Tuesday, August 30, 2011
INNER GAME: stay in control of emotions to be unaffected and unreactive
I recently found myself in deep emotional turmoil...
but as logical as it may sound you have to keep yourself detached emotionally.
Things that occur to you or encounter in your life doesnt define who you are, I mean the negative and painful parts.
As humans we tend to get our anger and emotions get to us then we justify these emotions to either blame or sobb over them justify our suffering.
this isnt so if you grab yourself out of it before you find yourself deep into an emotional depression or wreck.
It may sound rehashed but here's the thing:
you must be in control of what you feel
1- You can feel sad but doesnt mean you are SAD. Rephrase this.
this will help detach emotions from clouding you.
2- Sounds Cliche -ish but see positive and try to experience it as a lesson to move forward to better things to come and motivate you. This emotion you can dive yoruself in and the mind will make necesary changes without thinking.nmotiate yourself to be teflon strong regardless of adversity in your Life.you will learn not to doubt yourself and believe more in yourself.
"better sooner than latter."
"when life hits hard you have to get more power to getback"
"up if it were easy everybody would be doing it "
"you are responsible for yourself,your LIFE and your own happiness..never a woman"
"I love myself no matter what"..this is talking to yourself reinforcing your beliefs,not affirmations per se'.
Jesse has great ones in the section of "narcisstic incantations" in his product
which DOES WORK and very effective, I have used it and suggest to check that out.
3- Dont be affected by other peoples actions towards you.
Even if you NEXT a chick or chick rejects you dont let that affect you.You have to maintain focus on your Life and you well being at all times.
Always look at other sucessfull people who have been succesfull regardless of obstacles and circumstances.
(Or can offer their advice and may have gone through what you are going through, LISTEN to THEM)
Great reference that has personally help me on this and has great breakdown in a simple smart masculine way of managing your behavior is :
Robert Greene's 33 strategies of war chapter 3 It is a great read
heres a very brief review from Wiki:
Chapter 3
Amidst the Turmoil of Events, Do Not Lose Your Presence of Mind: The Counterbalance Strategy. You must stay focused, define your goals and have the confidence to achieve those goals. With this in place, strive toward that goal relentlessly.
Keys to Warfare
Do not get frustrated by people less strategic or foolish, use them to your advantage.
Seek out the conflict, do not hide from it.
Maintain presence of mind, do not let yourself be intimidated by yourself or others.
Do not panic, focus on what you are confident in
Develop a quick reaction sense, make decisions
Rely on yourself,minimize reliance on others.***my note: especially with women,never rely on her for our happiness or validation of yourself.their emotions change so quick that you will go crazy if you rely on them for their approval of YOU!**
4- "Take calculated risks. That is quite different from being rash."
-GEN GEORGE PATTON
Dont always play it safe, Jesse talks about this in his program.
Worst enemy is your comfort zone.
Dont try to go to the other extreme as well,Be smart about it.
Theres always a balance.
Inspire yourself into your passion, work , gym or hobby.try to push yourself,ike increasing the weight and reps..this wil help you develope muscles and mental muscle from your actions.
This will also develop awarness and will make you a more of a go getter into being proactive towards your goal.
For Seduction I think that dont jump into conclusions too soon, always be aware at the beginning after expereince and some rejection you will know how to handle them without second thought it will be so fast you wont catch yoursel fsecond guessing or flinching.
dont always play into your comfort zone, be smart. you will encounter some situation that you cant avoid , theres always left and right its never just one way.
Its what you do with it , what you do with the ball no matter how shitty the pass is to you, its up to you to what to do with it, use this to your advantage.
See yourself having control , be proactive then take action.
this kills self dobt and will educate you.
EXAMPLE : you set up a date and it starts to rain...
options: you either make up an excuse to yourself because of the rain and cut the date short
OR
you use it as an excuse to talk about good feelings about rainy days...cuddling watching a movie ..eat in at your place and order delivery ....and how you are going to have to kick her out since you cant stay up too late...etc etc..
Its what you do with what you are given,this will help change your thinking.
Always think that you and you only can change the future and outcome of your own life.
Ask yourself if you deserve it, if you really love yourself to want it.
Then go for it.
Theres no greater feeling when you love yourself .
sorry for the mix up , i tried to make this simple and understandable.
Hope this helps any of you guys out there.
always feel free to comment.
__________________
Action will destroy your procrastination.- Og Mandino
calibration on how to be the prize, to chase or not to chase???
Cool.
This is something I noticed that I caught myself doing.
This is about perception and about how you view things.
First as a man, you know you should be the Prize.
I dont mean be an ahole or scream at her or being negative to her.
NO. I did that and it works on Low self estem girls sometimes but thats not the point.
On balance post of PU I mentioned whats called "inner game"
to me inner game = self confidence.
Its that simple.
Most guys who get good by PU start with outer skills and
after the end up in a relationship or sleep with girls.They get needy.
When they recover, they work on their "inner game" for last.
I advise that the best way is too work endlessy on yourself first.
Cause from that PU comes easier.
Whats the difference of qualifying her and making her the PRIZE.
I learned 2 theories:
First, to get a girl atttracted you must DHV's, talk about yourself to display
attractive qualities by story first .etc.
2nd theory is you are high value , you shouldnt talk about yourself
and she has to qualify to you. cause you are the PRIZE.
IN PRACTICE:
When she isnt into you yet you can try with theory 1
if she is into you or you have some commonalites right off you can make her talk
about herself.Theory number 2.
This is the part where calibration (social awareness) comes in.
Real world experiences:
If you do it wrong,
theory number 1 comes off as you are trying to get her to like you,
TRY HARD. Not attractive.Like you dont deserve her and need to talk about yourself
to make her like you and she is noticing that.So she disqualifies you!
This is contradicting.But Wait theres more
Doing Theory number 2 wrong,
You are making her talk about herself, yet since you arent sharing about yourself yet,
the questions you ask are about her. sometimes interogation but its more like trying to
So indirectly ,more you ask ,more you are interested in her, equals she is the PRIZE.
Equals you are investing in her too much. not a challenge.
Dont give up now! I know its advanced stuff
Remember Seduction is effortless yet you must be proactive.
Solution:
Learn to be aware in social interactions when to talk and when to shut up!
I have friends who talk and talk and dont shut up and when I try to talk they interupt me.
I imagine poor girls might feel.
Other guys are too shy or too macho a hole which is social awkward both ways.
Listen when she is expressing herself and make her explain herself more when she does.
Dont ask questions in a row after she answers , it seems weird unless its a joke or
doing it to break her frame or state.
You talk about yourself if she isnt trying to invest in conversation so you start first and change topics,
try to get her engaged in coversation dont be all to yourself.
talk about her personality and things you noticed about her once you feel its on'.
Keep it both ways in between (push pull)
theory 1 and theory 2
based on how the vibe is going favorable and the chemistry going on by male female dynamic.
I know its abstract but feel free to comment
calibration is based of Entropy's definition of balance
ryan is credited for overgaming.
passive active value Entropy and saffron.
GREAT STUFF
This is something I noticed that I caught myself doing.
This is about perception and about how you view things.
First as a man, you know you should be the Prize.
I dont mean be an ahole or scream at her or being negative to her.
NO. I did that and it works on Low self estem girls sometimes but thats not the point.
On balance post of PU I mentioned whats called "inner game"
to me inner game = self confidence.
Its that simple.
Most guys who get good by PU start with outer skills and
after the end up in a relationship or sleep with girls.They get needy.
When they recover, they work on their "inner game" for last.
I advise that the best way is too work endlessy on yourself first.
Cause from that PU comes easier.
Whats the difference of qualifying her and making her the PRIZE.
I learned 2 theories:
First, to get a girl atttracted you must DHV's, talk about yourself to display
attractive qualities by story first .etc.
2nd theory is you are high value , you shouldnt talk about yourself
and she has to qualify to you. cause you are the PRIZE.
IN PRACTICE:
When she isnt into you yet you can try with theory 1
if she is into you or you have some commonalites right off you can make her talk
about herself.Theory number 2.
This is the part where calibration (social awareness) comes in.
Real world experiences:
If you do it wrong,
theory number 1 comes off as you are trying to get her to like you,
TRY HARD. Not attractive.Like you dont deserve her and need to talk about yourself
to make her like you and she is noticing that.So she disqualifies you!
This is contradicting.But Wait theres more
Doing Theory number 2 wrong,
You are making her talk about herself, yet since you arent sharing about yourself yet,
the questions you ask are about her. sometimes interogation but its more like trying to
So indirectly ,more you ask ,more you are interested in her, equals she is the PRIZE.
Equals you are investing in her too much. not a challenge.
Dont give up now! I know its advanced stuff
Remember Seduction is effortless yet you must be proactive.
Solution:
Learn to be aware in social interactions when to talk and when to shut up!
I have friends who talk and talk and dont shut up and when I try to talk they interupt me.
I imagine poor girls might feel.
Other guys are too shy or too macho a hole which is social awkward both ways.
Listen when she is expressing herself and make her explain herself more when she does.
Dont ask questions in a row after she answers , it seems weird unless its a joke or
doing it to break her frame or state.
You talk about yourself if she isnt trying to invest in conversation so you start first and change topics,
try to get her engaged in coversation dont be all to yourself.
talk about her personality and things you noticed about her once you feel its on'.
Keep it both ways in between (push pull)
theory 1 and theory 2
based on how the vibe is going favorable and the chemistry going on by male female dynamic.
I know its abstract but feel free to comment
calibration is based of Entropy's definition of balance
ryan is credited for overgaming.
passive active value Entropy and saffron.
GREAT STUFF
Friday, August 19, 2011
Entropy PUA – Everything You Need to Know About Pickup in Two Steps
Entropy PUA – Everything You Need to Know About Pickup in Two Steps
// Attraction
Entropy posted what I think is probably one of, if not the best post the community has ever written on how to get good with women. I agree with what he says 100%. He’s always putting out stellar posts, I suggest you go have a look at his site.
I was coaching a student last night when he turned and asked me, “If you could sum up getting good in the quickest way, what would it be?” Having a couple Red Bull + Vodkas in me, I pulled out of my ass possibly the simplest and most elegant explanation I’ve yet come across… Here it is… getting good at pick up — in two steps and less than a page:
1. Get Over Anxieties
- Social Anxiety: Approach regularly, relax into conversations, be able to build rapport consistently and easily.
- Sexual Anxiety: Be able to physically escalate, go for closes, talk sexually and fuck well.
- The only way to get over anxieties is by CONFRONTING THEM. People will use anything and everything to rationalize ways to avoid confronting their anxieties, the chief of which is inner game.
2. Balance Comfort and Attraction
- Attraction Heavy: A lot of guys are naturally attraction-heavy. They try too hard. They focus more on entertaining, joking, and excitement than actually connecting. They’re usually great at the first 5 minutes and bad at the rest. Girls flake on them constantly, give them tons of LMR, don’t stick around and are generally distrustful. These guys tend to have more sexual anxiety than social anxiety
- Comfort Heavy: Guys who are naturally comfort-heavy end up in the friend zone. They are more focused on connecting, building rapport, talking about life, experiences and genuine topics. They usually get blown out for being too boring and not expressive enough. They’re awful at the first 5 minutes but tend to be very good if a girl already likes them. They have trouble building attraction, but once they get it, girls rarely flake or give them LMR. These guys tend to have much more social anxiety than sexual anxiety.
- Balancing comfort and attraction is calibration. Every guy must learn to balance these two sides within themselves and also for each woman they talk to.
- Calibration is built through applying pick up theory through experience.
Side note: Most “naturals” are comfort-heavy guys who have some sort of natural attraction advantage. For instance, they’re good looking, in a rock band, nightclub promoter, etc. Their natural status or looks takes care of the attraction so they don’t ever have to.
Side note: Inner game is only useful inasmuch as it makes one aware of his anxieties and how to confront them.
That’s it.
// Attraction
Entropy posted what I think is probably one of, if not the best post the community has ever written on how to get good with women. I agree with what he says 100%. He’s always putting out stellar posts, I suggest you go have a look at his site.
I was coaching a student last night when he turned and asked me, “If you could sum up getting good in the quickest way, what would it be?” Having a couple Red Bull + Vodkas in me, I pulled out of my ass possibly the simplest and most elegant explanation I’ve yet come across… Here it is… getting good at pick up — in two steps and less than a page:
1. Get Over Anxieties
- Social Anxiety: Approach regularly, relax into conversations, be able to build rapport consistently and easily.
- Sexual Anxiety: Be able to physically escalate, go for closes, talk sexually and fuck well.
- The only way to get over anxieties is by CONFRONTING THEM. People will use anything and everything to rationalize ways to avoid confronting their anxieties, the chief of which is inner game.
2. Balance Comfort and Attraction
- Attraction Heavy: A lot of guys are naturally attraction-heavy. They try too hard. They focus more on entertaining, joking, and excitement than actually connecting. They’re usually great at the first 5 minutes and bad at the rest. Girls flake on them constantly, give them tons of LMR, don’t stick around and are generally distrustful. These guys tend to have more sexual anxiety than social anxiety
- Comfort Heavy: Guys who are naturally comfort-heavy end up in the friend zone. They are more focused on connecting, building rapport, talking about life, experiences and genuine topics. They usually get blown out for being too boring and not expressive enough. They’re awful at the first 5 minutes but tend to be very good if a girl already likes them. They have trouble building attraction, but once they get it, girls rarely flake or give them LMR. These guys tend to have much more social anxiety than sexual anxiety.
- Balancing comfort and attraction is calibration. Every guy must learn to balance these two sides within themselves and also for each woman they talk to.
- Calibration is built through applying pick up theory through experience.
Side note: Most “naturals” are comfort-heavy guys who have some sort of natural attraction advantage. For instance, they’re good looking, in a rock band, nightclub promoter, etc. Their natural status or looks takes care of the attraction so they don’t ever have to.
Side note: Inner game is only useful inasmuch as it makes one aware of his anxieties and how to confront them.
That’s it.
Representational systems (NLP) sent to me by Franco
Representational systems (also known as sensory modalities and abbreviated to VAKOG or known as the 4-tuple) is a neuro-linguistic programming model that examines how the human mind processes information. It states that for practical purposes, information is (or can be treated as if) processed through the senses. Thus people say one talks to oneself (the auditory sense) even if no words are emitted, one makes pictures in one's head when thinking or dreaming (the visual sense), and one considers feelings in the body and emotions (known as the kinesthetic sense).
NLP holds it as crucial in human cognitive processing to recognize that the subjective character of experience is strongly tied into, and influenced by, how memories and perceptions are processed within each sensory representation in the mind. It considers that expressions such as "It's all misty" or "I can't get a grip on it", can often be precise literal unconscious descriptions from within those sensory systems, communicating unconsciously where the mind perceives a problem in handling some mental event.
Within NLP, the various senses in their role as information processors, are known as representation systems, or sensory modalities. The model itself is known as the VAKOG model (from the initial letters of the sensory-specific modalities: visual, auditory, kinesthetic, olfactory, gustatory). Since taste and smell are so closely connected, sometimes as a 4-tuple, meaning its 4 way sensory-based description. A submodality is a structural element of a sensory impression, such as its perceived location, distance, size, or other quality.
Representational systems and submodalities are seen in NLP as offering a valuable therapeutic insight (or metaphor) and potential working methods, into how the human mind internally organizes and subjectively attaches meaning to events.
NLP holds it as crucial in human cognitive processing to recognize that the subjective character of experience is strongly tied into, and influenced by, how memories and perceptions are processed within each sensory representation in the mind. It considers that expressions such as "It's all misty" or "I can't get a grip on it", can often be precise literal unconscious descriptions from within those sensory systems, communicating unconsciously where the mind perceives a problem in handling some mental event.
Within NLP, the various senses in their role as information processors, are known as representation systems, or sensory modalities. The model itself is known as the VAKOG model (from the initial letters of the sensory-specific modalities: visual, auditory, kinesthetic, olfactory, gustatory). Since taste and smell are so closely connected, sometimes as a 4-tuple, meaning its 4 way sensory-based description. A submodality is a structural element of a sensory impression, such as its perceived location, distance, size, or other quality.
Representational systems and submodalities are seen in NLP as offering a valuable therapeutic insight (or metaphor) and potential working methods, into how the human mind internally organizes and subjectively attaches meaning to events.
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
Lost my FAITH in PickUp
seriously guys,
all this "Mystery" "PUA" , blah blah blah..."blast her with such and such routine line"
I lost faith in it. I stuck on it and was super dogmatic, eventhough I was already a jerk asshole but a nice guy w big heart.
The MAIN Thing is being insecure about yourself is what kills you.
Then even if you take bootcamps or courses or watch all videos you want , it wont work.
Realiity is first is NEVER EVER put yourself in a position to be a "PUA"
or think dogmatic way of having sex with a girl,there is no such thing as one size fits all.But when you are hard headed you try and try ...you try to be persistent but in the wrong context.
I think being aware and then being repetitive like in any sport is to fail over and over and develop growth.
I think it has to not only do with PickUp but in all areas you want to improve.
Example:
1. Do go do X in cold (not warmed up, not having read anything just your idea) Ofcourse Always be in habit of doing your BEST.
2. then get feedback, analyze what you did wrong or what you flinched at.
3.Read or look information on it or revise how its properly done. (not necessarily for "PUA" but in other areas) Dont over do it.
4. dont stay stuck in reading too much, remember theres a balance.
To imporve quite fast to to be aware of your mistakes,make it a habit.
5. From there Take ACTION and try again,this time do it with the information you now have.
6. Rinse and repeat.... Until you see improvement.
NOTE of things that work: Elicitng IOIs, future adventure projections or role plays, Spiking BT,Mirroring,Push-Pull or 101s,law of state transfer and more importantly Positive and strong Beliefs, believe in yourself without Shame.
all this "Mystery" "PUA" , blah blah blah..."blast her with such and such routine line"
I lost faith in it. I stuck on it and was super dogmatic, eventhough I was already a jerk asshole but a nice guy w big heart.
The MAIN Thing is being insecure about yourself is what kills you.
Then even if you take bootcamps or courses or watch all videos you want , it wont work.
Realiity is first is NEVER EVER put yourself in a position to be a "PUA"
or think dogmatic way of having sex with a girl,there is no such thing as one size fits all.But when you are hard headed you try and try ...you try to be persistent but in the wrong context.
I think being aware and then being repetitive like in any sport is to fail over and over and develop growth.
I think it has to not only do with PickUp but in all areas you want to improve.
Example:
1. Do go do X in cold (not warmed up, not having read anything just your idea) Ofcourse Always be in habit of doing your BEST.
2. then get feedback, analyze what you did wrong or what you flinched at.
3.Read or look information on it or revise how its properly done. (not necessarily for "PUA" but in other areas) Dont over do it.
4. dont stay stuck in reading too much, remember theres a balance.
To imporve quite fast to to be aware of your mistakes,make it a habit.
5. From there Take ACTION and try again,this time do it with the information you now have.
6. Rinse and repeat.... Until you see improvement.
NOTE of things that work: Elicitng IOIs, future adventure projections or role plays, Spiking BT,Mirroring,Push-Pull or 101s,law of state transfer and more importantly Positive and strong Beliefs, believe in yourself without Shame.
Thursday, May 19, 2011
I didnt go out cause parking lot was super full
no way in hell am I going to a strip club full of customers.
no fucking way.
will post FRs and LR audio. and bad experience w cuban american chubby girl.
no doubt
no fucking way.
will post FRs and LR audio. and bad experience w cuban american chubby girl.
no doubt
Karea recommends RSD Tyler's post Transformations" For Advanced Players -- Making The Come-Back
Updates
Monday, July 23, 2007
"Transformations" For Advanced Players -- Making The Come-Back
OMG what a day...
I'm packing up my apartment to leave Honolulu for around six months to a year.
I've got the NYC Blueprint Superconference coming up this weekend, and I've got to have the final preparations ready for the massive "Transformations" release that's coming out August 1 2007, 12PM EST.
(Have you gotten on the VIP Interest List yet?? It's at www.becometransformed.com)
Add to that I try to have the blog updates out on-time every Monday, so let's hammer this out FAST.
Today I want to talk about some "advanced-level" concepts...... which of course means that 90% of you will have absolutely no idea WTF I'm talking about.
That's OK.
You can "imagine" what it's like, and then come back in a year or two and re-read this article.
So......
When you're talking about "Transformations" you're talking about taking on a new lifestyle.
This lifestyle is a quantum-leap ahead of the way that you were living before, and it's a lifestyle that basically has a pattern.
You start out clueless, or maybe as a guy who wants to hit that higher level of success you know you're capable of.
At first you read up on the basics and you make a habit of going out and striking up conversations with women.
LOTS of women.... Like MASSIVE amounts of approaches, for months on end.
You hit up high-end venues that would usually intimidate you, experiment with all sorts of new behaviours (like humour, being more assertive, making connections with people, "being the party" and manning-up), and basically move towards "actualizing" the person that you know you're more than able to "become".
What this accomplishes is that it gets you about 10-20 years worth of "reference experiences" and "social skills" in about 1-3 years.
That's a LOT of reference experiences, and as a result you turn into basically what you'd call a MONSTER in a nightclub and in *life*.
It basically transforms you into (as funny as it sounds) a "social genius".
When I say a "social genius" what I mean is that if you're hanging out with a group of girls and you have a friend with you, your friend will probably be mentally-stunned and have a hard time offering value to the vibe because everything you say is so "on-point" that he socially can't "keep up".
(If you're a good dude you're conscious to "bring people up to your level" and back off a bit as opposed to "eclipsing" them and keeping them down).
Anyway, eventually you walk a typical path where you date a range of girls from not-so-wonderful to superficial-and-super-hot.
This is a *huge* ego-boost because you're now being given "access" to a world that you never thought that you could be a part of, and a world that most people will never realize exists.
What I'm talking about is very similar to the "Abundance VS Scarcity" reality that comes with building wealth -- where if you elevate yourself into a position of abundance you suddenly look at the world operating through scarcity and wonder how you ever could have walked in the same shoes.
Over time you become acclimatized to the whole lifestyle...
You've got the girls, probably a wonderful relationship, and you feel like you've basically become "The Man".
Now here's where things oftentimes start to get all screwed up...
Eventually you no longer feel a need to go out and "Pick Up Chicks" anymore.
This happens for a NUMBER of reasons...
1- You've become a lot more "internally validated" and so the thrill of chatting up some random girl just doesn't exist for you anymore.
You probably wonder how you ever spent so many hours just chatting up girls and it all seems to empty and meaningless at this point.
In fact, it's probably very difficult to go from 10PM to 2AM "chatting up girls" because it's like "Damn, elementary school used to be from 9AM to 3PM and that was like only 5 hours with all the lunch breaks and recesses.... Now I'm chatting up girls for FOUR hours?? That's a loooooong time!!"
2- You've probably started dating some very "quality" women, and you now have a better idea of what a quality girl is all about. Chatting up these semi-alcoholic, stimulation-junkie girls that tend to frequent nightclubs just feels like going back to Kindergarden.
Not only that, but the rudeness that's often stereotypical in nightclubs really messes with your "I want to view people in a positive light" type vibe. You see the way people treat eachother in these venues, and the superficiality of it all, and it just feels like a place that you *shouldn't* be.
3- You most likely have also dated some extremely hot women in your time, and once you actually start to date a lot of women and make the distinctions of what's actually hot and what's just make-up and smoke-and-mirrors, you realize that most of the girls you find are not nearly as physically attractive as they look on the surface.
Coming out of a relationship you probably also have a mindset where you want to "upgrade" as opposed to "downgrade", and all the girls that you USED to think were cool to talk to suddenly become a lot less enticing.
This gets even more ridiculous when you've got some girl you KNOW is not "all that" who tries to cut you down, and you're thinking "Uhhhh, my last three ex-girlfriends are a HUNDRED times hotter than you. Why in the world would you be acting like this??"
Anyway, all this results in your not really wanting to go out and meet people anymore because you now feel "comfortable in your own skin" and it just doesn't feel like it's a very worthwhile use of your time.
Here's the issue though...
Over the years you've taken on the new "identity" as being the guy who is now "good with girls".
You look at other people who live in a female-empoverished reality and you think "Wow these guys are so ridiculous... They really just need to man up."
Except guess what??
*YOU* are no longer competent to meet new women outside of your social-circle anymore.
You've become comfortable with yourself, more confident as a man, and generally just a better person......... but you're not ACTUALLY CAPABLE of pointing out, approaching, attracting, and dating a new girl at the snap of a finger anymore.
This creates a very nasty "incongruence".
You may even become a "hater" and talk trash on all the people who still like to "Run around like chickens with their heads cut off.... Trying to be mack-daddies and pick up all these girls".
Most likely you even *resent* the people who actually make an effort to improve themselves, because you see in them what Carl Jung would call your "Shadow Self" -- that previously "try-hard" dorky dude that you used to be a few years ago and that you've worked so hard to move past.
See, the whole idea of a legitimate "Transformation" is that you *become* the guy who now has mastery with women and mastery over the self.
That means that a few things...:
-You don't have to "get into state" at the start of the night.
-You don't have to consciously "do anything" to attract women other than just approach and be chatty.
-You don't have to "leave on a high-note" or worry that she won't see you at your "best" because you don't have to think about this stuff anymore.
-You don't get nervous to call day2s or bring a girl home.
You've literaly just *become* the guy that you want to be.
The thing is though.......... this also leads to some nasty "ego-constructs" that might hold you back in ways that you don't realize.
Back when you'd see a cute girl walking down the street, you'd *want* to approach her because your "ego" or "sense of self" would be increased NO MATTER WHAT THE REACTION.
I mean, even if the girl "rejected" you, you'd still have the identity of "A guy who at least had the guts to try..."
Nowadays though your sense-of-self is so inflated that ANYTHING OTHER THAN A PERFECT APPROACH IS A LET-DOWN.
This leads to a thin, almost indetectable "shelack of neediness"..... Where you're not "needy" for the actual girl, but you're "needy" for her confirmation that you're a still a "sex worthy guy".
You haven't been meeting new people (aka -- "strangers") for a long time, so anything other than a phenomenal reaction is basically just popping a hole in the "unchallenged reality" bubble that you've been comfortable living for the last few years.
Even tougher is that the "ego" has constructs of "What type of behaviour is acceptable and what type of behaviour is not".
This leads to a HUGE decrease in "teachability" -- in the sense that you're no longer capable of remaining a "student of the game".
As a teacher, I can't tell you how challenging it is for me to teach you if you're already "really good" with women.
That's not because I don't have a million little micro-distinctions to impart that could easily bring you up to the next level.
Nope...
Rather, it's because if you have a lot of skill with women already, your ego-construct is actually going to mess with you and make you feel an emotional-reaction when you're being given instruction as opposed to "calling the shots" like you're usually accustomed to.
(I have a million ways of dealing with this that I've learned over the years, btw...)
Honestly I can say that EVEN FOR ME, as a guy who can fully "recognize" the teachability issues that come with an inflated ego...... whenever I'm being "schooled" I can *still* feel this weird sensation in my body that's saying "You shouldn't be taking orders and criticism like this..."
I've learned to "observe" it, stay in-the-moment, and not identify myself with the emotion -- but that's still taken me a few years of work -- which if you're the average typically-cool dude you're probably NOT interested in investing yourself in.
Anyway, all of these issues make it REALLY FRIGGIN' HARD to re-assume a "student of the game" mentality and make that big "Come-Back" that you know you should be easily capable of.
If you're like most guys, you'll probably rest on your laurels and live through your stories about what a big pimp-boss-playa you used to be for the rest of your years.
It doesn't have to be that way, however...
If you want to make a glorious come-back, there is a still a "way" that it can be done...
In fact I have a few recommendations I want to leave you with, which I've personally found absolutely indispensable for emerging from the dust and reclaiming the throne...... :)
Here they are.......
1- First up is IMO the most absolutely crucial concept in the entire "Success With Women" lexicon.
That's the understanding that states, "YOU MUST DRAW STATE FROM YOURSELF AND NOT FROM YOUR ENVIRONMENT".
Back in the day you used to go out and get a thrill from talking to girls who you previously thought were "out of your league".
Well, those days are over. It ain't gonna happen for you like that anymore.
From here on out, you will have to take on the new habit of drawing state from within and not from your environment, otherwise you will feel and appear as like a "wilted-flower".
If you've ever studied the whole idea of "sexual yoga" and how to please a woman, you know that in a long-term relationship you can't keep getting the same "feelings" from it that you got when you first hooked up.... UNLESS you make the shift to viewing sex as an opportunity to just "go nuts" and "express" that crazy, emotional side of your personality.
On a "come back", going out has to become an opportunity to just blow off steam and be playful and go nuts. It's got to be therapeutic in that sense.
If you take this approach, you'll find that you'll stop whining that you don't care about women's validation anymore and you'll start viewing a night out as a way of recharging your batteries.
Go out for the joy of OFFERING VALUE rather than GETTING VALIDATED.
This will lead to hands-down the biggest increase in your results that you ever imagined. In fact, the flood of results will be so staggering that you will exceed any of your previous "records" from back in the day.
Make it your mission to assume this new mindset -- DRAWING STATE FROM YOURSELF AND NOT FROM YOUR ENVIRONMENT.
2- The next most important thing is..... "Admitting You Suck"
Face it... If you haven't been out meeting women for a while, the fact of the matter is that you probably suck.
So what??
Laugh about it. Tell people "Yeah I suck.... LOL"
Who cares?? If you're really "internally validated" now, why would you care if you've gotten a little rusty??
You'll find that when you stop trying to preserve your "duan juan" self image, you'll be empowered to 1) Not base your identity on your skills with women, and 2) Do all the core, fundamental things that most "advanced players" would have too much ego to do.
When I was out of the game for a year and a half to write The Blueprint, I went back into it saying "I'm not going to EVER talk about what a pimp I used to be... And I'm going to fully admit that I suck."
Within 30-90 days I found that I was not only back in great form, but I'd taken on many of the advantages of being a "seasoned veteran".
I felt a lot like I was in the movie "Rocky Balboa". I wasn't as fast on the responses or as nimble as I used to be (who cares??), but I could throw a punch that would knock you the heck out in a single blow.
IOW, while I still get blown out on the "Open" more often than I used to, I now get a lot of really kick-ass responses from women that I *never* used to get back in the day.
For example, I find more often that I'll have women continually re-opening me throughout the night (or opening me in the first place), talking non-stop to try and impress me, or even saying surprising things like "I'm so horny... I need you to take me home and f**k me right now..."
(This last once I've had more than once, which has really jolted me every time because it's so forward and over the top... Yet I've heard of many "naturals" getting these types of responses for years now and it intuitively makes sense).
I *never* used to get stuff like that back in the day. I had good results but I virtually *always* had to be the guy doing most of the work.
Obviously I don't get these results all the time, and I don't go out "expecting" it to happen, but it's been something that's been consistently occuring more and more since I've been back out there.
3- Cultivate a knowledge of your "Ego-structure" and become "Teachable" like you used to be back in the day.
This means that if you have to "stoop" to asking your friends who are still out there and kicking ass for some help, go out there and do it.
The principle I'm talking about here goes for whether you're already solid and want to improve, or if you've been out of it for a while and you want to get back in the game.
You'll find that when you've become a big P.I.M.P. that you have a defense-mechanism that makes you reject and block-out all people who try to "give you orders"
This mechanism is, of course, something you've evolved as a way of maintaining your social position.
Well you know what?? If it's not serving you, scrap it.
Man, life is SO FRUSTRATINGLY SHORT that there's simply NO EXCUSE to waste years of your life trying to preserve your identity and live in an unchallenged reality.
Just make it your mission to become teachable again, take advantage of all the great advice that's out there, and get back on the horse.
You'll find that when you do, the results that start pouring in will be so worth the stretch that you'll be flabbergasted that you never got back at it sooner.
Anyway, it's 8PM now and I've got to finish packing for my 6AM flight to Los Angeles en route to NYC.
I hope you guys have a great week, and remember to stay on the look out for "Transformations" which is coming out August 1 2007 @ 12PM EST.
You will be absolutely blown away with the increase in lifestyle that this program will produce for you...
At least, if you stick the script and actually IMPLEMENT what's being taught.
Tyler
PS:
If you're a guy who has been "in the game" for a long time, Jeffy has included a very detailed 2 hour section in "Transformations" that is IMO hands-down the most honest, intense, epiphany-creating breakdown of the "Advanced-Level" ups-and-downs that I have ever personally witnessed.
This is the type of hardcore subtle insight that will give you a higher level of "self-knowledge" and put you on a corrected-course to hitting that "elite level" you hear everyone talking about as being the ideal in this community.
Ultimately these types of "plateau-breaking" ideas could really only be offered to you by a guy coming from Jeffy's position -- as he's been living this lifestyle so long that he's one of the few people on this planet actually qualified to speak his mind to this extent.
Everything in "Transformations" is taught to you along the lines of THE JOURNEY -- going from "Newbie" to "Intermediate" to "Fully Advanced And Self-Actualized" player who lives a lifestyle that frankly, most guys will never realize exists.
What I'm talking about is hitting that "sweet spot" where these skills have become fully internalized and an inseparable feature of WHO-YOU-ARE.
There's also the most recent and up-to-date kick-ass techniques (and yes, Tim breaks down the infamous "CLAW"), step-by-step methodologies, and ultimately a crack team of seasoned veterans offering you their absolute top-notch insights on how to make explosive progress in this game.
Get on the 100% No Obligation "VIP Interest List" at www.becometransformed.com -- and later in the week you'll be linked to the detailed contents of what to expect from the program, as well as the most hilarious before-and-after pics you've ever seen (all of us as chodes, and then the pics of who we've become today).
As funny as it sounds (and without exaggerating), just seeing how ridiculous these are you'll probably find you undergo a bit of a bit of a shift in reality -- in terms of seeing visual proof that this stuff is absolutely 100% possible.
I was personally in stitches for like a half an hour. No kidding
Monday, July 23, 2007
"Transformations" For Advanced Players -- Making The Come-Back
OMG what a day...
I'm packing up my apartment to leave Honolulu for around six months to a year.
I've got the NYC Blueprint Superconference coming up this weekend, and I've got to have the final preparations ready for the massive "Transformations" release that's coming out August 1 2007, 12PM EST.
(Have you gotten on the VIP Interest List yet?? It's at www.becometransformed.com)
Add to that I try to have the blog updates out on-time every Monday, so let's hammer this out FAST.
Today I want to talk about some "advanced-level" concepts...... which of course means that 90% of you will have absolutely no idea WTF I'm talking about.
That's OK.
You can "imagine" what it's like, and then come back in a year or two and re-read this article.
So......
When you're talking about "Transformations" you're talking about taking on a new lifestyle.
This lifestyle is a quantum-leap ahead of the way that you were living before, and it's a lifestyle that basically has a pattern.
You start out clueless, or maybe as a guy who wants to hit that higher level of success you know you're capable of.
At first you read up on the basics and you make a habit of going out and striking up conversations with women.
LOTS of women.... Like MASSIVE amounts of approaches, for months on end.
You hit up high-end venues that would usually intimidate you, experiment with all sorts of new behaviours (like humour, being more assertive, making connections with people, "being the party" and manning-up), and basically move towards "actualizing" the person that you know you're more than able to "become".
What this accomplishes is that it gets you about 10-20 years worth of "reference experiences" and "social skills" in about 1-3 years.
That's a LOT of reference experiences, and as a result you turn into basically what you'd call a MONSTER in a nightclub and in *life*.
It basically transforms you into (as funny as it sounds) a "social genius".
When I say a "social genius" what I mean is that if you're hanging out with a group of girls and you have a friend with you, your friend will probably be mentally-stunned and have a hard time offering value to the vibe because everything you say is so "on-point" that he socially can't "keep up".
(If you're a good dude you're conscious to "bring people up to your level" and back off a bit as opposed to "eclipsing" them and keeping them down).
Anyway, eventually you walk a typical path where you date a range of girls from not-so-wonderful to superficial-and-super-hot.
This is a *huge* ego-boost because you're now being given "access" to a world that you never thought that you could be a part of, and a world that most people will never realize exists.
What I'm talking about is very similar to the "Abundance VS Scarcity" reality that comes with building wealth -- where if you elevate yourself into a position of abundance you suddenly look at the world operating through scarcity and wonder how you ever could have walked in the same shoes.
Over time you become acclimatized to the whole lifestyle...
You've got the girls, probably a wonderful relationship, and you feel like you've basically become "The Man".
Now here's where things oftentimes start to get all screwed up...
Eventually you no longer feel a need to go out and "Pick Up Chicks" anymore.
This happens for a NUMBER of reasons...
1- You've become a lot more "internally validated" and so the thrill of chatting up some random girl just doesn't exist for you anymore.
You probably wonder how you ever spent so many hours just chatting up girls and it all seems to empty and meaningless at this point.
In fact, it's probably very difficult to go from 10PM to 2AM "chatting up girls" because it's like "Damn, elementary school used to be from 9AM to 3PM and that was like only 5 hours with all the lunch breaks and recesses.... Now I'm chatting up girls for FOUR hours?? That's a loooooong time!!"
2- You've probably started dating some very "quality" women, and you now have a better idea of what a quality girl is all about. Chatting up these semi-alcoholic, stimulation-junkie girls that tend to frequent nightclubs just feels like going back to Kindergarden.
Not only that, but the rudeness that's often stereotypical in nightclubs really messes with your "I want to view people in a positive light" type vibe. You see the way people treat eachother in these venues, and the superficiality of it all, and it just feels like a place that you *shouldn't* be.
3- You most likely have also dated some extremely hot women in your time, and once you actually start to date a lot of women and make the distinctions of what's actually hot and what's just make-up and smoke-and-mirrors, you realize that most of the girls you find are not nearly as physically attractive as they look on the surface.
Coming out of a relationship you probably also have a mindset where you want to "upgrade" as opposed to "downgrade", and all the girls that you USED to think were cool to talk to suddenly become a lot less enticing.
This gets even more ridiculous when you've got some girl you KNOW is not "all that" who tries to cut you down, and you're thinking "Uhhhh, my last three ex-girlfriends are a HUNDRED times hotter than you. Why in the world would you be acting like this??"
Anyway, all this results in your not really wanting to go out and meet people anymore because you now feel "comfortable in your own skin" and it just doesn't feel like it's a very worthwhile use of your time.
Here's the issue though...
Over the years you've taken on the new "identity" as being the guy who is now "good with girls".
You look at other people who live in a female-empoverished reality and you think "Wow these guys are so ridiculous... They really just need to man up."
Except guess what??
*YOU* are no longer competent to meet new women outside of your social-circle anymore.
You've become comfortable with yourself, more confident as a man, and generally just a better person......... but you're not ACTUALLY CAPABLE of pointing out, approaching, attracting, and dating a new girl at the snap of a finger anymore.
This creates a very nasty "incongruence".
You may even become a "hater" and talk trash on all the people who still like to "Run around like chickens with their heads cut off.... Trying to be mack-daddies and pick up all these girls".
Most likely you even *resent* the people who actually make an effort to improve themselves, because you see in them what Carl Jung would call your "Shadow Self" -- that previously "try-hard" dorky dude that you used to be a few years ago and that you've worked so hard to move past.
See, the whole idea of a legitimate "Transformation" is that you *become* the guy who now has mastery with women and mastery over the self.
That means that a few things...:
-You don't have to "get into state" at the start of the night.
-You don't have to consciously "do anything" to attract women other than just approach and be chatty.
-You don't have to "leave on a high-note" or worry that she won't see you at your "best" because you don't have to think about this stuff anymore.
-You don't get nervous to call day2s or bring a girl home.
You've literaly just *become* the guy that you want to be.
The thing is though.......... this also leads to some nasty "ego-constructs" that might hold you back in ways that you don't realize.
Back when you'd see a cute girl walking down the street, you'd *want* to approach her because your "ego" or "sense of self" would be increased NO MATTER WHAT THE REACTION.
I mean, even if the girl "rejected" you, you'd still have the identity of "A guy who at least had the guts to try..."
Nowadays though your sense-of-self is so inflated that ANYTHING OTHER THAN A PERFECT APPROACH IS A LET-DOWN.
This leads to a thin, almost indetectable "shelack of neediness"..... Where you're not "needy" for the actual girl, but you're "needy" for her confirmation that you're a still a "sex worthy guy".
You haven't been meeting new people (aka -- "strangers") for a long time, so anything other than a phenomenal reaction is basically just popping a hole in the "unchallenged reality" bubble that you've been comfortable living for the last few years.
Even tougher is that the "ego" has constructs of "What type of behaviour is acceptable and what type of behaviour is not".
This leads to a HUGE decrease in "teachability" -- in the sense that you're no longer capable of remaining a "student of the game".
As a teacher, I can't tell you how challenging it is for me to teach you if you're already "really good" with women.
That's not because I don't have a million little micro-distinctions to impart that could easily bring you up to the next level.
Nope...
Rather, it's because if you have a lot of skill with women already, your ego-construct is actually going to mess with you and make you feel an emotional-reaction when you're being given instruction as opposed to "calling the shots" like you're usually accustomed to.
(I have a million ways of dealing with this that I've learned over the years, btw...)
Honestly I can say that EVEN FOR ME, as a guy who can fully "recognize" the teachability issues that come with an inflated ego...... whenever I'm being "schooled" I can *still* feel this weird sensation in my body that's saying "You shouldn't be taking orders and criticism like this..."
I've learned to "observe" it, stay in-the-moment, and not identify myself with the emotion -- but that's still taken me a few years of work -- which if you're the average typically-cool dude you're probably NOT interested in investing yourself in.
Anyway, all of these issues make it REALLY FRIGGIN' HARD to re-assume a "student of the game" mentality and make that big "Come-Back" that you know you should be easily capable of.
If you're like most guys, you'll probably rest on your laurels and live through your stories about what a big pimp-boss-playa you used to be for the rest of your years.
It doesn't have to be that way, however...
If you want to make a glorious come-back, there is a still a "way" that it can be done...
In fact I have a few recommendations I want to leave you with, which I've personally found absolutely indispensable for emerging from the dust and reclaiming the throne...... :)
Here they are.......
1- First up is IMO the most absolutely crucial concept in the entire "Success With Women" lexicon.
That's the understanding that states, "YOU MUST DRAW STATE FROM YOURSELF AND NOT FROM YOUR ENVIRONMENT".
Back in the day you used to go out and get a thrill from talking to girls who you previously thought were "out of your league".
Well, those days are over. It ain't gonna happen for you like that anymore.
From here on out, you will have to take on the new habit of drawing state from within and not from your environment, otherwise you will feel and appear as like a "wilted-flower".
If you've ever studied the whole idea of "sexual yoga" and how to please a woman, you know that in a long-term relationship you can't keep getting the same "feelings" from it that you got when you first hooked up.... UNLESS you make the shift to viewing sex as an opportunity to just "go nuts" and "express" that crazy, emotional side of your personality.
On a "come back", going out has to become an opportunity to just blow off steam and be playful and go nuts. It's got to be therapeutic in that sense.
If you take this approach, you'll find that you'll stop whining that you don't care about women's validation anymore and you'll start viewing a night out as a way of recharging your batteries.
Go out for the joy of OFFERING VALUE rather than GETTING VALIDATED.
This will lead to hands-down the biggest increase in your results that you ever imagined. In fact, the flood of results will be so staggering that you will exceed any of your previous "records" from back in the day.
Make it your mission to assume this new mindset -- DRAWING STATE FROM YOURSELF AND NOT FROM YOUR ENVIRONMENT.
2- The next most important thing is..... "Admitting You Suck"
Face it... If you haven't been out meeting women for a while, the fact of the matter is that you probably suck.
So what??
Laugh about it. Tell people "Yeah I suck.... LOL"
Who cares?? If you're really "internally validated" now, why would you care if you've gotten a little rusty??
You'll find that when you stop trying to preserve your "duan juan" self image, you'll be empowered to 1) Not base your identity on your skills with women, and 2) Do all the core, fundamental things that most "advanced players" would have too much ego to do.
When I was out of the game for a year and a half to write The Blueprint, I went back into it saying "I'm not going to EVER talk about what a pimp I used to be... And I'm going to fully admit that I suck."
Within 30-90 days I found that I was not only back in great form, but I'd taken on many of the advantages of being a "seasoned veteran".
I felt a lot like I was in the movie "Rocky Balboa". I wasn't as fast on the responses or as nimble as I used to be (who cares??), but I could throw a punch that would knock you the heck out in a single blow.
IOW, while I still get blown out on the "Open" more often than I used to, I now get a lot of really kick-ass responses from women that I *never* used to get back in the day.
For example, I find more often that I'll have women continually re-opening me throughout the night (or opening me in the first place), talking non-stop to try and impress me, or even saying surprising things like "I'm so horny... I need you to take me home and f**k me right now..."
(This last once I've had more than once, which has really jolted me every time because it's so forward and over the top... Yet I've heard of many "naturals" getting these types of responses for years now and it intuitively makes sense).
I *never* used to get stuff like that back in the day. I had good results but I virtually *always* had to be the guy doing most of the work.
Obviously I don't get these results all the time, and I don't go out "expecting" it to happen, but it's been something that's been consistently occuring more and more since I've been back out there.
3- Cultivate a knowledge of your "Ego-structure" and become "Teachable" like you used to be back in the day.
This means that if you have to "stoop" to asking your friends who are still out there and kicking ass for some help, go out there and do it.
The principle I'm talking about here goes for whether you're already solid and want to improve, or if you've been out of it for a while and you want to get back in the game.
You'll find that when you've become a big P.I.M.P. that you have a defense-mechanism that makes you reject and block-out all people who try to "give you orders"
This mechanism is, of course, something you've evolved as a way of maintaining your social position.
Well you know what?? If it's not serving you, scrap it.
Man, life is SO FRUSTRATINGLY SHORT that there's simply NO EXCUSE to waste years of your life trying to preserve your identity and live in an unchallenged reality.
Just make it your mission to become teachable again, take advantage of all the great advice that's out there, and get back on the horse.
You'll find that when you do, the results that start pouring in will be so worth the stretch that you'll be flabbergasted that you never got back at it sooner.
Anyway, it's 8PM now and I've got to finish packing for my 6AM flight to Los Angeles en route to NYC.
I hope you guys have a great week, and remember to stay on the look out for "Transformations" which is coming out August 1 2007 @ 12PM EST.
You will be absolutely blown away with the increase in lifestyle that this program will produce for you...
At least, if you stick the script and actually IMPLEMENT what's being taught.
Tyler
PS:
If you're a guy who has been "in the game" for a long time, Jeffy has included a very detailed 2 hour section in "Transformations" that is IMO hands-down the most honest, intense, epiphany-creating breakdown of the "Advanced-Level" ups-and-downs that I have ever personally witnessed.
This is the type of hardcore subtle insight that will give you a higher level of "self-knowledge" and put you on a corrected-course to hitting that "elite level" you hear everyone talking about as being the ideal in this community.
Ultimately these types of "plateau-breaking" ideas could really only be offered to you by a guy coming from Jeffy's position -- as he's been living this lifestyle so long that he's one of the few people on this planet actually qualified to speak his mind to this extent.
Everything in "Transformations" is taught to you along the lines of THE JOURNEY -- going from "Newbie" to "Intermediate" to "Fully Advanced And Self-Actualized" player who lives a lifestyle that frankly, most guys will never realize exists.
What I'm talking about is hitting that "sweet spot" where these skills have become fully internalized and an inseparable feature of WHO-YOU-ARE.
There's also the most recent and up-to-date kick-ass techniques (and yes, Tim breaks down the infamous "CLAW"), step-by-step methodologies, and ultimately a crack team of seasoned veterans offering you their absolute top-notch insights on how to make explosive progress in this game.
Get on the 100% No Obligation "VIP Interest List" at www.becometransformed.com -- and later in the week you'll be linked to the detailed contents of what to expect from the program, as well as the most hilarious before-and-after pics you've ever seen (all of us as chodes, and then the pics of who we've become today).
As funny as it sounds (and without exaggerating), just seeing how ridiculous these are you'll probably find you undergo a bit of a bit of a shift in reality -- in terms of seeing visual proof that this stuff is absolutely 100% possible.
I was personally in stitches for like a half an hour. No kidding
Thursday, April 28, 2011
10 Signs You’re Dating a Hot Crazy Mess of a Model
In one of my all-time favorite shows, “How I Met Your Mother,” there’s an absolutely hilarious character named Barney Stinson that is obviously based off a pick-up artist. I’m aware that it’s just a TV show, but many of his observations coincide with mine – namely, his hot-crazy graph; basically, the hotter the girl is, the more willing men are to put up with her crazy.
Unfortunately, I’m here to tell you guys that many, many beautiful and hot women come with a prescription for extra-strength CRAZY.
I’ve dated a Playboy cybermodel, pinup model, fashion runway model, strippers and dancers, cocktail waitresses, shot girls, pageant queens and the gamut of hot crazy messes both high and low.
Former ABCs of Attraction Wing-Girl turned Playboy Model: Claire
I’m also friends with many a beautiful porn star, actress, and even one of our former ABCs of Attraction wing-girls is now Playboy’s Miss October! So I think I can safely say that I have a pretty good sample size to base my, admittedly, subjective observations on.
I’m just listing out these characteristics so that you know what to expect once you actually learn how to successfully attract, approach, seduce and date highly beautiful, attractive women.
Not all of them are hot crazy messes so it’s doubtful that the attractive model you’re dating (or hope to date), has all ten of these traits (and woe be unto you if she does), but here are a few habits that I’ve seen time and time again. REMEMBER: You can’t change a person if she doesn’t want to change and you shouldn’t try. So don’t be Captain Save’a'Ho.
10 Signs You’re Dating a Hot Crazy Mess of a Model
She’s Totally Self-Centered: Now I say this neither to be mean nor to indicate that they are bad people, but as I always say, if you can think from a woman’s perspective, you’ll be better off. Now I want you to imagine growing up as a small child and everyone was nice to you. Everyone bought you gifts, everyone did you favors, everyone was considerate towards you. You were never ever the last person to be picked in sports or projects and everyone wanted to be around you. That’s the life of an incredibly beautiful woman. The reason they’re self-centered is because they’re literally the center of the universe to so many people and have no reason to think otherwise. This, combined with Habit #3, also explain why she’s comes off as a complete flake. Not because she’s being mean or cruel about it (although that could also be the case), or using you (although that too could be the case), but stuff happens and something or someone with a bigger and better date came along and swept her away in a fit of spontaneity, alphaness, high value, and dominance.
She’s A Natural Flirt: They’re highly sociable and socialized. I’ve known these girls that will flirt with not only the most handsome male models but with penniless strangers off the street with equal abandon and opportunity. Whether you’re a tall White guy or a short, fobby Asian man, these girls are completely willing to talk about anything to anyone simply because they don’t know any other way to behave. Approach anxiety is a completely foreign concept in their minds, and they don’t even know what it means from the man’s perspective (which also explains why it’s EASIER talking to more attractive women than unattractive women). Everyone in the world is willing to talk to them and they love to talk right back. If you’re dating her, you might mistakenly think she’s hitting on random men (although she may very well be), but you shouldn’t automatically assume so otherwise you’ll come off as insecure.
She’s Always Late: These girls will be late to their own funerals. Part of it, you might assume, is because they’re selfish and self centered (see Habit #1)… and you would not be completely wrong. However, it’s not always like that – she’s constantly late because everywhere she goes, things are happening around and to her on an hourly basis. People are always doing her favors, talking to her, and her phone is blowing up (see Habit #6). She’s constantly being “accosted” and to her it’s an everyday, normal occurrence. The simple act of walking to the grocery store can become an adventure for them as every step they take, someone’s approaching her or an orbiter is calling her on her phone or a Facebook creeper is stalking her profile. That’s how they live their lives and that’s why women thrive on drama – their lives are never boring, but they’re never punctual, either.
She’s A Schemer: One thing I have seen with beautiful girls is that, even though a ridiculous amount of crap happens to them, somehow things come to fruition. I’ve heard the craziest schemes on how to get rich…and then they do become rich (or at least in the temporary possession of money), albeit not by that particular plan. I have also been party to the most well-orchestrated plan that would rival D-Day and the storming of Normandy, all to be dismissed at the vagaries and whims of these gorgeous tacticians. In other words, they’re always doing something that typically involves the assistance of random strangers, orbiters, acquaintances, friends, lovers, and wannabe lovers that, eventually, in a manner similar to “Ocean’s Eleven,” enough things come together to make something work for them. Hell, I’ve been lost in a non-English speaking country where I didn’t speak the language and simply having a beautiful girlfriend on my arm helped me get an amazing police escort to the city and free luxury hotel stay. It’s as if they lived a charmed life.
She’s Completely Disorganized: This doesn’t end at work or play – from their professional to personal lives, everything is one big, jumbled, hot mess. I cannot count the times I’ve driven in an exotic dancer’s nomadic SUVs where they hold their entirety of their lives to the beautiful model couch-surfing at a friend’s house. Not only do these hot girls not have their crap together, they simply can’t get it together. This may have a lot to do with them being used to everything being done for them; they never learned enough practical life skills to be able to keep things in order.
She’s Attached To Her Phone: These hot girls can’t escape the constant explosions they get from people via calls, texts, Facebook, Twitter…it never ends with them! Girls screen their phone calls – it’s no secret – but it’s because if they don’t, they’d be on the phone ALL DAY LONG. It’s not uncommon for them to go to bed and wake up eight hours later with several new friend requests and followers, numerous texts, and dozens of Facebook notifications (at least half of which are random losers hitting on them). It’s imperative to understand that people are constantly contacting her and wanting to be in contact with her. You cannot hope to socially isolate her; not only is it impossible, you’ll just come off as a possessive, controlling, soon-to-be-ex boyfriend. (One tactic I’ve used before is to simply take out the battery on her phone, that way she just thinks her phone died ergo no interruptus coitus)
She’s Either Loved Or Hated: Their beauty and sexuality elicits immediate polarizing reactions in people. Men will obviously become instantly attracted to them, but it also polarizes guys to become either more aggressive and act upon their natural instincts or too terrified to do anything more than stare. Women will also react in a similar fashion; they’ll either try to be incredibly nice and be the drone bee to her queen bee or they will hate her – both behind her back and to her face. One of the most hilarious bed & breakfast weekend getaways I’ve had with a beautiful girl was where every single old lady hated her; we literally could not get a break because all the old people hated her and they weren’t shy about it either!
Facial Expressions and Non-Verbal Communication are more important than Verbal Game
She’s Physically & Facially Expressive: Maybe it’s all the practice they get from making their “O face,” but these beautiful women know how to communicate without words. They understand the power of their smiles, the way they cock their heads and the smolder in their eyes. They can communicate more with their face and body language than any so-called Pick Up Artist with his canned routines and DHVs. Non-verbal game is more important than verbal game and they know how to work both.
She’s Over-Sexualized: For these beautiful girls, there’s more than one kind of sex. Sometimes they have sex because they want the guy, because they’re simply horny and find something to their standards, or because they want to make sure they can still get cock-on-call. Whatever the reason, sex doesn’t always have the same meaning for them. Beautiful women are typically VERY good in bed because they’ve obviously had a lot of practice (obviously there are exceptions which is always very, very disappointing); sex for them does not have to have the high emotional bonding as they might have with someone else. It doesn’t mean she’s cheating on you (although she could be), it just means beautiful women always have the OPTION to have sex with any guy (although that’s not the point for her, she wants to have sex with “the one guy”).
She’s Her Body’s Worst Enemy: Whether it be food, wine or your sperm, crazy beautiful women know how to throw up to keep their weight down. More than half of women in the United States have some sort of body dysmorphia during their lifetime, where they perceive themselves as fat or are fearful of getting fat. Even though you think they’re beautiful, when they look in the mirror, they see imperfections and flaws galore. Taking action by throwing up, insane dieting and exercise plans or ingesting laxatives, their goddess-like bodies come at a very high personal cost.
To be fair, these beautiful train wrecks are simply a product of their upbringing, but they are just that – gorgeous, yet crazy.
Keeping up with her is no easy task, but it can also be one of the most entertaining and hilarious experiences you’ve ever had.
If you have yet to date one of these kinds of women, I highly recommend getting your game together and trying it out, in the very least to be able to say you’ve dated Playboy model material.
Unfortunately, I’m here to tell you guys that many, many beautiful and hot women come with a prescription for extra-strength CRAZY.
I’ve dated a Playboy cybermodel, pinup model, fashion runway model, strippers and dancers, cocktail waitresses, shot girls, pageant queens and the gamut of hot crazy messes both high and low.
Former ABCs of Attraction Wing-Girl turned Playboy Model: Claire
I’m also friends with many a beautiful porn star, actress, and even one of our former ABCs of Attraction wing-girls is now Playboy’s Miss October! So I think I can safely say that I have a pretty good sample size to base my, admittedly, subjective observations on.
I’m just listing out these characteristics so that you know what to expect once you actually learn how to successfully attract, approach, seduce and date highly beautiful, attractive women.
Not all of them are hot crazy messes so it’s doubtful that the attractive model you’re dating (or hope to date), has all ten of these traits (and woe be unto you if she does), but here are a few habits that I’ve seen time and time again. REMEMBER: You can’t change a person if she doesn’t want to change and you shouldn’t try. So don’t be Captain Save’a'Ho.
10 Signs You’re Dating a Hot Crazy Mess of a Model
She’s Totally Self-Centered: Now I say this neither to be mean nor to indicate that they are bad people, but as I always say, if you can think from a woman’s perspective, you’ll be better off. Now I want you to imagine growing up as a small child and everyone was nice to you. Everyone bought you gifts, everyone did you favors, everyone was considerate towards you. You were never ever the last person to be picked in sports or projects and everyone wanted to be around you. That’s the life of an incredibly beautiful woman. The reason they’re self-centered is because they’re literally the center of the universe to so many people and have no reason to think otherwise. This, combined with Habit #3, also explain why she’s comes off as a complete flake. Not because she’s being mean or cruel about it (although that could also be the case), or using you (although that too could be the case), but stuff happens and something or someone with a bigger and better date came along and swept her away in a fit of spontaneity, alphaness, high value, and dominance.
She’s A Natural Flirt: They’re highly sociable and socialized. I’ve known these girls that will flirt with not only the most handsome male models but with penniless strangers off the street with equal abandon and opportunity. Whether you’re a tall White guy or a short, fobby Asian man, these girls are completely willing to talk about anything to anyone simply because they don’t know any other way to behave. Approach anxiety is a completely foreign concept in their minds, and they don’t even know what it means from the man’s perspective (which also explains why it’s EASIER talking to more attractive women than unattractive women). Everyone in the world is willing to talk to them and they love to talk right back. If you’re dating her, you might mistakenly think she’s hitting on random men (although she may very well be), but you shouldn’t automatically assume so otherwise you’ll come off as insecure.
She’s Always Late: These girls will be late to their own funerals. Part of it, you might assume, is because they’re selfish and self centered (see Habit #1)… and you would not be completely wrong. However, it’s not always like that – she’s constantly late because everywhere she goes, things are happening around and to her on an hourly basis. People are always doing her favors, talking to her, and her phone is blowing up (see Habit #6). She’s constantly being “accosted” and to her it’s an everyday, normal occurrence. The simple act of walking to the grocery store can become an adventure for them as every step they take, someone’s approaching her or an orbiter is calling her on her phone or a Facebook creeper is stalking her profile. That’s how they live their lives and that’s why women thrive on drama – their lives are never boring, but they’re never punctual, either.
She’s A Schemer: One thing I have seen with beautiful girls is that, even though a ridiculous amount of crap happens to them, somehow things come to fruition. I’ve heard the craziest schemes on how to get rich…and then they do become rich (or at least in the temporary possession of money), albeit not by that particular plan. I have also been party to the most well-orchestrated plan that would rival D-Day and the storming of Normandy, all to be dismissed at the vagaries and whims of these gorgeous tacticians. In other words, they’re always doing something that typically involves the assistance of random strangers, orbiters, acquaintances, friends, lovers, and wannabe lovers that, eventually, in a manner similar to “Ocean’s Eleven,” enough things come together to make something work for them. Hell, I’ve been lost in a non-English speaking country where I didn’t speak the language and simply having a beautiful girlfriend on my arm helped me get an amazing police escort to the city and free luxury hotel stay. It’s as if they lived a charmed life.
She’s Completely Disorganized: This doesn’t end at work or play – from their professional to personal lives, everything is one big, jumbled, hot mess. I cannot count the times I’ve driven in an exotic dancer’s nomadic SUVs where they hold their entirety of their lives to the beautiful model couch-surfing at a friend’s house. Not only do these hot girls not have their crap together, they simply can’t get it together. This may have a lot to do with them being used to everything being done for them; they never learned enough practical life skills to be able to keep things in order.
She’s Attached To Her Phone: These hot girls can’t escape the constant explosions they get from people via calls, texts, Facebook, Twitter…it never ends with them! Girls screen their phone calls – it’s no secret – but it’s because if they don’t, they’d be on the phone ALL DAY LONG. It’s not uncommon for them to go to bed and wake up eight hours later with several new friend requests and followers, numerous texts, and dozens of Facebook notifications (at least half of which are random losers hitting on them). It’s imperative to understand that people are constantly contacting her and wanting to be in contact with her. You cannot hope to socially isolate her; not only is it impossible, you’ll just come off as a possessive, controlling, soon-to-be-ex boyfriend. (One tactic I’ve used before is to simply take out the battery on her phone, that way she just thinks her phone died ergo no interruptus coitus)
She’s Either Loved Or Hated: Their beauty and sexuality elicits immediate polarizing reactions in people. Men will obviously become instantly attracted to them, but it also polarizes guys to become either more aggressive and act upon their natural instincts or too terrified to do anything more than stare. Women will also react in a similar fashion; they’ll either try to be incredibly nice and be the drone bee to her queen bee or they will hate her – both behind her back and to her face. One of the most hilarious bed & breakfast weekend getaways I’ve had with a beautiful girl was where every single old lady hated her; we literally could not get a break because all the old people hated her and they weren’t shy about it either!
Facial Expressions and Non-Verbal Communication are more important than Verbal Game
She’s Physically & Facially Expressive: Maybe it’s all the practice they get from making their “O face,” but these beautiful women know how to communicate without words. They understand the power of their smiles, the way they cock their heads and the smolder in their eyes. They can communicate more with their face and body language than any so-called Pick Up Artist with his canned routines and DHVs. Non-verbal game is more important than verbal game and they know how to work both.
She’s Over-Sexualized: For these beautiful girls, there’s more than one kind of sex. Sometimes they have sex because they want the guy, because they’re simply horny and find something to their standards, or because they want to make sure they can still get cock-on-call. Whatever the reason, sex doesn’t always have the same meaning for them. Beautiful women are typically VERY good in bed because they’ve obviously had a lot of practice (obviously there are exceptions which is always very, very disappointing); sex for them does not have to have the high emotional bonding as they might have with someone else. It doesn’t mean she’s cheating on you (although she could be), it just means beautiful women always have the OPTION to have sex with any guy (although that’s not the point for her, she wants to have sex with “the one guy”).
She’s Her Body’s Worst Enemy: Whether it be food, wine or your sperm, crazy beautiful women know how to throw up to keep their weight down. More than half of women in the United States have some sort of body dysmorphia during their lifetime, where they perceive themselves as fat or are fearful of getting fat. Even though you think they’re beautiful, when they look in the mirror, they see imperfections and flaws galore. Taking action by throwing up, insane dieting and exercise plans or ingesting laxatives, their goddess-like bodies come at a very high personal cost.
To be fair, these beautiful train wrecks are simply a product of their upbringing, but they are just that – gorgeous, yet crazy.
Keeping up with her is no easy task, but it can also be one of the most entertaining and hilarious experiences you’ve ever had.
If you have yet to date one of these kinds of women, I highly recommend getting your game together and trying it out, in the very least to be able to say you’ve dated Playboy model material.
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
Girl Talk: Ask Me Out On A Damn Date
by Jessica Wakeman refered by BAdBoy PUA
1:00PM, 02/18/2011 Comments (258)
Hello there. You. Yes, you! I have something I would like to talk to you about.
It’s come up a couple of times recently and it’s gotten so irritating that I finally have to say something about it. I’m pretty sure you’re not even aware of what you’re doing or why it bothers me. So here it goes.
I would like you to ask me out on a freaking date.
When a man asks me out on a date with a day of the week and a time and a place, I know he has the confidence to actually ask me out on a goddamned date.
Don’t ask me to hang out with you. Don’t ask me if I’m free “sometime” on Friday night and say you’ll get in touch that night to “see what’s up.” Don’t ask me if I’m “interested in getting a drink sometime.”
I have been talking to you, haven’t I? I have been emailing, text messaging, IMing, and even talking on the phone. Of course I’m “interested” in “hanging out” “sometime.” That is why I am talking to you. I am not doing it for my health, because I have nothing better to do with my time, or because you’re so goddamned interesting that I can’t resist your witty banter over gchat. If I wasn’t already “interested,” you wouldn’t be communicating with me at all.
I want you to ask me on a date.
I want the date to have a day of the week — Friday or Saturday, for instance.
I want the date to have a time — 8 o’clock would be an example.
I want the date to have a place, or at least, a notion of a place. “A drink.” “Coffee.” “Dinner.” “Walking around a bookstore together.” I sincerely do not care where we go or what we do; I just want to prepare for it (eat dinner beforehand, don’t eat dinner beforehand) and know how I should dress (heels? sneakers?). You don’t even have to spend money. I’ll pay for myself if you don’t offer! Really, this should not be intimidating.
I said this before but it bears repeating: I don’t want to “hang out” with you. What does hang out even mean to you, exactly? I hang out on my friends’ couches and thumb through magazines while we gossip with each other. Is that what you want us to do? And while we’re on the subject of not “hanging out,” don’t ask me to come meet your friends at a bar, either. I have enough friends and family in my life to “hang out” with and we have our own bars. Why, if I have never met you before, would I want to “hang out” at your favorite bar with more people I don’t know?
Now. I know what you’re thinking and feeling. You’re feeling criticized and attacked by what I’m saying. You may even think I sound like a bitch. No wonder no one asks me out on dates, right?
Well, you would be wrong. I do get asked on dates by men, actually, and it works amazingly well. When I am asked out on dates with days of the week and times and places, I know the man is interested in getting to know me enough to actually put some thought into planning what we are going to do, that I’m not just casually “hanging out” with him and his friends. I know whether to eat beforehand. I know what to wear. I know whether to have cash on hand to get home or to ask someone to pick me up or to ask to stay at a friend’s place. I know whether to get a manicure or do a face mask beforehand. I know whether or not I actually have plans— a novel idea!
But more importantly, when a man asks me out on a date with a day of the week and a time and a place, I know he has the confidence to actually ask me out on a goddamned date.
See, I’m not a bitch: I know you are scared to ask me on a date. I know you’re afraid I might say “no.” You’re afraid I might think you’re ugly, unfunny, boring, that you don’t make enough money, or any number of things. I get it. You’re afraid of rejection. I’m afraid of rejection, too. We all are. That’s human. But that’s life. People get rejected. However, observe the context of the situation. Do I seem like a raging nutjob that’s going to turn you down in a way that humiliates you in front of your friends, your boss, your extended family and national television? No, that’s not going to happen. I don’t bite. I am actually really, really nice. You have to realize if we’ve been talking on the phone, emailing, and flirting, it means I am interested in you and your chances of being rejected are much, much lower. Like, .003 percent, should Clive Owen show up on my front stoop with a package of Magnums. Are you really so afraid to ask me out for a $4 cup of coffee at Starbucks and risk a .003 percent chance of rejection that you just won’t do it?
Really? Really? REALLY?
I’m sorry, but then you’re not for me.
Because I do have the confidence to ask you out on a date. I’m as afraid of rejection as the next human being but I’m willing to risk it if it means a great date with a wonderful man. I should not be the one who has to ask men on dates — or limply not-ask, as is more often the case — all the time because they’re too afraid of getting rejected. My gender has nothing to do with my frustration here: it’s 2011 and I am not Suzy Homemaker from 1952 who follows rigid gender roles to a T (although I do confess to enjoying more traditional men). Generally speaking, I think men are intimidated by women who do the pursuing/asking out, though, so I do it on a case-by-case basis. And if I can do it — and I have done it — you can, too.
It’s not hard.
It’s just words.
There’s a 99.097 percent chance I am going to say “yes.”
Please, just ask me out on a freaking date.
1:00PM, 02/18/2011 Comments (258)
Hello there. You. Yes, you! I have something I would like to talk to you about.
It’s come up a couple of times recently and it’s gotten so irritating that I finally have to say something about it. I’m pretty sure you’re not even aware of what you’re doing or why it bothers me. So here it goes.
I would like you to ask me out on a freaking date.
When a man asks me out on a date with a day of the week and a time and a place, I know he has the confidence to actually ask me out on a goddamned date.
Don’t ask me to hang out with you. Don’t ask me if I’m free “sometime” on Friday night and say you’ll get in touch that night to “see what’s up.” Don’t ask me if I’m “interested in getting a drink sometime.”
I have been talking to you, haven’t I? I have been emailing, text messaging, IMing, and even talking on the phone. Of course I’m “interested” in “hanging out” “sometime.” That is why I am talking to you. I am not doing it for my health, because I have nothing better to do with my time, or because you’re so goddamned interesting that I can’t resist your witty banter over gchat. If I wasn’t already “interested,” you wouldn’t be communicating with me at all.
I want you to ask me on a date.
I want the date to have a day of the week — Friday or Saturday, for instance.
I want the date to have a time — 8 o’clock would be an example.
I want the date to have a place, or at least, a notion of a place. “A drink.” “Coffee.” “Dinner.” “Walking around a bookstore together.” I sincerely do not care where we go or what we do; I just want to prepare for it (eat dinner beforehand, don’t eat dinner beforehand) and know how I should dress (heels? sneakers?). You don’t even have to spend money. I’ll pay for myself if you don’t offer! Really, this should not be intimidating.
I said this before but it bears repeating: I don’t want to “hang out” with you. What does hang out even mean to you, exactly? I hang out on my friends’ couches and thumb through magazines while we gossip with each other. Is that what you want us to do? And while we’re on the subject of not “hanging out,” don’t ask me to come meet your friends at a bar, either. I have enough friends and family in my life to “hang out” with and we have our own bars. Why, if I have never met you before, would I want to “hang out” at your favorite bar with more people I don’t know?
Now. I know what you’re thinking and feeling. You’re feeling criticized and attacked by what I’m saying. You may even think I sound like a bitch. No wonder no one asks me out on dates, right?
Well, you would be wrong. I do get asked on dates by men, actually, and it works amazingly well. When I am asked out on dates with days of the week and times and places, I know the man is interested in getting to know me enough to actually put some thought into planning what we are going to do, that I’m not just casually “hanging out” with him and his friends. I know whether to eat beforehand. I know what to wear. I know whether to have cash on hand to get home or to ask someone to pick me up or to ask to stay at a friend’s place. I know whether to get a manicure or do a face mask beforehand. I know whether or not I actually have plans— a novel idea!
But more importantly, when a man asks me out on a date with a day of the week and a time and a place, I know he has the confidence to actually ask me out on a goddamned date.
See, I’m not a bitch: I know you are scared to ask me on a date. I know you’re afraid I might say “no.” You’re afraid I might think you’re ugly, unfunny, boring, that you don’t make enough money, or any number of things. I get it. You’re afraid of rejection. I’m afraid of rejection, too. We all are. That’s human. But that’s life. People get rejected. However, observe the context of the situation. Do I seem like a raging nutjob that’s going to turn you down in a way that humiliates you in front of your friends, your boss, your extended family and national television? No, that’s not going to happen. I don’t bite. I am actually really, really nice. You have to realize if we’ve been talking on the phone, emailing, and flirting, it means I am interested in you and your chances of being rejected are much, much lower. Like, .003 percent, should Clive Owen show up on my front stoop with a package of Magnums. Are you really so afraid to ask me out for a $4 cup of coffee at Starbucks and risk a .003 percent chance of rejection that you just won’t do it?
Really? Really? REALLY?
I’m sorry, but then you’re not for me.
Because I do have the confidence to ask you out on a date. I’m as afraid of rejection as the next human being but I’m willing to risk it if it means a great date with a wonderful man. I should not be the one who has to ask men on dates — or limply not-ask, as is more often the case — all the time because they’re too afraid of getting rejected. My gender has nothing to do with my frustration here: it’s 2011 and I am not Suzy Homemaker from 1952 who follows rigid gender roles to a T (although I do confess to enjoying more traditional men). Generally speaking, I think men are intimidated by women who do the pursuing/asking out, though, so I do it on a case-by-case basis. And if I can do it — and I have done it — you can, too.
It’s not hard.
It’s just words.
There’s a 99.097 percent chance I am going to say “yes.”
Please, just ask me out on a freaking date.
Sunday, April 24, 2011
The Real Post About Hot Girls by mark entropy
The Real Post About Hot Girls
In case you are somehow unaware, my post the other day was, in fact, completely satirical. All of it was satirical. It was not partially true. It was only true in that if you did the exact opposite of everything listed there, you’d probably do pretty well. If you read any of it and thought, “That’s actually kind of true,” then you need to seriously re-evaluate where you’re at and what some of your beliefs are. Because you’re not getting anywhere near one of these girls any time soon.
It was not a joke either. Satire, by definition, is when you mock something in such a way to actually show the truth behind it more clearly. When it comes to getting the ultra hot girls, a lot of guys have some bizarre beliefs and perceptions, and that post was a way of amplifying those perceptions to hopefully show you how ridiculous they are.
But still, it’s one of the most common questions: how do I get the super hot girls? The models. The dancers. The actresses.
Believe it or not this is actually a pretty heavy inner game topic, but I’m going to forgo it for now. I actually plan on addressing this subject more thoroughly in my upcoming book, not just because most guys want to be able to get hotter women, but because it’s actually an exemplary situation to demonstrate a lot of points I want to make in the book.
But for now, here is the abridged version. To every guy who has ever wondered how to date models, dancers, actresses, or supposed “high status” girls, read on… It’s actually quite simple.
Step 1: Stop caring how hot they are. This is pretty much 80% of it right here, by itself. This sounds totally counter-intuitive at first, but it’s true. Very, very beautiful women are treated differently their entire lives by men. These men project their fears and fantasies onto these women, and when they approach them, they’re doing it for their own self esteem and validation, not because they actually care what the girl is like or interested in. Do not be this guy. The fact that you have even asked this question means you are guilty of this. I was guilty of this too.
The first step to doing this is to ditch the 1-10 scale. Again, I was guilty of this for a long time, but the ratings scale is toxic in so many ways, the worst of which is that it subtly stereotypes behavior based upon appearance. So the fact that you even recognize in your mind that approaching a “10″ to be different than a “7″ is immediately going to affect your behavior towards her. And she’s going to sense this. And not only is she going to sense it, she’s going to know because 98% of men approach her with the idea that they have to treat her differently.
When you approach, she’s just another girl. You really have to stop caring. I used to get so obsessed about finding “high quality” girls, and I just let it go a little more than a year ago. It’s no coincidence that I pick up the hottest girls of my life now with the less effort than ever before.
Step 2: You have to have your shit together. If there is one thing that’s true about ultra-hot girls, it’s that they have about twice the selection as your normal pretty girl. They meet rich guys all the time. They meet musicians and actors and DJ’s and guys with big muscles and nice cars. It’s not that you need any of this stuff (although it helps), but you cannot have a glaring hole in your lifestyle. You need to have your shit together.
FYI: Going out five nights a week and having social proof in a cheesy night club does not qualify as “having your shit together.”
A nice job you like, a nice place you like, nice friends you like, cool hobbies you like, good health and good shape, and generally a well-adjusted and confident person. Picking up most girls, you can get away without one or a few of that list. Ultra hot girls, you need to have them all handled. You need to be a complete package.
Look at it from her perspective. The first way she screens men is by confidence and charm. Let’s say she meets 20 men one week and 3 of them are confident and charming and she likes being around them. The first one is VERY good-looking but also unemployed and living with a family friend. He has no car. The second has his life together and is pretty wealthy but is overweight and dresses poorly. The third guy has his life together and is in great shape and takes care of himself.
All else being equal, she’s going to go with the third. It’s not that looks are ALL that matter, but when she has so many options, she has no reason to ever settle. That’s why you need to be the complete package. You don’t have to look like Brad Pitt, or be a millionaire, or be a world-class athlete or something. You just need to have your shit together. You really can’t have a major hole in your lifestyle.
Step 3: Stop buying into this “high value” nonsense. A hotter girl will not necessarily make you happier than a less hot girl. Any sort of drive or need to fuck hotter girls for the sake of fucking hotter girls and not for the sake of seeking joy, love and connection is a purely selfish endeavor. There is nothing “high value” about a really hot girl, it’s just that guys project their insecurities onto these women and think there’s something valuable about them. If you ask the women themselves, they have no perception of this “value” or “status” in which you speak of. None at all. These are just merit badges in your head, constructed as a sad way to validate yourself.
I’ve been with five models (two runway), a cheerleader and a successful stage actress. I’ve been on dates with girls who have been approached 3-5 times WHILE ON THE DATE with me. I’ve dated a girl who dated an NBA basketball player before me. I never, ever, ever, EVER heard one of them speak of men in terms of status or not being cool enough or not being rich enough or good-looking enough to hang out with them. In fact, I never heard any of them say anything derogatory about men hitting on them EXCEPT for the man’s lack of confidence, lack of respect or lack of authenticity around her.
A typical complaint from a normal girl: “He’s really nice, why doesn’t he ask me out on a date more often?”
A typical complaint from a very hot girl: “Ugh, that club-owner keeps flashing his watch as if I give a shit.”
People really don’t get it, these girls don’t have it that great. Imagine wanting to date a really great guy, someone who actually cares about you, and literally every single guy you meet starts acting like a total idiot trying to impress you or manipulate you into bed. Meanwhile, your friends who aren’t as pretty as you seem to keep meeting really nice normal guys who actually care about them. It’s actually very frustrating. Imagine having EVERYONE evaluate you for how pretty you are and not your personality or what you say. You’d actually be pretty insecure about what people thought of you.
Step 4: Spend Less Time in Night Clubs. Most of the hottest girls don’t enjoy going to night clubs often. They get harassed and a lot of unwanted attention. The hot girls you see at clubs are usually made up: fake tans, fake tits, fake hair, tons of make up. If you saw them on the street, you’d be half as impressed.
The best way to meet the hottest girls is day game. Social circle as well if you can get networked with them. Obviously, they’re hard to find and you rarely see them. Unless you live in a large international city such as New York City, LA, Miami, London or Paris, there’s a very good chance that you will go weeks or months between sightings.
Guys always assume, the hotter the girl, the harder she is to get. I suppose on a purely supply/demand level, that’s true. There are fewer hot girls and more guys trying to get them. But they’re really no different. The only thing that’s different is that unlike an average pretty girl who only has 50% of guys she meets put her on a pedestal, the super hot girl has 98% of men she meets put her on a pedestal, so she’s going to see through your bullshit immediately.
And in case you didn’t catch it: The rating scale is a pedestal. The concept of “high value” is a pedestal. Coming up with special openers is a pedestal. The theory behind negging is a pedestal. Believing you have to treat her differently in any way is a pedestal.
Cut all of that shit out. Get your life together. Stop caring about looks so much. Treat her like you’d treat anybody else. Stop approaching her to prove something to yourself. Stop treating her like a trophy or an achievement or a merit badge… and just talk to her. Just the fact that you talk to her like a normal human being to will immediately differentiate you from 98% of the other guys she meets.
In case you are somehow unaware, my post the other day was, in fact, completely satirical. All of it was satirical. It was not partially true. It was only true in that if you did the exact opposite of everything listed there, you’d probably do pretty well. If you read any of it and thought, “That’s actually kind of true,” then you need to seriously re-evaluate where you’re at and what some of your beliefs are. Because you’re not getting anywhere near one of these girls any time soon.
It was not a joke either. Satire, by definition, is when you mock something in such a way to actually show the truth behind it more clearly. When it comes to getting the ultra hot girls, a lot of guys have some bizarre beliefs and perceptions, and that post was a way of amplifying those perceptions to hopefully show you how ridiculous they are.
But still, it’s one of the most common questions: how do I get the super hot girls? The models. The dancers. The actresses.
Believe it or not this is actually a pretty heavy inner game topic, but I’m going to forgo it for now. I actually plan on addressing this subject more thoroughly in my upcoming book, not just because most guys want to be able to get hotter women, but because it’s actually an exemplary situation to demonstrate a lot of points I want to make in the book.
But for now, here is the abridged version. To every guy who has ever wondered how to date models, dancers, actresses, or supposed “high status” girls, read on… It’s actually quite simple.
Step 1: Stop caring how hot they are. This is pretty much 80% of it right here, by itself. This sounds totally counter-intuitive at first, but it’s true. Very, very beautiful women are treated differently their entire lives by men. These men project their fears and fantasies onto these women, and when they approach them, they’re doing it for their own self esteem and validation, not because they actually care what the girl is like or interested in. Do not be this guy. The fact that you have even asked this question means you are guilty of this. I was guilty of this too.
The first step to doing this is to ditch the 1-10 scale. Again, I was guilty of this for a long time, but the ratings scale is toxic in so many ways, the worst of which is that it subtly stereotypes behavior based upon appearance. So the fact that you even recognize in your mind that approaching a “10″ to be different than a “7″ is immediately going to affect your behavior towards her. And she’s going to sense this. And not only is she going to sense it, she’s going to know because 98% of men approach her with the idea that they have to treat her differently.
When you approach, she’s just another girl. You really have to stop caring. I used to get so obsessed about finding “high quality” girls, and I just let it go a little more than a year ago. It’s no coincidence that I pick up the hottest girls of my life now with the less effort than ever before.
Step 2: You have to have your shit together. If there is one thing that’s true about ultra-hot girls, it’s that they have about twice the selection as your normal pretty girl. They meet rich guys all the time. They meet musicians and actors and DJ’s and guys with big muscles and nice cars. It’s not that you need any of this stuff (although it helps), but you cannot have a glaring hole in your lifestyle. You need to have your shit together.
FYI: Going out five nights a week and having social proof in a cheesy night club does not qualify as “having your shit together.”
A nice job you like, a nice place you like, nice friends you like, cool hobbies you like, good health and good shape, and generally a well-adjusted and confident person. Picking up most girls, you can get away without one or a few of that list. Ultra hot girls, you need to have them all handled. You need to be a complete package.
Look at it from her perspective. The first way she screens men is by confidence and charm. Let’s say she meets 20 men one week and 3 of them are confident and charming and she likes being around them. The first one is VERY good-looking but also unemployed and living with a family friend. He has no car. The second has his life together and is pretty wealthy but is overweight and dresses poorly. The third guy has his life together and is in great shape and takes care of himself.
All else being equal, she’s going to go with the third. It’s not that looks are ALL that matter, but when she has so many options, she has no reason to ever settle. That’s why you need to be the complete package. You don’t have to look like Brad Pitt, or be a millionaire, or be a world-class athlete or something. You just need to have your shit together. You really can’t have a major hole in your lifestyle.
Step 3: Stop buying into this “high value” nonsense. A hotter girl will not necessarily make you happier than a less hot girl. Any sort of drive or need to fuck hotter girls for the sake of fucking hotter girls and not for the sake of seeking joy, love and connection is a purely selfish endeavor. There is nothing “high value” about a really hot girl, it’s just that guys project their insecurities onto these women and think there’s something valuable about them. If you ask the women themselves, they have no perception of this “value” or “status” in which you speak of. None at all. These are just merit badges in your head, constructed as a sad way to validate yourself.
I’ve been with five models (two runway), a cheerleader and a successful stage actress. I’ve been on dates with girls who have been approached 3-5 times WHILE ON THE DATE with me. I’ve dated a girl who dated an NBA basketball player before me. I never, ever, ever, EVER heard one of them speak of men in terms of status or not being cool enough or not being rich enough or good-looking enough to hang out with them. In fact, I never heard any of them say anything derogatory about men hitting on them EXCEPT for the man’s lack of confidence, lack of respect or lack of authenticity around her.
A typical complaint from a normal girl: “He’s really nice, why doesn’t he ask me out on a date more often?”
A typical complaint from a very hot girl: “Ugh, that club-owner keeps flashing his watch as if I give a shit.”
People really don’t get it, these girls don’t have it that great. Imagine wanting to date a really great guy, someone who actually cares about you, and literally every single guy you meet starts acting like a total idiot trying to impress you or manipulate you into bed. Meanwhile, your friends who aren’t as pretty as you seem to keep meeting really nice normal guys who actually care about them. It’s actually very frustrating. Imagine having EVERYONE evaluate you for how pretty you are and not your personality or what you say. You’d actually be pretty insecure about what people thought of you.
Step 4: Spend Less Time in Night Clubs. Most of the hottest girls don’t enjoy going to night clubs often. They get harassed and a lot of unwanted attention. The hot girls you see at clubs are usually made up: fake tans, fake tits, fake hair, tons of make up. If you saw them on the street, you’d be half as impressed.
The best way to meet the hottest girls is day game. Social circle as well if you can get networked with them. Obviously, they’re hard to find and you rarely see them. Unless you live in a large international city such as New York City, LA, Miami, London or Paris, there’s a very good chance that you will go weeks or months between sightings.
Guys always assume, the hotter the girl, the harder she is to get. I suppose on a purely supply/demand level, that’s true. There are fewer hot girls and more guys trying to get them. But they’re really no different. The only thing that’s different is that unlike an average pretty girl who only has 50% of guys she meets put her on a pedestal, the super hot girl has 98% of men she meets put her on a pedestal, so she’s going to see through your bullshit immediately.
And in case you didn’t catch it: The rating scale is a pedestal. The concept of “high value” is a pedestal. Coming up with special openers is a pedestal. The theory behind negging is a pedestal. Believing you have to treat her differently in any way is a pedestal.
Cut all of that shit out. Get your life together. Stop caring about looks so much. Treat her like you’d treat anybody else. Stop approaching her to prove something to yourself. Stop treating her like a trophy or an achievement or a merit badge… and just talk to her. Just the fact that you talk to her like a normal human being to will immediately differentiate you from 98% of the other guys she meets.
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
Guest FR:walked out of bookstore for doing pick up
DonRd:
@ barnes and nobles I saw book on erotic massage and on the cover
there was 2 nude people. So I got an idea to open a set- topicing that
I wanted to practice some massage, so first set, asain with
headphones, I say exuse me, I was looking thru this book and wanted to
know whether you'd like to practice some. She saw the book , made a
face and put her head phone back on.
Next set, it works out great, she was really Into the book as I showed
her a few pages, but I first opened her up with hey, I'm rod. Hand
shake. Then talked about the books she had. Then she I showed her.
We talked and she invited me to her art show. And boom! A cop and
fucking employee are behind me and they're telling someone complianed
because I asked her to try a few positions in the book. So they walked
me out.
Sandrospua:
yeah . you were running seduction with no comfort. its same thing as going direct on her. in legal terms its called sexual harassment.ofcourse security had to come if asian girl thought you were a sexual predator. run comfort first.if you want to run that shit atleast have eye contact prior opening her.
@ barnes and nobles I saw book on erotic massage and on the cover
there was 2 nude people. So I got an idea to open a set- topicing that
I wanted to practice some massage, so first set, asain with
headphones, I say exuse me, I was looking thru this book and wanted to
know whether you'd like to practice some. She saw the book , made a
face and put her head phone back on.
Next set, it works out great, she was really Into the book as I showed
her a few pages, but I first opened her up with hey, I'm rod. Hand
shake. Then talked about the books she had. Then she I showed her.
We talked and she invited me to her art show. And boom! A cop and
fucking employee are behind me and they're telling someone complianed
because I asked her to try a few positions in the book. So they walked
me out.
Sandrospua:
yeah . you were running seduction with no comfort. its same thing as going direct on her. in legal terms its called sexual harassment.ofcourse security had to come if asian girl thought you were a sexual predator. run comfort first.if you want to run that shit atleast have eye contact prior opening her.
Everyday ritual is EAT A FROG....do what is most difficult first geti ti over with and then rest of your day will be great!
Brian Tracy goes over a great program EAT THAT FROG
I found that I sabotage myself from doing things like studying,making the calls,contacting people to help me in my career etc..
and I purposely delay things due to confronting FEAR.
so once you doing about it first its like you have this supreme confidence
like you have this boost of self esteem.
when I get this boost I feel like going to strip club or running GAME.
So far my life has turned into a movie about me making it. Making things happen in my Life.
My career...then money ...then fame and girls will come.
yes, ITS TRUE you have an independent aura about yourself, this thing that even if you meet a random girl that your place is ready to bring her over for sex.
YES! its confidence that you can make things happen.
YES BEING PROACTIVE.
I have kept away from mission february of banging cuban chicks.
so far the ones Ive had contact have been sorta weird.
my friend "Felix the cat" he bangs alot of them but its due to him finding 20 yr olds who like to party and hang out and drink.
he meets them through a friends friend. aka in PUA is Social Circle cause he has alot of connections.
I was hanging with him and I realized that he thinks Im cool, yet he tells me I have to do my thing be independent where Im at.
To pull chicks in and out...he admitted that he attracts the crazy ones.
the girls who runn away from home, girls who want to live with a guy girls who like to party and drink alot.
I noticed since I talk diferent and act different they arent at ease with me. He has good rapport with them girls easy.
yes, Rapport comes first to build attraction and seduction if you dont know her, if you have attraction first by eye contact or IOIs you escalate seduction with mild comfort.
this is where screening is used to calibrate her reaction and type of woman she is.
Im working on the screening cause so far I game girls more when I have them over at seduction location.
but swinggcatt and Franco have personally told me to stop doing that.
I havent gotten that far into my game yet.
My game needs work and most likely it can take off when needed but so far my head is towards my career and new gm Im joinning
DARN appearance is everything for a job , school ..everything.
I found that I sabotage myself from doing things like studying,making the calls,contacting people to help me in my career etc..
and I purposely delay things due to confronting FEAR.
so once you doing about it first its like you have this supreme confidence
like you have this boost of self esteem.
when I get this boost I feel like going to strip club or running GAME.
So far my life has turned into a movie about me making it. Making things happen in my Life.
My career...then money ...then fame and girls will come.
yes, ITS TRUE you have an independent aura about yourself, this thing that even if you meet a random girl that your place is ready to bring her over for sex.
YES! its confidence that you can make things happen.
YES BEING PROACTIVE.
I have kept away from mission february of banging cuban chicks.
so far the ones Ive had contact have been sorta weird.
my friend "Felix the cat" he bangs alot of them but its due to him finding 20 yr olds who like to party and hang out and drink.
he meets them through a friends friend. aka in PUA is Social Circle cause he has alot of connections.
I was hanging with him and I realized that he thinks Im cool, yet he tells me I have to do my thing be independent where Im at.
To pull chicks in and out...he admitted that he attracts the crazy ones.
the girls who runn away from home, girls who want to live with a guy girls who like to party and drink alot.
I noticed since I talk diferent and act different they arent at ease with me. He has good rapport with them girls easy.
yes, Rapport comes first to build attraction and seduction if you dont know her, if you have attraction first by eye contact or IOIs you escalate seduction with mild comfort.
this is where screening is used to calibrate her reaction and type of woman she is.
Im working on the screening cause so far I game girls more when I have them over at seduction location.
but swinggcatt and Franco have personally told me to stop doing that.
I havent gotten that far into my game yet.
My game needs work and most likely it can take off when needed but so far my head is towards my career and new gm Im joinning
DARN appearance is everything for a job , school ..everything.
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