Smaxter
If you plan on going speed dating, you’re going to have a very different experience from any other time you’ve gone out to meet women. I’ll give you the rundown of what speed dating is, if you’re new to it.
How it Works
Normally, you have ten little tables with a guy and a girl at each table. When a whistle blows, you start your “date” and talk for six minutes. After your six-minute date, a whistle goes off again, and you rotate to a new person. All this time, you keep track what girls you liked by writing on a card, and the girls keep track of what guys they liked. At the end of the night, you hand your cards in to the host. If there’s a mutual match, you get emailed her contact information. You can pick as many matches as you want.
Now that you understand how it works, here are some tips to get the best results out of speed dating.
The first thing to keep in mind is that your game begins the moment you walk into the room. While your six-minute dates have not started yet, the women are looking at all the guys and will notice your body language, clothes, confidence, and behavior. While you’re waiting to get started, get into a friendly conversation with some of the other guys there. Don’t be that guy standing by yourself with your head down. Don’t try to out-alpha the other guys in the room, but be the dominant and more animated man of the bunch, so the women see you’re the guy who’s got the most attention of the people around him.
Also keep in mind that there are a number of potential lays that are not actual participants in the event. At the first speed dating event I went to, I ended up sleeping with the hostess running the event. At another speed dating event, there were multiple age groups doing speed dating, and I picked up a woman in the “30’s” age group. I’m in my 20’s, so we hadn’t talked during the “dates,” but I was able to hit on her afterward and lay her the next week.
As for what to do on the actual “dates,” a lot of this will depend on how much you’ve worked on your game in the past months leading up to this. You might think that since you only have six minutes, you’re better off doing a lot of funny teases and doing routines that make you look clever and humorous. This actually doesn’t work too well in this scenario. You’re better off just being relaxed, making good eye contact, and vibing with the girl.
Don’t let the woman control the conversation. You’ll find a lot of women in this scenario will want to ask you question after question, “Where do you live? What do you do? What do you do for fun?” This type of rapid-fire questioning is something she’s doing to avoid awkward silences, which means her mind is on anything but really connecting with you. Be the dominant one in the interaction, and cut off any topics that feel boring for either of you.
Also be dominant with other guys during the rotation. If you’ve gotten up to move to the next table, and a guy is taking too long at the next table talking to the girl past the whistle, pat him on the shoulder and say “Time to get up, buddy.” It’s counter-intuitive, but you lose absolutely no points for being an asshole at a place like this. You end up looking like the alpha-dog at the event instead. Notice I said that you can out-alpha guys during the dates, but not in the conversations before the six-minute dates start.
Keep these principles in mind, and you’ll have a good amount of mutual matches when you find out your speed dating results.
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.One Step Closer to The Bedroom
by smaxter on 22. Nov, 2010 in Uncategorized
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Here at Smaxter, we have a number of methods and techniques for getting a girl out of a bar or club. Sometimes they’re more sexually direct, and other times it’s more casual, such as inviting the women to an afterparty with your buddies.
Perhaps the easiest way to get a girl outside is to bounce her for food. Late at night, women are hungry, and more likely to forget any diet they’re currently on. I’ll rank the the preferred food options from best to worst:
A.Any unique dessert spot
B.Pizza
C.Mexican Food
D.Street Vendors such as hot dog carts
E.Fast Food
Regarding the last one, if you can bring a girl out of a club to get a dollar cheeseburger and fries from Burger King, you’re either hitting rock bottom in your woman standards, or are probably outgrowing this blog.
As with a lot of logistical moves in pick-up, the more you can oversell a place, the easier it is to move the girls. Outside a big club in our area is a shop called Heavenly Cupcakes. Most people got the majority of their cupcakes in 4th grade birthday parties when their classmates brought in treats to share. Because of this, the novelty of getting a cupcake at 1:00 am is exciting for a number of women.
Other unique late night food shops can be worked the same way, especially if it’s “kid food.” If there’s a place to get a good grilled cheese, or ice cream bar, that will do the trick.
Unfortunately, most nightlife locations don’t have anything that special around. I’ve found pizza to work better than Mexican, but depending on the girl, these can be reversed.
4 Musts to get her out of the venue.
◦Let her know you are coming right back
◦Let her know you won’t have trouble getting back in
◦Sell the food place as best you can
◦Propose getting food on a high note ( ex: right after teasing or making her laugh)
Before mentioning food, it helps to have a “priming question.” My favorite is to ask, “Are you stamped?” if you’re in a bar or club that stamps your hand going in.
She’ll say yes, and then you say, “I’m so hungry, let’s go get a slice of pizza. It’s just down the street.”
Your priming question has her already saying yes, which gives her momentum with agreeing with your next suggestion.
The question you’ll get after this is usually, “Are you sure we can get back in?” Answer this one honestly, which should be yes, as long as you’re not within a half hour from closing time.
Then walk with her to get food.
If there’s no stamping process, it helps to sell the food location before putting it in the context of you leaving with her. You can say “Have you been to Hodad’s? They have the best mini-burgers ever… and they cut the fries right in front of you.” She’ll say something like, “Oh, that sounds yummy.” Once she verbally says that the food location sounds good, it’ll be easier to get her to agree to you saying, “Let’s go check it out; we’ll come back.”
While we don’t focus on pumping buying temperature the entire interaction, you will have a much higher chance of getting a girl to leave with you if you have some teasing or push-pull going on before suggesting the bounce.
What you do after you get her to the food location is another story, which we’ll address in a future article.
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Dave 22. Nov, 2010 at 7:18 pm # I like the suggestion to ask is she is stamped before prompting her to go eat with you. I gotta try this !
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Reply Dave 22. Nov, 2010 at 7:20 pm # Also wondering do you normally eat at the restaurant, or get it to go, and lead her to your place ?
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Kamo 23. Nov, 2010 at 8:18 am # I try avoiding sit-down restaurants because it takes longer and she will get tired. Ideally, grab a couple slices of pizza in a to go box and start heading back to your place. Lure them home with with fresh smell of pepperoni pizza at 2am!
Reply Jesse Charger 06. Dec, 2010 at 3:58 pm # I like the desert spot idea. Chicks can’t say no.
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