In the spirit of the New Year,
I want to share a really advanced
but simple technique with you today.
But first let me explain where
this technique came from.
A few years ago i was reading
a book on investing and they
said that on average millionaires
have 7 different streams of income.
This got me thinking about
Women(as almost anything does).
It was then that my theory
of multiple streams of meeting
women was borne.
In order to be extremely
successful with women,
you need to have at least
3 different ways you meet
women you're attracted to!
For example, I meet
girls through Day Game,
Acting Classes and
the internet.
You want to make sure
that you vary up your
ways you meet girls and
don't just practice different
forms of cold approach.
Hope that helps,
JS-The King Of Content
P.S To learn all about setting up Multiple
Streams of women in your life, you need
The Get Laid More Home Study Course, get it
at http://www.sinnsofattraction.com/glm/
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Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Monday, December 27, 2010
Conversation StartersLearn the Daytime Pickup ...Without Failing Or Getting Rejected By Women! by Oliver T
Conversation StartersLearn the Daytime Pickup ...Without Failing Or Getting Rejected By Women!
Let me ask you a question: Do you have a problem starting conversations with women?
Have you ever seen a woman you wanted to meet but you were just couldn’t get yourself to approach her and start a conversation? It’s like there’s something physically stopping your from doing it.
I know how frustrating it can be.
There have been times when I’d see an attractive woman but for some reason I was paralyzed with fear and I didn’t know why.
I just couldn’t explain it.
It was the kind of fear that's so powerful that it prevented me from saying something, anything, to get an interaction started.
Here are some tried and tested tips on how to start a conversation with any woman, anywhere, at anytime…
Conversation Starter Tip # 1- Captivate Her With Your Presence
Relax and Lean back. I’ve discovered that when you assume a relaxed position, even if you’re nervous, you slowly start to feel more relaxed. Next time you’re in an interaction, just lean back and try to be as relaxed and comfortable as you can. That includes doing things like leaning back, taking up some space, and leaning against the wall.
Do whatever helps you relax. For example, when I’m calling up a girl for the first time, I used to lay down flat on the floor and take deep breaths. For some reason, it helped me relax more. Walk and move slow. I modeled this behavior after guys that were NATURALS when it came to dealing with women.
Everything they did was almost too smooth. They walked, talked, and moved slow. They took their time almost like they owned time. And the more I started acting that way, the more positive responses I got from women.
Conversation Starter Tip # 2- Take Baby Steps
Rome wasn't built overnight and you won't be CASANOVA tomorrow. That's just how it works. But you can quickly build yourself up to the point where you can approach any woman, anywhere, at anytime. Here's exactly how to do it.
The 4-Day Challenge
Location: Go to the nearest mall or a place with a lot of people.
Duration: 30 minutes each day
Day 1: Eye Contact
Go out for 30 minutes and hold eye contact with every person you see. Make them look away first. Don’t forget to smile.
Day 2: Hey, How’s Your Day?
Go out for 30 minutes and say “Hey how’s your day” with everyone you see. You can start off with people working in the stores because they will be friendlier.
Day 3: Asking For The Time
Go out for 30 minutes and ask 10 people for the time. Afterwards say “Thanks” and walk away.
Real World Example:
“Excuse me, do you have the time?”
Day 4: Getting Directions
Go out for 30 minutes and ask 10 people for directions to the bathroom, movie theatre, or restaurant of your choice. Afterwards say “Thanks” and walk away.
Real World Example:
“Excuse me, I need your recommendation. What’s a good place
to eat around here?”
Follow up question: “How do I get there?”
Conversation Starter Tip # 3- Learn Advanced Techniques For Starting Conversations With Women
Once you're comfortable with the basic conversation starters, it's time to take it up one more notch…
You need to focus on attracting women, getting dates, and taking things to the next level… Fast.
And that’s why I created Daytime Pick-up Revealed.
I've basically compiled all my priceless techniques to meet any woman, anywhere, at anytime, into a comprehensive and informative e-book packed with hundreds of tips and tricks you can use instantly!
Its JAM PACKED with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for overcoming fear, approaching women, getting phone numbers and email address from women quickly, great in expensive or even free date ideas, and advice on how to take things to a "physical" level smoothly and easily.
In addition, I'd also like to invite you to sign up for my free dating tips newsletter. It's the ultimate resource for becoming a successful pick up artist. It's here - and it's a free website for men to join!
Your Friend,
Oliver Turner
Let me ask you a question: Do you have a problem starting conversations with women?
Have you ever seen a woman you wanted to meet but you were just couldn’t get yourself to approach her and start a conversation? It’s like there’s something physically stopping your from doing it.
I know how frustrating it can be.
There have been times when I’d see an attractive woman but for some reason I was paralyzed with fear and I didn’t know why.
I just couldn’t explain it.
It was the kind of fear that's so powerful that it prevented me from saying something, anything, to get an interaction started.
Here are some tried and tested tips on how to start a conversation with any woman, anywhere, at anytime…
Conversation Starter Tip # 1- Captivate Her With Your Presence
Relax and Lean back. I’ve discovered that when you assume a relaxed position, even if you’re nervous, you slowly start to feel more relaxed. Next time you’re in an interaction, just lean back and try to be as relaxed and comfortable as you can. That includes doing things like leaning back, taking up some space, and leaning against the wall.
Do whatever helps you relax. For example, when I’m calling up a girl for the first time, I used to lay down flat on the floor and take deep breaths. For some reason, it helped me relax more. Walk and move slow. I modeled this behavior after guys that were NATURALS when it came to dealing with women.
Everything they did was almost too smooth. They walked, talked, and moved slow. They took their time almost like they owned time. And the more I started acting that way, the more positive responses I got from women.
Conversation Starter Tip # 2- Take Baby Steps
Rome wasn't built overnight and you won't be CASANOVA tomorrow. That's just how it works. But you can quickly build yourself up to the point where you can approach any woman, anywhere, at anytime. Here's exactly how to do it.
The 4-Day Challenge
Location: Go to the nearest mall or a place with a lot of people.
Duration: 30 minutes each day
Day 1: Eye Contact
Go out for 30 minutes and hold eye contact with every person you see. Make them look away first. Don’t forget to smile.
Day 2: Hey, How’s Your Day?
Go out for 30 minutes and say “Hey how’s your day” with everyone you see. You can start off with people working in the stores because they will be friendlier.
Day 3: Asking For The Time
Go out for 30 minutes and ask 10 people for the time. Afterwards say “Thanks” and walk away.
Real World Example:
“Excuse me, do you have the time?”
Day 4: Getting Directions
Go out for 30 minutes and ask 10 people for directions to the bathroom, movie theatre, or restaurant of your choice. Afterwards say “Thanks” and walk away.
Real World Example:
“Excuse me, I need your recommendation. What’s a good place
to eat around here?”
Follow up question: “How do I get there?”
Conversation Starter Tip # 3- Learn Advanced Techniques For Starting Conversations With Women
Once you're comfortable with the basic conversation starters, it's time to take it up one more notch…
You need to focus on attracting women, getting dates, and taking things to the next level… Fast.
And that’s why I created Daytime Pick-up Revealed.
I've basically compiled all my priceless techniques to meet any woman, anywhere, at anytime, into a comprehensive and informative e-book packed with hundreds of tips and tricks you can use instantly!
Its JAM PACKED with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for overcoming fear, approaching women, getting phone numbers and email address from women quickly, great in expensive or even free date ideas, and advice on how to take things to a "physical" level smoothly and easily.
In addition, I'd also like to invite you to sign up for my free dating tips newsletter. It's the ultimate resource for becoming a successful pick up artist. It's here - and it's a free website for men to join!
Your Friend,
Oliver Turner
Saturday, December 18, 2010
Keeping a conversation going by TM,FM at seducion sceince Sublimital Suggestions
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Hi
I've been getting into Game fairly recently and lately I've been making approaches confidently but the other night and this evening a sticking point cropped up: Converstaions running dry! I keep running out of shit to say, and I've started to become self conscious about it and it's slowly chipping away at my confidence again. Do you have any solid conversational techniques that would enable me to keep a conversation ticking over and thus help me to avoid this horrible situation?
thanx
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Ingrain a few opened ended questions in your conversation repetiore. For example..
"What brought you to this particular bar"
"What made you want to move to this city"
"What do you love most about Las Vegas"
"Why do you choose..."
In your next interaction try listening to what a woman is saying. Rather then thinking about what to say next. The community talks about "hooks". Now the way I see things every word that comes out of a woman mouth is hook for you open a new conversational thread on.
Girl: My sister is coming over this weekend
Guy: Your sister is coming over this weekend ? do you guys live far apart ?
Girl: She lives in New York (Hooks are sister, NY)
Guy: I love NY especially during Christmas its go such an amazing vibe like especially when they put the lights on in Times Square
Girl: yeah I love it
From here you can throw in open ended questions about what she loves about the city or even ask her about her sister.
Another tip is to maybe do some daily improv. Take a word out of random page in a book and turn it into a story.
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I have seen men yak and yak with a woman. My thoughts are, they DON'T get anywhere. She just sits there, lets him talk and talk and he will be just wasting his time and effort.
The way that I get a woman interested in me, is, to NOT talk for long time periods. (10 minutes or more.)
I am one of the few men, (I think FM does this), is TOUCH her.
What I do most of the time, when the conversation starts to slow-down, is to say to her, "Give me your hand".
I will, then, gently massage her hand and tell her, "This feels good, doesn't it".
Then, the conversation will change to a different subject.
If done correctly, (you focus on her pleasure), she will start to get good-feeling in being, TOUCHED.
TM
Note 1: This takes practice and confidence in your ability to turn a woman, ON.
Note 2: Using subliminal suggestions, like the, below, will work:
"Come (CUM) with me."
"That sounds juicy".
"Come (CUM) over here".
"I keep wondering how you would taste".
See, my thread, Sublimital Suggestions
__________________
So much of our ego, our personality, our confidence... all stems from our sexual
happiness and sexual confidence. (Alex Allman)
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If you meet girls during the day you will need to build some rapport with the girl before you get sexual with her. If you go sexual too quickly your gonna creep her out.
Clubs are different girls who go there are usually not that serious or are single so you can get sexual very quickly.
________________________________________________________________________
Sublimital Suggestions
Close your eyes and imagine for a second...
Wouldn't it be *nice* to have a magic wand that gives you the
power to make every woman around you dripping wet down under,
"stimulated" & "aroused" even - especially when you are around?
... No woman would be able to keep her hands off you. She would
have to be sexual... she'll flirt, play & touch you more...
because... she was so turned on, she couldn't control herself.
She'd lose control of her body.
She'd start putting sexual "moves" on you.
my favorite is using innocent words to make her think about sex with you.
**********************************************
HOW TO USE "INNOCENT WORDS" TO TURN WOMEN ON:
**********************************************
Words like "deep", "hard", "thrust", "wet", "come", "warm",
"moist" and "stroke" are all "innocent" words...
You use them in your conversations every day.
Yet...
You feel a sexual energy when you say these words to a
woman, right?
How could you possibly tell a woman the air was "warm and
moist" outside, today, and not think of being inside
her?
It's impossible!
Women have the same "problem."
In fact... since women rely on their imagination each and
every day... They are even MORE easily "tricked" into
thinking sexual thoughts, when you use these "innocent"
words.
(she doesn't ever get an erection to hide... so... she
can think sexual thoughts all day long, if she wants...)
The TRICK is using these "innocent" words in a conversation
with women... in a way that lets you DENY you
were talking about sex.
Here's how:
*******************************************
"TRICK" WOMEN INTO THINKING ABOUT SEX...
*******************************************
You want to work these "innocent" words into your
conversations with women as if they were normal.
For instance -
You're inviting a woman to coffee.
You COULD say: "Meet me here."
INSTEAD, you say: "Come with me."
Let's try another example:
You're talking to a woman about her feelings.
You COULD say: "Wow, you seem passionate about that"
INSTEAD, you say: "Wow, I can tell that topic gets you all
worked up"
That's more subtle. You can use "innocent" words - aka.
Sensual Language - to tease a woman about a date (when
texting):
"I gotta warn you, it might get TOO hard ;-)"
(if you were going on a physical date, like go-karting or
rock-climbing...)
You can use Sensual Language when you're finally together on
your first date:
"Look at how wet you got!"
(if it's raining outside...)
You can even use Sensual Language to build up the tension,
right before your first kiss:
"I keep wondering what you would taste like..."
(she doesn't know if you're talking about her skin, her
lips... or...)
*********************************
THE KEY HERE IS TO RELAX!
*********************************
When you're relaxed, you'll use Sensual language all the time.
In fact, you're naturally wired to use sensual words... when...
You're thinking sensual thoughts.
Trouble is - Most of the time, you can't think sensual thoughts
when you get nervous.
Such as - Being on a date.
Such as - Talking to a woman.
Such as - Seeing a beautiful woman you want to meet.
When you relax, your mind will naturally gravitate towards
more sexual topics and word choices.
You'll feel "risk" and "excitement" in every conversation you
have with women.
And she'll feel this excitement, as well.
When you start using Sensual Language in your "game", you'll
never have another boring, friendly conversation with a woman.
ALL chit-chat will eventually turn flirty and sexual.
And you'll lead a much happier, more fulfilling dating and sex
life :-)
*************************************
What you can do right now, today...
*************************************
1) TRY IT OUT! Start small, maybe toss an "innocent" word
into a text, to see how she responds.
Try "come with me" - it's easy, it works. You can
use it any time you're inviting a woman to do something with
you.
2) RELAX! And get sexual around women. Let your mind stray to
sexual thoughts... because... these sexual thoughts will
give you a sexual vibe around women.
Which KILLS any chance at you two being "just friends"
Miracles come in easy, tiny packages
For today, I want you to focus on relaxing and having a good
time around women.
Which means... You gotta be around women!
So go talk to one woman, today.
One good, short and sexual convo... and... You'll never
wanna stop
Here's a little something for you to digest right now...
Have you ever been talking to a woman and wondered
what the hell she's thinking... Our thoughts go to speeds
at about a 1000 miles per second... we're thinking of
stuff ALL THE TIME!
I should know... I'm guilty as charged too ;p
Women are unpredictable, and reading her body language BARELY
reveals her surface emotions... Let alone what she's
thinking way back in the depths of her mind.
To some guys, it may seem like "closing the deal" with a
woman requires a lot of guess work, even with the BEST
techniques! You have to *guess* whether she likes compliments
or not...
You have to *guess* whether she likes to go out and party or stay in and snuggle...
You have to *guess* what her perfect first date is, and HOPE
that you didn't screw it up.
She'll smile and play along, and at the end of the night...
Whether you get a first kiss - or come up to her place -
depends on whether you *guessed* right, or WRONG.
__________________
So much of our ego, our personality, our confidence... all stems from our sexual
happiness and sexual confidence. (Alex Allman)
Hi
I've been getting into Game fairly recently and lately I've been making approaches confidently but the other night and this evening a sticking point cropped up: Converstaions running dry! I keep running out of shit to say, and I've started to become self conscious about it and it's slowly chipping away at my confidence again. Do you have any solid conversational techniques that would enable me to keep a conversation ticking over and thus help me to avoid this horrible situation?
thanx
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Ingrain a few opened ended questions in your conversation repetiore. For example..
"What brought you to this particular bar"
"What made you want to move to this city"
"What do you love most about Las Vegas"
"Why do you choose..."
In your next interaction try listening to what a woman is saying. Rather then thinking about what to say next. The community talks about "hooks". Now the way I see things every word that comes out of a woman mouth is hook for you open a new conversational thread on.
Girl: My sister is coming over this weekend
Guy: Your sister is coming over this weekend ? do you guys live far apart ?
Girl: She lives in New York (Hooks are sister, NY)
Guy: I love NY especially during Christmas its go such an amazing vibe like especially when they put the lights on in Times Square
Girl: yeah I love it
From here you can throw in open ended questions about what she loves about the city or even ask her about her sister.
Another tip is to maybe do some daily improv. Take a word out of random page in a book and turn it into a story.
__________________
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I have seen men yak and yak with a woman. My thoughts are, they DON'T get anywhere. She just sits there, lets him talk and talk and he will be just wasting his time and effort.
The way that I get a woman interested in me, is, to NOT talk for long time periods. (10 minutes or more.)
I am one of the few men, (I think FM does this), is TOUCH her.
What I do most of the time, when the conversation starts to slow-down, is to say to her, "Give me your hand".
I will, then, gently massage her hand and tell her, "This feels good, doesn't it".
Then, the conversation will change to a different subject.
If done correctly, (you focus on her pleasure), she will start to get good-feeling in being, TOUCHED.
TM
Note 1: This takes practice and confidence in your ability to turn a woman, ON.
Note 2: Using subliminal suggestions, like the, below, will work:
"Come (CUM) with me."
"That sounds juicy".
"Come (CUM) over here".
"I keep wondering how you would taste".
See, my thread, Sublimital Suggestions
__________________
So much of our ego, our personality, our confidence... all stems from our sexual
happiness and sexual confidence. (Alex Allman)
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If you meet girls during the day you will need to build some rapport with the girl before you get sexual with her. If you go sexual too quickly your gonna creep her out.
Clubs are different girls who go there are usually not that serious or are single so you can get sexual very quickly.
________________________________________________________________________
Sublimital Suggestions
Close your eyes and imagine for a second...
Wouldn't it be *nice* to have a magic wand that gives you the
power to make every woman around you dripping wet down under,
"stimulated" & "aroused" even - especially when you are around?
... No woman would be able to keep her hands off you. She would
have to be sexual... she'll flirt, play & touch you more...
because... she was so turned on, she couldn't control herself.
She'd lose control of her body.
She'd start putting sexual "moves" on you.
my favorite is using innocent words to make her think about sex with you.
**********************************************
HOW TO USE "INNOCENT WORDS" TO TURN WOMEN ON:
**********************************************
Words like "deep", "hard", "thrust", "wet", "come", "warm",
"moist" and "stroke" are all "innocent" words...
You use them in your conversations every day.
Yet...
You feel a sexual energy when you say these words to a
woman, right?
How could you possibly tell a woman the air was "warm and
moist" outside, today, and not think of being inside
her?
It's impossible!
Women have the same "problem."
In fact... since women rely on their imagination each and
every day... They are even MORE easily "tricked" into
thinking sexual thoughts, when you use these "innocent"
words.
(she doesn't ever get an erection to hide... so... she
can think sexual thoughts all day long, if she wants...)
The TRICK is using these "innocent" words in a conversation
with women... in a way that lets you DENY you
were talking about sex.
Here's how:
*******************************************
"TRICK" WOMEN INTO THINKING ABOUT SEX...
*******************************************
You want to work these "innocent" words into your
conversations with women as if they were normal.
For instance -
You're inviting a woman to coffee.
You COULD say: "Meet me here."
INSTEAD, you say: "Come with me."
Let's try another example:
You're talking to a woman about her feelings.
You COULD say: "Wow, you seem passionate about that"
INSTEAD, you say: "Wow, I can tell that topic gets you all
worked up"
That's more subtle. You can use "innocent" words - aka.
Sensual Language - to tease a woman about a date (when
texting):
"I gotta warn you, it might get TOO hard ;-)"
(if you were going on a physical date, like go-karting or
rock-climbing...)
You can use Sensual Language when you're finally together on
your first date:
"Look at how wet you got!"
(if it's raining outside...)
You can even use Sensual Language to build up the tension,
right before your first kiss:
"I keep wondering what you would taste like..."
(she doesn't know if you're talking about her skin, her
lips... or...)
*********************************
THE KEY HERE IS TO RELAX!
*********************************
When you're relaxed, you'll use Sensual language all the time.
In fact, you're naturally wired to use sensual words... when...
You're thinking sensual thoughts.
Trouble is - Most of the time, you can't think sensual thoughts
when you get nervous.
Such as - Being on a date.
Such as - Talking to a woman.
Such as - Seeing a beautiful woman you want to meet.
When you relax, your mind will naturally gravitate towards
more sexual topics and word choices.
You'll feel "risk" and "excitement" in every conversation you
have with women.
And she'll feel this excitement, as well.
When you start using Sensual Language in your "game", you'll
never have another boring, friendly conversation with a woman.
ALL chit-chat will eventually turn flirty and sexual.
And you'll lead a much happier, more fulfilling dating and sex
life :-)
*************************************
What you can do right now, today...
*************************************
1) TRY IT OUT! Start small, maybe toss an "innocent" word
into a text, to see how she responds.
Try "come with me" - it's easy, it works. You can
use it any time you're inviting a woman to do something with
you.
2) RELAX! And get sexual around women. Let your mind stray to
sexual thoughts... because... these sexual thoughts will
give you a sexual vibe around women.
Which KILLS any chance at you two being "just friends"
Miracles come in easy, tiny packages
For today, I want you to focus on relaxing and having a good
time around women.
Which means... You gotta be around women!
So go talk to one woman, today.
One good, short and sexual convo... and... You'll never
wanna stop
Here's a little something for you to digest right now...
Have you ever been talking to a woman and wondered
what the hell she's thinking... Our thoughts go to speeds
at about a 1000 miles per second... we're thinking of
stuff ALL THE TIME!
I should know... I'm guilty as charged too ;p
Women are unpredictable, and reading her body language BARELY
reveals her surface emotions... Let alone what she's
thinking way back in the depths of her mind.
To some guys, it may seem like "closing the deal" with a
woman requires a lot of guess work, even with the BEST
techniques! You have to *guess* whether she likes compliments
or not...
You have to *guess* whether she likes to go out and party or stay in and snuggle...
You have to *guess* what her perfect first date is, and HOPE
that you didn't screw it up.
She'll smile and play along, and at the end of the night...
Whether you get a first kiss - or come up to her place -
depends on whether you *guessed* right, or WRONG.
__________________
So much of our ego, our personality, our confidence... all stems from our sexual
happiness and sexual confidence. (Alex Allman)
Friday, December 17, 2010
nick sparks with juggler game breakdown.
Thought I'd share this article
with you from Nick's blog. It is about a recent post at
the Charisma Arts blog. We like Juggler's writing, but
there's a lot left to the imagination in terms of teaching
how to do it. Hope you find this helpful :)
What Juggler Left Out
by Nick Sparks
from www.sparksofattraction.com
If I could make a list of thought leaders in this industry
that have had the most influence on my development, Wayne
“Juggler” Elise is definitely in the top 5. After
beginning my education with The Game, Jugglers style and
vibe were a breath of fresh air that added a entirely new
dimension to my game. Anyone who knows my style knows that
a more developed “Juggler barrier” plays a huge part in
it. Also, the vacuum and statement-of-interest (SOI) were
very innovative when they hit the industry.
If you’ve ever exposed yourself to any of Wayne’s
writing, you know that he relies heavily on typed out
conversations to demonstrate his method. One of the major
drawbacks of this that has been cited is that while the
conversations provide an excellent example of what to say,
the reasons why some of his lines work isn’t always made
perfectly clear.
With that in mind, I decided to take a conversation that
Juggler recently posted for free on his website and break
down everything that’s happening step by step so that you
can better implement his style into your own game. You can
find the original post at their website so you can read it
in its entirety. (I’ve bolded my comments for easier
reading)
You: Excuse me, I can’t help but notice that you are
unsatisfied with your fruitcake-pattern hoodie. I have to
say that I’m surprised but happy for you.
What he does here is notices something interesting in the
environment and makes a humorous comment on it. Of course
you won’t always be in a situation where a beautiful
woman is returning a quirky Christmas gift, but if you pay
more attention to your surroundings, you’ll find a number
of things to comment on. A simple exercise you can do to
develop this capacity is to stop several times a day, look
around, and take note of 5 interesting things in your
surroundings. You should try to look at life through the
lens of a comedian and find humorous interpretations of
these interesting things, or at the very least simply be
able to comment on them in an interesting way. Most guys
have this capacity already even if they don’t realize it.
For example, if you see a girl carrying a suitcase. You can
either say: “So, I see you have a suitcase”… not so
interesting. Or, you can say, “I have to say, I’m
ridiculously jealous of the fact that you’re going on
vacation right now”. More interesting.
After noticing these interesting things share one or two of
your observations with whoever is around you.
The second thing he does is share his personal feelings on
the observation. This subtle move shows that he is
high-status enough that his feelings carry enough value to
be shared and expresses confidence.
Also, notice his opening the convo with a statement rather
than a question. Classic Juggler.
Her: “Ha, hah ha.”
She found this observation extremely funny.
You: “I’ll trade you my Lance Armstrong tire repair
kit. Or better yet, I got some Grandma cookies here
somewhere.”
Juggler continues the initial joke with more humor and
references to himself. This move not only showcases his wit
but also frames both of them as having in common or
something that they can both relate to.
Her: “Oh, I had too many of those lately.”
She responds favorably.
You: “Yeah, I can relate. I like that about you. You and
I are the same. Who would have known. So I’m thinking of
a New Year’s resolution. What’s yours going to be?”
Wayne strengthens the shared frame with his first line and
then follows up with a classic Juggler SOI. The only thing
is that the SOI here seems a bit un-calibrated. A woman
should be complimented after she’s done something to
deserve that compliment. Maybe her body language is
screaming “I want you now” and that SOI would have been
justified, but you really don’t get a sense of that from
the script.
You can actually make something like this work though only
with the correct vocal tonality. I’d probably leave out
the “I like that about you” line but something along
the lines of, “I can totally relate, I feel like you and
I are like, the same person” when said in a very
over-the-top, facetious tone of voice can work, although
this really isn’t explained in the script.
He then breaks the thread and starts a new one with a
somewhat related holiday question.
Her: “To finish law school.”
You: “Oh that’s a good one. I can hire you to sue
grandma for the bad cookies. Seriously though, that’s
cool. I think I would like being a lawyer. I’d feel kinda
powerful. Like yeah, give me a speeding ticket, see what
happens.”
He does a good job here. He first uses a bit of callback
humor to a previous point in the conversation and then
paints a vivid and entertaining picture of what he feels it
would be like to be a lawyer.
The latter half is a great technique that you can work on
if it’s not a part of you repertoire just yet. A simple
exercise is what we call the best/worst exercise. Simply
think of any occupation or other information that a woman
can give you and come up with the best and worst case
scenario of what that would look like and then paint as
vivid of a picture of that as possible.
For example, she says she’s an artist.
Best scenario: Oh, so you must be incredibly creative.
You’ll have to let me know when your next exhibit will be
and I’ll be there to marvel at your genius.
Worst scenario: Oh, so you must spend most of your time
cooped up in a poorly-lit apartment with a bottle of Jack
then. I can see that as being fun.
The more of these you think though and have something for
the more often you’ll have a creative and witty line to
drop on the spot.
Her: “Haha, yeah it is good to know law for practical
reasons. For instance, my professor says…”
You: “Hey, I like you. What are you doing after this?”
In the comment section he clears up the fact that he is not
actually cutting the girl off here, but rather lets her
finish saying whatever she’s saying before responding.
The SOI here is much better calibrated. In her response she
is sharing something more personal about her life and is
contributing a good deal to the conversation. Because
she’s done that he takes advantage of a great time to
reward her for it and escalate the interaction.
Her: “I’m meeting a friend for lunch.”
Burn
You: “Oh too bad, I thought it might be fun to sit down
at the Starbucks over there and chat a bit more for five
minutes. I like talking with you.”
Meh. After the recent SOI and her not reciprocating
anything of the sort I wouldn’t have followed up with
“I like talking to you”. The Starbucks thing is fine in
that it’s confidently stating your intention, although I
would probably go with something like, “That’s too bad,
this is the best return-line conversation I’ve ever had,
we have to continue it sometime”, and expressed nearly
the same thing and added a bit of humor back into it rather
than just the overkill, borderline-desperate SOI.
Her: “Are you hitting on me?”
You: “Maybe I am and maybe I’m not. It all depends on
if you like it or not. And judging by your smile now I
would say, yes I AM hitting on you. Sure that’s the
ticket.”
“Sure, that’s the ticket”: If you have Juggler’s
personality, you can use this all day. If you don’t,
I’d probably stay from this one. Otherwise, the rest of
it is a cute line that I would use anytime.
The line that I actually prefer here though is credited to
Zan Parrion and that response is “Of course I’m hitting
on you”. It’s just a whole other level of Juggler’s
stuff.
Her: “Well, just to warn you I have a black belt in
flirting defense. But yeah, let’s sit down for five
minutes.”
Has anyone actually heard a girl say this?
You: “Excellent. What’s your name by the way?”
Her: “My name is Persimonia”
You: “Nice name. I’m impressed. My name is your name
here. In the language of the old country it means, he who
drinks hot chocolate through a straw.”
Great name exchange and another cute line to finish. You
can steal this one or go for something along the lines of,
“I’m Nick, it’s nice to meet you. Well, we’ve only
got 5 minutes together so we had better take full advantage
of it.
At a high level, Juggler’s only fault in this interaction
is the fact that he is almost “trapped” in his Juggler
method framework and forced to rely too heavily on the SOI
and use it in situations where it wouldn’t be warranted.
Will this work on some girls? Absolutely. Will it creep
other girls out? Absolutely.
Finally, one other point that was never mentioned: In order
to make this or any conversation a successful one, you must
carry great eye contact, body language, and vocal tonality.
If you’re lacking those elements, those ‘ha ha’s from
her will turn into weird looks and polite nodding.
Thank you again to Juggler for the great conversation and
good luck to everyone else using some of this stuff in the
future.
Cheers guys,
Christian
with you from Nick's blog. It is about a recent post at
the Charisma Arts blog. We like Juggler's writing, but
there's a lot left to the imagination in terms of teaching
how to do it. Hope you find this helpful :)
What Juggler Left Out
by Nick Sparks
from www.sparksofattraction.com
If I could make a list of thought leaders in this industry
that have had the most influence on my development, Wayne
“Juggler” Elise is definitely in the top 5. After
beginning my education with The Game, Jugglers style and
vibe were a breath of fresh air that added a entirely new
dimension to my game. Anyone who knows my style knows that
a more developed “Juggler barrier” plays a huge part in
it. Also, the vacuum and statement-of-interest (SOI) were
very innovative when they hit the industry.
If you’ve ever exposed yourself to any of Wayne’s
writing, you know that he relies heavily on typed out
conversations to demonstrate his method. One of the major
drawbacks of this that has been cited is that while the
conversations provide an excellent example of what to say,
the reasons why some of his lines work isn’t always made
perfectly clear.
With that in mind, I decided to take a conversation that
Juggler recently posted for free on his website and break
down everything that’s happening step by step so that you
can better implement his style into your own game. You can
find the original post at their website so you can read it
in its entirety. (I’ve bolded my comments for easier
reading)
You: Excuse me, I can’t help but notice that you are
unsatisfied with your fruitcake-pattern hoodie. I have to
say that I’m surprised but happy for you.
What he does here is notices something interesting in the
environment and makes a humorous comment on it. Of course
you won’t always be in a situation where a beautiful
woman is returning a quirky Christmas gift, but if you pay
more attention to your surroundings, you’ll find a number
of things to comment on. A simple exercise you can do to
develop this capacity is to stop several times a day, look
around, and take note of 5 interesting things in your
surroundings. You should try to look at life through the
lens of a comedian and find humorous interpretations of
these interesting things, or at the very least simply be
able to comment on them in an interesting way. Most guys
have this capacity already even if they don’t realize it.
For example, if you see a girl carrying a suitcase. You can
either say: “So, I see you have a suitcase”… not so
interesting. Or, you can say, “I have to say, I’m
ridiculously jealous of the fact that you’re going on
vacation right now”. More interesting.
After noticing these interesting things share one or two of
your observations with whoever is around you.
The second thing he does is share his personal feelings on
the observation. This subtle move shows that he is
high-status enough that his feelings carry enough value to
be shared and expresses confidence.
Also, notice his opening the convo with a statement rather
than a question. Classic Juggler.
Her: “Ha, hah ha.”
She found this observation extremely funny.
You: “I’ll trade you my Lance Armstrong tire repair
kit. Or better yet, I got some Grandma cookies here
somewhere.”
Juggler continues the initial joke with more humor and
references to himself. This move not only showcases his wit
but also frames both of them as having in common or
something that they can both relate to.
Her: “Oh, I had too many of those lately.”
She responds favorably.
You: “Yeah, I can relate. I like that about you. You and
I are the same. Who would have known. So I’m thinking of
a New Year’s resolution. What’s yours going to be?”
Wayne strengthens the shared frame with his first line and
then follows up with a classic Juggler SOI. The only thing
is that the SOI here seems a bit un-calibrated. A woman
should be complimented after she’s done something to
deserve that compliment. Maybe her body language is
screaming “I want you now” and that SOI would have been
justified, but you really don’t get a sense of that from
the script.
You can actually make something like this work though only
with the correct vocal tonality. I’d probably leave out
the “I like that about you” line but something along
the lines of, “I can totally relate, I feel like you and
I are like, the same person” when said in a very
over-the-top, facetious tone of voice can work, although
this really isn’t explained in the script.
He then breaks the thread and starts a new one with a
somewhat related holiday question.
Her: “To finish law school.”
You: “Oh that’s a good one. I can hire you to sue
grandma for the bad cookies. Seriously though, that’s
cool. I think I would like being a lawyer. I’d feel kinda
powerful. Like yeah, give me a speeding ticket, see what
happens.”
He does a good job here. He first uses a bit of callback
humor to a previous point in the conversation and then
paints a vivid and entertaining picture of what he feels it
would be like to be a lawyer.
The latter half is a great technique that you can work on
if it’s not a part of you repertoire just yet. A simple
exercise is what we call the best/worst exercise. Simply
think of any occupation or other information that a woman
can give you and come up with the best and worst case
scenario of what that would look like and then paint as
vivid of a picture of that as possible.
For example, she says she’s an artist.
Best scenario: Oh, so you must be incredibly creative.
You’ll have to let me know when your next exhibit will be
and I’ll be there to marvel at your genius.
Worst scenario: Oh, so you must spend most of your time
cooped up in a poorly-lit apartment with a bottle of Jack
then. I can see that as being fun.
The more of these you think though and have something for
the more often you’ll have a creative and witty line to
drop on the spot.
Her: “Haha, yeah it is good to know law for practical
reasons. For instance, my professor says…”
You: “Hey, I like you. What are you doing after this?”
In the comment section he clears up the fact that he is not
actually cutting the girl off here, but rather lets her
finish saying whatever she’s saying before responding.
The SOI here is much better calibrated. In her response she
is sharing something more personal about her life and is
contributing a good deal to the conversation. Because
she’s done that he takes advantage of a great time to
reward her for it and escalate the interaction.
Her: “I’m meeting a friend for lunch.”
Burn
You: “Oh too bad, I thought it might be fun to sit down
at the Starbucks over there and chat a bit more for five
minutes. I like talking with you.”
Meh. After the recent SOI and her not reciprocating
anything of the sort I wouldn’t have followed up with
“I like talking to you”. The Starbucks thing is fine in
that it’s confidently stating your intention, although I
would probably go with something like, “That’s too bad,
this is the best return-line conversation I’ve ever had,
we have to continue it sometime”, and expressed nearly
the same thing and added a bit of humor back into it rather
than just the overkill, borderline-desperate SOI.
Her: “Are you hitting on me?”
You: “Maybe I am and maybe I’m not. It all depends on
if you like it or not. And judging by your smile now I
would say, yes I AM hitting on you. Sure that’s the
ticket.”
“Sure, that’s the ticket”: If you have Juggler’s
personality, you can use this all day. If you don’t,
I’d probably stay from this one. Otherwise, the rest of
it is a cute line that I would use anytime.
The line that I actually prefer here though is credited to
Zan Parrion and that response is “Of course I’m hitting
on you”. It’s just a whole other level of Juggler’s
stuff.
Her: “Well, just to warn you I have a black belt in
flirting defense. But yeah, let’s sit down for five
minutes.”
Has anyone actually heard a girl say this?
You: “Excellent. What’s your name by the way?”
Her: “My name is Persimonia”
You: “Nice name. I’m impressed. My name is your name
here. In the language of the old country it means, he who
drinks hot chocolate through a straw.”
Great name exchange and another cute line to finish. You
can steal this one or go for something along the lines of,
“I’m Nick, it’s nice to meet you. Well, we’ve only
got 5 minutes together so we had better take full advantage
of it.
At a high level, Juggler’s only fault in this interaction
is the fact that he is almost “trapped” in his Juggler
method framework and forced to rely too heavily on the SOI
and use it in situations where it wouldn’t be warranted.
Will this work on some girls? Absolutely. Will it creep
other girls out? Absolutely.
Finally, one other point that was never mentioned: In order
to make this or any conversation a successful one, you must
carry great eye contact, body language, and vocal tonality.
If you’re lacking those elements, those ‘ha ha’s from
her will turn into weird looks and polite nodding.
Thank you again to Juggler for the great conversation and
good luck to everyone else using some of this stuff in the
future.
Cheers guys,
Christian
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