Entropy on Calibration

CALIBRATION This is a long one, kids, but for good reason. Calibration may be THE most important concept to understand when it comes to picking up women. So if you’ve read parts 1 through 3 of the night game model, you basically now know: who and when to open, how to open and transition, how to cycle teasing and comfort stories. Getting good at these things will enable you to open sets and hold them as long as necessary and build attraction. But there’s still a CRUCIALLY important concept that I need to go over: and that’s calibration. Calibration is absolutely fundamental and for a simple reason as well: not every girl is the same. Some women like to be teased, some don’t. Some are looking for a guy, some aren’t. Some are going to like you immediately, some aren’t. As my friend Smallville once said, “The only rule is calibration, everything else is just a recommendation.” With that said, before we jump into this, it’s very important that you’re familiar with my concepts of passive/active attraction and how they work. You can read the brief overview on the concepts here:http://www.entropypua.com/blog/personalizing-pickup-natural-advantagesdisadvantages The two main things to remember going forward: 1) that attraction is based on value and 2) every woman’s perception of value (what they find attractive) is different. For instance, what you consider an HB10 could have terrible self-esteem or be unaware of her own value, whereas she may find you naturally “her type.” But you, thinking, “She’s an HB10, I have to tease her hard,” will overvalue yourself and get blown out. This is why calibration is so important. There’s no single thing you can do that works in every interaction. Also, sometimes you run into girls who are HB6’s or HB7’s who THINK that they’re hot shit and when you approach think to themselves, “great, another jackass trying to get laid.” In your mind, she’s just an HB6, so you don’t really try to game her, but she actually perceives herself to be of much higher value so she blows you off. This is why HB10’s are often some of the nicest girls and HB6’s can be the meanest. The laws of passive and active attraction say that you want just enough attraction so that she perceives your value to be equal or above hers. A lot of times guys don’t realize their own passive value and so they’ll immediately be higher value than a girl as soon as they talk to her and mistakenly try to create active attraction. This is the biggest and one of the most common mistakes a guy can make. So how do we know where we are in regards to her? What’s her perception of us? I have a simple process that I apply when I’m in set: Once I hook the set, I’ll throw out a very light tease to the girl and see how she responds. - If she laughs and responds positively, it means my value is equal or slightly higher to hers and I’ll keep teasing until I stop getting a positive reaction. - If she responds negatively and seems offended, it means I’m OVERVALUED and I stop. I will compliment her, state my interest or DLV myself (buy her a drink) to bring myself closer to her. This is to make me “attainable” in her eyes. You’ll have to do this often with shy or reserved girls. - If she responds negatively and is cold and bored, it means I’m extremely undervalued and I need to tease her even harder. Girls who react this way, you’re not even on their radar screen yet, so you have to say something really bold and outlandish to wake them up to you. - If she shit-tests me back in a playful way, it means she values herself slightly more than me, in which I keep teasing until I get a negative response. Once I know where my value is relative to hers, I follow this blueprint: - If I’m OVERVALUED, I will compliment her, state my interest in her and even DLV myself. - If I’m UNDERVALUED, I tease and neg her harder until I get a more positive reaction or she blows me out. - If I’m around her value, I keep teasing at the same level and being escalating. After a while, this will all become second nature to you. The last comment I’ll make is that sometimes you run into girls who will get into frame battles with you – i.e., you tease them, they tease you back, you tease them more, they tease you back more, and you never are able to actually get anywhere. These girls like you, you just have to go SUPER AGGRESSIVE on them. A lot of times, they’ll reject your advances for no other reason than to tease you again, but just keep plowing. They like you, they’re just really sassy. Calibration is mostly developed through doing hundreds and even thousands of sets. After enough time you begin to just pick up which girls naturally like you a lot, which girls seem lonely, which ones seem happy that you’re opening them, etc. After enough time, you begin to get really good at reading social cues as well, all of the little IOI’s or IOD’s she may give you. Calibration is something you have to constantly work on. Your game is only as good as your calibration. You can know every awesome technique and line in the world, but if you don’t know when to use them, you won’t get anywhere. In the next installment, I’ll provide a few examples of each of these calibrations in action. CALIBRATION EXAMPLES This post piggybacks off my break down of night game calibration from a couple days ago. As promised, I will provide example dialogs of each of the situations related to calibrating your teasing/banter for each girl you meet. If you remember, I described four scenarios in which you can end up and how to calibrate to each one: I have a simple process that I apply when I’m in set: Once I hook the set, I’ll throw out a very light tease to the girl and see how she responds. - If she laughs and responds positively, it means my value is equal or slightly higher to hers and I’ll keep teasing until I stop getting a positive reaction. - If she responds negatively and seems offended, it means I’m OVERVALUED and I stop. I will compliment her, state my interest or DLV myself (buy her a drink) to bring myself closer to her. This is to make me “attainable” in her eyes. You’ll have to do this often with shy or reserved girls. - If she responds negatively and is cold and bored, it means I’m extremely undervalued and I need to tease her even harder. Girls who react this way, you’re not even on their radar screen yet, so you have to say something really bold and outlandish to wake them up to you. - If she shit-tests me back in a playful way, it means she values herself slightly more than me, in which I keep teasing until I get a negative response. Once I know where my value is relative to hers, I follow this blueprint: - If I’m OVERVALUED, I will compliment her, state my interest in her and even DLV myself. - If I’m UNDERVALUED, I tease and neg her harder until I get a more positive reaction or she blows me out. - If I’m around her value, I keep teasing at the same level and being escalating. After a while, this will all become second nature to you. Situation 1: Responds positively, keep teasing until she stops responding positively Me: (Arbitrary opener) Her: Blah blah blah Me: You don’t look like a Boston girl. Her: Nope, born and raised in Boston. But I’m half Irish, half French.Me: How the hell does that work? Her: Haha, I don’t know. It’s quite a mix. Me: Does that mean you get drunk and start fights and then immediately give up? Her: *laughing hysterically* OMG! Me: I’m afraid to drink with you, I don’t know what will come out, your inner asshole or your inner wuss. Her: Hahaha… neither! I’m a nice drunk. Me: That’s cool, me too. I’m the type of drunk…. blah, blah, blah, comfort story. (Few minutes, few teases later) Me: Look, we obviously have communication problems, this will never work. Her: Aww, no I was listening, the music was just too loud. Me: I was just saying blah, blah, blah. Throw in a compliment here. This is your classic PUA situation. The idea that you’re coming in slightly below her value, you need to tease/neg/banter to raise your value relative to hers and then you qualify her/compliment her as you move into more comfort. Basically, I just throw teases between my comfort stories until she gets a bit defensive. This means that she’s feeling a bit self-conscious around me and is now pretty invested in the interaction and my opinion. I want to SUPPORT this by complimenting her and validating her. Keep in mind, I will bring teases back every now and again to keep things fresh, but not nearly with the same frequency. Situation 2: She responds negatively and seems offended Me: (Arbitrary opener) Her: Blah blah blah Me: You don’t look like a Boston girl. Her: Nope, born and raised in Boston. But I’m half Irish, half French. Me: How the hell does that work? Her: What do you mean? (looks offended) Me: That’s just a really unique combination. It’s cool though. Did your parents grow up in America or overseas? In this situation, as soon as she seems offended, I take that as a cue that I’m overvalued and I need to be nice to her and even “chodey” to make myself more attainable to her. This is a girl who for whatever reason thinks she doesn’t have a shot with a guy like me, so I need to make it as easy as possible. Also, I’d like to note that there’s a minority of girls out there who just really don’t like to be teased at all, by anyone. They’re rare, but they do exist. When you come across them, you may have to continue to build attraction but just not by teasing. Situation 3: She acts bored or indifferent. Me: (Arbitrary opener) Her: Blah blah blah Me: You don’t look like a Boston girl. Her: No, I am. Me: That’s cool. I’m actually from Texas originally. Her: Oh. Me: You seem like the serious type, like your friends have to drag you out here to make you have fun. Her: Not really. I mean, I guess, I do work a lot. Me: All work and no play makes Jill a dull girl. Her: Yeah, I guess. Me: You ever run after someone with an ax? Her: What?! Me: You ever try to kill someone with an ax. Her: Haha, no. What the hell? Me: All work and no play makes Jill a dull girl. Haven’t you seen The Shining? Her: No, I haven’t. Me: Jesus, you DO work too much. Get out a little. Her: Haha… I haven’t really watched many movies lately. Me: It’s a classic. Stanley Kubrick. Made in the 70’s. You’re missing out. What kind of movies do you typically watch? (Qualify) Her: (Answers) Me: That’s cool, (comfort story) Situation 4: Positive Response, she banters back Me: (Arbitrary opener) Her: Blah blah blah Me: You don’t look like a Boston girl. Her: Fuck yeah I am. You obviously thought wrong. Me: Well, you sure as hell act like a Boston girl. Her: How’s that? Me: You’re an asshole yet charming. Her: Yeah, I get that a lot. Me: (banter) Her: (banter) Me: (banter) Her: (banter Me: Look, this obviously isn’t working out, you know what? We’re broken up. I can’t do this anymore. Her: Good! You sucked in bed anyway. Me: How would you know? You were too drunk to feel what I was doing. Her: Hahaha… Me: You know what, I’m going to give you another chance. Tell me something about yourself. Her: What? I don’t know. What do you want to know? Me: I think you’re a cool girl, I want to actually get to know you. Her: Sorry, you had your chance, we’re broken up. Me: Yeah, yeah, but really, what are you most passionate about? Her: (more evasion) Me: (more direct interest) Girls like this give newer guys the most trouble. Newer guys either can’t keep up with their wits or they get caught in the cycle of constant banter with them, which leads no where. The way to break out of this cycle with these girls is by stating direct interest repeatedly. But there are two caveats to this: 1) you have to prove that you can keep up with them banter/teasing-wise first. These types of girls don’t settle for pushovers or pussies. They want real men who will put them in their place, that’s why they cause so much trouble. And 2) she’s going to reject you at first and try to keep bantering with you. Again, you have to be unphased and continue to show interest. These types of girls can be the most fun as well as the most frustrating. When you finally do get through to them, they can also be the most passionate and intense girls to date. They can also be a huge pain and the ass and absolutely psycho. Tread with caution. _________________

RECOGNIZING THE THIN LINE BETWEEN CONFIDENCE AND ARROGANCE

None of us can sit here and argue with confidence being one of the sexiest traits a man can possess.  Women will voice it themselves, but nowhere is it more clear than watching how they respond to a self-assured man.

In the online community of pickup artists, a lot of guys preach the “fake it until you make it” approach to confidence, and that does work to an extent.  It’s hard to develop confidence overnight, so it’s not like you can just decide to have it.  And huge confidence gains will be had by a few successful nights if you’ve always struggled in your dating life.

So the idea is you swallow your insecurities, tuck them away, and get out there playing the game.  Fair enough, and it often works.

But the major problem most guys have in regards to this area is that they step too far over the line in their approach and come across as arrogant instead.  And arrogance is not typically an attractive trait.  The result is we end up pushing women away from us instead of attracting them.

So how do you walk that fine line?  Well, let’s look at a few concepts that might help you – these are some really simple ways to put yourself in check.

First off, in the beginning, you are going to need to remind yourself to be confident quite often.  You’re not likely to walk out there deciding to be confident and never think of the issue again; instead, you’ll be readjusting your thoughts and behaviors a lot to keep centering yourself and striving for a confident state.

Each time you have to stop and think about this to bring yourself back around, I want you to reassess the kind of confidence you’re shooting for.  And the idea I want you to keep ingraining into your brain is a balance between being confident and humble.

Confidence is an inner thing – not an outward characteristic like arrogance.  It’s the way you feel about yourself.  The way you carry your body.  All too often, arrogance is an outward attempt to appear confident, and this is why men trying to fake it so often jump to that arrogant extreme.

Acting humble, on the other hand, is the opposite of arrogance.  It’s not puffing out your chest and bragging about yourself.  It’s a calm confidence.  It can be hard to express this type of confidence at first, but watch what other men you see as confident are doing and I think you’ll get what I mean.

The second idea I want to bring to your attention to is simply observing the reactions people have towards you.  If you’re acting arrogant, people might be attracted to talking with you at first, charged up by your energy and seemingly confident, good-humored nature.  But the more they talk with you, as they realize you’re not going to let up and might just be an arrogant prick instead, their attention will seem to start waning.

They’ll either get dismissive of you or start challenging you a lot.  These challenges might seem friendly at first, but when you cap back on them, you’ll find they get more hostile and suddenly you’re having some weird energy struggle with someone you just met.

You’ll know when it happens because you can really feel this dynamic in the air.

The problem is that we typically just put it off on the other person and decide there was something wrong with them – that’s just our human nature at work.  But if it happens to you a few times, you really might want to analyze the impression you’re giving people and readjust if you’re coming on too strong.

So just pay attention.  It’s that simple.

The third thing I want to bring up is a specific pickup technique that’s really been blown up in the seduction community – negs.  You’ve probably heard of negging before.  It’s basically a way to get a hot girl’s attention by poking fun at her a little bit or challenging her – sort of teasing her about something.

The idea is that most men suck up to these kinds of women, and they aren’t used to a guy putting them in check, so it throws them off and makes them curious.

Negs can work, but insecure guys typically lean on them too much in an attempt to appear confident and indifferent.  I’ve seen guys actually insult beautiful women not once but then repeatedly, even if the extreme neg somehow did work the first time around.

It’s almost if they were trying to send the girl home crying or something.  Not cool, guys.

Insulting someone is not going to get you laid – sorry to break the news, but it’s not that easy.  It’s one thing to tease a little bit and be somewhat of a challenge, but go easy with it.

And believe it or not, negs are not essential.  I actually advise most guys not to use them because it’s so likely they’ll get it wrong.

The first thing you need to understand if you do decide to use negs is that they should either be obvious jokes or so offhand that the girl won’t see it as an insult – if anything, she’ll see it as you not really meaning to be insulting because you didn’t think it through enough to know any better.

And anything past that first neg should really come across like you’re teasing her.  Think kid sister kind of jokes.

But once again, if you really are having trouble wrapping your mind around negs, you don’t need to even go there at all.  You can get a lot further by building comfort first and then breaking rapport a little bit, like we talk about in “Understand Attraction.”  A neg is not the best way to break rapport because it is too easy to take things too far back in the other direction and ruin the moment.

The main thing I want you to get from this article is just this whole idea of the difference between arrogance and confidence.  We’re not out there trying to show people how great we are, even if we are amazing studs.  

We’re not out there trying to become the alpha male at the club – all too often, thinking you can go into a nightclub and dominate the place is going to get your ass kicked instead.

We’re out there trying to make friends and, yeah, get laid as much as possible.  Because we can if we just put our minds to it and try.

And that’s not arrogance.  It’s confidence in our competence.

The best way to get better at navigating that thin line between confidence and arrogance is to practice the art of Breaking Rapport. Breaking Rapport is an advanced technique that is incredibly effective at generating sexual attraction.  The key to mastering it is developing a very keen eye for the dividing line between confidence and arrogance, between playful teasing and hurtful insults.

There’s a huge amount you can learn about this from a bonafide master at using and teaching advanced Breaking Rapport techniques. You’ll find methods here that will help you immeasurably in walking the confident-but-not-arrogant path and that also, by the way… just happen to be geared as well to generating massive attraction in the process…

south beach game opinion from a girl

annie says:

January 31, 2012 at 9:53 am

you guys are all debbie downers and negative. i live in miami and go to college here. i must say i don’t agree with your article jesse. it sounds like to me that you went to a crappy club on hip hop night, met some crack addicts under a bridge or tried to hit on dumb little girls. okay first off i go to that beach often to surf other times just to relax with friends, or tan. then my girls and i go often to the club scene. we like to start off at bars then head toglther to the good clubs.
the girls are hot. the hot girls have big egos. the guys with very little self confidence wont get the hot girls with a huge ego.
Honestly if your going to go to South Beach you cannot be a whimpy insecure little dude, MAN up and be a real man. Understand this the fat chubby girls, with muffin tops, saggy stretched otu boobs and cellulite ass’s if you were to wink at them they’d run over to you all with puppy eyes in their tankinis. But the sexy skinny girls, with perky boobs, cellulite free asses, pretty faces and tiny waists i’ll tell you right now are not going to give a damn if you wink at them. they get winked at all the time and hit on at the beach. they aren’t going to go for the seventh guy who is drooling at them from a distance. But they will go for the guy who has CONFIDENCE imagine that. They guy who comes up to them and says something that leaves the girl like what did you just tell me. you need to be upfront, confident with that bad boy i don’t care attitude, that dirty manly attitude. You’ll have her eating out of your hand. You need to act like your the most confident thing on this planet like your the hottest sh*t n earth. if you act that way even if you don’t believe but if you act as if and speak that way, she will believe it mark my words.
Okay best tips to meet girls:
-a lot of times these girls will pre-game before clubs or get a bite to eat. So walk through the ocean drive resteraunts on the sidewalks, the hostess with all try to get you to see the menu. But your not there to chow down on burgers your there to taste test the chickadees. see if after a couple resteraunts you scanned where the chicks you really want are. Make sure they are just girls on the outside table. Then try to get a table near them or in a way where you will have direct eye contact with the chick. Send some really fruity drink to her table add a double shot to it why not? then after she has enjoyed her drink for a little bit, just casually CONFIDENTLY stroll up there and give her a cocky line and sit at her table pump up the chicks and if your feeling order around of tequila shots.
-another idea is go to the big volley ball courts confidently send a overly cocky ‘line’ to a girl a watching from a far. Say something overly overly cocky to her that has her shocked then give her a playful line to have her join you in the game by giving her a halfway joking line giving her a chance to redeem herself on the courts. hell you can make it intresting and bet on a around of drinks or something.
- i’ll tell you what not to don’t every play the creepy old child molester man what I mean by that, don’t creepily over oogle her at the beach she gets enough of that, if your drunk don’t approach her and unless its late at night after a club don’t be all like i have bottles in my room lets go there.
- be casual, cocky overly confident.
-if she is playing with a ball confidently grab the ball and challenge her that the only way she’ll get it back is by going against you and winning.
***Be bold Confident Cocky act and speak like your gods gift to the earth.****
and it wouldnt kill you to stop shoving whoopers down your throat and curl a few weights before the beach..

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• Jesse Charger says:

  February 1, 2012 at 9:49 pm

  I appreciate your opinion Annie. Your pickup advice is good. But you are a woman, and don’t have to follow through with being super confident, as you advise. South Beach will be very hard for most guys, particularly since most tourist men think they can get a lay there like it’s Spring Break or something. South Beach is a tourist trap, and lots of money is thrown around relative to the number of hookups that occur. Most guys will only masturbate and go home with nothing.
  If your game is tight, obviously you’ll do well anywhere. But if your game is tight and can do well anywhere, there’s no particular reason to go to south beach.
  

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acheivement vs Sucess helen hayes

Helen Hayes is best known as a legendary actress. Today’s quotation shows her to be more than a talented pretty face, but someone who was wise, at least in part, because she listened to her mother (which I’ve generally found to be pretty good advice, in itself).

“My mother drew a distinction between 

achievement and success. She said that 

achievement is the knowledge that you have  studied and worked hard and done the best that is in you. 

Success is being praised by others. That is nice but not as important or satisfying. Always aim for achievement and forget about success.”

          – Helen Hayes

Questions to Ponder

• Do you agree with this distinction?
• Which do you strive for?
• Which is more valuable?

Action Steps

1. Pick one activity or task today and then do the following steps.
2. Study hard.
3. Be prepared.
4. Do your best.
5. Repeat tomorrow

My Thoughts

My predominant thought every time I read this quotation is that Ms. Hayes, by her distinction, is helping people think about what is in their control vs. what isn’t.  Achievement is in your control.

You can study hard.

You can prepare.

You can focus.

You can do your best.

Whether people appreciate that effort, by applause or with any other behaviors, isn’t in your control.

Regardless of whether you agree with this distinction between the words, don’t lose the important distinction about what is in your control and what you can only influence.  Operating more of the time from your sphere of control will make you more productive, create more achievement, and will likely create more success as well.

escorts and game self esteem and abundance

I have to say that some of the girls who were strippers or even model escorts Ive gone out and ofcourse fucked without braging is that since our economy is fucked up that they will lance themselves to any guy that can provide.

the economy is creating more gold diggers/logical survival type of single women.


I do believe that escorts are ok in some regards if you havent fucked any girl for the longest time like Roger RSD.

actually I dont know why but I tend to have had 2 firm relationships with them,

one really hot one is now single mom by super hot but she is abit wacky crazy cause she is soo used to guys paying her and paying her shite.

so this creates some problem on her logical level but I think in the longrun Its never going to work out cause I dont spend money and she is investing in me to hopefully give her money or provide in some way.

so these girls and hookers.

as long as she treats you right and is super cool DO IT.
as soon as she treats you like shite and despises you eventhough you have paid her for sex. I say screen the vibe from the start and if she is rude and disgusting RUN THE FUCK OUT

rion williams and other puas pay hookers all the time.......

any type of bad behaviour even from a waitress Im fucking walking out.

its true though really hot women or 9s and 10s physically not socially are available upon request $$$$$$$$.

better than paying these fake puas.

i rather have a fattie suck my dick for free than pay for a bootcamp asking stupid questions like a fucking retard.

get laid or go pay, say no to paying PUAs

great material on willpower and emotions affect motivation

Motivation is not a matter of willpower. You probably already know that, because you have probably used willpower again and again to make change - on the very same issue. Will is a short term device. If you are looking for long term change you need to use the power of core emotion.

Emotion is the most potent driver of attention and behavior. Emotion tells us what is important to us, focuses us, and gives us the energy to do something about it.

When something matters to us emotionally we are able to connect with complex subconscious brain structures to support us in attaining our goal. We are able to set a goal and work in a consistent way toward meeting it.

Bur harnessing core emotion to motivate and energize us requires that we be able to tolerate and manage the felt sense of vulnerability that naturally arises when we have feelings. We need to be able to notice, and pay attention to, and stay with the uncomfortable bodily cues that herald the flow of emotion under the surface of our experience.

Get Your Priorities Straight ...Today

Get Your Priorities Straight ...Today

Get Your Priorities Straight ...Today


I see lots of guys in the Seduction Community make the same mistake over and over, regarding where their priorities are... Namely, letting pickup take over their life. Guys spend all their time reading forums, downloading more and more material, studying every guru's philosophy and eventually it becomes their whole life. Guys start to look at the world as one big sarge and lose the ability to act like a normal person with friends and other priorities in their life. This is why so many guys you meet in the community are fucking weird. There are plenty of great guys in it, but also a lot of weirdos. Make an effort to be a normal person before being a mPUA... You'll be happier.


Pickup should be just one of the hobbies you have. Don't spend more than 2-3 days a week on it and don't spend all your free time trolling the internet for more info... Learn what you need to to so that you are getting results but then just go out and have fun, go to the gym, do some reading, play sports, learn something new... Girls love guys with a genuinely good lifestyle which is why guys who obsess over only pickup are actually hurting their chances with girls. What they are doing is putting women and their need for validation above all other things and the gaping void that forms in their life because of this will be subcommunicated eventually and drive girls away. This is a horrible dynamic to create in your life. Sitting in front of a computer, reading forums and spending hours worrying about what opener to use is the worst lifestyle you can have. Your pursuit of women should be a small facet of your overall well developed lifestyle; not vice-versa.


Go out and make some friends. Real friends. Not just community guys. It's stupid if all the people you hang out with are community guys. If you do so, you are limiting yourself from all that life has to offer


Starting out, of course take a workshop to get you on the level where you can continue to progress by yourself, then take community guys(wings), and train with them during the 2-3 days a week you dedicate to gaming. Other than that, make sure you have a balanced, interesting, fulfilling life and you will get much better results than if you spend 20 hours a week “studying” pickup.


Start doing this today.


Enjoy,


BadBoy

spoke to monique my best female friend

she is super cool and soo real.
I love talking with her.

persistance calibration not being needy yet being proactive making things happen

I get confused with some advice in dating when you like a girl, you show interest yet show some disinterest.

What???

yes

its confusing.

you have to have some detachment.

in tao of steve is "be desireless"

"so sandee how the hell Im I going to get the girl into me?!"

heres the thing.

theres 2 levels of communication

one is verbal and the other is behaviour and intent , bodylanguage

in self help and in business you have to seem detached or that you dont need the woman or desperate to get with her.

some chick on youtube said in upset way "guys dont be needy"

so your intent has to be align grounded that you want that girl but dont need her.

this gives her space to complete the % of both are interested in each other.

if you give and give and push and push, she will take you for granted and you will try harder to get her.

this hasnt worked for me

what has is that you show interest but arent sure about it.
you ask questions and you are displaying you are laid back and cool.


you keep contacting her cause you are interested in her but you NEVER VERBALIZE THIS!!!!!
let her do the assuming not you.
This enables her to invest in you emotionally and maintains intrigue that you are soo sure of yourself. she is basically a cat who thinks she can socially outsmart you but the real thing is you just got her to think about you.

LOL


the underlying of your action is to raise your attraction and lead the seduction conversationally and logistically.

exceptions are when the woman is already attracted and so you lead this to seem "it just happened".

compliance to the sex is key.

I tried this and rarely get LMR or last minute resistance.


so you do have to pursue actively but your subcommunications have to be that you arent all that interested, tell yourself as an affirmation

"I can date beautiful women" "Im attractive guy" "If I take the time , and be patient with myself ,I can easily bed girls effortlessy"

"Im so hot chicks masturbate thinking about me."

automatically your behaviours will show you are the shit!

then you can verbally go with intent and say "he "i thought your kindah cute. Im _______ "
or anything you can casualy notice even compliment on the way walks by you

"Excuse me, I couldnt help to notice you and how attractive is the way you carry yourself... Im sandee "


say it in a subcommunication of 
"Im sooo goodlooking so I know you are goign to want to fuck me ,I say this genuinely and Im open to sexual fantasy with you"

DONT be gamey at all , be cool.
spike bt to humour to open up before asking her about herself.
show nonverbal IOIs and pull back.

theres no need to tell the woman you are eager to fuck.
unfortunately this turns her off so make note

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when you take action and lead with intent do it with a smile on your face

what makes this non needy and super attractive is that subcommunication is FUN and not needy or you begging or shy or bashful...or insecure you did it right. it has to be indeed 100% that you are sure and it has to show it in your eyes and face for her to give you a nonverbal shit test before her falling hard for you.

make this subcommunication as FUN and exciting and nothing emotional deep at that point.

only time you are deep emotionally is in rapport when you can share deep soulmate connection with mirroring and minor disqualifiers which are meaningless but you do them so she can confirm you are not trying hard to get with her and she sees that you are unique in her mind by building awesome best friend connection.

I use this but it can work against you if she isnt looking for a relationship. is 20% works on strippers.
cause strippers meet alot of men and their attention span is like drunks girls at a club, she wont remember you.

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Only antidote to negativity,worry and low self esteem is positive purposeful constructive action in the direction of your GOALs -Brian Tracy

"I've only had two rules. 

Do all you can and do it the best you can. 
It's the only way you ever get that feeling of accomplishing something."
-Colonel Sanders KFC

"From a woman’s POV, if a man does not know how to physically take care of himself, he will NEVER be able to take care of her"-MK

great comments I gave on awareness calibration and game

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was she in uniform? basically a hired gun right,working the night? :)

different style of game.she is paid to be friendly. distinguish if she was or wasnt.





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this is social proof game.basic psycology.good always be outside the comfort zone, either in the gym or the jungle ;)

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nonverbals on openeing are stronger than taps for me personally based on my results with Jesse's nonverbal sexual material.

Touching is VERY important but its advanced i guess.Im not aware of the touching as before I do it on high points when she smiles or is super positive like rewarding her in unconcious way.

I can tell you are calibrated when you tap and open so you wont have to scream or be too try hard loud to open her.

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good attraction game and works well with hot chicks, that last end was a  shit test.

why you stop?

number close right after that comment with random chat non sexually related and tell her :

" you are funny I like you..a little bit... dont get your hopes up too fast ;)  lets hang out sometime ...soon
*pull out your cool android phone*

whats your number ?"
 *smile as you save and text her right there.*

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Jesse is right about his observation, fatties can suck your dick on a slow night bud.lol.

you tease fatties too much they get bitchy. too alpha on fatties is too much.
you got back the energy what you gave out to them.

go easy on fatties okey :) do it for sandee

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Good, my best game is SOLO game. you get good fast like this bro.this will stick in your head and you will never forget.

good job!




workout at gym first, be happy and positive and open to new experiences, its what you make of it.
best guys always find ways to gettting it done, no matter the obstacles we at times may put ourselves.
be there to hang out and then open the girls. theres no other way to improve fast in this, business and any socially related issue if you dont have people skills.

you are doing this for your benefit not to entertain anyone.[/QUOTE]

hb sstripper minn retread

Guys I had to write this cause this opened my mind and got me actively pursuing wo any force or neediness.I used her non responsive apathetic flake behaviour to my advantage without me doing "anything".I will explain much detail as possible hoping you learn advanced stripper game. Its the shiznick!.will comeback and write detail.got to sleep now to wake up early in morning.one of recent breakthrough due to my inner game awakening as mentioned in my recent post on this forum.I will post on my private blog aswell keeping this exclusive stripper Game material you won't find anywhere else.no bs just pure psycology 101 and investment theory. Key to any woman.even a stripper pro if you keep your strong frame without bending or pouting. Peace

sorry it took me awhile to write this but I found it awesome.
if you read stripper FR the one that wanted to fuck her that same night then this is the same girl we will mention here.

I had planned to go to office holiday party and invite this hot chick to social proof me.Ive lost several pounds just reducing my caloric intake and few carbs and cardio mornin and night.

I looked tone down in few days believe it or not,its all in power of determination and persistance. which I mention in my post.

I recontacted stripper and we had short banter texts, then not to be needy or eager sent her laid back texts, I dont do any high energy texts unless chick is young inexperienced and I gauged her personality type before so I screen ALL girls with rapport.

so since she was vague and shit tested me by text to go to the club to her work instead of date or after work, I wouldnt respond or she would create a vaccum a space for me to chase.
this is a hot 27 stripper who is a pro 6yrs doing this is considered a PRO  you guys.this is byfar pua's worst nightmare for anytype of gaming, typical MM based stripper game doesnt work!

that being said. I tried reinitiate response with Breaking rapport and qualifier. she didnt respond.


that same night my friend was hosting bachelor party and he invited me out, I was there and some insights on game and inner game came to me. my calibration was onpoint, microcalibration review of theory and just taking my own advice of moving on to the next and leading.

I noticed as I came in everybody sees you, its same as club game night game. but your state has to be in a weird way outside the place, like buddist monk. your inner peace has to be incheck prior opening girls. also be there to hang out not to join other guys staring at chicks.


my friend took me aside and started talking to me and social proof me in ridiculous ways youd never imagine, vip room ,everywhere he even took me in privately to talk.
 he doesnt give a a fuck.he is a shark and he is soo good he pulls strings to make people spend money. he says hi to everybody and he tips everygirl in the club to say hi.basic social proof, he isnt there to game just to say hi and earn respect. he is a shark and knows the GAME.

 so I lead the group to sit on the ideal place to actually game girls, I never talk any game stuff even when Im winging someone, NEVER, pua theory and analyzing is worst enemy.

taking action is better step  than just thinking about it and dwelling about it in game.

so I led and start bt spiking the guys, being cool friendliness   normal and back and forth. then girls started swarming and eventhough I bought my own drink, they offered to buy me drink cause they thought I was super cool guy. We were all having a good time better than they were before I was leading. then we got bottel of champagen and we were the loudest there at the club

then in that good state I text this chick, hey im at your work.lol

she responds Im here too where?

Im like yeah whatever yes im here w bachelor party group

upstairs

no,Im w x frend from management.

then Im talking to this cool guy from the group  and we are
laughin and having a great time and then he taps me on my shoulder and tells me hey this chick is looking for you.

LOL LOL LOL

yes its her, she looks at me and says OMG
she sits down next to me and we look at each other.
I feel chemistry all around great vibe, I give her some dom perignon to sip and have her leg on my lap. I told her I didnt recognize her cause its been so long. and tease her.
she was being herself now. she looked cute but very different from what I pictured her in my head.less attractive but cute.

I build comfort talkign about her kid and she opened up and complimented her doing a good job. and asked her out next day for a meetup she was hesitant at first and it was legitimate time constraint  I pulled back saying thats too bad, I wanted to see you before you left for the holidays. she told me when she was leaving and when she was coming back I went in a dhv about her hometown and me ,which was an anchor and she offered to take me out if Id stopped by.

this vibe was soooo different from the texting vibe she gave off.
in person conversation and rapport and arousal is better for closing in person the same night.

you can try by text but only after you have exchanged good attraction first and really set the stage to have her chase you or open to have her contact you or sublte ways of making her invest and comply, little by little makes it a habit and she backwards rationalize that she likes you, more than what she thinks and it validates her emotions.

this has to be SOLID game and blueprint to any girl.

so after I threw in for next day and she told her to text her next day. we were staring at each others eyes like we both werent at the club. we were going to make out but thats a no no for management.
Im a shark
I threw in that I brought the guys in and making money for the club.which is DHV in disguise only smelled by strippers that IM not a customer.

I told her I have to get up early and liked to see her again.
she was being genuine and all, she isnt all too feminine but she is very open minded and she talks what she thinks.

she is abit crazy, crazy in good way and crazy in not a good way.that means that I can not take this girl emotionally serious what she says and what she does,

any flake  any nonresponsive text cant affect me at all.
she is down to have a guy lead her,period.

problem is that she is really needing money for her kid. and it overides any of her own needs right now.or relationships.

I can go deep in this Im sure but I think it would fuck me up mentally and it would drain me to have this high end GF when Im just broke and starting off my career.

also she is crazy in her won world cause she has belief she can have a good time with anyone but she believes to be paid for her time.regardless, she is trying to survive not bad way but its her way of coping with her own living.
so its alot of baggage, I can text her to meet up I know what time she told me is good time to meet with her by herself,

no date no waste of time conversation,
we emotionally connect fast when we see each other
so its there.

but she is looking for a provider and she is a PRO and she is logical with this shit.
so its a rare and hard call.

the fucking isnt the problem.its after the 1st fucking and expectations. guys are probably offering her money to fuck her so thats reinforces her belief of ALL guys being providers.

find the hidden gems in this peace and disregard the end cause its a sure lay. LOL

microcalibra is important

recently ive felt like shit over the loss of clee.i meesed up in basic fundamental which is punishment reward.jons  2007 post on microcalibration is good also pickup evolutions legend post .what helped me  was marie  interview  mr.m fr and his 9  10 game.also listening to dr broader on oneitis and lastly listening to myself in my own recording of oneitis. this plus tao of steve and goodlooking game really boosted my self esteem and game. what triggered this is this black girl semi insulted  but im working on bringing the stripper to party. calibration and matt corrected me and marks advice was sufficient to use what i know inside that i can do it.music helps and this morning exercise.welcome back sandros