I’ve had a number of guys ask me lately about getting boyfriend objections in day game and what to do about them so I decided to actually add some pickup theory to this blog instead of just posts about tattoos and dick piercings.
So if a girl gives you a boyfriend objection at a bar or club it probably isn’t true and if it is most likely it doesn’t matter. Yes people cheat and it sucks but it’s something you’re just going to have to learn to live with. I know I wouldn’t be faithful to one person so I don’t have have a girlfriend and every woman in my life knows that we’re casual. I believe this is the best way for me to live my life because I don’t want to intentionally hurt someone who cares about me. I’ve been on the receiving end and it isn’t fun.
But back to boyfriend objections. If you get one at night there are a couple of ways you can deal with it.
The AFC way would be to acknowledge what she said, apologize for talking to her, and offer to buy her and her 5 girlfriends drinks to make up for it.
The cocky way to is to tell her something like “Cool, you’ll have something to do when I’m not around” or “Cool, so do all my all my girlfriends” etc, whatever, you get the idea.
Finally you can just ignore it. Don’t even acknowledge that anything was about boyfriends was said and continue talking as normal.
But what about day game?
During the day if you approach a girl in a bookstore or coffee shop and say something along the lines of “I wanted to come meet you” and she gives you a boyfriend objection it means one of two things.
1. This is her polite way of saying no thanks. For one reason or another she isn’t interested in getting hit on by you today and she’s sending you on your way as nicely as she can. She might smile a little bit and will be polite but you’ll be able to tell she’s not interested.
You won’t get real negative reactions during the day. It’s not socially acceptable for her to be a bitch and say “fuck off” during the day like it is at a night club. As long as you socially violate her she won’t do it back to you.
When you go direct for day game you’re giving her all of about 15 seconds to decide whether or not she’s interested in you. Because of the this the better your delivery, eye contact, body language, way you dress, and any natural good looks you might have the better her reaction is going to be.
The best advice about pickup I ever got I got from Sinn. He said “Always leave the house looking your best.” He says this because you run into women at the most random times so always be prepared and you won’t make excuses like “I’m not dressed my best” as the reason for not opening. Also you should take pride in how you look and always present that best self image.
Since he told that over a year ago there has only been one day that I haven’t left my house looking my best and ready to approach. I had gotten my wisdom teeth out a few days before and was on my way to get a haircut. So before I left I said “Fuck it, I feel like shit and I’m going to get a haircut. I’m not doing my hair.” and I threw on an old sweat shirt.
As soon as I got on the subway I saw her. One of the only 10s I’ve ever seen. I realized I looked like shit but I opened anyways… The look she gave me was somewhere between disgust and amusement…
2. She has a boyfriend and she doesn’t want to cheat on him. Her response will be something like “OMG, that’s really flattering but I have a boyfriend.” She’ll be very warm and friendly, all smiles, and you probably just made her day. But she has a B/F and is faithful.
With the first reaction you can try and plow but it’s fruitless. She’s made up her mind and you’re not likely to convince her otherwise.
With the second reaction you can plow, she will talk to you, and give you her number. You can make her a friend, she’ll introduce you to her friends who don’t have boyfriends and everyone is happy. Then about 2 months later she’ll break up with her boyfriend, she’s been keeping you around as plan B, you’ve been doing the same thing to her, one thing leads to another, you get the idea.
Hell it may even happen sooner, she may not be thinking about cheating on her boyfriend at 12:30 on a Sunday afternoon but her feeling could be completely different on a Thursday at 11PM.
Interesting response to a BF objection is as follows:
You: *Attempt # close*
Her: blah blah BF
You: Well congratulations! When’s the wedding?
Her: what!? We’re not getting married!
You: Oh, well it can’t be *that* serious then. *# close*
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