I usually go out by myself and I open direct most of the time ive been too busy to game .i realize that I need a stack I don’t have a stack and I vibe too much it doesn’t go anywhere. I would like to see if a 30 day challenge thing would help me or do a daygame at malls here.
in daygame I open direct and get a girl to tell me to me give her my number and when I say to me to get hers to text it to hers she says no and insists me giving it to her first and that she will call me and she never does even though she works at a gas station and flirts big time a lot with me and saw her afterward and acted like I never asked her for it and kept it real unreactive like a shit test and so I don’t know what this means eventhough she still flirts.i think after holidays will reopen her and plow.lol Anyways
I think Im good with deep comfort I think I over do it cause im naturally too friendly but at times I go the other direction of being too sexual and come off too strong. I tried to use behavior management as frame control on girls cause I work a lot with kids who misbehave so in this thing I come off friendly and have good rapport and control their behavior at times possible. Still I feel I can go polar opposites of too friendly nice guy too deep too soon or guy that is apathetic and feels that women need to open me and I start staring at them sexually,
I need to game man to keep my social life away from work,I had a married girl from work stare at me a lot and stalk me and subcommunicate she wanted something but I cant risk my career for BSwoman
so I rather find other social means to game girls outside of work I just need focus.
I feel like im starting over after the loss of my all my ebooks convo demolitions and awesome mp3s I had on active passive and great stuff with saffron doc holiday and my notes from building comfort and the closing notes are all gone, I also plan hopefully to do online in jan 2013 as a bonus round .
I followed the dating solution book I had and joined toastmasters here recently but I come off uncalibrated. cause I notice peoples facial expressions from what I try to improv on a topic but I don’t make any sense.what you suggest to ask them for help in this area without coming off pua weird?lol
Id say my biggest sticking point is I’m confused, I want to do something consistent I like how you taught me direct back in the day but I lack a stack and I used to have a tendency to be needy or aggressive as you know but now Im like a pussy to be honest. I just like you to review this FR and see what you think I can work on, things are looking better for me here at school, I know mickey had a thing he copied from sinn on knowing when to let go when you text or call a girl when to let go and when to persist, im guessing due to the holidays and especially here girls stay home and don’t go out and even with winter get depressed according to my physician,so anyways.
when review this say what would I do Different?
FR :Field report
Friday night HOOPS BAR aka twenty one in Yakima,WA :
I went out just to enjoy myself and just relax.I usually am sexually aggressive and look at girls into their eyes and push and push to a “close” my female friend says that is sign of desperation and to stop it,
I have a good female friend Monique but she lives in California and I talk to her on the phone, she thinks Im handsome and cute and that I try too hard and she always is saying” be yourself you are too openly nice make them come to you, you have to sit back relax not give a shit and make them ask you to dance make them work for you, You don’t have to do anything!”
Ok her voice resegnates in my head sometimes Mark so Friday I went to a bar-club I was the best dressed and most handsome there.Made friends with the door man and some waitresses and especially the bartender, they knowi so they were friendly. bars open until 2am this was like 11:00pm
a woman Casey white kindah busty 6ft tall fat blonde I was sitting down at one point and she came to talk to me but then since my female friend Monique always tells me in my head when I ask her for advice “sit back and relax and let the girls come to you”attitude.
So this fat girl casey opens me with “hows your night going?” very aggressively friendly and I noticed she was either horny or I don’t know..lol. honestly its been awhile since ive gone out I was talking to her cool and chill straight vibe comfort blah blah Im here for school and there was a pause cause the conversation wasn’t really going anywhere …..this was 3 minutes in then when I tried to engage her into investing by doing a slight takeaway look at the screen of tv infront of me to indicate that Im getting bored and getting her to talk more and invest into the conversation to get her to talk more then she stood up said "have a nice night" and walked away.I was left clueless why she left and later on I tried to reopen her but she ignored me.again blindspot
I was standing there and watching a group of girls dance with one guy and all cute, I tried to catch a girls eyes nothing..then tried to screen the room,,nothing,,,then I tried standing there in spectator mode high fiving other guys just to keep away from my head.
then as I was about to leave a really short and cute mexican girl I forgot her name I approached her direct interest “I couldn’t help noticed you you look so bored and I think so you are kindah cute wanted to come talk to you, Hi Im Sandrospua ”that I saw her sitting down and wanted to come talk to her, she bought me a drink without me asking her and I was being myself, nice funny cool and charming, I did cold read like daygame and her talk about herself and about how I love a good personality she said “me too” to everything I said...then she asked me if I was gay like 2 times and I said no...
she giggled alot and I think we had something going I used sexual eye contact and my low smile to look even more handsome...i felt sexual tension she then out of the blue wanted to go dance to the dance floor she got up and grabbed my hand and took me like grindin on the dance floor....so we did for a bit but I dont know how to dance grindin' I was going to be aggressive sexual like grabing her ass and try to make out with her but I pulled back and HESITATED since I don’t know what to do and felt insecure..I didn’t want to be the dancing fat guy clown who doesn’t know how to dance, this was in my head going at that time instantly then when the music was lacking I told her I needed to go to the bathroom, I went to bathroom tried to put myself together and said to myself “fuck go for the close don’t waste time! Timebridge to her place or yours or whatever…just close”then I come out the bathroom all psyched up,
she also came out and then when we sat down she was different and kindah pissed or not interested,
I put my hand on her leg and she removed it, I smiled acted not a big deal and tried to plowed I guess I didn’t read her properlyor I was confused cause it was on,,,
I said “whats the agenda for later” credit Sinn* and she looked away then I said “whats best way to get together anytime soon?” aka getting her number and then shelooked at me and said "the truth is never"
I said: "oh I like the truth, thats important to me" and I smiled drank my drink and stood up and we both said at the same time "enjoy your night". I smiled it off and walked off like I was the coolest piece of ass she will ever get tonight thinking that she might change her mind seeing my non reactive response I was cool about the whole thing and went back and stood and stood looking at the dancefloor, then she leaves by herself and then Im like fuck this place hmm…I don’t know what I can do now ?
But was clulesss and was abit shy to open and not come off too try hard,that is MY BIGGEST FEAR IS FEAR THE THE GIRL IM GAMING SENSE THAT IM A TRY HARD.
Most girls there were with their boyfriends or in groups but I was trying to use my eye contact to gauge interest to cause appraoch invitation but no avail... now im guessing excuses go to my head and I left.
SAT CLUB LEVEL
I forgot to tell you that I have a fuckbuddy who I met in daygame supermarket here when I moved here in September after we spoke , I lost your notes to that consultation aswell,
she has been cool and like more of a friend and on and off sex, she is nerdy and abit socially awkward cause she is a town girl and ADD type but not a party chick she is likes video games and watching movies but she isn’t the one for me we aren’t compatible really ,
I still have to game other girls but Ive been thinking using her as a pivot.she has a nice body cause she is skinny 5’4 115lbs 27 yrs old but she is FWB.
My night started with going somewhere for fun since I was bored in the town where I live and the city where I am ….people are more into bars and dress casually which impairs me to peacock or stand out. I like to dress nice and figured try to go clubbing and just see what I can do without reading pickup well I don’t have anything to read anymore.lol. gosh I miss thouse practical pickup podcasts 07-08
Also I feel I don’t want to make mistake of burning myself out in same village. credit BadBoy*2012*
So I went elsewhere to go have fun and sarge is smarter idea to warm up and practice. There are no clubs in here either 3hr drive to seattle which I haven’t been there yet or this place other town which ive been before by myself but didnt open anyone cause I was afraid to dance…shit I don’t know whether to dance or not to dance but please keep reading.
So its started to snowing and my FWB had been a great “assistant” to taking pictures of me, (for my dating profile) I want to do online cause when we spoke in nyc when I lived with a natural roommate in 2009 I had great success closing girls and starting a rotation , that was my last month I lived in NYC after me and my best friend parted ways,I cant count on him anymore cause he is now married.
Anyways since I was recently buglarised by raided my apart ment and took all my ebooks and passport social security laptop everything….I needed now to try to take pics for online
Another thing is I managed to call few offices in seattle for auditions for modeling since I sent them my pic and I got a call to audition for a gig you know mark since Im half bolivian and half brasilean and tan, Im better looking than average brow…only my weight holds me back. But in mind I think Im better looking than I actually maybe am. I feel Im a model. Or as a ”DHV”lol..i think sometimes this makes me feel arrogant and cocky but I love myself now just confused how to put all this to work.
So FWB behaved well in helping me with “photshoot” and I used” frames” to persuade her get her into photography whole day with me for my dating profile but she thinks its for a modeling gig on the side cause Im better looking than average guy here and since she doesn’t have a job I played pretend that she is my personal assistant. FWB and so she isn’t jealous and I tried to 3some FFM her on craigslist but most I found was guys w GFs wanting a 3some with my girl; I had one attempt and at last minute the woman came over and Alison freaked out and the woman got scared and rude so after that experience that Alison isn’t the type for that and she isn’t bi either.. I decided to focus on improving myself and put that shit put it on hold …anyways so we had an awesome day of photography and that spiked up my emotional state abit ,eventhough I have shitty pics but anyways I agreed to have Alison play as my assistant then invited her to go out with me that night to be my pivot.
So we drove 2 hrs to clubBEVEL,in her car cause I don’t have snow tires, dam snow! not a lot of people but I walk in nice dressed and with “my assistant “ the manager at one point asks me who I am or where Im from due to the high status walk and talk and simple yet classy look to go to the club. V neck shirt black and my jeans and leather jacket which is mimic a suit jacket.see pic attached
I DHVd myself with everybody inside even the DJ,, all for social proof, planned.
So this was a ballsy attempt to see if I can use a pivot,I was in a high emotional state cause I felt like I was good looking guy at the place.
FWB seem to hate the club scene but she has never been in one and well I took her there cause to celerbrate the photshoot we did and show her what a club is.,FWB all the time was herself,not talking to anybody and lurking sitting down the whole time, this in part good ?.she is naturally abit socially awkward. Some girls came to talk to her but she would try to sing to songs or stare at the music videos on the wall and I tredi to get her excited, I never had a pivot I was all experiementing
I got a 7up and got her water to disguise we are drinking luckily clubs here are cheap with drinks.lol then as I sat down and read the room.
I was bscially trying to play the alpha guy players who don’t have to do much for the girls cause Monique keep telling me on the phone that “you should be the strong guy cause you are too nice and open and giving and that is bad cause there needs to be a balance and the girl has to invest or give in to you”….im like how the fuck I do that woman?
.anyways i sat down and was just singin along with the music and conversations here and there with FWB just to create the “Us party vibe”
to make a girl laugh to spike her buying temperature asain playboy credit*.i tried to do that with FWB so she wont seem uncomfortable and I get social proofed.
AMANDAY WHITE THICKY
So I see a lonely fat attractive girl white tall really cute on her phone texting and sitting by herself .
I go over there all relaxed and comfident and open “I saw you were bored and wanted to join you” I smiled…I extend my hand “Im Sandrospua” …silence eventhough background music is club going, she is attracted “hi Im amanday” I sit down next to her and we stare at each other and she blushes, “I figured youre sexy girl by yourself“ she says:”Im waiting for some friends cause she is getting divorced and Im separated now with a 2 yr old baby boy……do you really think Im sexy”
I say to her with an elegant smile “Yes I do” I put my hand on her thigh leg then remove it.
I get close to her and she blushes even more,,,I dontknow what the fuck blush means or what to do when a woman blushes but she was smiling and I tried to getmy face close to hers and try to kiss her without building any momentum but I hesitated then I pulled back and she asked why are you here in town and told her im a ..............she kindah felt she didn’t deserve me and then
I thinkI made a mistake of that time going into deep rapport with “its so hard to be a single mother I know cause I have sisters you have to be strong cause your baby I know is your world”…….
I dhvd that im from ……………..and a model and Im celebrating cause I had an awesome day, she blushed and then I said Im here with my personal assistant cause we wanted to celebrate went well today to bring her along. I don’t know if this was ok or whatever but I felt it killed the sexual vibe then she saw from a distance that
FWB seemed kindah introvert and not expressing facially her enjoying the club …..
Now as Im writing this I said this cause I thought I was connecting with her deep but we are in the club and she is sexually attracted all is needed was logistics to go isolate and penetrate. No more gaming? Or am I moving too fast? I remember saffron said to me something about pull back and ask her or qualify her sexually to make her chase you or something like that but I didn’t remember what the fuck it was or what to do just confused ….
That lowered abit her BT or sexual state and then we cheers with our drinks and we talk about her drink and my drink her drink looked cool and they both had red bull…we both started talking about red bull and how with alcohol does magical things..lol…I kept eye contact staring sexually like mickey rourke and she was blushing and horny…. She said I think you should try my drink and I did I drank a little and joked about the cuties….then I ejected saying that I had to go to make sure FWB is ok and I will go get a drink like hers….I think THIS was another mistake here was to eject from the set cause I tried to do a takeaway or “break rapport at a high point to make her chase you”like puas say or maybe im doing it wrong or at this point was unecesary….AGH! told her Im going to go get a drink…I went and got a drink for me and I sat down with FWB and thick white girl had gone to bathroom and she then walked by me next minute but I guess she was AI to invite her to sit with me , but I hesitated and didn’t know how to game next since I thought close man just close!!! Go fuck her in motel now!! In my head…then next moment since I didn’t open her she opens some random 2guys infront of me and starts dancing for 45 mins and grabing on dancefloor and then her friends show up and sit at the other end of the room. She doesn’t look at me at all and I didn’t know whether to reopen her
I think she is creating jeaolusy or she is basically upset I didn’t re opne her as I told her I would and she went straight to open 2 random chodes , who did good job at dancing. Cause I cant dance for shit.lol
I went to DJ and tell my name to play and FWB wanted to hear lady gaga..lol…this is just befriendly social proof.
I would shake around as if dancing but stay seated and banging my head,to be honest I cant dance cause Im self conscious of my weight and I might be overdoing the dancing or being laughed at or start sweating a lot.
So a Filipino lesbian girl opens me with her 2 friends who were black hair dyed kindah goth I guess with blue eyes and chubby both white girls had tattoos on their chest. AWW Im in love..sinn would say .lololol
Filipino comes as Im seated and approaches me with her neck to smell and she says what you think this is?
I say calvin klien she says no Armani bitch! I laugh and hi five and say “cool cool” then notice the 2 girls next to the Lesbian leasbina says “im a lesbian” she is very talkative like she took a bootcamp.lol
And I do the mystery method asking the lesbian “please introducing me to your friends it s poilite thing to do ..” Hi and intro FWB as my personal assistant, they were abit in Awe….when I said personal assistant cause they are local town girls.
So the lesbian girl says look at my 2 friends and signals to her friends and then signals with her hand a backwards peace sign like a pussy and licks her tongue in between like licking pussy and then says to me “these 2 friends of mine don’t wanna dance cause they says she doesn’t thinkthey have a good body”… I was seated and I touched the girl on her tattoo on her chestby her boobs with sexual eye contact like sliding my finger…”you both are sexy girls I like to see you both dance ” and I winked at her, they laughed and there was a silence so they left to dance with each other so lesbian kept running sets and opening everyone.the two girls were dancing by themselves looking around.
Then 2 young guys we will call them young sharks come in and they tactically try to dance one by one by themselves and they wing to open girls on dancefloor,most dances they had was brief and girl leave them to hang with other girls.
I said to myself to stop cause Im now being in spectator mode..them Monique l’s voice in my head says go have fun and leave..who cares? They have to come to you!
So I figured after that the two girl set were actually attracted to me both, maybe threesome but since I didn’t open them or dancewith them then I was clueless when I just wanted to be the prize let them come to you…? I cant dance and I have bad tendency of trying to talk in the dancefloor which now I think its stupid thing I do sometimes.and I don’t want to seem tryhard self conscious talking sticking point noticed here***
I noticed AmandaY dancing close body to the chode guy She isn’t good looking as me but he is in shape average,.its like she dismissed me….still I cant dance but cant be entertainer either…cause when I was in set with her I knew it was on and no more gaming was needed to close her…just the stupid PUA of “break rapport ” kicked in my head and ruined my chances. Anyways no more thinking in the field just action so I see a hot blonde walks in w a drunk friend and she is dancing by herself drunk, the 2 guys young sharks she her and its funny how they coordinate and team up,,,but she is too drunk few seconds dancing then they eject cause they cant get rapport with her on dancefloor she is drunk,
I see the tall friend next to me standing and I pull out a chair and make her sit down,she sits down next to me she is an HB 8, 5’10 blonde good body and seems abit serious but she opened up,,,HB TALL
We talk and she asks first what I do or what Im doing at the club I said Im celebrating and I introduced Alison as my personal assistant cause Im from ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, and just celebrating had a good day as a model.
She looked at me up and down and surprised she couldn’t tell or had a confused look on her face…then Lesbian opens her and sits infornt of us and opens with a comment of her stripper shoe HBTall had on,,then as lesbian Filipino leaves she kindah upset but funny says “WHY ARENT YOU DANCING? GO DANCE WITH MY 2 FRIENDS!! AND SHE DOES THAT THING WITH THE TONGUE IN BETWEEN HER FINGERS AGAIN” I was clueless what to do
So HB Tall she asked me I look different ,I said Im she goes to school to be a scientist to work for police and she hasn’t been gone out clubbing since April and that wanted to hang out with her friend. We talked a bout and I said cool..and I figured she was bored and wanted to dance but at same time look after her friend…
Then her friend came to the set and I use BT spiking to be cool with the friend, like when I deal with kids I treat when I sedate them lol “hey high five! Come here lets go” I grab her hands like we are handholding to the bar and I bought her a 7up and HBTALL a beer…. credit Brad bransson RSD mastermind #13*
I figure to lock in or be social but I remember in my head..oh shit I think I just fucked up my chances to bang HBTALL like a typical loser buying her drinks FUCK!…
I go and we build great chemistry of fun w hb drunbk but her attention span is all over the place like Tyler durdens post on shiney objects…..then we come back and as I had social proof myself as I had drunk girl all over me wanting to grab my hand and I noticed AMANDAY saw this and she went to her friends and stopped dancing with 2 chodes…I think jealousy worked .te 2 mexican chodes were leering the club and left by themselves.
Then I run or try to run game on HB TALL but I keep leaning in to talk loud I really didn’t know what the fuck to talk about and it seems Im investing more in convo than she is, she tells me that she has a 3 yr old boy at home and single mother and I run the same crap routine for deep comfort about how tough it is to be a single mother blah cause I didn’t not know WHAT TO SAY!?….which really lowered her energy and I wanted to kick myself and after that when I went silent its like the set was dead and I was done…….i was banging my head with the music like having fun but like seeing in her face….silence killed the set with awkward moment of silence and no topic to talk about
Then she asked me that why FWB seemed uncomfortable or not enjoying herself… Alison seemed with closed bodylanguage cause she isn’t used to being social or talking with people, she is a nerd type.
I responded to HB tall “she is tired but really is enjoying herself she s just here cause I hired her to be my personal assistant and she wanted to celebrate but she is cool like that”.. then HBTALL stares away when 1am came at that time 2 black guys came in and stood near the bar like to pickup the chicks to go home and fuck….all Alpha and then just sat down vip without paying and shit then stood up all ghetto
It caught HBTall’s attention and I noticed her body signaling her friend to open thouse black guys to talk cause the drunk girl was talking to every one all drunk and sloppy basically signally so she can leave from being with me sitting next to me… I noticed it and then I went to restroom and FWB told me the HBTAll tried to talk to Alsions but since lcub is so loud alsion couldn’t hear her.
When I came back from a clueless piss cause I wasn’t understadnign HBTalls subcommunication to close her or game her …….. she left to talk with black guys standing by the bar
Fucking confirms that all local chicks go to this club to get laid,fuckin balck guys showed up as the club was abou to close too.shit what can I learn from this?
As I came back from the restroom told FWB lets leave, lets go….
Outside where the 2 young sharks talking to one of the2 girls tattoo girls smoking, I don’t smoke and I kindah started screening out girls who smoke but shit not sure if it matters really if im going to get laid or just another fucking excuse not to close.
So fwb is my chauffeur as well since her car had snow tires and mine does not. Plus she is good driver wanting to drive, So one of the young sharks tries to open FWB as she leaves the club toward my car and I make eye contact with the guy and he silences…..then I say to them2 sharks “you are my heroes”….
I don’t know why I did that or said that but I think that I was upset or angry at myself inside due to outcome dependence and not closing any girls and realizing im fucking going clueless here and not the approach machine after the boston bootcamp 2008 where I did amazing shit now I was fucking lame….
So he says what you say man? I say to him “you are my heroes ……….picking up the leftovers”
And FWB laughs hard and embarrasses the 2 yougn sharks and the tattoo smoker tittti is still smoking didn’t hear that cause she is talking to the other shark as they both smoke probably figuring out logistics
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