The PDF on closing is legit. Janka is really thorough in explaining exactly what he does. I've never read anything else like it from a pickup guru. Pretty much all the other gurus look like total n00b virgins when you look at them in comparison to Janka.
Seriously, you wanna get good at game:
- Get in shape
- Get your fashion and grooming straight
- Get your inner game straight (Don't use pickup gurus as a source for this)
- Study Janka and 60 YoC*
- Approach
That's all you need to get good. Really. It's not a popular message because it involves effort instead of a magic bullet, but, that's how you get good.
(*If you're a total noob, also read the David D ebooks Double Your Dating and Attractin is Not a Choice. Still very good for basic mindset shifts. Also study David Shade for mindest/sexuality, and Hypnotica is good as well. Everyone else is garbage,.)
Quote:
Everyone else is garbage
..yea that's a horrible overstatement, lol
60 and Janka are dope and in my top 5, but Rob Judge, Chase Amante, Mark Manson, and Assanova are surely not garbage
I'd stay away from David Deangelo and Hypnotica...
and scrap the david shade and go with Sex God Method
Yes that was absolutely an overstatement but it was one with purpose.
The point is what I highlighted is all you need to get started. People get bogged down by reading too many authors and that ends up preventing them from taking action.
"The truth is simple. If it were complicated, everone would understand it.
- Hale Dwoskin
(Who said that at the beginning of a 20 CD set It's a true statement though.)
Pickup is really pretty simple.
Yes others have some good/insightful things to say. But, keeping it simple.... until you've gotten consistent results..... is the best way to go instead of studying more and more and more.
I had one question for the book though.
What happens if you live with mom?
Like for us age 18 - 24 (I'm 21 btw.)
EDIT: This is an awesome book. COMBINE THIS WITH THE CBT/ THE WORK/SEDONA = Win
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Author: admin Category: Getting Laid in NYC
Thursday
Nov 15, 2007
I realized about 8 months ago that my hit rate was skyrocketing. This winter and spring I had some incredible weeks: 4 girls in 5 days; 2 girls in one night, etc. I thought about why things were so plentiful and the answer was: I had a system. I think most guys spend time and money in the wrong place and then get frustrated when they don’t get laid. Or, worse, they find that one girl who they can get the honey from and they stick by her side no matter what, like a puppy. I’ve found that with a system and a deep pool of talent, pussy is really the second most abundant commodity on earth, after water.
The first thing to realize about women, especially the hot women we all gawk at, is that we don’t have their perspective. As guys, you and I might think, “Oh man, she’s so hot. How could I get such a fine chick, etc.” What men don’t realize is that even stunning women are plentiful; they may be a bit more high-maintenance, but they are not in short supply, especially in a metropolitan city like New York. I always imagine a bunch of models or dancers or actresses changing in a locker room. They look around at all the beautiful flesh surrounding them and get a sense of their commodity-nature; they are just one of many.
Keep that image in your mind; women lead men to believe they are unique, but secretly they know they are just one of many like them. In fact, in the world, women outnumber men significantly, something like 51% to 49% for men. That’s statistically quite significant, and there are real evolutionary reasons for that, but who cares right now, and that’s not what will get you laid. Just remember there’s no shortage of pussy.
One good exercise is to pass patio restaurants on a summer night, and notice how many women are eating with other women (especially in NYC). You think they want to be eating with their complaining, whining friend, who is depressed and with whom they have to split the bill? Of course not! They’d jump at the opportunity to be with a guy, so ask them out and then bang the shit out of them! This leads me the first of many insights:
Never let one bitchy or unresponsive girl get to you or affect your outlook.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had a cool response or flat rejection from a girl only to approach another girl 2 minutes later and hit it off, and be in the back of a cab getting head 15 minutes later. That’s the beauty of being a man – you can always walk away from a situation that has bad energy. My friend says the single most powerful word in the English language for a man is “Next!”
One of the key characteristics of an effective hustler, and I see it in my friends who play the game the best, is an ability to walk away from a negative situation immediately and brush it off, preparing for the next opportunity.
That leads me to my next point which is:
There are 3 types of girls around: yes, no and maybe girls
Again, the effective hustlers know how to judge the three types and work accordingly. All guys know the “no” girls. They are sticks in the mud, stand-offish, difficult, Princesses. Any guy who has been laid several times knows this type of girl. He probably has a gut instinct that she’s going to be hard to get in the sack. “Yes” girls, by contrast, are flirty, fun, open with body language and game for anything. They allow you to ask them back to your place with ease. The problems are the “maybe” girls, especially if they are hot.
Even after years of practice, I still can get stuck on these types, but as soon as I recognize the direction we’re going I can make the call. The “maybe” girls are where most guys get hung up spending all their money and time, thinking that they will get her. Careful, gentlemen, you are dealing with pros. Even other women will admit how manipulative a woman can be. Don’t assume you’ll wear here down or trick her. It’s better to walk then to throw more energy at these problem girls. So, back to the system.
Prior to recognizing how effective a system for getting laid could be, I would take my opportunities where they presented themselves: poolside at a wedding, on the Chinatown bus between Boston and NYC, in a cab, in Central Park. Don’t get me wrong, there is not a wrong place to take a woman. But if you want to get laid with a minimum of time, energy, hassle, bullshit, and most importantly, cost, then you should work out an effective system.
Think about it. All other business enterprises have a system to deliver a good or service: Starbucks coffee is fresh, hot and strong because of the system and protocol the baristas follow. Any successful business must follow a blueprint if it hopes to achieve significant results; the same applies to shagging women, believe it or not. Do not leave your sex life up to chance – what women often call “romance”. Take charge of it.
So, we have this large market of single men and women. A city like NY is ideal, because it’s concentrated, and there are so many people and the city is sexy and anonymous. By the way, anonymity is key because as a hustler, I try (as I encourage you to) all types of new methods and approaches; some work, some work brilliantly, but alas, some fail and fall flat. In this city, who cares, because chances are you won’t see the person again, and even if you do, by that time you’ll be a confident playboy and who cares what one stupid bitch thinks, anyhow.
So, it’s a market, and there are plenty of girls for everyone. Also, to us they may be hot and sexy, but to themselves and other girls, they are just competition, and have their own un-sexy habits like farting, burping, bad breath, fat thighs etc. Don’t fall for women’s façade. It’s been my experience that women are heavily front-loaded in what they can offer – their value-proposition. She may look fit, sexy and sophisticated, but after you’ve banged her and she’s naked, with mascara running down her face and she’s trying to stuff her thighs into a pair of too small jeans at 2am, you’ll realize she’s just another person trying to get by. Don’t be intimidated!
Author: admin Category: Getting Laid in NYC
Thursday
Nov 15, 2007
I realized about 8 months ago that my hit rate was skyrocketing. This winter and spring I had some incredible weeks: 4 girls in 5 days; 2 girls in one night, etc. I thought about why things were so plentiful and the answer was: I had a system. I think most guys spend time and money in the wrong place and then get frustrated when they don’t get laid. Or, worse, they find that one girl who they can get the honey from and they stick by her side no matter what, like a puppy. I’ve found that with a system and a deep pool of talent, pussy is really the second most abundant commodity on earth, after water.
The first thing to realize about women, especially the hot women we all gawk at, is that we don’t have their perspective. As guys, you and I might think, “Oh man, she’s so hot. How could I get such a fine chick, etc.” What men don’t realize is that even stunning women are plentiful; they may be a bit more high-maintenance, but they are not in short supply, especially in a metropolitan city like New York. I always imagine a bunch of models or dancers or actresses changing in a locker room. They look around at all the beautiful flesh surrounding them and get a sense of their commodity-nature; they are just one of many.
Keep that image in your mind; women lead men to believe they are unique, but secretly they know they are just one of many like them. In fact, in the world, women outnumber men significantly, something like 51% to 49% for men. That’s statistically quite significant, and there are real evolutionary reasons for that, but who cares right now, and that’s not what will get you laid. Just remember there’s no shortage of pussy.
One good exercise is to pass patio restaurants on a summer night, and notice how many women are eating with other women (especially in NYC). You think they want to be eating with their complaining, whining friend, who is depressed and with whom they have to split the bill? Of course not! They’d jump at the opportunity to be with a guy, so ask them out and then bang the shit out of them! This leads me the first of many insights:
Never let one bitchy or unresponsive girl get to you or affect your outlook.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had a cool response or flat rejection from a girl only to approach another girl 2 minutes later and hit it off, and be in the back of a cab getting head 15 minutes later. That’s the beauty of being a man – you can always walk away from a situation that has bad energy. My friend says the single most powerful word in the English language for a man is “Next!”
One of the key characteristics of an effective hustler, and I see it in my friends who play the game the best, is an ability to walk away from a negative situation immediately and brush it off, preparing for the next opportunity.
That leads me to my next point which is:
There are 3 types of girls around: yes, no and maybe girls
Again, the effective hustlers know how to judge the three types and work accordingly. All guys know the “no” girls. They are sticks in the mud, stand-offish, difficult, Princesses. Any guy who has been laid several times knows this type of girl. He probably has a gut instinct that she’s going to be hard to get in the sack. “Yes” girls, by contrast, are flirty, fun, open with body language and game for anything. They allow you to ask them back to your place with ease. The problems are the “maybe” girls, especially if they are hot.
Even after years of practice, I still can get stuck on these types, but as soon as I recognize the direction we’re going I can make the call. The “maybe” girls are where most guys get hung up spending all their money and time, thinking that they will get her. Careful, gentlemen, you are dealing with pros. Even other women will admit how manipulative a woman can be. Don’t assume you’ll wear here down or trick her. It’s better to walk then to throw more energy at these problem girls. So, back to the system.
Prior to recognizing how effective a system for getting laid could be, I would take my opportunities where they presented themselves: poolside at a wedding, on the Chinatown bus between Boston and NYC, in a cab, in Central Park. Don’t get me wrong, there is not a wrong place to take a woman. But if you want to get laid with a minimum of time, energy, hassle, bullshit, and most importantly, cost, then you should work out an effective system.
Think about it. All other business enterprises have a system to deliver a good or service: Starbucks coffee is fresh, hot and strong because of the system and protocol the baristas follow. Any successful business must follow a blueprint if it hopes to achieve significant results; the same applies to shagging women, believe it or not. Do not leave your sex life up to chance – what women often call “romance”. Take charge of it.
So, we have this large market of single men and women. A city like NY is ideal, because it’s concentrated, and there are so many people and the city is sexy and anonymous. By the way, anonymity is key because as a hustler, I try (as I encourage you to) all types of new methods and approaches; some work, some work brilliantly, but alas, some fail and fall flat. In this city, who cares, because chances are you won’t see the person again, and even if you do, by that time you’ll be a confident playboy and who cares what one stupid bitch thinks, anyhow.
So, it’s a market, and there are plenty of girls for everyone. Also, to us they may be hot and sexy, but to themselves and other girls, they are just competition, and have their own un-sexy habits like farting, burping, bad breath, fat thighs etc. Don’t fall for women’s façade. It’s been my experience that women are heavily front-loaded in what they can offer – their value-proposition. She may look fit, sexy and sophisticated, but after you’ve banged her and she’s naked, with mascara running down her face and she’s trying to stuff her thighs into a pair of too small jeans at 2am, you’ll realize she’s just another person trying to get by. Don’t be intimidated!
Saturday, December 4, 2010
day game : where to go and new ideas opening
I did daygame yeasterday , and I havent been really happy at first with typical latin women around my way ,
anyways I had been juicing raw fruits and needed some fresh fruits and ingredients.
So I decided to go were to "whole foods".
I would usually take a subway where I used to live,
but here Im driving on a car.
As I was getting there in my car ( which is near a college campus), its was around lunch time. I saw this scenario:
I was in my car and saw all these girls, they were all hot they were not together and not in group
( I had heard PAUL JANKA previously about avoiding to talk to girls that are in groups in the day,which is practial advice. I have opened 2 girl groups before but its work well if the girl was already checking you out cause the friends wont rush her away from you, they will be cool that you are hitting on her and isolating her for number exchange etc)
Paul Janka also says about when you see alot of girls like this ,you have to choose one.
you cant open girls infront of the other , this is too avoid being seen as seeking rapport/bum asking for money type of negative cognotation and being classified as such to avoid her
"what does he want from me ?" "he wants something, Im not intereasted" "mr. sleaze ball creepy man" etc.etc.
So Im am in my car and I never read about opening from your car or as you are in your car:
few ideas poped in my head.
1# - SPEAK LOUD AND CLEAR
NOT TO DO:
Dont Open from your car if she isnt expecting you to open her or you are in an area the is solitude, she might react as you are a stalker type.you could open asking directions but its really har dot transtition into converstation cause she will walk after her giving you an answer or ignore you.
You can DO:
If she looks at you and you make a eye contact and you slow down and she tried looking at you as she is walking then you can open from your car indirect and subcommunicate you are intersted..... and you can transition on getting off your car to number close.
Also if its a place of solitude and you see this:
another idea, is you see her and turn around park infront and near and then approach her with indirect bodylanguage...
I know it sounds too much investment but you would have to go Direct here as she is on about her day going home after class and after lunch...
"hey I couldnt help noticing you as I drove by right now and I was going to kick myself If I didnt come and talk to you .... there is eomthing about how you carry yourself and I wanted to meet you" "Im _______"
or any suggestions that you would open with.... thank you.
Girls that are in a hurry is go direct, girls that are shopping go fun roleplay , and then transition to instadate or number close.
Its easier said than done,
trust me I havent read anything on car pickup, cause its actually looks like stalker child molester CREEPY!!!
But surprisingling I got opened in a car by another person in a car asking me directions.... that also is good if you catch a girl smiling at you as she is in her car and you then opening her as you are in your car and she is in your car..."do you happened to have some grey pupon? " and have her laugh.
I have had some women smile at me and I just stood there in seemingly bliss of not knowing what to do next.
So I advocate taking some action.
REality is I couldnt help myself to apply seduction to "everywhere you go", rather than to just stick to typical bars, clubs...that is what adapting seduction to your lifestyle rather than trying to change yourself for women. That is one way of seeing things, ofcourse if you are going out and partying go these places at night. Keep in mind always keep improving for the BEST.
Any comments or suggestions greatly appreciate it thanks
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Opening girls out of your car is a real crap shoot. The girl can't really even see your physical body, or body language... so she's got even less to go on to size you up. Also, you it's very difficult to make a connection of a stationary object from a moving car, and very hard to make a physical connection.
You're really better to park real fast, and then run up to the girls instead. That's what I've done quite a few times.
Sometimes you can't always park, so you could just open from the car... but don't expect consistent results.
I've actually never opened a girl while I was driving, I've always made an effort to actually get out of the car instead when it was possible. Otherwise, I just drove on.
anyways I had been juicing raw fruits and needed some fresh fruits and ingredients.
So I decided to go were to "whole foods".
I would usually take a subway where I used to live,
but here Im driving on a car.
As I was getting there in my car ( which is near a college campus), its was around lunch time. I saw this scenario:
I was in my car and saw all these girls, they were all hot they were not together and not in group
( I had heard PAUL JANKA previously about avoiding to talk to girls that are in groups in the day,which is practial advice. I have opened 2 girl groups before but its work well if the girl was already checking you out cause the friends wont rush her away from you, they will be cool that you are hitting on her and isolating her for number exchange etc)
Paul Janka also says about when you see alot of girls like this ,you have to choose one.
you cant open girls infront of the other , this is too avoid being seen as seeking rapport/bum asking for money type of negative cognotation and being classified as such to avoid her
"what does he want from me ?" "he wants something, Im not intereasted" "mr. sleaze ball creepy man" etc.etc.
So Im am in my car and I never read about opening from your car or as you are in your car:
few ideas poped in my head.
1# - SPEAK LOUD AND CLEAR
NOT TO DO:
Dont Open from your car if she isnt expecting you to open her or you are in an area the is solitude, she might react as you are a stalker type.you could open asking directions but its really har dot transtition into converstation cause she will walk after her giving you an answer or ignore you.
You can DO:
If she looks at you and you make a eye contact and you slow down and she tried looking at you as she is walking then you can open from your car indirect and subcommunicate you are intersted..... and you can transition on getting off your car to number close.
Also if its a place of solitude and you see this:
another idea, is you see her and turn around park infront and near and then approach her with indirect bodylanguage...
I know it sounds too much investment but you would have to go Direct here as she is on about her day going home after class and after lunch...
"hey I couldnt help noticing you as I drove by right now and I was going to kick myself If I didnt come and talk to you .... there is eomthing about how you carry yourself and I wanted to meet you" "Im _______"
or any suggestions that you would open with.... thank you.
Girls that are in a hurry is go direct, girls that are shopping go fun roleplay , and then transition to instadate or number close.
Its easier said than done,
trust me I havent read anything on car pickup, cause its actually looks like stalker child molester CREEPY!!!
But surprisingling I got opened in a car by another person in a car asking me directions.... that also is good if you catch a girl smiling at you as she is in her car and you then opening her as you are in your car and she is in your car..."do you happened to have some grey pupon? " and have her laugh.
I have had some women smile at me and I just stood there in seemingly bliss of not knowing what to do next.
So I advocate taking some action.
REality is I couldnt help myself to apply seduction to "everywhere you go", rather than to just stick to typical bars, clubs...that is what adapting seduction to your lifestyle rather than trying to change yourself for women. That is one way of seeing things, ofcourse if you are going out and partying go these places at night. Keep in mind always keep improving for the BEST.
Any comments or suggestions greatly appreciate it thanks
-------------------------
Opening girls out of your car is a real crap shoot. The girl can't really even see your physical body, or body language... so she's got even less to go on to size you up. Also, you it's very difficult to make a connection of a stationary object from a moving car, and very hard to make a physical connection.
You're really better to park real fast, and then run up to the girls instead. That's what I've done quite a few times.
Sometimes you can't always park, so you could just open from the car... but don't expect consistent results.
I've actually never opened a girl while I was driving, I've always made an effort to actually get out of the car instead when it was possible. Otherwise, I just drove on.
Thursday, April 22, 2010
FR: validation seeking woman gave me AA day game
VALIDATION with women
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I usually dont really see these things but today, as I was parking my car a HOT girl dressed really trendy, I mean stright 9 on looks scale.
as I was parking she was at ATM machine and when she was done she was still like standing there and looking around but in a way like to cathc my eye or seek attention , validation. Not attraction.
Why cause I caught her looking as I parked my car and it was a look on her face bodylanguage was like if she wanted to ask me something or wanted something from me.
Thats how I perceived it.
I have that awareness sensitivity thing..anyways
I could have gone and talked to her but it would validate her and give her what she wanted, easily.
as soon as I would open my mouth to appraoch or show interest I sensed as soon as she would get that then it would be game over.
So I can cold appraoch
I know how to turn them into warm appraoches
but this here is different in terms of surprisng the girl and you enmtering in her world.
here she wants validation that she gets guys attention and feeds her energy to feel good of that from the start...therefore she wont feel attracted to you.
Like a cusotmer paying a stripper for a dance,he gives the girl money she gets what she wants.
and by me giving her direct attention she gets the validation that she wants.
Please can you share any thoughts or how you change that when you sense that type of girl...cause I know there is a way of turning it around but I wanted to hear from you guys.
nuff said.
__________________
Today, 12:23 PM #2
Himmler
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Have you considered the possibility that she was abit attracted to you and want you to make the first move, then have you fuck her brains out?
For all you know, you could have missed out on some 9 pussy. You should have said something, whats the worst that could happen? Nothing. If she was validation seeking, she would have got it and thats it, no skin of your back. If there was something more to that, well then you missed out on a chance.
I mean she could have tried stringing you along later, but Im sure you would have been able to spot that and cut the shit right there.
__________________
shadow said:
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I have to agree with Himmler. Furthermore you think way too much. You should have just said hi and went from there.
__________________
#4
LastMan
Quote:
Originally Posted by Himmler
For all you know, you could have missed out on some 9 pussy.
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I usually dont really see these things but today, as I was parking my car a HOT girl dressed really trendy, I mean stright 9 on looks scale.
as I was parking she was at ATM machine and when she was done she was still like standing there and looking around but in a way like to cathc my eye or seek attention , validation. Not attraction.
Why cause I caught her looking as I parked my car and it was a look on her face bodylanguage was like if she wanted to ask me something or wanted something from me.
Thats how I perceived it.
I have that awareness sensitivity thing..anyways
I could have gone and talked to her but it would validate her and give her what she wanted, easily.
as soon as I would open my mouth to appraoch or show interest I sensed as soon as she would get that then it would be game over.
So I can cold appraoch
I know how to turn them into warm appraoches
but this here is different in terms of surprisng the girl and you enmtering in her world.
here she wants validation that she gets guys attention and feeds her energy to feel good of that from the start...therefore she wont feel attracted to you.
Like a cusotmer paying a stripper for a dance,he gives the girl money she gets what she wants.
and by me giving her direct attention she gets the validation that she wants.
Please can you share any thoughts or how you change that when you sense that type of girl...cause I know there is a way of turning it around but I wanted to hear from you guys.
nuff said.
__________________
Today, 12:23 PM #2
Himmler
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Have you considered the possibility that she was abit attracted to you and want you to make the first move, then have you fuck her brains out?
For all you know, you could have missed out on some 9 pussy. You should have said something, whats the worst that could happen? Nothing. If she was validation seeking, she would have got it and thats it, no skin of your back. If there was something more to that, well then you missed out on a chance.
I mean she could have tried stringing you along later, but Im sure you would have been able to spot that and cut the shit right there.
__________________
shadow said:
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I have to agree with Himmler. Furthermore you think way too much. You should have just said hi and went from there.
__________________
#4
LastMan
Quote:
Originally Posted by Himmler
For all you know, you could have missed out on some 9 pussy.
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