Saturday, December 17, 2011

persistance calibration not being needy yet being proactive making things happen

I get confused with some advice in dating when you like a girl, you show interest yet show some disinterest.

What???

yes

its confusing.

you have to have some detachment.

in tao of steve is "be desireless"

"so sandee how the hell Im I going to get the girl into me?!"

heres the thing.

theres 2 levels of communication

one is verbal and the other is behaviour and intent , bodylanguage

in self help and in business you have to seem detached or that you dont need the woman or desperate to get with her.

some chick on youtube said in upset way "guys dont be needy"

so your intent has to be align grounded that you want that girl but dont need her.

this gives her space to complete the % of both are interested in each other.

if you give and give and push and push, she will take you for granted and you will try harder to get her.

this hasnt worked for me

what has is that you show interest but arent sure about it.
you ask questions and you are displaying you are laid back and cool.


you keep contacting her cause you are interested in her but you NEVER VERBALIZE THIS!!!!!
let her do the assuming not you.
This enables her to invest in you emotionally and maintains intrigue that you are soo sure of yourself. she is basically a cat who thinks she can socially outsmart you but the real thing is you just got her to think about you.

LOL


the underlying of your action is to raise your attraction and lead the seduction conversationally and logistically.

exceptions are when the woman is already attracted and so you lead this to seem "it just happened".

compliance to the sex is key.

I tried this and rarely get LMR or last minute resistance.


so you do have to pursue actively but your subcommunications have to be that you arent all that interested, tell yourself as an affirmation

"I can date beautiful women" "Im attractive guy" "If I take the time , and be patient with myself ,I can easily bed girls effortlessy"

"Im so hot chicks masturbate thinking about me."

automatically your behaviours will show you are the shit!

then you can verbally go with intent and say "he "i thought your kindah cute. Im _______ "
or anything you can casualy notice even compliment on the way walks by you

"Excuse me, I couldnt help to notice you and how attractive is the way you carry yourself... Im sandee "


say it in a subcommunication of 
"Im sooo goodlooking so I know you are goign to want to fuck me ,I say this genuinely and Im open to sexual fantasy with you"

DONT be gamey at all , be cool.
spike bt to humour to open up before asking her about herself.
show nonverbal IOIs and pull back.

theres no need to tell the woman you are eager to fuck.
unfortunately this turns her off so make note
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when you take action and lead with intent do it with a smile on your face

what makes this non needy and super attractive is that subcommunication is FUN and not needy or you begging or shy or bashful...or insecure you did it right. it has to be indeed 100% that you are sure and it has to show it in your eyes and face for her to give you a nonverbal shit test before her falling hard for you.

make this subcommunication as FUN and exciting and nothing emotional deep at that point.

only time you are deep emotionally is in rapport when you can share deep soulmate connection with mirroring and minor disqualifiers which are meaningless but you do them so she can confirm you are not trying hard to get with her and she sees that you are unique in her mind by building awesome best friend connection.

I use this but it can work against you if she isnt looking for a relationship. is 20% works on strippers.
cause strippers meet alot of men and their attention span is like drunks girls at a club, she wont remember you.
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Do all you can and do it the best you can. 
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