Shaping and Qualification by Vision

SHAPING and QUALIFICATION by vision

This is mostly for the guys starting out but I noticed an interesting little way to force compliance while using shaping.

As most of you know, shaping is a concept which is used to encourage your desired behavior in a women. eg. 'i love it how spontaneous you are'...which now gives her a reputation to live up to and to 'be' a spontaneous person. if she lives up to it then in theory you get to kiss/sleep with her quicker as it would be inconsistent with her persona if she didn't spontaneously sleep with you.

was having a chat recently with a girl and i noticed i did something which involved shaping, but also involved actively getting her to qualify herself which of course is often a clear sign that she is interested.

(she mentioned something about cooking and tuna pasta)

me: 'OMG you can cook! go away before i steal you away. I love it when a women can cook but even more when they are passionate about it...'

..now normally this would be shaping in itself and she might just reply with a smile or something, instead i issue the following remark immediately after my previous one which actively gets her to comply/qualify herself which tells me if she's interested or not....

'..then again i bet tuna pasta is the only thing that you can cook which doesnt really count does it!'.

Immediately she rambles on bragging about how she loves baking, she loves cooking PLUS she loves barbecuing (in my country called braaing)....and then proceeded to imply that she really is PASSIONATE about it, as well as proved it to me by writing a quick recipe for me. All this came just from one 'neg' remark following my shaping comment.

As you can see my 2nd comment actively encouraged an answer from her which forces her to show her compliance levels, and in addition its a light tease at the same time. Its a great way to get compliance early on in the interaction.

Another little example could be... 'i must say i enjoy a cute looking girl that has a bit of an adventurous streak in her, dont get me wrong youre cute and all but youre probably a little too settled for me'....if she comes back justifying how adventurous she is, she's putty in your hands.

Do this numerous time during the convo with various personality traits of hers, you will be shaping as well as getting active compliance as you go. Its also a great way of finding perceived commonalities, every time she complies/qualifies herself she backward rationalizes that you guys both have that in common.