esta mas on menos....pero es blanca...dont like her profile and chin...like she's prognathic.
She seems easy than a better looking woman with more demanding of materialistic requierements for her type of dating.
she definately has to be qualfied...
"Hey do you cook? cause I like to be treated well...theres nothing more sexy than a woman that knows how to take care of her man"
then let her talk...
then before you kiss her you tell her
"you are sexy " then depends her response if she tries to be standoffish you then follow up with this
" but thats not the only thing I look for, I mean honestly
what makes you different than any other pretty face her in LA ?"
her response whatever the fuck it is...
you smile and tell her yeah you are definately sexy..but wait are you saying this cause thats really who you are like being yourself or cause you are trying to get me to like you ?"
her response is Im being myself balh blah..
you say "I like your honesty...I value that alot...you know i people in realtionship were more honest with each other it would avoid alot of pain and heartbreak...its about enjoying each other....."
you look at her forcing her to talk... her repsonse "yeah yeah I agree" or her looking at you like a soulmate..then you kiss her.
this is breakthrough comfort qualification stuff mixed with cold read and forced qualification and sexual framing.
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Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Modify Behavior: How Intention Maps Work by Sebastian Drake
Modify Behavior: How Intention Maps Work
by Sebastian Drake of theApproach
October 2nd, 2006
How come some men never stay single for more than three weeks? How come some men can't get anything more than a one night stand to save their life? And how come some men, who really aren't all that great looking, get multiple girlfriends in open relationships. Girls are beautiful, intelligent, ambitious, with high self-esteem, accepting an arrangement that most people would think impossible.
Is it luck? Is it fate?
I present to you one word: Intention.
Everyone behaves differently around different people. You will be a different person around your grandmother than you are around your boss than you are around your accountant than you are around your father.
You'll act differently. Your grandmother, most likely, thinks you don't use vulgarities ever. Your best friend might have a little different perception of you.
People are maleable - women especially. We behave differently in different situations. Now, to answer the question of why some men get exactly what they want, and why others get the same exact thing that they absolutely don't want, I present to you the Intention Map:
An Intention Map is a tool to modify behavior. The short version is, you will get the other person feeling and acting around you the way you want them to. There are three primary phases of an Intention Map:
1. Screening
2. Qualifying
3. Sex»/Afterglow
But we are getting ahead of ourselves. Let us start at the beginning.
THE INTENTION:
To get what you want, you must have a clear, defined idea of what you want. The first thing to do, before you begin intention mapping, is to make a list of traits you want in all women. Traits might include ambitious, creative, hard-working, caring, affectionate.
Next, figure out what specific roles you want in your life. Do you want an open relationship? A really casual "friends with benefits" situation? Exclusivity? Whatever you want, that is good - just know what you want.
Then make a list of traits that you'd want for that specific relationship. Some traits I find are good in certain relationships:
EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS:
Loyal
Feminine
Traditional
Conservative
OPEN RELATIONSHIPS:
Independant
Understanding
Open-minded
Non-jealous
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS:
Spontaneous
Exciting
Independant
Experimental
Note that this isn't your list necessarily. What you want from an exclusive relationship may vary. Many men don't want a highly independant woman in an exclusive relationship - if you're going to only be with one person, you want them available on your schedule. Some men might like an exclusive relationship with an independant woman though, so you fill in your own list.
Now, the behavior modification.
Take the list of qualities that you want in all women:
Ambitious
Creative
Hard-working
Caring
Affectionate
Add in the list of qualities that you want in the specific relationship you want:
Independant
Understanding
Open-minded
Non-jealous
Now, it's time to get to the three phases of an intention map.
What you are going to do is you are going to get the girl saying she is this quality, you are going to reinforce to her that you like because she is this quality, and you are going to reinforce it again during and immediately after sex».
PHASE ONE: SCREENING
Screening is a technique that increases compliance, and shows that you have standards. Examples of screening questions include:
"I like ambitious people. Do you consider yourself to be ambitious?"
"All my friends are really into a lot of creative things. What creative things do you do?"
"Do you work hard for things you believe in?"
"You strike me as a really caring person. Am I right?"
"I can tell you're very loyal, but are you also affectionate?"
"Ugh, you see all these girls around who can't get anything done without a man helping them.""Tell me, are you independant?"
"A lot of my friends don't have traditional values. Do you consider yourself to be an understanding person?"
"Are you open-minded to seeing and trying new things?"
"You don't get jealous easily, do you?"
Those questions are all weighted towards getting what you want. A select few women will be unable to meet your criteria. For instance, not all women are creative. It's up to you what you're willing to compromise on in your list - I'm absolutely unwilling to compromise on a woman having high self-esteem, so I'll dismiss girls who have low self-esteem. I also like girls who love art, music, and theatre - but I'm willing to compromise on that if she has other interests I enjoy, like nature or sports.
It's up to you what you're willing to compromise on. The fact is, if she likes you, she'll try to give you the right answers to your screening questions. Most people consider themsleves to be ambitious, caring, open-minded, etc. She's going to say she is either way - the key is, by saying it, she'll precedence herself to it, and want to act that way around you especially. So though she might not be a very open-minded person around her friends from church, she will be around you ;)
PHASE TWO: QUALIFICATION
Now, you will simply tell her that she meets your standards, and that she has the specific type of trait you're looking for. This needs to be Situationally Relevant as we say - so do it after she does something to display that trait, or immediately after a screening question saying she is.
"You're so ambitious. I like that."
"I like that you're so creative."
"Thank you for being so caring. It makes me feel really good."
"Mmmm, you're so affectionate."
"I like that you're so independant."
"Wow, you're so understanding of things outside of what you were raised with. That's amazing."
"It's really cool to hang out with such an open-minded girl."
"It's nice to spend time with you - you're so secure in yourself and never get jealous. I love it."
Ever hear the expression, "Treat a man as you would have him become." There was a typo in it. it should have read, "Treat a woman as you would have her become." Tell her she's exactly what you want - and she'll want to live up to that. True story:
I was driving with my girlfriend at the time to spend the Fourth of July at a beachhouse. Even after a year and a half together, just coincidentally, I'd never driven a car with her in the passenger seat. We'd been in other cars together, and lots of taxis, but living near each other in a city with good public transportation, I'd never driven her.
Well, I just coincidentally happened to be going the speed limit. Really, a coincidence to the extreme. And yet she said to me, "Sebastian... you can tell so much about a person by the way they drive. My sister's boyfriend swerves all over the road, honks, gets angry, cuts people off. Goes too fast, too slow - and you can tell he doesn't have his life together. You're going just the speed limit, nothing's bothering you... it says a lot about who you are."
Here's the thing - I *knew* what she was doing, and I *still* drove perfectly for the rest of the weekend. People don't want to go against praise that they get. So tell people that they are exactly what you want them to be.
(note: this also works great when you're getting service from a company. Whenever something's going wrong at an airport, I always say, "Thank you so much. Your airline is always really, really good to me, so I feel so comfortable when I'm flying with you folks." It results in a higher quality of service as they try to live up to that)
PHASE THREE: SEX»/AFTERGLOW
During sex» is a special time. We get into a state of raw emotion, and let loose our logical constraints. During sex», qualification goes into the subconscious to the extreme. So you can say things like:
"I love making love to such an ambitious girl baby."
"Mmmm, baby, how creative you are turns me on so much."
"Oh yeah, I love being with you here - you're so caring, take care of me, make me feel so good."
"You're so affectionate."
There is also the afterglow, immediately after sex».
"Wow, it's great being with such an independant girl."
"It feels good lying next to a girl so open-minded."
"Damn baby, you're so open-minded. It shows when we're in bed too."
"I love that you're so secure in yourself. We're here together and you're not worrying, you're calm and in the moment."
The other thing you do during the Afterglow stage is you set up the TIMEFRAME of the relationship. You do this after you've been having sex» for a little while, perhaps three weeks. So, for an open-relationship where you're seeing each other once a week or so, you'll say.
"You're so great, baby. We spend amazing time together, and then you're independant and have a really great life besides just me. The time we spend together is amazing, and yet you understand that I've got a really busy life. It feels great to be with you."
With this system, you can develop your intention throughout the interaction: Before you ever have sex», she'll be saying she's what you want, and you'll be telling her she's what you want and that's why you like that. During sex», you say that you feel good making love to her because she's want you want, and after sex» you'll say it feels good lying next to her because she's what you want.
Enforced and reinforced so many times, this shapes and modifies her behavior. She might still be close-minded around her friends, but she'll be open-minded around you and yours - and that's what counts.
Figure out what you want, and go get it playboy! God bless,
Sebby
by Sebastian Drake of theApproach
October 2nd, 2006
How come some men never stay single for more than three weeks? How come some men can't get anything more than a one night stand to save their life? And how come some men, who really aren't all that great looking, get multiple girlfriends in open relationships. Girls are beautiful, intelligent, ambitious, with high self-esteem, accepting an arrangement that most people would think impossible.
Is it luck? Is it fate?
I present to you one word: Intention.
Everyone behaves differently around different people. You will be a different person around your grandmother than you are around your boss than you are around your accountant than you are around your father.
You'll act differently. Your grandmother, most likely, thinks you don't use vulgarities ever. Your best friend might have a little different perception of you.
People are maleable - women especially. We behave differently in different situations. Now, to answer the question of why some men get exactly what they want, and why others get the same exact thing that they absolutely don't want, I present to you the Intention Map:
An Intention Map is a tool to modify behavior. The short version is, you will get the other person feeling and acting around you the way you want them to. There are three primary phases of an Intention Map:
1. Screening
2. Qualifying
3. Sex»/Afterglow
But we are getting ahead of ourselves. Let us start at the beginning.
THE INTENTION:
To get what you want, you must have a clear, defined idea of what you want. The first thing to do, before you begin intention mapping, is to make a list of traits you want in all women. Traits might include ambitious, creative, hard-working, caring, affectionate.
Next, figure out what specific roles you want in your life. Do you want an open relationship? A really casual "friends with benefits" situation? Exclusivity? Whatever you want, that is good - just know what you want.
Then make a list of traits that you'd want for that specific relationship. Some traits I find are good in certain relationships:
EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS:
Loyal
Feminine
Traditional
Conservative
OPEN RELATIONSHIPS:
Independant
Understanding
Open-minded
Non-jealous
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS:
Spontaneous
Exciting
Independant
Experimental
Note that this isn't your list necessarily. What you want from an exclusive relationship may vary. Many men don't want a highly independant woman in an exclusive relationship - if you're going to only be with one person, you want them available on your schedule. Some men might like an exclusive relationship with an independant woman though, so you fill in your own list.
Now, the behavior modification.
Take the list of qualities that you want in all women:
Ambitious
Creative
Hard-working
Caring
Affectionate
Add in the list of qualities that you want in the specific relationship you want:
Independant
Understanding
Open-minded
Non-jealous
Now, it's time to get to the three phases of an intention map.
What you are going to do is you are going to get the girl saying she is this quality, you are going to reinforce to her that you like because she is this quality, and you are going to reinforce it again during and immediately after sex».
PHASE ONE: SCREENING
Screening is a technique that increases compliance, and shows that you have standards. Examples of screening questions include:
"I like ambitious people. Do you consider yourself to be ambitious?"
"All my friends are really into a lot of creative things. What creative things do you do?"
"Do you work hard for things you believe in?"
"You strike me as a really caring person. Am I right?"
"I can tell you're very loyal, but are you also affectionate?"
"Ugh, you see all these girls around who can't get anything done without a man helping them.""Tell me, are you independant?"
"A lot of my friends don't have traditional values. Do you consider yourself to be an understanding person?"
"Are you open-minded to seeing and trying new things?"
"You don't get jealous easily, do you?"
Those questions are all weighted towards getting what you want. A select few women will be unable to meet your criteria. For instance, not all women are creative. It's up to you what you're willing to compromise on in your list - I'm absolutely unwilling to compromise on a woman having high self-esteem, so I'll dismiss girls who have low self-esteem. I also like girls who love art, music, and theatre - but I'm willing to compromise on that if she has other interests I enjoy, like nature or sports.
It's up to you what you're willing to compromise on. The fact is, if she likes you, she'll try to give you the right answers to your screening questions. Most people consider themsleves to be ambitious, caring, open-minded, etc. She's going to say she is either way - the key is, by saying it, she'll precedence herself to it, and want to act that way around you especially. So though she might not be a very open-minded person around her friends from church, she will be around you ;)
PHASE TWO: QUALIFICATION
Now, you will simply tell her that she meets your standards, and that she has the specific type of trait you're looking for. This needs to be Situationally Relevant as we say - so do it after she does something to display that trait, or immediately after a screening question saying she is.
"You're so ambitious. I like that."
"I like that you're so creative."
"Thank you for being so caring. It makes me feel really good."
"Mmmm, you're so affectionate."
"I like that you're so independant."
"Wow, you're so understanding of things outside of what you were raised with. That's amazing."
"It's really cool to hang out with such an open-minded girl."
"It's nice to spend time with you - you're so secure in yourself and never get jealous. I love it."
Ever hear the expression, "Treat a man as you would have him become." There was a typo in it. it should have read, "Treat a woman as you would have her become." Tell her she's exactly what you want - and she'll want to live up to that. True story:
I was driving with my girlfriend at the time to spend the Fourth of July at a beachhouse. Even after a year and a half together, just coincidentally, I'd never driven a car with her in the passenger seat. We'd been in other cars together, and lots of taxis, but living near each other in a city with good public transportation, I'd never driven her.
Well, I just coincidentally happened to be going the speed limit. Really, a coincidence to the extreme. And yet she said to me, "Sebastian... you can tell so much about a person by the way they drive. My sister's boyfriend swerves all over the road, honks, gets angry, cuts people off. Goes too fast, too slow - and you can tell he doesn't have his life together. You're going just the speed limit, nothing's bothering you... it says a lot about who you are."
Here's the thing - I *knew* what she was doing, and I *still* drove perfectly for the rest of the weekend. People don't want to go against praise that they get. So tell people that they are exactly what you want them to be.
(note: this also works great when you're getting service from a company. Whenever something's going wrong at an airport, I always say, "Thank you so much. Your airline is always really, really good to me, so I feel so comfortable when I'm flying with you folks." It results in a higher quality of service as they try to live up to that)
PHASE THREE: SEX»/AFTERGLOW
During sex» is a special time. We get into a state of raw emotion, and let loose our logical constraints. During sex», qualification goes into the subconscious to the extreme. So you can say things like:
"I love making love to such an ambitious girl baby."
"Mmmm, baby, how creative you are turns me on so much."
"Oh yeah, I love being with you here - you're so caring, take care of me, make me feel so good."
"You're so affectionate."
There is also the afterglow, immediately after sex».
"Wow, it's great being with such an independant girl."
"It feels good lying next to a girl so open-minded."
"Damn baby, you're so open-minded. It shows when we're in bed too."
"I love that you're so secure in yourself. We're here together and you're not worrying, you're calm and in the moment."
The other thing you do during the Afterglow stage is you set up the TIMEFRAME of the relationship. You do this after you've been having sex» for a little while, perhaps three weeks. So, for an open-relationship where you're seeing each other once a week or so, you'll say.
"You're so great, baby. We spend amazing time together, and then you're independant and have a really great life besides just me. The time we spend together is amazing, and yet you understand that I've got a really busy life. It feels great to be with you."
With this system, you can develop your intention throughout the interaction: Before you ever have sex», she'll be saying she's what you want, and you'll be telling her she's what you want and that's why you like that. During sex», you say that you feel good making love to her because she's want you want, and after sex» you'll say it feels good lying next to her because she's what you want.
Enforced and reinforced so many times, this shapes and modifies her behavior. She might still be close-minded around her friends, but she'll be open-minded around you and yours - and that's what counts.
Figure out what you want, and go get it playboy! God bless,
Sebby
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Shaping and Qualification by Vision
SHAPING and QUALIFICATION by vision
This is mostly for the guys starting out but I noticed an interesting little way to force compliance while using shaping.
As most of you know, shaping is a concept which is used to encourage your desired behavior in a women. eg. 'i love it how spontaneous you are'...which now gives her a reputation to live up to and to 'be' a spontaneous person. if she lives up to it then in theory you get to kiss/sleep with her quicker as it would be inconsistent with her persona if she didn't spontaneously sleep with you.
was having a chat recently with a girl and i noticed i did something which involved shaping, but also involved actively getting her to qualify herself which of course is often a clear sign that she is interested.
(she mentioned something about cooking and tuna pasta)
me: 'OMG you can cook! go away before i steal you away. I love it when a women can cook but even more when they are passionate about it...'
..now normally this would be shaping in itself and she might just reply with a smile or something, instead i issue the following remark immediately after my previous one which actively gets her to comply/qualify herself which tells me if she's interested or not....
'..then again i bet tuna pasta is the only thing that you can cook which doesnt really count does it!'.
Immediately she rambles on bragging about how she loves baking, she loves cooking PLUS she loves barbecuing (in my country called braaing)....and then proceeded to imply that she really is PASSIONATE about it, as well as proved it to me by writing a quick recipe for me. All this came just from one 'neg' remark following my shaping comment.
As you can see my 2nd comment actively encouraged an answer from her which forces her to show her compliance levels, and in addition its a light tease at the same time. Its a great way to get compliance early on in the interaction.
Another little example could be... 'i must say i enjoy a cute looking girl that has a bit of an adventurous streak in her, dont get me wrong youre cute and all but youre probably a little too settled for me'....if she comes back justifying how adventurous she is, she's putty in your hands.
Do this numerous time during the convo with various personality traits of hers, you will be shaping as well as getting active compliance as you go. Its also a great way of finding perceived commonalities, every time she complies/qualifies herself she backward rationalizes that you guys both have that in common.
This is mostly for the guys starting out but I noticed an interesting little way to force compliance while using shaping.
As most of you know, shaping is a concept which is used to encourage your desired behavior in a women. eg. 'i love it how spontaneous you are'...which now gives her a reputation to live up to and to 'be' a spontaneous person. if she lives up to it then in theory you get to kiss/sleep with her quicker as it would be inconsistent with her persona if she didn't spontaneously sleep with you.
was having a chat recently with a girl and i noticed i did something which involved shaping, but also involved actively getting her to qualify herself which of course is often a clear sign that she is interested.
(she mentioned something about cooking and tuna pasta)
me: 'OMG you can cook! go away before i steal you away. I love it when a women can cook but even more when they are passionate about it...'
..now normally this would be shaping in itself and she might just reply with a smile or something, instead i issue the following remark immediately after my previous one which actively gets her to comply/qualify herself which tells me if she's interested or not....
'..then again i bet tuna pasta is the only thing that you can cook which doesnt really count does it!'.
Immediately she rambles on bragging about how she loves baking, she loves cooking PLUS she loves barbecuing (in my country called braaing)....and then proceeded to imply that she really is PASSIONATE about it, as well as proved it to me by writing a quick recipe for me. All this came just from one 'neg' remark following my shaping comment.
As you can see my 2nd comment actively encouraged an answer from her which forces her to show her compliance levels, and in addition its a light tease at the same time. Its a great way to get compliance early on in the interaction.
Another little example could be... 'i must say i enjoy a cute looking girl that has a bit of an adventurous streak in her, dont get me wrong youre cute and all but youre probably a little too settled for me'....if she comes back justifying how adventurous she is, she's putty in your hands.
Do this numerous time during the convo with various personality traits of hers, you will be shaping as well as getting active compliance as you go. Its also a great way of finding perceived commonalities, every time she complies/qualifies herself she backward rationalizes that you guys both have that in common.
Sunday, December 26, 2010
KEATON shares breaking rapport and adams game
Hi guys!
When i wrote a post about adam lyons' methos, many users of sdb wrote me a pm asking to clarify them how to use this method, because it isn't really clear from the ebook.
Before i begin to explain it, i have to tell you that, if you want to understand adam's method, you can get his vip archive using the search function.
Now, i will try to explain you how to use it.
In the eBook is explained very bad so i'm not surprised that you didn't understand it.
It is about creating comfort, breaking rapport and getting compliance until the fuck.
I'm not sure this is the real adam's method but it is how i interpreted it.
After the approach you must create comfort with your target, or the set in general. Comfort can be created through humor, through an interesting conversation, through connections, etc...
After the creation of comfort that is equal to rapport + trust, you must to break it.
This is when breaking rapport enters in action.
You can break rapport in many ways: you can use teasing, disqualification, disagreement, non-supplication, you can break it in a physical and sexual way too.
There are so many ways to break rapport. If you get adam lyons' vip
archive, you can find 81 ways to break rapport and a guide to qualification that is useful to the investment or compliance.
When you've broken rapport in a way that generates attraction, you're there. It's time to get compliance.
Adam explains only one of the techniques thanks to you can get compliance.
He, in fact, explains qualification very good in his ebook in his vip archive. He tells about investment, i will explain compliance. Compliance is investment. One of the techniques to get compliance is qualification. I will not explain it because you can find it in the vip archive.
I will not explain the other techniques to get compliance too, because the can be found in sexual selection switch by vin dicarlo and in theapproach's structured natural game compilation. They can be found bot on sdb through search function.
My method consists in this. I think it's an improvement of adam lyons' method because he explains ho to generate attraction and how to get the women invest in her attraction towards you. He don't consider another important aspect of attraction: attainability. I incorporated it in my method.
VAC method is really incredible because it tells about value, attainability and compliance to generate attraction. I didn't like it because i wanted a simpler method that fit with me so i generate attraction through breaking rapport and then use attainability and compliance techniques to fuck her.
So, my method is:
Create Comfort
Breaking Rapport
Deservedness (Attainability + Compliance)
Create comfort and breaking rapport are taken from adam's method, compliance techniques are taken from theapproach's guys and i have to say that compliance is the same as investment on which adam lyons' method is based.
I hope this post has clarified some concepts about adam's method.
----------------------------------------------------------------
VAC method is the apporach by vin dicarlo and sebastian drake, sebastian drake is really good, he retired from dating scene.
I find di carlos stuff on female psycology and his shaping and mapping really good for qualification.
that is psycological background.
When i wrote a post about adam lyons' methos, many users of sdb wrote me a pm asking to clarify them how to use this method, because it isn't really clear from the ebook.
Before i begin to explain it, i have to tell you that, if you want to understand adam's method, you can get his vip archive using the search function.
Now, i will try to explain you how to use it.
In the eBook is explained very bad so i'm not surprised that you didn't understand it.
It is about creating comfort, breaking rapport and getting compliance until the fuck.
I'm not sure this is the real adam's method but it is how i interpreted it.
After the approach you must create comfort with your target, or the set in general. Comfort can be created through humor, through an interesting conversation, through connections, etc...
After the creation of comfort that is equal to rapport + trust, you must to break it.
This is when breaking rapport enters in action.
You can break rapport in many ways: you can use teasing, disqualification, disagreement, non-supplication, you can break it in a physical and sexual way too.
There are so many ways to break rapport. If you get adam lyons' vip
archive, you can find 81 ways to break rapport and a guide to qualification that is useful to the investment or compliance.
When you've broken rapport in a way that generates attraction, you're there. It's time to get compliance.
Adam explains only one of the techniques thanks to you can get compliance.
He, in fact, explains qualification very good in his ebook in his vip archive. He tells about investment, i will explain compliance. Compliance is investment. One of the techniques to get compliance is qualification. I will not explain it because you can find it in the vip archive.
I will not explain the other techniques to get compliance too, because the can be found in sexual selection switch by vin dicarlo and in theapproach's structured natural game compilation. They can be found bot on sdb through search function.
My method consists in this. I think it's an improvement of adam lyons' method because he explains ho to generate attraction and how to get the women invest in her attraction towards you. He don't consider another important aspect of attraction: attainability. I incorporated it in my method.
VAC method is really incredible because it tells about value, attainability and compliance to generate attraction. I didn't like it because i wanted a simpler method that fit with me so i generate attraction through breaking rapport and then use attainability and compliance techniques to fuck her.
So, my method is:
Create Comfort
Breaking Rapport
Deservedness (Attainability + Compliance)
Create comfort and breaking rapport are taken from adam's method, compliance techniques are taken from theapproach's guys and i have to say that compliance is the same as investment on which adam lyons' method is based.
I hope this post has clarified some concepts about adam's method.
----------------------------------------------------------------
VAC method is the apporach by vin dicarlo and sebastian drake, sebastian drake is really good, he retired from dating scene.
I find di carlos stuff on female psycology and his shaping and mapping really good for qualification.
that is psycological background.
Thursday, December 23, 2010
Using Framing and Qualifying to Seduce Girls by Mr.M
Using Framing and Qualifying to Seduce Girls
Author: Mr.M
qualification
Many students on bootcamp get completely caught up on opening and attracting girls. While these are crucial steps, understanding qualification and the value of setting a qualifying frame is absolutely crucial to not only successfully getting a woman – but getting better with women generally. All of the most succesful guys I know, whether they’re naturally good – or learnt to be cool on the internet – make liberal use of framing and qualifying.
Why is Qualification So Important / Powerful In Seduction?
Qualification is surprisingly easy to apply but few people actually understand why it is so powerful. On the surface level, qualifying a woman allows her to feel that you like her for deeper reasons (other than her looks). She thus feels validated and more strongly connected to you. However, the effect of qualifying goes far deeper than this.
Almost all seduction technology replicates techniques and mindsets that ‘naturals’ adopt. A ‘natural’ is a man who has the lifestyle, social status, ability and/or characteristics of a sexual selector – i.e. a man who can get beautiful women and is thus pre-selected by women.
If you were this type of man – a sexual selector – then you would naturally qualify women because looks would become a prerequisite. It would take something more than tits and an ass to impress you. Interestingly, if you are in this frame of mind where you are inherently judging the person, then you immediately assume higher value.
Qualifying someone properly is, therefore, a very powerful signaling mechanism that you are a high value sexual selector. It signifies to women that beauty, in your world, is common, and that you expect far more than just looks. Qualifying a woman, if done correctly, challenges her to meet your standards, thus flipping the frame and making you the selector. This is the power of qualification – if applied correctly it should validate them but also get them chasing you because you are the one being sought after that the woman has to prove herself to.
I can’t tell you how many a situation I have been in when a woman has been falling all over herself to qualify to me. It’s a beautiful feeling.
How To Qualify
Try to approach this from a very natural perspective. Ask yourself – what do you want in a woman besides looks? Does this woman meet your standards as a human being? In Magic Bullets, Savoy says, “Figure out what you really want in a woman, and then take this a step further by asking yourself how a woman who possessed those characteristics would present herself. Now, spend your Qualification phase looking for precisely that. For example, among other things, I value intelligence and education. I screen for this in qualification, by asking her about books she has read and movies she has seen.” This is spot on.
I personally ask the following questions in qualification:
‘Cool people are a dying breed. What do you do for fun?’
‘I get the feeling that your job doesn’t completely fulfill you creatively. Do you have a passion outside of work?’
‘My ex used to say that there are two types of people in this world – boring and crazy. What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve done lately?’ (NB this is sometimes followed by – ‘where’s the craziest place you’ve had sex?’)
‘So what do you want to be when you grow up?’
‘What would you say are your 3 best qualities?’
Importantly, do not just IOI directly after the response that they give. I always inquire deeper into the interest/topic/issue. Only when they say something unique, should you actually give an IOI (or reward and relate) – see below for more on this.
Common Mistakes
Don’t simply give IOI’s for anything she says while qualifying. Try and inquire a little bit deeper and get some unique information out. Qualification is a form of connecting to the girl on a more emotional level. For example, is you say, “Are you adventurous?” and she says “Yes”, don’t just stop there! Ask her “So what’s the most adventurous thing you’ve done lately?” When she describes it to you, only then reward and relate. The point is to make her work a little bit for your approval.
Qualification can get boring if you’re not being inquiring. The crux point is this: the attraction phase is based more on wide rapport (i.e. multiple conversational threads, changing topics and transitioning incessantly). The qualification phase is based more on deep rapport (i.e. emotional connection, asking questions, reward and relating).
Don’t forget to sexually escalate during, and after, qualification. What I mean by sexual escalation is moving towards the kiss close and/or establishing sexual interest and/or establishing that you are a sexual threat. It’s fine to escalate during the qualification (in fact you should be doing this) but once you have actually qualified her, you definitely should escalate further. I might make a completely separate post of proper escalation if there is enough interest but for now, you can sexually escalate by any combination of the following: keeping strong eye contact (‘bedroom’ eyes), triangular gazing, lowering your tonality, allow conversation to gravitate towards sexual topics and keeping prolonged or more intimate kino (e.g. touch/hold her hands or touch back of neck if she is talking into her ear).
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qualification
Many students on bootcamp get completely caught up on opening and attracting girls. While these are crucial steps, understanding qualification and the value of setting a qualifying frame is absolutely crucial to not only successfully getting a woman – but getting better with women generally. All of the most succesful guys I know, whether they’re naturally good – or learnt to be cool on the internet – make liberal use of framing and qualifying.
Why is Qualification So Important / Powerful In Seduction?
Qualification is surprisingly easy to apply but few people actually understand why it is so powerful. On the surface level, qualifying a woman allows her to feel that you like her for deeper reasons (other than her looks). She thus feels validated and more strongly connected to you. However, the effect of qualifying goes far deeper than this.
Almost all seduction technology replicates techniques and mindsets that ‘naturals’ adopt. A ‘natural’ is a man who has the lifestyle, social status, ability and/or characteristics of a sexual selector – i.e. a man who can get beautiful women and is thus pre-selected by women.
If you were this type of man – a sexual selector – then you would naturally qualify women because looks would become a prerequisite. It would take something more than tits and an ass to impress you. Interestingly, if you are in this frame of mind where you are inherently judging the person, then you immediately assume higher value.
Qualifying someone properly is, therefore, a very powerful signaling mechanism that you are a high value sexual selector. It signifies to women that beauty, in your world, is common, and that you expect far more than just looks. Qualifying a woman, if done correctly, challenges her to meet your standards, thus flipping the frame and making you the selector. This is the power of qualification – if applied correctly it should validate them but also get them chasing you because you are the one being sought after that the woman has to prove herself to.
I can’t tell you how many a situation I have been in when a woman has been falling all over herself to qualify to me. It’s a beautiful feeling.
How To Qualify
Try to approach this from a very natural perspective. Ask yourself – what do you want in a woman besides looks? Does this woman meet your standards as a human being? In Magic Bullets, Savoy says, “Figure out what you really want in a woman, and then take this a step further by asking yourself how a woman who possessed those characteristics would present herself. Now, spend your Qualification phase looking for precisely that. For example, among other things, I value intelligence and education. I screen for this in qualification, by asking her about books she has read and movies she has seen.” This is spot on.
I personally ask the following questions in qualification:
‘Cool people are a dying breed. What do you do for fun?’
‘I get the feeling that your job doesn’t completely fulfill you creatively. Do you have a passion outside of work?’
‘My ex used to say that there are two types of people in this world – boring and crazy. What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve done lately?’ (NB this is sometimes followed by – ‘where’s the craziest place you’ve had sex?’)
‘So what do you want to be when you grow up?’
‘What would you say are your 3 best qualities?’
Importantly, do not just IOI directly after the response that they give. I always inquire deeper into the interest/topic/issue. Only when they say something unique, should you actually give an IOI (or reward and relate) – see below for more on this.
Common Mistakes
Don’t simply give IOI’s for anything she says while qualifying. Try and inquire a little bit deeper and get some unique information out. Qualification is a form of connecting to the girl on a more emotional level. For example, is you say, “Are you adventurous?” and she says “Yes”, don’t just stop there! Ask her “So what’s the most adventurous thing you’ve done lately?” When she describes it to you, only then reward and relate. The point is to make her work a little bit for your approval.
Qualification can get boring if you’re not being inquiring. The crux point is this: the attraction phase is based more on wide rapport (i.e. multiple conversational threads, changing topics and transitioning incessantly). The qualification phase is based more on deep rapport (i.e. emotional connection, asking questions, reward and relating).
Don’t forget to sexually escalate during, and after, qualification. What I mean by sexual escalation is moving towards the kiss close and/or establishing sexual interest and/or establishing that you are a sexual threat. It’s fine to escalate during the qualification (in fact you should be doing this) but once you have actually qualified her, you definitely should escalate further. I might make a completely separate post of proper escalation if there is enough interest but for now, you can sexually escalate by any combination of the following: keeping strong eye contact (‘bedroom’ eyes), triangular gazing, lowering your tonality, allow conversation to gravitate towards sexual topics and keeping prolonged or more intimate kino (e.g. touch/hold her hands or touch back of neck if she is talking into her ear).
Friday, December 17, 2010
screening question? I spit fire on a qualification frame to get her attracted NLP
Yo I dont like your pic.
anyways I litedn to Seduction Sceince CDs i had past pdf of Seducion Scince v.1.
I screen women but I qualify or do it non verbally...depends man.
what is your thoughts or interpreation of screening to you?
Like I mentioned you can screen out girls who arent looking for sex, not compatible with....?
or you are screening to see how to seduce her...or even screen her to use qualification or compliance frame of
"I'm prize and who are you my dear?"
I use this , , its ILL son,Im telling you, verbal verbal tight game son ...iI laced it with some NLP in it..potent son..
My private screening question is :
please calibrate when using this: credit Saffron pua nyc*
"you are really sexy and cute"
HER : I know every guy says that to me thats lame
ME:" but I mean other girls are pretty too what is unique about you ...
I mean
What would you want a guy, who you are attracted to (point to self),
want for him to know about you, what makes you importantly unique and sexy about yourself ?"
I mean
What would you want a guy, who you are attracted to (hand on your chest, then remove),
want for him to know about you?......
what is that something he should know about you , that would make you feel sexy about yourself ?"
If she responds you have baited her inot your frame and she assumes as she has responded will assume she is attracted to you...you have to reward and then break on a high point to have her then invest into talking to you more and she will feel attracted.
anyways I litedn to Seduction Sceince CDs i had past pdf of Seducion Scince v.1.
I screen women but I qualify or do it non verbally...depends man.
what is your thoughts or interpreation of screening to you?
Like I mentioned you can screen out girls who arent looking for sex, not compatible with....?
or you are screening to see how to seduce her...or even screen her to use qualification or compliance frame of
"I'm prize and who are you my dear?"
I use this , , its ILL son,Im telling you, verbal verbal tight game son ...iI laced it with some NLP in it..potent son..
My private screening question is :
please calibrate when using this: credit Saffron pua nyc*
"you are really sexy and cute"
HER : I know every guy says that to me thats lame
ME:" but I mean other girls are pretty too what is unique about you ...
I mean
What would you want a guy, who you are attracted to (point to self),
want for him to know about you, what makes you importantly unique and sexy about yourself ?"
I mean
What would you want a guy, who you are attracted to (hand on your chest, then remove),
want for him to know about you?......
what is that something he should know about you , that would make you feel sexy about yourself ?"
If she responds you have baited her inot your frame and she assumes as she has responded will assume she is attracted to you...you have to reward and then break on a high point to have her then invest into talking to you more and she will feel attracted.
Saturday, November 20, 2010
Qualification 2010 -Shaping in Psycology defines relationship
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Hey guys ,
Sandros here.Hope all is well. I got a coule of questions on qualification.
alot of guys talk about it MM as in A3 and even Sinn gave a speach on it then made a series audio etc Topo's teaches it with DHVs, Adam talks about it extensively for over an hour etc etc etc
I really dont see qualification asA3 or qualification, I use qualification within my conversation or why im talking about certain subject aka Framing.Swinggcat is really good with this I think one of the best way to learn qualification is to NOT THINK about qualification when you are talking with a girl.
i noticed when you are aware that you are "qualifying " girls pickup or hint that you are socially awkward and backwards rationalize you have an agenda or argumentative.
I usually frame it in a push pull manner . best way is to first take an improve class, so that once you have that warmed up of refraszing or think quckily you can "qualify " anything she gives you. you could combine this with trance words or eliciting values type of words, words that having meaning to her and have her "invest" in the conversation more.
It comes of more genuine than anything.
BEST yet it works for business and interviews etc...
everythign you learn should be able to apply to real life aside from seduction.
Question from a reader buddyx:
What typically makes girls have second thoughts?
I keep getting girls agreeing to go out with me, then later changing their mind and canceling
Sandrospua answers:
You have to make her invest more into the interaction and tell her you hate people that flake and tell her that you lost a friend cause he used to flake alot and ruined friendship. its not abig deal but that it is what it is, ask her is if she has been flaked on, how much she hates that too...
go into another story
and then get her number
look and behold man.
this is called "shaping" in psycology.
if she likes you she wont flake, if she isnt sure about you then its a signal that she needs to know you better before going out with you, aka comfort/rapport.
I have great phone game so I have them meet up, if they dont I persue them but the chances are 50/50 for sex on first date.
dont take flakes too serious also, some women want to know if you will get upset as a test.
phone game flakes as all based how you have her invest into you rather than you chasing her without her giving you a motif why is she even worth your time..thus it becomes a validation issue and she losses interest going out.
BEST definition of qualification is :
Shaping http://www.enotes.com/gale-psychology-encyclopedia/shaping
A gradual, behavior modification technique in which successive approximations to the desired behavior is rewarded.
Shaping, or behavior-shaping, is a variant of operant conditioning. Instead of waiting for a subject to exhibit a desired behavior, any behavior leading to the target behavior is rewarded. For example, B. F. Skinner (1904-1990) discovered that, in order to train a rat to push a lever, any movement in the direction of the lever had to be rewarded, until finally, the rat was trained to push a lever. Once the target behavior is reached, however, no other behavior is rewarded. In other words, the subject behavior is shaped, or molded, into the desired form.
Although rejected by many orientations within the field of psychology,...
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Hey guys ,
Sandros here.Hope all is well. I got a coule of questions on qualification.
alot of guys talk about it MM as in A3 and even Sinn gave a speach on it then made a series audio etc Topo's teaches it with DHVs, Adam talks about it extensively for over an hour etc etc etc
I really dont see qualification asA3 or qualification, I use qualification within my conversation or why im talking about certain subject aka Framing.Swinggcat is really good with this I think one of the best way to learn qualification is to NOT THINK about qualification when you are talking with a girl.
i noticed when you are aware that you are "qualifying " girls pickup or hint that you are socially awkward and backwards rationalize you have an agenda or argumentative.
I usually frame it in a push pull manner . best way is to first take an improve class, so that once you have that warmed up of refraszing or think quckily you can "qualify " anything she gives you. you could combine this with trance words or eliciting values type of words, words that having meaning to her and have her "invest" in the conversation more.
It comes of more genuine than anything.
BEST yet it works for business and interviews etc...
everythign you learn should be able to apply to real life aside from seduction.
Question from a reader buddyx:
What typically makes girls have second thoughts?
I keep getting girls agreeing to go out with me, then later changing their mind and canceling
Sandrospua answers:
You have to make her invest more into the interaction and tell her you hate people that flake and tell her that you lost a friend cause he used to flake alot and ruined friendship. its not abig deal but that it is what it is, ask her is if she has been flaked on, how much she hates that too...
go into another story
and then get her number
look and behold man.
this is called "shaping" in psycology.
if she likes you she wont flake, if she isnt sure about you then its a signal that she needs to know you better before going out with you, aka comfort/rapport.
I have great phone game so I have them meet up, if they dont I persue them but the chances are 50/50 for sex on first date.
dont take flakes too serious also, some women want to know if you will get upset as a test.
phone game flakes as all based how you have her invest into you rather than you chasing her without her giving you a motif why is she even worth your time..thus it becomes a validation issue and she losses interest going out.
BEST definition of qualification is :
Shaping http://www.enotes.com/gale-psychology-encyclopedia/shaping
A gradual, behavior modification technique in which successive approximations to the desired behavior is rewarded.
Shaping, or behavior-shaping, is a variant of operant conditioning. Instead of waiting for a subject to exhibit a desired behavior, any behavior leading to the target behavior is rewarded. For example, B. F. Skinner (1904-1990) discovered that, in order to train a rat to push a lever, any movement in the direction of the lever had to be rewarded, until finally, the rat was trained to push a lever. Once the target behavior is reached, however, no other behavior is rewarded. In other words, the subject behavior is shaped, or molded, into the desired form.
Although rejected by many orientations within the field of psychology,...
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