Dave aka Fingerman is an Intern for Jeffy "Jlaix" for RSD.
10 points to getting good with women adn being happy.
1. Move to a cheap city with a good wheater, good night life and good working opportunity. Have a place with your own room near the bars and clubs. No suburb BS or shitty city.
2. Make good friends that like to go out and that encourage or pick up girls with you. I don't care if they are faggots with no game. They have to be good friends, you have to love them, and you need to go out with them.
3. Start going out minimum 4 nights a week. All night. You don't count the number of sets you open. Its a marathon, not a sprint. You open all night until you leave, and you leave when the bar closes and there is no more girls on the street. Don't go out alone and do 4 approaches. That shit doesn't work. Make friends. Beast all night.
4. Money: Start working on your money situation. Make money with a job, and invest your money into passive income streams. You will need to learn and specialize in one or a few income streams. Passive income are things like Websites (internet marketing), Buildings, Laundry mats, Vending machines, TVs with ads, Stocks, a business that you own, etc. You need to learn and specialize. And you need a fucking job first to invest your money. Work at Mc Donald's if you don't have education I don't care. Live cheaply. No iphones, no blazers, no cars, nothing. You invest all the money you can and you eat rammens.
5. Read self help books, especially the ones recommended by the pua community. Those books will teach you game alone. Don't hang out on forums the only people giving advice on there don't get laid. Don't read pua ebooks, they only want to make money and they don't know shit. You want to be reading at least 10 books a year.
6. Work out and eat healthy. Do crossfit or P90X or anything you want. You need to get in shape. Getting laid isn't fun unless you are in shape. You don't want to die young. You want to be healthy. Its so important. Work out at least 3 times a week and more depending on what you do. If you need to lose weight, eat healthy and stop over eating and drinking (alchool and coke) you fat fuck.
7. Start meditating. At least 20 minutes a day. Meditation will make your game 1000 times better. Brad does it. I don't know why it works. It just does. It's magical.
8. At some point take an RSD bootcamp. It will fix some of your game problem and make you get laid more.
9. Forget about TV, computer games, masturbating, eating donuts and all the things you think are fun. They are not fun. They are making you more of a loser every single day.
That's all. That's my life. Do that for a couple of years and you'll be a very rich, very successful and very happy man.
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Since I have been assisting Jeff for 6 months, I got to go to the RSD world summit for free. And I must say it was pretty awesome. I was wearing a suit and met lots of cool people like Hunter and Manwhore. I fucked 2 girls during that week.
I also made it a point to attend ALL speeches which was pretty hard since we usually went to bed at like 6 AM and the seminars were from 1 PM to 9 PM. Some of the speeches were boring stuff and some of them were insane shit that I'm so glad I didn't miss (Ryans was the best).
Anyway here's the notes I took:
RYAN
Social frequency
Physical Rhythm
Verbal Rhythm
Emotional Rhythm
Nobody knows what the fuck is going on
There is no such thing as certainty
Individual influence is based on strength of frequency
Increaser of influence
1. No pinging
2. Increased situational experience
3. Increased outcome detachment
4. develop increased emoting muscles
5. Increased value
Cognitive mastery
Hold your beliefs in the face of counter evidence
Frames are determined instantly
Start with a proper rhythm -> Output / Reaction
You do this by reaction eliciting. It's like a jump start to get the interaction going, it's not reaction seeking.
Frame generation
I am a winner, I like you, you're smart, this is a no brainer.
How do a reality wins?
Strengthening and projecting reality, bringing her to call into question her reality by:
No pinging
Situational unawareness
Narrate the situation the way you want it to be:
"I like that we like each other"
Telling vs asking
"tell your friends you're coming with me to the bar and that we'll be right back"
Shaping multiple choice:
"How much do you like me, tons or super tons?"
Project expected behavior
Talking softly expecting attention vs talking loudly hoping to be heard.
Understanding the girl's value system
Eliciting her value-present behaviors
Breaking social conventions
Chlamydia
Putting finger in her nose and feeding it to her
Inception architecture in practice
-Chinese food frame control
-GF finds the blog
-Burger-rant pull
Reality is shaped by what you acknowledge - For an idea to become reality it takes mutual consent.
Formation of a pick up
1. Open on isolation… the tricky part is making it look like it's going good so the friends don't cockblock by eliciting reactions.
2. Establish conversational rhythm by throwing reaction bits.
3. Narrate the moment with the ideal interpretation. "We're so cute together." "We have good chemistry" "We're in love". Tricky part is pinging and frame battle and outcome attachment. You only argue about things you're not sure about.
Monologging is your best weapon
The idiot monologue, rent. Say tons of stuff in a row and going back and changing your mind so she can't say "no".
------------> playful
------->serious
If you do something playful once, you can do something more crazy playful later, then say no no no Im just kidding and come back to the previous thing
"Were having anal tonight!"
"No no no Im just kidding, we're just having normal sex"
Bring her to question her preconceived notion by breaking social norms
-Booger
-Quick kiss
When she goes in an unknown situation she starts pinging
Elicit value present behaviors
Project reality once you've shaped it.
FREQUENCY DIVERGENCE
Social settings have different range of frequency
Leading into divergent frequency from the club so that the girl cant relate with the club and her friends anymore.
Different frequency
Were winners
Were tired
Were different from those people. I want to get to know you in a normal place. Not with loud music and drunk people and etc.
Were so horny.
Duck theory with body language and making statement that make the girls ask questions
Craft her next step with throwing spikes.
ALEX
2 ways to pick up
Slow and steady
Crazy intense sexual mode
Most people are in the middle and it gets nowhere
No girl is gonna leave the club before 3 30-4 if the the club closes at 4. Understand time frame. The first 2 hours at the club don't matter.
If a girl is attracted, it's a quiet and attentive response.
Overly friendly means she has a boyfriend somewhere else.
Girls are stimulation/arousal junkies.
If a girl is attentive, just chill, she is stifled, don't try to make her react
The goal is arousal, not for the girl to enjoy herself.
She doesn't know if she's interested or not. It's just arousing.
If you're too aggressive, you are an unanswered question and you get boring and there is no arousal.
Sometimes be really positive and sometimes be really negative and confronting, but never try to make her react
It's not what you do, its what you deal with
She sees you as an unanswered question
If you take it too fast you become predictable and boring
Same thing if too slow.
Don't be afraid to leave and come back.
Just roll with the girls, play out the interaction.
Negative example of things to say:
"Shut the fuck up"
"You're crazy"
"I'm a human being, I'm not a clown that you can use"
"Bitch you want to fight"
"Relax Relax Relax"
"Are you a player"
"That's an ugly name"
"You have something in your teeth"
If another guy comes in and is socially calibrated, just believe that because you were there longer it will work. If the guy is uncalibrated or over the top, tell him "just be cool".
Leave when they leave.
Facilitatory lies
-This is my ex-gf
-Im gonna be sick, will you help me (in the bathroom stall)
-This club is boring
-Lets go to the casino
-music sucks
Fight, boring, music sucks, hunger, casino, smoking
The patient man wins the game.
Deliberate illogicality
SOE
The skill for ONS is not game, game is easy. The skill is figuring out which one is down for.
Even the best guys need to spend time with the girl.
Don't have urgency, don't try to drag her out of the club against her will, it lowers you value.
Don't be picky with ONS or you will never have them.
Topics to screen ONS
-Traveled the world.
-Youngest girls in the club and older girls in the club, not the middle age
-Do you want to get waste tonight? Excited about getting wasted.
-Girls in party mode.
-Where are you staying tonight.
-Find the one who's willing to leave her friends.
-Are you a risk taker.
-If the girl lives with her parents, walk away.
Make out makes it predictable
Physical rapport
She will give you a test if you lead.
Don't try to escalate too hard and try to play it out until you can pull.
Push and pull
Leave the potential to make a move
You only get laid when the girl games you, by not escalating you make that happen.
Value inversion point, you look at her and wait for her to talk.
For crazy girls you need to be a crocodile hunter
Party or skillful manipulation
(woos) vs (work)
BRAD
If the set didn't hook, you didn't convey enough value.
Tonality is really important, practice tonality
Practice talking to wall for 10 minutes.
Motivation is building reference point for all circumstances
No reaction from the girl = screening for a cool guy.
Different stimuli level = different intent/tonality
If you open from the left, the girl can't turn her back as easily
Don't react if she isn't down to pull, just chill and keep talking and ask later. Do it 100 times.
-Hey lets go to the bar (not to buy a drink)
Lead the friends so you have more power than the friends.
TIM
Badass VS Cutie
A shift in dimension = attraction
Cutie---------------------Badass
Tim-----------------------Jeffy
Attraction is a spike
Become good at reading emotion
Examples of badass
-Are you having a good time?
-No
-Im from california
-WTF california! (walks off…) (come back… actually I want to marry a girl from california)
-Im from california
-Minus 10 points.
-Bla bla bla her talking
-shhhh shhh let's talking about something else
-Fuck off (walk away…) (come back….) Im a virgin
Disagreeing with everything she says.
Spin and kiss
moving sets -> stop the locomotive
Take care of the friends, introduce yourself to everyone
When you see the friend leaving, engage her immediately
TODD
text the girl for day 2
"We will do XYZ. Meet me at 1234 love street." (Your address)
2 types of touch
-attraction/sex
-comfort
OZZY
Fear affect pick up performance
-tonality
-physicality
-risk taking
-body language
How to deal with fear
write down you fear with women
Be specific, what kind of girls
describe scenario to yourself, the exact situation
Social situation
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Fear
\/
Avoidance
\/
Short term positive relief but longterm negative
Cause of fear :
unrealistic expectation about people
self perception creates fear:
1. I am incompetent (you need to build evidence of the opposite (being competent))
2. If the girl really knew me she wouldn't like me
3.I must do everything perfectly at all time
Eliminating fear by avoiding is bad. Fear can only survive in avoidance.
Eliminating fear by exposure
Comfort zone becomes fear
Fears drop to zero with repetition
The 2 minutes mark. If you don't last for 2 minutes you're cheating. Fear lessens after 2 minutes.
NICK
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