this applies to me too
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after a breakup or girl rejects you for gf or relationship, why she keep contacting me? and what should i do ?
She is using you for validation, You are in ORBITER mode.The set is BLOWN.
It could have been worse...Can you imagine knowing what type of girl she is , LSE self destructive,etc
Your attempt to try to turn her into your GF cause you have feelings for her?
HOW do you think your LIFE is going to be?
Be honest with yourself bro.
Yes,you have oneitis but best way is to realize is to be logical and not emotional about situation.
right now the emotions you are experiencing is basic "you want what you cannot have"...even if you can..
LAW #36 of 48 laws of power: Disdain Things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best Revenge
What would you expect from a relationship with her, knowing she is promiscious?
OK, Maybe get your dick wet when she is drunk off her ass and then what?
Your feelings will turn into major neediness after sex.
Why did you tell her about your feelings? You think she really cares?
That really comes off weak when the girl isnt attracted to you,When she is attracted it can come off genuine..but it has to be rare like a v-day!
She may have feelings maybe as an aquaintace but not as a lover.
Actually by NEXTing HER, she will try to seek rapport with you.
Get your shit together, change your mindset where you are coming from let it go for 30 days,
work on your ideal self, set goals , gym, watch fav movies, hang out with the boys.Fuck more chicks ; )
what cool guys you know ,have hobbies you like or think its cool?
Do it.
She is doing you a favor by pushing you away and giving you time to improve for yourself.
After 30 days you then decide what you want her part of your life again.
change for BETTER.
like AFC adam teaches use social proof to get her back.
Watch movie Swingers with vince vaughn and the movie cashback.
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why are girls better in moving on from a breakup?
I think they are cause they know the "monkey bar" sytem waay better...
the manage their neediness LOT better than men do.
They handle emotions better and have support(emotional withdrawl) and have things like Cosmo.lol
They will stay with you ,test you, if you fail they will start making it worse for you and make things difficult within the relationship,2 captains in same ship without control... until someone better or first guy to show interest,she either games him hook ups with him fast..you got competition, she starts noticing little things about you she doesnt like, act emotionally distant and cold. She then starts to subtle put less effort in investing in relationship and NOW she feels that she has power.
YOU then try to work hard to recover and to build attraction since you are losing her and fighting and uphill battle and she can tell you are trying hard.Her attraction dies and she sees you as a beta guy , not alpha, not standing up to her.
Then acts bitchy and disrespectful. An excuse to end it so she doesnt feel guilty.
(this is based on my experience,I havent read on it)
I personally sense learning from my last post,
Its better to drop a girl without notice and not say what happened or express your feelings.
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.
If you start expressing your feelings and arguing, I sense you are giving her more to think and prove you arent what she is looking for,educating her on how your thought process is
(this is pathetic when you are now in a win lose situation)
The Alpha Guy only deals when its on a win /win and on his terms.He doesnt explain himself.
In this case you end up Losing getting in an argument and you are rewarding emotionally by reacting to her bad behaviour.
I think the secret to knowing when to NEXT is when they are losing attraction for you and they are acting up to an extent, DROP HER.
You have to trust yourself and your gut instinct and masculinity.
Its better to have the upper hand in situations like this and cut it if its not working for you than to try to get over her and go through pain.
advantage is that you grow and learn from it..but you pay a price for it.ouch!
For a guy who gets dumped and cheated on ,its painful...
I try not to look back, If I do its just as to what I did wrong and move on, thats IT.
Its about where you stand and the frame of mind you are coming from...being away from her after the breakup with NO CONTACT gives you time to be cooler than you were before,this is favorable for your growth.
Girls that end up cheating on me or dump me I dont make them my female "friends" . I was asked to be FB's or be their emotional tampon when things arent going well for her and I have walked away from it cause it would help her emptionally recover fast than it would have helped me.
Emotions are one thing and obligations as a BF or your LIFE is one.
Just because you like her doesnt mean you drop what you are doing and focus on her...
thats where alot of guys lose control on themselves and their emotions.
like the sedona method you accept you feel that way and you either logical tell yourself that you control those emotions and ask yourself if you can let them go (emotions).
Dont act based on your emotions , but act on controlling your emotions.
Reference : Pulling your own strings by wayne dyer ; deep inner game david deangelo
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