So how to handle logistics?
Logistics will always:
A) Be completely random and situational
B) Be extremely random
C) Did I mention that they’re random and sometimes there’s nothing you can do?
As a result, you have to just follow a handful of guidelines and then hope for the best.
1) Gather all relevant info when you’re talking to her. This includes: where she lives, where you live, how she got there, how she’s getting home, how you got there, if she’s sharing a ride, with who, who is she with, how does she know them, when is she going home, can you get her home in the morning, when does she have to be home in the morning, etc., etc.
2) If you just met her that night, then let HER win her friends over, not you. What will typically happen when a woman decides to go home with you is her girlfriends will try to stop her or talk her out of it. The younger the girl you’re picking up, the more likely this will be. Let HER do the talking… just trust you’ve seduced her well enough to withstand the oncoming storm. Stand back and be friendly. When it comes to taking a girl home, nothing you say, no matter how charming or cool is going to make you look genuine, “No, really, I just want to show her this cool YouTube video, I promise.” You’ll look like the horny bastard you are. If she’s not willing to appease her friends for you, then you haven’t gamed her well enough.
3) Make decisions and move swiftly. Don’t waffle. Don’t ask her what she wants to do. Gather the pertinent information and make an educated decision. I.e., She came with two friends, one of which is her roommate. She lives 30 minutes away. Have her give her roommate her keys and take her home with you. Tell her what you’re going to do and then do it. If you think the only shot you have is at a bathroom pull or to the car, then do it. Just grab her and go. Make her stop you. Make her say no. If you’re on a date, tell her you want to show her something and just bring her to your place. See if she stops you. Often she won’t.
4) Be flexible. Shit happens in bars and clubs. I’ve had pulls get screwed up because the girl started puking, because her brother suddenly showed up, because her friend started spontaneously crying, because her bridesmaids pulled her away, because her ex-boyfriend punched me in the face, because SHE started spontaneously crying, because she lost her keys and got locked out of her apartment, because the cab took us to the wrong hotel, etc., etc., etc. EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED AND ADAPT.
5) Get lucky. Again, shit happens. Deal with it. Sometimes there’s literally nothing you can do.
Step 11 Exercises
Purpose: To be able to make moves and get physical with women at will.
Comments: Yet another step where you need to grab your balls. This step can be practiced anywhere, but youʼll have to spend at least a few hours with a woman to get as far as necessary, so dates are ideal. Extra time is given in the later steps, as youʼre going to need to use everything youʼve learned so far.
What You Need: New women to meet, some courage
Recommended Time for Completion: Within a month
Exercise 1
1.1 Successfully do all five of the actions on this list. It doesnʼt count unless you do it and get a GOOD reaction.
- Twirl a girl in the first 30 seconds of meeting her. (Take her hand, raise it above both of your heads and tell her to spin.)
- Keep your hand on a girl’s back for at least one minute.
- Physically pull a girl away from her friends on the approach (at least one meter)
- Hug a girl within 30 seconds of cold approaching her. This must be a random girl who has no idea who you are.
- Put your arm around a girl and leave it there for at least 30 seconds. Do this within the first 10 minutes of knowing her.
Exercise 2
2.1 Going for kisses. Go for a kiss with at least five different women. If you get rejected, you get one point per woman. If you kiss her, you get two points. Once you reach 10 points, move on.
Exercise 3
3.1 Bring a girl home who youʼve been kissing. This can be the same night, same day or from a date. Escalate as far as possible.
Please post any significant realizations, experiences or problems below.
CHALLENGES:
Challenge 1: Smack or grab a girl’s ass that you just met without her getting mad.
Challenge 2: Kiss a woman within 5 minutes of knowing her.
Challenge 3: Bring a girl home within an hour of meeting her.
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Same night lays (also sometimes referred to as single night lays) are when a PUA is able to fclose a woman on the same day that he meets her. This happens most often in sexually charged “meat market” environments such as night clubs and bars, where the girls are looking to hookup, although it is possible to get SNLs during day game as well.
Same night lays differ from one night stands, in that SNLs lead to further relationships beyond just one night of sex (whether it be FB or LTR), whereas ONSs are usually just a one time thing. Often, the difference between an ONS and an SNL, is building enough rapport so that the woman does not suffer from any buyer’s remorse. If a woman does not regret her decision to sleep with the PUA, it leaves open the opportunity for future sex.
Like ONSs, it is important for same night lays to determine the woman’s logistics. Figuring out such information such as whether she came alone or with friends, whether she has to work tomorrow, etc. are important for an SNL to go smoothly. Usually, a woman who is looking to hookup will have better logistics, and women will even ignore poor logistics if they feel attracted enough.
Another important thing to remember for SNLs is to have a strong sexual frame, and also be completely non-judgemental of the woman when it comes to her sexuality. This will help the woman sexually open up to the PUA, and keep from triggering ASD later on.
Captain Jack: Gun to the Head Gaming
Imagine this: You are sitting on your couch eating Bon-Bons with your eyes laser locked on Oprah when you hear a crack, the door flies open and 3 goons rush towards you.
You hurl your bon-bons at the goons but it doesn’t even faze them.
Next thing you know there is a gun pointed at your temple and one of them says, “Is this the guy?” The other looks at a photograph and says, “He’s not wearing the feather boa, jade necklace and high heels like in his MySpace profile but yeah, I’d say it is him.”
One of them says, “Look, Mr. Pua guy, you go out tonight and have sex with a girl or we’re going to shoot you in the face.”
Gun to the head. Shot in the face.
Do you go out and do the same thing you always do?
Do you do a few laps around the bar, have a few drinks, hover a few times, look for the perfect opening?
Not unless you enjoy face shootings.
What WOULD you do differently?
Here’s what I’d do…
1. Dress like almost everyone else but a tad better.
2. Get to the bar early. I want to get there about 10-15 minutes before the crowd does. I want to chat with the bartender a minute, chat with a waitress or two for a minute before they get ridiculously busy. Get the ol’ mouth movin’ a bit.
3. Approach as soon as possible. Even if it is “How’s it going?”
4. Watch the girls who have wandering eyes. They are looking for something.
5. Approach the girls who make eye contact.
6. Never leave a set until a few minutes after I’ve TimeBridged.
7. Set the sexual frames early.
8. Ask her “What’s on the agenda for later?”
This one needs some explaining. A lot of PUAs think this is about Logistics. It isn’t. In fact, Logistics aren’t nearly as important as everyone believes. Shocking? Not really.
Imagine this… you have plans to go bowling tonight. It’s Tuesday, you almost always go bowling on Tuesdays. One of your buddies calls you up and says,
Buddy: “What’s going on man?”
You: “Not much, just going to go bowling later, have a few beers, see if I can top my Galaga score.”
Buddy: “Sounds cool. Well, would you like to get together and sew a little bit… maybe share our feelings and shit?”
You: “Umm… Well… I always bowl on Tuesdays… kinda my normal thing and uh…”
But, what if Buddy called you up and said, “Dude… These concert tickets just fell into my lap and blah, blah, blah…”
Do you think that’d change things a bit?
Logistics matter LESS and LESS the more interested and turned on she is… I used to let logistics derail me. Now, I hardly even pay attention.
Can they fuck you up? Sure. They used to fuck me up all the time. Then, I discovered “Drunk-n-Lonely Texting.”
Focus on getting her to really, really see you as a liberator of her sexual frustrations and SHE will handle the logistics for you.
The purpose of the question is to establish in her mind that you have probably sexual intent AND you are seeking a way to create an opportunity.
9. After you have 3 or 4 TimeBridge’s set up, focus on the one who seems like your best shot. This is always a little bit of a crap shoot BUT your Intuition will grow with time.
10. Tell her she is sexy and that her mannerisms are driving you crazy. Use a Bounce statement about 30 minute prior to close.
11. If she doesn’t take the Bounce invitation, walk her to the car. Get in and say you are going to talk to her a bit. Make out with her.
12. Tell her you are not sure you can drive home and ask her if she would mind, “It’s just right down the street.” (I’ve used this a billion times for venues that are 30-45 minutes away! Haa!)
12b. As she is driving mass text the other girls and say, “Hey sexy” – just in case this one does leave you after dropping you off. This will increase the possibility of another honey coming over thus DECREASING the chance of you getting shot in the face.
13. As she’s driving begin using one or two word commands interspersed with normal conversation. “Turn here.” “Go left.” when you get to your place say, “Park here.” I like to use stop signs and stop lights as a chance to make out.
14. “Come in and get some water before you head back.”
15. Get her some water, tell her where the bathroom is… while she’s in the bathroom put on a DVD. I like “Wedding Crashers” or, “South Park: The Return of the Fellowship of the King to the Two Towers” because it is sexual in nature and hilariously funny.
16. Have her sit down on your coach. Make small talk 3-5 minutes. Kiss her again.
17. Begin escalating heavy.
18. Push her away and tell her she is naughty for doing this to you.
19. Escalate more. Spank her. Tell her she is bad. Ask her what she is doing to you.
20. Make sweet love.
Send her on her way, “And… try not to think about me constantly” as you pull her hair and kiss her deeply again.
Go into your closet and get your Flame Thrower. Wait for the knock on the door. When the Goons rush in, fling your used condom at them and then use the Flame Thrower to set them all on fire. This should make your point in a fairly dramatic way.
Captain Jack
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Thursday, February 3, 2011
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Having sex with girls outside of your place, Im STUCK! Logistics
Im having this issue.
When its time to close and she seems horny and have sex its usually not at the seduction location.
Than when I am thinking about taking her to a place like to enter the motel, she freaks out and gets major LMR.
I cant take her to my place cause Im temporaily sharing it with someone while school starts again for me to move out on my own.
Also I tried in the car but it isnt comfortable at all.
in the past I never got LMR like this but its predictable a girl would get freaked out when she enters a motel and starts feeling like a slut.
last girls didnt care about motel they were really horny and I just took them.
but Im now finding that a problem when I have made out and touched her sexually and she is turned on and it isnt at the seduction location.
She gets honry or throws sexualinnuendo at me and is horny and cant figure what to do .....and if we driving somewhere and I drive in to motel.
Its kindah funny but frustrating......
I'd like to ask any experienced guys out there who have had to deal with such problem.
once I move out , and get girls to my place would be smoother pickup.
Im encountering this issues cause in the past if I let it pass and leave it for a date, her attraction dissapates and i dont hear from girls...So I decided once its on and they get all sexual then I should go for the Fast seduction.
any insight would help thanks.-
PS: I'm probably not keeping her sexually aroused on the drive to the motel.
#2 (permalink) 12-01-2010, 09:54 AM
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The only perfect solution to this is to get your own place.
One solution: you pull her into your car and just finger her or do oral sex. And then the NEXT time you meet up with her, pull her to a cheap motel. She'll be cool with it by then. It does add extra steps.
Or just don't tell her where you're going, just say "Let's Go". When you get to the motel, tell her that you LIVE in the motel temporarily because you're moving just to get her inside the door. That's just BS to turn off her objections. She'll see once you get inside that you're not living there, but at least you're inside.
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I noiced doc holliday uses the bathrroom and I treid that and it doesnt work at times, most consistent is your place ala janka.
Adam lyons posted a video and he mentioned changin plans and watching a movie pull....
but only time I had work is when girl was already attracted...I remeber HB susan saradon FB, who told me she wanted to go somewhere with me provate, we did it in a hotel. also the black girl in DR , I picked her up due to safety and I dorve around abit and bought her beer we talk for 15 minutes and drove to motel and she fucked me.
so these scenarios are possible...just have to lead and pump her state.
LA Tripp pointed out :
Good. I know society would have you think escalation is creepy, but it's only creepy if you do it in a creepy way. Escalation is normal and life won't progress without it ;)
i think alot of sticking points in my head would clear out once I move the fuck out.
Yes, moving out will help a lot, this is true. However, you still have to take responsibility and personal power over your life. And that starts within your own head. Who leads your life? Who makes your decisions for what directions you will go? Who decides what you wear, what you watch, what you listen to, where you go, what you eat, who your friends are, what you will do with your life? The answer to all of those questions SHOULD be YOU.
Also, I know you said about logistics in closing doesnt matter. Which is true based on arrousing the girl and pulling back.
Nope, based on arrousing, spiking her BT. Pulling back is just to calibrate and raise the BT more.
I just fucking wonder I am going to have to experiment closing women to the motel , i might have to frame it as "an adventure we both want" and spiking her BT by usisng positive framing how spontaneous and adventurous we can both be.
Yes, it ALL depends on the frame which YOU set with the girl.
CJ says :
. Ask her “What’s on the agenda for later?”
This one needs some explaining. A lot of PUAs think this is about Logistics. It isn’t. In fact, Logistics aren’t nearly as important as everyone believes. Shocking? Not really
Do you think that’d change things a bit?
Logistics matter LESS and LESS the more interested and turned on she is… I used to let logistics derail me. Now, I hardly even pay attention.
Can they fuck you up? Sure. They used to fuck me up all the time. Then, I discovered “Drunk-n-Lonely Texting.”
Focus on getting her to really, really see you as a liberator of her sexual frustrations and SHE will handle the logistics for you.
The purpose of the question is to establish in her mind that you have probably sexual intent AND you are seeking a way to create an opportunity.
comments :
TheWolfHowls - pay attention. This is exactly how I feel about the whole logistic deal, as you know. Like I said before, if you keep thinking in this logistic frame of mind, you are most likely creating barriers that didn't exist in the first place.
As for the rest of the post, it's not that I really disagree with what he is saying, but I hate the way it is presented. But you all already knew that
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Its just to much stuff to remember, these logistics only cloud the mind with unnecessary do do!
What most guys dont realize is its really simple! There is no need to over complicate things, with step by step scenario guides..
Wow.. This post was a total head fuck.. I need a glass of water
When its time to close and she seems horny and have sex its usually not at the seduction location.
Than when I am thinking about taking her to a place like to enter the motel, she freaks out and gets major LMR.
I cant take her to my place cause Im temporaily sharing it with someone while school starts again for me to move out on my own.
Also I tried in the car but it isnt comfortable at all.
in the past I never got LMR like this but its predictable a girl would get freaked out when she enters a motel and starts feeling like a slut.
last girls didnt care about motel they were really horny and I just took them.
but Im now finding that a problem when I have made out and touched her sexually and she is turned on and it isnt at the seduction location.
She gets honry or throws sexualinnuendo at me and is horny and cant figure what to do .....and if we driving somewhere and I drive in to motel.
Its kindah funny but frustrating......
I'd like to ask any experienced guys out there who have had to deal with such problem.
once I move out , and get girls to my place would be smoother pickup.
Im encountering this issues cause in the past if I let it pass and leave it for a date, her attraction dissapates and i dont hear from girls...So I decided once its on and they get all sexual then I should go for the Fast seduction.
any insight would help thanks.-
PS: I'm probably not keeping her sexually aroused on the drive to the motel.
#2 (permalink) 12-01-2010, 09:54 AM
Jesse Charger
Forum Administrator
Join Date: May 2009
Posts: 640
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The only perfect solution to this is to get your own place.
One solution: you pull her into your car and just finger her or do oral sex. And then the NEXT time you meet up with her, pull her to a cheap motel. She'll be cool with it by then. It does add extra steps.
Or just don't tell her where you're going, just say "Let's Go". When you get to the motel, tell her that you LIVE in the motel temporarily because you're moving just to get her inside the door. That's just BS to turn off her objections. She'll see once you get inside that you're not living there, but at least you're inside.
---------------------------------------------------------------
I noiced doc holliday uses the bathrroom and I treid that and it doesnt work at times, most consistent is your place ala janka.
Adam lyons posted a video and he mentioned changin plans and watching a movie pull....
but only time I had work is when girl was already attracted...I remeber HB susan saradon FB, who told me she wanted to go somewhere with me provate, we did it in a hotel. also the black girl in DR , I picked her up due to safety and I dorve around abit and bought her beer we talk for 15 minutes and drove to motel and she fucked me.
so these scenarios are possible...just have to lead and pump her state.
LA Tripp pointed out :
Good. I know society would have you think escalation is creepy, but it's only creepy if you do it in a creepy way. Escalation is normal and life won't progress without it ;)
i think alot of sticking points in my head would clear out once I move the fuck out.
Yes, moving out will help a lot, this is true. However, you still have to take responsibility and personal power over your life. And that starts within your own head. Who leads your life? Who makes your decisions for what directions you will go? Who decides what you wear, what you watch, what you listen to, where you go, what you eat, who your friends are, what you will do with your life? The answer to all of those questions SHOULD be YOU.
Also, I know you said about logistics in closing doesnt matter. Which is true based on arrousing the girl and pulling back.
Nope, based on arrousing, spiking her BT. Pulling back is just to calibrate and raise the BT more.
I just fucking wonder I am going to have to experiment closing women to the motel , i might have to frame it as "an adventure we both want" and spiking her BT by usisng positive framing how spontaneous and adventurous we can both be.
Yes, it ALL depends on the frame which YOU set with the girl.
CJ says :
. Ask her “What’s on the agenda for later?”
This one needs some explaining. A lot of PUAs think this is about Logistics. It isn’t. In fact, Logistics aren’t nearly as important as everyone believes. Shocking? Not really
Do you think that’d change things a bit?
Logistics matter LESS and LESS the more interested and turned on she is… I used to let logistics derail me. Now, I hardly even pay attention.
Can they fuck you up? Sure. They used to fuck me up all the time. Then, I discovered “Drunk-n-Lonely Texting.”
Focus on getting her to really, really see you as a liberator of her sexual frustrations and SHE will handle the logistics for you.
The purpose of the question is to establish in her mind that you have probably sexual intent AND you are seeking a way to create an opportunity.
comments :
TheWolfHowls - pay attention. This is exactly how I feel about the whole logistic deal, as you know. Like I said before, if you keep thinking in this logistic frame of mind, you are most likely creating barriers that didn't exist in the first place.
As for the rest of the post, it's not that I really disagree with what he is saying, but I hate the way it is presented. But you all already knew that
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Its just to much stuff to remember, these logistics only cloud the mind with unnecessary do do!
What most guys dont realize is its really simple! There is no need to over complicate things, with step by step scenario guides..
Wow.. This post was a total head fuck.. I need a glass of water
Sunday, May 2, 2010
Sandros observations- in10nse archives - pimp game ,sexual rapport , and end game
I remembered reading in10nse speed rapport, its kindah weird and too mechanical over explained but its golden...
I recall the audio with j mathews and first minutes of it was pretty solid.
I decided to look it once more....
I happened to look at the archives which is the Masf posts.
As I was reading that and the intro...all unedited and uncensored...
It was clear this guy has solid game and does similar in SS patterns and seduction.
he doesnt have a model for it and follows both SS and MM.
MM or M3 model is a logistical map for me and emotional guide of my game . how dynamic in the stages you must change her emotional responses to get momentum and her backwards rationalizing that she likes you.
Enough'
So why I beleive him?
Cause Swinggcats best friend
Swinggcat to me is the best darn malicious guy there is in terms of dating and seduction.
MAster of Push pull...
I related to his style.
Push pull are elements in closing and microlooping.
So I definately recommend anyone checking him out.
Swinggcatt recommends or mentions...I definately check it out.
What most impressed me as I breifly looked at his stuff was .....
at the time he read pimp game.....
In10nse worte a great book review and shared with everyone....he tried to internalize the concepts.....
I remembered I wanted to interview an actual pimp to model his beleifs with women.
not only can you do that by reading a book made by a pimp, in10nse get in to the book that he tries to share it with his peers.
the guy has a good heart and the drive. I like that alot and relate to him.
i think that affected his strategy of game.....in10nse awesomely worte a forbidden october man sequence which was simplified by JK Ellis even anchors.
in10nse does great job with combining SRT - sexual rapport modelling.
so he is master of comfort and closing---he combines powerful and psycological approach with NLP, persuasion, all combined.
not to be only read but to be used.
ofcourse he asks FRanco for adivce with relationships...
Nice! :)
PS : I remembered adrian wanting to comoone the 2 : SS and MM
in10nse GAME combined both.
***** Five stars must read, plus REAL WORLD SEDUCTION, PAUL JANKA, FRANCO,TD's Secret SOciety and BT SPIKING posts.Lovedrops' theory on social game.BAD BOY's Ebook.
I recall the audio with j mathews and first minutes of it was pretty solid.
I decided to look it once more....
I happened to look at the archives which is the Masf posts.
As I was reading that and the intro...all unedited and uncensored...
It was clear this guy has solid game and does similar in SS patterns and seduction.
he doesnt have a model for it and follows both SS and MM.
MM or M3 model is a logistical map for me and emotional guide of my game . how dynamic in the stages you must change her emotional responses to get momentum and her backwards rationalizing that she likes you.
Enough'
So why I beleive him?
Cause Swinggcats best friend
Swinggcat to me is the best darn malicious guy there is in terms of dating and seduction.
MAster of Push pull...
I related to his style.
Push pull are elements in closing and microlooping.
So I definately recommend anyone checking him out.
Swinggcatt recommends or mentions...I definately check it out.
What most impressed me as I breifly looked at his stuff was .....
at the time he read pimp game.....
In10nse worte a great book review and shared with everyone....he tried to internalize the concepts.....
I remembered I wanted to interview an actual pimp to model his beleifs with women.
not only can you do that by reading a book made by a pimp, in10nse get in to the book that he tries to share it with his peers.
the guy has a good heart and the drive. I like that alot and relate to him.
i think that affected his strategy of game.....in10nse awesomely worte a forbidden october man sequence which was simplified by JK Ellis even anchors.
in10nse does great job with combining SRT - sexual rapport modelling.
so he is master of comfort and closing---he combines powerful and psycological approach with NLP, persuasion, all combined.
not to be only read but to be used.
ofcourse he asks FRanco for adivce with relationships...
Nice! :)
PS : I remembered adrian wanting to comoone the 2 : SS and MM
in10nse GAME combined both.
***** Five stars must read, plus REAL WORLD SEDUCTION, PAUL JANKA, FRANCO,TD's Secret SOciety and BT SPIKING posts.Lovedrops' theory on social game.BAD BOY's Ebook.
Top 10 End Game Mistakes
Mojo:
Blake Richards Top 10 End Game Mistakes
First of all, let me tell you what End Game is. All successful seductions have an End Game phase. This is where you have built up the attraction and comfort and you're alone with the woman. So it's at THIS stage that the results of the Seduction are playing out. This is where so many guys screw up… and it's often focused on the least in seduction because to tell you the truth, not many guys get there. There off getting phone numbers - and that's IT. Believe me - the focus of my book, "GAME" is about how to get PAST that point and on to the Seduction.
Ok, now to the top 10 End Game mistakes that most guys make and what you can do to avoid these mistakes:
1) Bad Logistics
One guy I used to know would go out and say, "I'm going to get laid tonight!" And then we'd get to the club and he'd go home to his parents house - no lay. I told him, "Now exactly where are you going to do this? And do you have condoms - ON you, and if a woman were to walk up to you right now and want to have sex with you, would you be ready?" - Hmmm? was his answer.
The point is, if you WANT success, you have to be READY for it. Now, when I want to get laid, I have a framework of how I want it to happen. Sure- it can be spontaneous and I have to have some flexibility built in, but one of the keys to End Game is Isolation and not just that, but logistics ALREADY in place for every Isolation scenario that you could come up with.
For example, I have condoms in my CAR… Now did they come in handy? - Well last WEEK they did when I was out with a chick at a DRIVE IN. Same day close with her…
2) They trigger her automatic responses
Now all chicks have an automatic response for a guy getting physical with them - It's just something that's BUILT IN - through evolution to protect their productive resources. And when you think about it, they HAVE to have this in place because then they would end up a being a HO or be pregnant their whole lives!
So what are the typical triggers? I'll list a couple:
* When a guy gets too sexual too fast
* When a guy stops "talking" and just goes into LUST mode before she does
* When she get the feeling that a guy just wants her for SEX or just sees her as an object
* When a guy goes straight for the crotch -most of the time at least
* When a guy seems too eager to get down her pants
* When a guy seems sneaky and dishonest
You get the point. The key is to go slow, keep talking to her, be suggestive without being overtly sexual, and wait until SHE goes first with being physically sexual.
3) They engage her logical mind
Just imagine this: you're on the couch with a chick, maybe watching a movie or talking, and you start to notice the VIBE as the sexual tension is building. You know that it COULD be GAME ON if you play your cards right… Now what do a lot of guys do? They get all nervous at this point and start talking about GUY stuff… LOGICAL stuff like work, school, analyzing this and that… BIG mistake!
You want her logical mind OFF at this point. Don't say or DO anything that could engage her logical mind. You don't want her solving MATH while you're trying to get her in bed!
The focus should be on the FEELINGS. Get her arousal AMPED UP. Build the sexual tension. In my book, I go into depth on how to build this using a PROPUSION mechanism - and for those of you that don't know what that is, it's a motivational system where you have both PUSH from avoiding pain and PULL from pursuing pleasure.
4) They don't build up the comfort enough
A chick will RARELY get physical with a guy that she's not comfortable with. You need to build up the comfort and rapport before you go into END GAME. When you hear a chick say, "But I hardly know you!" - Then you know you need more comfort building!
In my book I extensively cover MID GAME which focuses on Comfort building and Rapport - so Check it out!
5) They take the first sign of resistance as failure
Now not all chicks will go to bed with you the first time you make your move. Most of the times, chicks need REPEATED attempts where you FLIRT with her comfort zone.
You know, every chick has a comfort zone - a line where things go from being Rated "R" to being rated "X". And if you push that line too much, it may shut her down - so FLIRT with that line. When she offers resistance, PULL BACK. And I'm talking ANY resistance - and I pull WAY back and go back into comfort building (MID GAME).
Then as I approach that line again, I can come that much CLOSER to that line until I have to pull back again. As this may be repeated several times, you get that much closer and closer to her comfort zone line until before she knows it, you're INSIDE her! (I talk about this in my book in the chapter on the Gradient Principle)
6) They follow THEIR OWN automatic responses and don't make the bold move
You know that ONE POINT in the date, where you know it could go one way or the other. And you know that what you do at that point could MAKE or BREAK the seduction? Have you guys been there? I have - too many times, but I've learned something.
Too many times before I would just GO WITH THE FLOW… and to tell you the truth - that's just not conducive to seduction!
How many times have you been over at a chick's house… it's late at night and you can tell that it could be "Game On", and then she tells you, "It's getting late… I should go to bed" and you say, "Ok… well I enjoyed hanging out with you… and I'll talk to you later…"
Then as you hear the door shut you're wondering where you went wrong… you could be in BED with her right NOW!
So how do you get over this? Well first of all, be AWARE of your automatic responses and hers as well. And know that you can use whatever a woman gives you. Like in the example above, what if you were to say… "Go to bed?! But I hardly know you! I'm not that easy… but I could be if you gave me a massage!"
So you see how you need to interrupt the auto-response! And humor works best followed up with a suggestive comment.
7) They don't focus on the moment
At this phase in the Game, a lot of guys are in their own heads and not focusing on the moment. They may be thinking of the last pattern to use or what to say next… but to tell you the truth - at this stage in the game, you need to throw those out and focus on getting her to FEEL in the MOMENT. This is where seduction happens!
And you want to get her associated into the moment as well by getting her to FEEL (including body feelings). The thing about FEELINGS is that they draw a person into the moment. Like when someone is angry for instance - and they can't think about anything else… or when someone feels pain - that's VERY real in the moment. The same goes for feeling pleasure and for feeling AROUSED sexually.
They think that the woman will lead them by the hand
At this stage in the game, even women that seem sexually aggressive will want the MAN to take action first. One chick that I was with said she wanted a guy that was "Confident". I asked her, "So how do you know when a guy is confident?" She said, "When he's able to do with me what I really want him to do without me telling him how to do it."
When you get certain "buying signals" from a woman, you need to close QUICKLY. Now not all buying signals are equal. For example, a suggestive flirtatious smile when you offer to massage her is much different then when she pulls her pants down and bends over! Let your buying signals tell you how quickly to move…
9) They're attached too much to the outcome
One thing that women have radar for is "Neediness". In fact a guy who's willing to walk AWAY from her has more power than she does in the "negotiation".
Instead of focusing on the outcome ("the home run"), focus a little on the process ("how you swing the bat") - but mostly be in the MOMENT.
If a woman does a take away from you and you don't respond… it tells her that YOUR in control and it communicates that YOU have CHOICE. - After all, how many guy would actually decline an offer of sex from an attractive woman? And if she senses that you would - then you've upped your value in her eyes… as well as made yourself a challenge for her!
10) They go too fast and out of her "sequence" without amping up the desire enough
Remember, building desire is about building the sexual tension. Take time to let her get her buying temperature up. Tease her, play hot/cold, FLIRT with her comfort line (the line where things go from being rated R to being rated X) until SHE crosses it.
And go the typical "physical" sequence unless she gives you resistance - in which case you pull back to Mid Game, then as you go back into End Game, you test again at the NEXT higher level.
I call these "Courtship Stages" and I talk way more in depth about them in my book. These are the typical physical steps in a seduction. Now the order doesn't always apply, but for the most part they do. For example, if you go straight from "hand to hand" to "Hand to Genitals", most chicks will resist. So know this natural sequence.
Here's an abbreviated version:
hand to hand => arm to waist => mouth to mouth => hand to head => hand to body => mouth to breast => hand to genitals => genitals to genitals or mouth to genitals
To wrap up, there you have it guys, my top 10 End Game Mistakes and how to overcome them!
Questions, Comments?
Blake Richards
www.social-mastery.com/Game.html
Blake Richards Top 10 End Game Mistakes
First of all, let me tell you what End Game is. All successful seductions have an End Game phase. This is where you have built up the attraction and comfort and you're alone with the woman. So it's at THIS stage that the results of the Seduction are playing out. This is where so many guys screw up… and it's often focused on the least in seduction because to tell you the truth, not many guys get there. There off getting phone numbers - and that's IT. Believe me - the focus of my book, "GAME" is about how to get PAST that point and on to the Seduction.
Ok, now to the top 10 End Game mistakes that most guys make and what you can do to avoid these mistakes:
1) Bad Logistics
One guy I used to know would go out and say, "I'm going to get laid tonight!" And then we'd get to the club and he'd go home to his parents house - no lay. I told him, "Now exactly where are you going to do this? And do you have condoms - ON you, and if a woman were to walk up to you right now and want to have sex with you, would you be ready?" - Hmmm? was his answer.
The point is, if you WANT success, you have to be READY for it. Now, when I want to get laid, I have a framework of how I want it to happen. Sure- it can be spontaneous and I have to have some flexibility built in, but one of the keys to End Game is Isolation and not just that, but logistics ALREADY in place for every Isolation scenario that you could come up with.
For example, I have condoms in my CAR… Now did they come in handy? - Well last WEEK they did when I was out with a chick at a DRIVE IN. Same day close with her…
2) They trigger her automatic responses
Now all chicks have an automatic response for a guy getting physical with them - It's just something that's BUILT IN - through evolution to protect their productive resources. And when you think about it, they HAVE to have this in place because then they would end up a being a HO or be pregnant their whole lives!
So what are the typical triggers? I'll list a couple:
* When a guy gets too sexual too fast
* When a guy stops "talking" and just goes into LUST mode before she does
* When she get the feeling that a guy just wants her for SEX or just sees her as an object
* When a guy goes straight for the crotch -most of the time at least
* When a guy seems too eager to get down her pants
* When a guy seems sneaky and dishonest
You get the point. The key is to go slow, keep talking to her, be suggestive without being overtly sexual, and wait until SHE goes first with being physically sexual.
3) They engage her logical mind
Just imagine this: you're on the couch with a chick, maybe watching a movie or talking, and you start to notice the VIBE as the sexual tension is building. You know that it COULD be GAME ON if you play your cards right… Now what do a lot of guys do? They get all nervous at this point and start talking about GUY stuff… LOGICAL stuff like work, school, analyzing this and that… BIG mistake!
You want her logical mind OFF at this point. Don't say or DO anything that could engage her logical mind. You don't want her solving MATH while you're trying to get her in bed!
The focus should be on the FEELINGS. Get her arousal AMPED UP. Build the sexual tension. In my book, I go into depth on how to build this using a PROPUSION mechanism - and for those of you that don't know what that is, it's a motivational system where you have both PUSH from avoiding pain and PULL from pursuing pleasure.
4) They don't build up the comfort enough
A chick will RARELY get physical with a guy that she's not comfortable with. You need to build up the comfort and rapport before you go into END GAME. When you hear a chick say, "But I hardly know you!" - Then you know you need more comfort building!
In my book I extensively cover MID GAME which focuses on Comfort building and Rapport - so Check it out!
5) They take the first sign of resistance as failure
Now not all chicks will go to bed with you the first time you make your move. Most of the times, chicks need REPEATED attempts where you FLIRT with her comfort zone.
You know, every chick has a comfort zone - a line where things go from being Rated "R" to being rated "X". And if you push that line too much, it may shut her down - so FLIRT with that line. When she offers resistance, PULL BACK. And I'm talking ANY resistance - and I pull WAY back and go back into comfort building (MID GAME).
Then as I approach that line again, I can come that much CLOSER to that line until I have to pull back again. As this may be repeated several times, you get that much closer and closer to her comfort zone line until before she knows it, you're INSIDE her! (I talk about this in my book in the chapter on the Gradient Principle)
6) They follow THEIR OWN automatic responses and don't make the bold move
You know that ONE POINT in the date, where you know it could go one way or the other. And you know that what you do at that point could MAKE or BREAK the seduction? Have you guys been there? I have - too many times, but I've learned something.
Too many times before I would just GO WITH THE FLOW… and to tell you the truth - that's just not conducive to seduction!
How many times have you been over at a chick's house… it's late at night and you can tell that it could be "Game On", and then she tells you, "It's getting late… I should go to bed" and you say, "Ok… well I enjoyed hanging out with you… and I'll talk to you later…"
Then as you hear the door shut you're wondering where you went wrong… you could be in BED with her right NOW!
So how do you get over this? Well first of all, be AWARE of your automatic responses and hers as well. And know that you can use whatever a woman gives you. Like in the example above, what if you were to say… "Go to bed?! But I hardly know you! I'm not that easy… but I could be if you gave me a massage!"
So you see how you need to interrupt the auto-response! And humor works best followed up with a suggestive comment.
7) They don't focus on the moment
At this phase in the Game, a lot of guys are in their own heads and not focusing on the moment. They may be thinking of the last pattern to use or what to say next… but to tell you the truth - at this stage in the game, you need to throw those out and focus on getting her to FEEL in the MOMENT. This is where seduction happens!
And you want to get her associated into the moment as well by getting her to FEEL (including body feelings). The thing about FEELINGS is that they draw a person into the moment. Like when someone is angry for instance - and they can't think about anything else… or when someone feels pain - that's VERY real in the moment. The same goes for feeling pleasure and for feeling AROUSED sexually.
They think that the woman will lead them by the hand
At this stage in the game, even women that seem sexually aggressive will want the MAN to take action first. One chick that I was with said she wanted a guy that was "Confident". I asked her, "So how do you know when a guy is confident?" She said, "When he's able to do with me what I really want him to do without me telling him how to do it."
When you get certain "buying signals" from a woman, you need to close QUICKLY. Now not all buying signals are equal. For example, a suggestive flirtatious smile when you offer to massage her is much different then when she pulls her pants down and bends over! Let your buying signals tell you how quickly to move…
9) They're attached too much to the outcome
One thing that women have radar for is "Neediness". In fact a guy who's willing to walk AWAY from her has more power than she does in the "negotiation".
Instead of focusing on the outcome ("the home run"), focus a little on the process ("how you swing the bat") - but mostly be in the MOMENT.
If a woman does a take away from you and you don't respond… it tells her that YOUR in control and it communicates that YOU have CHOICE. - After all, how many guy would actually decline an offer of sex from an attractive woman? And if she senses that you would - then you've upped your value in her eyes… as well as made yourself a challenge for her!
10) They go too fast and out of her "sequence" without amping up the desire enough
Remember, building desire is about building the sexual tension. Take time to let her get her buying temperature up. Tease her, play hot/cold, FLIRT with her comfort line (the line where things go from being rated R to being rated X) until SHE crosses it.
And go the typical "physical" sequence unless she gives you resistance - in which case you pull back to Mid Game, then as you go back into End Game, you test again at the NEXT higher level.
I call these "Courtship Stages" and I talk way more in depth about them in my book. These are the typical physical steps in a seduction. Now the order doesn't always apply, but for the most part they do. For example, if you go straight from "hand to hand" to "Hand to Genitals", most chicks will resist. So know this natural sequence.
Here's an abbreviated version:
hand to hand => arm to waist => mouth to mouth => hand to head => hand to body => mouth to breast => hand to genitals => genitals to genitals or mouth to genitals
To wrap up, there you have it guys, my top 10 End Game Mistakes and how to overcome them!
Questions, Comments?
Blake Richards
www.social-mastery.com/Game.html
Top 10 End Game Mistakes
Mojo:
Blake Richards Top 10 End Game Mistakes
First of all, let me tell you what End Game is. All successful seductions have an End Game phase. This is where you have built up the attraction and comfort and you're alone with the woman. So it's at THIS stage that the results of the Seduction are playing out. This is where so many guys screw up… and it's often focused on the least in seduction because to tell you the truth, not many guys get there. There off getting phone numbers - and that's IT. Believe me - the focus of my book, "GAME" is about how to get PAST that point and on to the Seduction.
Ok, now to the top 10 End Game mistakes that most guys make and what you can do to avoid these mistakes:
1) Bad Logistics
One guy I used to know would go out and say, "I'm going to get laid tonight!" And then we'd get to the club and he'd go home to his parents house - no lay. I told him, "Now exactly where are you going to do this? And do you have condoms - ON you, and if a woman were to walk up to you right now and want to have sex with you, would you be ready?" - Hmmm? was his answer.
The point is, if you WANT success, you have to be READY for it. Now, when I want to get laid, I have a framework of how I want it to happen. Sure- it can be spontaneous and I have to have some flexibility built in, but one of the keys to End Game is Isolation and not just that, but logistics ALREADY in place for every Isolation scenario that you could come up with.
For example, I have condoms in my CAR… Now did they come in handy? - Well last WEEK they did when I was out with a chick at a DRIVE IN. Same day close with her…
2) They trigger her automatic responses
Now all chicks have an automatic response for a guy getting physical with them - It's just something that's BUILT IN - through evolution to protect their productive resources. And when you think about it, they HAVE to have this in place because then they would end up a being a HO or be pregnant their whole lives!
So what are the typical triggers? I'll list a couple:
* When a guy gets too sexual too fast
* When a guy stops "talking" and just goes into LUST mode before she does
* When she get the feeling that a guy just wants her for SEX or just sees her as an object
* When a guy goes straight for the crotch -most of the time at least
* When a guy seems too eager to get down her pants
* When a guy seems sneaky and dishonest
You get the point. The key is to go slow, keep talking to her, be suggestive without being overtly sexual, and wait until SHE goes first with being physically sexual.
3) They engage her logical mind
Just imagine this: you're on the couch with a chick, maybe watching a movie or talking, and you start to notice the VIBE as the sexual tension is building. You know that it COULD be GAME ON if you play your cards right… Now what do a lot of guys do? They get all nervous at this point and start talking about GUY stuff… LOGICAL stuff like work, school, analyzing this and that… BIG mistake!
You want her logical mind OFF at this point. Don't say or DO anything that could engage her logical mind. You don't want her solving MATH while you're trying to get her in bed!
The focus should be on the FEELINGS. Get her arousal AMPED UP. Build the sexual tension. In my book, I go into depth on how to build this using a PROPUSION mechanism - and for those of you that don't know what that is, it's a motivational system where you have both PUSH from avoiding pain and PULL from pursuing pleasure.
4) They don't build up the comfort enough
A chick will RARELY get physical with a guy that she's not comfortable with. You need to build up the comfort and rapport before you go into END GAME. When you hear a chick say, "But I hardly know you!" - Then you know you need more comfort building!
In my book I extensively cover MID GAME which focuses on Comfort building and Rapport - so Check it out!
5) They take the first sign of resistance as failure
Now not all chicks will go to bed with you the first time you make your move. Most of the times, chicks need REPEATED attempts where you FLIRT with her comfort zone.
You know, every chick has a comfort zone - a line where things go from being Rated "R" to being rated "X". And if you push that line too much, it may shut her down - so FLIRT with that line. When she offers resistance, PULL BACK. And I'm talking ANY resistance - and I pull WAY back and go back into comfort building (MID GAME).
Then as I approach that line again, I can come that much CLOSER to that line until I have to pull back again. As this may be repeated several times, you get that much closer and closer to her comfort zone line until before she knows it, you're INSIDE her! (I talk about this in my book in the chapter on the Gradient Principle)
6) They follow THEIR OWN automatic responses and don't make the bold move
You know that ONE POINT in the date, where you know it could go one way or the other. And you know that what you do at that point could MAKE or BREAK the seduction? Have you guys been there? I have - too many times, but I've learned something.
Too many times before I would just GO WITH THE FLOW… and to tell you the truth - that's just not conducive to seduction!
How many times have you been over at a chick's house… it's late at night and you can tell that it could be "Game On", and then she tells you, "It's getting late… I should go to bed" and you say, "Ok… well I enjoyed hanging out with you… and I'll talk to you later…"
Then as you hear the door shut you're wondering where you went wrong… you could be in BED with her right NOW!
So how do you get over this? Well first of all, be AWARE of your automatic responses and hers as well. And know that you can use whatever a woman gives you. Like in the example above, what if you were to say… "Go to bed?! But I hardly know you! I'm not that easy… but I could be if you gave me a massage!"
So you see how you need to interrupt the auto-response! And humor works best followed up with a suggestive comment.
7) They don't focus on the moment
At this phase in the Game, a lot of guys are in their own heads and not focusing on the moment. They may be thinking of the last pattern to use or what to say next… but to tell you the truth - at this stage in the game, you need to throw those out and focus on getting her to FEEL in the MOMENT. This is where seduction happens!
And you want to get her associated into the moment as well by getting her to FEEL (including body feelings). The thing about FEELINGS is that they draw a person into the moment. Like when someone is angry for instance - and they can't think about anything else… or when someone feels pain - that's VERY real in the moment. The same goes for feeling pleasure and for feeling AROUSED sexually.
They think that the woman will lead them by the hand
At this stage in the game, even women that seem sexually aggressive will want the MAN to take action first. One chick that I was with said she wanted a guy that was "Confident". I asked her, "So how do you know when a guy is confident?" She said, "When he's able to do with me what I really want him to do without me telling him how to do it."
When you get certain "buying signals" from a woman, you need to close QUICKLY. Now not all buying signals are equal. For example, a suggestive flirtatious smile when you offer to massage her is much different then when she pulls her pants down and bends over! Let your buying signals tell you how quickly to move…
9) They're attached too much to the outcome
One thing that women have radar for is "Neediness". In fact a guy who's willing to walk AWAY from her has more power than she does in the "negotiation".
Instead of focusing on the outcome ("the home run"), focus a little on the process ("how you swing the bat") - but mostly be in the MOMENT.
If a woman does a take away from you and you don't respond… it tells her that YOUR in control and it communicates that YOU have CHOICE. - After all, how many guy would actually decline an offer of sex from an attractive woman? And if she senses that you would - then you've upped your value in her eyes… as well as made yourself a challenge for her!
10) They go too fast and out of her "sequence" without amping up the desire enough
Remember, building desire is about building the sexual tension. Take time to let her get her buying temperature up. Tease her, play hot/cold, FLIRT with her comfort line (the line where things go from being rated R to being rated X) until SHE crosses it.
And go the typical "physical" sequence unless she gives you resistance - in which case you pull back to Mid Game, then as you go back into End Game, you test again at the NEXT higher level.
I call these "Courtship Stages" and I talk way more in depth about them in my book. These are the typical physical steps in a seduction. Now the order doesn't always apply, but for the most part they do. For example, if you go straight from "hand to hand" to "Hand to Genitals", most chicks will resist. So know this natural sequence.
Here's an abbreviated version:
hand to hand => arm to waist => mouth to mouth => hand to head => hand to body => mouth to breast => hand to genitals => genitals to genitals or mouth to genitals
To wrap up, there you have it guys, my top 10 End Game Mistakes and how to overcome them!
Questions, Comments?
Blake Richards
www.social-mastery.com/Game.html
Blake Richards Top 10 End Game Mistakes
First of all, let me tell you what End Game is. All successful seductions have an End Game phase. This is where you have built up the attraction and comfort and you're alone with the woman. So it's at THIS stage that the results of the Seduction are playing out. This is where so many guys screw up… and it's often focused on the least in seduction because to tell you the truth, not many guys get there. There off getting phone numbers - and that's IT. Believe me - the focus of my book, "GAME" is about how to get PAST that point and on to the Seduction.
Ok, now to the top 10 End Game mistakes that most guys make and what you can do to avoid these mistakes:
1) Bad Logistics
One guy I used to know would go out and say, "I'm going to get laid tonight!" And then we'd get to the club and he'd go home to his parents house - no lay. I told him, "Now exactly where are you going to do this? And do you have condoms - ON you, and if a woman were to walk up to you right now and want to have sex with you, would you be ready?" - Hmmm? was his answer.
The point is, if you WANT success, you have to be READY for it. Now, when I want to get laid, I have a framework of how I want it to happen. Sure- it can be spontaneous and I have to have some flexibility built in, but one of the keys to End Game is Isolation and not just that, but logistics ALREADY in place for every Isolation scenario that you could come up with.
For example, I have condoms in my CAR… Now did they come in handy? - Well last WEEK they did when I was out with a chick at a DRIVE IN. Same day close with her…
2) They trigger her automatic responses
Now all chicks have an automatic response for a guy getting physical with them - It's just something that's BUILT IN - through evolution to protect their productive resources. And when you think about it, they HAVE to have this in place because then they would end up a being a HO or be pregnant their whole lives!
So what are the typical triggers? I'll list a couple:
* When a guy gets too sexual too fast
* When a guy stops "talking" and just goes into LUST mode before she does
* When she get the feeling that a guy just wants her for SEX or just sees her as an object
* When a guy goes straight for the crotch -most of the time at least
* When a guy seems too eager to get down her pants
* When a guy seems sneaky and dishonest
You get the point. The key is to go slow, keep talking to her, be suggestive without being overtly sexual, and wait until SHE goes first with being physically sexual.
3) They engage her logical mind
Just imagine this: you're on the couch with a chick, maybe watching a movie or talking, and you start to notice the VIBE as the sexual tension is building. You know that it COULD be GAME ON if you play your cards right… Now what do a lot of guys do? They get all nervous at this point and start talking about GUY stuff… LOGICAL stuff like work, school, analyzing this and that… BIG mistake!
You want her logical mind OFF at this point. Don't say or DO anything that could engage her logical mind. You don't want her solving MATH while you're trying to get her in bed!
The focus should be on the FEELINGS. Get her arousal AMPED UP. Build the sexual tension. In my book, I go into depth on how to build this using a PROPUSION mechanism - and for those of you that don't know what that is, it's a motivational system where you have both PUSH from avoiding pain and PULL from pursuing pleasure.
4) They don't build up the comfort enough
A chick will RARELY get physical with a guy that she's not comfortable with. You need to build up the comfort and rapport before you go into END GAME. When you hear a chick say, "But I hardly know you!" - Then you know you need more comfort building!
In my book I extensively cover MID GAME which focuses on Comfort building and Rapport - so Check it out!
5) They take the first sign of resistance as failure
Now not all chicks will go to bed with you the first time you make your move. Most of the times, chicks need REPEATED attempts where you FLIRT with her comfort zone.
You know, every chick has a comfort zone - a line where things go from being Rated "R" to being rated "X". And if you push that line too much, it may shut her down - so FLIRT with that line. When she offers resistance, PULL BACK. And I'm talking ANY resistance - and I pull WAY back and go back into comfort building (MID GAME).
Then as I approach that line again, I can come that much CLOSER to that line until I have to pull back again. As this may be repeated several times, you get that much closer and closer to her comfort zone line until before she knows it, you're INSIDE her! (I talk about this in my book in the chapter on the Gradient Principle)
6) They follow THEIR OWN automatic responses and don't make the bold move
You know that ONE POINT in the date, where you know it could go one way or the other. And you know that what you do at that point could MAKE or BREAK the seduction? Have you guys been there? I have - too many times, but I've learned something.
Too many times before I would just GO WITH THE FLOW… and to tell you the truth - that's just not conducive to seduction!
How many times have you been over at a chick's house… it's late at night and you can tell that it could be "Game On", and then she tells you, "It's getting late… I should go to bed" and you say, "Ok… well I enjoyed hanging out with you… and I'll talk to you later…"
Then as you hear the door shut you're wondering where you went wrong… you could be in BED with her right NOW!
So how do you get over this? Well first of all, be AWARE of your automatic responses and hers as well. And know that you can use whatever a woman gives you. Like in the example above, what if you were to say… "Go to bed?! But I hardly know you! I'm not that easy… but I could be if you gave me a massage!"
So you see how you need to interrupt the auto-response! And humor works best followed up with a suggestive comment.
7) They don't focus on the moment
At this phase in the Game, a lot of guys are in their own heads and not focusing on the moment. They may be thinking of the last pattern to use or what to say next… but to tell you the truth - at this stage in the game, you need to throw those out and focus on getting her to FEEL in the MOMENT. This is where seduction happens!
And you want to get her associated into the moment as well by getting her to FEEL (including body feelings). The thing about FEELINGS is that they draw a person into the moment. Like when someone is angry for instance - and they can't think about anything else… or when someone feels pain - that's VERY real in the moment. The same goes for feeling pleasure and for feeling AROUSED sexually.
They think that the woman will lead them by the hand
At this stage in the game, even women that seem sexually aggressive will want the MAN to take action first. One chick that I was with said she wanted a guy that was "Confident". I asked her, "So how do you know when a guy is confident?" She said, "When he's able to do with me what I really want him to do without me telling him how to do it."
When you get certain "buying signals" from a woman, you need to close QUICKLY. Now not all buying signals are equal. For example, a suggestive flirtatious smile when you offer to massage her is much different then when she pulls her pants down and bends over! Let your buying signals tell you how quickly to move…
9) They're attached too much to the outcome
One thing that women have radar for is "Neediness". In fact a guy who's willing to walk AWAY from her has more power than she does in the "negotiation".
Instead of focusing on the outcome ("the home run"), focus a little on the process ("how you swing the bat") - but mostly be in the MOMENT.
If a woman does a take away from you and you don't respond… it tells her that YOUR in control and it communicates that YOU have CHOICE. - After all, how many guy would actually decline an offer of sex from an attractive woman? And if she senses that you would - then you've upped your value in her eyes… as well as made yourself a challenge for her!
10) They go too fast and out of her "sequence" without amping up the desire enough
Remember, building desire is about building the sexual tension. Take time to let her get her buying temperature up. Tease her, play hot/cold, FLIRT with her comfort line (the line where things go from being rated R to being rated X) until SHE crosses it.
And go the typical "physical" sequence unless she gives you resistance - in which case you pull back to Mid Game, then as you go back into End Game, you test again at the NEXT higher level.
I call these "Courtship Stages" and I talk way more in depth about them in my book. These are the typical physical steps in a seduction. Now the order doesn't always apply, but for the most part they do. For example, if you go straight from "hand to hand" to "Hand to Genitals", most chicks will resist. So know this natural sequence.
Here's an abbreviated version:
hand to hand => arm to waist => mouth to mouth => hand to head => hand to body => mouth to breast => hand to genitals => genitals to genitals or mouth to genitals
To wrap up, there you have it guys, my top 10 End Game Mistakes and how to overcome them!
Questions, Comments?
Blake Richards
www.social-mastery.com/Game.html
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