This is going to be part one in series of day game posts that I have no idea how many articles it’ll end up being. I’m going to talk about specific locations in future articles and may bring back some posts like the one I wrote on personal space or day game in a grocery store… No Salmon required.
I want to focus on my day game model with this first article because it’s the cornerstone of all of my day time interactions. When was learning day game and going out basically seven days a week to practice I kept a journal and everyday after I was done I would write down as much as I could remember about my interactions. I’ve talked about journals before, I think everyone should keep one because unlike field reports you’re just writing it for yourself and you can put your ego aside and talk about every interaction, good, or bad.
Captain Jack realized Strawberry Fields is a great routine for same night lays because he kept a journal. He basically looked at all the interactions with girls that he picked up and fucked that night and saw that in each one he was using Strawberry Fields.
My experience was similar. I looked back at all of my day game interactions that ended with a number that didn’t flake and looked for commonalties between them. I found that basically all of my successful interactions we when I opened direct, transitioned with a cold read, and then cycled qualification and comfort a few times.
I turned it into a system and model and gave it to a few friends to field test and they started having successful day game sets. Then I taught it to a few students and they started getting numbers, going on dates, and even laying the girls. I realized I had stumbled onto something.
I’ve finally decided to write it up for my blog. I’ve taught it to enough guys of all different ages and backgrounds to know that it can basically work for anyone. Like everything in the community this is a framework and guideline, it’s not absolute. Bend the rules and personalize this, everyone’s style is a little different and no interaction with another person can be fully broken down into some model.
The Opener
Like every pickup you have to start with an opener. I really like direct during the day and my model is based around it. People have legitimate time constraints during the day and most of the time people just don’t have the time to talk to you for 20 minutes. Direct cuts though all the attraction stuff in one sentence and gives you more time to build comfort and qualify the girl.
Direct works off the girl’s first impression of you. So the better your nonverbals are, body language, eye contact, vocal tonality, and delivery, the better it’s going to go. You’re also going to want to be dressed well, be well groomed, and if you’re in good shape or good looking it’s also going to help you… However I’m 5′6″, weigh 130lbs, and look like I’m 17… I’m obviously not relying on my looks to get by.
Direct is high risk, high reward. If a girl for one reason or another decides she’s not interested in you the set is basically over. No plowing, no negging, leave politely and go open another set.
I’m not going to go into the nuisances of direct game but Sinn sent out a really great email about direct and the mechanisms that drive it last week. I suggest you guys check it out if you want a complete guide to direct game for both day and night.
The specific opener that I use is just a standard direct opener–
“Excuse me, I know this is crazy and whatever but I thought you were cute and I wanted to meet you. I’m Doc”
It’s quick, it’s polite, and it’s flattering. The “I know this is kinda crazy/random” part is actually pretty important. It basically says that you don’t do this everyday and acknowledges that this is a somewhat strange situation.
There are three main responses you’ll get to this–
1. She’ll be a little flattered, a little confused, and a little taken aback. She’ll basically say to you “ummmm… ok? I’m GIRL.” This is the most common reaction you’ll get
2. Boyfriend objection. This is the hardest blowout you should ever get. Either she actually has a boyfriend or she’s being polite and asking you to go away. I usually just say “He’s a lucky guy. It was nice meeting you.” I wrote a whole post about this a few months back which you can find here.
3. She’ll be very flattered and happy. She’ll ask you a lot of questions and basically if you don’t fuck up it’ll end well.
The Transition
You’ve opened her! But now what?
I like to follow up my opener with a cold read.
Cold reading for all intents and purposes is just guessing something about someone or telling them a truism about themselves. You can use them by making a statement but is actually just a fancy way of asking them a question.
The question “How do you like to be fucked?” Becomes “I bet you like to be bent over, fucked doggy, and probably slapped around a bit.”
An example of telling someone a truism about themselves is “You know you seem really reserved and shy but I bet when you’re around someone you trust you have this total wild side.” That’s basically true about anyone, everyone has multiple sides to their personality.
They also can act as qualification questions and they test for compliance. In the cold read I use during the day “You know, you have like this west coast vibe.” She can respond with “No, I’m from Philly.” or she can say “No, I’m actually from Philly but I’m here for nursing school at Boston University.”
She shows me more interest with the second response. She’s actively trying to create rapport by sharing more about herself.
Just to clarify it the cold read I follow up my direct opener with is “You know, you totally have this west coast vibe.” Obviously if you’re from the west coast use “east coast vibe” or “New York vibe.”
El Topo has written a lot about cold reading on blog, especially sexual cold reading. Check it out if you want to know more.
I’m going to follow up this post tomorrow with the rest of my model.
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