So, he say do this as an opener, but I say it makes more sense to do this after you've isolated or are at least locked-in and talking to just 1 girl.
The basic structure is Qualify - Ground - Qualify - Frame
Qualify - "So this may sound kind of random, but you strike me as the kind of girl who attracts the wrong kind of guy a lot of the time"
Ground - "The reason I say that is because I've worked in the media industry and I find that a lot of people, especially high profile men or attractive women, get a lot of attention because of their outward image"
Qualify - "So do you ever find that you have a guy interested in you, but not for who you really are, just for your superficial qualities?"
Frame - "You know, just from your reaction I can tell that you get what I'm saying and it's cool that you're one of those girls who can talk openly about that kind of thing."
So, the basic idea is you take a concept like male-female interaction, attraction, gender roles, etc, and ask her a question that's a bit out there, maybe sexual, maybe a bit personal. You don't have to wait for her answer. You then ground the question with some personal experience, helping her get where you're coming from (and also DHV if you're coming from a value-based perspective, which Steve definitely isn't). Then you ask the question maybe in a different way, maybe making it a little easier to answer, or making it more sexual, etc. Then you either wait for her response if she gives one, or continue by framing the fact that she's considering her answer as an implicit indicator that she is comfortable talking with you and opening up to you. Again, the more sexual you can make the pattern, the better it is because the frame of "you're comfortable talking about sex with me" is only a few steps away from "you're comfortable HAVING sex with me."
Thoughts?
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