Here is the 101 Primer document that I promised. Feel free to discuss this,
suggest improvements, other examples, make comments, etc.
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The 101 Primer - The Core Framework of Seduction
I was inspired to write this document because of the confusions surrounding
the two kinds of SOIs and because some people out there didn't understand
the 101 theory correctly when I originally posted bits and pieces of it on
ASF. It has been because I didn't understand it fully at the time unlike I
do now. For that reason, here is a detailed explanation that will do away
with the old terminology and replace it with something that can actually be
taught in a logical, thought out process without the confusion.
WHY 101?
I came up with 101 after a burnt-out alcohol filled intensive PU session at
night on a train to Tokyo when my mind got a direct link to my subconscious.
It was there that I not only found God, but also how to seduce women should
the 101 plan be done correctly and completely. I don't care if you don't
believe me on that one and if it wrecks my credibility wih you. After all, I
saw God and you didn't.
Besides, God is the creator of all life. If we want to create life (hint
hint!) we have to understand it.
101 can be broken down into the numbers 0 and 1. 0 representing negative. 1
representing positive. I'll represent emotions with their numbers from now
on in brackets for the rest of this document.
Similarly, if you think of computers, you will know that the transistors
inside their chips only understand light-on (1), or light-off (0).
Similarly, if you think of the first chapter of the Bible, you will know
that God separated darkness and light. You will also be aware, that if you
consider the ancient Chinese Yin-Yang symbol, that it contains a dark side
and a white side. Many similar ancient and religious stories and such that
speak of creation consume themselves by discussing these opposites as
somehow being able to exit together in a kind of ordered chaos (how's that
for a contradiction?). Also, there is the old saying that humans cannot
appreciate good feelings, without feeling bad feelings - and similarly
cannot revile bad things without good things.
Going back to the Yin-yang symbol, one side is white or good (1) and the
other side is dark and evil (0). Together, they make a circle. The circle
represents a sense of completeness or enlightenment or infinity. Which, if
one applies oneself to the search for enlightenment, is essentially a good
thing (1).
Note the seeming contradiction here - that is, good and bad together is
actually still good (which begs the question, is bad REALLY bad at all?)
In this way, we have 101. That is to say that in life there is good, there
is evil, but all in all life is a positive experience. 101 is the basics of
whatever follows in life. (Such as you will notice that the first subject of
a university topic is called something-or-other 101). And for some reason,
Jewish people really like this number. The Isreali army $B!G (Bs top crack
commando unit is numbered 101, and unit 101 makes an appearance in "Saving
Private Ryan". Maybe that's just chance or coincidence.... or maybe I'm
starting to see 101 everywhere anyway.
101 AND SEDUCTION THEORY
Before I lose some of you completely, let's now move away from the
spiritual/philosophical aspect and start applying this to seduction theory.
Let's not also forget that as students of seduction, we try to use logical
structure to create emotion. This too is a contradiction in terms (logic vs.
emotion) - but with 101 we have a plan to merge the two together into
something workable.
As most students of seduction are aware, the conscious mind can be bypassed
through telling stories - because stories are fiction and therefore not
limited to reality. Once the listener is placed in this state of "anything
goes", the storyteller can insert all kinds of emotion into his/her target
audience without resistance. Stories also follow a typical plan. That is,
(1) beginning, (0) a middle, and (1) and ending. The beginning is the time
in the story where everything is good and normal (1). Slowly as the story
progresses, there is a problem that becomes apparent, which results in the
climatic point of the
story (0). Eventually as the climax subsides, the story winds its way
towards conclusion - when things are explained, and the ending is either a
happy one, or a good one with a different situation than the story started
out as (1).
Both 1 and 0 create a contradiction - and a MYSTERY. Confusing women like
this makes them curious and wanting to know more. When you give them a plan
of action (1) to solve the mystery (10) - they are coerced into doing
whatever it is you really want them to do. Throughout the period of mystery,
however, your intentions are mostly obscure to the female - thus giving her
a task to complete (usually something that you want her to do anyway) to get
what she wants, which is what you are offering (which, if you want to leave
a bad taste in her mouth, you don't have to give).
101, in this way, is pure manipulation. It works as an effective "double
bind" to influence people. Let me point out that I'd rather not have to use
mind-control to get women. Instead, I'd rather install good feelings into
them, and let them work on it. However, not all women are going to be like
this, thus we have a need for 101.
101, however, is only manipulation in so far as it is a contract of conduct
between two people ? as I will be showing later on. In this sense, 101
isn $B!G (B
t really bad manipulation at all, because people use contracts all the time
to do business together. 101 is about gentle persuasion to get women to do
what they really want to do anyway ? in a safe environment.
USING 101 PRACTICALLY
I find that 101 can be used in many different ways during the course of
seduction. Three common ones spring to mind (but there are many others)
1. As a general seduction plan (e.g. Takeaways)
2. As a way to set relationship expectations
3. As a way to give a woman controlled emotional swings (flirting, NEGs,
etc)
Depending on how you use a 101 routine, the parts of each component will be
different.
101 AS A CONTRACT
Now I'm going to explain the components (and their many vairations in usage)
in detail so that you can use it to pick up women. I'm going to use the
analogy of a contract in order to explain 101. 101 IS a sales contract (in
an extreme seduction sense: think "marriage", because it is a logical plan
to make two people safe in being able to express their otherwise"illogical"
and uncontrollable feelings (note the contradiction). In each of the parts,
you can use NLP or some other kind of languaging skill to speak to her
emotionally. Also, I'm sure you will find many other pick-up techniques will
fit in nicely into the framework.
Also, pay particular note to the presuppositions that 101 makes. There are
very important, and will be explained first, followed by ways each part of
101 can be used.
1 - THE PRODUCT PRESENTATION.
Presuppositions are:-
* You display value to the chick. You really want her to have it. It is what
is motivating you to approach. (patterning, incredible connections, lofty
talk about bullshit you promise to do for her)
* Your real intentions are made vague (e.g. like MTLs "get with you"
comment) so that the chick can find her own value from this (be it sexual or
otherwise). All bases are covered this way.
* Your intentions are made doubly vague by making your real intentions seem
like hers. (when they are not). See mirroring, eliciting and feeding back
values etc. Being the man she wants to fuck, being the product she wants to
buy etc.
* You swing her emotions positively
Other techniques:-
- Show of interest (SOI) - Can either be through complimenting, or asking a
woman about something that you find particularly interesting about her. etc.
This is done genuinely (of course) and will require some observation on your
part to figure out exactly how to do this. If the woman is ugly, you
probably won't be able to find something to ask about anyway.
- Statement of Intentions - You tell her that your only intentions are to
make her happy in the ways that she likes. Well this is somewhat true
because it is a good thing to make people happy, but not 100% true either
(because we want sex» as well). Meanwhile, your REAL intentions come later on
in the third part. The "noble" intentions told here are to build value.
- Story telling, and entertaining of some variety.
- Mirroring. Things in common (You want the same things as her - so you say)
- Building value - Presenting a situation to a woman that you know she would
enjoy (The rich and famous have this part easy)
- Creating a good first impression.
- Pre-supposing is key here, as she has not bought anything or received
anything from you yet. You need to create the image in her head, and be able
to back up claims that you can actually do these things you promise for her.
She needs to believe that you will deliver.
- Positive emotional swing
- Getting her to say "yes, yes" immediately
- Getting the chick to promise you things from the value you gave (giving
you a rule and a mental weapon to use against her in the next part). An
example by Rock Harders: After displaying value, he would get the woman to
agree that she liked him and had a good time talking with him. She would
then have to continue to agree with this so she would have no excuses about
coming out to see him when he called her up ? because she said she liked
talking to him.
- Describe this to her emotionally, and dramatically
- Should this part be missing, you will not attract the woman to you at all.
0 - TERMS & CONDITIONS OF SERVICE. END USER LICENCE AGREEMENT.
Presuppositions are:
* You lay down the rules of interaction, and back up the rules with logic,
reason, and your own CONGRUENCE.
* You make her feel guilty - on her own accord for breaking your rules. This
guilt will give her no room to move or fight back with you. She recognizes
that she is wrong, and that it is all her fault (very important).
* You stand by your rules, no matter what (congruence)
* You swing her emotions negatively
Other techniques:-
- Your rules. This includes expected behavior from both you and her. Let's
remember, your word is law. Your rules come #1 in your life above any woman.
You need to be able to enforce your own rules and terms and conditions
despite anything that she does. Your rules must follow logical argument and
leave no room for emotional responses. They must be followed, IF you are to
continue to feel comfortable about giving of yourself to her. What rules to
have is worthy of another separate post.
- This is your appeal to her nobler motives (That is, a good moral
explanation of why she should respond to your 101 at all) - and a way to
avoid future arguments (cause you have the good reason). Tell a story about
your own mistakes in order to highlight your noble motives - if need be.
- Do NOT let this part get heated or turn into an argument (should you be
laying down rules of conduct) - or you will kill the seduction at this
point. Rational logic (and stories about how your logic is right) will
prevail here only. Insults will not.
- Defaulting the chick. Find some reason (logically preferably) which
explains to the chick that she has thrown away her chance to get more of the
value you were offering. This can often be explained verbally - or even done
at random with body language to throw the chick off and make her
self-conscious - all by herself.
- Negative emotional swing
- Display being busy, occupied, hard to tie down, be controlled, or limited
to one chick (social proof)
- Demand respect
- Showing a willingness to walk
- Throw down a challenge
- Make her feel that she is wrong - all by herself. Indirectly call
attention to her mistakes.
- Describe this to her logically.
- Should this part be missing, you will allow the chick the opportunity to
walk all over you.
1 - SIGN ON THE DOTTED LINE
Presuppositions are:
* You tell her what to do.
* You make this part seem as if the thing you want her to do now, is not
really what you want for yourself (See the first 1), ....but in actual fact
it is!
* You leverage her guilt.
* You dangle a positive emotional swing in front of her.
Other techniques:-
- To provide her with a suitable solution to the contradictions of the 1 and
0, in case she can't figure out what to do about it. Make it sound fun and
enjoyable.
- Your real intentions revealed in a disguise here. You get her to do an
activity which is beneficial for you, under the pretense that it's not what
you really want (Remember, the nobler motives) when it is. See the SOI used
as a bluff in the first part. Pay particular note to the set up that goes
into this.
- Complete a ritual to make sense of the two conflicting emotions.
- Hold a positive emotional swing in front of her.
- Get her to prove herself to you, if you are to give her what she wants.
- Describe it to her emotionally
- Find a solution for her to get with you in the way you specified (perhaps
she is in a club with friends). Make it easy for her to buy.
- Allow her to save face here - by doing what you suggested.
- Use future pacing. Get her to think about how happy she will be after she
makes the decision.
- Make it appear like it was her idea, and it is in her interests.
- Ask her about her thoughts on doing what you suggest, and if she has
anything to add to it.
- Should this part be missing, you will probably not advance the seduction
at all.
These are, in a nutshell, the basics of generating your own seduction
patterns to chicks.As you can see, it contains an emotional swing. Women
particularly enjoy having emotional swings - so with 101, you can plan on
making one. 101 can be used in many different ways, either in patterning, or
in the context of a seduction.
You can also see very easily how the plan would fall to pieces if one of the
steps were to be missing.
DETECTING AND COMBATING 101 AND OTHER KINDS OF MANIPULATION
Detecting 101 is actually quite difficult - unless you know what to look
for. Difficult because people have a natural tendency to avoid those people
who are selfish and wanting to use us - and if those people are doing this
in an obvious fashion - we avoid them. 101 is different however, because we
are GIVING our targets things they want. When someone is apparently giving
things to us, we cannot even slightly consider that they are being selfish -
and it slips under the radar. Suddenly, the target learns that she will have
to pay for it to keep it, and that is her responsibility, then the tables
are turned. She leads herself into believing that she is in the wrong, and
we become totally innocent. At all times, we have to consider the motives of
those people we trust doing things for us. Indeed, those who GIVE are
greater than those who receive. Putting people in debt to you gives you a
lot of power.
On that note, here's how women can use 101 to seduce us men:
1 - First, women build their sexual value (a bit obvious, right?) through
appearance - or by approaching us and suggesting to us that they really want
to have sex». All the while, confusing men into believing that she wants sex»
as much as men do ? without actually saying it.
0 - Then, by accusing the men she attracts of doing something supposedly bad
(e.g. perving, looking at other women, not paying her enough attention,
accusing us of being players, going out with male friends, perving, some
other kind of nonsense that PUAs will easily dismiss), she can turn the
tables in her favour. Some bitches will simply treat men like shit and not
accuse men verbally.
1 - When she has induced enough guilt in her target male, she can start
demanding committed relationships and all the stuff that she REALLY wants.
As you can see however, that if detected, destroying a 101 double-bind is
easy if you pull one of the components out of it. Now, pulling apart a
female seduction plan will ensure that you never get rejected or
manipulated ? but if you fail to build your own 101 plan too, you will not
get laid. Let's look at how to rip apart a woman's seduction plan:
1 - If a person rejects the value presented them. (e.g. NEG theory,
insulting the woman, showing negative interest in her)
0 - Attacks the logic or reasoning behind the challenge (dealing with her
shit tests effectively)
1 - Or by refusing to carry out the solution, or carrying out a solution
different to the one intended (Refusing to supplicate)
Similarly, your seduction can fall apart if a woman:-
1 ? Rejects the value you are presenting her (because you failed to elicit
her true values and/or put her in a state which lets her feel this value)
0 ? Rejects the rules of interaction you have (Because you failed to present
a challenge to her, gain respect, explain your rules properly, or she has
found a crack in your congruency to keep your own rules)
1 ? Rejects the things you want her to do (because you failed to convince
her that they were in her interests)
TIPS FOR USING 101s AS OPENERS.
Here's a few tips on using 101 as openers. Pay attention to the fact that
sex» is not a value that most women look for - and therefore it is not one
that we can use in the first 1 of 101 (E.g. "I will fuck you hard" as an
opening line). Saying that risks us getting slapped. The exception to this
of course is a seductress who takes you for a sucker and will try to play
you herself (as in the female seduction example) - only to get played by you
anyway! Sex» is NOT a mutual experience to a woman because she has a lot to
lose if she gets pregnant. I find that good SOIs tend to be vague enough to
be interpreted sexually and non-sexually. Saying things like "I'd like to
take you home" or "I want to get to know you on an... intimate... level" or
"I want to make you....very... happy" will cover both bases and attract a
wider range of chicks (in my experience)
Also, try not to SOI or build value in ways you cannot possibly bring to
realization later on. If the value you build is too unrealistic (e.g. I want
to buy you a Ferrari, get married to you), she won't believe you - and if
she does and you don't deliver later on - you'll have a really pissed off
woman to deal with.
After this, once you have achieved good rapport with a woman after building
significant value, is to break rapport and default her behaviour ? using
whatever logical reason you can. Here you can lay down your rules of
conduct, tell stories about why you have rules of conduct, and educate her
in following them.
Then, once you have got her into a guilt trip, you can give her ways to save
face. One way will be to go out with you or do something else.
Note:- Ignoring a woman, walking away, or telling her to go away is NOT part
of 101 AT ALL.
Ignoring a woman gives her zero emotional swing whatsoever ? unless you have
displayed SIGNIFICANT value, which you know she will do anything to keep.
Persistence is key to getting any chick. Only AFTER you have had sex» and
continued to display significant value to woman ? that ignoring a woman
completely EVER becomes a technique.
EXAMPLES OF 101s IN ACTION
Here are some examples of 101 in action:-
1 - Build rapport and value with a woman.
0 - Accuse her of something which you don't like, in a rational manner,
until she believes that it's her fault. (e.g. not coming to see you, not
calling you up enough etc.)
1 - Tell her that she has to make it up to you by doing exactly what you
want - if you are to give her the value you gave her before.
(This is otherwise known as a takeaway)
1 - Tell the woman that you like her hair
0 - Tell her it's out of step with the style these days.
1 - Tell her it looks nice anyway
(This is otherwise known as a Neg)
1 - Use a blatantly sexual PU line
0 - Say you were just kidding, and get to know her a bit better.
1 - Use another blatantly sexual PU line.
(The direct and powerful PU style of Grand Master Flash. Note how value is
built with sex», real intent is disguised as a joke, and the challenge for
her is to have a sense of humour and allow him to bombard her with sexual
feelings)
1 - "You look like the sort of person that I'd like to make very happy"
0 - "But I could be very wrong about you, because I just met you. I
don $B!G (Bt
know if you are the kind of person who likes adventure or intense emotional
experiences."
1 - "So how about we meet over there for coffee so we can find out if we
could really like each other?"
(Simple PU opening to entice a woman to coffee)
1 - Remind woman of all the good things you have done for her.
0 - Tell her that she has messed up by doing whatever it was that annoyed
you, and that she will have to suffer the consequences.
1 - Tell her that if she wants to be back in your good graces, she's going
to have to have sex» with you in exactly the way you want.
(Dealing with women you are with, who are giving you a hard time)
1 - "I like your foreign accent
0 - It will probably annoy the hell out of me after a while
1 - But it's kinda cute"
(Some playful flirting. This 101 is tried and tested ? and works)
1 - I want to do anything sexual you'll like
0 - But I this is my job, and you have to respect that. These are my rules.
1 - I need $100 a half hour to see if you want nookie.
(How a prostitute could use 101. Note also, that women have to offer sex»
upfront in order to build value with men before they can lay down rules and
conditions - or even attempt to pull off a 101. Be warned then, of women who
talk about sex» to you too early after you meet them)
1 - Woman dresses up sexy in a bar
0 - Woman gets angry when guys hit on her
1 - Woman demands that she be treated right by men and shown a good time
(Typical female instincts. By using sex» to build value, laying down rules to
enduce men into guilt, and finally by using that guilt to tell men what they
should be doing - which just happens to be what she wanted them to do for
her all along.)
1 - I really like you
0 - However, I don't want to fuck you (chick feels sting of rejection)
1 - I want to make love to you
(I saw this in a film called "Some Girl". A PUA picks up this chick and uses
these lines to lay her. I was thrown back when I heard it, cause it was pure
101. Note that the strength of it comes in the fact that women like to hear
"make love" (unselfish male) rather than "fuck" (selfish male) - but the
emotional swings are still present - which makes the final 1 all that more
powerful when it is said.)
1 - Give value. Compliment women. Invite her somewhere.
0 - Suddenly, with no warning given, look at her funny, and back off from
her as if she has some disease. (Made the women get self-concious)
1 - Mention that you would like her to come to (wherever you want to go),
but you are not sure if she's the right person for it - but you'll still
invite her anyway
(A style of PU I learnt from a PUA on Guam. He made the women feel very good
and then suddenly very bad all on their own accord - and they didn't hate
him for it at all - because they believed that they were at fault. He used
the guilt as leverage to get chicks to go out with him)
There are also ways to use 101 outside the field of seduction too, such as
in business or simply as ways to be poetic:
1 - Christ was born
0 - Christ died
1 - Christ will come again
(It's kept Christians in hope for all these years)
1 ? Telling people that God really loves you, and that you can go to heaven
0 ? Telling them that there are rules for this, and that they must be
followed or risk eternal damnation
1 ? Telling them to sustain the organization financially, do some ridiculous
ritual, or commit terror attacks, is their only key to paradise.
(How organized religion can be used to manipulate people)
1 - I love you
0 - I'll kill you
1 - But I'll love you forever
(Using 101 to create emotional swings. This is actually a line from a music
track by Enigma. Imagine saying that to a chick!)
1- These knives we sell will never go blunt on you Mrs. Jones, and that
saves you time and money.
0 - But they're probably way too expensive for you to buy upfront
1 - So, let me show you here just how you can spend only 2 cents a day over
a period of 3 months to pay for them.
(A mock sales pitch)
1 - I really wanted to take you to the fair today Jimmy
0 - But since you didn't eat your vegetables, which are good for you, so I'm
not going to take you.
1 - So now, I'm only going to consider taking you if you clean your room.
(Parenting)
1 - That's a pretty dress you are wearing this morning, and you are a very
attractive young woman.
0 - Now, don't get stuck up. I just said that to make you feel good.
1- From now on, I wish you to be a little bit more careful with your
punctuation
(An actual use of 101 as told in Part 4 Chapter 1 of "How to Win Friends and
Influence People". The principle of the chapter was to "Begin with praise
and honest appreciation" - i.e. the first 1 of 101.)
DELIVERING & STACKING 101s
At times when you are using 101 to lay down some rules to a chick, or
patterning a woman, be serious. Use deep tonality.
At other times, when you are using 101s to create value to a chick (e.g.
101s in storytelling, or flirting) then you can swing your own emotions
around as much as you want.
Sorry if this sounds confusing, but I find it interesting to note how 101s
can be stacked inside other 101s. Eg. Using 101s in story telling (to get
emotional swings) as the first 1 in an overall 101 seduction plan.
FINAL WARNING
Be warned to not use 101 recklessly. 101s can be abused to the point where
you can severely mess with a chick $B!G (Bs head. This is very easy to do if
you
are primarily using 101s as emotional swings. If you overdo this, you can
crosswire her emotions totally and drive her nuts.
You can also come up with all sorts of silly rules for the woman to follow
if you have displayed enough value (e.g. You will have to learn how to quack
like a duck if you ever want me to be nice to you ever again). Once you have
got a deep emotional connection with a woman, use your common sense and DON
$B!G (BT abuse it. Sure it may be fun for a while, but treating a woman badly
for
no reason will take its toll on YOUR conscience ? and then you will have to
re-evaluate what you are really looking for in your relationships with
women, and what you really want them to do for you.
Also, remember that by having illogical rules (that cannot be defended
rationally), or rules that most people will object to ? you may run the risk
of being challenged by other men (or other women who are getting a better
deal). This can severely affect your social reputation in a negative way ?
hence this warning.
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