Day Game Model – Part 2

Today is part two of my day game model. For part one click here.

Last time I covered the opener and the transition. Today I’m going to cover the rest of the model.

Direct Opener- Excuse me, I know this is crazy or whatever but I thought you were cute and wanted to meet you. I’m Doc.
Transition with Cold Read – You know, you really have this like west coast vibe.

The nest step is

Fluff Talk

After you cold read about where she’s from she’s going to tell you if you’re right or where she’s actually from.

This is a perfect opportunity to create some rapport and make some small talk. As I said in part one there will be times when the girl will give you more information than you asked for, instead of her just saying “No, I’m from Chicago.” She’ll say “No, I moved out here from Chicago and go to school at Harvard.” The second response gives you more to work with but let’s just assume she replied with the first one.

PUA: You know you really have like this west coast vibe.
Girl: No, I’m actually from Chicago
PUA: Really? I never would have guessed that. I was actually in Chicago a few months ago. My friend Dave lives in Wicker Park and we went to this really cool club one night. I think it was called The Apartment.
Girl: Yeah I know The Apartment!
PUA: Yeah it was really crazy they have like a shower and bathtub upstairs. What are you in Boston for?
Girl: Blah Blah Blah

If have any sort of life you’ve probably traveled a bit or at least know something about major US cities that you can talk about. And if you don’t you can always just say “You know I’ve never been to Chicago. Do you like it?”

Every now and then you’ll get thrown a curve ball like “I’m from Wisconsin.” Well I’ve never been there and don’t know anyone from there so I’ll say something like, “Really? I think you’re the first person I’ve ever met from Wisconsin.”

You’re not trying to do anything fancy here. You’re just trying to establish some rapport and get her used to talking to you.

Entropy and I really believe that guys need to learn basic conversation skills before trying to learn to pick up girls. Entropy covers this topic very thoroughly in his ebook.

Qualification Question

Although I said that your cold read will at times act as qualification, most of the time you’ll need to find out more about the girl. And like I said in the beginning of part one, all I do in day game is cycle qualification and comfort a few times.

A whole book could be written on qualification, and probably has, but I’m just going to give you guys the basics.

A qualification question/statement is a question that you ask to elicit a response from a woman that’ll tell you something about them. You then reward her response to your question by qualifying her on it.

The qualification question that I usually use at this point in the interaction is “So what do you do when you’re not ____.”

The “____” is what she was doing before you opened her. So if you meet her in a bookstore it’s “So what do you do when you’re not shopping for books?” The funniest example of this I ever had was when I opened a girl in the addiction and recovery section of a bookstore. I was like “So what do you do when you’re not…” and as I trailed off she looked up, saw what section she was in, and took about 5 steps back so that she was in the self help section. We both laughed about it.

Sometimes the girl will give you a kinda blow off answer like “I work” or “I hangout with friends.” If they do this I like to tease them a little by saying something like “Wow! You have friends too! This is so amazing.” It’s really all about the tonality of how you say it. You don’t want to sound like a dick, you should be smiling and she should be able to detect your sarcasm.

If she tells you anything like “I just finished med school and I’m doing my residency right now.” You should reward her with something like “Wow that’s great! I think it’s awesome when people have jobs that help others. Have you always wanted to be a doctor?”

If you notice at the end I ask another question to make our interaction even deeper and find out more about her. Another great technique is to relate some part of your life to what she does. With the girl who wants to be a doctor I could talk about how my brother is a doctor and tell a random story about me and him growing up.

Grounding Story

Up until this point in the interaction the majority of what has been talked about is her and her life with little stories about you thrown in here and there. This is the point where you really share yourself with her.

Basically your grounding story is a story about you that both builds comfort and attraction at the same time. For day game I like to have the story focus on what you do and WHY you do it.

Here’s an example what I usually say–

“Yeah, like, for, me I work in film. And it’s really cool because like always growing up I was just fascinated with movies. As a little kid I’d literally just sit in front of the TV and watch the same movies over and over again. Just looking at the different cuts and camera angles… Yeah I’m totally a movie nerd. So fair warning.”

The most important part of the story is that I love what I’m doing with my life. I’m doing what I’m passionate about.

Now not everyone love what they do for a living but everyone should have a hobby that they love. If this is the case use your hobby.

“Yeah, like, for, me I work as an accountant. And it’s cool and whatever. But I really love playing basketball. My mom said that basically as soon as I could walk I’d try to play basketball with my older brother and his friends. And it’s really cool, now because I coach some kids on the weekends.”

… I actually like that story more than mine.

There’s not much too it but be prepared for women to ask you questions about the stuff you just mentioned.

More Qualification*

Outside of the number close this is the last step and about half of the time you won’t even need it. Hence the *

I usually only add this last bit of qualification if the girl didn’t give me much with the cold read and my other qualification question.

The great thing is that now that you’ve opened up to her with you’re grounding story she’s much more likely to share herself with you. I’ll usually phrase this step like this–

“So yeah, obviously you hang with friends or whatever but like seriously what do you like to do?”

And it works the same way as the first qualification question. She’ll answer, you reward her for it, and follow it up with another question about what she does or relate it to your life.

Number Close

I first heard this number close from Sinn. It’s simple, it leads, and it’s not too forward. It’s the best number close I’ve ever tried and I’ve stopped using anything else.

“Well I gotta go meet some friends but you seem really cool. Let’s exchange numbers and maybe we’ll grab coffee or something.”

If she says no, it means no. Don’t try to plow or anything… unless you enjoy flaky numbers.

And that’s it.

The entire interaction should last anywhere from 5 – 15 minutes and the numbers you get should be fairly solid.

I’m going to post an interaction that follows the model tomorrow so you guys can see how the conversation flows.