great material on willpower and emotions affect motivation

Motivation is not a matter of willpower. You probably already know that, because you have probably used willpower again and again to make change - on the very same issue. Will is a short term device. If you are looking for long term change you need to use the power of core emotion.

Emotion is the most potent driver of attention and behavior. Emotion tells us what is important to us, focuses us, and gives us the energy to do something about it.

When something matters to us emotionally we are able to connect with complex subconscious brain structures to support us in attaining our goal. We are able to set a goal and work in a consistent way toward meeting it.

Bur harnessing core emotion to motivate and energize us requires that we be able to tolerate and manage the felt sense of vulnerability that naturally arises when we have feelings. We need to be able to notice, and pay attention to, and stay with the uncomfortable bodily cues that herald the flow of emotion under the surface of our experience.

Get Your Priorities Straight ...Today

Get Your Priorities Straight ...Today

Get Your Priorities Straight ...Today


I see lots of guys in the Seduction Community make the same mistake over and over, regarding where their priorities are... Namely, letting pickup take over their life. Guys spend all their time reading forums, downloading more and more material, studying every guru's philosophy and eventually it becomes their whole life. Guys start to look at the world as one big sarge and lose the ability to act like a normal person with friends and other priorities in their life. This is why so many guys you meet in the community are fucking weird. There are plenty of great guys in it, but also a lot of weirdos. Make an effort to be a normal person before being a mPUA... You'll be happier.


Pickup should be just one of the hobbies you have. Don't spend more than 2-3 days a week on it and don't spend all your free time trolling the internet for more info... Learn what you need to to so that you are getting results but then just go out and have fun, go to the gym, do some reading, play sports, learn something new... Girls love guys with a genuinely good lifestyle which is why guys who obsess over only pickup are actually hurting their chances with girls. What they are doing is putting women and their need for validation above all other things and the gaping void that forms in their life because of this will be subcommunicated eventually and drive girls away. This is a horrible dynamic to create in your life. Sitting in front of a computer, reading forums and spending hours worrying about what opener to use is the worst lifestyle you can have. Your pursuit of women should be a small facet of your overall well developed lifestyle; not vice-versa.


Go out and make some friends. Real friends. Not just community guys. It's stupid if all the people you hang out with are community guys. If you do so, you are limiting yourself from all that life has to offer


Starting out, of course take a workshop to get you on the level where you can continue to progress by yourself, then take community guys(wings), and train with them during the 2-3 days a week you dedicate to gaming. Other than that, make sure you have a balanced, interesting, fulfilling life and you will get much better results than if you spend 20 hours a week “studying” pickup.


Start doing this today.


Enjoy,


BadBoy

spoke to monique my best female friend

she is super cool and soo real.
I love talking with her.

persistance calibration not being needy yet being proactive making things happen

I get confused with some advice in dating when you like a girl, you show interest yet show some disinterest.

What???

yes

its confusing.

you have to have some detachment.

in tao of steve is "be desireless"

"so sandee how the hell Im I going to get the girl into me?!"

heres the thing.

theres 2 levels of communication

one is verbal and the other is behaviour and intent , bodylanguage

in self help and in business you have to seem detached or that you dont need the woman or desperate to get with her.

some chick on youtube said in upset way "guys dont be needy"

so your intent has to be align grounded that you want that girl but dont need her.

this gives her space to complete the % of both are interested in each other.

if you give and give and push and push, she will take you for granted and you will try harder to get her.

this hasnt worked for me

what has is that you show interest but arent sure about it.
you ask questions and you are displaying you are laid back and cool.


you keep contacting her cause you are interested in her but you NEVER VERBALIZE THIS!!!!!
let her do the assuming not you.
This enables her to invest in you emotionally and maintains intrigue that you are soo sure of yourself. she is basically a cat who thinks she can socially outsmart you but the real thing is you just got her to think about you.

LOL


the underlying of your action is to raise your attraction and lead the seduction conversationally and logistically.

exceptions are when the woman is already attracted and so you lead this to seem "it just happened".

compliance to the sex is key.

I tried this and rarely get LMR or last minute resistance.


so you do have to pursue actively but your subcommunications have to be that you arent all that interested, tell yourself as an affirmation

"I can date beautiful women" "Im attractive guy" "If I take the time , and be patient with myself ,I can easily bed girls effortlessy"

"Im so hot chicks masturbate thinking about me."

automatically your behaviours will show you are the shit!

then you can verbally go with intent and say "he "i thought your kindah cute. Im _______ "
or anything you can casualy notice even compliment on the way walks by you

"Excuse me, I couldnt help to notice you and how attractive is the way you carry yourself... Im sandee "


say it in a subcommunication of 
"Im sooo goodlooking so I know you are goign to want to fuck me ,I say this genuinely and Im open to sexual fantasy with you"

DONT be gamey at all , be cool.
spike bt to humour to open up before asking her about herself.
show nonverbal IOIs and pull back.

theres no need to tell the woman you are eager to fuck.
unfortunately this turns her off so make note

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when you take action and lead with intent do it with a smile on your face

what makes this non needy and super attractive is that subcommunication is FUN and not needy or you begging or shy or bashful...or insecure you did it right. it has to be indeed 100% that you are sure and it has to show it in your eyes and face for her to give you a nonverbal shit test before her falling hard for you.

make this subcommunication as FUN and exciting and nothing emotional deep at that point.

only time you are deep emotionally is in rapport when you can share deep soulmate connection with mirroring and minor disqualifiers which are meaningless but you do them so she can confirm you are not trying hard to get with her and she sees that you are unique in her mind by building awesome best friend connection.

I use this but it can work against you if she isnt looking for a relationship. is 20% works on strippers.
cause strippers meet alot of men and their attention span is like drunks girls at a club, she wont remember you.

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Only antidote to negativity,worry and low self esteem is positive purposeful constructive action in the direction of your GOALs -Brian Tracy

"I've only had two rules. 

Do all you can and do it the best you can. 
It's the only way you ever get that feeling of accomplishing something."
-Colonel Sanders KFC

"From a woman’s POV, if a man does not know how to physically take care of himself, he will NEVER be able to take care of her"-MK

great comments I gave on awareness calibration and game

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was she in uniform? basically a hired gun right,working the night? :)

different style of game.she is paid to be friendly. distinguish if she was or wasnt.





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this is social proof game.basic psycology.good always be outside the comfort zone, either in the gym or the jungle ;)

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nonverbals on openeing are stronger than taps for me personally based on my results with Jesse's nonverbal sexual material.

Touching is VERY important but its advanced i guess.Im not aware of the touching as before I do it on high points when she smiles or is super positive like rewarding her in unconcious way.

I can tell you are calibrated when you tap and open so you wont have to scream or be too try hard loud to open her.

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good attraction game and works well with hot chicks, that last end was a  shit test.

why you stop?

number close right after that comment with random chat non sexually related and tell her :

" you are funny I like you..a little bit... dont get your hopes up too fast ;)  lets hang out sometime ...soon
*pull out your cool android phone*

whats your number ?"
 *smile as you save and text her right there.*

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Jesse is right about his observation, fatties can suck your dick on a slow night bud.lol.

you tease fatties too much they get bitchy. too alpha on fatties is too much.
you got back the energy what you gave out to them.

go easy on fatties okey :) do it for sandee

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Good, my best game is SOLO game. you get good fast like this bro.this will stick in your head and you will never forget.

good job!




workout at gym first, be happy and positive and open to new experiences, its what you make of it.
best guys always find ways to gettting it done, no matter the obstacles we at times may put ourselves.
be there to hang out and then open the girls. theres no other way to improve fast in this, business and any socially related issue if you dont have people skills.

you are doing this for your benefit not to entertain anyone.[/QUOTE]

hb sstripper minn retread

Guys I had to write this cause this opened my mind and got me actively pursuing wo any force or neediness.I used her non responsive apathetic flake behaviour to my advantage without me doing "anything".I will explain much detail as possible hoping you learn advanced stripper game. Its the shiznick!.will comeback and write detail.got to sleep now to wake up early in morning.one of recent breakthrough due to my inner game awakening as mentioned in my recent post on this forum.I will post on my private blog aswell keeping this exclusive stripper Game material you won't find anywhere else.no bs just pure psycology 101 and investment theory. Key to any woman.even a stripper pro if you keep your strong frame without bending or pouting. Peace

sorry it took me awhile to write this but I found it awesome.
if you read stripper FR the one that wanted to fuck her that same night then this is the same girl we will mention here.

I had planned to go to office holiday party and invite this hot chick to social proof me.Ive lost several pounds just reducing my caloric intake and few carbs and cardio mornin and night.

I looked tone down in few days believe it or not,its all in power of determination and persistance. which I mention in my post.

I recontacted stripper and we had short banter texts, then not to be needy or eager sent her laid back texts, I dont do any high energy texts unless chick is young inexperienced and I gauged her personality type before so I screen ALL girls with rapport.

so since she was vague and shit tested me by text to go to the club to her work instead of date or after work, I wouldnt respond or she would create a vaccum a space for me to chase.
this is a hot 27 stripper who is a pro 6yrs doing this is considered a PRO  you guys.this is byfar pua's worst nightmare for anytype of gaming, typical MM based stripper game doesnt work!

that being said. I tried reinitiate response with Breaking rapport and qualifier. she didnt respond.


that same night my friend was hosting bachelor party and he invited me out, I was there and some insights on game and inner game came to me. my calibration was onpoint, microcalibration review of theory and just taking my own advice of moving on to the next and leading.

I noticed as I came in everybody sees you, its same as club game night game. but your state has to be in a weird way outside the place, like buddist monk. your inner peace has to be incheck prior opening girls. also be there to hang out not to join other guys staring at chicks.


my friend took me aside and started talking to me and social proof me in ridiculous ways youd never imagine, vip room ,everywhere he even took me in privately to talk.
 he doesnt give a a fuck.he is a shark and he is soo good he pulls strings to make people spend money. he says hi to everybody and he tips everygirl in the club to say hi.basic social proof, he isnt there to game just to say hi and earn respect. he is a shark and knows the GAME.

 so I lead the group to sit on the ideal place to actually game girls, I never talk any game stuff even when Im winging someone, NEVER, pua theory and analyzing is worst enemy.

taking action is better step  than just thinking about it and dwelling about it in game.

so I led and start bt spiking the guys, being cool friendliness   normal and back and forth. then girls started swarming and eventhough I bought my own drink, they offered to buy me drink cause they thought I was super cool guy. We were all having a good time better than they were before I was leading. then we got bottel of champagen and we were the loudest there at the club

then in that good state I text this chick, hey im at your work.lol

she responds Im here too where?

Im like yeah whatever yes im here w bachelor party group

upstairs

no,Im w x frend from management.

then Im talking to this cool guy from the group  and we are
laughin and having a great time and then he taps me on my shoulder and tells me hey this chick is looking for you.

LOL LOL LOL

yes its her, she looks at me and says OMG
she sits down next to me and we look at each other.
I feel chemistry all around great vibe, I give her some dom perignon to sip and have her leg on my lap. I told her I didnt recognize her cause its been so long. and tease her.
she was being herself now. she looked cute but very different from what I pictured her in my head.less attractive but cute.

I build comfort talkign about her kid and she opened up and complimented her doing a good job. and asked her out next day for a meetup she was hesitant at first and it was legitimate time constraint  I pulled back saying thats too bad, I wanted to see you before you left for the holidays. she told me when she was leaving and when she was coming back I went in a dhv about her hometown and me ,which was an anchor and she offered to take me out if Id stopped by.

this vibe was soooo different from the texting vibe she gave off.
in person conversation and rapport and arousal is better for closing in person the same night.

you can try by text but only after you have exchanged good attraction first and really set the stage to have her chase you or open to have her contact you or sublte ways of making her invest and comply, little by little makes it a habit and she backwards rationalize that she likes you, more than what she thinks and it validates her emotions.

this has to be SOLID game and blueprint to any girl.

so after I threw in for next day and she told her to text her next day. we were staring at each others eyes like we both werent at the club. we were going to make out but thats a no no for management.
Im a shark
I threw in that I brought the guys in and making money for the club.which is DHV in disguise only smelled by strippers that IM not a customer.

I told her I have to get up early and liked to see her again.
she was being genuine and all, she isnt all too feminine but she is very open minded and she talks what she thinks.

she is abit crazy, crazy in good way and crazy in not a good way.that means that I can not take this girl emotionally serious what she says and what she does,

any flake  any nonresponsive text cant affect me at all.
she is down to have a guy lead her,period.

problem is that she is really needing money for her kid. and it overides any of her own needs right now.or relationships.

I can go deep in this Im sure but I think it would fuck me up mentally and it would drain me to have this high end GF when Im just broke and starting off my career.

also she is crazy in her won world cause she has belief she can have a good time with anyone but she believes to be paid for her time.regardless, she is trying to survive not bad way but its her way of coping with her own living.
so its alot of baggage, I can text her to meet up I know what time she told me is good time to meet with her by herself,

no date no waste of time conversation,
we emotionally connect fast when we see each other
so its there.

but she is looking for a provider and she is a PRO and she is logical with this shit.
so its a rare and hard call.

the fucking isnt the problem.its after the 1st fucking and expectations. guys are probably offering her money to fuck her so thats reinforces her belief of ALL guys being providers.

find the hidden gems in this peace and disregard the end cause its a sure lay. LOL

microcalibra is important

recently ive felt like shit over the loss of clee.i meesed up in basic fundamental which is punishment reward.jons  2007 post on microcalibration is good also pickup evolutions legend post .what helped me  was marie  interview  mr.m fr and his 9  10 game.also listening to dr broader on oneitis and lastly listening to myself in my own recording of oneitis. this plus tao of steve and goodlooking game really boosted my self esteem and game. what triggered this is this black girl semi insulted  but im working on bringing the stripper to party. calibration and matt corrected me and marks advice was sufficient to use what i know inside that i can do it.music helps and this morning exercise.welcome back sandros

manipulation from behavioural management what I learned now

Im revealing some concepts I learned unconciously which is and are taught in dentistry particularly pediatrics.

PLEASE DO NOT SHARE THIS WITH ANYONE!

I have noticed my friend natural has been getting great success and I modeled him while I was in NY.

I realize now I treat here in miami on days I treat kids with a specialized lady Dentist who is pediatric, she explained

BEHAVIOUR MANAGEMENT

this is not pscycology or BS NLP.

This is practical things which work by manipulating the truth from children to get a needle shot in their mouth.

it is against their will  (as in LMR in women wanting sex but afriad)

but they need dental treatment so Dr. is responsible to provide to the child, so the child's will is overide more by the Dr than even the parent can do.

teeth has cavity = infection =pain  =consequences

so Dr. has to maintain the goal eventhough the obstacle of the childs behaviour without FORCE.

these are a few

:

A    :ART of Distraction =similar to magician's choice and magic's  sleight of hand.

B:     Positive reinforcement= soemthign you talk to me about before selling the positve frame.

C: Short answers  (attention span is always short,dont be an idiot ) Never direct always INDIRECT either 2 things:

                                     1- frame positive and decribe  and NEVER GIVE TRUTH!

                                     2- FRAME control by " I will tell you in abit "....and change subject or "let me look to find out".."we will see in abit" and do it anyway

D:  NEVER RESPOND DIRECTLY,Manipulate the truth always. NEVER say I will take out the tooth, the kid will be non complaint and scream with FEAR.

E: Reward alwyays good behaviour to build complaince

F: Change wording like

needle = mosquito bite  or sleepy juice ,

analgesic paste =sleepy paste,

mouth prop to maintain the mouth open is called  PILLOW

X-ray is called PICTURE.

This gives them a chance not to resist from you escalating or moving forward with your intentions.

INTENTIONS ARE ALWAYS HIDDEN BUT ON OUTSIDE , TRUST MUST BE MAINTAINED.

G: When they ask a question or are concerned about something

your response to her concerns should be to BUILD TRUST not to HURT the TRUST.

if TRUST is LOST, you are done and will be dealing with a non compliant person.

NO RETURNING BACK FROM THAT. you would be creating an obsacle made by yourself.

H. If they are being resistant and interuppting  you use subcommunication to control the frame.to demonstrate that you are the BOSS

her: " but wait what if it is going to hurt ?"

D : you talk in Firm voice not upset " you are going to have to stop asking me for now...I will tell you later let me find out ," then transition to the procedure while you distract the patient into other topic or describing while you inject needle.

NOTE: Need more examples here will ask Dr.

subcommunication should be  I can not respond to you when you want ,do what I want and then I will respond to your question when I feel its right time,

GOOD BEAHVIOUR = COMPLYING

NOT COMPLYING = BAD BEHAVIOUR

E:

Theres a techinique that is prohibited ,not used anymore is called HOME technique , hand  over mouth and whisper into the ear with calm FIRM voice then remove.and be nice to her.

this is dominance and calm leadership. use with discretion.

CONCLUSION

Always  have the mindset to close.

this doesnt mean force it means being smart about it,

if you can use means to get it without force and make them give it to you rather than take,then you have made things easier for yourself..

Always say what reinforces TRUST.

Before you say something think the REASON WHY they are asking or WHY you are saying , for what purpose and how this will help you move forward  and help you in your GOAL and  intentions.

NEVER RESPOND DIRECTLY,always .manipulate the trust, you arent wrong. this keeps you in charge.Dont make it obvious that you are lying,use body language to reinforce and voice tone.always be aware of this.

clooney tried to use behaviour child management on his ex

I think that the EX of clooney, that italian model chick is probably saying a half truth about clooney. Clooney isnt goodlooking guys, really he isnt. its the style he portrays in movies, oceans eleven and up in the air characters (both are awsome movies btw) he doesnt even dress like them in real life. but I realize that to dominate a chick or control a girl in a relationship is to treat her like a child. you are always leading and assume to her that whatever regardless what you do and order her to follow...is for her own good. this is definate frame of control. women unconciously like this, even if they have daddy issues, this makes this even deadly tactic. combine this with psycology of addiction and screening girls. and you can have a woman who would do anything and get her to serve towards your purpose without ever using FORCE. this is something I wasnt going to post but I figure on writing a glimpse for thouse who know what Im taking about know this what I say works. Im not even talking about NLP, NLP is waaay overated. this is real life shit right here.

how excesize affects me in my inner game and results w women

Guys, I recently stopped going to the gym due to hectic schedule. I can say that I feel strong but my mood is different,Im inside my head more, I overthink instead of looking for solutions or taking action. I think this plays alot in any Man's Life that exercise is potential to your results with women. you can get laid here or there using "pua routines" here and there but it wont go anywhere and it wont be as consistent, this is common and frustrating thing for guys.
Im glad Jesse puts in alot of value and importance of exercise.

I am not making this up,I feel that these are what lead to deep hole if you aren't exercising , more you will end up in a head game and being lazy.not pushing yourself in any area of life,maybe even victim from being pushed around.

I noticed this change and Im definately going to go to sign up at another gym near me,since Im not getting private trainer any longer cause I feel I can continue myself to save money and push myself a bit more.I dont have a spot nor do I have buddies to train with me at that time since I have hectic irregular schedule.

dont listen to gurus or dating experts who say looks dont matter. Looks do matter guys, they do and more you improve in yourself and invest in yourself in your looks and improving all around, the more self confident you are and you will realize we set our own limitations in Life.

so guys Im not Arnold the governator nor am I being paid to day this but go out and exercise more often as you can.
watch how you will create self discipline and self respect for yourself.
Women will catch this and will want to be with you, for unknown reasons....

really its happened to me before. Do it and dont turn back.

clear your head and exercise

Quote:

Exercise: 7 benefits of regular physical activity You know exercise is good for you, but do you know how good? From boosting your mood to improving your sex life, find out how exercise can improve your life. By Mayo Clinic.com Want to feel better, have more energy and perhaps even live longer? Look no further than exercise. The health benefits of regular exercise and physical activity are hard to ignore. And the benefits of exercise are yours for the taking, regardless of your age, sex or physical ability. Need more convincing to exercise? Check out these seven ways exercise can improve your life. No. 1: Exercise controls weight Exercise can help prevent excess weight gain or help maintain weight loss. When you engage in physical activity, you burn calories. The more intense the activity, the more calories you burn. You don't need to set aside large chunks of time for exercise to reap weight-loss benefits. If you can't do an actual workout, get more active throughout the day in simple ways — by taking the stairs instead of the elevator or revving up your household chores. No. 2: Exercise combats health conditions and diseases Worried about heart disease? Hoping to prevent high blood pressure? No matter what your current weight, being active boosts high-density lipoprotein (HDL), or "good," cholesterol and decreases unhealthy triglycerides. This one-two punch keeps your blood flowing smoothly, which decreases your risk of cardiovascular diseases. In fact, regular physical activity can help you prevent or manage a wide range of health problems and concerns, including stroke, metabolic syndrome, type 2 diabetes, depression, certain types of cancer, arthritis and falls. No. 3: Exercise improves mood Need an emotional lift? Or need to blow off some steam after a stressful day? A workout at the gym or a brisk 30-minute walk can help. Physical activity stimulates various brain chemicals that may leave you feeling happier and more relaxed. You may also feel better about your appearance and yourself when you exercise regularly, which can boost your confidence and improve your self-esteem. No. 4: Exercise boosts energy Winded by grocery shopping or household chores? Regular physical activity can improve your muscle strength and boost your endurance. Exercise and physical activity deliver oxygen and nutrients to your tissues and help your cardiovascular system work more efficiently. And when your heart and lungs work more efficiently, you have more energy to go about your daily chores. No. 5: Exercise promotes better sleep Struggling to fall asleep? Or to stay asleep? Regular physical activity can help you fall asleep faster and deepen your sleep. Just don't exercise too close to bedtime, or you may be too energized to fall asleep. No. 6: Exercise puts the spark back into your sex life Do you feel too tired or too out of shape to enjoy physical intimacy? Regular physical activity can leave you feeling energized and looking better, which may have a positive effect on your sex life. But there's more to it than that. Regular physical activity can lead to enhanced arousal for women. And men who exercise regularly are less likely to have problems with erectile dysfunction than are men who don't exercise. No. 7: Exercise can be fun Exercise and physical activity can be a fun way to spend some time. It gives you a chance to unwind, enjoy the outdoors or simply engage in activities that make you happy. Physical activity can also help you connect with family or friends in a fun social setting. So, take a dance class, hit the hiking trails or join a soccer team. Find a physical activity you enjoy, and just do it. If you get bored, try something new. The bottom line on exercise Exercise and physical activity are a great way to feel better, gain health benefits and have fun. As a general goal, aim for at least 30 minutes of physical activity every day. If you want to lose weight or meet specific fitness goals, you may need to exercise more. Remember to check with your doctor before starting a new exercise program, especially if you have any health concerns.

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"I've only had two rules.

Do all you can and do it the best you can.
It's the only way you ever get that feeling of accomplishing something."
-Colonel Sanders KFC


Action will destroy your procrastination.- Og Mandino

"From a woman’s POV, if a man does not know how to physically take care of himself, he will NEVER be able to take care of her"-MK 

love this quote

Here are more lines from Sanders' manuscript:

• "I've only had two rules. Do all you can and do it the best you can. It's the only way you ever get that feeling of accomplishing something."

• "I've read hundreds of cookbooks. For my money they are the bird."

• Some of his recipes "are worth more than all the imported recipes, with names an ordinary man or woman can't even pronounce, put together."

• "The way I see it, if you've bought this book, you've bought yourself a bargain."

• "I'm making room in these pages for real old-time American country and farm cooking before it's forgotten. I was a farm boy and lean toward farm cooking. To me, my recipes are priceless."

Kim HB Minnesota Stripper feedback 9/29/11

Laura J: There is a Space there,not close.I kindah like her and her engagement she went away from this meeting with a good feeling.Manuver to try to see her,not a phony and Laura J:"I like her"

Vision 8- she is playing games

Lorrie C -She is intersted in you,serious. Im not seeing her playing games.

Gina Marie- she is not that into you, she has a man in her life.Let it go.if she wants to contact you fine m if she is intersted she will contqact you but she wont.

Indigo- she might not gotten the message, a kid or someone deleted it.
"oh you received a message but it got deleted sorry" if she gave you her number she is interested.
*****Marcelo:find an alternative route.he cant help you, go on your own.

Kibi-she is busy and is aggravated,and doesnt respond phone calls when she is in bad mood.your connection was true was real.
getting things going, she is times in her life she is moody and she doesnt return phone calls.*she is interested, not the right timing but interst is real.*

Marcelo:insist and he might help.