INNER GAME: stay in control of emotions to be unaffected and unreactive

I recently found myself in deep emotional turmoil...
but as logical as it may sound you have to keep yourself detached emotionally.

Things that occur to you or encounter in your life doesnt define who you are, I mean the negative and painful parts.

As humans we tend to get our anger and emotions get to us then we justify these emotions to either blame or sobb over them justify our suffering.

this isnt so if you grab yourself out of it before you find yourself deep into an emotional depression or wreck.

It may sound rehashed but here's the thing:

you must be in control of what you feel

1- You can feel sad but doesnt mean you are SAD. Rephrase this.
this will help detach emotions from clouding you.

2- Sounds Cliche -ish but see positive and try to experience it as a lesson to move forward to better things to come and motivate you. This emotion you can dive yoruself in and the mind will make necesary changes without thinking.nmotiate yourself to be teflon strong regardless of adversity in your Life.you will learn not to doubt yourself and believe more in yourself.

"better sooner than latter."
"when life hits hard you have to get more power to getback"
"up if it were easy everybody would be doing it "
"you are responsible for yourself,your LIFE and your own happiness..never a woman"

"I love myself no matter what"..this is talking to yourself reinforcing your beliefs,not affirmations per se'.

Jesse has great ones in the section of "narcisstic incantations" in his product
which DOES WORK and very effective, I have used it and suggest to check that out.

3- Dont be affected by other peoples actions towards you.
Even if you NEXT a chick or chick rejects you dont let that affect you.You have to maintain focus on your Life and you well being at all times.

Always look at other sucessfull people who have been succesfull regardless of obstacles and circumstances.
(Or can offer their advice and may have gone through what you are going through, LISTEN to THEM)

Great reference that has personally help me on this and has great breakdown in a simple smart masculine way of managing your behavior is :

Robert Greene's 33 strategies of war chapter 3 It is a great read

heres a very brief review from Wiki:




Chapter 3


Amidst the Turmoil of Events, Do Not Lose Your Presence of Mind: The Counterbalance Strategy. You must stay focused, define your goals and have the confidence to achieve those goals. With this in place, strive toward that goal relentlessly.
Keys to Warfare
Do not get frustrated by people less strategic or foolish, use them to your advantage.
Seek out the conflict, do not hide from it.
Maintain presence of mind, do not let yourself be intimidated by yourself or others.
Do not panic, focus on what you are confident in
Develop a quick reaction sense, make decisions
Rely on yourself,minimize reliance on others.***my note: especially with women,never rely on her for our happiness or validation of yourself.their emotions change so quick that you will go crazy if you rely on them for their approval of YOU!**


4- "Take calculated risks. That is quite different from being rash."

-GEN GEORGE PATTON

Dont always play it safe, Jesse talks about this in his program.
Worst enemy is your comfort zone.
Dont try to go to the other extreme as well,Be smart about it.
Theres always a balance.

Inspire yourself into your passion, work , gym or hobby.try to push yourself,ike increasing the weight and reps..this wil help you develope muscles and mental muscle from your actions.

This will also develop awarness and will make you a more of a go getter into being proactive towards your goal.

For Seduction I think that dont jump into conclusions too soon, always be aware at the beginning after expereince and some rejection you will know how to handle them without second thought it will be so fast you wont catch yoursel fsecond guessing or flinching.

dont always play into your comfort zone, be smart. you will encounter some situation that you cant avoid , theres always left and right its never just one way.

Its what you do with it , what you do with the ball no matter how shitty the pass is to you, its up to you to what to do with it, use this to your advantage.


See yourself having control , be proactive then take action.
this kills self dobt and will educate you.

EXAMPLE : you set up a date and it starts to rain...

options: you either make up an excuse to yourself because of the rain and cut the date short

OR

you use it as an excuse to talk about good feelings about rainy days...cuddling watching a movie ..eat in at your place and order delivery ....and how you are going to have to kick her out since you cant stay up too late...etc etc..


Its what you do with what you are given,this will help change your thinking.
Always think that you and you only can change the future and outcome of your own life.

Ask yourself if you deserve it, if you really love yourself to want it.

Then go for it.

Theres no greater feeling when you love yourself .

sorry for the mix up , i tried to make this simple and understandable.

Hope this helps any of you guys out there.

always feel free to comment.
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Action will destroy your procrastination.- Og Mandino