great material on willpower and emotions affect motivation

Motivation is not a matter of willpower. You probably already know that, because you have probably used willpower again and again to make change - on the very same issue. Will is a short term device. If you are looking for long term change you need to use the power of core emotion.

Emotion is the most potent driver of attention and behavior. Emotion tells us what is important to us, focuses us, and gives us the energy to do something about it.

When something matters to us emotionally we are able to connect with complex subconscious brain structures to support us in attaining our goal. We are able to set a goal and work in a consistent way toward meeting it.

Bur harnessing core emotion to motivate and energize us requires that we be able to tolerate and manage the felt sense of vulnerability that naturally arises when we have feelings. We need to be able to notice, and pay attention to, and stay with the uncomfortable bodily cues that herald the flow of emotion under the surface of our experience.

Get Your Priorities Straight ...Today

Get Your Priorities Straight ...Today

Get Your Priorities Straight ...Today


I see lots of guys in the Seduction Community make the same mistake over and over, regarding where their priorities are... Namely, letting pickup take over their life. Guys spend all their time reading forums, downloading more and more material, studying every guru's philosophy and eventually it becomes their whole life. Guys start to look at the world as one big sarge and lose the ability to act like a normal person with friends and other priorities in their life. This is why so many guys you meet in the community are fucking weird. There are plenty of great guys in it, but also a lot of weirdos. Make an effort to be a normal person before being a mPUA... You'll be happier.


Pickup should be just one of the hobbies you have. Don't spend more than 2-3 days a week on it and don't spend all your free time trolling the internet for more info... Learn what you need to to so that you are getting results but then just go out and have fun, go to the gym, do some reading, play sports, learn something new... Girls love guys with a genuinely good lifestyle which is why guys who obsess over only pickup are actually hurting their chances with girls. What they are doing is putting women and their need for validation above all other things and the gaping void that forms in their life because of this will be subcommunicated eventually and drive girls away. This is a horrible dynamic to create in your life. Sitting in front of a computer, reading forums and spending hours worrying about what opener to use is the worst lifestyle you can have. Your pursuit of women should be a small facet of your overall well developed lifestyle; not vice-versa.


Go out and make some friends. Real friends. Not just community guys. It's stupid if all the people you hang out with are community guys. If you do so, you are limiting yourself from all that life has to offer


Starting out, of course take a workshop to get you on the level where you can continue to progress by yourself, then take community guys(wings), and train with them during the 2-3 days a week you dedicate to gaming. Other than that, make sure you have a balanced, interesting, fulfilling life and you will get much better results than if you spend 20 hours a week “studying” pickup.


Start doing this today.


Enjoy,


BadBoy

spoke to monique my best female friend

she is super cool and soo real.
I love talking with her.

persistance calibration not being needy yet being proactive making things happen

I get confused with some advice in dating when you like a girl, you show interest yet show some disinterest.

What???

yes

its confusing.

you have to have some detachment.

in tao of steve is "be desireless"

"so sandee how the hell Im I going to get the girl into me?!"

heres the thing.

theres 2 levels of communication

one is verbal and the other is behaviour and intent , bodylanguage

in self help and in business you have to seem detached or that you dont need the woman or desperate to get with her.

some chick on youtube said in upset way "guys dont be needy"

so your intent has to be align grounded that you want that girl but dont need her.

this gives her space to complete the % of both are interested in each other.

if you give and give and push and push, she will take you for granted and you will try harder to get her.

this hasnt worked for me

what has is that you show interest but arent sure about it.
you ask questions and you are displaying you are laid back and cool.


you keep contacting her cause you are interested in her but you NEVER VERBALIZE THIS!!!!!
let her do the assuming not you.
This enables her to invest in you emotionally and maintains intrigue that you are soo sure of yourself. she is basically a cat who thinks she can socially outsmart you but the real thing is you just got her to think about you.

LOL


the underlying of your action is to raise your attraction and lead the seduction conversationally and logistically.

exceptions are when the woman is already attracted and so you lead this to seem "it just happened".

compliance to the sex is key.

I tried this and rarely get LMR or last minute resistance.


so you do have to pursue actively but your subcommunications have to be that you arent all that interested, tell yourself as an affirmation

"I can date beautiful women" "Im attractive guy" "If I take the time , and be patient with myself ,I can easily bed girls effortlessy"

"Im so hot chicks masturbate thinking about me."

automatically your behaviours will show you are the shit!

then you can verbally go with intent and say "he "i thought your kindah cute. Im _______ "
or anything you can casualy notice even compliment on the way walks by you

"Excuse me, I couldnt help to notice you and how attractive is the way you carry yourself... Im sandee "


say it in a subcommunication of 
"Im sooo goodlooking so I know you are goign to want to fuck me ,I say this genuinely and Im open to sexual fantasy with you"

DONT be gamey at all , be cool.
spike bt to humour to open up before asking her about herself.
show nonverbal IOIs and pull back.

theres no need to tell the woman you are eager to fuck.
unfortunately this turns her off so make note

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when you take action and lead with intent do it with a smile on your face

what makes this non needy and super attractive is that subcommunication is FUN and not needy or you begging or shy or bashful...or insecure you did it right. it has to be indeed 100% that you are sure and it has to show it in your eyes and face for her to give you a nonverbal shit test before her falling hard for you.

make this subcommunication as FUN and exciting and nothing emotional deep at that point.

only time you are deep emotionally is in rapport when you can share deep soulmate connection with mirroring and minor disqualifiers which are meaningless but you do them so she can confirm you are not trying hard to get with her and she sees that you are unique in her mind by building awesome best friend connection.

I use this but it can work against you if she isnt looking for a relationship. is 20% works on strippers.
cause strippers meet alot of men and their attention span is like drunks girls at a club, she wont remember you.

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Only antidote to negativity,worry and low self esteem is positive purposeful constructive action in the direction of your GOALs -Brian Tracy

"I've only had two rules. 

Do all you can and do it the best you can. 
It's the only way you ever get that feeling of accomplishing something."
-Colonel Sanders KFC

"From a woman’s POV, if a man does not know how to physically take care of himself, he will NEVER be able to take care of her"-MK

great comments I gave on awareness calibration and game

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was she in uniform? basically a hired gun right,working the night? :)

different style of game.she is paid to be friendly. distinguish if she was or wasnt.





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this is social proof game.basic psycology.good always be outside the comfort zone, either in the gym or the jungle ;)

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nonverbals on openeing are stronger than taps for me personally based on my results with Jesse's nonverbal sexual material.

Touching is VERY important but its advanced i guess.Im not aware of the touching as before I do it on high points when she smiles or is super positive like rewarding her in unconcious way.

I can tell you are calibrated when you tap and open so you wont have to scream or be too try hard loud to open her.

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good attraction game and works well with hot chicks, that last end was a  shit test.

why you stop?

number close right after that comment with random chat non sexually related and tell her :

" you are funny I like you..a little bit... dont get your hopes up too fast ;)  lets hang out sometime ...soon
*pull out your cool android phone*

whats your number ?"
 *smile as you save and text her right there.*

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Jesse is right about his observation, fatties can suck your dick on a slow night bud.lol.

you tease fatties too much they get bitchy. too alpha on fatties is too much.
you got back the energy what you gave out to them.

go easy on fatties okey :) do it for sandee

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Good, my best game is SOLO game. you get good fast like this bro.this will stick in your head and you will never forget.

good job!




workout at gym first, be happy and positive and open to new experiences, its what you make of it.
best guys always find ways to gettting it done, no matter the obstacles we at times may put ourselves.
be there to hang out and then open the girls. theres no other way to improve fast in this, business and any socially related issue if you dont have people skills.

you are doing this for your benefit not to entertain anyone.[/QUOTE]

hb sstripper minn retread

Guys I had to write this cause this opened my mind and got me actively pursuing wo any force or neediness.I used her non responsive apathetic flake behaviour to my advantage without me doing "anything".I will explain much detail as possible hoping you learn advanced stripper game. Its the shiznick!.will comeback and write detail.got to sleep now to wake up early in morning.one of recent breakthrough due to my inner game awakening as mentioned in my recent post on this forum.I will post on my private blog aswell keeping this exclusive stripper Game material you won't find anywhere else.no bs just pure psycology 101 and investment theory. Key to any woman.even a stripper pro if you keep your strong frame without bending or pouting. Peace

sorry it took me awhile to write this but I found it awesome.
if you read stripper FR the one that wanted to fuck her that same night then this is the same girl we will mention here.

I had planned to go to office holiday party and invite this hot chick to social proof me.Ive lost several pounds just reducing my caloric intake and few carbs and cardio mornin and night.

I looked tone down in few days believe it or not,its all in power of determination and persistance. which I mention in my post.

I recontacted stripper and we had short banter texts, then not to be needy or eager sent her laid back texts, I dont do any high energy texts unless chick is young inexperienced and I gauged her personality type before so I screen ALL girls with rapport.

so since she was vague and shit tested me by text to go to the club to her work instead of date or after work, I wouldnt respond or she would create a vaccum a space for me to chase.
this is a hot 27 stripper who is a pro 6yrs doing this is considered a PRO  you guys.this is byfar pua's worst nightmare for anytype of gaming, typical MM based stripper game doesnt work!

that being said. I tried reinitiate response with Breaking rapport and qualifier. she didnt respond.


that same night my friend was hosting bachelor party and he invited me out, I was there and some insights on game and inner game came to me. my calibration was onpoint, microcalibration review of theory and just taking my own advice of moving on to the next and leading.

I noticed as I came in everybody sees you, its same as club game night game. but your state has to be in a weird way outside the place, like buddist monk. your inner peace has to be incheck prior opening girls. also be there to hang out not to join other guys staring at chicks.


my friend took me aside and started talking to me and social proof me in ridiculous ways youd never imagine, vip room ,everywhere he even took me in privately to talk.
 he doesnt give a a fuck.he is a shark and he is soo good he pulls strings to make people spend money. he says hi to everybody and he tips everygirl in the club to say hi.basic social proof, he isnt there to game just to say hi and earn respect. he is a shark and knows the GAME.

 so I lead the group to sit on the ideal place to actually game girls, I never talk any game stuff even when Im winging someone, NEVER, pua theory and analyzing is worst enemy.

taking action is better step  than just thinking about it and dwelling about it in game.

so I led and start bt spiking the guys, being cool friendliness   normal and back and forth. then girls started swarming and eventhough I bought my own drink, they offered to buy me drink cause they thought I was super cool guy. We were all having a good time better than they were before I was leading. then we got bottel of champagen and we were the loudest there at the club

then in that good state I text this chick, hey im at your work.lol

she responds Im here too where?

Im like yeah whatever yes im here w bachelor party group

upstairs

no,Im w x frend from management.

then Im talking to this cool guy from the group  and we are
laughin and having a great time and then he taps me on my shoulder and tells me hey this chick is looking for you.

LOL LOL LOL

yes its her, she looks at me and says OMG
she sits down next to me and we look at each other.
I feel chemistry all around great vibe, I give her some dom perignon to sip and have her leg on my lap. I told her I didnt recognize her cause its been so long. and tease her.
she was being herself now. she looked cute but very different from what I pictured her in my head.less attractive but cute.

I build comfort talkign about her kid and she opened up and complimented her doing a good job. and asked her out next day for a meetup she was hesitant at first and it was legitimate time constraint  I pulled back saying thats too bad, I wanted to see you before you left for the holidays. she told me when she was leaving and when she was coming back I went in a dhv about her hometown and me ,which was an anchor and she offered to take me out if Id stopped by.

this vibe was soooo different from the texting vibe she gave off.
in person conversation and rapport and arousal is better for closing in person the same night.

you can try by text but only after you have exchanged good attraction first and really set the stage to have her chase you or open to have her contact you or sublte ways of making her invest and comply, little by little makes it a habit and she backwards rationalize that she likes you, more than what she thinks and it validates her emotions.

this has to be SOLID game and blueprint to any girl.

so after I threw in for next day and she told her to text her next day. we were staring at each others eyes like we both werent at the club. we were going to make out but thats a no no for management.
Im a shark
I threw in that I brought the guys in and making money for the club.which is DHV in disguise only smelled by strippers that IM not a customer.

I told her I have to get up early and liked to see her again.
she was being genuine and all, she isnt all too feminine but she is very open minded and she talks what she thinks.

she is abit crazy, crazy in good way and crazy in not a good way.that means that I can not take this girl emotionally serious what she says and what she does,

any flake  any nonresponsive text cant affect me at all.
she is down to have a guy lead her,period.

problem is that she is really needing money for her kid. and it overides any of her own needs right now.or relationships.

I can go deep in this Im sure but I think it would fuck me up mentally and it would drain me to have this high end GF when Im just broke and starting off my career.

also she is crazy in her won world cause she has belief she can have a good time with anyone but she believes to be paid for her time.regardless, she is trying to survive not bad way but its her way of coping with her own living.
so its alot of baggage, I can text her to meet up I know what time she told me is good time to meet with her by herself,

no date no waste of time conversation,
we emotionally connect fast when we see each other
so its there.

but she is looking for a provider and she is a PRO and she is logical with this shit.
so its a rare and hard call.

the fucking isnt the problem.its after the 1st fucking and expectations. guys are probably offering her money to fuck her so thats reinforces her belief of ALL guys being providers.

find the hidden gems in this peace and disregard the end cause its a sure lay. LOL

microcalibra is important

recently ive felt like shit over the loss of clee.i meesed up in basic fundamental which is punishment reward.jons  2007 post on microcalibration is good also pickup evolutions legend post .what helped me  was marie  interview  mr.m fr and his 9  10 game.also listening to dr broader on oneitis and lastly listening to myself in my own recording of oneitis. this plus tao of steve and goodlooking game really boosted my self esteem and game. what triggered this is this black girl semi insulted  but im working on bringing the stripper to party. calibration and matt corrected me and marks advice was sufficient to use what i know inside that i can do it.music helps and this morning exercise.welcome back sandros