TiM from RSD
Hello there, how are you today? I am fine.
I have my boy Ryan here staying with me in LA for a week of scalliwagging.
Its great to be back here in Los Angeles hitting it up… we were talking about our travels and happenings from the field
which I wanted to share. Also throwing in some random shots of the travels.
Ryan and I ran our first bootcamp together in Vancouver, Canada which is a really cool city. It was my birthday that night and they had
a freak snowstorm.
We are doing our thing with our glorious clients and I see some stuff that is FULLY interesting: CHERISHING IN THE NIGHT
BACKGROUND: We have a new name for girlfriends now, they are called “Cherishes“. I have a cherish in Australia, Tyler has his cherish and so does Jeffy.
Now cherishing is all well and good. I enjoy it a lot. But cherishing AS SOON AS YOU MEET THE GIRL IS BAD NEWS.
RULE: Do not think/talk/ponder/worry or do anything regarding a girl unless you have first established the masculine role.
In pretty much all cases this means before you can cherish or go into a cherish frame you must have had sex first.
Have you ever picked up a girl, got her number or whatever and then thought about her constantly? or not even constantly.
Maybe you played movies in your mind of you two in different situations, going on dates, her meeting your mother, etc.
Then when you go to call her up its all WEIRD. You fumble around the phone, stutter when you talk - HORRIBLE.
Your mind places the girl in a girlfriend frame
And so this is what I call ‘CHERISHING IN THE NIGHT’.
Now I cover this fully in the ‘Flawless Natural Superconference’ however I wanted to illustrate with this recent example:
So back to Ryan and I out on bootcamp…
Im right up in a girls face kissing her while winging a client when out of the corner of my eye I notice Ryan walking around with another
cute girl hand in hand. I remember thinking to myself “awww that looks cute”.
Anyway the night progresses and again I see Ryan and this girl - they look cuter than ever. In fact they kinda look ‘in love’.
They are making out and gazing into each others eyes and all that.
Uh oh. CHERISHING.
She looks fully melting in his arms and so happy - like they have been together forever. Awwwwwww.
SO anyway im doing my thing demolishing this place… im walking up to random girls with my new opener “Im sad I need a kiss” and making out with them
then going to the next girls and doing the same.
(PS this new opener is killer: “Im sad. I need a kiss” then you get them to kiss each cheek. Then lips. They will fight the lips and you simply say
“But im sad!” and boom go right in for it. Your clearly not sad and just being a crazy guy. Beautiful.)
So at some point Ryan intros me to the girl and she stands beside me, he goes off to help out a client and she is left there with me.
Im talking for a bit then notice another cutey walking past… BOOOOOOOM I grab her, sad need a kiss, makeout then throw her back into the crowd all happy.
RIGHT AFTER THIS Ryans girl grabs my arm and looks me right in the eye and says “Whoa, you’re agressive, I like agressive”. Oh shit now she is all over my arm.
POOOOOOF I eject on her and go back to clients waiting till the end of the night to tell Ryan what happened.
Turns out that later she gives Ryan the excuse of “But you are leaving tomorrow, I cant go home with you, we will never work out!”.
AAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH there it is…. the CHERISHING IN THE NIGHT has killed him.
Because he put her into a cherish (girlfriend) frame she is fully playing that frame and so cannot sleep with him. Now if I had a shot, who knows?
Different frame = Different Results.
See with me im just coming across as a fun, dominant man who is following his core sexual intent. I have no outcome with the girl other than fun THAT night.
They feel that way and act accordingly.
I remember how this used to destroy me back in the early days when I would tell the girl “wow I really like you a lot” within 5 minutes of meeting her.
This meant she had expectations to live up to and so it would rarely work.
No expectations on the girl = full trust from the girl.
Since then there has been no Cherishing in the Night from mr. Ryan deluxe and there should be none for you too.
The LORD of the club does not cherish. No no no.
As a general rule its not until after the first sex can you start to go the cherish route.
Why though? the girl needs to know you are truley a champ and can get girls - not some chode trying to find his cherish lover in the nightclub.
So ultimately its up to you guys on how you want to be percieved but here are some simple guidelines:
DO’s and DO NOT’s
DO kiss her for fun in the club
DO NOT make out tenderly for four hours
DO show her that you are fully interested in her NOW
DO NOT start talking about future plans and dates and how much of a match you are
DO lead her around dominant style
DO NOT prance around the club like you have finally found that special girl…
You get the drift…
What are your guys thoughts and experiences with this ?
nT
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