Hey kids! As you all know I’m going through a big “Direct” shift in my game. It’s fun!
In this video I strive to get across what actually goes through my head when I see a beautiful woman…. And how I am 100% ok with telling her what’s going through my head, as well as hot attractive I think she is!
When I started this journey I was obsessed with openers. I could tell you 100 openers for a 100 situations. And hell, some of ‘em were pretty good! As I’ve been around for a while now, I see guys fussin’ about the same kind of things I was fussin’ about back then. What’s interesting is, I’ve found that by getting in touch with your inner ape man, and letting that ape man OUT – you actually cut out a lot of steps.
What am I talking about?
“What do I say to her?”
“How to I ask for her number?
“What if I run out of things to say?”
“How do I ask her out?”
“How do I make things sexual?”
When you’re in touch with your inner apeman – you don’t need to worry about this. When you speak from the ape “ME MAN. YOU WOMAN. YOU PRETTY. ME LIKE PRETTY WOMAN! You don’t have to worry about all those other details. They sort themselves out. All you have to be sure of are these three things.
1) You’re a heterosexual man.
2) She’s a woman
3) You are physically attracted to her, and would like to sleep with her/get to know her better.
That’s it. That’s all you have to know. What else is there? Not a lot. Just remember:
Some women will want to chat with you a bit before giving out their number. Be prepared to have a bit of chat before the interaction is done. Have SOMEthing to talk about… what you’re up to that day, or something interesting that’s happened recently. But, always remember you’re talking to her because you WANT TO HOOKUP WITH HER – and always push the interaction towards setting up a date!
Upon being opened directly, some women will test you to see if you really are a confident man. Don’t flinch. This is normal. Relax. Maintain eye contact. RELAX AND SMILE. She’s just another woman – one of millions. You, Ape man. You have chosen her – HER. She’s lucky she will have you to protect her from all the other ape man. LUCKY. Never forget this.
Keep the interaction short. 5 mins MAX. When you’re being direct, LESS IS MORE. Be that mysterious, confident guy. Get her number, have a little bit of chat, and GET OUT OF THERE! The more you talk, the more you fall into the “friend” zone. Some guy she spoke to for 25 minutes isn’t a mysterious sexy stranger. It’s her “friend.” Not good!
And remember: There are millions, MILLIONS of women out there you are compatible with. Most of the HOT ones you meet WILL have boyfriends. This is ok… you will have to speak to quite a few before you get somewhere. ENJOY IT! Love that feeling you get when you run up to a girl, and tell her she’s the hottest thing you’ve seen that year/week/hour. LOVE THE PROCESS! Enjoy meeting new people!
They’ll love you for it… and you’ll love you for it as well. And as an Added bonus, I’ll love you too!
That’s all for now, hope you enjoy the vid and leave some comments. I’ll be watchin’
Sasha
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Thursday, December 23, 2010
Monday, June 14, 2010
Day Game Model – Part 1
This is going to be part one in series of day game posts that I have no idea how many articles it’ll end up being. I’m going to talk about specific locations in future articles and may bring back some posts like the one I wrote on personal space or day game in a grocery store… No Salmon required.
I want to focus on my day game model with this first article because it’s the cornerstone of all of my day time interactions. When was learning day game and going out basically seven days a week to practice I kept a journal and everyday after I was done I would write down as much as I could remember about my interactions. I’ve talked about journals before, I think everyone should keep one because unlike field reports you’re just writing it for yourself and you can put your ego aside and talk about every interaction, good, or bad.
Captain Jack realized Strawberry Fields is a great routine for same night lays because he kept a journal. He basically looked at all the interactions with girls that he picked up and fucked that night and saw that in each one he was using Strawberry Fields.
My experience was similar. I looked back at all of my day game interactions that ended with a number that didn’t flake and looked for commonalties between them. I found that basically all of my successful interactions we when I opened direct, transitioned with a cold read, and then cycled qualification and comfort a few times.
I turned it into a system and model and gave it to a few friends to field test and they started having successful day game sets. Then I taught it to a few students and they started getting numbers, going on dates, and even laying the girls. I realized I had stumbled onto something.
I’ve finally decided to write it up for my blog. I’ve taught it to enough guys of all different ages and backgrounds to know that it can basically work for anyone. Like everything in the community this is a framework and guideline, it’s not absolute. Bend the rules and personalize this, everyone’s style is a little different and no interaction with another person can be fully broken down into some model.
The Opener
Like every pickup you have to start with an opener. I really like direct during the day and my model is based around it. People have legitimate time constraints during the day and most of the time people just don’t have the time to talk to you for 20 minutes. Direct cuts though all the attraction stuff in one sentence and gives you more time to build comfort and qualify the girl.
Direct works off the girl’s first impression of you. So the better your nonverbals are, body language, eye contact, vocal tonality, and delivery, the better it’s going to go. You’re also going to want to be dressed well, be well groomed, and if you’re in good shape or good looking it’s also going to help you… However I’m 5′6″, weigh 130lbs, and look like I’m 17… I’m obviously not relying on my looks to get by.
Direct is high risk, high reward. If a girl for one reason or another decides she’s not interested in you the set is basically over. No plowing, no negging, leave politely and go open another set.
I’m not going to go into the nuisances of direct game but Sinn sent out a really great email about direct and the mechanisms that drive it last week. I suggest you guys check it out if you want a complete guide to direct game for both day and night.
The specific opener that I use is just a standard direct opener–
“Excuse me, I know this is crazy and whatever but I thought you were cute and I wanted to meet you. I’m Doc”
It’s quick, it’s polite, and it’s flattering. The “I know this is kinda crazy/random” part is actually pretty important. It basically says that you don’t do this everyday and acknowledges that this is a somewhat strange situation.
There are three main responses you’ll get to this–
1. She’ll be a little flattered, a little confused, and a little taken aback. She’ll basically say to you “ummmm… ok? I’m GIRL.” This is the most common reaction you’ll get
2. Boyfriend objection. This is the hardest blowout you should ever get. Either she actually has a boyfriend or she’s being polite and asking you to go away. I usually just say “He’s a lucky guy. It was nice meeting you.” I wrote a whole post about this a few months back which you can find here.
3. She’ll be very flattered and happy. She’ll ask you a lot of questions and basically if you don’t fuck up it’ll end well.
The Transition
You’ve opened her! But now what?
I like to follow up my opener with a cold read.
Cold reading for all intents and purposes is just guessing something about someone or telling them a truism about themselves. You can use them by making a statement but is actually just a fancy way of asking them a question.
The question “How do you like to be fucked?” Becomes “I bet you like to be bent over, fucked doggy, and probably slapped around a bit.”
An example of telling someone a truism about themselves is “You know you seem really reserved and shy but I bet when you’re around someone you trust you have this total wild side.” That’s basically true about anyone, everyone has multiple sides to their personality.
They also can act as qualification questions and they test for compliance. In the cold read I use during the day “You know, you have like this west coast vibe.” She can respond with “No, I’m from Philly.” or she can say “No, I’m actually from Philly but I’m here for nursing school at Boston University.”
She shows me more interest with the second response. She’s actively trying to create rapport by sharing more about herself.
Just to clarify it the cold read I follow up my direct opener with is “You know, you totally have this west coast vibe.” Obviously if you’re from the west coast use “east coast vibe” or “New York vibe.”
El Topo has written a lot about cold reading on blog, especially sexual cold reading. Check it out if you want to know more.
I’m going to follow up this post tomorrow with the rest of my model.
I want to focus on my day game model with this first article because it’s the cornerstone of all of my day time interactions. When was learning day game and going out basically seven days a week to practice I kept a journal and everyday after I was done I would write down as much as I could remember about my interactions. I’ve talked about journals before, I think everyone should keep one because unlike field reports you’re just writing it for yourself and you can put your ego aside and talk about every interaction, good, or bad.
Captain Jack realized Strawberry Fields is a great routine for same night lays because he kept a journal. He basically looked at all the interactions with girls that he picked up and fucked that night and saw that in each one he was using Strawberry Fields.
My experience was similar. I looked back at all of my day game interactions that ended with a number that didn’t flake and looked for commonalties between them. I found that basically all of my successful interactions we when I opened direct, transitioned with a cold read, and then cycled qualification and comfort a few times.
I turned it into a system and model and gave it to a few friends to field test and they started having successful day game sets. Then I taught it to a few students and they started getting numbers, going on dates, and even laying the girls. I realized I had stumbled onto something.
I’ve finally decided to write it up for my blog. I’ve taught it to enough guys of all different ages and backgrounds to know that it can basically work for anyone. Like everything in the community this is a framework and guideline, it’s not absolute. Bend the rules and personalize this, everyone’s style is a little different and no interaction with another person can be fully broken down into some model.
The Opener
Like every pickup you have to start with an opener. I really like direct during the day and my model is based around it. People have legitimate time constraints during the day and most of the time people just don’t have the time to talk to you for 20 minutes. Direct cuts though all the attraction stuff in one sentence and gives you more time to build comfort and qualify the girl.
Direct works off the girl’s first impression of you. So the better your nonverbals are, body language, eye contact, vocal tonality, and delivery, the better it’s going to go. You’re also going to want to be dressed well, be well groomed, and if you’re in good shape or good looking it’s also going to help you… However I’m 5′6″, weigh 130lbs, and look like I’m 17… I’m obviously not relying on my looks to get by.
Direct is high risk, high reward. If a girl for one reason or another decides she’s not interested in you the set is basically over. No plowing, no negging, leave politely and go open another set.
I’m not going to go into the nuisances of direct game but Sinn sent out a really great email about direct and the mechanisms that drive it last week. I suggest you guys check it out if you want a complete guide to direct game for both day and night.
The specific opener that I use is just a standard direct opener–
“Excuse me, I know this is crazy and whatever but I thought you were cute and I wanted to meet you. I’m Doc”
It’s quick, it’s polite, and it’s flattering. The “I know this is kinda crazy/random” part is actually pretty important. It basically says that you don’t do this everyday and acknowledges that this is a somewhat strange situation.
There are three main responses you’ll get to this–
1. She’ll be a little flattered, a little confused, and a little taken aback. She’ll basically say to you “ummmm… ok? I’m GIRL.” This is the most common reaction you’ll get
2. Boyfriend objection. This is the hardest blowout you should ever get. Either she actually has a boyfriend or she’s being polite and asking you to go away. I usually just say “He’s a lucky guy. It was nice meeting you.” I wrote a whole post about this a few months back which you can find here.
3. She’ll be very flattered and happy. She’ll ask you a lot of questions and basically if you don’t fuck up it’ll end well.
The Transition
You’ve opened her! But now what?
I like to follow up my opener with a cold read.
Cold reading for all intents and purposes is just guessing something about someone or telling them a truism about themselves. You can use them by making a statement but is actually just a fancy way of asking them a question.
The question “How do you like to be fucked?” Becomes “I bet you like to be bent over, fucked doggy, and probably slapped around a bit.”
An example of telling someone a truism about themselves is “You know you seem really reserved and shy but I bet when you’re around someone you trust you have this total wild side.” That’s basically true about anyone, everyone has multiple sides to their personality.
They also can act as qualification questions and they test for compliance. In the cold read I use during the day “You know, you have like this west coast vibe.” She can respond with “No, I’m from Philly.” or she can say “No, I’m actually from Philly but I’m here for nursing school at Boston University.”
She shows me more interest with the second response. She’s actively trying to create rapport by sharing more about herself.
Just to clarify it the cold read I follow up my direct opener with is “You know, you totally have this west coast vibe.” Obviously if you’re from the west coast use “east coast vibe” or “New York vibe.”
El Topo has written a lot about cold reading on blog, especially sexual cold reading. Check it out if you want to know more.
I’m going to follow up this post tomorrow with the rest of my model.
Night Game Model — Part 2
In part one of my night game model, we covered some basics about night game (venues, types of girls, etc.) and what I do before I open a set (pre-selection). In part two, we’re going to cover opening and the first 30 seconds or so of conversation.
Opening
There are three different ways to open: direct, indirect and situational (which is another form of indirect usually). I’d say I tend to go situational 50% of the time, direct 40% of the time and indirect 10%.
When it’s best to go direct: When there’s a good logistical situation. For instance, if it’s a two or three-set, the girl looks like she’s looking for a guy (remember the people reading skills from part one), and her friends are distracted. Also, if there aren’t any guys around, although 90% of guys will back down and STFU if you have the balls to go direct in front of them. The only other situations I do direct is when I *REALLY* like a girl — i.e., she looks very intriguing to me as well as beautiful (really hot nerdy girls are a good example).
My direct is usually low-key because I’m a big guy and if I get too aggressive, I throw girls off. “Hi, I wanted to come meet you, I’m Mark” is probably at least half of my direct opens. Sinn’s “You guys look cool, are you friendly,” almost always hooks, etc. If you’re a smaller or shorter guy, I’d recommend coming in with more aggression and energy, something like, “You’re really sexy, I had to come meet you,” while kino’ing hard.
When I go situational: If you’re good at improvising lines based on the environment around you, situational is often the best way to go. It hooks just about every time and comes across as very genuine and spontaneous. I try to do it as much as possible.
Some stock situational lines I use: girl sitting by herself, I say, “Are you in time out?” If the bar is crowded, sometimes I bet the girl next to me a drink that I get served first. If some girls look really bored, I come over and say, “Look, this is a ‘fun-only’ zone, we need to fix this.”
Indirect: I save indirect openers (opinion openers, anything you’d find in the Routines Manual) for larger groups or mixed sets. “Drunk I Love You’s” opens groups of 4+ sufficiently 90% of the time. Google it if you don’t know what it is. It’s basically the new, “Who lies more?”
Transitioning and Cold Reading
Just as in the day game model, I ALWAYS transition with a cold read.
If I went direct, I’ll transition with a basic cold read about the group. If I noticed something interesting about them before I opened (again, people-reading, pre-selecting… see part 1), I comment on that. These cold reads usually range from neutral to hit the nail on the head. When you hit the nail on the head with your cold read, combined with the direct, you have pretty much instant attraction. A few months ago, I opened this really tall brunette direct, and cold read her job perfectly my very next line (”You look like a closet nerd, I bet you’re an engineer or something.”) I was right and she FREAKED the fuck out. The attraction was immediately through the roof and the rest of the set was a matter of escalating.
If I don’t have anything to cold read on the specific set, I use one of a couple stock cold reads: “You don’t look like you’re from X,” “You guys look like you’ve been friends forever,” etc.
This will always get the conversation started down a general thread. As I’ll focus on later, you want every conversation to be about one of two things: you or her. I don’t really fuck around with routines, games or gimmicks. I want to know about her ASAP and want to share myself ASAP, so these cold-reads get that started pretty quickly. On top of that, they eliminate the annoying “interview question” habit and that percentage of the time when you cold read them right, you get a nice boost of attraction.
Note: Often, just by cold reading them correctly and going direct, I’ll already have more than enough attraction to get laid by this point. Let me say that again. By simply going direct, having great non-verbals, and cold reading well, I’ll often have enough attraction to get laid. The rest is a matter of escalating well. The biggest tip off for this is if she immediately starts asking YOU interview questions.
For instance, I have sets that go like this sometimes:
Me: “Hi, excuse me, I thought you were cute and wanted to meet you. I’m Mark.”
Her: “Oh wow, thank you.”
Me: “I got a really cool vibe from you, you seem more artistic than most of the other girls here.”
Her: “Oh… wow, I’m a photographer, how did you know that? That’s amazing.”
Me: “I just had a feeling, that’s why I wanted to meet you.”
Her: “Cool. So where are you from?”
BAM! As soon as that, “where are you from?” comes out, in my mind, the game’s over. Unless I majorly fuck up my escalation or comfort, she and I are going to get together.
A lot of guys fight against girls giving them interview questions, and this has never made sense to me. If a girl is asking you questions, she’s conveying nothing but interest. Why you would ever punish her for that is beyond me.
Cold reading off of indirect openers: Same concepts apply. The only difference is if we get into a conversation based on my opener, I’ll adjust my cold read for the conversation. For instance, let’s say I use, “Drunk, I love you’s:”
Me: “Hey guys, quick question, do drunk I love’s you count?”
Them: “What are those?”
Me: “See, my buddy Jack got drunk last night and texted this girl that he loved her. But he doesn’t remember doing it and now she thinks they’re a couple. What should he do?”
Them: Blah, blah, blah (they usually say he can’t take it back.)
Me: “Well, I’m sure you’ve done some stupid shit when you’ve been drunk.”
Her: “OMG, you have no idea.”
Me: (Go into crazy drunk story)
This will get you about 30-60 seconds into the conversation. In part 3, I’m going to through how I cycle attraction and comfort. Again, similar to the day game model where you cycle qualification and comfort, at night, I usually cycle teasing and comfort. We’ll talk about that next time.
Opening
There are three different ways to open: direct, indirect and situational (which is another form of indirect usually). I’d say I tend to go situational 50% of the time, direct 40% of the time and indirect 10%.
When it’s best to go direct: When there’s a good logistical situation. For instance, if it’s a two or three-set, the girl looks like she’s looking for a guy (remember the people reading skills from part one), and her friends are distracted. Also, if there aren’t any guys around, although 90% of guys will back down and STFU if you have the balls to go direct in front of them. The only other situations I do direct is when I *REALLY* like a girl — i.e., she looks very intriguing to me as well as beautiful (really hot nerdy girls are a good example).
My direct is usually low-key because I’m a big guy and if I get too aggressive, I throw girls off. “Hi, I wanted to come meet you, I’m Mark” is probably at least half of my direct opens. Sinn’s “You guys look cool, are you friendly,” almost always hooks, etc. If you’re a smaller or shorter guy, I’d recommend coming in with more aggression and energy, something like, “You’re really sexy, I had to come meet you,” while kino’ing hard.
When I go situational: If you’re good at improvising lines based on the environment around you, situational is often the best way to go. It hooks just about every time and comes across as very genuine and spontaneous. I try to do it as much as possible.
Some stock situational lines I use: girl sitting by herself, I say, “Are you in time out?” If the bar is crowded, sometimes I bet the girl next to me a drink that I get served first. If some girls look really bored, I come over and say, “Look, this is a ‘fun-only’ zone, we need to fix this.”
Indirect: I save indirect openers (opinion openers, anything you’d find in the Routines Manual) for larger groups or mixed sets. “Drunk I Love You’s” opens groups of 4+ sufficiently 90% of the time. Google it if you don’t know what it is. It’s basically the new, “Who lies more?”
Transitioning and Cold Reading
Just as in the day game model, I ALWAYS transition with a cold read.
If I went direct, I’ll transition with a basic cold read about the group. If I noticed something interesting about them before I opened (again, people-reading, pre-selecting… see part 1), I comment on that. These cold reads usually range from neutral to hit the nail on the head. When you hit the nail on the head with your cold read, combined with the direct, you have pretty much instant attraction. A few months ago, I opened this really tall brunette direct, and cold read her job perfectly my very next line (”You look like a closet nerd, I bet you’re an engineer or something.”) I was right and she FREAKED the fuck out. The attraction was immediately through the roof and the rest of the set was a matter of escalating.
If I don’t have anything to cold read on the specific set, I use one of a couple stock cold reads: “You don’t look like you’re from X,” “You guys look like you’ve been friends forever,” etc.
This will always get the conversation started down a general thread. As I’ll focus on later, you want every conversation to be about one of two things: you or her. I don’t really fuck around with routines, games or gimmicks. I want to know about her ASAP and want to share myself ASAP, so these cold-reads get that started pretty quickly. On top of that, they eliminate the annoying “interview question” habit and that percentage of the time when you cold read them right, you get a nice boost of attraction.
Note: Often, just by cold reading them correctly and going direct, I’ll already have more than enough attraction to get laid by this point. Let me say that again. By simply going direct, having great non-verbals, and cold reading well, I’ll often have enough attraction to get laid. The rest is a matter of escalating well. The biggest tip off for this is if she immediately starts asking YOU interview questions.
For instance, I have sets that go like this sometimes:
Me: “Hi, excuse me, I thought you were cute and wanted to meet you. I’m Mark.”
Her: “Oh wow, thank you.”
Me: “I got a really cool vibe from you, you seem more artistic than most of the other girls here.”
Her: “Oh… wow, I’m a photographer, how did you know that? That’s amazing.”
Me: “I just had a feeling, that’s why I wanted to meet you.”
Her: “Cool. So where are you from?”
BAM! As soon as that, “where are you from?” comes out, in my mind, the game’s over. Unless I majorly fuck up my escalation or comfort, she and I are going to get together.
A lot of guys fight against girls giving them interview questions, and this has never made sense to me. If a girl is asking you questions, she’s conveying nothing but interest. Why you would ever punish her for that is beyond me.
Cold reading off of indirect openers: Same concepts apply. The only difference is if we get into a conversation based on my opener, I’ll adjust my cold read for the conversation. For instance, let’s say I use, “Drunk, I love you’s:”
Me: “Hey guys, quick question, do drunk I love’s you count?”
Them: “What are those?”
Me: “See, my buddy Jack got drunk last night and texted this girl that he loved her. But he doesn’t remember doing it and now she thinks they’re a couple. What should he do?”
Them: Blah, blah, blah (they usually say he can’t take it back.)
Me: “Well, I’m sure you’ve done some stupid shit when you’ve been drunk.”
Her: “OMG, you have no idea.”
Me: (Go into crazy drunk story)
This will get you about 30-60 seconds into the conversation. In part 3, I’m going to through how I cycle attraction and comfort. Again, similar to the day game model where you cycle qualification and comfort, at night, I usually cycle teasing and comfort. We’ll talk about that next time.
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