its 3sections on emotional manipulation 1 edition.
very raw but precise material
Practical FRAME CONTROL to lead
alot has to do with bt spiking and compliance
subcommunications
2 levels of leadership compliance
1)Art of distration, compliance more important than her objections,her actions speak louder than words , trust her actions and emotional behaviour than her shit test and ASD logistal brain.
Talk to the emotional brain not to the logical brain,
only talk to logical brain to SEXUALLY FRAME to validate herself and her actions of compliance.
frame control her disqualfiers with USE of social pressure.INDIRECT
treat her lika little girl who is objecting to getting medicine,
either way you have to find a way to make sure she gets it. its your responsibility to do so.More compliant the better and smoother the pickup.
2)underlying leading towards the logistical and progressive emotional rhythm and GOAL OUTCOME of the INTENT of the seduction.
THIS IS NEVER DISCUSSED LOGICALLY AND OPENLY TO THE WOMAN.EVER!
you make the women feel like a little girl giggle giggle happy to reinforce
she feels good about you.
here is the basis of behaviour management :
Behavior Management
Children are often very nervous or scared when experiencing something new. Our goal as trained pediatric dentists is to make your child’s visit to the dentist as comfortable as possible. We start with “baby steps” to help your child learn how to overcome any fears of going to the dentist. Most children begin to understand after their first visit, that brushing and counting their teeth was easy and that they have overcome their fears of the dentist. Some children need a little more help to overcome their fear of the dentist.
We use many scientifically proven techniques to help children overcome their fears. These include, tell-show-do, positive reinforcement, and distraction techniques. Most children respond well to these techniques. Some children are unable to cooperate after using these techniques and may need pharmacological behavior management such as nitrous oxide, sedation, and general anesthesia. The options that will be appropriate for your child will be explained by your pediatric dentist during your office visit. If you ever have questions about the techniques or why they were chosen for your child, please ask your pediatric dentist.
Tell-Show-Do
This communication technique involves verbal explanations of the dental procedures in phrases appropriate to the developmental level of the patient (tell), demonstrations for the patient so they can see, hear, smell, and touch aspects of the procedure in nonthreatening setting (show), followed by completion of the procedure (do). The goal of tell-show-do is to teach the patient important aspects of the dental visit, familiarize the patient with the dental setting, and to help improve the patient’s response to dental procedures.
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Nonverbal Communication
Nonverbal Communication is the reinforcement and guidance of behavior through appropriate contact, posture, facial expression, and body language. The goals of nonverbal communication are to enhance the effectiveness of other behavior management techniques, and to gain (or maintain) the patient’s attention and compliance.
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Positive Reinforcement
Positive feedback (reinforcement) is an effective technique to reward desired behaviors and thus, strengthen the recurrence of those behaviors. Positive feedback can be given through voice modulation, facial expressions, verbal praise, and appropriate physical demonstrations of affection by all members of the dental team. The goal of positive reinforcement is to reinforce positive behavior at your child’s dental visit.
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Distraction
Distraction is a technique which diverts the patient’s attention from what may be perceived as an unpleasant procedure. The goals of distraction are to decrease the child’s perception of an unpleasant situation and to avert negative or avoidance behaviors.
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Common Pediatric Behavior
Management Techniques
n Modeling: The pedo patient views another pedo patient who is cooperative, and
is used as a “model.”
n Tell/Show/Do: The dentist tells the patient what will happen (“I will look at your
teeth with my mirror”), then show the patient the mirror, then does the procedure
(looking at the teeth). Tell/Show/Do is not useful for injections, extractions, etc.
n Wording Choices: Using simple, pleasant words for actions and i nstruments can
help. The acid etch “taste like lemon juice,” the cotton roll c an be a “tooth
pillow,” the handpiece can be a “water sprayer.” Even the injec tions can be a
“mosquito bite.” These language choices can reduce fear and anxiety.
n Voice Control: The use of a loud authoritarian voice tone is useful for limitsetting
and for stopping dangerous behavior.
n HOME(Hand over Mouth Exercise): May return the patient to a cal mer state. The
hand is placed over the mouth, and the patient is told in a ster n voice, that the
hand will be removed when the undesirable behavior stops.
this is intersting cause you control the seduction,you enjoy and have control.
Mark posted this on emotional manipulation
“Pick Up as an Emotional Process.”
it's BRAND NEW material I've never revealed before.
Basically the idea is that everything we do in pick up is designed
to elicit the proper emotional responses from the woman and
ourselves. All tactics, and techniques are designed for this purpose.
Whatever you do and say is only as useful as the emotion it elicits.
From this starting point, I hope to draft out a new way of practicing
seduction.
so the audio is 3 mp3s
great to review.
I will have to read GUT IMPACT JD FUENTES
and RJS flash cards seem really good material.
Badboy mission on changing emotions.
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Friday, February 11, 2011
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
101s YES!! Emotional 1-0-1s
Here is the 101 Primer document that I promised. Feel free to discuss this,
suggest improvements, other examples, make comments, etc.
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The 101 Primer - The Core Framework of Seduction
I was inspired to write this document because of the confusions surrounding
the two kinds of SOIs and because some people out there didn't understand
the 101 theory correctly when I originally posted bits and pieces of it on
ASF. It has been because I didn't understand it fully at the time unlike I
do now. For that reason, here is a detailed explanation that will do away
with the old terminology and replace it with something that can actually be
taught in a logical, thought out process without the confusion.
WHY 101?
I came up with 101 after a burnt-out alcohol filled intensive PU session at
night on a train to Tokyo when my mind got a direct link to my subconscious.
It was there that I not only found God, but also how to seduce women should
the 101 plan be done correctly and completely. I don't care if you don't
believe me on that one and if it wrecks my credibility wih you. After all, I
saw God and you didn't.
Besides, God is the creator of all life. If we want to create life (hint
hint!) we have to understand it.
101 can be broken down into the numbers 0 and 1. 0 representing negative. 1
representing positive. I'll represent emotions with their numbers from now
on in brackets for the rest of this document.
Similarly, if you think of computers, you will know that the transistors
inside their chips only understand light-on (1), or light-off (0).
Similarly, if you think of the first chapter of the Bible, you will know
that God separated darkness and light. You will also be aware, that if you
consider the ancient Chinese Yin-Yang symbol, that it contains a dark side
and a white side. Many similar ancient and religious stories and such that
speak of creation consume themselves by discussing these opposites as
somehow being able to exit together in a kind of ordered chaos (how's that
for a contradiction?). Also, there is the old saying that humans cannot
appreciate good feelings, without feeling bad feelings - and similarly
cannot revile bad things without good things.
Going back to the Yin-yang symbol, one side is white or good (1) and the
other side is dark and evil (0). Together, they make a circle. The circle
represents a sense of completeness or enlightenment or infinity. Which, if
one applies oneself to the search for enlightenment, is essentially a good
thing (1).
Note the seeming contradiction here - that is, good and bad together is
actually still good (which begs the question, is bad REALLY bad at all?)
In this way, we have 101. That is to say that in life there is good, there
is evil, but all in all life is a positive experience. 101 is the basics of
whatever follows in life. (Such as you will notice that the first subject of
a university topic is called something-or-other 101). And for some reason,
Jewish people really like this number. The Isreali army $B!G (Bs top crack
commando unit is numbered 101, and unit 101 makes an appearance in "Saving
Private Ryan". Maybe that's just chance or coincidence.... or maybe I'm
starting to see 101 everywhere anyway.
101 AND SEDUCTION THEORY
Before I lose some of you completely, let's now move away from the
spiritual/philosophical aspect and start applying this to seduction theory.
Let's not also forget that as students of seduction, we try to use logical
structure to create emotion. This too is a contradiction in terms (logic vs.
emotion) - but with 101 we have a plan to merge the two together into
something workable.
As most students of seduction are aware, the conscious mind can be bypassed
through telling stories - because stories are fiction and therefore not
limited to reality. Once the listener is placed in this state of "anything
goes", the storyteller can insert all kinds of emotion into his/her target
audience without resistance. Stories also follow a typical plan. That is,
(1) beginning, (0) a middle, and (1) and ending. The beginning is the time
in the story where everything is good and normal (1). Slowly as the story
progresses, there is a problem that becomes apparent, which results in the
climatic point of the
story (0). Eventually as the climax subsides, the story winds its way
towards conclusion - when things are explained, and the ending is either a
happy one, or a good one with a different situation than the story started
out as (1).
Both 1 and 0 create a contradiction - and a MYSTERY. Confusing women like
this makes them curious and wanting to know more. When you give them a plan
of action (1) to solve the mystery (10) - they are coerced into doing
whatever it is you really want them to do. Throughout the period of mystery,
however, your intentions are mostly obscure to the female - thus giving her
a task to complete (usually something that you want her to do anyway) to get
what she wants, which is what you are offering (which, if you want to leave
a bad taste in her mouth, you don't have to give).
101, in this way, is pure manipulation. It works as an effective "double
bind" to influence people. Let me point out that I'd rather not have to use
mind-control to get women. Instead, I'd rather install good feelings into
them, and let them work on it. However, not all women are going to be like
this, thus we have a need for 101.
101, however, is only manipulation in so far as it is a contract of conduct
between two people ? as I will be showing later on. In this sense, 101
isn $B!G (B
t really bad manipulation at all, because people use contracts all the time
to do business together. 101 is about gentle persuasion to get women to do
what they really want to do anyway ? in a safe environment.
USING 101 PRACTICALLY
I find that 101 can be used in many different ways during the course of
seduction. Three common ones spring to mind (but there are many others)
1. As a general seduction plan (e.g. Takeaways)
2. As a way to set relationship expectations
3. As a way to give a woman controlled emotional swings (flirting, NEGs,
etc)
Depending on how you use a 101 routine, the parts of each component will be
different.
101 AS A CONTRACT
Now I'm going to explain the components (and their many vairations in usage)
in detail so that you can use it to pick up women. I'm going to use the
analogy of a contract in order to explain 101. 101 IS a sales contract (in
an extreme seduction sense: think "marriage", because it is a logical plan
to make two people safe in being able to express their otherwise"illogical"
and uncontrollable feelings (note the contradiction). In each of the parts,
you can use NLP or some other kind of languaging skill to speak to her
emotionally. Also, I'm sure you will find many other pick-up techniques will
fit in nicely into the framework.
Also, pay particular note to the presuppositions that 101 makes. There are
very important, and will be explained first, followed by ways each part of
101 can be used.
1 - THE PRODUCT PRESENTATION.
Presuppositions are:-
* You display value to the chick. You really want her to have it. It is what
is motivating you to approach. (patterning, incredible connections, lofty
talk about bullshit you promise to do for her)
* Your real intentions are made vague (e.g. like MTLs "get with you"
comment) so that the chick can find her own value from this (be it sexual or
otherwise). All bases are covered this way.
* Your intentions are made doubly vague by making your real intentions seem
like hers. (when they are not). See mirroring, eliciting and feeding back
values etc. Being the man she wants to fuck, being the product she wants to
buy etc.
* You swing her emotions positively
Other techniques:-
- Show of interest (SOI) - Can either be through complimenting, or asking a
woman about something that you find particularly interesting about her. etc.
This is done genuinely (of course) and will require some observation on your
part to figure out exactly how to do this. If the woman is ugly, you
probably won't be able to find something to ask about anyway.
- Statement of Intentions - You tell her that your only intentions are to
make her happy in the ways that she likes. Well this is somewhat true
because it is a good thing to make people happy, but not 100% true either
(because we want sex» as well). Meanwhile, your REAL intentions come later on
in the third part. The "noble" intentions told here are to build value.
- Story telling, and entertaining of some variety.
- Mirroring. Things in common (You want the same things as her - so you say)
- Building value - Presenting a situation to a woman that you know she would
enjoy (The rich and famous have this part easy)
- Creating a good first impression.
- Pre-supposing is key here, as she has not bought anything or received
anything from you yet. You need to create the image in her head, and be able
to back up claims that you can actually do these things you promise for her.
She needs to believe that you will deliver.
- Positive emotional swing
- Getting her to say "yes, yes" immediately
- Getting the chick to promise you things from the value you gave (giving
you a rule and a mental weapon to use against her in the next part). An
example by Rock Harders: After displaying value, he would get the woman to
agree that she liked him and had a good time talking with him. She would
then have to continue to agree with this so she would have no excuses about
coming out to see him when he called her up ? because she said she liked
talking to him.
- Describe this to her emotionally, and dramatically
- Should this part be missing, you will not attract the woman to you at all.
0 - TERMS & CONDITIONS OF SERVICE. END USER LICENCE AGREEMENT.
Presuppositions are:
* You lay down the rules of interaction, and back up the rules with logic,
reason, and your own CONGRUENCE.
* You make her feel guilty - on her own accord for breaking your rules. This
guilt will give her no room to move or fight back with you. She recognizes
that she is wrong, and that it is all her fault (very important).
* You stand by your rules, no matter what (congruence)
* You swing her emotions negatively
Other techniques:-
- Your rules. This includes expected behavior from both you and her. Let's
remember, your word is law. Your rules come #1 in your life above any woman.
You need to be able to enforce your own rules and terms and conditions
despite anything that she does. Your rules must follow logical argument and
leave no room for emotional responses. They must be followed, IF you are to
continue to feel comfortable about giving of yourself to her. What rules to
have is worthy of another separate post.
- This is your appeal to her nobler motives (That is, a good moral
explanation of why she should respond to your 101 at all) - and a way to
avoid future arguments (cause you have the good reason). Tell a story about
your own mistakes in order to highlight your noble motives - if need be.
- Do NOT let this part get heated or turn into an argument (should you be
laying down rules of conduct) - or you will kill the seduction at this
point. Rational logic (and stories about how your logic is right) will
prevail here only. Insults will not.
- Defaulting the chick. Find some reason (logically preferably) which
explains to the chick that she has thrown away her chance to get more of the
value you were offering. This can often be explained verbally - or even done
at random with body language to throw the chick off and make her
self-conscious - all by herself.
- Negative emotional swing
- Display being busy, occupied, hard to tie down, be controlled, or limited
to one chick (social proof)
- Demand respect
- Showing a willingness to walk
- Throw down a challenge
- Make her feel that she is wrong - all by herself. Indirectly call
attention to her mistakes.
- Describe this to her logically.
- Should this part be missing, you will allow the chick the opportunity to
walk all over you.
1 - SIGN ON THE DOTTED LINE
Presuppositions are:
* You tell her what to do.
* You make this part seem as if the thing you want her to do now, is not
really what you want for yourself (See the first 1), ....but in actual fact
it is!
* You leverage her guilt.
* You dangle a positive emotional swing in front of her.
Other techniques:-
- To provide her with a suitable solution to the contradictions of the 1 and
0, in case she can't figure out what to do about it. Make it sound fun and
enjoyable.
- Your real intentions revealed in a disguise here. You get her to do an
activity which is beneficial for you, under the pretense that it's not what
you really want (Remember, the nobler motives) when it is. See the SOI used
as a bluff in the first part. Pay particular note to the set up that goes
into this.
- Complete a ritual to make sense of the two conflicting emotions.
- Hold a positive emotional swing in front of her.
- Get her to prove herself to you, if you are to give her what she wants.
- Describe it to her emotionally
- Find a solution for her to get with you in the way you specified (perhaps
she is in a club with friends). Make it easy for her to buy.
- Allow her to save face here - by doing what you suggested.
- Use future pacing. Get her to think about how happy she will be after she
makes the decision.
- Make it appear like it was her idea, and it is in her interests.
- Ask her about her thoughts on doing what you suggest, and if she has
anything to add to it.
- Should this part be missing, you will probably not advance the seduction
at all.
These are, in a nutshell, the basics of generating your own seduction
patterns to chicks.As you can see, it contains an emotional swing. Women
particularly enjoy having emotional swings - so with 101, you can plan on
making one. 101 can be used in many different ways, either in patterning, or
in the context of a seduction.
You can also see very easily how the plan would fall to pieces if one of the
steps were to be missing.
DETECTING AND COMBATING 101 AND OTHER KINDS OF MANIPULATION
Detecting 101 is actually quite difficult - unless you know what to look
for. Difficult because people have a natural tendency to avoid those people
who are selfish and wanting to use us - and if those people are doing this
in an obvious fashion - we avoid them. 101 is different however, because we
are GIVING our targets things they want. When someone is apparently giving
things to us, we cannot even slightly consider that they are being selfish -
and it slips under the radar. Suddenly, the target learns that she will have
to pay for it to keep it, and that is her responsibility, then the tables
are turned. She leads herself into believing that she is in the wrong, and
we become totally innocent. At all times, we have to consider the motives of
those people we trust doing things for us. Indeed, those who GIVE are
greater than those who receive. Putting people in debt to you gives you a
lot of power.
On that note, here's how women can use 101 to seduce us men:
1 - First, women build their sexual value (a bit obvious, right?) through
appearance - or by approaching us and suggesting to us that they really want
to have sex». All the while, confusing men into believing that she wants sex»
as much as men do ? without actually saying it.
0 - Then, by accusing the men she attracts of doing something supposedly bad
(e.g. perving, looking at other women, not paying her enough attention,
accusing us of being players, going out with male friends, perving, some
other kind of nonsense that PUAs will easily dismiss), she can turn the
tables in her favour. Some bitches will simply treat men like shit and not
accuse men verbally.
1 - When she has induced enough guilt in her target male, she can start
demanding committed relationships and all the stuff that she REALLY wants.
As you can see however, that if detected, destroying a 101 double-bind is
easy if you pull one of the components out of it. Now, pulling apart a
female seduction plan will ensure that you never get rejected or
manipulated ? but if you fail to build your own 101 plan too, you will not
get laid. Let's look at how to rip apart a woman's seduction plan:
1 - If a person rejects the value presented them. (e.g. NEG theory,
insulting the woman, showing negative interest in her)
0 - Attacks the logic or reasoning behind the challenge (dealing with her
shit tests effectively)
1 - Or by refusing to carry out the solution, or carrying out a solution
different to the one intended (Refusing to supplicate)
Similarly, your seduction can fall apart if a woman:-
1 ? Rejects the value you are presenting her (because you failed to elicit
her true values and/or put her in a state which lets her feel this value)
0 ? Rejects the rules of interaction you have (Because you failed to present
a challenge to her, gain respect, explain your rules properly, or she has
found a crack in your congruency to keep your own rules)
1 ? Rejects the things you want her to do (because you failed to convince
her that they were in her interests)
TIPS FOR USING 101s AS OPENERS.
Here's a few tips on using 101 as openers. Pay attention to the fact that
sex» is not a value that most women look for - and therefore it is not one
that we can use in the first 1 of 101 (E.g. "I will fuck you hard" as an
opening line). Saying that risks us getting slapped. The exception to this
of course is a seductress who takes you for a sucker and will try to play
you herself (as in the female seduction example) - only to get played by you
anyway! Sex» is NOT a mutual experience to a woman because she has a lot to
lose if she gets pregnant. I find that good SOIs tend to be vague enough to
be interpreted sexually and non-sexually. Saying things like "I'd like to
take you home" or "I want to get to know you on an... intimate... level" or
"I want to make you....very... happy" will cover both bases and attract a
wider range of chicks (in my experience)
Also, try not to SOI or build value in ways you cannot possibly bring to
realization later on. If the value you build is too unrealistic (e.g. I want
to buy you a Ferrari, get married to you), she won't believe you - and if
she does and you don't deliver later on - you'll have a really pissed off
woman to deal with.
After this, once you have achieved good rapport with a woman after building
significant value, is to break rapport and default her behaviour ? using
whatever logical reason you can. Here you can lay down your rules of
conduct, tell stories about why you have rules of conduct, and educate her
in following them.
Then, once you have got her into a guilt trip, you can give her ways to save
face. One way will be to go out with you or do something else.
Note:- Ignoring a woman, walking away, or telling her to go away is NOT part
of 101 AT ALL.
Ignoring a woman gives her zero emotional swing whatsoever ? unless you have
displayed SIGNIFICANT value, which you know she will do anything to keep.
Persistence is key to getting any chick. Only AFTER you have had sex» and
continued to display significant value to woman ? that ignoring a woman
completely EVER becomes a technique.
EXAMPLES OF 101s IN ACTION
Here are some examples of 101 in action:-
1 - Build rapport and value with a woman.
0 - Accuse her of something which you don't like, in a rational manner,
until she believes that it's her fault. (e.g. not coming to see you, not
calling you up enough etc.)
1 - Tell her that she has to make it up to you by doing exactly what you
want - if you are to give her the value you gave her before.
(This is otherwise known as a takeaway)
1 - Tell the woman that you like her hair
0 - Tell her it's out of step with the style these days.
1 - Tell her it looks nice anyway
(This is otherwise known as a Neg)
1 - Use a blatantly sexual PU line
0 - Say you were just kidding, and get to know her a bit better.
1 - Use another blatantly sexual PU line.
(The direct and powerful PU style of Grand Master Flash. Note how value is
built with sex», real intent is disguised as a joke, and the challenge for
her is to have a sense of humour and allow him to bombard her with sexual
feelings)
1 - "You look like the sort of person that I'd like to make very happy"
0 - "But I could be very wrong about you, because I just met you. I
don $B!G (Bt
know if you are the kind of person who likes adventure or intense emotional
experiences."
1 - "So how about we meet over there for coffee so we can find out if we
could really like each other?"
(Simple PU opening to entice a woman to coffee)
1 - Remind woman of all the good things you have done for her.
0 - Tell her that she has messed up by doing whatever it was that annoyed
you, and that she will have to suffer the consequences.
1 - Tell her that if she wants to be back in your good graces, she's going
to have to have sex» with you in exactly the way you want.
(Dealing with women you are with, who are giving you a hard time)
1 - "I like your foreign accent
0 - It will probably annoy the hell out of me after a while
1 - But it's kinda cute"
(Some playful flirting. This 101 is tried and tested ? and works)
1 - I want to do anything sexual you'll like
0 - But I this is my job, and you have to respect that. These are my rules.
1 - I need $100 a half hour to see if you want nookie.
(How a prostitute could use 101. Note also, that women have to offer sex»
upfront in order to build value with men before they can lay down rules and
conditions - or even attempt to pull off a 101. Be warned then, of women who
talk about sex» to you too early after you meet them)
1 - Woman dresses up sexy in a bar
0 - Woman gets angry when guys hit on her
1 - Woman demands that she be treated right by men and shown a good time
(Typical female instincts. By using sex» to build value, laying down rules to
enduce men into guilt, and finally by using that guilt to tell men what they
should be doing - which just happens to be what she wanted them to do for
her all along.)
1 - I really like you
0 - However, I don't want to fuck you (chick feels sting of rejection)
1 - I want to make love to you
(I saw this in a film called "Some Girl". A PUA picks up this chick and uses
these lines to lay her. I was thrown back when I heard it, cause it was pure
101. Note that the strength of it comes in the fact that women like to hear
"make love" (unselfish male) rather than "fuck" (selfish male) - but the
emotional swings are still present - which makes the final 1 all that more
powerful when it is said.)
1 - Give value. Compliment women. Invite her somewhere.
0 - Suddenly, with no warning given, look at her funny, and back off from
her as if she has some disease. (Made the women get self-concious)
1 - Mention that you would like her to come to (wherever you want to go),
but you are not sure if she's the right person for it - but you'll still
invite her anyway
(A style of PU I learnt from a PUA on Guam. He made the women feel very good
and then suddenly very bad all on their own accord - and they didn't hate
him for it at all - because they believed that they were at fault. He used
the guilt as leverage to get chicks to go out with him)
There are also ways to use 101 outside the field of seduction too, such as
in business or simply as ways to be poetic:
1 - Christ was born
0 - Christ died
1 - Christ will come again
(It's kept Christians in hope for all these years)
1 ? Telling people that God really loves you, and that you can go to heaven
0 ? Telling them that there are rules for this, and that they must be
followed or risk eternal damnation
1 ? Telling them to sustain the organization financially, do some ridiculous
ritual, or commit terror attacks, is their only key to paradise.
(How organized religion can be used to manipulate people)
1 - I love you
0 - I'll kill you
1 - But I'll love you forever
(Using 101 to create emotional swings. This is actually a line from a music
track by Enigma. Imagine saying that to a chick!)
1- These knives we sell will never go blunt on you Mrs. Jones, and that
saves you time and money.
0 - But they're probably way too expensive for you to buy upfront
1 - So, let me show you here just how you can spend only 2 cents a day over
a period of 3 months to pay for them.
(A mock sales pitch)
1 - I really wanted to take you to the fair today Jimmy
0 - But since you didn't eat your vegetables, which are good for you, so I'm
not going to take you.
1 - So now, I'm only going to consider taking you if you clean your room.
(Parenting)
1 - That's a pretty dress you are wearing this morning, and you are a very
attractive young woman.
0 - Now, don't get stuck up. I just said that to make you feel good.
1- From now on, I wish you to be a little bit more careful with your
punctuation
(An actual use of 101 as told in Part 4 Chapter 1 of "How to Win Friends and
Influence People". The principle of the chapter was to "Begin with praise
and honest appreciation" - i.e. the first 1 of 101.)
DELIVERING & STACKING 101s
At times when you are using 101 to lay down some rules to a chick, or
patterning a woman, be serious. Use deep tonality.
At other times, when you are using 101s to create value to a chick (e.g.
101s in storytelling, or flirting) then you can swing your own emotions
around as much as you want.
Sorry if this sounds confusing, but I find it interesting to note how 101s
can be stacked inside other 101s. Eg. Using 101s in story telling (to get
emotional swings) as the first 1 in an overall 101 seduction plan.
FINAL WARNING
Be warned to not use 101 recklessly. 101s can be abused to the point where
you can severely mess with a chick $B!G (Bs head. This is very easy to do if
you
are primarily using 101s as emotional swings. If you overdo this, you can
crosswire her emotions totally and drive her nuts.
You can also come up with all sorts of silly rules for the woman to follow
if you have displayed enough value (e.g. You will have to learn how to quack
like a duck if you ever want me to be nice to you ever again). Once you have
got a deep emotional connection with a woman, use your common sense and DON
$B!G (BT abuse it. Sure it may be fun for a while, but treating a woman badly
for
no reason will take its toll on YOUR conscience ? and then you will have to
re-evaluate what you are really looking for in your relationships with
women, and what you really want them to do for you.
Also, remember that by having illogical rules (that cannot be defended
rationally), or rules that most people will object to ? you may run the risk
of being challenged by other men (or other women who are getting a better
deal). This can severely affect your social reputation in a negative way ?
hence this warning.
suggest improvements, other examples, make comments, etc.
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The 101 Primer - The Core Framework of Seduction
I was inspired to write this document because of the confusions surrounding
the two kinds of SOIs and because some people out there didn't understand
the 101 theory correctly when I originally posted bits and pieces of it on
ASF. It has been because I didn't understand it fully at the time unlike I
do now. For that reason, here is a detailed explanation that will do away
with the old terminology and replace it with something that can actually be
taught in a logical, thought out process without the confusion.
WHY 101?
I came up with 101 after a burnt-out alcohol filled intensive PU session at
night on a train to Tokyo when my mind got a direct link to my subconscious.
It was there that I not only found God, but also how to seduce women should
the 101 plan be done correctly and completely. I don't care if you don't
believe me on that one and if it wrecks my credibility wih you. After all, I
saw God and you didn't.
Besides, God is the creator of all life. If we want to create life (hint
hint!) we have to understand it.
101 can be broken down into the numbers 0 and 1. 0 representing negative. 1
representing positive. I'll represent emotions with their numbers from now
on in brackets for the rest of this document.
Similarly, if you think of computers, you will know that the transistors
inside their chips only understand light-on (1), or light-off (0).
Similarly, if you think of the first chapter of the Bible, you will know
that God separated darkness and light. You will also be aware, that if you
consider the ancient Chinese Yin-Yang symbol, that it contains a dark side
and a white side. Many similar ancient and religious stories and such that
speak of creation consume themselves by discussing these opposites as
somehow being able to exit together in a kind of ordered chaos (how's that
for a contradiction?). Also, there is the old saying that humans cannot
appreciate good feelings, without feeling bad feelings - and similarly
cannot revile bad things without good things.
Going back to the Yin-yang symbol, one side is white or good (1) and the
other side is dark and evil (0). Together, they make a circle. The circle
represents a sense of completeness or enlightenment or infinity. Which, if
one applies oneself to the search for enlightenment, is essentially a good
thing (1).
Note the seeming contradiction here - that is, good and bad together is
actually still good (which begs the question, is bad REALLY bad at all?)
In this way, we have 101. That is to say that in life there is good, there
is evil, but all in all life is a positive experience. 101 is the basics of
whatever follows in life. (Such as you will notice that the first subject of
a university topic is called something-or-other 101). And for some reason,
Jewish people really like this number. The Isreali army $B!G (Bs top crack
commando unit is numbered 101, and unit 101 makes an appearance in "Saving
Private Ryan". Maybe that's just chance or coincidence.... or maybe I'm
starting to see 101 everywhere anyway.
101 AND SEDUCTION THEORY
Before I lose some of you completely, let's now move away from the
spiritual/philosophical aspect and start applying this to seduction theory.
Let's not also forget that as students of seduction, we try to use logical
structure to create emotion. This too is a contradiction in terms (logic vs.
emotion) - but with 101 we have a plan to merge the two together into
something workable.
As most students of seduction are aware, the conscious mind can be bypassed
through telling stories - because stories are fiction and therefore not
limited to reality. Once the listener is placed in this state of "anything
goes", the storyteller can insert all kinds of emotion into his/her target
audience without resistance. Stories also follow a typical plan. That is,
(1) beginning, (0) a middle, and (1) and ending. The beginning is the time
in the story where everything is good and normal (1). Slowly as the story
progresses, there is a problem that becomes apparent, which results in the
climatic point of the
story (0). Eventually as the climax subsides, the story winds its way
towards conclusion - when things are explained, and the ending is either a
happy one, or a good one with a different situation than the story started
out as (1).
Both 1 and 0 create a contradiction - and a MYSTERY. Confusing women like
this makes them curious and wanting to know more. When you give them a plan
of action (1) to solve the mystery (10) - they are coerced into doing
whatever it is you really want them to do. Throughout the period of mystery,
however, your intentions are mostly obscure to the female - thus giving her
a task to complete (usually something that you want her to do anyway) to get
what she wants, which is what you are offering (which, if you want to leave
a bad taste in her mouth, you don't have to give).
101, in this way, is pure manipulation. It works as an effective "double
bind" to influence people. Let me point out that I'd rather not have to use
mind-control to get women. Instead, I'd rather install good feelings into
them, and let them work on it. However, not all women are going to be like
this, thus we have a need for 101.
101, however, is only manipulation in so far as it is a contract of conduct
between two people ? as I will be showing later on. In this sense, 101
isn $B!G (B
t really bad manipulation at all, because people use contracts all the time
to do business together. 101 is about gentle persuasion to get women to do
what they really want to do anyway ? in a safe environment.
USING 101 PRACTICALLY
I find that 101 can be used in many different ways during the course of
seduction. Three common ones spring to mind (but there are many others)
1. As a general seduction plan (e.g. Takeaways)
2. As a way to set relationship expectations
3. As a way to give a woman controlled emotional swings (flirting, NEGs,
etc)
Depending on how you use a 101 routine, the parts of each component will be
different.
101 AS A CONTRACT
Now I'm going to explain the components (and their many vairations in usage)
in detail so that you can use it to pick up women. I'm going to use the
analogy of a contract in order to explain 101. 101 IS a sales contract (in
an extreme seduction sense: think "marriage", because it is a logical plan
to make two people safe in being able to express their otherwise"illogical"
and uncontrollable feelings (note the contradiction). In each of the parts,
you can use NLP or some other kind of languaging skill to speak to her
emotionally. Also, I'm sure you will find many other pick-up techniques will
fit in nicely into the framework.
Also, pay particular note to the presuppositions that 101 makes. There are
very important, and will be explained first, followed by ways each part of
101 can be used.
1 - THE PRODUCT PRESENTATION.
Presuppositions are:-
* You display value to the chick. You really want her to have it. It is what
is motivating you to approach. (patterning, incredible connections, lofty
talk about bullshit you promise to do for her)
* Your real intentions are made vague (e.g. like MTLs "get with you"
comment) so that the chick can find her own value from this (be it sexual or
otherwise). All bases are covered this way.
* Your intentions are made doubly vague by making your real intentions seem
like hers. (when they are not). See mirroring, eliciting and feeding back
values etc. Being the man she wants to fuck, being the product she wants to
buy etc.
* You swing her emotions positively
Other techniques:-
- Show of interest (SOI) - Can either be through complimenting, or asking a
woman about something that you find particularly interesting about her. etc.
This is done genuinely (of course) and will require some observation on your
part to figure out exactly how to do this. If the woman is ugly, you
probably won't be able to find something to ask about anyway.
- Statement of Intentions - You tell her that your only intentions are to
make her happy in the ways that she likes. Well this is somewhat true
because it is a good thing to make people happy, but not 100% true either
(because we want sex» as well). Meanwhile, your REAL intentions come later on
in the third part. The "noble" intentions told here are to build value.
- Story telling, and entertaining of some variety.
- Mirroring. Things in common (You want the same things as her - so you say)
- Building value - Presenting a situation to a woman that you know she would
enjoy (The rich and famous have this part easy)
- Creating a good first impression.
- Pre-supposing is key here, as she has not bought anything or received
anything from you yet. You need to create the image in her head, and be able
to back up claims that you can actually do these things you promise for her.
She needs to believe that you will deliver.
- Positive emotional swing
- Getting her to say "yes, yes" immediately
- Getting the chick to promise you things from the value you gave (giving
you a rule and a mental weapon to use against her in the next part). An
example by Rock Harders: After displaying value, he would get the woman to
agree that she liked him and had a good time talking with him. She would
then have to continue to agree with this so she would have no excuses about
coming out to see him when he called her up ? because she said she liked
talking to him.
- Describe this to her emotionally, and dramatically
- Should this part be missing, you will not attract the woman to you at all.
0 - TERMS & CONDITIONS OF SERVICE. END USER LICENCE AGREEMENT.
Presuppositions are:
* You lay down the rules of interaction, and back up the rules with logic,
reason, and your own CONGRUENCE.
* You make her feel guilty - on her own accord for breaking your rules. This
guilt will give her no room to move or fight back with you. She recognizes
that she is wrong, and that it is all her fault (very important).
* You stand by your rules, no matter what (congruence)
* You swing her emotions negatively
Other techniques:-
- Your rules. This includes expected behavior from both you and her. Let's
remember, your word is law. Your rules come #1 in your life above any woman.
You need to be able to enforce your own rules and terms and conditions
despite anything that she does. Your rules must follow logical argument and
leave no room for emotional responses. They must be followed, IF you are to
continue to feel comfortable about giving of yourself to her. What rules to
have is worthy of another separate post.
- This is your appeal to her nobler motives (That is, a good moral
explanation of why she should respond to your 101 at all) - and a way to
avoid future arguments (cause you have the good reason). Tell a story about
your own mistakes in order to highlight your noble motives - if need be.
- Do NOT let this part get heated or turn into an argument (should you be
laying down rules of conduct) - or you will kill the seduction at this
point. Rational logic (and stories about how your logic is right) will
prevail here only. Insults will not.
- Defaulting the chick. Find some reason (logically preferably) which
explains to the chick that she has thrown away her chance to get more of the
value you were offering. This can often be explained verbally - or even done
at random with body language to throw the chick off and make her
self-conscious - all by herself.
- Negative emotional swing
- Display being busy, occupied, hard to tie down, be controlled, or limited
to one chick (social proof)
- Demand respect
- Showing a willingness to walk
- Throw down a challenge
- Make her feel that she is wrong - all by herself. Indirectly call
attention to her mistakes.
- Describe this to her logically.
- Should this part be missing, you will allow the chick the opportunity to
walk all over you.
1 - SIGN ON THE DOTTED LINE
Presuppositions are:
* You tell her what to do.
* You make this part seem as if the thing you want her to do now, is not
really what you want for yourself (See the first 1), ....but in actual fact
it is!
* You leverage her guilt.
* You dangle a positive emotional swing in front of her.
Other techniques:-
- To provide her with a suitable solution to the contradictions of the 1 and
0, in case she can't figure out what to do about it. Make it sound fun and
enjoyable.
- Your real intentions revealed in a disguise here. You get her to do an
activity which is beneficial for you, under the pretense that it's not what
you really want (Remember, the nobler motives) when it is. See the SOI used
as a bluff in the first part. Pay particular note to the set up that goes
into this.
- Complete a ritual to make sense of the two conflicting emotions.
- Hold a positive emotional swing in front of her.
- Get her to prove herself to you, if you are to give her what she wants.
- Describe it to her emotionally
- Find a solution for her to get with you in the way you specified (perhaps
she is in a club with friends). Make it easy for her to buy.
- Allow her to save face here - by doing what you suggested.
- Use future pacing. Get her to think about how happy she will be after she
makes the decision.
- Make it appear like it was her idea, and it is in her interests.
- Ask her about her thoughts on doing what you suggest, and if she has
anything to add to it.
- Should this part be missing, you will probably not advance the seduction
at all.
These are, in a nutshell, the basics of generating your own seduction
patterns to chicks.As you can see, it contains an emotional swing. Women
particularly enjoy having emotional swings - so with 101, you can plan on
making one. 101 can be used in many different ways, either in patterning, or
in the context of a seduction.
You can also see very easily how the plan would fall to pieces if one of the
steps were to be missing.
DETECTING AND COMBATING 101 AND OTHER KINDS OF MANIPULATION
Detecting 101 is actually quite difficult - unless you know what to look
for. Difficult because people have a natural tendency to avoid those people
who are selfish and wanting to use us - and if those people are doing this
in an obvious fashion - we avoid them. 101 is different however, because we
are GIVING our targets things they want. When someone is apparently giving
things to us, we cannot even slightly consider that they are being selfish -
and it slips under the radar. Suddenly, the target learns that she will have
to pay for it to keep it, and that is her responsibility, then the tables
are turned. She leads herself into believing that she is in the wrong, and
we become totally innocent. At all times, we have to consider the motives of
those people we trust doing things for us. Indeed, those who GIVE are
greater than those who receive. Putting people in debt to you gives you a
lot of power.
On that note, here's how women can use 101 to seduce us men:
1 - First, women build their sexual value (a bit obvious, right?) through
appearance - or by approaching us and suggesting to us that they really want
to have sex». All the while, confusing men into believing that she wants sex»
as much as men do ? without actually saying it.
0 - Then, by accusing the men she attracts of doing something supposedly bad
(e.g. perving, looking at other women, not paying her enough attention,
accusing us of being players, going out with male friends, perving, some
other kind of nonsense that PUAs will easily dismiss), she can turn the
tables in her favour. Some bitches will simply treat men like shit and not
accuse men verbally.
1 - When she has induced enough guilt in her target male, she can start
demanding committed relationships and all the stuff that she REALLY wants.
As you can see however, that if detected, destroying a 101 double-bind is
easy if you pull one of the components out of it. Now, pulling apart a
female seduction plan will ensure that you never get rejected or
manipulated ? but if you fail to build your own 101 plan too, you will not
get laid. Let's look at how to rip apart a woman's seduction plan:
1 - If a person rejects the value presented them. (e.g. NEG theory,
insulting the woman, showing negative interest in her)
0 - Attacks the logic or reasoning behind the challenge (dealing with her
shit tests effectively)
1 - Or by refusing to carry out the solution, or carrying out a solution
different to the one intended (Refusing to supplicate)
Similarly, your seduction can fall apart if a woman:-
1 ? Rejects the value you are presenting her (because you failed to elicit
her true values and/or put her in a state which lets her feel this value)
0 ? Rejects the rules of interaction you have (Because you failed to present
a challenge to her, gain respect, explain your rules properly, or she has
found a crack in your congruency to keep your own rules)
1 ? Rejects the things you want her to do (because you failed to convince
her that they were in her interests)
TIPS FOR USING 101s AS OPENERS.
Here's a few tips on using 101 as openers. Pay attention to the fact that
sex» is not a value that most women look for - and therefore it is not one
that we can use in the first 1 of 101 (E.g. "I will fuck you hard" as an
opening line). Saying that risks us getting slapped. The exception to this
of course is a seductress who takes you for a sucker and will try to play
you herself (as in the female seduction example) - only to get played by you
anyway! Sex» is NOT a mutual experience to a woman because she has a lot to
lose if she gets pregnant. I find that good SOIs tend to be vague enough to
be interpreted sexually and non-sexually. Saying things like "I'd like to
take you home" or "I want to get to know you on an... intimate... level" or
"I want to make you....very... happy" will cover both bases and attract a
wider range of chicks (in my experience)
Also, try not to SOI or build value in ways you cannot possibly bring to
realization later on. If the value you build is too unrealistic (e.g. I want
to buy you a Ferrari, get married to you), she won't believe you - and if
she does and you don't deliver later on - you'll have a really pissed off
woman to deal with.
After this, once you have achieved good rapport with a woman after building
significant value, is to break rapport and default her behaviour ? using
whatever logical reason you can. Here you can lay down your rules of
conduct, tell stories about why you have rules of conduct, and educate her
in following them.
Then, once you have got her into a guilt trip, you can give her ways to save
face. One way will be to go out with you or do something else.
Note:- Ignoring a woman, walking away, or telling her to go away is NOT part
of 101 AT ALL.
Ignoring a woman gives her zero emotional swing whatsoever ? unless you have
displayed SIGNIFICANT value, which you know she will do anything to keep.
Persistence is key to getting any chick. Only AFTER you have had sex» and
continued to display significant value to woman ? that ignoring a woman
completely EVER becomes a technique.
EXAMPLES OF 101s IN ACTION
Here are some examples of 101 in action:-
1 - Build rapport and value with a woman.
0 - Accuse her of something which you don't like, in a rational manner,
until she believes that it's her fault. (e.g. not coming to see you, not
calling you up enough etc.)
1 - Tell her that she has to make it up to you by doing exactly what you
want - if you are to give her the value you gave her before.
(This is otherwise known as a takeaway)
1 - Tell the woman that you like her hair
0 - Tell her it's out of step with the style these days.
1 - Tell her it looks nice anyway
(This is otherwise known as a Neg)
1 - Use a blatantly sexual PU line
0 - Say you were just kidding, and get to know her a bit better.
1 - Use another blatantly sexual PU line.
(The direct and powerful PU style of Grand Master Flash. Note how value is
built with sex», real intent is disguised as a joke, and the challenge for
her is to have a sense of humour and allow him to bombard her with sexual
feelings)
1 - "You look like the sort of person that I'd like to make very happy"
0 - "But I could be very wrong about you, because I just met you. I
don $B!G (Bt
know if you are the kind of person who likes adventure or intense emotional
experiences."
1 - "So how about we meet over there for coffee so we can find out if we
could really like each other?"
(Simple PU opening to entice a woman to coffee)
1 - Remind woman of all the good things you have done for her.
0 - Tell her that she has messed up by doing whatever it was that annoyed
you, and that she will have to suffer the consequences.
1 - Tell her that if she wants to be back in your good graces, she's going
to have to have sex» with you in exactly the way you want.
(Dealing with women you are with, who are giving you a hard time)
1 - "I like your foreign accent
0 - It will probably annoy the hell out of me after a while
1 - But it's kinda cute"
(Some playful flirting. This 101 is tried and tested ? and works)
1 - I want to do anything sexual you'll like
0 - But I this is my job, and you have to respect that. These are my rules.
1 - I need $100 a half hour to see if you want nookie.
(How a prostitute could use 101. Note also, that women have to offer sex»
upfront in order to build value with men before they can lay down rules and
conditions - or even attempt to pull off a 101. Be warned then, of women who
talk about sex» to you too early after you meet them)
1 - Woman dresses up sexy in a bar
0 - Woman gets angry when guys hit on her
1 - Woman demands that she be treated right by men and shown a good time
(Typical female instincts. By using sex» to build value, laying down rules to
enduce men into guilt, and finally by using that guilt to tell men what they
should be doing - which just happens to be what she wanted them to do for
her all along.)
1 - I really like you
0 - However, I don't want to fuck you (chick feels sting of rejection)
1 - I want to make love to you
(I saw this in a film called "Some Girl". A PUA picks up this chick and uses
these lines to lay her. I was thrown back when I heard it, cause it was pure
101. Note that the strength of it comes in the fact that women like to hear
"make love" (unselfish male) rather than "fuck" (selfish male) - but the
emotional swings are still present - which makes the final 1 all that more
powerful when it is said.)
1 - Give value. Compliment women. Invite her somewhere.
0 - Suddenly, with no warning given, look at her funny, and back off from
her as if she has some disease. (Made the women get self-concious)
1 - Mention that you would like her to come to (wherever you want to go),
but you are not sure if she's the right person for it - but you'll still
invite her anyway
(A style of PU I learnt from a PUA on Guam. He made the women feel very good
and then suddenly very bad all on their own accord - and they didn't hate
him for it at all - because they believed that they were at fault. He used
the guilt as leverage to get chicks to go out with him)
There are also ways to use 101 outside the field of seduction too, such as
in business or simply as ways to be poetic:
1 - Christ was born
0 - Christ died
1 - Christ will come again
(It's kept Christians in hope for all these years)
1 ? Telling people that God really loves you, and that you can go to heaven
0 ? Telling them that there are rules for this, and that they must be
followed or risk eternal damnation
1 ? Telling them to sustain the organization financially, do some ridiculous
ritual, or commit terror attacks, is their only key to paradise.
(How organized religion can be used to manipulate people)
1 - I love you
0 - I'll kill you
1 - But I'll love you forever
(Using 101 to create emotional swings. This is actually a line from a music
track by Enigma. Imagine saying that to a chick!)
1- These knives we sell will never go blunt on you Mrs. Jones, and that
saves you time and money.
0 - But they're probably way too expensive for you to buy upfront
1 - So, let me show you here just how you can spend only 2 cents a day over
a period of 3 months to pay for them.
(A mock sales pitch)
1 - I really wanted to take you to the fair today Jimmy
0 - But since you didn't eat your vegetables, which are good for you, so I'm
not going to take you.
1 - So now, I'm only going to consider taking you if you clean your room.
(Parenting)
1 - That's a pretty dress you are wearing this morning, and you are a very
attractive young woman.
0 - Now, don't get stuck up. I just said that to make you feel good.
1- From now on, I wish you to be a little bit more careful with your
punctuation
(An actual use of 101 as told in Part 4 Chapter 1 of "How to Win Friends and
Influence People". The principle of the chapter was to "Begin with praise
and honest appreciation" - i.e. the first 1 of 101.)
DELIVERING & STACKING 101s
At times when you are using 101 to lay down some rules to a chick, or
patterning a woman, be serious. Use deep tonality.
At other times, when you are using 101s to create value to a chick (e.g.
101s in storytelling, or flirting) then you can swing your own emotions
around as much as you want.
Sorry if this sounds confusing, but I find it interesting to note how 101s
can be stacked inside other 101s. Eg. Using 101s in story telling (to get
emotional swings) as the first 1 in an overall 101 seduction plan.
FINAL WARNING
Be warned to not use 101 recklessly. 101s can be abused to the point where
you can severely mess with a chick $B!G (Bs head. This is very easy to do if
you
are primarily using 101s as emotional swings. If you overdo this, you can
crosswire her emotions totally and drive her nuts.
You can also come up with all sorts of silly rules for the woman to follow
if you have displayed enough value (e.g. You will have to learn how to quack
like a duck if you ever want me to be nice to you ever again). Once you have
got a deep emotional connection with a woman, use your common sense and DON
$B!G (BT abuse it. Sure it may be fun for a while, but treating a woman badly
for
no reason will take its toll on YOUR conscience ? and then you will have to
re-evaluate what you are really looking for in your relationships with
women, and what you really want them to do for you.
Also, remember that by having illogical rules (that cannot be defended
rationally), or rules that most people will object to ? you may run the risk
of being challenged by other men (or other women who are getting a better
deal). This can severely affect your social reputation in a negative way ?
hence this warning.
Friday, January 28, 2011
Seduction Techniques: Push-Pull by Franco
Push-pull is giving in purpose mixed positive and negative signals to her. When this is well calibrated it can be emotionally confusing to a woman, and this builds tension.
Women are emotional creatures and they love tension: it makes then attracted to you and… horny.
The structure of the push-pull is simple. You say something very positive and then again something negative in a repetitive fashion.
You: “I like your shoes..”
You: “Hmm.. you don´t have high heels. That´s bad!”
or
You: “You look like a country girl. I just adore spontaneous women!”
You: “Can you write and read?”
The right way of doing this is playful. You should be laid back and she has to feel how you are having fun yourself in the process.
This can make a woman horny and attracted to you very fast so be ready to capitalize by touching her when she is at her high attraction point.
Cheers, Franco
helping men since 2004
Women are emotional creatures and they love tension: it makes then attracted to you and… horny.
The structure of the push-pull is simple. You say something very positive and then again something negative in a repetitive fashion.
You: “I like your shoes..”
You: “Hmm.. you don´t have high heels. That´s bad!”
or
You: “You look like a country girl. I just adore spontaneous women!”
You: “Can you write and read?”
The right way of doing this is playful. You should be laid back and she has to feel how you are having fun yourself in the process.
This can make a woman horny and attracted to you very fast so be ready to capitalize by touching her when she is at her high attraction point.
Cheers, Franco
helping men since 2004
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
how to calibrate sexual escalation on the girl
I think the tittle is abit misleading but in reality it has to do with your style of game.
I have friends and Ive started with learning and we still have different game,shows you that you have to be yourself to make game work. i know it sounds like shit but lets get back to topic.
I have closed different types of girls and until you have a setback or achallenge you wont realize how valuable it is to know how to go sexual.
there are great posts and books to show you this...
Id say you have to figure it out based on yours style of game, your plan to have her with her if its a date and what type fo girl she is, how her state is at that moment.
All what I just mentioned equal to success my friends.
to calibrate it is to know when an how to do it.
here is what tripp says:
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Im having this issue.
When its time to close and have sex when I am about to enter the motel, she freaks out and gets major LMR.
I cant take her to my place cause Im temporaily sharing it with someone while school starts again for me to move the fuck out on my own.
Also I tried in the car but it isnt comfortable at all.
in the past I never got LMR like this but its predictable a girl would get freaked out when she enters a motel and starts feeling like a slut.
last girls didnt care about motel they were really horny and I just took them.
but Im now finding that a problem when I have made out and touched her sexually and she is turned on and then we driving somewhere and I drive in to motel.
Its kindah funny but fucking frustrating......
I'd like to ask any experienced guys out there who have had to deal with such problem.
once I move the fuck out , and get girls to my place would be smoother pickup.
any insight would help thanks.-
PS:
I'm probably not keeping her sexually aroused on the drive to the motel.
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Subject: Re: CLOSING outside of your place, I have a problem Mon Aug 30, 2010 12:15 pm
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-Is it just this one girl that has given you this problem, or is it multiple girls?
You say last girls didn't care and you just took them.
Also, is it uncomfortable for YOU to take them in your truck? Or for them?
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AFC: "Would you mind coming here please, if it's not too much trouble?"
You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.
Don't back down from the girl. CHALLENGE her!
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Subject: Re: CLOSING outside of your place, I have a problem Tue Aug 31, 2010 1:38 am
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L.A. Tripp wrote:
Is it just this one girl that has given you this problem, or is it multiple girls?
Only her . I think its ASD, I have some fault caus eI might have not calibrated the escalation by arousing her enough and after the long date I took her to motel and she was hesitant and talking nonsense how she takes a while to trust somoene to get intimate and seriosuly taking all into logic.
i think that when it came time for me to get off the car and get the room , gave her a chance for her ASD to hit turbo.- I have to see if the car pull could work with someother women. in the past it was easy to use plausible deniability to pull a girl to yourplace and in 20 minutes she was naked having sex. Now its like Logistics plus Momentum of sexual tension are KEY in any Pull.
You say last girls didn't care and you just took them.
before Game I do recall picking up a girl walking in a bad neighbourhood and getting her to my car and after 10 minutes or so of talking casually , no deep comfort just superficial stuff, no bt spiking either.. i suggest to go somewhere private and we went to a motel and she was horny about it....dropped her off and we never talked again...when I stopped by weeks later I saw her with a man and she saw my car and she smiled at me infront of him but nothing happened, I left it at that.
Also, is it uncomfortable for YOU to take them in your truck? Or for them?
well its kindah for me... I think i could get a BJ...I mean it could work, never tried it...it could escalate into then transitioning to motel after car.
sexual technique of whatever isnt really car possible, I think its because I was in dominican republic once and the girl I was with had her pants down and sucking my dick in a dark alley and the cops showed up.....anywyas I had to pay the cops money..only in a 3rd world country and the girl was pissed at me, I dont know dude. It be fucked up if that happend to me here in the US.
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Subject: Re: CLOSING outside of your place, I have a problem Tue Aug 31, 2010 5:58 am
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-Well, logistics aren't key, but sexual tension is. Logistics play a bigger role the lower her BT is.
Since it's just this one girl, don't sweat it. Just friend zone her, hang out with her, see who she knows, etc.
The whole cop thing, lol, damn. Well, I've had a security guard catch me, but that's because he was seriously watching me, TRYING to catch me. But again, that's in your head and you're ALLOWING IT to fuck with your mind. So, once again, YOU have to exert control over that and stop letting it mess with you.
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Alpha: "Come here, now."
AFC: "Would you mind coming here please, if it's not too much trouble?"
You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.
Don't back down from the girl. CHALLENGE her!
I have friends and Ive started with learning and we still have different game,shows you that you have to be yourself to make game work. i know it sounds like shit but lets get back to topic.
I have closed different types of girls and until you have a setback or achallenge you wont realize how valuable it is to know how to go sexual.
there are great posts and books to show you this...
Id say you have to figure it out based on yours style of game, your plan to have her with her if its a date and what type fo girl she is, how her state is at that moment.
All what I just mentioned equal to success my friends.
to calibrate it is to know when an how to do it.
here is what tripp says:
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Im having this issue.
When its time to close and have sex when I am about to enter the motel, she freaks out and gets major LMR.
I cant take her to my place cause Im temporaily sharing it with someone while school starts again for me to move the fuck out on my own.
Also I tried in the car but it isnt comfortable at all.
in the past I never got LMR like this but its predictable a girl would get freaked out when she enters a motel and starts feeling like a slut.
last girls didnt care about motel they were really horny and I just took them.
but Im now finding that a problem when I have made out and touched her sexually and she is turned on and then we driving somewhere and I drive in to motel.
Its kindah funny but fucking frustrating......
I'd like to ask any experienced guys out there who have had to deal with such problem.
once I move the fuck out , and get girls to my place would be smoother pickup.
any insight would help thanks.-
PS:
I'm probably not keeping her sexually aroused on the drive to the motel.
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Subject: Re: CLOSING outside of your place, I have a problem Mon Aug 30, 2010 12:15 pm
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-Is it just this one girl that has given you this problem, or is it multiple girls?
You say last girls didn't care and you just took them.
Also, is it uncomfortable for YOU to take them in your truck? Or for them?
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Alpha: "Come here, now."
AFC: "Would you mind coming here please, if it's not too much trouble?"
You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.
Don't back down from the girl. CHALLENGE her!
sandros
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Subject: Re: CLOSING outside of your place, I have a problem Tue Aug 31, 2010 1:38 am
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L.A. Tripp wrote:
Is it just this one girl that has given you this problem, or is it multiple girls?
Only her . I think its ASD, I have some fault caus eI might have not calibrated the escalation by arousing her enough and after the long date I took her to motel and she was hesitant and talking nonsense how she takes a while to trust somoene to get intimate and seriosuly taking all into logic.
i think that when it came time for me to get off the car and get the room , gave her a chance for her ASD to hit turbo.- I have to see if the car pull could work with someother women. in the past it was easy to use plausible deniability to pull a girl to yourplace and in 20 minutes she was naked having sex. Now its like Logistics plus Momentum of sexual tension are KEY in any Pull.
You say last girls didn't care and you just took them.
before Game I do recall picking up a girl walking in a bad neighbourhood and getting her to my car and after 10 minutes or so of talking casually , no deep comfort just superficial stuff, no bt spiking either.. i suggest to go somewhere private and we went to a motel and she was horny about it....dropped her off and we never talked again...when I stopped by weeks later I saw her with a man and she saw my car and she smiled at me infront of him but nothing happened, I left it at that.
Also, is it uncomfortable for YOU to take them in your truck? Or for them?
well its kindah for me... I think i could get a BJ...I mean it could work, never tried it...it could escalate into then transitioning to motel after car.
sexual technique of whatever isnt really car possible, I think its because I was in dominican republic once and the girl I was with had her pants down and sucking my dick in a dark alley and the cops showed up.....anywyas I had to pay the cops money..only in a 3rd world country and the girl was pissed at me, I dont know dude. It be fucked up if that happend to me here in the US.
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Subject: Re: CLOSING outside of your place, I have a problem Tue Aug 31, 2010 5:58 am
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-Well, logistics aren't key, but sexual tension is. Logistics play a bigger role the lower her BT is.
Since it's just this one girl, don't sweat it. Just friend zone her, hang out with her, see who she knows, etc.
The whole cop thing, lol, damn. Well, I've had a security guard catch me, but that's because he was seriously watching me, TRYING to catch me. But again, that's in your head and you're ALLOWING IT to fuck with your mind. So, once again, YOU have to exert control over that and stop letting it mess with you.
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Alpha: "Come here, now."
AFC: "Would you mind coming here please, if it's not too much trouble?"
You have one shot, and it's in the first 3 seconds.
Make her qualify herself to YOU.
Don't back down from the girl. CHALLENGE her!
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
BT spiking NLP routine and sex is exciting
I got to read the preview of 10SSA and love the intro and theory.
Talking more than 10 seconds it is really talking too much...its like fucking in the same position and staying there the whole time, kindah boring sex.lol.....
Oh shit I just came up with this here M.
"Hey dont you hate it when guys just talk talk talk boring shit ? I mean can you IMAGINE how booring they are in bed... I mean with ME , (use both thumbs index finger towards you like you are a fashionista) it has to be EXCITING !
isnt that they way it should be? she noods
I mean ALL HOT ,PASIONATE like a pump of adrenaline rush of full pleasure all over
(you shake her like pumping BT) , right?
Yeah, I think sex is important too especially in a relationship , too bad alot of guys tend to get needy and make it a boring routine "
Talking more than 10 seconds it is really talking too much...its like fucking in the same position and staying there the whole time, kindah boring sex.lol.....
Oh shit I just came up with this here M.
"Hey dont you hate it when guys just talk talk talk boring shit ? I mean can you IMAGINE how booring they are in bed... I mean with ME , (use both thumbs index finger towards you like you are a fashionista) it has to be EXCITING !
isnt that they way it should be? she noods
I mean ALL HOT ,PASIONATE like a pump of adrenaline rush of full pleasure all over
(you shake her like pumping BT) , right?
Yeah, I think sex is important too especially in a relationship , too bad alot of guys tend to get needy and make it a boring routine "
Sex an addiction of emotions
I saw asian plyaboys free direct game seminar at venusian arts with mystery and matador on youtube.
Id say I love asian playboy alot cause of his influence is clear on saffron being confident and funny.
his formula has ABCDEF
B is for spiking BT before going to comfort.
he has this down and my thoughts are to reinitate any convo with any girl even in a date it should start off spiking BT in a sexual way.
this brings me to SEX.
PU is good but its part of the main course meal.
Main course is SEX.
BT is to keep her engaged and enjoying her emotions and you cant do it until it comes obvious what you are trying to do , you do it to keep convo interesting from being boring.
Tim ahs a great routine I used before.
So Tyler is a genius for BT.
BT has disadvantage that its transfereable.
thats why JT tries to BLP the girl he tries to meet. to anchour that to him.
in reality game is based on having contorl on her emotions getting her to react to you emotionally..
therefore you get to not to button push but control the rhythm of the pickup and getting to where you want to take it.
for me deep comfort has an advantage to keeping her into you , obsess over you after that you push away she pulls in.
BAD boys spike BT uncoinciously, make her attracted by emotions not logic.
In10nse has an article and Vin has an audio and its based off the gambling theory of getting her addicted to you..you let her win and she isnt sure she is.
girls love to chase .
Now topic isnt chase or game.
its sex.
Spoe to jk ellis awhile back and I used the dorr pattern before which is awesome but I advise you use it carefully.
Im actually going to rent 91/2 weeks with mickey rourke.
that movie shows a guy who takes things forward.
that was my thoughts with greeneys.
she is polygamous and open to free sex, yet is clingly to me cause I dont get reactive to her, she looks for validation you give her a little but not everything.
I want to try that in sex.
I love fucking and to me sex is in my game a main topic of convo
sex relationships routine by badboy.
make that CONGRUENT that you are sexual excitign man.
ofcourse after comfort.
and describe as trance words sex.... in your convo.
in a way the emotions have to go up and down a like a rollercoaster, you cant be all the time gigling village idiot.
social, tease, question her, share connect, tease, direct interst,sexual provoke her kiss ,her question her, play hard to get at same time move locations to have sex. keep describing hot sex wihtou saying its sex and use art of distraction logical to get her to place of sex.
have sex.
then create emotions after and during sex, talk to her dirty and then be cool and sweet... yet emotionally not needy just understanding, be open and receptive to what she has to say, be careful to avoid buyers remorse. calibrate what her comfort level in sex is.
call her next day or text. then dont call her afterwards.
make her think about you make her call you and want you bad, make her wait.show up late use her anger then change emotions and kiss her, great sex.
see theres a pattern of emotions here.
SEX.
Im looking into BDSM stuff and I love nina hartly stuff. I leanr and skim fast by it.
you hgave that confidence to do it , then you will want to pickup.
ultimate goal isnt pickup , its having sex with the girl.
making her wildest drems and creating a blissful emotions on her.
Id say I love asian playboy alot cause of his influence is clear on saffron being confident and funny.
his formula has ABCDEF
B is for spiking BT before going to comfort.
he has this down and my thoughts are to reinitate any convo with any girl even in a date it should start off spiking BT in a sexual way.
this brings me to SEX.
PU is good but its part of the main course meal.
Main course is SEX.
BT is to keep her engaged and enjoying her emotions and you cant do it until it comes obvious what you are trying to do , you do it to keep convo interesting from being boring.
Tim ahs a great routine I used before.
So Tyler is a genius for BT.
BT has disadvantage that its transfereable.
thats why JT tries to BLP the girl he tries to meet. to anchour that to him.
in reality game is based on having contorl on her emotions getting her to react to you emotionally..
therefore you get to not to button push but control the rhythm of the pickup and getting to where you want to take it.
for me deep comfort has an advantage to keeping her into you , obsess over you after that you push away she pulls in.
BAD boys spike BT uncoinciously, make her attracted by emotions not logic.
In10nse has an article and Vin has an audio and its based off the gambling theory of getting her addicted to you..you let her win and she isnt sure she is.
girls love to chase .
Now topic isnt chase or game.
its sex.
Spoe to jk ellis awhile back and I used the dorr pattern before which is awesome but I advise you use it carefully.
Im actually going to rent 91/2 weeks with mickey rourke.
that movie shows a guy who takes things forward.
that was my thoughts with greeneys.
she is polygamous and open to free sex, yet is clingly to me cause I dont get reactive to her, she looks for validation you give her a little but not everything.
I want to try that in sex.
I love fucking and to me sex is in my game a main topic of convo
sex relationships routine by badboy.
make that CONGRUENT that you are sexual excitign man.
ofcourse after comfort.
and describe as trance words sex.... in your convo.
in a way the emotions have to go up and down a like a rollercoaster, you cant be all the time gigling village idiot.
social, tease, question her, share connect, tease, direct interst,sexual provoke her kiss ,her question her, play hard to get at same time move locations to have sex. keep describing hot sex wihtou saying its sex and use art of distraction logical to get her to place of sex.
have sex.
then create emotions after and during sex, talk to her dirty and then be cool and sweet... yet emotionally not needy just understanding, be open and receptive to what she has to say, be careful to avoid buyers remorse. calibrate what her comfort level in sex is.
call her next day or text. then dont call her afterwards.
make her think about you make her call you and want you bad, make her wait.show up late use her anger then change emotions and kiss her, great sex.
see theres a pattern of emotions here.
SEX.
Im looking into BDSM stuff and I love nina hartly stuff. I leanr and skim fast by it.
you hgave that confidence to do it , then you will want to pickup.
ultimate goal isnt pickup , its having sex with the girl.
making her wildest drems and creating a blissful emotions on her.
Monday, April 26, 2010
BT spiking review by TD , Sinn
Buying Temperature stands for the degree to which a woman is ready to make intimate physical contact with a man. Unlike attraction, a high buying temperature generally appears and fades quickly. To maintain a woman's level of physical interest over a longer period of time, a pickup artist attempts to pump her buying temperature with fast-paced routines.
Here are some Buying Temperature routines.
1. Lockup - Buying Temperature - Escalation By Tyler Durden
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At this point in my game, my focus is on pushing girls into BUYING TEMPERATURE, recognizing it, and ESCALATING.
In field, I have the terms:
-lockup
-unlocked
-buying temperature levels
-escalation
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2. 10 way to Pump up Buying Temperature Tactics by AsainPlayboy
OK, as us Pick Up Artists (PUAs) should know, Buying Temperature is the woman's emotional receptivity and her level of general attraction to the PUA at a given time.
(Note, that there is slight, but subtle difference between general attraction and sexual attraction. You can have one without the other, though then you run the risk of turning from the really cool, fun guy into the really cool, fun friend.)
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3. Stealing Horny Chicks by Tyler Durden
The girl hits full buying temperature. Maybe you did it. Maybe another natural player did it. Maybe her boyfriend pissed her off and de-validated her. Maybe she's on vacation, and she decides she wants it. Whatever the way, she's decided she wants sex TONIGHT, and somebody is going to get it
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definition of BT
A sudden increase in the target’s buying temperature, usually initiated through a routine involving kino escalation.
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There are certain routines and gambits that quickly increase a target’s BT. It can involve cavemanning and strong kino escalation. A PUA can also go in a group with high energy and high five all of the girls, and give them a hug afterward. Pumping buying temperature can be dangerous as BT can be transferred to another AMOG.
One effective strategy is to allow a wing to bump up BT and then come back into the set with stronger energy levels. It is also possible for a PUA to AMOG a set and take advantage of the BT already built up from the previous guy. AMOGing a set triggers a biological reaction for the woman’s BT to automatically increase in favor of winner in the AMOG battle.
Usage:
I was able to generate some BT spikes through my dance floor game.
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Related Terms: BT, DHV, DHV spike, IOI, Kino escalation, AMOG
Related Links:
■10 way to Pump up Buying Temperature Tactics – by AsianPlayboy
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2003 08 07 07:04:00 AM EDT
Author: TylerDurden
website: www.fastseduction.com
subject: Lockup - Buying Temperature - Escalation ...Chick is unresponsive. Ask questions, she says "I don't know" or "no", or any blowoff answer. She holds tense shoulders, and if you say "high-5" or try to physically displace her...
Hey guys.. I've been busy as hell, and no time to post. I'm having an awesome summer.
It's late, and I'm feeling kind of manic (therefore in the mood to write and write).
I don't have time to post actively anymore, but here's a pile stuff I've been up to lately. I hope you guys enjoy it. It should shine some light on my style. I'm not criticizing other people's styles, who you can learn from also, since they obviously get the results at the end of the day. This is MY understanding of game.
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At this point in my game, my focus is on pushing girls into BUYING TEMPERATURE, recognizing it, and ESCALATING.
In field, I have the terms:
-lockup
-unlocked
-buying temperature levels
-escalation
LOCKUP:
Chick is unresponsive. Ask questions, she says "I don't know" or "no", or any blowoff answer. She holds tense shoulders, and if you say "high-5" or try to physically displace her in any way whatsoever, she says the words "I'm scared / you're scaring me / etc". This does NOT mean she is physically afraid. This is like a chick saying "not yet" when you go to kiss her too early in the night. She's JUST saying "I'm not at buying temperature yet". A chick who is locked up cannot even move or give a proper answer for a million dollars. She is locked up. Causes of lockup can be that she sees her friend hitting buying temperature for you too quickly, and she doesn't like it, or that you have conveyed too much eagerness too early.
UNLOCKED:
She is now OPEN to being gamed. Girls KNOW what you're doing when you run material. They may not know its pre-canned, but they know what it means when you tease them - its SEXUAL COMMUNICATION and they know what's up. If a chick is locked up, she isn't even OPEN to this sort of communication. Once unlocked, you can now begin gaming.
Chicks become UNLOCKED when you don't telegraph interest (check the 25 points checklist), and therefore trust your intentions. Also, when you CONVEY PERSONALITY, and they therefore can FILL IN the canvas of your life, they increase trust.
SIGNS of chick being unlocked - KINO TESTS. Hold out your palms upwards. If she puts her hands there, squeeze them. If she squeezes back, she's unlocked for sure. Likewise, tap her, if she taps back playfully, she's unlocked and sexually engaged probably.
BUYING TEMPERATURE LEVELS:
-enough for her to sit there while you game her
-enough to show an IOI like a giggle
-enough to show an IOI and kino you
-enough to show alot of IOIs and ask you questions
-enough for you to venue change her
-enough for you to kino HER, and give her IOIs, and she still likes it (usually after qualification phase, because she now feels she EARNED your attention, rather than you just want to fuck her like every other guy on the planet)
-enough for you to get physical with her
-enough for you to fuck her
As EACH Buying Temperature increase, the chick will usually SHIT TEST you, as a way of TRYING to throw herself OUT OF STATE. She shit tests by doing things that if you react too seriously, she'll get upset and therefore be thrown out of state. By passing shit tests, Buying Temperature is AMPLIFIED. This is like when Eddy (whitedragonPUA) posted about his HBRugby Lay report She kept punching him all night. After he laid her, he asked her why. She said "I just thought you'd go away"... She knew she was hitting buying temperature, and didn't want to succumb to it so she shit tested by hitting him and hoped that he would back off and she would come down. Think back to when you tried to kiss a girl on a date, and she said "NOT YET". She doesn't mean NO. She ONLY means "I'm not at buying temperature yet.. Give me more gaming". Likewise, you try to venue change a girl, and she says "No. But I still want to talk to you". You keep gaming her, and a few minutes later you change venues. This was because you tried to ESCALATE PRIOR TO ATTAINING THE RIGHT LEVEL OF BUYING TEMPERATURE.
There are many examples of chicks trying to throw themselves out of state when hitting buying temperature, but then by passing shit tests it is actually amplified: Chick feels herself getting horny. HB: "You're a player". PUA: "Yeah. so what is it that turns you on so much about players anyway" (Response works firstly because you didn't disagree, so she can't get mad for you lying to her and break her own state, and secondly because you say something COCKY, which hits her emotionally, and therefore raises buying temperature)
EG: Chick says "we shouldn't be doing this"... PUA responds "yeah, we shouldn't be doing this" but KEEPS going.
In both cases, the chick feels her buying temperature increasing unusually rapidly (because of the PUA skillset), and tries to stop what's happening.
When Buying Temperature is hit too quickly, it is called FRYING OUT HER CIRCUITS. This is like when chicks giggle uncontrollably and run away from you even though they like you, or when a chick is at a rock concert and starts screaming and crying when the rockstar comes out. She has hit buying temperature so fast, her circuits fry out and she freaks.
"Routine Outcome Dependence" is a phenomena where you're too HOOKED on seeing chicks increasing buying temperature. EG: "Calling a chick a powerpuff girl will make her giggle"... So when a chick isn't giggling, you try to FORCE it by calling her a Powerpuff girl. EXCEPT, she KNOWS that not normal to say that to a chick whose all serious, so knows something is up (this is actually the 26th 'trying too hard to qualify' thing I guess - routine outcome dependence). The SAME goes for when she's all serious, and you try TOO HARD to seem happy and fun. She KNOWS that you're doing it to get with her, and it doesn't make sense. That does NOT mean state match. It just means MODERATE and don't appear PHONEY. Most Buying Temperature tools are to be used to AMP a state that you see building. She starts giggling a BIT, and you call her a powerpuff girl, and now she giggles a LOT. If she's not giggling AT ALL, then maybe it was the wrong time. She DETECTS that you were consciously TRYING to increase her buying temperature, and blows you off. Field experience is KING, nobody is above it. Field experience helps us to develop an INTUITION of WHERE and WHEN to use the particular material.
TO INCREASE BUYING TEMPERATURE:
(First, remember that there are PRECONDITIONS to a girl even being OPEN to you start to affect her this way. For a set of HB10s, they often may not even ALLOW themselves to be affected by your game, unless you have social proof or status somehow.. Likewise, even for a lesser HB7, if you are smelly and fat and gross, she won't be open to it, even if what you're doing is proper tight game)
--Pump them through emotions rapidly.. (I personally use a detailed system of building routines that increase buying temperature.. basically, routines hit emotions through languaging or demonstration.. not hard.. this way I can build routines on the fly and not rely on canned material - infinite routines via proper understanding or structure and basic creativity) ...
THINK MAKEUP SEX: How good is makeup sex compared to normal sex? WHY? Because you've been pumped through so many emotions. This is what NORMAL sex is like for chicks - hence they like badboys, they like skydiving and sex in exciting places, they like makeup sex, etc etc..
Think Swingdancing routine, think Rollerblading routine, think puppydog routines, think jerk routines, think magic, think funny kino shit like hitting them and spinning them, think cocky stuff. It runs them through various emotions FAST. Story telling must be run in a way that is melodic, and talks fast enough to keep them captivated, but also runs them through emotions at the right progression without talking fast like you're trying too hard.
--Talking from the diaphragm in a fun, non-threatening way. NOT GOING SEXUAL right away in front of her friends (this is not for picking up lone girls, I'm talking public gatherings where I do my pickup.. this is also seduction in the WRONG VENUE, save it for ISOLATION.. don't be tacky and try to seduce her FULLY in PUBLIC). Remember, talking from the CHEST and not the THROAT is key here. You must OVERPOWER her reality with your tonality. This way of talking CUTS THROUGH the noise of the venue, without appearing like you're yelling. Look at how your dad talked to you when he was angry. That is BAD and causes lockup and no buying temperature increase. Look at guys who have FLUCTUATING and FUN tonality. But who are also ALPHA, by virtue of their PROJECTION (diaphragm). Just TALKING without asking them boring questions will unlock and increase buying temperature.
-C&F WORKS because you hit a sharp emotion "Oh that cocky guy, how could he say that!", but because its FUNNY at the same time as cocky, she doesn't get upset. KEY: Making them LAUGH disarms you increasing buying temperature, because the laughter disarms any discomfort.
-PUSH/PULL WORKS because as buying temperature increases, chicks have NATURAL tendency to throw themselves out of state. By gaming them, but pushing them AWAY, they have PERMISSION to ALLOW themselves to go deeper and deeper into state, because they don't worry that you'll exploit that and fuck them "after all, he did say hands off the merchandise.. I can feel this way, and he still won't fuck me".. This is why chicks LOVE gay guys. Because they feel they won't fuck them even if they hit buying temperature. So they can walk around all day at high buying temperature, and not worry that there will be consequences.
FALSE DISQUALIFIERS AND FALSE TIME CONSTRAINTS WORK because the chick says "oh well he can't fuck me.. I can feel free to feel this".. Or "well he's about to leave, so I can feel free to feel this way"
-25 POINTS OF NOT TELEGRAPHING INTEREST WORK because chicks don't worry that you'll fuck them while their buying temperature increases, since you're practically the first guy not to kino them and lean into them and show interest in them, even when they're hot and talking to you. Hence, they react "are you gay", because they can't GRASP that you're not returning their IOIs. They don't say "are you gay" to a 64 year old gay man. They say it to an attractive guy who is turning them on, but not telegraphing interest like EVERY other guy would when she's touching them and all that ("hands off the merchandise"), so they think "WTF, this guy's gay", and ask it all obnoxiously (obnoxious, because its none of their business, and they'd never ask that of a gay guy they're not attracted to).
SUBTLETY: Not telegraphing interest unlocks and ALLOWS buying temperature to increase (because if you convey interest, she won't let herself since she knows you'll fuck her), but it doesn't necessarily increase buying temperature in and of itself. It simply grants PERMISSION to the chick to allow herself to indulge in going into state. As soon as you convey interest (eg: breach one of the 25 points), she may think "shit I can't feel like this", and cuts if off in a fit of anti-slut defense or whatever. SO: Buying temperature is increased by hitting many emotions rapidly, while being unlocked is more from not telegraphing interest (25 points). They are discreet, but run parallel. ONE EXCEPTION: By not telegraphing interest, that MAY sometimes increase buying temperature in and of itself, because the chick may ASSUME that its IMPLICIT social proof (ie: she's not good enough for you, because you lay hotter chicks).
ESCALATION:
At each WAYPOINT, we must ESCALATE.
Buying temperature increases, they want COMFORT. They have COMFORT, they want SEXUAL ("phase shift", etc).
When they hit buying temperature, they say "what's your name", etc, because they want to KNOW the guy who is getting them all into state.
COMFORT BUILDERS (we no longer use RAPPORT, because rapport is one of MANY comfort builders.. Comfort building is the better term IMO, because we're trying to build COMFORT into her being at high buying temperature, rather than trying to get rapport, which connection, trust, commonality, divulging vulnerability, conveying personality and reverse EV, etc etc ALL serve to build comfort.. So RAPPORT is only ONE PART of comfort building):
-It takes roughly 4-7 hours to lay a chick from start to finish (credit Mystery for figuring this out ¬awesomely important, though I didn't realize the importance at the time). Comfort building means BABYSITTING for those hours, while she slowly heats up to be ready for sex - it takes that many hours for her to be ready, unless she's a party chick.
-talking about stuff that DOES NOT pump them through too many sharp emotions rapidly (ie: DROP C&F, drop the crazy exciting shit), but still keeps them into the convo
-talk should convey who you are, so she can fill in the empty canvas and see the PICTURE of 'who is this guy I'm so attracted to' Attraction is THERE - she's at that buying temperature. Comfort building means building COMFORT into the state she's in, so she doesn't put a stop to it.
-include talk about how its NATURAL to feel this way for the right person.. Examples: Evolution Phase shift routine (she feels its EVOLUTIONARY that she feels like this, and backwards rationalizes), or the "I wasn't born with a book on what to do.. I just do what feels comfortable" (chicks KNOW the feeling that certain guys make them comfortable, and ASSUME that they feel this way for YOU"
-SIMULATING THAT *YOU* ARE HITTING BUYING TEMPERATURE: "What's your sign? OH MY GOD I LOVE LIBRAS.. Oh god, I can't talk to you.. you're trouble" (turn away, just like girls whose circuits fry out.. you're TRICKING them to think you're doing what THEY do, since chicks do this shit all the time because they hit buying temperature for retarded arbitrary shit like astrological signs and colognes and shit like that)
FAKING LOCKUP AS PUNISHMENT in 'Punishment/Reward': If you're in comfort building, FAKE the symptoms of lockup. She'll understand what it means when she's like "TD, are you OK?" and I say "I dunno" just like a chick would when she's locked up. She'll grab you and start talking to try to unlock you. For example: HB "I like oranges" PUA "What? Apples. Apples are gross.." (pretends to lock himself up) HB "no no no, I said oranges! Oranges!" PUA "oh shit.. I love oranges.." (pretends to unlock) Congrats, now she's chasing you.
FEAR OF LOSS TO MAINTAIN STATE WITHOUT INTENSE EMOTIONAL UPS AND DOWNS: Some guys complain that in rapport phase (now called "comfort building phase") the girls come out of state. By using punishment reward bit, she'll be chasing you. But ALSO, building in FEAR OF LOSS is effective. Think back to when a girl who you didn't like liked you. Maybe back in high school or some shit. But then you realized that she never liked you. You LOSE the validation you got. You start to obsess. You start to like her. Likewise, you have a state relationship. But she starts to get into another guy. OH SHIT, you're obsessing over her again. Or you make HER jealous, and now she's back into you (even when it was stale). This is the power of FEAR OF LOSS. Fear of loss REMINDS us of how attracted we are.
In comfort building, encorporate fear of loss and punishment/reward, so that you don't suffer the phenomena of losing the chick at rapport phase (aka comfort building phase) because the interaction has lost its charge.
KEYS:
If you FAIL to ESCALATE, the pickup is often OVER.
Example:
1) If you don't stop busting on her, she looses interest after a while, because you're being too emotionally intense for her. She needs COMFORT built into the high buying temperature you're generating. This is why you get guys who are good at opening at attracting, but have difficulty closing unless its a party-chick.
2) If you don't phase shift out of comfort, she gets bored or something (maybe you're beta or not interested)
3) Final escalation - ARGHHHH!! (I got burnt on this FIVE times, until I RECOGNIZED it) If you keep them SEXUAL but don't escalate to FUCK them, its too intense for too long, and they say "I'm tired" or "I feel sick". This is guaranteed. What happens is they get actually QUEASY from you keeping them sexual without fucking them for TOO LONG. If anyone else has had this happen, report back. Have you guys seen this before? Its JUST LIKE the "what's your name" IOI. It's something that CONSISTENTLY HAPPENS under specific circumstances.
QUALIFYING AS A WAY OF 'TRUMPING' SOIs:
When you qualify the chick to you, you've now conveyed to her that you're interested in her for reasons BEYOND her being a nice peice of ass.
So BEFORE, the reason girls in public gatherings would snuff you off when you showed interest was because she thought "he only wants to fuck me".
By making her chase, and then showing her WHY you've found yourself interested in her, she now thinks "well he showed me a signal of interest, but I EARNED it, so its because I'm a Libra and because he felt comfortable talking to me and because I told him I got an A+ in my psych100 class" (If you're interested to read more on this, you can read "pickup of HB10GF" post of mine in my archive, around late last spring, to review how I qualify chicks to me, to convince them they earned it)
If I take a girl's phone#, I find I MUST qualify her prior to taking it. This is because the MERE ACT of phoning her can be a signal of interest. But if I've run my qualification phase, then its NO PROBLEM that I'm telegraphing some interest by phoning, since its WARRANTED.
She's gone into buying temperature, she's chased you, she's EARNED your attention. So now its *OK* that you're showing interest at this point. She'll be fine with it - of course. If you plan to give an SOI in your game, its at THIS POINT that it is less likely to blow you out.
LOGISTICS:
1) Chicks CONSTANTLY look at eachother while they're being pushed into buying temperature. Watch while you sarge, as they CONSTANTLY keep looking at one another to see what state they're in. If they give the "girl code" look that one is not in state, they ALL leave. Chicks NEED to feel that ALL their friends are feeling it TOO, so they don't get looked down on by their friends. This is why social proof is SO important in public gatherings. If ONE chick is not at the SAME buying temperature, then she SEES that her friend will fuck you if she leaves her alone, and she drags her away. You must NOT put a girl TOO FAR into buying temperature in front of her friends, unless you keep them together.
BTW: One reason chicks like socially proofed guys is that they SEE that many other chicks have gone into buying temperature, so its "OK" to allow themselves to do so. Also, if you've read my routine where I get my wingman in on 2sets where his chick isn't liking him, I say "your friend is ignoring my friend.. I don't want him to be lonely.. I'm gonna go", and then YOUR chick will start saying to her locked up friend "no, he's cool.. I like him he's cool.. blah blah", and all of a sudden the previously locked up friend now OPENS UP to your wingman, and now BOTH chicks will fuck you.
2) 2sets are EASY to fclose when you have a competent wing. Why? Because they BOTH go into buying temperature, and since NEITHER will object, it just happens.
3) The smart PUA does as LITTLE as possible to hit the next buying temperature. This way he doesn't exhaust his material, and he doesn't risk the girl FRYING OUT HER CIRCUITS (rock concert style), or possibly her detecting what you're doing and cutting it off. Also, its better, because if she is ONLY at "venue change" buying temperature, then her friends will SENSE this and be less likely to object to you taking her away from them. AFTER you have her away from her friends, you can now pump her up all the way to full buying temperature, and now you've STRATEGICALLY played your game, so that you don't get cockblocked.
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Guys,
im sure we all read about pumping buying temperature in style's book "the game", but im still a bit fuzzy on it.
Does anyone know any routines that are used for buying temperature, or even any explanation that will help me make my own routines for it.
cheers
Malibu
#2 03-07-2006, 06:33 AM
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Guys,
im sure we all read about pumping buying temperature in style's book "the game", but im still a bit fuzzy on it.
Does anyone know any routines that are used for buying temperature, or even any explanation that will help me make my own routines for it.
cheers
Malibu
TD's buying temp article:
"As EACH Buying Temperature increase, the chick will usually SHIT TEST you, as a way of TRYING to throw herself OUT OF STATE. She shit tests by doing things that if you react too seriously, she'll get upset and therefore be thrown out of state. By passing shit tests, Buying Temperature is AMPLIFIED. This is like when Eddy (whitedragonPUA) posted about his HBRugby Lay report She kept punching him all night. After he laid her, he asked her why. She said "I just thought you'd go away"... She knew she was hitting buying temperature, and didn't want to succumb to it so she shit tested by hitting him and hoped that he would back off and she would come down. Think back to when you tried to kiss a girl on a date, and she said "NOT YET". She doesn't mean NO. She ONLY means "I'm not at buying temperature yet.. Give me more gaming". Likewise, you try to venue change a girl, and she says "No. But I still want to talk to you". You keep gaming her, and a few minutes later you change venues. This was because you tried to ESCALATE PRIOR TO ATTAINING THE RIGHT LEVEL OF BUYING TEMPERATURE.
There are many examples of chicks trying to throw themselves out of state when hitting buying temperature, but then by passing shit tests it is actually amplified: Chick feels herself getting horny. HB: "You're a player". PUA: "Yeah.. so what is it that turns you on so much about players anyway" (Response works firstly because you didn't disagree, so she can't get mad for you lying to her and break her own state, and secondly because you say something COCKY, which hits her emotionally, and therefore raises buying temperature)
EG: Chick says "we shouldn't be doing this"... PUA responds "yeah, we shouldn't be doing this" but KEEPS going.
In both cases, the chick feels her buying temperature increasing unusually rapidly (because of the PUA skillset), and tries to stop what's happening. "
Essentially, it is doing everything right-passing shit tests, running troutines, being alpha-EVERYTHING she is NOT used to from most guys...you can definitely tell when you say or do something that spikes it-she leans in more, she touches you more, etc...then that BT is spiking
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#3 03-09-2006, 12:50 PM
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i have a question about "Buying Temp"
Why is it a girl wants to throw her self out of state exactly?
I kind of think its becuase its her ASD kicking in and so she will try to slow down the process but when you respond with an e/g given by TD YOU apm up the BT and then SHE has an excuse to stay in that state and can put the reaons for what is happening on to the PUA and so everything is socially acceptable
Am i right or wrong here?
#4 03-19-2006, 05:57 AM
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Buying Temperature is a TD concept involving how sexually receptive the woman's emotional state is. The higher the BT, the more likely she'll sleep with you IN THAT MOMENT.
You can pump Buying Temperature with ANY attraction technique. Sleight of Hand and mini cold reads pack more bang for the buck. But everything works.
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Why is it a girl wants to throw her self out of state exactly?
Her logical mind is attempting to derail her sexual receptiveness as part of LMR. ie, its protecting her sexual organs from being taken advantage of by continually shit testing whomever is responsible for raising her buying temperature.
Hope that made sense. It's not essential to understand the BT model to succeed at MM, btw. This is a Tyler Durden concept. Not a Mystery concept.
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#5 03-19-2006, 03:57 PM
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Buying Temperature is a TD concept involving how sexually receptive the woman's emotional state is. The higher the BT, the more likely she'll sleep with you IN THAT MOMENT.
You can pump Buying Temperature with ANY attraction technique. Sleight of Hand and mini cold reads pack more bang for the buck. But everything works.
Her logical mind is attempting to derail her sexual receptiveness as part of LMR. ie, its protecting her sexual organs from being taken advantage of by continually shit testing whomever is responsible for raising her buying temperature.
Hope that made sense. It's not essential to understand the BT model to succeed at MM, btw. This is a Tyler Durden concept. Not a Mystery concept.
This is the answer i was after...thanks once again Cedar.
Malibu
#6 04-05-2006, 07:43 AM
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This is the stuff I love right here.
Buying Temperature Spikes (TD v Juggler)
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Everyone always argues over whats better Juggler Method or MM, in act I just saw a post about it. I want to discuss Tyler Durdan's Temperature spike strategy and Juggler's.
Durden says in his Playing Hard to Get post:
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These buying temperature spikes are the right time to start doing subtle takeaways. That is, not the kind of takeaway where you walk off into another set. Rather, you just break eyecontact with her, and face away a bit. You *exactly* what the girls do to you, when you're gaming them in a club, and they get distracted because a peice of your material is not strong enough. You turn to your friends or the bar or the dancefloor, and you make it look like you're about to leave.
*But*, girls are very much accostomed to getting what they want. So unlike
most guys who will give up, their instant reaction is to go "HEY HEY HEY, keep talking.. What were you saying??? What???"
Juggler claims in summary of Juggler Method that:
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The method is not to worry so much about getting deep but to get wide rapport (a feeling like you can talk about anything). Again the key is including and amplifying a girl's response, no matter the response.
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Make an SOI. At all her high points (laughing, etc). This rewards her for trying and sarging you back.
So basically Tyler Durden's approach is too do a IOD on spikes and Juggler's is to SOI in order to expand and increase the connection.
Now ive messed around with both these approaches in the field, but it's hard to say "this way works because it gets better responses." Ive found that jugglers approach sends you into comfort more quickly and is usually elicites a better immidiate response. And while I sometimes I get negative responses from TD's approach, many times the girl does game you and re-engage as TD claims. Maybe I havn't calibrated enough to get positive responses all the time, but at the same time, I agree with TD when he says it sets the right frame by making you the prize (even when the immidiate response is less than great).
Currently I try to start out by mixing them up and then move towards TD approach if the sarge is going well. Then back towards Juggler's as I get into strong comfort and finally seduction (because at first I want to reach the social hook point and later I want her to think she is winning my attention). Also (and this should be intuitive, although I have field tested), Juggler's approach is better for 8s and 7s and Tyler's better for 10's. This would make sense considering that you're already displaying higher value than 8's and 7's so there is no need to make them chase you, or to risk them thinking your "out of their league."
The specific sarge that brought this up for me was an HB9.5 who I gamed (very well) and got into middle comfort but I couldn't close. I wanted to move into a kiss close, but I could tell it wasn't quite there. She was giving out IOI's hardcore but also she kept shit testing me over and over, despite that I kept passing them. (ie she would dance with another dude she knew to make me jealous and I would smile and walk away and she would follow me). I couldn't understand what was going on until I read Durden's post and realized it seemed to her that I was gaming her, she was in the mode where she was being persued and even though she was attracted she couldn't accept that I was doing it too her. What I realized is I almost never used the TD approach, and during this sarge I only used the Juggler approach. It usually works for me, but with certain girls you have to make them chase you. This is especially true when you lack social proof. Doing IOD's like TD social proofs you to an extend. It shows her you don't care AT ALL. Way more than C/F does. You don't need this if you have enough social proof, but if its lacking it is much more important (depending on the girl). In fact I would say that it is all the social proof that you really ever need (except when it is required to open) because by chasing you she has already decided that you are high enough value to fuck.In summation, TD's approach is a risk (which we tend to shy away from in "solid game"), but it also has the advantages of 1. Making her chase you (the best possible frame). 2. Giving you any needed social proof. The Juggler approach 1. Keeps the risk low (she isn't going to lose any connection with you or get pissed at your lack of interest) 2. Allows you to move directly into more material, building more attraction or comfort.
If anyone else has thoughts, I welcome your input. Or respond even if you have a different idea of went wrong in my original sarge. And no I should not have just plowed ahead for the kiss close, I've done this enough to know when something's missing. Plus this girl was part of a closed environment.
#2 05-23-2007, 04:52 PM
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I only skimmed the post but I think you're misunderstanding:
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So basically Tyler Durden's approach is too do a IOD on spikes and Juggler's is to SOI in order to expand and increase the connection.
In TD's post, the timed fractionation on buying temperature spikes are meant for, when YOU do some funny shit, and SHE is laughing, you do a mini takeaway so you dont' seem reaction seeking, and to subtly demonstrate non-neediness and get her to chase.
Juggler says to SOI on HER high points - when SHE does something great, not when YOU are making her laugh. When SHE tells a funny joke, or a good story, or osmething like that, you SOI her. This is just like qualification in the M3 model.
So you are perceiving some sort of difference between the TD and Juggler pieces when in fact they can be used in conjunction.
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#3 05-23-2007, 06:45 PM
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The answer is... they are both right.
You always want to test for compliance and investment on high points ala everyone's favorite red headed PU guru.
And you also want to reward her when she gives that compliance ala everyone's favorite Michiganite.
So the right way to do it is when you sense that you have reached a high enough level of attraction, interest, or buying temp, you should pause and look away to see if she is going to re-initiate the conversation. Then when she does, you reward her by going into qualification.
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FOLLOW THE SHINY THING GIRLS.. FOLLOW IT.. FOLLOW IT.. FOLLOW THE SHINY THING.. ITS GOING OVER HERE..
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Here's how it goes down:
The girl hits full buying temperature. Maybe you did it. Maybe another natural player did it. Maybe her boyfriend pissed her off and de-validated her. Maybe she's on vacation, and she decides she wants it. Whatever the way, she's decided she wants sex TONIGHT, and somebody is going to get it.
You see this in Leicester Square in London England. The girls get hit on all night. The guys hitting on them are getting blown out left and right. But yet, at the same time, their buying temperature is escalating and escalating.
And as we all know, buying temperature is TRANSFERABLE. You can literally walk up to a girl who is being picked up by a player, blow him out, and pull the girl and hook up with her within 45 minutes. I've done it in front of audiences, while they sit there jaw dropped. It appears that I've done something inconceivable, when in fact what I've done it stupidly easy, just as long as you have a bit of balls.
In nighttime social environments, pickup is all about FOLLOW THE SHINY THING GIRLS.. FOLLOW IT.. FOLLOW IT.. FOLLOW THE SHINY THING.. ITS GOING OVER HERE.. :)
That's a metaphor I first got from Toecutter I think, and its funny as hell because its true. In clubs, girls are like little kittens in a prairie, jumping from one stimulus to the next. Chase the butterfly little kitten.. chase it.. chase it.. no wait, a leaf.. chase it.. no wait!, a bird... chaaaaase it....
Girls in clubs, its the same shit. Dance.... Dance.... Drink.. Drink.... No wait! Lights! Music!!! Guys hitting on us... We're listening to them... They're fun.... No wait! They're players... Runnn awaaaaaay!!!! Wait, its my BEST FRIEND... I LOVE HER... HUG MY BEST FRIEND!!! GRIND HER!!!!
God, how do I deal with this shit on a nightly basis? It's like they're on crack. Do you guys see this shit? They see their friends and they run up and scream and hug eachother?
At clubs, most girls look like mindless stimulation seeking zombies. When I run workshops, I call this "the girl is about to pop". What that means is that you'll be running the set, but one of them can't quite hear you or isn't fully interested. And you see her eyes wandering, and she's looking around the club. It's like "This isn't stimulating enough.. Zombie needs more stimulation.. Seek stimulation.. Find it.. Maintain buying temperature.. Zombie LIKES buying temperature... dancing.. .dancing is buying temperature.... Zombie likes dancing... Let's go dance.. Zombie needs zombie friends to come with zombie, so zombie is safe..."
GUYS.... - LET'S - GO - DANCE!!!
And POOF, your set is GONE. Your target girl could have LOVED you, but the second her friends say "Let's go dance", it is fucking OVER. I'll see one of the girls looking around, seeking out other stimulation, and I'll blurt out to my wing "dude, that one's about to pop", and then its "Hey! Show's over here!", to the chick (like from my "How to take the fuck over a set" post I wrote a few weeks ago).
Anyway, getting back to the topic of tug of war, this is the shit I see all the time. The girl hits buying temperature, and now its whoever has the biggest shiny thing that will fuck her that night.
I'll have girls telling me they love me and asking where I'm going after the club closes, and then some other dude will move in, and she'll ignore me and act like I don't exist. Literally, she'll just cut me out of her reality. Then I'll go in and blow the guy out, and he'll leave, and then the girl will be my best friend again.
Bros, this is the harsh world of pickup. It's a cold cruel world... :)
This shit reminds me of rams butting heads on the mating ground. It's fucking crazy some of the shit I've seen and done.
In Las Vegas, I took this girl away from a guy who'd been gaming her all night. I was macking out with her and she's all over me. She says she wants to go home with me and that the guy she's with is a chump (even though she is clearly into him, but she just likes me more now, since I opened her even though the guy was right there).
We go to leave the casino, and her friend wants to back in for one last second and say bye to the guys. The guy I took her from grabs her back chats her for a few minutes, and next thing you know he walks her around the casino for the next 45 minutes while I sit there waiting like a puppydog.. FUCK, so CLOSE.. Like I had them at the cab stand, and now I'm back in here by myself??? My girl comes back and says she can't go home with me anymore, while I see the guy smiling that he's got her now.
I go off to the side, over to the friend and say that I'm gay, and that I want my girl (her best friend) to be my new best friend and to take her shopping tommorow morning. "Can I stay over?" She believes it, and cockblocks the guy who was about to pull the girl that we were fighting over, and we all go home together. The girl hates me, but her buying temperature is up and she needs sex. Oh yeah, did I mention that she was engaged? Anyway, she's fucking hot as hell, I'm there, she's there, and boom, its a done deal.
This was hard core tug of war. The same thing I did in Montreal, when I gamed up this set until they're ready to go home with me and my wing (while the students watch this go down), but then I have to leave to continue the workshop because its too early in the night, so I leave. Meanwhile some natural french player guys move in and start making out with these girls within about 3 minutes! Why? Because the girls buying temperature is up, and these guys can sense it and they exploit it.
Now these girls want to leave with these 2 french player dudes. So I go in with Stephane (of Cliff's List fame), and I make best friends with the two girls and tell them that I love their friend because I love them, and that I want to be best friends with them and that I we'll all be happy together, blah blah.. The girls cockblock the player guys and tell their friends all to go back to my house (incidentally its Cliff's house from Cliff's List, who I'm staying with). Our targets keep trying to go back with the French player guys, but I just cockblock the shit out of them by continually whispering into the obstacles ears that I need help from them. In this case there was a fuckup which I talked about in another post. Either way, the French guys were jaw-dropped when we waved, winked, and laughed at them, as we took away their girls.
I've done this SO MANY times. I'll see a girl who's ready to be pulled, and I just go befriend the obstacles. The obstacles know that their friend is going to sleep with SOMEBODY, so they do what it takes to make sure that somebody is me.
This is hardcore tug of war. You can see it outside clubs at closing times. Accounts are being worked out. Guys are chatting the girls they grinded with all night, trying to get them to "go to the afterbar" or "go eat" with them.
That's how the pull always goes down. It's first to go eat or party more or do drugs or drink at a house or hotel, and one thing leads to another. JLaix uses "We're going to Club Jeffy". Same type of shit.
I've also lost alot of tug of war battles in my day. Of course this is because I'll go into the battle even in spite of knowing that my odds are poor. I do it just for the education.
The other night in Kingston I had this girl ready to leave with me. I also had a date that night with a hotter girl, and ditched this girl at around 11pm. Twentysix was visiting me in Kingston, and we drove over to the girls house, but I realized that I'd forgotten the address. FUCK. So I go back to the club. Surprise, surprise....... The girl is grinding and making out with some new guy, about to go home with him. Of course, its because I upped her buying temperature FOR the guy. FACK!!!
So I get the friends of the girl to drag her off of him for me. Now she's all up on me. She's mine. But I leave for the bathroom for a minute, and I come back and watch the dude who was grinding with her pull her home and fuck her (I found out the next day, because I befriended the friends and called them).
Likewise, I was in Whistler Blackcomb, in British Columbia last weekend. For guys who don't know what that is, its one of the top ski resorts in the world. Fucking AMAZING place to go. Totally amazing experience. So we ski all day, and go clubbing at night. Twentysix and I had gamed up this 2set the night previous, and had a day2 planned with them at one of the bars on the resort. We show up 2 hours late, and these 2 player guys have moved in on our girls. I underestimate them, because our girls run up to us. I figure they're some lameasses. They weren't good looking or big or anything. I say to my girls "Let's get out of here", and they're ready to leave. Out of nowhere, the player guy walks in and says "Let's go do kareoke". I laugh at him internally, because I think he's AFC. But then I notice something. It's subtle, but its clearly there. He's not leaning in. He's not looking needy. He's directing her what to do. He's alpha.
FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCCCCCKKKKKKKK - He's a player and I misread the play.
Despite being about to leave with us, I watch this guy walk in and outalpha me (I sat there indifferent because I couldn't CONCEIVE that this guy could be a player), and take my girls from me. We all go to the next club together, and he has her and I'm looking lame for following along. Twentysix's girl likes him though, and is deciding between this guys' friend and Twentysix. Twentysix's competition isn't too bad, so he blows him out. But the girl tells me "HB decided yesterday after meeting you guys that she was going to get laid tonight. And you guys just came too late."
Twentysix runs the typical routine that we run when this happens, where one girl is ON but the other girl isn't. He tells his girl that if her friend isn't going to make it fun for me that he'll just leave. His girl begs her friend to hook up with me, but the player guy has me by the balls. I actually learned a SHITLOAD from watching this guy work, which I've since encorporated into my game to great effect. So Twentysix games up some other girl who he NEARLY pulls (a super cute blondie, much hotter than his girl), and both girls go home and fuck these two new guys who blew me out.
FUCK FUCK FUCK... I go home alone that night. The same way that many guys have gone home alone because of me. OUCH, I know how it feels now... ahhahaa, its all a game anyway, so I there's winners and losers. I'll be a winner again, and I'm sure I'll lose alot of them too.
For me, when I see its GAME ON with the tug of war, I have key tool's at my disposal:
1) Unlike 99% of natural players, I know that the key to the target is her peergroup. I befriend the obstacles and bring them ALL home together. I literally TELL DIRECTLY to the obstacles to pull her friends off the competing players, because I like and want to date her friend so that way we can all be a happy family.
2) I'm willing to sit in set and just chat the obstacles, while the players up the target's buying temperature for me, and I wait for the perfect time to make my move.
3) Out-alpha tactics, posted in "Some AMOG tactics" post I did a while back.
4) Social proof and jealousy. Unlike most players, I can walk into adjacent sets and blow them up, right in front of the girl I want.
5) Tell the obstacles that I'm gay, and worried about the target, and that I want to be her new gay best friend and take her shopping, and I want to save her from that guy. Then the friends push the girl on me and leave her alone with me, and the target has no idea what I've told the friends. In cases where the target hear's that I told the friends that I was gay, I just say either that I was joking, and then makeout and hookup with the target, or I say they're wrong, or they never said it.. Whatever.
6) I throw up the BIGGER SHINY THING.. I'll do a magic trick (I rarely use them, but I'll use them and make the competing guy player be the guy I do the trick on).. I have this one where I snatch a coin out of the guys' hand, that's not really magic that I learned at an MM Workshop. It's basic, but it works because you OWN the guy in front of the girl. I also just plow them with stories or bring over other girls and introduce them, and then tell the pawn-girls I brought over to chat the guy, and then take my girl back.
Again, notice that I NEVER give up. If I see a girl with her buying temperature up, I LOVE the challenge of competing against other players. You see this in Leceister Square in London at the end of EVERY Friday and Saturday night. The girls are walking around totally in state, and the player guys are coming up to them one by one until one of them pulls them. Crazy shit.
Anyway, this is a fun thing that I like to do, and I know most other PUAsaren't doing this stuff.
I really encourage you guys to have no fear of approaching even 1guy/1girl two sets, and taking the girls. You'd be surprised how often the two barely know eachother. Also, if you EVER and I mean *EVER* see natural players gaming up girls, never be afraid to go in and open ONLY the girls.
How do you know if its natural players? Hahaha, well, I hate to say this, but 9 times out of 10, if the girls look like they're having a good time (ie: they're giggly or touching the guy alot), then its a pickup, NOT a boyfriend with his longterm girlfriend. Why? Because girls aren't having fun if they're with their LTR. They usually only have fun with players. haaa, sad but true.
So if you see girls all giddy, then its probably a pickup, and you can easily swoop in and play a little tug of war with the other PUAs.
It's fun, and I often make friends with the other natural PUAs who I'm competing against. In fact some of my friends I've met in the field are players whose girls I've taken home right from them, earned their respect, and now we hang out.
I have a ton more to say on this topic also, which maybe I'll post someday or in addition to this. Tug of war is something I do all the time, and I encourage you guys to give it a shot because its WAY easier than it looks. It looks tough, but if you just use the principles you learn from ASF, you'll find its in fact very easy. Just ignore the social situation, and PLOW THEM FUCK OUT OF THE GIRLS WITH ROUTINES right in front of the guys. Easy shit, and great for ONS.
Tyler Durden
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playing hard to get
by Tyler Durden
-Active Disinterest & Buying Temperature Spikes -Screening vs Chasing switch -Social hook point and sexual hook point -Female psychology (autopilot responses, socially conditioned buying temperature regulation, value responses, choice making fuck ra
PLAYING HARD TO GET - BEING A CHALLENGE - BEING THE PRIZE
I talked about posting some more advanced material for guys who are interested. Here is a first helping. If you're not interested in dense material, read something else.
This is one of the most important posts I've written in some time, and it will likely go misunderstood given that most guys will not have the field experience to appreciate it. It is the most important thread I've posted in six months.
For guys who can gain attraction very consistently, but still have trouble getting laid: read this post until you have it down.
A few things to keep in mind, I want to throw out here:
-Buying Temperature Spikes
-S/C Switch (Screening vs Chasing switch)
-Social hook point and sexual hook point
-Female psychology (autopilot responses, socially conditioned buying temperature regulation, value responses, choice making fuck rationalizations)
-Bodylanguage subcommunication of hard-to-getness (the idea of not saying you're hard to get, but communicating it with your bodylanguage)
***This post is directed towards girls who you ascertain are attracted to challenging guys. Not all girls are like this, but many hot girls are. Again, many aren't. For guys use or advocate other styles which don't make use of this sort of stuff, the reason that they are getting laid is that they using other means of getting laid. There is more than one style. This post is something that is useful for guys in my context, and if you're using a totally different style than me, then this stuff may be useless to you.
SOME ROUGH THOUGHTS ON FEMALE PSYCHOLOGY:
Many of the hottest girls are extremely responsive to hard to get guys. Anyone in field has experienced the scenario where he plays hard to get and having the girl chase, but as soon as he shows interest he is blown out. This can happen even as late as the bedroom. Like, you'll have a girl chasing you all night, isolate you back home, but because you make the first move, she locks up and the pickup is over.
There are several reasons behind this, and in any given situation the lockup may have been caused by one or all of the reasons.
Firstly, you have autopilot responses. Think to the last time that you walked down the street, and a vagrant asked you for change. Perhaps you said "no", and kept walking. You don't consider it a lie. It's just an autopilot response to a social situation. Girls are the same with the LJGD ("let's just go dance") or "let's go to the bathroom", when their buying temperature goes down and their logical social conditioning kicks in and says "This guy is trying to sleep with us. He may be attractive, but who cares, I'm not meeting a guy at a club. I'm leaving this situation to go dance, because that's why I came to the club in the first place."
Notice also, how in all of the times that you've told a vagrant "no" when you were asked for spare change, there were those few times when someone asked you for help, and you said "no" out of habit, when in fact as you walked off you might have thought to yourself "Shit, maybe that guys' car really did break down. He didn't look like a vagrant. I wonder if I was a dick to him?"
The same goes for girls. They'll screen guys out as an auto-pilot response, and later wonder if they made a mistake (but they don't care, because another guy will come along in two seconds anyway). Attraction and how alpha or how sexual you are is not a factor here. Even very attractive guys get screened out for no logical reason. This is purely an autopilot response that you have to recognize and dodge. That is why we use opening tactics - they open consistently.
Likewise, girls will leave a set as their buying temperature increases too fast, as an autopilot response. They think "I don't know this guy. This guy knows what he's doing, and probably does it to all the girls. I'm getting out of here." This is why we use fractionation tactics, so as to avoid her disengaging you. Note also, that typical C&F push/pull is NOT a fractionation tactic. C&F and the like is not indirect, even if you are flirting around that you are hard to get. Girls know that if you're taking the time to engage them, even in a C&F hard to get flirtish type way, that it is not the case that you are *legitimately* hard to get. This is in the same way that when a girl comes up to me and says that my shirt is stupid - I know that she wants me. There is no difference. C&F is simply a *competent* way of flirting, that says a million and one great things about you. It's still (arguably, depending on semantics) a direct approach in some ways. It's just a direct approach that girls like, because it still shows that you are willing to walk away - you're interested, but you can take it or leave it. So that said, you can see how "You're my new girlfriend.. No wait, you don't have x-whatever? We're broken up." is not a fractionation technique. It's highly competent flirting, but its not *actually* conveying that you don't want her in a way where she really believes it.
**If I had to pinpoint one reason why guys who come to this stuff have trouble getting results, its what is outlined in this post. Girls are used to sex going down in a certain way. Walking up to girls and overtly trying to pick them up goes against what they're used to. It's a violation of social norms. Girls will tolerate it as cute, and they'll be interested to see what you'll do. But they'll rarely sleep with you (unless they are at a certain point in their lives where they are open to the idea, which I'll post about below in terms of "fuck rationalizations" - and this does happen often, which accounts for alot of the success that we see with other styles of approaches). Guys go in trying to convince the girl, when they should be BAITING the girl into convincing THEM. As a result, most of the bold moves that guys who come to the scene attempt, wind up not yielding any results.
So back on female psychology then, why do girls like *actual* hard to get guys?
Girls naturally enjoy having their buying temperature pumped up high. So if they can get those emotions out of an interaction, without worrying that the guy will exploit her suggestable state and have sex with her, then she can just get all emotionally aroused around him, and enjoy it. Of course what happens from there is that she backwards rationalizes it, and then convinces herself that she legitimately wants the guy. From there, she decides that she's going to get the guy, and starts chasing him in a manner as unsophisticated and blatantly obvious as how a pissed drunk AFC would chase a girl that he wants at a party. She'll kino him, giggle and scream around him, compliment him, signal her friends to help her, and try to isolate him.
Notice, as this post goes on, that this last paragraph explains why just getting a girls' buying temperature up high is not good enough, and that she actually has to chase. It's because of the backwards rationalization process, and the sexual hook point that she crosses over as a result. The S/C switch (screen/chase) gets flipped.
There are also issues of validation at work. Notice that if you tell a girl "I hate you", she starts touching you immediately, and begs to know why. Notice that if you engage the whole set, but actively ignore the choice girl, she'll start trying to get you to talk to her. This is all validation. It's more validating for the often insecure hot girls, to sleep with a guy who will reinforce that she is beautiful.
Think about your last cute girlfriend. She was cute. She was great in bed. But sooner or later, you got used to it, and took it for granted. Your relationship started stagnating. Then you're out at a party one night, and all these guys are giving her attention. Her friends are there, and she's having a great time just doing her own thing. All of a sudden, she looks different. She seems different. You say to your friend, "You know man, I was just thinking how cool Kathy is. I really want to stick with her." Then she comes over, and sits with you. And its like "Wow, I actually have this girl with me. This is awesome".
Haa - she's no different than she was an hour ago when you were sick of her. But when you can tell that someone doesn't need you, they just SEEM different. There's something about it that's hard to articulate. But what it boils down to, is that all of a sudden, this person's attention has become a source of validation for you. And as a result, they seem more attractive. (BTW: I use the paragraph before this one as a killer routine in sets, except I take out the part about stagnation and focus more on how I know that I appreciate someone and the positive sides of it).
In addition to the validation issue, there are basic genetic/status explainations and accounts for why hard to get guys are appealing. Very basically, guys who are sexually pre-selected by other girls because of their genetics and/or social status will be hard to get, because they can't be bothered with chasing women. They simply walk around, and girls chase them. Chasing a girl is in some ways subcommunicating that you are not one of these guys. If you go to the high class venues in Los Angeles, the mere act of actively picking up is looked down on by the highly socially proofed guys. They'll say things like "That guy over there is trying to pull ass. Kick him out."
A counter argument is that an alphamale will see a girl that he wants, and will just go up and assume the sell. This can also work, if you genuinely come across that way, and if you have the followup to back it up congruently.
Generally though, this is uncommon. Natural PUAs generally just walk around, and girls give them AIs (approach invitations) or make it really easy for them by throwing themselves at them, in a way that most surrounding men just don't recognize (and women don't acknowledge, as this would be a breach of "Secret Society" to admit what's happening, and would break down their whole system of secretly being the CHOOSERS). Note, that the idea of the alphamale who does approaches in society is a SOCIAL MISCONCEPTION. This rarely happens. Generally, natural alphamales do not do cold approaches. I've travelled all over North America and Europe, and I rarely see it. I know exactly what to look for - and I *rarely* see them initiating cold approaches. It happens only in certain communities, like London and NYC. But this is very very uncommon, and even in these communities 99% of the naturals who get laid often are still not doing cold approaches.
The ideas that "men take all the risks in escalation" and "men do the approaching, women do the receiving", that the academic community of psychologists and zoologists have espoused is BAD DATA. It is literally a fallacy and blemish of the academic community. It is a pathetic and glaring example of the follies of academia's white ivory tower armchair theorism, from eggheads who couldn't put any of their theory into practice if you gave them 10 years of prepare it (this is a gripe that I have as a student of political and analytic philosophy, that I see transferred over into this field as well). What these social scientists don't see (AFCs that they are), while they're watching all of the interactions that they supposedly use as empirical data in their published studies (which influence social understandings and thus social conditioning), is that while the men are the ones approaching and escalating, it is the women who are throwing themselves at these clueless men, until they do something. So in that case, the woman has virtually ALREADY DECIDED that she wants the man, and from there she just doesn't admit it (secret society breach), but rather throws herself at the guy until he escalates. She even puts up silly shit tests like (this from a double lay that SB007 and I did on a 2set that we pulled) "Just because you're renting that hotel, doesn't mean we're going up with you."... and later on in the night .... "just because we came up here, doesn't mean we're sleeping with you.." And typical AFCs, will say "Wow, we really plowed through that resistance", when in fact these girls had chosen to sleep with SB007 and I LONG before we'd taken them back to the hotel that we rented right in front of them. We were the hard to get guys, and just let them play out their dramatic act of throwing themselves at us in subtle ways, while pretending that they we didn't know what was happening. And then we allowed them to structure the extraction while making it look like it was our idea and not their fault, and then afterwards they denied responsibility for what took place, while they still email us regularly and want to meet up again. These girls would claim that we chose them, when in fact they chose us - which few people realize is the way it almost always happens.
The idea that "girls choose" also stems from the male/female social dynamic in our society, and the practises and habits that spawn from it. Men are unconsciously giving sexual validation to attractive women all day long, in one way or another. It's either they're checking them out, asking them the time, trying to make small talk, or pivoting left instead of right as they walk out of a room - when it would be faster to pivot left but he can catch a glimpse of her by pivoting right. Girls are all too aware of this stuff. It's built into them. They also go to the club religiously, to relish the process of guys buying them drinks and checking them out, and then shooting them down. A quote over from literally the hottest girl on my campus two months ago after an off-night: "I'm so depressed. No guys approached me tonight. I would never get together with a guy from a club, but I can't believe that I didn't get approached."
So what winds up happening, is that girls get into a pattern of not seeking out sex. They tend to go in cycles, where rather than chasing sex, they simply decide to give it up at arbitrary times. "This is the day that I will give it up." So for example, a typical girl will have a "revenge" fuck, a "just broke up with my boyfriend rebound" fuck, a "I haven't gotten laid in exactly 6 months" fuck, a "I'm on vacation and there are no social consequences and I just want to have fun" fuck, a "I need to revalidate myself being snubbed to prove I'm beautiful" fuck, a "romantic tryst adventure" fuck, a "jump on the sword so my friend can have her guy" fuck, a "I haven't gone home with a guy before, and all my friends have and I want to try it" fuck, etc etc etc. Then of course there is the "I've been dating this guy 3 months, and he provides well and its time to give it up now" fuck, which is the one that we typically aren't concerned about on this chat forum.
The girl has had sex available to her continually, but she can't "give it up" at every opportunity that comes around, because she'd wind up sleeping with 15,000 different men by the time she was finished. So instead, she comes up with rationalizations of when and where to give it up.
Thus, it is the case that girls are in the habit of making the choice. The second that they see that the guy is trying to make the choice for them, the sequence is broken, and their auto-pilot response kicks in and they automatically go back to screening him (even if they like him), just as they had on every other day prior to this one. (Don't make the mistake of thinking that you still don't have to do the work in making up BS excuses so that it isn't the girls' fault, once the ball is rolling. That is a different story. It still has to be "not hard fault". What's being discussed here is a separate issue from that).
This is the fallacy that guys make when approaching. They think that they can choose the girl, because they've pumped her buying temperature and she's been receptive to it. In practice though, if the S/C Switch doesn't flip, she'll still just sit back and enjoy the emotions, without having to give up anything in return. That's when you get situations where the girl will hang with you alll night, but won't give up her #, or she'll give it but she'll flake, or she'll give insurmountable LMR even if you extract.
That's because the right SEQUENCE hasn't been initiated, to make her "Today is the day" switch flip (where she'll pick from one of the many fuck-rationalizations, in the heat of the moment). And that sequence is "Guy is attractive. I can't take it anymore, so today is the day. I choose guy. I throw myself at him in oblique ways that he can't directly prove is me actually doing it. He eventually notices my actions and picks me up. I do nothing to help it move along, but if he makes everything happen and alleviates me of responsibility then it happens. He takes the credit for picking me up." The sequence is NOT "Guy walks up and tries to attract me. I decide that I'm attracted. I let him fuck me."
For that reason, the guy may have switched every attraction switch in the book in terms of buying temperature, but unless she is the one making the choice, the S/C switch will not be flipped. She is attracted, but her thought process is STILL occupied with trying to find every reason possible not to let anything happen.
She must switch from the typical mode of perpetual screening, to chasing. Her THOUGHT PROCESS must be switched. She must believe that you are a guy who is a source of attraction (ie: buying temperature escalation), but that you are not intentionally doing it to her. This is the same reason that if you tell a girl that you study 'pickup', she will be offended. You are breaking the sequence that is protected via the Secret Society, so to speak. You are messing up their ability to make a "good" choice.
From there, she has switched into chase mode. She is no longer dwelling whatsoever on why she shouldn't do anything (as she would be perpetually, if she thought that you were trying to lay her). Now, she's focused only on how to make it happen with you. Her thought process has changed. The S/C Switch has been flipped. She's focused solely on making it happen (except that she's not admitting to herself that she's trying to "get laid" - nope - she's just trying to continue the interaction back to somewhere that it could happen, despite that she deep down knows that she IS trying to get laid, but won't actively admit it to herself).
So that said, how do you trip that switch early on? Let's look at some straight tactics.
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FLIPPING THE S/C SWITCH, VIA TIMED FRACTIONATION ON BUYING TEMPERATURE SPIKES:
What is a buying temperature spike? You've all seen it. It's when you do or say something to give the girl a quick shot of emotions. Like a C&F remark where she goes "Oh!" and swats you. Or you tell her that you know something that she wants to know bad, and she goes "OMG OMG OMG, tell me tell me tell me!" Or when you run a really tight story that has her dying laughing or excited or intrigued. Or if you do a DHV, like the coin snatch trick or Mystery's 3 and 7 routine, and she freaks out. Or a great joke. Or even just coming in strong with good bodylanguage and tonality, and sucking up the attention of everyone in the set, and her buying temperature shoots up (you see this when you go in with an opener, and the girls just jump to talk to you or answer your question). Whatever.
You see it on their face, and you see it in the way that they turn their bodylanguage towards you, and when they kino you. Her buying temperature has shot up. Usually, it hits in abrupt bursts. Little spikes on the graph. You know you can't *maintain* this level indefinetely, but you can hit that level in bursts.
These buying temperature spikes are the right time to start doing subtle takeaways. That is, not the kind of takeaway where you walk off into another set. Rather, you just break eyecontact with her, and face away a bit. You *exactly* what the girls do to you, when you're gaming them in a club, and they get distracted because a peice of your material is not strong enough. You turn to your friends or the bar or the dancefloor, and you make it look like you're about to leave.
*But*, girls are very much accostomed to getting what they want. So unlike most guys who will give up, their instant reaction is to go "HEY HEY HEY, keep talking.. What were you saying??? What???"
That is your first step in getting the girls chasing. You have conveyed that you might walk away at any point, and all of the aforementioned issues are now dealt with. You are an attractive guy, and you have very clearly (in such a subtle way) demonstrated that you are not trying to get her. IOW, the natural process of her becoming attracted to you and choosing you has begun.
This kind of timing takes time and practice to cultivate. It can also be learned right off the opener. Here are some examples:
OPENER CLASS: "BAIT OPENERS" - SPIKE BUYING TEMPERATURE, AND TAKEAWAY TO BAIT HER TO OPEN YOU
1- "I'm shy":
My friend Shannon walks up to a set. I walk up to her and she introduces me. I say "Hey, I'm shy" with a super cocky look on my face, and turn to Shannon and say "Let's go outside". Here I looked like a cocky cool and fun guy, who they were about to get a little bit of buying temperature entertainment from - gratuitous entertainment for their night. But I *spotted* that look on their face, so I automatically took it away. *But*, I left a hook that they could grab on to. I said "Hey, I'm shy", and then turned to Shannon as if I were about to leave. In fact, I wasn't, but knew that they'd force me to stay. From there, they scream "Why are you shy?! Why are you shy?! Don't go.. Why are you shy?!", and I roll back in and game them. You can also use "I hate you", "I hate you guys", or "I hate girls". These work amazingly well as followups, and work well when you're merging into a set with your wing. Again, the girls say "Why?? Whyyyy?!??"
2- Eyecodes and bluffing that you're entering the set, and flashing peacocky zipper:
I walk by some guys who are gaming a set poorly. I walk right up to the set, and do "let's go" girl eye code to the girls (I roll my eyes, like "These guys are tools"). I also make little eye movements down to where their hands are too eagerly touching the girls, and make eye movements at the beers that they bought for them, and smirk right after I see them. The girls know what's up - they can tell that I know the deal of how women are. I walk right up like I'm about to out-alpha the guys, but then shake my head a bit like "This is too lame for me to even bother with", and then back away while still maintaining eye contact with the girls. Here I am using my PRESENCE as something that will give them a quick buying temperature level spike, and then I am withdrawing. I then proceed to tug on the zipper of my very peacocky zipper covered (BAIT) vest, and look from her eyes down to my vest. I have provided the bait. The girls immediately go "Hey! That vest is awesome! Let me see! Let me see!", and blow off the guys and jump over to me.
3- Take over set with C&F comment and AMOG blaster:
I look over from my barstool, and plow in with booming tonality some C&F comments, and proceed to shoot a quick out-alpha routine on the AMOG. For anyone who read my FR last week, it was a coment about a girl saying that everyone thought she had fake breasts. I yelled over "That's great - they'll give you boyancy if we're ever lost at sea. You'll be the only one to survice". Both girls look at me, and are intrigued. Then the AMOG says "Hey, this is my girlfriend", and I reply with "Haa, cool.. You guys look so similar, I thought that you guys were brother and sister. If you guys have kids they'll look like (I do a funny impression)." I then make a comment to the guy that he owns this end of the bar, turn my barstool around, and takeaway. Again, I have come in with COOLER presence than everyone else. I added energy to the group, which spiked up the girls' buying temperature, and then noticing that I immediately took it away. The girls immediately re-open me.
4- Opinion opener:
This is something that I do all the time with Sickboy007. Like all the time. This is key to our game. We roll into set talking amongst ourselves. Like we are the coolest guys in the club, and not needy at all. We're having more fun in our own conversation than we could be talking to anyone else. (Note: We usually actually ARE, so this is congruent. We talk about cool shit while we're in the field, and joke around alot. This keeps our state up, and is much better than talking game in field and getting too analytical). Despite being both guys, because we are both cool we actually provide more social proof to eachother than a female pivot would. So right off the bat, we look like best friends who could care less if they'll talk to us or not, because we are cooler and more interesting than them. We tap one of the girls, and run the first line of the opinion opener. They're thinking "Wow, those cool looking guys we saw are actually coming over to talk to us". Then they give their answer, and I we immediately turn our bodylanguage away from facing them, and into eachother. Then we assimilate their answer into our conversation, and transition into joking around about other shit that the girls DON'T GET, but it sounds interesting. So the girls see that we basically just tooled them to add to our own fun, and they can see that our conversation is so fucking interesting that they want to join it very badly. After all, we weren't rude. We just didn't follow them like puppydogs, like most guys would. So notice that the hook has been laid. The girls will interrupt us, and say 'Why did you ask us that? What about David Bowie?? What?? What?? How old is your little sister??" They keep trying to get in, and win us into a conversation.
**Notice that in all these cases, I'm laying the bait on the hook, and then pulling it back. I don't actually walk away. I just make the initial body movements that I'm about to walk away, because of the way that I pivot my body. But I'm not actually walking away. In fact, I'm not going anywhere. I know that if I lay the hook right, they'll start trying to re-open ME. It's all in hitting it at the *exact* moment, and then turning as if you're about to walk away, but providing some bait that they can open you off of, so they don't have to think too hard (God forbid).
IMPORTANT:
In addition to setting the hard to get frame, there are other things being laid down here that will help your pickup as it goes along. When you come in with a straight opener, and then start talking, she will often go into "receptive mode". An example that I do in seminar to explain this, is I'll be talking for an hour, and then out of nowhere I'll point to a student and say "Hey man. Do me a favour. Say the coolest thing that you can think of right now. Just say any random cool thing. Whatever you want." *Never* has a student been able to do it. They just sit there gawking, and they can't think of a single thing to say. Likewise, nobody else in the room can either. That's because their brain has been in "receive" mode for the last hour. They've been sucking up all the info, and their mental process of calling things up isn't in gear. It's like doing your math homework. Your first problem takes you 10 minutes. Your second one, 5. Then every one after that takes 1 minute each. That's because your brain has engaged into "math mode". Likewise, if the girl is just listening and listening, she won't be able to qualify herself to you very easily, because she's too busy taking what you're saying all in. So what winds up happening (and many guys will recognize this phenomenon), is that a pause occurs in the conversation, and because the girl feels the emotion of discomfort that she can't think of a way to fill it, she immediately says "Cool. Anyway, I have to go dance now". And POW, even though she was digging you, she left because the emotion of not having anything to say sunk her buying temperature so quickly. Another reason, is because by talking so much, you're logically disengaging her so strongly, that the sudden cognitive shift from the emotional saturation of being gamed without having to contribute anything, to suddenly actually having to (God forbid) THINK about what to say, will slam gear shift her brain into logical thinking so fast, that its like slamming your car from 5th to first gear, while driving 100 down the freeway. So better, is to get BOTH her mind thinking of what to say, and buying temperature still escalating. This happens, because she's getting excited by the process of actually gaming you. You've baited her into selling herself on you. This is a basic persuasion tactic. Nothing more. Before she's even had a chance to decide whether or not she even wants you, you're already taking away the option. But of what she's seen of you, you spike her buying temperature, so she felt high attraction for the second that you were there. That way, when its time for her to pipe in, she can easily think of something to say, and the set will hold, AND she'll be more likely to be able to qualify herself to you.
And that said, they often WILL do things to qualify themselves to you. You can AMPLIFY this again, with some playful hard to get tactics.
This is a really fucking key peice. Pay close attention to it. Say for example, you went in with "I'm shy", and then pulled out. They'll say "Why are you shy? We're nice girls!" You can reply "Umm yeah.. You're OK.. Oh shit, you have a belly button ring. Don't show me that." Immediately, you'll see them jumping up and pulling your face down to look at their peircing. They'll say "Look at it! Loooook at it!!!!" Then you look at it, and like they've entranced you, you talk to them a bit more.
The same can be done after you exchange signs. They'll tell you that they're Libras, and you say "I can't talk to you anymore.. You're trouble". This is as if you're moderating your own buying temperature. You turn your back on them, and they'll grab your shoulder and say "NO!! You tell me your sign NOW!! Are you a Libra too?!?!"
Another one you'll see alot, is that you run the hook, and pull back. Typical girl tactics, they'll start touching you. So say that they touch your shoulder. You can act like it feels really good. You mumble "That actually feels really good - my shoulder is so sore. You have to stop doing that.. Stop.. Seriously.. That's a bad idea.." They'll do it more and more. "OK, you're getting me all emotional.. enough.."
Even without hook openers though (which I only use a small percentage of the time), I can still engage the chasing just further into the set. It doesn't require that you do it right off the opener like in the case of hook openers. Its convenient if you can do it early, but it isn't required at all. The only time limit is that the dynamic isn't set in stone that you're too giving and eager. So long as I avoid that scenario, I will only do it off the opener if I spot a buying temperature spike. Otherwise, I proceed as normal, until I see it.
I do the same on tonguedowns. I'll be kissing the girl, and then I'll pull back, and mumble "OK, stop.. We seriously have to stop." They'll say "Why?" and keep trying to push more. You say "I'm just getting so....." and then they'll pull you back in. Do this repeatedly. This is an extension to the Style kiss close, where he goes in with "I'm trying so hard not to kiss you right now".
Basically, the idea here is that you BAIT the girl, by giving her information on how to seduce you, but telling her not to do it.
The thing is though, that you have to be congruent with it. You actually use your bodylanguage at various points, to deliberately try to screw up your own pickup. Because girls are used to getting what they want, they'll re-initiate it HARD. This is NOT just a verbal thing. It's a bodylanguage thing. Girls respond to how you use your body. Try to speak using your body.
This is very similar to martial arts. It's like "parry, strike, dodge, parry, strike, dodge.. strike.. etc etc.." You're going "Hit up buying temperature, pull back.. Give her an idea of how to seduce you, pull back.. Give a bit.. Hit up buying temperature again.. Pull back.. Hit up buying temperature again.. Pull back.. Give her an idea.. Pull back.. etc etc"
From there, when I do extractions or get a phone number, I also make them work for it. Often, they'll be walking away and say they have to go. I'll say "OK" and just look at them blank. They'll immediately offer their # or to take mine. But that aside, I also use bait to make them go for it. I'll wait until they say something cool, and I'll act like a girl whose buying temperature just shot up. I'll look intrigued or excited and say "Wow. Geez, I have to take you to x-place". I'll pick something that I know they want bad. Something that they'll react to. Or I'll just use something ordinary, but I'll map out a scenario (using future adventures projection of us doing awesome stuff), and just go with that. They'll immediately offer up their number. Then I'll say "OK cool", and just change the subject. Just like how a girl does to guys. What's next is funny to watch. She'll start trying to naturally "slip in" that I should take her number. I'll keep saying "Yeah cool, I'll get it later". I keep doing this, until she's asked me to exchange numbers around 5-15 times over the next hour. Often they'll just ask me for my number out of concern that I won't call. When I finally acknowledge that I'll call is when she does something impressive. Then I'll say "WOW.. What was your number again? I'm definetely calling you." Moreover, girls will also try to extract me for food after the club closes. I'll say "Yeah awesome!" but then turn to my wing and keep talking to him. They keep pushing for it, and they'll run and grab their friend and try to make their friend convince me as well. Then I'll capitulate. I may not necessarily wait for them to initiate it. Many just won't. So instead, I'll wait for them to do something to impress me, and then I'll suggest it. If they're giving me a backrub, I may say "I'm hungry. I want to go to Denny's after this."
But I do the same in the other direction. I act just like a flakey stimulus seeking girl. If they bore me, I just walk off in distraction. If something interesting happens, I'll walk over to it to check it out. If a good song comes on, I may just get up and walk away. If they say something I don't like, I'll lean away and start looking at other girls. They have to keep tapping me on the shoulder and tell me to keep talking, in order for me to stay attentive.
So how do you seduce in a case where the act of seducing would be incongruent to everything you've built up. They play it up, and the girl tries to get them, but then they stupidly go against everything that they've been doing get them attracted all this time, and start trying to seduce them. This is incongruent. It kills attraction instantly. It relies on some fallacy that the girl likes you for your personality, when in fact she may, but it is not relevant to her *attraction* for you. You're switching gears too quickly, from 5th to 1st gear, in one foul swoop. It doesn't work. Attraction dies instantly. I've had girls who went completely cold, even after spending hours with me - all because I dropped the hard to get act, and started trying to escalate - without doing the right transition work (I will explain).
Instead, you have to play it smooth. This requires you to have strong verbal skills and calibration skills. The girl has been getting you comfortable being closer and closer to her the whole time, so its fine if you're right next to her, and even in kino. But you have to keep presenting challenges to her, and punishing and rewarding her with those challenges. She'll say something that I like, and I'll lean in like I'm about to kiss her. Then I won't. I'll slowly start moving back, until she says something else that I like. Then I move in closer than the first time. Then I move slowly back. Then she says something that I like, and I move right in to kiss her, and say "You're getting me all emotional", and pull back. Then I keep my face up to hers, and we talk face to face, with lips grazing eachother, and she says something I like and turn my face and stop talking, and then her talking will merge into triangular gazing and my lips will graze hers more and then we're making out. I may also say "I'm not going to" at different points, when she's obviously trying to move in to kiss me. If she says "Not going to what?", I won't answer. Rather, I'll just keep talking in the quiet face-to-face way that we've been doing.
Also - again, you can do things like "You're wearing Channel? Don't let me smell it.. Don't..." (she'll practically tackle you and put her neck up to your face to make you smell it). Then you can phase shift, but then snap your own state and move back. But as you're moving back, you say things to pump her buying temperature.
A GREAT thing to reward girls for is also dancing in front of you, or in between your legs. Although they'd never admit it (Secret Society Breach), dancing is a sexual exhibition. So if you can make her perceive that her dancing is what's getting your buying temperature up, she'll feel fully qualified. You kiss her, but you still don't keep trying. You just do it, and then sit there blank afterwards. She still has more to do.
Remember that this is like fucking with magnets. You're constantly backing off, but doing it SPECIFICALLY at a time when you know you've spiked buying temperature, so that she'll chase the stimulus.
That's the part that's so hard to convey in text. I show this to guys in workshop no problem, but I can't explain it that well. You have to actually take the time to mentally catalogue all of the little bodylanguage mannerisms that girls use, when they're getting distracted. And then you use these on them. And when you use them, you have to TIME it just at the right time - right when you hit on the right emotion. Always remember that there are so many fucking little ways that you reveal that you really want her. It only takes the slightest slip, and the jig is up. You have to be congruent.
Note that if you pull away at the wrong time when her buying temperature is down, she'll backwards rationalize that she is not experiencing attraction, and that she's not attracted to you anymore and that she's HAPPY that you're backing off. This will end it. So you have to have the verbal game and physical coquettishness to play this up properly.
Now as for seducing, this is like trapping an animal that you've baited closer and closer. If you do decide to pounce on her, do it ONLY once she has been baited too close, and she won't be able to get away. What I mean by that, is do it only once you have her lying with you snuggling, and then you can start playing your late game. If you do it prior to that, her physical horniness from contact with you won't have kicked in yet, and she'll have nothing to counter-act the state breaker that you dropping the hard to get act was playing up.
Notice, btw, that there is both a social hook point and a sexual hook point. Style has talked about the "hook point", as the point in the pickup in which the girls have stopped wondering "why is this guy talking to us", and have decided that they don't want you to leave. They'll do things to help the conversation continue, and your life becomes much easier. The same goes down the line, where there is a sexual hook point. You'll see this alot, especially with girls on vacation. This is where they've actually decided that they want to hook up with you. If you get this kind of girl, you'll notice zero LMR down the line. If you escalate, she will not resist IF she feels that she worked hard enough to get you. If not, then her desire to meet a challenge has not been fulfilled, and instead she thinks "Haa, he wants me for no reason like everyone else. What a chump."
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Anyway, in summary, a few points to have taken from this are:
1- There is a natural social process that occurs, which women don't want you to know about. They want you to think that you're the one who picked them up, so they don't have to "be responsible" for it. However, this fallacy has spawned guys in this community to develop pickup styles that violate social practices, in a way that isn't effective. (I violate social practices myself, but in a way that nobody spots). That's why when you talk about hitting on girls, the girls don't like it. But if you ask them "How *would* you like a guy to hit on you?" they have no realistic reply. It's because they secretly know that they pickup guys, but don't admit it publically or even to themselves.
2- Being able to attract a girl is often not enough. Girls find themselves wanting to sleep with various guys that they see all day long. What it takes to actually get laid, is to flip her S/C switch, so that she's decided "Today is the day. This guy is the guy". This is why there are many guys in the scene who can run a tight set, but still don't get laid. They have a certain part of their game down, but need to work more on flipping that fucking S/C Switch.
3- Being aware of buying temperature spikes, and knowing WHEN to pull away is key. If you just pull away at arbitrary times, you will not get a result.
4- Guys think that looks is the most important part of a pickup. In fact, its brains. You have to be smart as fucking hell to do this stuff. You have to think fast on your feet, and you have to calibrate. Most guys don't have a repertoire of material that will spike buying temperature, and fall into a trap of talking about situational stuff, which girls just interpret as you trying to get rapport with them, and makes you unchallenging.
5- There is a difference between a girl being attracted to you, and a girl wanting to fuck you. If you are TOO GIVING in set, then you run the risk of being the first guy, not the second. You have to be giving, but strategically.
6- To implant the idea of seducing you into the girls' mind, you have to have a repertoire of material to do so. That is BOTH material to entertain sets so you can pull a girl from her group or open a lone girl in a way that doesn't set off an autopilot response, but also you have to have material that gets her thinking that she wants you and gets her chasing you. This material is a combination of regular material that you use to spike buying temperature, and then pulling back, as well as recognizing anything that you can misinterpret as her trying to seduce you, and then pulling back from that as well, which raises the challenge and makes her do it more, and then you can play with it in the ways that were mentioned.
Tyler Durden
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Here are some Buying Temperature routines.
1. Lockup - Buying Temperature - Escalation By Tyler Durden
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At this point in my game, my focus is on pushing girls into BUYING TEMPERATURE, recognizing it, and ESCALATING.
In field, I have the terms:
-lockup
-unlocked
-buying temperature levels
-escalation
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2. 10 way to Pump up Buying Temperature Tactics by AsainPlayboy
OK, as us Pick Up Artists (PUAs) should know, Buying Temperature is the woman's emotional receptivity and her level of general attraction to the PUA at a given time.
(Note, that there is slight, but subtle difference between general attraction and sexual attraction. You can have one without the other, though then you run the risk of turning from the really cool, fun guy into the really cool, fun friend.)
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3. Stealing Horny Chicks by Tyler Durden
The girl hits full buying temperature. Maybe you did it. Maybe another natural player did it. Maybe her boyfriend pissed her off and de-validated her. Maybe she's on vacation, and she decides she wants it. Whatever the way, she's decided she wants sex TONIGHT, and somebody is going to get it
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definition of BT
A sudden increase in the target’s buying temperature, usually initiated through a routine involving kino escalation.
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There are certain routines and gambits that quickly increase a target’s BT. It can involve cavemanning and strong kino escalation. A PUA can also go in a group with high energy and high five all of the girls, and give them a hug afterward. Pumping buying temperature can be dangerous as BT can be transferred to another AMOG.
One effective strategy is to allow a wing to bump up BT and then come back into the set with stronger energy levels. It is also possible for a PUA to AMOG a set and take advantage of the BT already built up from the previous guy. AMOGing a set triggers a biological reaction for the woman’s BT to automatically increase in favor of winner in the AMOG battle.
Usage:
I was able to generate some BT spikes through my dance floor game.
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Related Terms: BT, DHV, DHV spike, IOI, Kino escalation, AMOG
Related Links:
■10 way to Pump up Buying Temperature Tactics – by AsianPlayboy
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2003 08 07 07:04:00 AM EDT
Author: TylerDurden
website: www.fastseduction.com
subject: Lockup - Buying Temperature - Escalation ...Chick is unresponsive. Ask questions, she says "I don't know" or "no", or any blowoff answer. She holds tense shoulders, and if you say "high-5" or try to physically displace her...
Hey guys.. I've been busy as hell, and no time to post. I'm having an awesome summer.
It's late, and I'm feeling kind of manic (therefore in the mood to write and write).
I don't have time to post actively anymore, but here's a pile stuff I've been up to lately. I hope you guys enjoy it. It should shine some light on my style. I'm not criticizing other people's styles, who you can learn from also, since they obviously get the results at the end of the day. This is MY understanding of game.
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At this point in my game, my focus is on pushing girls into BUYING TEMPERATURE, recognizing it, and ESCALATING.
In field, I have the terms:
-lockup
-unlocked
-buying temperature levels
-escalation
LOCKUP:
Chick is unresponsive. Ask questions, she says "I don't know" or "no", or any blowoff answer. She holds tense shoulders, and if you say "high-5" or try to physically displace her in any way whatsoever, she says the words "I'm scared / you're scaring me / etc". This does NOT mean she is physically afraid. This is like a chick saying "not yet" when you go to kiss her too early in the night. She's JUST saying "I'm not at buying temperature yet". A chick who is locked up cannot even move or give a proper answer for a million dollars. She is locked up. Causes of lockup can be that she sees her friend hitting buying temperature for you too quickly, and she doesn't like it, or that you have conveyed too much eagerness too early.
UNLOCKED:
She is now OPEN to being gamed. Girls KNOW what you're doing when you run material. They may not know its pre-canned, but they know what it means when you tease them - its SEXUAL COMMUNICATION and they know what's up. If a chick is locked up, she isn't even OPEN to this sort of communication. Once unlocked, you can now begin gaming.
Chicks become UNLOCKED when you don't telegraph interest (check the 25 points checklist), and therefore trust your intentions. Also, when you CONVEY PERSONALITY, and they therefore can FILL IN the canvas of your life, they increase trust.
SIGNS of chick being unlocked - KINO TESTS. Hold out your palms upwards. If she puts her hands there, squeeze them. If she squeezes back, she's unlocked for sure. Likewise, tap her, if she taps back playfully, she's unlocked and sexually engaged probably.
BUYING TEMPERATURE LEVELS:
-enough for her to sit there while you game her
-enough to show an IOI like a giggle
-enough to show an IOI and kino you
-enough to show alot of IOIs and ask you questions
-enough for you to venue change her
-enough for you to kino HER, and give her IOIs, and she still likes it (usually after qualification phase, because she now feels she EARNED your attention, rather than you just want to fuck her like every other guy on the planet)
-enough for you to get physical with her
-enough for you to fuck her
As EACH Buying Temperature increase, the chick will usually SHIT TEST you, as a way of TRYING to throw herself OUT OF STATE. She shit tests by doing things that if you react too seriously, she'll get upset and therefore be thrown out of state. By passing shit tests, Buying Temperature is AMPLIFIED. This is like when Eddy (whitedragonPUA) posted about his HBRugby Lay report She kept punching him all night. After he laid her, he asked her why. She said "I just thought you'd go away"... She knew she was hitting buying temperature, and didn't want to succumb to it so she shit tested by hitting him and hoped that he would back off and she would come down. Think back to when you tried to kiss a girl on a date, and she said "NOT YET". She doesn't mean NO. She ONLY means "I'm not at buying temperature yet.. Give me more gaming". Likewise, you try to venue change a girl, and she says "No. But I still want to talk to you". You keep gaming her, and a few minutes later you change venues. This was because you tried to ESCALATE PRIOR TO ATTAINING THE RIGHT LEVEL OF BUYING TEMPERATURE.
There are many examples of chicks trying to throw themselves out of state when hitting buying temperature, but then by passing shit tests it is actually amplified: Chick feels herself getting horny. HB: "You're a player". PUA: "Yeah. so what is it that turns you on so much about players anyway" (Response works firstly because you didn't disagree, so she can't get mad for you lying to her and break her own state, and secondly because you say something COCKY, which hits her emotionally, and therefore raises buying temperature)
EG: Chick says "we shouldn't be doing this"... PUA responds "yeah, we shouldn't be doing this" but KEEPS going.
In both cases, the chick feels her buying temperature increasing unusually rapidly (because of the PUA skillset), and tries to stop what's happening.
When Buying Temperature is hit too quickly, it is called FRYING OUT HER CIRCUITS. This is like when chicks giggle uncontrollably and run away from you even though they like you, or when a chick is at a rock concert and starts screaming and crying when the rockstar comes out. She has hit buying temperature so fast, her circuits fry out and she freaks.
"Routine Outcome Dependence" is a phenomena where you're too HOOKED on seeing chicks increasing buying temperature. EG: "Calling a chick a powerpuff girl will make her giggle"... So when a chick isn't giggling, you try to FORCE it by calling her a Powerpuff girl. EXCEPT, she KNOWS that not normal to say that to a chick whose all serious, so knows something is up (this is actually the 26th 'trying too hard to qualify' thing I guess - routine outcome dependence). The SAME goes for when she's all serious, and you try TOO HARD to seem happy and fun. She KNOWS that you're doing it to get with her, and it doesn't make sense. That does NOT mean state match. It just means MODERATE and don't appear PHONEY. Most Buying Temperature tools are to be used to AMP a state that you see building. She starts giggling a BIT, and you call her a powerpuff girl, and now she giggles a LOT. If she's not giggling AT ALL, then maybe it was the wrong time. She DETECTS that you were consciously TRYING to increase her buying temperature, and blows you off. Field experience is KING, nobody is above it. Field experience helps us to develop an INTUITION of WHERE and WHEN to use the particular material.
TO INCREASE BUYING TEMPERATURE:
(First, remember that there are PRECONDITIONS to a girl even being OPEN to you start to affect her this way. For a set of HB10s, they often may not even ALLOW themselves to be affected by your game, unless you have social proof or status somehow.. Likewise, even for a lesser HB7, if you are smelly and fat and gross, she won't be open to it, even if what you're doing is proper tight game)
--Pump them through emotions rapidly.. (I personally use a detailed system of building routines that increase buying temperature.. basically, routines hit emotions through languaging or demonstration.. not hard.. this way I can build routines on the fly and not rely on canned material - infinite routines via proper understanding or structure and basic creativity) ...
THINK MAKEUP SEX: How good is makeup sex compared to normal sex? WHY? Because you've been pumped through so many emotions. This is what NORMAL sex is like for chicks - hence they like badboys, they like skydiving and sex in exciting places, they like makeup sex, etc etc..
Think Swingdancing routine, think Rollerblading routine, think puppydog routines, think jerk routines, think magic, think funny kino shit like hitting them and spinning them, think cocky stuff. It runs them through various emotions FAST. Story telling must be run in a way that is melodic, and talks fast enough to keep them captivated, but also runs them through emotions at the right progression without talking fast like you're trying too hard.
--Talking from the diaphragm in a fun, non-threatening way. NOT GOING SEXUAL right away in front of her friends (this is not for picking up lone girls, I'm talking public gatherings where I do my pickup.. this is also seduction in the WRONG VENUE, save it for ISOLATION.. don't be tacky and try to seduce her FULLY in PUBLIC). Remember, talking from the CHEST and not the THROAT is key here. You must OVERPOWER her reality with your tonality. This way of talking CUTS THROUGH the noise of the venue, without appearing like you're yelling. Look at how your dad talked to you when he was angry. That is BAD and causes lockup and no buying temperature increase. Look at guys who have FLUCTUATING and FUN tonality. But who are also ALPHA, by virtue of their PROJECTION (diaphragm). Just TALKING without asking them boring questions will unlock and increase buying temperature.
-C&F WORKS because you hit a sharp emotion "Oh that cocky guy, how could he say that!", but because its FUNNY at the same time as cocky, she doesn't get upset. KEY: Making them LAUGH disarms you increasing buying temperature, because the laughter disarms any discomfort.
-PUSH/PULL WORKS because as buying temperature increases, chicks have NATURAL tendency to throw themselves out of state. By gaming them, but pushing them AWAY, they have PERMISSION to ALLOW themselves to go deeper and deeper into state, because they don't worry that you'll exploit that and fuck them "after all, he did say hands off the merchandise.. I can feel this way, and he still won't fuck me".. This is why chicks LOVE gay guys. Because they feel they won't fuck them even if they hit buying temperature. So they can walk around all day at high buying temperature, and not worry that there will be consequences.
FALSE DISQUALIFIERS AND FALSE TIME CONSTRAINTS WORK because the chick says "oh well he can't fuck me.. I can feel free to feel this".. Or "well he's about to leave, so I can feel free to feel this way"
-25 POINTS OF NOT TELEGRAPHING INTEREST WORK because chicks don't worry that you'll fuck them while their buying temperature increases, since you're practically the first guy not to kino them and lean into them and show interest in them, even when they're hot and talking to you. Hence, they react "are you gay", because they can't GRASP that you're not returning their IOIs. They don't say "are you gay" to a 64 year old gay man. They say it to an attractive guy who is turning them on, but not telegraphing interest like EVERY other guy would when she's touching them and all that ("hands off the merchandise"), so they think "WTF, this guy's gay", and ask it all obnoxiously (obnoxious, because its none of their business, and they'd never ask that of a gay guy they're not attracted to).
SUBTLETY: Not telegraphing interest unlocks and ALLOWS buying temperature to increase (because if you convey interest, she won't let herself since she knows you'll fuck her), but it doesn't necessarily increase buying temperature in and of itself. It simply grants PERMISSION to the chick to allow herself to indulge in going into state. As soon as you convey interest (eg: breach one of the 25 points), she may think "shit I can't feel like this", and cuts if off in a fit of anti-slut defense or whatever. SO: Buying temperature is increased by hitting many emotions rapidly, while being unlocked is more from not telegraphing interest (25 points). They are discreet, but run parallel. ONE EXCEPTION: By not telegraphing interest, that MAY sometimes increase buying temperature in and of itself, because the chick may ASSUME that its IMPLICIT social proof (ie: she's not good enough for you, because you lay hotter chicks).
ESCALATION:
At each WAYPOINT, we must ESCALATE.
Buying temperature increases, they want COMFORT. They have COMFORT, they want SEXUAL ("phase shift", etc).
When they hit buying temperature, they say "what's your name", etc, because they want to KNOW the guy who is getting them all into state.
COMFORT BUILDERS (we no longer use RAPPORT, because rapport is one of MANY comfort builders.. Comfort building is the better term IMO, because we're trying to build COMFORT into her being at high buying temperature, rather than trying to get rapport, which connection, trust, commonality, divulging vulnerability, conveying personality and reverse EV, etc etc ALL serve to build comfort.. So RAPPORT is only ONE PART of comfort building):
-It takes roughly 4-7 hours to lay a chick from start to finish (credit Mystery for figuring this out ¬awesomely important, though I didn't realize the importance at the time). Comfort building means BABYSITTING for those hours, while she slowly heats up to be ready for sex - it takes that many hours for her to be ready, unless she's a party chick.
-talking about stuff that DOES NOT pump them through too many sharp emotions rapidly (ie: DROP C&F, drop the crazy exciting shit), but still keeps them into the convo
-talk should convey who you are, so she can fill in the empty canvas and see the PICTURE of 'who is this guy I'm so attracted to' Attraction is THERE - she's at that buying temperature. Comfort building means building COMFORT into the state she's in, so she doesn't put a stop to it.
-include talk about how its NATURAL to feel this way for the right person.. Examples: Evolution Phase shift routine (she feels its EVOLUTIONARY that she feels like this, and backwards rationalizes), or the "I wasn't born with a book on what to do.. I just do what feels comfortable" (chicks KNOW the feeling that certain guys make them comfortable, and ASSUME that they feel this way for YOU"
-SIMULATING THAT *YOU* ARE HITTING BUYING TEMPERATURE: "What's your sign? OH MY GOD I LOVE LIBRAS.. Oh god, I can't talk to you.. you're trouble" (turn away, just like girls whose circuits fry out.. you're TRICKING them to think you're doing what THEY do, since chicks do this shit all the time because they hit buying temperature for retarded arbitrary shit like astrological signs and colognes and shit like that)
FAKING LOCKUP AS PUNISHMENT in 'Punishment/Reward': If you're in comfort building, FAKE the symptoms of lockup. She'll understand what it means when she's like "TD, are you OK?" and I say "I dunno" just like a chick would when she's locked up. She'll grab you and start talking to try to unlock you. For example: HB "I like oranges" PUA "What? Apples. Apples are gross.." (pretends to lock himself up) HB "no no no, I said oranges! Oranges!" PUA "oh shit.. I love oranges.." (pretends to unlock) Congrats, now she's chasing you.
FEAR OF LOSS TO MAINTAIN STATE WITHOUT INTENSE EMOTIONAL UPS AND DOWNS: Some guys complain that in rapport phase (now called "comfort building phase") the girls come out of state. By using punishment reward bit, she'll be chasing you. But ALSO, building in FEAR OF LOSS is effective. Think back to when a girl who you didn't like liked you. Maybe back in high school or some shit. But then you realized that she never liked you. You LOSE the validation you got. You start to obsess. You start to like her. Likewise, you have a state relationship. But she starts to get into another guy. OH SHIT, you're obsessing over her again. Or you make HER jealous, and now she's back into you (even when it was stale). This is the power of FEAR OF LOSS. Fear of loss REMINDS us of how attracted we are.
In comfort building, encorporate fear of loss and punishment/reward, so that you don't suffer the phenomena of losing the chick at rapport phase (aka comfort building phase) because the interaction has lost its charge.
KEYS:
If you FAIL to ESCALATE, the pickup is often OVER.
Example:
1) If you don't stop busting on her, she looses interest after a while, because you're being too emotionally intense for her. She needs COMFORT built into the high buying temperature you're generating. This is why you get guys who are good at opening at attracting, but have difficulty closing unless its a party-chick.
2) If you don't phase shift out of comfort, she gets bored or something (maybe you're beta or not interested)
3) Final escalation - ARGHHHH!! (I got burnt on this FIVE times, until I RECOGNIZED it) If you keep them SEXUAL but don't escalate to FUCK them, its too intense for too long, and they say "I'm tired" or "I feel sick". This is guaranteed. What happens is they get actually QUEASY from you keeping them sexual without fucking them for TOO LONG. If anyone else has had this happen, report back. Have you guys seen this before? Its JUST LIKE the "what's your name" IOI. It's something that CONSISTENTLY HAPPENS under specific circumstances.
QUALIFYING AS A WAY OF 'TRUMPING' SOIs:
When you qualify the chick to you, you've now conveyed to her that you're interested in her for reasons BEYOND her being a nice peice of ass.
So BEFORE, the reason girls in public gatherings would snuff you off when you showed interest was because she thought "he only wants to fuck me".
By making her chase, and then showing her WHY you've found yourself interested in her, she now thinks "well he showed me a signal of interest, but I EARNED it, so its because I'm a Libra and because he felt comfortable talking to me and because I told him I got an A+ in my psych100 class" (If you're interested to read more on this, you can read "pickup of HB10GF" post of mine in my archive, around late last spring, to review how I qualify chicks to me, to convince them they earned it)
If I take a girl's phone#, I find I MUST qualify her prior to taking it. This is because the MERE ACT of phoning her can be a signal of interest. But if I've run my qualification phase, then its NO PROBLEM that I'm telegraphing some interest by phoning, since its WARRANTED.
She's gone into buying temperature, she's chased you, she's EARNED your attention. So now its *OK* that you're showing interest at this point. She'll be fine with it - of course. If you plan to give an SOI in your game, its at THIS POINT that it is less likely to blow you out.
LOGISTICS:
1) Chicks CONSTANTLY look at eachother while they're being pushed into buying temperature. Watch while you sarge, as they CONSTANTLY keep looking at one another to see what state they're in. If they give the "girl code" look that one is not in state, they ALL leave. Chicks NEED to feel that ALL their friends are feeling it TOO, so they don't get looked down on by their friends. This is why social proof is SO important in public gatherings. If ONE chick is not at the SAME buying temperature, then she SEES that her friend will fuck you if she leaves her alone, and she drags her away. You must NOT put a girl TOO FAR into buying temperature in front of her friends, unless you keep them together.
BTW: One reason chicks like socially proofed guys is that they SEE that many other chicks have gone into buying temperature, so its "OK" to allow themselves to do so. Also, if you've read my routine where I get my wingman in on 2sets where his chick isn't liking him, I say "your friend is ignoring my friend.. I don't want him to be lonely.. I'm gonna go", and then YOUR chick will start saying to her locked up friend "no, he's cool.. I like him he's cool.. blah blah", and all of a sudden the previously locked up friend now OPENS UP to your wingman, and now BOTH chicks will fuck you.
2) 2sets are EASY to fclose when you have a competent wing. Why? Because they BOTH go into buying temperature, and since NEITHER will object, it just happens.
3) The smart PUA does as LITTLE as possible to hit the next buying temperature. This way he doesn't exhaust his material, and he doesn't risk the girl FRYING OUT HER CIRCUITS (rock concert style), or possibly her detecting what you're doing and cutting it off. Also, its better, because if she is ONLY at "venue change" buying temperature, then her friends will SENSE this and be less likely to object to you taking her away from them. AFTER you have her away from her friends, you can now pump her up all the way to full buying temperature, and now you've STRATEGICALLY played your game, so that you don't get cockblocked.
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Guys,
im sure we all read about pumping buying temperature in style's book "the game", but im still a bit fuzzy on it.
Does anyone know any routines that are used for buying temperature, or even any explanation that will help me make my own routines for it.
cheers
Malibu
#2 03-07-2006, 06:33 AM
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Originally Posted by Malibu
Guys,
im sure we all read about pumping buying temperature in style's book "the game", but im still a bit fuzzy on it.
Does anyone know any routines that are used for buying temperature, or even any explanation that will help me make my own routines for it.
cheers
Malibu
TD's buying temp article:
"As EACH Buying Temperature increase, the chick will usually SHIT TEST you, as a way of TRYING to throw herself OUT OF STATE. She shit tests by doing things that if you react too seriously, she'll get upset and therefore be thrown out of state. By passing shit tests, Buying Temperature is AMPLIFIED. This is like when Eddy (whitedragonPUA) posted about his HBRugby Lay report She kept punching him all night. After he laid her, he asked her why. She said "I just thought you'd go away"... She knew she was hitting buying temperature, and didn't want to succumb to it so she shit tested by hitting him and hoped that he would back off and she would come down. Think back to when you tried to kiss a girl on a date, and she said "NOT YET". She doesn't mean NO. She ONLY means "I'm not at buying temperature yet.. Give me more gaming". Likewise, you try to venue change a girl, and she says "No. But I still want to talk to you". You keep gaming her, and a few minutes later you change venues. This was because you tried to ESCALATE PRIOR TO ATTAINING THE RIGHT LEVEL OF BUYING TEMPERATURE.
There are many examples of chicks trying to throw themselves out of state when hitting buying temperature, but then by passing shit tests it is actually amplified: Chick feels herself getting horny. HB: "You're a player". PUA: "Yeah.. so what is it that turns you on so much about players anyway" (Response works firstly because you didn't disagree, so she can't get mad for you lying to her and break her own state, and secondly because you say something COCKY, which hits her emotionally, and therefore raises buying temperature)
EG: Chick says "we shouldn't be doing this"... PUA responds "yeah, we shouldn't be doing this" but KEEPS going.
In both cases, the chick feels her buying temperature increasing unusually rapidly (because of the PUA skillset), and tries to stop what's happening. "
Essentially, it is doing everything right-passing shit tests, running troutines, being alpha-EVERYTHING she is NOT used to from most guys...you can definitely tell when you say or do something that spikes it-she leans in more, she touches you more, etc...then that BT is spiking
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#3 03-09-2006, 12:50 PM
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i have a question about "Buying Temp"
Why is it a girl wants to throw her self out of state exactly?
I kind of think its becuase its her ASD kicking in and so she will try to slow down the process but when you respond with an e/g given by TD YOU apm up the BT and then SHE has an excuse to stay in that state and can put the reaons for what is happening on to the PUA and so everything is socially acceptable
Am i right or wrong here?
#4 03-19-2006, 05:57 AM
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Buying Temperature is a TD concept involving how sexually receptive the woman's emotional state is. The higher the BT, the more likely she'll sleep with you IN THAT MOMENT.
You can pump Buying Temperature with ANY attraction technique. Sleight of Hand and mini cold reads pack more bang for the buck. But everything works.
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Why is it a girl wants to throw her self out of state exactly?
Her logical mind is attempting to derail her sexual receptiveness as part of LMR. ie, its protecting her sexual organs from being taken advantage of by continually shit testing whomever is responsible for raising her buying temperature.
Hope that made sense. It's not essential to understand the BT model to succeed at MM, btw. This is a Tyler Durden concept. Not a Mystery concept.
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#5 03-19-2006, 03:57 PM
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Buying Temperature is a TD concept involving how sexually receptive the woman's emotional state is. The higher the BT, the more likely she'll sleep with you IN THAT MOMENT.
You can pump Buying Temperature with ANY attraction technique. Sleight of Hand and mini cold reads pack more bang for the buck. But everything works.
Her logical mind is attempting to derail her sexual receptiveness as part of LMR. ie, its protecting her sexual organs from being taken advantage of by continually shit testing whomever is responsible for raising her buying temperature.
Hope that made sense. It's not essential to understand the BT model to succeed at MM, btw. This is a Tyler Durden concept. Not a Mystery concept.
This is the answer i was after...thanks once again Cedar.
Malibu
#6 04-05-2006, 07:43 AM
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This is the stuff I love right here.
Buying Temperature Spikes (TD v Juggler)
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Everyone always argues over whats better Juggler Method or MM, in act I just saw a post about it. I want to discuss Tyler Durdan's Temperature spike strategy and Juggler's.
Durden says in his Playing Hard to Get post:
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These buying temperature spikes are the right time to start doing subtle takeaways. That is, not the kind of takeaway where you walk off into another set. Rather, you just break eyecontact with her, and face away a bit. You *exactly* what the girls do to you, when you're gaming them in a club, and they get distracted because a peice of your material is not strong enough. You turn to your friends or the bar or the dancefloor, and you make it look like you're about to leave.
*But*, girls are very much accostomed to getting what they want. So unlike
most guys who will give up, their instant reaction is to go "HEY HEY HEY, keep talking.. What were you saying??? What???"
Juggler claims in summary of Juggler Method that:
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The method is not to worry so much about getting deep but to get wide rapport (a feeling like you can talk about anything). Again the key is including and amplifying a girl's response, no matter the response.
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Make an SOI. At all her high points (laughing, etc). This rewards her for trying and sarging you back.
So basically Tyler Durden's approach is too do a IOD on spikes and Juggler's is to SOI in order to expand and increase the connection.
Now ive messed around with both these approaches in the field, but it's hard to say "this way works because it gets better responses." Ive found that jugglers approach sends you into comfort more quickly and is usually elicites a better immidiate response. And while I sometimes I get negative responses from TD's approach, many times the girl does game you and re-engage as TD claims. Maybe I havn't calibrated enough to get positive responses all the time, but at the same time, I agree with TD when he says it sets the right frame by making you the prize (even when the immidiate response is less than great).
Currently I try to start out by mixing them up and then move towards TD approach if the sarge is going well. Then back towards Juggler's as I get into strong comfort and finally seduction (because at first I want to reach the social hook point and later I want her to think she is winning my attention). Also (and this should be intuitive, although I have field tested), Juggler's approach is better for 8s and 7s and Tyler's better for 10's. This would make sense considering that you're already displaying higher value than 8's and 7's so there is no need to make them chase you, or to risk them thinking your "out of their league."
The specific sarge that brought this up for me was an HB9.5 who I gamed (very well) and got into middle comfort but I couldn't close. I wanted to move into a kiss close, but I could tell it wasn't quite there. She was giving out IOI's hardcore but also she kept shit testing me over and over, despite that I kept passing them. (ie she would dance with another dude she knew to make me jealous and I would smile and walk away and she would follow me). I couldn't understand what was going on until I read Durden's post and realized it seemed to her that I was gaming her, she was in the mode where she was being persued and even though she was attracted she couldn't accept that I was doing it too her. What I realized is I almost never used the TD approach, and during this sarge I only used the Juggler approach. It usually works for me, but with certain girls you have to make them chase you. This is especially true when you lack social proof. Doing IOD's like TD social proofs you to an extend. It shows her you don't care AT ALL. Way more than C/F does. You don't need this if you have enough social proof, but if its lacking it is much more important (depending on the girl). In fact I would say that it is all the social proof that you really ever need (except when it is required to open) because by chasing you she has already decided that you are high enough value to fuck.In summation, TD's approach is a risk (which we tend to shy away from in "solid game"), but it also has the advantages of 1. Making her chase you (the best possible frame). 2. Giving you any needed social proof. The Juggler approach 1. Keeps the risk low (she isn't going to lose any connection with you or get pissed at your lack of interest) 2. Allows you to move directly into more material, building more attraction or comfort.
If anyone else has thoughts, I welcome your input. Or respond even if you have a different idea of went wrong in my original sarge. And no I should not have just plowed ahead for the kiss close, I've done this enough to know when something's missing. Plus this girl was part of a closed environment.
#2 05-23-2007, 04:52 PM
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I only skimmed the post but I think you're misunderstanding:
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So basically Tyler Durden's approach is too do a IOD on spikes and Juggler's is to SOI in order to expand and increase the connection.
In TD's post, the timed fractionation on buying temperature spikes are meant for, when YOU do some funny shit, and SHE is laughing, you do a mini takeaway so you dont' seem reaction seeking, and to subtly demonstrate non-neediness and get her to chase.
Juggler says to SOI on HER high points - when SHE does something great, not when YOU are making her laugh. When SHE tells a funny joke, or a good story, or osmething like that, you SOI her. This is just like qualification in the M3 model.
So you are perceiving some sort of difference between the TD and Juggler pieces when in fact they can be used in conjunction.
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#3 05-23-2007, 06:45 PM
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The answer is... they are both right.
You always want to test for compliance and investment on high points ala everyone's favorite red headed PU guru.
And you also want to reward her when she gives that compliance ala everyone's favorite Michiganite.
So the right way to do it is when you sense that you have reached a high enough level of attraction, interest, or buying temp, you should pause and look away to see if she is going to re-initiate the conversation. Then when she does, you reward her by going into qualification.
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FOLLOW THE SHINY THING GIRLS.. FOLLOW IT.. FOLLOW IT.. FOLLOW THE SHINY THING.. ITS GOING OVER HERE..
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Here's how it goes down:
The girl hits full buying temperature. Maybe you did it. Maybe another natural player did it. Maybe her boyfriend pissed her off and de-validated her. Maybe she's on vacation, and she decides she wants it. Whatever the way, she's decided she wants sex TONIGHT, and somebody is going to get it.
You see this in Leicester Square in London England. The girls get hit on all night. The guys hitting on them are getting blown out left and right. But yet, at the same time, their buying temperature is escalating and escalating.
And as we all know, buying temperature is TRANSFERABLE. You can literally walk up to a girl who is being picked up by a player, blow him out, and pull the girl and hook up with her within 45 minutes. I've done it in front of audiences, while they sit there jaw dropped. It appears that I've done something inconceivable, when in fact what I've done it stupidly easy, just as long as you have a bit of balls.
In nighttime social environments, pickup is all about FOLLOW THE SHINY THING GIRLS.. FOLLOW IT.. FOLLOW IT.. FOLLOW THE SHINY THING.. ITS GOING OVER HERE.. :)
That's a metaphor I first got from Toecutter I think, and its funny as hell because its true. In clubs, girls are like little kittens in a prairie, jumping from one stimulus to the next. Chase the butterfly little kitten.. chase it.. chase it.. no wait, a leaf.. chase it.. no wait!, a bird... chaaaaase it....
Girls in clubs, its the same shit. Dance.... Dance.... Drink.. Drink.... No wait! Lights! Music!!! Guys hitting on us... We're listening to them... They're fun.... No wait! They're players... Runnn awaaaaaay!!!! Wait, its my BEST FRIEND... I LOVE HER... HUG MY BEST FRIEND!!! GRIND HER!!!!
God, how do I deal with this shit on a nightly basis? It's like they're on crack. Do you guys see this shit? They see their friends and they run up and scream and hug eachother?
At clubs, most girls look like mindless stimulation seeking zombies. When I run workshops, I call this "the girl is about to pop". What that means is that you'll be running the set, but one of them can't quite hear you or isn't fully interested. And you see her eyes wandering, and she's looking around the club. It's like "This isn't stimulating enough.. Zombie needs more stimulation.. Seek stimulation.. Find it.. Maintain buying temperature.. Zombie LIKES buying temperature... dancing.. .dancing is buying temperature.... Zombie likes dancing... Let's go dance.. Zombie needs zombie friends to come with zombie, so zombie is safe..."
GUYS.... - LET'S - GO - DANCE!!!
And POOF, your set is GONE. Your target girl could have LOVED you, but the second her friends say "Let's go dance", it is fucking OVER. I'll see one of the girls looking around, seeking out other stimulation, and I'll blurt out to my wing "dude, that one's about to pop", and then its "Hey! Show's over here!", to the chick (like from my "How to take the fuck over a set" post I wrote a few weeks ago).
Anyway, getting back to the topic of tug of war, this is the shit I see all the time. The girl hits buying temperature, and now its whoever has the biggest shiny thing that will fuck her that night.
I'll have girls telling me they love me and asking where I'm going after the club closes, and then some other dude will move in, and she'll ignore me and act like I don't exist. Literally, she'll just cut me out of her reality. Then I'll go in and blow the guy out, and he'll leave, and then the girl will be my best friend again.
Bros, this is the harsh world of pickup. It's a cold cruel world... :)
This shit reminds me of rams butting heads on the mating ground. It's fucking crazy some of the shit I've seen and done.
In Las Vegas, I took this girl away from a guy who'd been gaming her all night. I was macking out with her and she's all over me. She says she wants to go home with me and that the guy she's with is a chump (even though she is clearly into him, but she just likes me more now, since I opened her even though the guy was right there).
We go to leave the casino, and her friend wants to back in for one last second and say bye to the guys. The guy I took her from grabs her back chats her for a few minutes, and next thing you know he walks her around the casino for the next 45 minutes while I sit there waiting like a puppydog.. FUCK, so CLOSE.. Like I had them at the cab stand, and now I'm back in here by myself??? My girl comes back and says she can't go home with me anymore, while I see the guy smiling that he's got her now.
I go off to the side, over to the friend and say that I'm gay, and that I want my girl (her best friend) to be my new best friend and to take her shopping tommorow morning. "Can I stay over?" She believes it, and cockblocks the guy who was about to pull the girl that we were fighting over, and we all go home together. The girl hates me, but her buying temperature is up and she needs sex. Oh yeah, did I mention that she was engaged? Anyway, she's fucking hot as hell, I'm there, she's there, and boom, its a done deal.
This was hard core tug of war. The same thing I did in Montreal, when I gamed up this set until they're ready to go home with me and my wing (while the students watch this go down), but then I have to leave to continue the workshop because its too early in the night, so I leave. Meanwhile some natural french player guys move in and start making out with these girls within about 3 minutes! Why? Because the girls buying temperature is up, and these guys can sense it and they exploit it.
Now these girls want to leave with these 2 french player dudes. So I go in with Stephane (of Cliff's List fame), and I make best friends with the two girls and tell them that I love their friend because I love them, and that I want to be best friends with them and that I we'll all be happy together, blah blah.. The girls cockblock the player guys and tell their friends all to go back to my house (incidentally its Cliff's house from Cliff's List, who I'm staying with). Our targets keep trying to go back with the French player guys, but I just cockblock the shit out of them by continually whispering into the obstacles ears that I need help from them. In this case there was a fuckup which I talked about in another post. Either way, the French guys were jaw-dropped when we waved, winked, and laughed at them, as we took away their girls.
I've done this SO MANY times. I'll see a girl who's ready to be pulled, and I just go befriend the obstacles. The obstacles know that their friend is going to sleep with SOMEBODY, so they do what it takes to make sure that somebody is me.
This is hardcore tug of war. You can see it outside clubs at closing times. Accounts are being worked out. Guys are chatting the girls they grinded with all night, trying to get them to "go to the afterbar" or "go eat" with them.
That's how the pull always goes down. It's first to go eat or party more or do drugs or drink at a house or hotel, and one thing leads to another. JLaix uses "We're going to Club Jeffy". Same type of shit.
I've also lost alot of tug of war battles in my day. Of course this is because I'll go into the battle even in spite of knowing that my odds are poor. I do it just for the education.
The other night in Kingston I had this girl ready to leave with me. I also had a date that night with a hotter girl, and ditched this girl at around 11pm. Twentysix was visiting me in Kingston, and we drove over to the girls house, but I realized that I'd forgotten the address. FUCK. So I go back to the club. Surprise, surprise....... The girl is grinding and making out with some new guy, about to go home with him. Of course, its because I upped her buying temperature FOR the guy. FACK!!!
So I get the friends of the girl to drag her off of him for me. Now she's all up on me. She's mine. But I leave for the bathroom for a minute, and I come back and watch the dude who was grinding with her pull her home and fuck her (I found out the next day, because I befriended the friends and called them).
Likewise, I was in Whistler Blackcomb, in British Columbia last weekend. For guys who don't know what that is, its one of the top ski resorts in the world. Fucking AMAZING place to go. Totally amazing experience. So we ski all day, and go clubbing at night. Twentysix and I had gamed up this 2set the night previous, and had a day2 planned with them at one of the bars on the resort. We show up 2 hours late, and these 2 player guys have moved in on our girls. I underestimate them, because our girls run up to us. I figure they're some lameasses. They weren't good looking or big or anything. I say to my girls "Let's get out of here", and they're ready to leave. Out of nowhere, the player guy walks in and says "Let's go do kareoke". I laugh at him internally, because I think he's AFC. But then I notice something. It's subtle, but its clearly there. He's not leaning in. He's not looking needy. He's directing her what to do. He's alpha.
FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCCCCCKKKKKKKK - He's a player and I misread the play.
Despite being about to leave with us, I watch this guy walk in and outalpha me (I sat there indifferent because I couldn't CONCEIVE that this guy could be a player), and take my girls from me. We all go to the next club together, and he has her and I'm looking lame for following along. Twentysix's girl likes him though, and is deciding between this guys' friend and Twentysix. Twentysix's competition isn't too bad, so he blows him out. But the girl tells me "HB decided yesterday after meeting you guys that she was going to get laid tonight. And you guys just came too late."
Twentysix runs the typical routine that we run when this happens, where one girl is ON but the other girl isn't. He tells his girl that if her friend isn't going to make it fun for me that he'll just leave. His girl begs her friend to hook up with me, but the player guy has me by the balls. I actually learned a SHITLOAD from watching this guy work, which I've since encorporated into my game to great effect. So Twentysix games up some other girl who he NEARLY pulls (a super cute blondie, much hotter than his girl), and both girls go home and fuck these two new guys who blew me out.
FUCK FUCK FUCK... I go home alone that night. The same way that many guys have gone home alone because of me. OUCH, I know how it feels now... ahhahaa, its all a game anyway, so I there's winners and losers. I'll be a winner again, and I'm sure I'll lose alot of them too.
For me, when I see its GAME ON with the tug of war, I have key tool's at my disposal:
1) Unlike 99% of natural players, I know that the key to the target is her peergroup. I befriend the obstacles and bring them ALL home together. I literally TELL DIRECTLY to the obstacles to pull her friends off the competing players, because I like and want to date her friend so that way we can all be a happy family.
2) I'm willing to sit in set and just chat the obstacles, while the players up the target's buying temperature for me, and I wait for the perfect time to make my move.
3) Out-alpha tactics, posted in "Some AMOG tactics" post I did a while back.
4) Social proof and jealousy. Unlike most players, I can walk into adjacent sets and blow them up, right in front of the girl I want.
5) Tell the obstacles that I'm gay, and worried about the target, and that I want to be her new gay best friend and take her shopping, and I want to save her from that guy. Then the friends push the girl on me and leave her alone with me, and the target has no idea what I've told the friends. In cases where the target hear's that I told the friends that I was gay, I just say either that I was joking, and then makeout and hookup with the target, or I say they're wrong, or they never said it.. Whatever.
6) I throw up the BIGGER SHINY THING.. I'll do a magic trick (I rarely use them, but I'll use them and make the competing guy player be the guy I do the trick on).. I have this one where I snatch a coin out of the guys' hand, that's not really magic that I learned at an MM Workshop. It's basic, but it works because you OWN the guy in front of the girl. I also just plow them with stories or bring over other girls and introduce them, and then tell the pawn-girls I brought over to chat the guy, and then take my girl back.
Again, notice that I NEVER give up. If I see a girl with her buying temperature up, I LOVE the challenge of competing against other players. You see this in Leceister Square in London at the end of EVERY Friday and Saturday night. The girls are walking around totally in state, and the player guys are coming up to them one by one until one of them pulls them. Crazy shit.
Anyway, this is a fun thing that I like to do, and I know most other PUAsaren't doing this stuff.
I really encourage you guys to have no fear of approaching even 1guy/1girl two sets, and taking the girls. You'd be surprised how often the two barely know eachother. Also, if you EVER and I mean *EVER* see natural players gaming up girls, never be afraid to go in and open ONLY the girls.
How do you know if its natural players? Hahaha, well, I hate to say this, but 9 times out of 10, if the girls look like they're having a good time (ie: they're giggly or touching the guy alot), then its a pickup, NOT a boyfriend with his longterm girlfriend. Why? Because girls aren't having fun if they're with their LTR. They usually only have fun with players. haaa, sad but true.
So if you see girls all giddy, then its probably a pickup, and you can easily swoop in and play a little tug of war with the other PUAs.
It's fun, and I often make friends with the other natural PUAs who I'm competing against. In fact some of my friends I've met in the field are players whose girls I've taken home right from them, earned their respect, and now we hang out.
I have a ton more to say on this topic also, which maybe I'll post someday or in addition to this. Tug of war is something I do all the time, and I encourage you guys to give it a shot because its WAY easier than it looks. It looks tough, but if you just use the principles you learn from ASF, you'll find its in fact very easy. Just ignore the social situation, and PLOW THEM FUCK OUT OF THE GIRLS WITH ROUTINES right in front of the guys. Easy shit, and great for ONS.
Tyler Durden
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playing hard to get
by Tyler Durden
-Active Disinterest & Buying Temperature Spikes -Screening vs Chasing switch -Social hook point and sexual hook point -Female psychology (autopilot responses, socially conditioned buying temperature regulation, value responses, choice making fuck ra
PLAYING HARD TO GET - BEING A CHALLENGE - BEING THE PRIZE
I talked about posting some more advanced material for guys who are interested. Here is a first helping. If you're not interested in dense material, read something else.
This is one of the most important posts I've written in some time, and it will likely go misunderstood given that most guys will not have the field experience to appreciate it. It is the most important thread I've posted in six months.
For guys who can gain attraction very consistently, but still have trouble getting laid: read this post until you have it down.
A few things to keep in mind, I want to throw out here:
-Buying Temperature Spikes
-S/C Switch (Screening vs Chasing switch)
-Social hook point and sexual hook point
-Female psychology (autopilot responses, socially conditioned buying temperature regulation, value responses, choice making fuck rationalizations)
-Bodylanguage subcommunication of hard-to-getness (the idea of not saying you're hard to get, but communicating it with your bodylanguage)
***This post is directed towards girls who you ascertain are attracted to challenging guys. Not all girls are like this, but many hot girls are. Again, many aren't. For guys use or advocate other styles which don't make use of this sort of stuff, the reason that they are getting laid is that they using other means of getting laid. There is more than one style. This post is something that is useful for guys in my context, and if you're using a totally different style than me, then this stuff may be useless to you.
SOME ROUGH THOUGHTS ON FEMALE PSYCHOLOGY:
Many of the hottest girls are extremely responsive to hard to get guys. Anyone in field has experienced the scenario where he plays hard to get and having the girl chase, but as soon as he shows interest he is blown out. This can happen even as late as the bedroom. Like, you'll have a girl chasing you all night, isolate you back home, but because you make the first move, she locks up and the pickup is over.
There are several reasons behind this, and in any given situation the lockup may have been caused by one or all of the reasons.
Firstly, you have autopilot responses. Think to the last time that you walked down the street, and a vagrant asked you for change. Perhaps you said "no", and kept walking. You don't consider it a lie. It's just an autopilot response to a social situation. Girls are the same with the LJGD ("let's just go dance") or "let's go to the bathroom", when their buying temperature goes down and their logical social conditioning kicks in and says "This guy is trying to sleep with us. He may be attractive, but who cares, I'm not meeting a guy at a club. I'm leaving this situation to go dance, because that's why I came to the club in the first place."
Notice also, how in all of the times that you've told a vagrant "no" when you were asked for spare change, there were those few times when someone asked you for help, and you said "no" out of habit, when in fact as you walked off you might have thought to yourself "Shit, maybe that guys' car really did break down. He didn't look like a vagrant. I wonder if I was a dick to him?"
The same goes for girls. They'll screen guys out as an auto-pilot response, and later wonder if they made a mistake (but they don't care, because another guy will come along in two seconds anyway). Attraction and how alpha or how sexual you are is not a factor here. Even very attractive guys get screened out for no logical reason. This is purely an autopilot response that you have to recognize and dodge. That is why we use opening tactics - they open consistently.
Likewise, girls will leave a set as their buying temperature increases too fast, as an autopilot response. They think "I don't know this guy. This guy knows what he's doing, and probably does it to all the girls. I'm getting out of here." This is why we use fractionation tactics, so as to avoid her disengaging you. Note also, that typical C&F push/pull is NOT a fractionation tactic. C&F and the like is not indirect, even if you are flirting around that you are hard to get. Girls know that if you're taking the time to engage them, even in a C&F hard to get flirtish type way, that it is not the case that you are *legitimately* hard to get. This is in the same way that when a girl comes up to me and says that my shirt is stupid - I know that she wants me. There is no difference. C&F is simply a *competent* way of flirting, that says a million and one great things about you. It's still (arguably, depending on semantics) a direct approach in some ways. It's just a direct approach that girls like, because it still shows that you are willing to walk away - you're interested, but you can take it or leave it. So that said, you can see how "You're my new girlfriend.. No wait, you don't have x-whatever? We're broken up." is not a fractionation technique. It's highly competent flirting, but its not *actually* conveying that you don't want her in a way where she really believes it.
**If I had to pinpoint one reason why guys who come to this stuff have trouble getting results, its what is outlined in this post. Girls are used to sex going down in a certain way. Walking up to girls and overtly trying to pick them up goes against what they're used to. It's a violation of social norms. Girls will tolerate it as cute, and they'll be interested to see what you'll do. But they'll rarely sleep with you (unless they are at a certain point in their lives where they are open to the idea, which I'll post about below in terms of "fuck rationalizations" - and this does happen often, which accounts for alot of the success that we see with other styles of approaches). Guys go in trying to convince the girl, when they should be BAITING the girl into convincing THEM. As a result, most of the bold moves that guys who come to the scene attempt, wind up not yielding any results.
So back on female psychology then, why do girls like *actual* hard to get guys?
Girls naturally enjoy having their buying temperature pumped up high. So if they can get those emotions out of an interaction, without worrying that the guy will exploit her suggestable state and have sex with her, then she can just get all emotionally aroused around him, and enjoy it. Of course what happens from there is that she backwards rationalizes it, and then convinces herself that she legitimately wants the guy. From there, she decides that she's going to get the guy, and starts chasing him in a manner as unsophisticated and blatantly obvious as how a pissed drunk AFC would chase a girl that he wants at a party. She'll kino him, giggle and scream around him, compliment him, signal her friends to help her, and try to isolate him.
Notice, as this post goes on, that this last paragraph explains why just getting a girls' buying temperature up high is not good enough, and that she actually has to chase. It's because of the backwards rationalization process, and the sexual hook point that she crosses over as a result. The S/C switch (screen/chase) gets flipped.
There are also issues of validation at work. Notice that if you tell a girl "I hate you", she starts touching you immediately, and begs to know why. Notice that if you engage the whole set, but actively ignore the choice girl, she'll start trying to get you to talk to her. This is all validation. It's more validating for the often insecure hot girls, to sleep with a guy who will reinforce that she is beautiful.
Think about your last cute girlfriend. She was cute. She was great in bed. But sooner or later, you got used to it, and took it for granted. Your relationship started stagnating. Then you're out at a party one night, and all these guys are giving her attention. Her friends are there, and she's having a great time just doing her own thing. All of a sudden, she looks different. She seems different. You say to your friend, "You know man, I was just thinking how cool Kathy is. I really want to stick with her." Then she comes over, and sits with you. And its like "Wow, I actually have this girl with me. This is awesome".
Haa - she's no different than she was an hour ago when you were sick of her. But when you can tell that someone doesn't need you, they just SEEM different. There's something about it that's hard to articulate. But what it boils down to, is that all of a sudden, this person's attention has become a source of validation for you. And as a result, they seem more attractive. (BTW: I use the paragraph before this one as a killer routine in sets, except I take out the part about stagnation and focus more on how I know that I appreciate someone and the positive sides of it).
In addition to the validation issue, there are basic genetic/status explainations and accounts for why hard to get guys are appealing. Very basically, guys who are sexually pre-selected by other girls because of their genetics and/or social status will be hard to get, because they can't be bothered with chasing women. They simply walk around, and girls chase them. Chasing a girl is in some ways subcommunicating that you are not one of these guys. If you go to the high class venues in Los Angeles, the mere act of actively picking up is looked down on by the highly socially proofed guys. They'll say things like "That guy over there is trying to pull ass. Kick him out."
A counter argument is that an alphamale will see a girl that he wants, and will just go up and assume the sell. This can also work, if you genuinely come across that way, and if you have the followup to back it up congruently.
Generally though, this is uncommon. Natural PUAs generally just walk around, and girls give them AIs (approach invitations) or make it really easy for them by throwing themselves at them, in a way that most surrounding men just don't recognize (and women don't acknowledge, as this would be a breach of "Secret Society" to admit what's happening, and would break down their whole system of secretly being the CHOOSERS). Note, that the idea of the alphamale who does approaches in society is a SOCIAL MISCONCEPTION. This rarely happens. Generally, natural alphamales do not do cold approaches. I've travelled all over North America and Europe, and I rarely see it. I know exactly what to look for - and I *rarely* see them initiating cold approaches. It happens only in certain communities, like London and NYC. But this is very very uncommon, and even in these communities 99% of the naturals who get laid often are still not doing cold approaches.
The ideas that "men take all the risks in escalation" and "men do the approaching, women do the receiving", that the academic community of psychologists and zoologists have espoused is BAD DATA. It is literally a fallacy and blemish of the academic community. It is a pathetic and glaring example of the follies of academia's white ivory tower armchair theorism, from eggheads who couldn't put any of their theory into practice if you gave them 10 years of prepare it (this is a gripe that I have as a student of political and analytic philosophy, that I see transferred over into this field as well). What these social scientists don't see (AFCs that they are), while they're watching all of the interactions that they supposedly use as empirical data in their published studies (which influence social understandings and thus social conditioning), is that while the men are the ones approaching and escalating, it is the women who are throwing themselves at these clueless men, until they do something. So in that case, the woman has virtually ALREADY DECIDED that she wants the man, and from there she just doesn't admit it (secret society breach), but rather throws herself at the guy until he escalates. She even puts up silly shit tests like (this from a double lay that SB007 and I did on a 2set that we pulled) "Just because you're renting that hotel, doesn't mean we're going up with you."... and later on in the night .... "just because we came up here, doesn't mean we're sleeping with you.." And typical AFCs, will say "Wow, we really plowed through that resistance", when in fact these girls had chosen to sleep with SB007 and I LONG before we'd taken them back to the hotel that we rented right in front of them. We were the hard to get guys, and just let them play out their dramatic act of throwing themselves at us in subtle ways, while pretending that they we didn't know what was happening. And then we allowed them to structure the extraction while making it look like it was our idea and not their fault, and then afterwards they denied responsibility for what took place, while they still email us regularly and want to meet up again. These girls would claim that we chose them, when in fact they chose us - which few people realize is the way it almost always happens.
The idea that "girls choose" also stems from the male/female social dynamic in our society, and the practises and habits that spawn from it. Men are unconsciously giving sexual validation to attractive women all day long, in one way or another. It's either they're checking them out, asking them the time, trying to make small talk, or pivoting left instead of right as they walk out of a room - when it would be faster to pivot left but he can catch a glimpse of her by pivoting right. Girls are all too aware of this stuff. It's built into them. They also go to the club religiously, to relish the process of guys buying them drinks and checking them out, and then shooting them down. A quote over from literally the hottest girl on my campus two months ago after an off-night: "I'm so depressed. No guys approached me tonight. I would never get together with a guy from a club, but I can't believe that I didn't get approached."
So what winds up happening, is that girls get into a pattern of not seeking out sex. They tend to go in cycles, where rather than chasing sex, they simply decide to give it up at arbitrary times. "This is the day that I will give it up." So for example, a typical girl will have a "revenge" fuck, a "just broke up with my boyfriend rebound" fuck, a "I haven't gotten laid in exactly 6 months" fuck, a "I'm on vacation and there are no social consequences and I just want to have fun" fuck, a "I need to revalidate myself being snubbed to prove I'm beautiful" fuck, a "romantic tryst adventure" fuck, a "jump on the sword so my friend can have her guy" fuck, a "I haven't gone home with a guy before, and all my friends have and I want to try it" fuck, etc etc etc. Then of course there is the "I've been dating this guy 3 months, and he provides well and its time to give it up now" fuck, which is the one that we typically aren't concerned about on this chat forum.
The girl has had sex available to her continually, but she can't "give it up" at every opportunity that comes around, because she'd wind up sleeping with 15,000 different men by the time she was finished. So instead, she comes up with rationalizations of when and where to give it up.
Thus, it is the case that girls are in the habit of making the choice. The second that they see that the guy is trying to make the choice for them, the sequence is broken, and their auto-pilot response kicks in and they automatically go back to screening him (even if they like him), just as they had on every other day prior to this one. (Don't make the mistake of thinking that you still don't have to do the work in making up BS excuses so that it isn't the girls' fault, once the ball is rolling. That is a different story. It still has to be "not hard fault". What's being discussed here is a separate issue from that).
This is the fallacy that guys make when approaching. They think that they can choose the girl, because they've pumped her buying temperature and she's been receptive to it. In practice though, if the S/C Switch doesn't flip, she'll still just sit back and enjoy the emotions, without having to give up anything in return. That's when you get situations where the girl will hang with you alll night, but won't give up her #, or she'll give it but she'll flake, or she'll give insurmountable LMR even if you extract.
That's because the right SEQUENCE hasn't been initiated, to make her "Today is the day" switch flip (where she'll pick from one of the many fuck-rationalizations, in the heat of the moment). And that sequence is "Guy is attractive. I can't take it anymore, so today is the day. I choose guy. I throw myself at him in oblique ways that he can't directly prove is me actually doing it. He eventually notices my actions and picks me up. I do nothing to help it move along, but if he makes everything happen and alleviates me of responsibility then it happens. He takes the credit for picking me up." The sequence is NOT "Guy walks up and tries to attract me. I decide that I'm attracted. I let him fuck me."
For that reason, the guy may have switched every attraction switch in the book in terms of buying temperature, but unless she is the one making the choice, the S/C switch will not be flipped. She is attracted, but her thought process is STILL occupied with trying to find every reason possible not to let anything happen.
She must switch from the typical mode of perpetual screening, to chasing. Her THOUGHT PROCESS must be switched. She must believe that you are a guy who is a source of attraction (ie: buying temperature escalation), but that you are not intentionally doing it to her. This is the same reason that if you tell a girl that you study 'pickup', she will be offended. You are breaking the sequence that is protected via the Secret Society, so to speak. You are messing up their ability to make a "good" choice.
From there, she has switched into chase mode. She is no longer dwelling whatsoever on why she shouldn't do anything (as she would be perpetually, if she thought that you were trying to lay her). Now, she's focused only on how to make it happen with you. Her thought process has changed. The S/C Switch has been flipped. She's focused solely on making it happen (except that she's not admitting to herself that she's trying to "get laid" - nope - she's just trying to continue the interaction back to somewhere that it could happen, despite that she deep down knows that she IS trying to get laid, but won't actively admit it to herself).
So that said, how do you trip that switch early on? Let's look at some straight tactics.
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FLIPPING THE S/C SWITCH, VIA TIMED FRACTIONATION ON BUYING TEMPERATURE SPIKES:
What is a buying temperature spike? You've all seen it. It's when you do or say something to give the girl a quick shot of emotions. Like a C&F remark where she goes "Oh!" and swats you. Or you tell her that you know something that she wants to know bad, and she goes "OMG OMG OMG, tell me tell me tell me!" Or when you run a really tight story that has her dying laughing or excited or intrigued. Or if you do a DHV, like the coin snatch trick or Mystery's 3 and 7 routine, and she freaks out. Or a great joke. Or even just coming in strong with good bodylanguage and tonality, and sucking up the attention of everyone in the set, and her buying temperature shoots up (you see this when you go in with an opener, and the girls just jump to talk to you or answer your question). Whatever.
You see it on their face, and you see it in the way that they turn their bodylanguage towards you, and when they kino you. Her buying temperature has shot up. Usually, it hits in abrupt bursts. Little spikes on the graph. You know you can't *maintain* this level indefinetely, but you can hit that level in bursts.
These buying temperature spikes are the right time to start doing subtle takeaways. That is, not the kind of takeaway where you walk off into another set. Rather, you just break eyecontact with her, and face away a bit. You *exactly* what the girls do to you, when you're gaming them in a club, and they get distracted because a peice of your material is not strong enough. You turn to your friends or the bar or the dancefloor, and you make it look like you're about to leave.
*But*, girls are very much accostomed to getting what they want. So unlike most guys who will give up, their instant reaction is to go "HEY HEY HEY, keep talking.. What were you saying??? What???"
That is your first step in getting the girls chasing. You have conveyed that you might walk away at any point, and all of the aforementioned issues are now dealt with. You are an attractive guy, and you have very clearly (in such a subtle way) demonstrated that you are not trying to get her. IOW, the natural process of her becoming attracted to you and choosing you has begun.
This kind of timing takes time and practice to cultivate. It can also be learned right off the opener. Here are some examples:
OPENER CLASS: "BAIT OPENERS" - SPIKE BUYING TEMPERATURE, AND TAKEAWAY TO BAIT HER TO OPEN YOU
1- "I'm shy":
My friend Shannon walks up to a set. I walk up to her and she introduces me. I say "Hey, I'm shy" with a super cocky look on my face, and turn to Shannon and say "Let's go outside". Here I looked like a cocky cool and fun guy, who they were about to get a little bit of buying temperature entertainment from - gratuitous entertainment for their night. But I *spotted* that look on their face, so I automatically took it away. *But*, I left a hook that they could grab on to. I said "Hey, I'm shy", and then turned to Shannon as if I were about to leave. In fact, I wasn't, but knew that they'd force me to stay. From there, they scream "Why are you shy?! Why are you shy?! Don't go.. Why are you shy?!", and I roll back in and game them. You can also use "I hate you", "I hate you guys", or "I hate girls". These work amazingly well as followups, and work well when you're merging into a set with your wing. Again, the girls say "Why?? Whyyyy?!??"
2- Eyecodes and bluffing that you're entering the set, and flashing peacocky zipper:
I walk by some guys who are gaming a set poorly. I walk right up to the set, and do "let's go" girl eye code to the girls (I roll my eyes, like "These guys are tools"). I also make little eye movements down to where their hands are too eagerly touching the girls, and make eye movements at the beers that they bought for them, and smirk right after I see them. The girls know what's up - they can tell that I know the deal of how women are. I walk right up like I'm about to out-alpha the guys, but then shake my head a bit like "This is too lame for me to even bother with", and then back away while still maintaining eye contact with the girls. Here I am using my PRESENCE as something that will give them a quick buying temperature level spike, and then I am withdrawing. I then proceed to tug on the zipper of my very peacocky zipper covered (BAIT) vest, and look from her eyes down to my vest. I have provided the bait. The girls immediately go "Hey! That vest is awesome! Let me see! Let me see!", and blow off the guys and jump over to me.
3- Take over set with C&F comment and AMOG blaster:
I look over from my barstool, and plow in with booming tonality some C&F comments, and proceed to shoot a quick out-alpha routine on the AMOG. For anyone who read my FR last week, it was a coment about a girl saying that everyone thought she had fake breasts. I yelled over "That's great - they'll give you boyancy if we're ever lost at sea. You'll be the only one to survice". Both girls look at me, and are intrigued. Then the AMOG says "Hey, this is my girlfriend", and I reply with "Haa, cool.. You guys look so similar, I thought that you guys were brother and sister. If you guys have kids they'll look like (I do a funny impression)." I then make a comment to the guy that he owns this end of the bar, turn my barstool around, and takeaway. Again, I have come in with COOLER presence than everyone else. I added energy to the group, which spiked up the girls' buying temperature, and then noticing that I immediately took it away. The girls immediately re-open me.
4- Opinion opener:
This is something that I do all the time with Sickboy007. Like all the time. This is key to our game. We roll into set talking amongst ourselves. Like we are the coolest guys in the club, and not needy at all. We're having more fun in our own conversation than we could be talking to anyone else. (Note: We usually actually ARE, so this is congruent. We talk about cool shit while we're in the field, and joke around alot. This keeps our state up, and is much better than talking game in field and getting too analytical). Despite being both guys, because we are both cool we actually provide more social proof to eachother than a female pivot would. So right off the bat, we look like best friends who could care less if they'll talk to us or not, because we are cooler and more interesting than them. We tap one of the girls, and run the first line of the opinion opener. They're thinking "Wow, those cool looking guys we saw are actually coming over to talk to us". Then they give their answer, and I we immediately turn our bodylanguage away from facing them, and into eachother. Then we assimilate their answer into our conversation, and transition into joking around about other shit that the girls DON'T GET, but it sounds interesting. So the girls see that we basically just tooled them to add to our own fun, and they can see that our conversation is so fucking interesting that they want to join it very badly. After all, we weren't rude. We just didn't follow them like puppydogs, like most guys would. So notice that the hook has been laid. The girls will interrupt us, and say 'Why did you ask us that? What about David Bowie?? What?? What?? How old is your little sister??" They keep trying to get in, and win us into a conversation.
**Notice that in all these cases, I'm laying the bait on the hook, and then pulling it back. I don't actually walk away. I just make the initial body movements that I'm about to walk away, because of the way that I pivot my body. But I'm not actually walking away. In fact, I'm not going anywhere. I know that if I lay the hook right, they'll start trying to re-open ME. It's all in hitting it at the *exact* moment, and then turning as if you're about to walk away, but providing some bait that they can open you off of, so they don't have to think too hard (God forbid).
IMPORTANT:
In addition to setting the hard to get frame, there are other things being laid down here that will help your pickup as it goes along. When you come in with a straight opener, and then start talking, she will often go into "receptive mode". An example that I do in seminar to explain this, is I'll be talking for an hour, and then out of nowhere I'll point to a student and say "Hey man. Do me a favour. Say the coolest thing that you can think of right now. Just say any random cool thing. Whatever you want." *Never* has a student been able to do it. They just sit there gawking, and they can't think of a single thing to say. Likewise, nobody else in the room can either. That's because their brain has been in "receive" mode for the last hour. They've been sucking up all the info, and their mental process of calling things up isn't in gear. It's like doing your math homework. Your first problem takes you 10 minutes. Your second one, 5. Then every one after that takes 1 minute each. That's because your brain has engaged into "math mode". Likewise, if the girl is just listening and listening, she won't be able to qualify herself to you very easily, because she's too busy taking what you're saying all in. So what winds up happening (and many guys will recognize this phenomenon), is that a pause occurs in the conversation, and because the girl feels the emotion of discomfort that she can't think of a way to fill it, she immediately says "Cool. Anyway, I have to go dance now". And POW, even though she was digging you, she left because the emotion of not having anything to say sunk her buying temperature so quickly. Another reason, is because by talking so much, you're logically disengaging her so strongly, that the sudden cognitive shift from the emotional saturation of being gamed without having to contribute anything, to suddenly actually having to (God forbid) THINK about what to say, will slam gear shift her brain into logical thinking so fast, that its like slamming your car from 5th to first gear, while driving 100 down the freeway. So better, is to get BOTH her mind thinking of what to say, and buying temperature still escalating. This happens, because she's getting excited by the process of actually gaming you. You've baited her into selling herself on you. This is a basic persuasion tactic. Nothing more. Before she's even had a chance to decide whether or not she even wants you, you're already taking away the option. But of what she's seen of you, you spike her buying temperature, so she felt high attraction for the second that you were there. That way, when its time for her to pipe in, she can easily think of something to say, and the set will hold, AND she'll be more likely to be able to qualify herself to you.
And that said, they often WILL do things to qualify themselves to you. You can AMPLIFY this again, with some playful hard to get tactics.
This is a really fucking key peice. Pay close attention to it. Say for example, you went in with "I'm shy", and then pulled out. They'll say "Why are you shy? We're nice girls!" You can reply "Umm yeah.. You're OK.. Oh shit, you have a belly button ring. Don't show me that." Immediately, you'll see them jumping up and pulling your face down to look at their peircing. They'll say "Look at it! Loooook at it!!!!" Then you look at it, and like they've entranced you, you talk to them a bit more.
The same can be done after you exchange signs. They'll tell you that they're Libras, and you say "I can't talk to you anymore.. You're trouble". This is as if you're moderating your own buying temperature. You turn your back on them, and they'll grab your shoulder and say "NO!! You tell me your sign NOW!! Are you a Libra too?!?!"
Another one you'll see alot, is that you run the hook, and pull back. Typical girl tactics, they'll start touching you. So say that they touch your shoulder. You can act like it feels really good. You mumble "That actually feels really good - my shoulder is so sore. You have to stop doing that.. Stop.. Seriously.. That's a bad idea.." They'll do it more and more. "OK, you're getting me all emotional.. enough.."
Even without hook openers though (which I only use a small percentage of the time), I can still engage the chasing just further into the set. It doesn't require that you do it right off the opener like in the case of hook openers. Its convenient if you can do it early, but it isn't required at all. The only time limit is that the dynamic isn't set in stone that you're too giving and eager. So long as I avoid that scenario, I will only do it off the opener if I spot a buying temperature spike. Otherwise, I proceed as normal, until I see it.
I do the same on tonguedowns. I'll be kissing the girl, and then I'll pull back, and mumble "OK, stop.. We seriously have to stop." They'll say "Why?" and keep trying to push more. You say "I'm just getting so....." and then they'll pull you back in. Do this repeatedly. This is an extension to the Style kiss close, where he goes in with "I'm trying so hard not to kiss you right now".
Basically, the idea here is that you BAIT the girl, by giving her information on how to seduce you, but telling her not to do it.
The thing is though, that you have to be congruent with it. You actually use your bodylanguage at various points, to deliberately try to screw up your own pickup. Because girls are used to getting what they want, they'll re-initiate it HARD. This is NOT just a verbal thing. It's a bodylanguage thing. Girls respond to how you use your body. Try to speak using your body.
This is very similar to martial arts. It's like "parry, strike, dodge, parry, strike, dodge.. strike.. etc etc.." You're going "Hit up buying temperature, pull back.. Give her an idea of how to seduce you, pull back.. Give a bit.. Hit up buying temperature again.. Pull back.. Hit up buying temperature again.. Pull back.. Give her an idea.. Pull back.. etc etc"
From there, when I do extractions or get a phone number, I also make them work for it. Often, they'll be walking away and say they have to go. I'll say "OK" and just look at them blank. They'll immediately offer their # or to take mine. But that aside, I also use bait to make them go for it. I'll wait until they say something cool, and I'll act like a girl whose buying temperature just shot up. I'll look intrigued or excited and say "Wow. Geez, I have to take you to x-place". I'll pick something that I know they want bad. Something that they'll react to. Or I'll just use something ordinary, but I'll map out a scenario (using future adventures projection of us doing awesome stuff), and just go with that. They'll immediately offer up their number. Then I'll say "OK cool", and just change the subject. Just like how a girl does to guys. What's next is funny to watch. She'll start trying to naturally "slip in" that I should take her number. I'll keep saying "Yeah cool, I'll get it later". I keep doing this, until she's asked me to exchange numbers around 5-15 times over the next hour. Often they'll just ask me for my number out of concern that I won't call. When I finally acknowledge that I'll call is when she does something impressive. Then I'll say "WOW.. What was your number again? I'm definetely calling you." Moreover, girls will also try to extract me for food after the club closes. I'll say "Yeah awesome!" but then turn to my wing and keep talking to him. They keep pushing for it, and they'll run and grab their friend and try to make their friend convince me as well. Then I'll capitulate. I may not necessarily wait for them to initiate it. Many just won't. So instead, I'll wait for them to do something to impress me, and then I'll suggest it. If they're giving me a backrub, I may say "I'm hungry. I want to go to Denny's after this."
But I do the same in the other direction. I act just like a flakey stimulus seeking girl. If they bore me, I just walk off in distraction. If something interesting happens, I'll walk over to it to check it out. If a good song comes on, I may just get up and walk away. If they say something I don't like, I'll lean away and start looking at other girls. They have to keep tapping me on the shoulder and tell me to keep talking, in order for me to stay attentive.
So how do you seduce in a case where the act of seducing would be incongruent to everything you've built up. They play it up, and the girl tries to get them, but then they stupidly go against everything that they've been doing get them attracted all this time, and start trying to seduce them. This is incongruent. It kills attraction instantly. It relies on some fallacy that the girl likes you for your personality, when in fact she may, but it is not relevant to her *attraction* for you. You're switching gears too quickly, from 5th to 1st gear, in one foul swoop. It doesn't work. Attraction dies instantly. I've had girls who went completely cold, even after spending hours with me - all because I dropped the hard to get act, and started trying to escalate - without doing the right transition work (I will explain).
Instead, you have to play it smooth. This requires you to have strong verbal skills and calibration skills. The girl has been getting you comfortable being closer and closer to her the whole time, so its fine if you're right next to her, and even in kino. But you have to keep presenting challenges to her, and punishing and rewarding her with those challenges. She'll say something that I like, and I'll lean in like I'm about to kiss her. Then I won't. I'll slowly start moving back, until she says something else that I like. Then I move in closer than the first time. Then I move slowly back. Then she says something that I like, and I move right in to kiss her, and say "You're getting me all emotional", and pull back. Then I keep my face up to hers, and we talk face to face, with lips grazing eachother, and she says something I like and turn my face and stop talking, and then her talking will merge into triangular gazing and my lips will graze hers more and then we're making out. I may also say "I'm not going to" at different points, when she's obviously trying to move in to kiss me. If she says "Not going to what?", I won't answer. Rather, I'll just keep talking in the quiet face-to-face way that we've been doing.
Also - again, you can do things like "You're wearing Channel? Don't let me smell it.. Don't..." (she'll practically tackle you and put her neck up to your face to make you smell it). Then you can phase shift, but then snap your own state and move back. But as you're moving back, you say things to pump her buying temperature.
A GREAT thing to reward girls for is also dancing in front of you, or in between your legs. Although they'd never admit it (Secret Society Breach), dancing is a sexual exhibition. So if you can make her perceive that her dancing is what's getting your buying temperature up, she'll feel fully qualified. You kiss her, but you still don't keep trying. You just do it, and then sit there blank afterwards. She still has more to do.
Remember that this is like fucking with magnets. You're constantly backing off, but doing it SPECIFICALLY at a time when you know you've spiked buying temperature, so that she'll chase the stimulus.
That's the part that's so hard to convey in text. I show this to guys in workshop no problem, but I can't explain it that well. You have to actually take the time to mentally catalogue all of the little bodylanguage mannerisms that girls use, when they're getting distracted. And then you use these on them. And when you use them, you have to TIME it just at the right time - right when you hit on the right emotion. Always remember that there are so many fucking little ways that you reveal that you really want her. It only takes the slightest slip, and the jig is up. You have to be congruent.
Note that if you pull away at the wrong time when her buying temperature is down, she'll backwards rationalize that she is not experiencing attraction, and that she's not attracted to you anymore and that she's HAPPY that you're backing off. This will end it. So you have to have the verbal game and physical coquettishness to play this up properly.
Now as for seducing, this is like trapping an animal that you've baited closer and closer. If you do decide to pounce on her, do it ONLY once she has been baited too close, and she won't be able to get away. What I mean by that, is do it only once you have her lying with you snuggling, and then you can start playing your late game. If you do it prior to that, her physical horniness from contact with you won't have kicked in yet, and she'll have nothing to counter-act the state breaker that you dropping the hard to get act was playing up.
Notice, btw, that there is both a social hook point and a sexual hook point. Style has talked about the "hook point", as the point in the pickup in which the girls have stopped wondering "why is this guy talking to us", and have decided that they don't want you to leave. They'll do things to help the conversation continue, and your life becomes much easier. The same goes down the line, where there is a sexual hook point. You'll see this alot, especially with girls on vacation. This is where they've actually decided that they want to hook up with you. If you get this kind of girl, you'll notice zero LMR down the line. If you escalate, she will not resist IF she feels that she worked hard enough to get you. If not, then her desire to meet a challenge has not been fulfilled, and instead she thinks "Haa, he wants me for no reason like everyone else. What a chump."
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Anyway, in summary, a few points to have taken from this are:
1- There is a natural social process that occurs, which women don't want you to know about. They want you to think that you're the one who picked them up, so they don't have to "be responsible" for it. However, this fallacy has spawned guys in this community to develop pickup styles that violate social practices, in a way that isn't effective. (I violate social practices myself, but in a way that nobody spots). That's why when you talk about hitting on girls, the girls don't like it. But if you ask them "How *would* you like a guy to hit on you?" they have no realistic reply. It's because they secretly know that they pickup guys, but don't admit it publically or even to themselves.
2- Being able to attract a girl is often not enough. Girls find themselves wanting to sleep with various guys that they see all day long. What it takes to actually get laid, is to flip her S/C switch, so that she's decided "Today is the day. This guy is the guy". This is why there are many guys in the scene who can run a tight set, but still don't get laid. They have a certain part of their game down, but need to work more on flipping that fucking S/C Switch.
3- Being aware of buying temperature spikes, and knowing WHEN to pull away is key. If you just pull away at arbitrary times, you will not get a result.
4- Guys think that looks is the most important part of a pickup. In fact, its brains. You have to be smart as fucking hell to do this stuff. You have to think fast on your feet, and you have to calibrate. Most guys don't have a repertoire of material that will spike buying temperature, and fall into a trap of talking about situational stuff, which girls just interpret as you trying to get rapport with them, and makes you unchallenging.
5- There is a difference between a girl being attracted to you, and a girl wanting to fuck you. If you are TOO GIVING in set, then you run the risk of being the first guy, not the second. You have to be giving, but strategically.
6- To implant the idea of seducing you into the girls' mind, you have to have a repertoire of material to do so. That is BOTH material to entertain sets so you can pull a girl from her group or open a lone girl in a way that doesn't set off an autopilot response, but also you have to have material that gets her thinking that she wants you and gets her chasing you. This material is a combination of regular material that you use to spike buying temperature, and then pulling back, as well as recognizing anything that you can misinterpret as her trying to seduce you, and then pulling back from that as well, which raises the challenge and makes her do it more, and then you can play with it in the ways that were mentioned.
Tyler Durden
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