Hey guys ,
Sandros here.Hope all is well. I got a coule of questions on qualification.
alot of guys talk about it MM as in A3 and even Sinn gave a speach on it then made a series audio etc Topo's teaches it with DHVs, Adam talks about it extensively for over an hour etc etc etc
I really dont see qualification asA3 or qualification, I use qualification within my conversation or why im talking about certain subject aka Framing.Swinggcat is really good with this I think one of the best way to learn qualification is to NOT THINK about qualification when you are talking with a girl.
i noticed when you are aware that you are "qualifying " girls pickup or hint that you are socially awkward and backwards rationalize you have an agenda or argumentative.
I usually frame it in a push pull manner . best way is to first take an improve class, so that once you have that warmed up of refraszing or think quckily you can "qualify " anything she gives you. you could combine this with trance words or eliciting values type of words, words that having meaning to her and have her "invest" in the conversation more.
It comes of more genuine than anything.
BEST yet it works for business and interviews etc...
everythign you learn should be able to apply to real life aside from seduction.
Question from a reader buddyx:
What typically makes girls have second thoughts?
I keep getting girls agreeing to go out with me, then later changing their mind and canceling
Sandrospua answers:
You have to make her invest more into the interaction and tell her you hate people that flake and tell her that you lost a friend cause he used to flake alot and ruined friendship. its not abig deal but that it is what it is, ask her is if she has been flaked on, how much she hates that too...
go into another story
and then get her number
look and behold man.
this is called "shaping" in psycology.
if she likes you she wont flake, if she isnt sure about you then its a signal that she needs to know you better before going out with you, aka comfort/rapport.
I have great phone game so I have them meet up, if they dont I persue them but the chances are 50/50 for sex on first date.
dont take flakes too serious also, some women want to know if you will get upset as a test.
phone game flakes as all based how you have her invest into you rather than you chasing her without her giving you a motif why is she even worth your time..thus it becomes a validation issue and she losses interest going out.
BEST definition of qualification is :
Shaping http://www.enotes.com/gale-psychology-encyclopedia/shaping
A gradual, behavior modification technique in which successive approximations to the desired behavior is rewarded.
Shaping, or behavior-shaping, is a variant of operant conditioning. Instead of waiting for a subject to exhibit a desired behavior, any behavior leading to the target behavior is rewarded. For example, B. F. Skinner (1904-1990) discovered that, in order to train a rat to push a lever, any movement in the direction of the lever had to be rewarded, until finally, the rat was trained to push a lever. Once the target behavior is reached, however, no other behavior is rewarded. In other words, the subject behavior is shaped, or molded, into the desired form.
Although rejected by many orientations within the field of psychology,...
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